How to Overcome Overwhelm & Achieve Your Dreams

So in this episode I want to talk about something that I've noticed has come up for myself and my clients community , and that's the idea that , having identified our heartfelt wish list , we're now feeling a bit overwhelmed by whether it's possible , and I would , I would argue , actually , if it's not feeling impossible , then maybe , maybe you just didn't get courageous

enough , but I don't know . You know , you know what , you know what you've downloaded as your heartfelt wish list for the year .

So I received my author copy of the Gently Rebellious One Minute Journal last Friday and I was so excited to get it because I created it as a structure for you and me to support our minds in staying focused on what matters most to us this year .

I was so excited about it , but it was really weird because , until I got it , I was honestly struggling a bit with overwhelm . I was like , well , where do I put this ? Which is crazy , because obviously I have a version of it , or probably many versions of it on my laptop .

But I really wanted the physical book , something about the physical book , and I'm actually really grateful to Amazon the way they've produced it . I have one person contact me and say I can only get it on Amazon . Can I get it directly from you ? But the truth is Amazon is actually very kind , or , yeah , actually very helpful and supportive .

I feel very kind to us self-published authors so I can upload it . It's not always that easy . I mean , I had to learn some more stuff . That's okay , and I've managed to create both an e-book , which is only available on I've noticed on certain e-readers , probably because you want to be able to write in it , so I wouldn't recommend having a virtual copy .

You really want to be writing in this . This is designed to last you the whole year as a structure to support you in staying focused on what matters most to you , so that your dreams don't feel impossible or and or they don't get constantly waylaid . Oh whoops , what was I up to again ? You know the drill .

Anyway , I got my copy , I excitedly put my heartfelt wish list in and my word of the year , and then I didn't have time because I was going away for the weekend . I couldn't set aside the time to catch up . I felt like I was behind , because what are we ? We're halfway through the month . Oh no , I haven't put my monthly priorities in .

Crazy , crazy , crazy , crazy . I'd already identified my monthly heartfelt priorities . I just hadn't been able to put them in the journal because I didn't have a copy . And now I've got it in hardback . Oh , my goodness , there's something solid about it . It's just really helpful to me . It's really cheering me up .

I love the cover , as many people have said they do . Thank you for letting me know . I'm really , really excited . Please go and check it out on Amazon . Consider getting one . It's for the whole year , whole year of supporting you on staying out of overwhelm and focused on what really matters most to you .

So if you didn't come to the workshop , if you're on my , if you're part of my newsletter , you will have got a link today . So I've made the link available to everybody , even those people who didn't say yes to the workshop , and I understand why you might not have done , because some people were traveling , lots of family stuff going on at that time of year .

So I've now made I've now made the link available to everyone who's subscribed to my newsletter . If , oh , I can also put it in the show notes just in case you're not subscribed . It's really important to me that you have access to it . It's a very powerful piece of work . I'm very , very proud of it . I've had really good feedback about how powerful it is .

It's edited . You do need to set aside over an hour for it , though . It's edited , so click the link either in the newsletter or in the show notes . Make that time for yourself . Download your heartfelt priorities . This is a really courageous act . I salute you . I salute you for even considering it , but do it imagine ?

Imagine if you oh , imagine if you just had that calm , confidence , confident focus for the year of . Yeah , this is what brings me joy , this is what brings me ease , this is what makes me feel safe and secure , this is what makes me feel like I've made it woohoo , all the things you want to feel .

And when you've done that , I highly recommend that you get this beautiful structure of this book to support you in staying connected to it . So the big theme for me this year well , this year so far , who knows what other exciting ideas will come to me , but my big theme for this year is identify what matters most to you and stay focused on it .

So the way to stay focused on it is to download your heartfelt wish list , which will be messy , then turn it into a more useful format , which is described in depth in the workshop and is also in the journal for you .

Then , once you've got it , the essence of that , the feeling of that all being done , all being here , all you having all the good stuff you want , that feeling , that feeling in your body , trying to this is an interesting process trying to encapsulate that , the essence of that feeling , in a word that , when you think of the word , will bring the feelings back

in your body . That takes some doing . It does take some doing , but it settles . It really does settle . You just try it on like a new pair of boots . You walk around , you walk around with the feeling of that and then the word will change and it will morph into whatever you want .

