Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all. In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing your readiness for dating, and why putting life on hold might actually hold you back. Jessica reframes dif...
Aug 18, 2025•27 min
Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human. In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating lasting change. Trying to label ourselves as entirely good or bad creates unnecessary resistance, especi...
Aug 11, 2025•20 min
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts that feel impossible to break? It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt, frustration, or fear, believing those thoughts as truths. But what if, in that moment, you could choose a different path? In today’s episode, I’m revisiting the Choose Again Method, a simple and powerful technique to help you shift negative thinking and build a more positive mindset. This method is based on the idea that we don’t have to accept every thought th...
Aug 04, 2025•16 min
When your emotions feel like they're spiraling out of control, your body already knows what to do. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins introduces a powerful hands-on technique called Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. This grounding practice assigns each finger to a specific emotion. Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat walks you through each finger hold step-by-step, explaining not just the technique but the deeper connections ...
Jul 28, 2025•20 min
Do you ever feel like you should be further along in overcoming pornography? Despite knowing the tools, listening to the podcasts, and doing the work, something still feels off. It’s a common frustration that often leads to the belief that either you’re not trying hard enough or the tools aren’t working for you. In this episode, Coach Hunter addresses this struggle by revealing a crucial shift in perspective. The issue isn’t that you need more tools or that you need to work harder; it’s that you...
Jul 21, 2025•13 min
Is watching porn considered cheating? It’s a question many people wrestle with, and the answer isn’t black and white. In this episode, I explore the emotional complexities surrounding pornography use in committed relationships and how it intersects with infidelity, betrayal, and sexual boundaries. I dive into how personal values, inherited beliefs, and unspoken agreements shape how we view fidelity. I discuss how infidelity isn’t defined by specific actions, but rather by breaking agreements and...
Jul 14, 2025•37 min
Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey. In this episode, Coach Jessica explores the three key areas where grief shows up while overcoming pornography. ...
Jul 07, 2025•23 min
If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself disconnected, reactive, or avoiding emotional discomfort. In this episode, I’m diving into why empathy ...
Jun 30, 2025•15 min
Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised. In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when overwhelmed. You'll hear practical tools to return to your green...
Jun 23, 2025•14 min
Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve. Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You’ll feel empowered, knowing how to make a real difference without...
Jun 16, 2025•22 min
Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop. In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how we can learn to let intrusive thoughts exist without engaging with th...
Jun 09, 2025•10 min
Are you a high achiever trying to do everything right? I dive deep into perfectionism today - not as a badge of honor, but as a core fear of not being enough that often masquerades as discipline and drive. As a perfectionist myself, I understand how this mindset can both motivate and harm us in our journey toward healing and growth. This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of self-protection rather than self-improvement. I examine the ways our inner oppressor develops from external...
Jun 02, 2025•14 min
Do you find yourself chasing a sense of worth that always feels just out of reach? Many of us hold ourselves hostage with our inner critic, especially when it comes to overcoming pornography. I see this pattern frequently in coaching sessions where clients believe they can't experience happiness or peace until they've "earned it" through extended periods without viewing porn. In this episode, I explore how the inner critic often mimics external voices from our past - parents, religious leaders, ...
May 26, 2025•17 min
What if breaking free from pornography doesn’t require attending every coaching call or relying on willpower alone? In this episode, Nathan shares his journey from years of struggling with pornography to reclaiming control of his life. What makes Nathan's story particularly inspiring is that he achieved this transformation without ever attending a live coaching call. Nathan explains how the key was learning to recognize and sit with his emotions instead of trying to push them away. His transform...
May 19, 2025•23 min
What does it truly mean to be a provider as a man? For many people, masculine worth has been tightly linked to financial provision—the bigger the salary, the more successful the man. This narrow definition has created wounds that affect relationships, communities, and sense of self-worth. It's time we expand our understanding of masculine power. The traditional model of "providing equals money" often leads to competitive rather than collaborative energy, especially in relationships. When a man's...
May 12, 2025•22 min
What if five minutes a day could completely change your ability to process urges? In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett shares the daily tool that helped him move from feeling afraid of urges to being able to process them with confidence and ease. This simple practice became a key part of his success in overcoming pornography and staying committed to his goals. If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same patterns and want a clear way to show up for yourself each day, this practice can help...
May 05, 2025•12 min
Have you ever felt anxious or antsy when you view less porn? In this episode, coach Jessica addresses a common question many clients face: How long do I have to feel uncomfortable emotions, and how can I process the urges that come with this? Jessica unpacks the science behind emotions and urges. These sensations—whether they show up as fidgeting, bouncing your leg, or tightness in your chest—are simply your body’s response to thoughts in your brain. The good news? These uncomfortable feelings h...
