How can you tell the difference between the pure ecstatic joy of new love and the twisting knife of manipulation? This week Outside the Manosphere: Love Bombs. Skip and Carlos grapple with their history of dropping Love Bombs and try to differentiate where the line is between the Grand Gesture of romcoms and the relationship terrorism lies. The guys also chat about the Trump Slush Fund, Mamdani's budget, the blatant theft of our joys segment by the NYT Opinions podcast (we see you NYTs), and of ...
May 27, 2026•47 min•Season 2Ep. 8
This week on the pod, what are men so afraid of? Turns out for some guys, it's women and personal growth. Yes, despite a not insignificant percentage of men feeling like they could take on a bear or an elephant bare handed (see past episodes), they hesitate when confronted with a woman or...gasp...a therapist. The guys discuss what the heck is going on with that? Also up: complimenting dudes guns (or behavior), the European leg cross, old men's toenails *shudder*, giving back to the world, becom...
May 20, 2026•51 min•Season 2Ep. 7
This week the guys fight the Green Eyed Monster. Skip and Carlos talk about their youthful struggles with jealousy and reveal where they are now. Spoiler alert: out of control jealousy is all about insecurity. Fix your relationship, don't lock up your partner. Also, Outside the Manosphere looks into the surprisingly pervasive practice of financial abuse and the corollary danger of Trad-wifing. Plus, the bird test, Carlos wants incumbents out, green flags, and joys. Items Referenced: Facebook - ...
May 13, 2026•51 min•Season 2Ep. 6
This week: male posturing for man-on-man validation, a return to the Invisible Knapsack, the American Dream of fighting a mountain lion, and green flags. The guys dig deep on the need for male validation for men and insecurity that compels us to act like children, showing off, withholding affection, and pushing boundaries to look cool. You know, the stuff you did in front of friends when you were 12. Plus, Carlos wants to wrestle Skip, Trump gets psychedelic, green flags, and Outside the Manosph...
May 06, 2026•45 min•Season 2Ep. 5
This week: Fascist Faceplants, Male Competitiveness, The Myth of the Alpha Male, and What Women Do and Don't Want according to science. The guys get deep into male competitiveness and their own toxic histories with dominating games, debates, and even conversations. What's the deal with interrupting women? And is the biggest flex at all not feeling the need to flex? Plus, do women want a dominant guy, a submissive guy, or door number three? Find out this and get your weekly dose of joy on Outside...
Apr 29, 2026•55 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Outside the Manosphere welcomes Michael J. Wilson, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, a specialist in Men's health and relationships. Michael schools the guys in how men cope with break ups; how they don't, and simple advice for what to do when you see a man in trouble.: Look big . . . no wait, that's for bears. Michael gives simple easy advice to help people out when they are in crisis or suicidal. Plus, he gives men the okay to pop open a tub of Ben & Jerry's and cu...
Apr 22, 2026•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 3
This week the guys red flag misogynist jokes, Carlos confronts an uncomfortable truth about his Dirty Dancing crush, and men have " the time of their life " at alpha male training camps. The guys also talk about big tech's big tobacco moment, loud cars, eating like a dog, Carlos thanks his grandma, and Skip gets some good news live during the podcast. All that and a healthy dose of joy this week on Outside the Manosphere. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere...
Apr 15, 2026•54 min•Season 2Ep. 2
"Boys don't cry." "Man up. " We've all heard it, emotional shaming, and it's a red flag. Season 2 begins with a look at men exhibiting emotions. The guys recount their experiences shutting down and being shut down while displaying emotions. They also search for the balance between being emotionally available and being...too much. The guys also discuss their takeaways from the new Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere. Spoiler Alert, it's not great in there. Items Referenced: Facebook - ...
Apr 08, 2026•57 min•Season 2Ep. 1
While the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, enjoy a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this thought-provoking episode, Skip and Carlos take you on a journey through their personal stories and cultural insights. They share travel stories from hitchhiking across the U.S. to exploring Prague, while also diving into deeper discussions on identity and privilege. A significant chunk of their discussion is dedicated to Peggy McIntosh's seminal article on white privilege, "Un...
Apr 01, 2026•1 hr 7 min
As the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, here's a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this episode, Skip and Carlos dive into "menodivorce," a term describing the rising divorce rates among those over 50, potentially linked to menopause. The boys explore how hormonal changes during menopause can lead women to reassess their life choices and relationships, often resulting in significant personal and marital transformations. They emphasize the importance of communication...