And then it's just a practice , because in the end it's not about the word , it's about the feeling . And then every morning , for one minute , you just get a glimpse of that feeling and then you let it spread through your heart , feel your heart spread through your body .

And that's how you start your day Out of overwhelm , fully connected to the feeling that you're after the thing you're chasing by pushing through that crazy to-do list and then within the journal is structure for monthly and weekly check-ins . It's beautifully designed . I'm really pleased with it . It was a lot of work , goodness me . It's not perfect .

I'm now doing the whole . Of course it's not perfect . I'm doing the whole . Oh typo , but you know who cares . It's working for me , but I'm also struggling with it , not the journal , it's the whole . How do I stay fully focused ? What's that self-doubt ? Why am I suddenly thinking everything's impossible ? And that's what I want to talk to you about today .

So , for those of you who are also listening to my YouTube channel , I want to separate the podcast from the YouTube because I want to make . Well , the podcast is on YouTube . This doesn't make much sense . I want to give you more value , so I don't want I'm not repeating myself in this .

If you want to know all about how to , what to do when your dreams feel impossible , go to the YouTube video for the week , and I've had a lovely , lovely chat with you about that . I'd love to see you over there .

In this one , in this podcast , I want to add some more stories to get you really thinking deeply about the fact that you are magical , about the fact that when you choose to step out of overwhelm , everything does fall into place more easily , that the easier way is there , that it's just out of your awareness , which is also mentioned in the YouTube video and

the blog this week . But I want to give you more stories and I want to invite you to reconsider , look back at your life and find the stories , the times when you weren't sure what you were going to say and the right words came .

The time when you met the right person at the right time and you made a wonderful friend or you , you had this wonderful experience , or you've got this job or something magical happened . I want you to look back and think you , you can do this .

You can choose to resist overwhelm and stop pushing through it to get the feeling that you want , and choose to have the feeling now and allow the easier way to present itself . Imagine it's just out of your awareness , but the more that you believe it's there and trust it , the easier it is for it to come into your awareness , which is true , right ?

Okay , so in America there's a Sasquatch or a Yeti . There's these monsters all over the world that people never see , or some people see , and they're mythical . Well , if you believe that they exist , you're probably more likely to see it . Or the whole reticular activating system of these yellow cars . Everywhere it's a similar thing .

So if you believe there's an easier way and you trust it and you notice it , you've got to look for the evidence . The more evidence there is , the more you're going to find it , because that's how our minds work . So here's some of my stories .

I'm not going to go through the impossible coat story again , because that's on the video and in the blog and the newsletter .

Exciting times I've got one for my car . I love this one . So a couple of months ago , well , well , I knew all last year that my current car had a big MOT bill . Nothing major , just normal stuff . It's just the prices have gone up , haven't they ? So tires , brakes , normal stuff , no big deal . It's great car , loved the car .

But I just fancied a new car , to be honest , and it had a bill coming up . So it's a good time to think about it . I find it . I was finding it really difficult in previous years to let the car go because it's such a love , it's a good car like . Think about it , I find it .

I was finding it really difficult in previous years to let the car go , because it's such a love , it's a good car , like what ? And it's a lot of hassle , isn't it ? And then I ? So I started to say , okay , I want this car . So it's the first thing of missing . Yeah , I really want a new car . I want something more funky , more fun .

So I made an impossible list because I have discovered this is my best way of getting what I want . When I compromise and go sensible , it doesn't result in joy and it's not always an easy process , but when I say what I really want , I find this works really well . So I made this impossible car list . Honestly , it was ridiculous .

I wanted it to be less than £2,000 . I just did it was an experiment Just because I know people who do this and they get really good cars , and I've had more expensive cars go wrong . So I just thought I wonder if you could . So I read an article about the best cars for under 2000 and was very encouraged .

Plus , my son had done it , my neighbour down the road . It's evidence , see evidence for the impossible . Anyway I . Then what did I do next ? Oh yeah . What does it do next ? Oh yeah , I just said okay .

So that's my budget and what I want is I want the inside of it to be so beautiful , like an old jag you know , it was like a , a walnut dashboard , something really special inside . I want leather seats . Um , what else do I want ? Oh , you know , low tax , good fuel economy , that kind of thing . And I also want it to be fun to drive .

I want it to be funky . I want , oh you know , low tax , good fuel economy , that kind of thing . And I also wanted to be fun to drive . I wanted it to be funky . I wanted it to just feel like me . Was that all ? I think there was more on that impossible list .