Apr 28, 2025•9 min
Can someone truly overcome a 27-year pornography habit in just a few weeks? In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Tyler, a client who shares his remarkable journey from decades of struggle to genuine freedom. Tyler details the specific mindset shifts and practical tools that made the difference, how the program improved his marriage and parenting, and why going "all in" was the key to his success. His story proves that freedom from pornography isn't just possible—it can happen faster than y...
Apr 21, 2025•13 min
Ever feel trapped in a shame spiral that logic just can't break? That overwhelming feeling where no matter how many reasons you list for why you shouldn't feel ashamed, the emotion persists and paralyzes you? This is exactly what I'm addressing in today's episode. I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free from shame spirals. You'll discover powerful somatic practices that create safety in your nervous sy...
Apr 14, 2025•11 min
Have you ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things to process urges, but it's just not working? Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why. In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/process-urges-pres...
Apr 07, 2025•12 min
Are you constantly looking backward instead of forward? In this episode, I dive into the powerful distinction between being past-focused versus future-focused, and how this single shift can completely transform your approach to overcoming pornography. When you're stuck in past-focused thinking, you limit yourself to what you've already accomplished. By defining yourself by who you want to become rather than who you've been, you can create the momentum needed to finally break free from pornograph...
Mar 31, 2025•21 min
What if I told you that the key to quitting porn for good isn't just about the actions you take, but the energy behind those actions? So often, we chase after a porn-free life, thinking that once we achieve it, we'll finally feel good enough, worthy, and at peace. But what if we flipped the script and started embodying those feelings now, even before we've reached our goal? In this episode, you'll hear a fresh perspective on rewiring your brain for the life you truly want. By practicing feeling ...
Mar 24, 2025•14 min
Do you ever feel like quitting pornography is just too difficult and uncomfortable? In this episode, I share a powerful concept that completely changed my life: discomfort is the currency for success. Join me as I dive deep into why discomfort is essential for overcoming pornography and creating the life you truly desire. I share practical tips for reframing your mindset around discomfort and teach you how to process your emotions in a healthy way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more infor...
Mar 17, 2025•21 min
Are you tired of trying to quit porn using methods that just don't work? I reveal the hidden forces that keep you trapped in unwanted porn use and how facing them head-on can finally set you free. If you're ready to break free from the chains of pornography once and for all, this episode will give you a roadmap to lasting change. You'll learn why focusing on surface-level behaviors will never bring true healing, how to overcome the shame that fuels compulsive porn use, and what it takes to rewir...
Mar 10, 2025•27 min
In this powerful episode, Ben shares his story of overcoming pornography and finding true healing and self-acceptance. Through working with coach Jessica in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Ben discovered the power of grieving, self-compassion, and living authentically. Ben's story offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to break free from the chains of unwanted pornography use and find true freedom. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforov...
Mar 03, 2025•52 min
I dive deep into the concept of surrendering to your urges and explain why it's such a vital part of the process of overcoming pornography addiction. I share insights on why fighting your urges using willpower alone is a losing strategy, and how surrendering to them can help you better understand the underlying emotions driving your behavior. Learn practical strategies for surrendering to them in a healthy way, without giving in to the temptation to view pornography. Discover how this shift in m...
Feb 24, 2025•15 min
As someone who has struggled with pornography, you know firsthand how exhausting it can be to constantly operate from a place of fear and shame. Despite your best efforts, these negative emotions can hold you back and keep you trapped in a seemingly endless loop. But what if there was another way? Discover how shifting your energy from guilt and shame to love and tenderness can revolutionize your journey to freedom from pornography. Learn practical strategies for making this shift and experience...
Feb 17, 2025•15 min
We sit down with Daniel, a client who has been working diligently with coach Jessica to overcome his pornography habit. Daniel shares his journey of shifting from an accomplishment-based mindset to a growth mindset, and how this has transformed his relationship with himself and others. Join us as we explore the idea that healing from pornography addiction doesn't mean never experiencing urges again, but rather learning to understand and love yourself on a deeper level. Discover how letting go of...
Feb 10, 2025•38 min
I dive into the concept of expanding your timeline and the power of delayed gratification. By focusing on the long-term vision of who you want to become and the life you want to create, you'll find the strength to push through the challenges and stay committed to your goals. Join me as we explore how thinking in years instead of days can revolutionize not only your journey to overcome pornography, but every aspect of your life. Get ready to broaden your perspective, embrace the process, and unlo...
Feb 03, 2025•18 min
In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of relapses and the intense shame that often follows. I share my insights on why shame is so detrimental to the recovery process and offers practical strategies for navigating those difficult post-relapse emotions. If you've ever struggled with the "relapse shame cycle," this episode is for you. I break down the key steps to support your body through shame, challenge the beliefs that fuel it, and ultimately break free from the grip of pornography for g...
Jan 27, 2025•20 min