Mar 25, 2026•1 hr 10 min
Season One - a season of love, exploring masculinity, and self-discovery - ends with three (or four) little words. I love you . . . man. The guys of OTM graduate from the 36-questions-to-fall-in-love gauntlet and become full-fledged professors of love, or at least better friends. The guys also talk about Alpine divorces; Skip takes jealous pot-shots at Carlos' AI romance, and they both reflect on nearly a year of conversations about masculinity. Finally, OTM wraps it all up with a pretty bow for...
Mar 18, 2026•52 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Smashing your face with a hammer isn't necessarily a behavior synonymous with beauty . . . or is it? Skip and Carlos dive into the weird world of "Looksmaxxing," a strange but growing corner of the manosphere where men want desperately to dominate other men ("mogging"). The guys talk about the problems inherent within Looksmaxxing and reclaiming the values of being a good person, aka, Kindmaxxing (an OTM original). Also, OTM is . . . in love? . . . ending? . . . What's even happening? As the boy...
Mar 11, 2026•54 min•Season 1Ep. 43
Chris Hemsworth is ruining everything. Okay, not really, but he might just be iconic of the unrealistic body that young men are now told they should have. OTM dives into the underreported and underrepresented topic of male body dysmorphia and the uniquely dude-specific form it takes in Bigorexia. Skip and Carlos reflect on their own trials and travails with body image at a young age (and now) and the role that social media plays. Also, in the news items: James Talarico, Bari Weiss...and Mickey M...
Mar 04, 2026•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 42
In this short episode, the guys reflect on Obama, the audacity of hope that he brought to the US, and that one time that we had a President who could actually speak correctly. Now it's word salad for every meal, SAD! Also, OTM talks Turkey, hope in the fight against unhealthy social media, Fraggle Rock, and travel styles. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Instagram - Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere) Scientific American - AI tool dec...
Feb 25, 2026•34 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Olympics, Bad Bunny, Crotch-gate, and Nicholas Cage Noir...it's a wild time to be alive. The guys dive into some current events and...a fiery house? Also, OTM rummages around in the invisible knapsack to examine Black Excellence, how the bar is much higher, what racism looks like today, and assimilation through the eyes of the movie Sinners. And finally, tattoos and, of course, joy. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Instagram - Outside the Manosphere ...
Feb 18, 2026•56 min•Season 1Ep. 40
This week Outside the Manosphere dives into The PITT, Wonder Man, and messages from beyond the grave. Meanwhile, inside the Manosphere, Trump maybe pooped himself on TV? They'll also dive into that. Ahem, phrasing. The guys have a late kick off of Black History Month by diving back into a perennial favorite, the invisible knapsack and unpacking representation (or lack thereof) in curriculum, comics, and film. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Instagram - ...
Feb 11, 2026•56 min•Season 1Ep. 39
The guys talk fascism, racism, comedy, and the lack of male mentors in kids' lives. One thing is clear: the guys in ICE (or Kavanaugh Cops) never watched the Highlander, where moral tales were deftly woven around regular decapitations. Also, Carlos' grandma teaches him how to be a (well-mannered) man, the guys receive listener mail, and we let you know where to find a hilarious story about Skip's spirit celebrity, Richard Kind. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere In...
Feb 04, 2026•55 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Outside the Manosphere welcomes back Dr. Pete Fisher, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, for the second of a two-part interview on Masculinity and The Real Face of Men's Health Report, of which he is co-author. Men are lacking social connections and dying prematurely (and those things are related). Dr. Pete and the guys talk over some of the many factors contributing the 'loneliness epidemic.' And spoiler alert: women are lonely too! The good news, Dr. Pete shares what Mo...
Jan 28, 2026•57 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Outside the Manosphere welcomes back Dr. Pete Fisher, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, for the first of a two-part interview on Masculinity and The Real Face of Men's Health Report, of which he is co-author. In part one, the guys discuss how the rigid idea of traditional masculinity is affecting men and why flexibility is the new strength. In a shocking twist (for those in the manosphere), people are different and there is more than one way to be a man. So join OTM to f...
Jan 21, 2026•54 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Why do we want to be rugged? Do women care? Where's the line between manly and hobo-esque? It probably is in the vicinity of a shower, because no one likes a truly stinky man. The guys talk being rugged, traditional masculinity, and the hazy boundary between being a bad boy and terrible guy. Also, Carlos gets a tingly chest cavity, Skip tries to find the medium-way (a la Richard Kind), and they share a platform to micro-dose on joy. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Ins...
