In this mini episode, Mark revisits the strange emotional landscape of March 2020 and the onscreen embrace that so many of us were craving as we look ahead to our upcoming virtual event on April 23rd, featuring a conversation with Jason Bailey, author of Gandolfini: Jim, Tony, and the Life of a Legend . Join us as we talk action heroes, parasocial dads, the power of a good hug, and why James Gandolfini still feels like he was ours . Other Men is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pa...
Apr 17, 2025•8 min•Season 4Ep. 11
While Other Men is under construction, Mark answers a listener’s question about navigating a workplace softball league—and the lingering anxieties of being picked last. From sweaty banyas in Coney Island to team dynamics on the field, this mini episode explores competition, camaraderie, and finding your own way in spaces that don’t always feel like home. Plus, we share a special invite to an upcoming event on masculinity, fatherhood, and Tony Soprano. Other Men is executive produced, hosted, and...
Apr 03, 2025•9 min•Season 4Ep. 10
This week, we're revisiting a classic episode in anticipation of the first, of many, virtual talks. Join us for a special virtual chat on November 19th at 7:30 pm ET with designer and journalist Natty Adams along with host Mark Pagán, live on Other Men Need Help’s Instagram! Don’t miss this chance to hear more behind-the-scenes stories and ask your own questions. In this fan favorite episode from our second season, Mark reflects on the awkward journey of finding his personal style, battling inse...
Nov 13, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 9
This week, we've shared seven tropes in masculine discourse we’d like to see changed in the next seven years. In this special Other Men-I, host Mark Pagán shares one more topical term that's he's privately been ruminating on changing. We’re working on Other Men 2.0 and really, really need your input on how we can make this a series, digital platform, or service that work best for you. It’ll take just a few minutes and all feedback is valuable. Thank you: https://forms.gle/U3MBciccFfJLhmuj6 Subsc...
Sep 26, 2024•6 min•Season 4Ep. 8
Other Men is seven years old. We've learned some lessons on masculinity over that time and in today's special episode, we share those tenets. We’re working on Other Men 2.0 and really, really need your input on how we can make this a series, digital platform, or service that work best for you. It’ll take just a few minutes and all feedback is valuable. Thank you: https://forms.gle/U3MBciccFfJLhmuj6 Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets, stories, and essays: https://markpagan.substack.co...
Sep 19, 2024•19 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Mark is getting married. And in the final episode of the season, he investigates the one wedding tradition that he’s been having an issue with. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Caitlin Mae Burke and Ben Goldberg. Caitlin Mae Burke, Ben Goldberg, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is lead editor. Our researcher...
Jun 29, 2023•35 min•Season 4Ep. 6
In his search for someone, anyone to talk to about his complicated road to becoming a father, hopeful dad Kirk enlists Other Men to help document the solitary, but optimistic journey many men face in infertility spaces. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Ben Goldberg and Navani Otero, with production help from Cierra Franco. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Sha...
Jun 22, 2023•37 min•Season 4Ep. 5
He shot! He scored! And then…? What happens to an athlete’s identity when age and new responsibilities ask him to add “former” to his title? Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Navani Otero. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is lead editor. Our researchers are Bei Wang and Shanee...
Jun 15, 2023•29 min•Season 4Ep. 4
What lessons from childhood are you still trying to make sense of? Zak comes across a decades old photo that leads him to literally relive a middle school rite of passage. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Zak Rosen, with production help from Caitlin Mae Burke and Shaneez Tyndall. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca ...
Jun 01, 2023•30 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Who gets to be on the cover of your romance novel? In the hunt for a greater range of culturally desirable body shapes and identities, Mark meets with Ronald, a recently single man who has decided to take the way the world sees him into his own hands. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Rebecca Seidel and Shaneez Tyndall. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez...
May 25, 2023•33 min•Season 4Ep. 2
Hello, it’s me… season 4 of OMNH ! Danny confronts a bald truth while within feet of an iconic pop star - which sets off a chorus of responses from Mark and other men exploring the jarring gap that exists between how they picture themselves and the photographed reality. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel...
May 18, 2023•29 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Other Men Need Help is back with season four: That’s What I Look Like?! . Join host Mark Pagán for a new season of Other Men Need Help where every episode tells the story of an image – the self-created cover of a romance novel, a concert photo revealing a surprise bald spot, or a staged groomsmen photo unveiling the longing for physical intimacy amongst some men. Six episodes about six men and six photos. Starting May 18, we’re going to hear what they see....
May 11, 2023•2 min
We revisit an episode with one of our favorite guests and share some updates. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Twitter to talk to us, and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Episode illustration by Iga Ścibek....
Sep 28, 2022•39 min
Today we’re sharing an episode of a new show from Ten Percent Happier called More Than a Feeling . It dives into the confusing, exhilarating, and messy world of human emotions — and how to make sense of them. Why do we have emotions and how much should we pay attention to them on any given day? Can we learn to skillfully choose which emotions to listen to and which ones to just let move on by? In More Than A Feeling , host Saleem Reshamwala goes on a real life quest to find the answers to these ...
May 10, 2022•56 min
Deck the halls, light the lights, unwrap the… whiskey stones? Prompted by uninspiring gift guides for all the men in his life, Mark and a chorus of voices explore how the holidays, gift giving, and masculinity collide. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are our lead producers. Navani Otero is our producer. Cierra Franco and Shaneez Tyndall are our associate producers. Rebecca Seidel is our lead enginee...
Dec 08, 2021•32 min•Season 3Ep. 15
In this month’s bonus episode, we hand the podcast reins over to our friends in Bangalore, City of Women — a show that looks at the calculated strategies, backdoor negotiations, and often absurd lengths women go to have fun and feel free in their city. City of Women is written and produced by Radhika Viswanathan and Samyuktha Varma. Associate Producer, Menaka Raman. Music, sound, mixing, mastering by Erwick D’Souza. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Be...