Anyway , I then contacted my fabulous cousin who knows about cars and said are you up for an adventure to find the Goldilocks car , this magnificent , beautiful car which is under 2000 pounds ? He says , yeah , I'm up for that . So then he phones me and I gave him the list . He said , yeah , I think you're going to have to at least double your budget .

And I said no . I said no , I refuse to . I said you will . You will start to get this about me . You will , as you get to know me better , because this is a newly discovered , lovely , lovely cousin you will discover that this is just how I do things . So I fully believe that my impossible Goldilocks car is out there . We just have to find it .

So I stuck to my guns . I stuck to what I want , wanted and lo and behold , I now have the most beautiful mini , with leather seats and everything I wanted . Honestly , I love this car so much it's so me . She's called Pepper . I'm just so happy . I'm actually in love with my car . And what's really interesting is , on top of this , I have heated seats .

I can't tell you the joy . I didn't even know , really , I wasn't sure if I wanted them . Like people have them , but I'm not entirely sure . It wasn't on my radar . It was kind of like , well , that might be the icing on the cake , but it's just , it wasn't important to me . I got everything on my list and more . I refused to compromise .

I believed the impossible was possible . And here's the thing was possible . And here's the thing we sold my car for nearly the same price . Honestly , within a hundred quid . That's amazing . So basically , I swapped cars , which , looking back now I'm telling you this it's exactly what I said to my partner I just want to swap cars .

He's saying I don't think you can do that , it doesn't work that way . And yet it doesn't work that way , but it does for me , and this happens to me a lot . I was telling a friend of mine all these stories of these impossible things . It keeps happening to me . So I'm going to invite you . Does it happen to you ?

Can you find your evidence for the impossible ? I bet you can . I bet you can look back and find some of it Like , oh , that was amazing . I don't understand how that happened . It's really worth drawing attention to it because that's the easier way . That's what we want , right ?

So you're not willing to give up your dreams , but you are prepared to push your overwhelm into exhaustion for them . And now you've reached a stage where you don't want to do it that way , but you also don't want to quit your dreams . So you've got to find an easier way . This is the easier way . Believe there's an easier way , trust there's an easier way .

Then look for evidence of it . And please don't assume it's just me . Other people do this stuff . You know this . It happens . Think of how you bought a house . Think of how you met your partner . Think of any time something's been magical and easy and choose to see more of it . Choose to believe there's always an easier way .

Even when you can't see it , it's just outside of your awareness . Just outside of your awareness . And I'm going to end with another story , and this time it was Wellies , wellington Boots . For those of you who don't live in England don't know what I'm talking about wellies . We always had wellies .

They're rain boots , gum boots , rain boots , whatever , and you just need them if you live in the countryside , because it gets muddy in the winter a lot . Anyway , I only wear barefoot shoes . I can't bear any sole at all . It's got to be minimalist . It screws my posture and everything .

So I've been stuck without proper wellies for a while now , which means it's tricky . It's tricky to negotiate all those puddles . I really , really wanted some . Couldn't find any , gave up , walked into a shop that doesn't sell wellies in a city I rarely visit , walked up to these wellies . They were children's wellies . There was one pair . I tried it .

One pair that said it was a size six . I'm a size five , but the children's one thought I'd give it a go . They looked like my size right , said the wrong size Tried . They fit . They're completely flat , they're really comfortable . They're only 18 quid . There we go , problem solved . How weird is that ?

What's weirder is I tried another pair of size six on , because these are silver , so they're like moon boots , and I thought , yeah , maybe I should get a sensible color . The other size sixes didn't fit me . There was one pair of magical boots for me and one only . Same with my coat story , my impossible coat story .

Maybe same with the car I don't know , exciting . Hey , how cool is that ? So now I have magical boots , magical coat , magical car . Honestly , this stuff is worth paying attention to and it's fun . It's fun talking about it . It's fun . Don't you want more fun ? Don't you want to believe in magic ? Don't you long for things to be easier ?

I hope you've enjoyed this episode . If you want more of these stories , subscribe , stay tuned , let me me know . I'll share some more . Share yours with me , let me know . You can easily send me a text message at the , in the show notes , or you can write to me at heidi , at heidimartcouk , or contact me in all the usual places social media . Lots of love .

Havea great week , have a magical week . Bye .