Jan 14, 2026•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this short bonus episode, Skip relays a synchronicity from the gym locker room in which he definitely does NOT poop his pants. The boys will resume their regularly scheduled episodes next week.
Jan 07, 2026•11 min
Happy New Year and Happy Birthday to Skip & Carlos! In this short Holiday episode, the guys reflect on their hectic 2025 and forward to new beginnings in 2026. They review resolutions, intentions, synchronicities, the curse of winter break birthdays, and various woo-ery. As always, they share their joys and find the best joys are the connections they make with others. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Instagram - Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere) Th...
Dec 31, 2025•36 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Happy Holidays from Outside the Manosphere! For this Christmas episode, Skip and Carlos discuss the Scrooge-like transformations of a few celebrities who changed for the better after some very public bad behavior. The boys then acknowledge the last time they cried, both alone and with another person, in a powerful "falling in love" question. Finally, the guys share their joys of the week, and what could be more Christmassy than that? Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Inst...
Dec 24, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 33
This week, Skip battles pests, Ash fights the Evil Dead, and Carlos just doesn't want to be misunderstood. The boys talk about the imprint poverty leaves on people and the implication of "lifeboat ethics." Plus, the guys do a lightning round of questions to find out, among other things, their favorite swear words and insults. Items Referenced: Facebook - Outside the Manosphere Instagram - Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere) Wikipedia - Lifeboat ethics Lifeboat Ethics: the Case A...
Dec 17, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Skip and Carlos share their thoughts on this conversation: Self-described "alpha males": Women, lower your standards or you'll end up alone. Women (looking at a man afraid to wipe his own butt because he thinks it might be gay): Nah dawg, we good. The boys decide the cure for the primitive urge to dominate might be found in the joy of others. Plus, the guys share embarrassing moments including Carlos at first blush and Skip's penile revelations. And finally, Carlos has a joyful brush with the 6t...
Dec 10, 2025•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 31
Wake me up when Movember ends...Skip and Carlos reflect on the past month and the surprisingly inspirational journey of their mustache ride together. Ahem, phrasing. The guys also dive into advice from the Manosphere where men are so homophobic and self-loathing they are afraid to wipe their butts. Do yourselves a favor guys, keep it clean and embrace whatever you're afraid of. It's not worth the poopy bottom. Also, who exactly is Detective Clomp? Find out all this and more in this week's Outsid...
Dec 03, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Skip & Carlos & Matt & Pete? The boys interview Dr. Peter Fisher (Research Fellow at the Movember Institute of Men's Health) and Matt Capeless (Movember Community Ambassador) about their experience and work with the Movember organization. The conversation ranges over fundraising, men's mental health, the digital world of young men, men's sheds, and building healthier young men through sport. And with two extra guys, there's twice as much joy for the week. Items Referenced: Join the O...
Nov 26, 2025•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Out of the locker room and into sheds in this episode where the boys focus on turning away from the destructive manifestations of masculinity and towards positive social responses. Skip and Carlos discuss the Mexican President, Claudia Sheinbaum, being groped in public and on camera, how locker room talk is a gateway to douchery, and how enforcing the social contract so important. Plus, what's the most manly drink? And Carlos wants to work shoulder to shoulder with...Carlos? The world needs anot...
Nov 19, 2025•58 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Men's health is Men-tal health for Movember. Skip and Carlos tackle the tough stuff in this episode: talking. From suicide to personal insecurities to mustache rides, the boys cut loose in the edgiest episode yet. Items Referenced: Join the Outside the Manosphere Team for Movember! https://movember.com/t/outside-the-manosphere-a-non-toxic-bro-mance?mc=1 Instagram & Facebook: @outsidethemanosphere https://www.instagram.com/outsidethemanosphere/ Guys share the 9 worst 'alpha male' tips they've...
Nov 12, 2025•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Join the Outside the Manosphere Team for Movember! Skip and Carlos continue the rollout of Movember by talking about testicular cancer and other scary things like showing affection, hard conversations, and *shudder* going into Victoria's Secret stores. Other monsters also rear their ugly heads in this post-Halloween episode of courage and cowardice: zombies, man-eating plants, Polish elves, and . . . jealousy? Items Referenced: Join the Outside the Manosphere Team for Movember! https://movember....
Nov 05, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 26