Nov 03, 2021•24 min•Season 3Ep. 14
In this month’s bonus episode, Other Men Need Help celebrates Halloween with the help of a magical drive-in theater and Pumpkin Spice Podcast ’s Rob Schulte to find out what happens to boys raised on a diet of mass murderers and VHS-era slashers. Be afraid? Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are our lead producers. Navani Otero is our producer. Cierra Franco and Shaneez Tyndall are our associate produc...
Oct 06, 2021•21 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Throughout the four years of making Other Men Need Help, we’ve only had one sobbing, physical moment during an interview. In today’s bonus episode, following an unexpected in-flight experience, Mark returns to a tender moment recorded in 2017 prompted by a TV patriarch that deserves canonization, and checks in to see if it still resonates. Hosted, written, and executive produced by Mark Pagán. Lead producer is Caitlin Mae Burke. Produced by Ben Goldberg and Rebecca Seidel. Cierra Franco and Shan...
Sep 01, 2021•19 min•Season 3Ep. 12
What did you give up to fit in as a boy? In this month's bonus episode, Mark chats with Rajat Mittal about abandoning Whitney Houston, what wheels have the most stud swagger, and the “period picture books” that led to the creation of Rajat's vibrant newsletter Boyish . Hosted, written, and executive produced by Mark Pagán. Lead producer is Caitlin Mae Burke. Produced by Ben Goldberg and Rebecca Seidel. Cierra Franco is our associate producer. Our lead engineer is Rebecca Seidel. Become part of t...
Aug 04, 2021•20 min•Season 3Ep. 11
If you could freeze a favorite memory with your best friend in time — would you tell them what that memory is? Inspired by a moving chat with Paul about his childhood best friend Dave, Mark wraps up Season 3 by revisiting some of our OMNH besties and asking them to share their friendship’s most indelible memory with the podcast, and now — the world . Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Facebook to meet our friends, Twitter to talk ...
Nov 18, 2020•28 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Do all friendships age well, like wine, or are some just corked? When Tim and Logan’s twenty year friendship starts to turn to vinegar, Mark hosts a friendtervention to see if the legacy is worth upholding. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original music by Fulton Street Music Group . Additional music from Blue Dot Sessions . Episode illustration ...
Nov 04, 2020•37 min•Season 3Ep. 9
Mark heads down South to spend a weekend with two faithful friends - Pastors Brian and Hugh. Over BBQ, sermon prep, and countless cups of coffee, these spiritual leaders unpack the isolation of being behind the pulpit and how they hold space for each other in a way no one else can. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original music by Fulton Street ...
Oct 21, 2020•31 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Mark is Cleveland-bound to help an Ohioan named Seth avoid falling into an alarming trap that snares other men - declaring their romantic partner to be their best friend. With words of wisdom from women who’ve found themselves on the other side of this equation, Mark does his best to guide Seth toward a more suitable close pal that he doesn’t share a bed with. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics....
Oct 07, 2020•27 min•Season 3Ep. 7
When a breakup leaves Mark craving affection from an amigo, he takes to the sky, hoping for the famed operatic embrace from a friend upon landing in an international airport. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original music by Fulton Street Music Group . Additional music from Blue Dot Sessions . Episode illustration by Carmela Caldart . Looking fo...
Sep 23, 2020•22 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Intermezzo? Intermission? Seventh inning stretch? Whatever you want to call it, we’ve got a brief message and musical treat for you as we stretch our legs and get ready for a wild second half to season 3. Enjoy the music that has inspired the show - your very own 3 HOUR OTHER MEN NEED HELP PLAYLIST ! Become part of the team and support us on Patreon ! Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original musi...
Sep 09, 2020•2 min•Season 3Ep. 5
While out west, Mark gets a surprise two-for-one reconnection with some pals from his comedy past, and overhears a phone call that sparks his curiosity about his own fear of picking up the phone. Do Other Men have the same phone phobia? Become part of the team and support us on Patreon . Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original music by Fulton Street Music Group . Additional music from Blue Dot S...
Aug 26, 2020•32 min•Season 3Ep. 4
What three little words have Mark tongue-tied around his friends? They're not the ones you think. Mark goes to long-term and long distance BFFs Darnell and Dimetrius to puzzle out his fear of a certain phrase (calling on perspective from a chorus of Other Men ) and hear what's made their friendship work for fifteen years. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon ! Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to https://otherm...
Aug 12, 2020•31 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Go west, young men! Mark takes a trip out to Los Angeles to reconnect with a long lost high school classmate to see if he was "the friend who got away", while seven-year-olds Frankie and Indio share the tricks of maintaining a bi-coastal best friendship. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon ! Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com . Original music by Fulton Street Music Group . Additional mus...
Jul 29, 2020•28 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Season three starts with a hello - or, in this case: a secret handshake. Childhood best friends Brian and Dimitri tell Mark what's kept their connection over three decades and across an ocean, which opens to a chorus of men exploring how greetings serve as the unique fingerprint of each best friendship. And did you think we’d start the new season off without some singing?! C’mon, you know us better than that. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon ! Subscribe to our newsletter for mon...
Jul 15, 2020•20 min•Season 3Ep. 1
We’re baaaaaack. This summer, join host Mark Pagán for a new season of your favorite award-winning deep dive into the whys, hows, and oh mys of masculine mythology. In the past, we’ve the untold stories about financial insecurities, the messages you foolishly send to get your ex’s attention, and finding love at any age. This season, we’re meeting your best friends. #OMNHS3
Jul 08, 2020•2 min
