Mr. Mocha vs DD Vixen!

And welcome to another episode, O Faces. I am your host, Mr. Mocha. We are on the cutting board. Keep music going, keep music going. And this is unique episode because today I'm getting called out. I'm getting challenged for some things that I've said in the previous podcast. And I got double D Vixen and Jay here, Double D and I, you know, we, we started out with a pretty much ballroom bar room brawl downstairs. We were throwing chairs at each

other. You know, she tried to body slam me. So we decided we're going to save the same for the podcast. All seriousness, we are at Splash Mocha Houston 2024. We're recording this with some guests in hanging out with us. This is an exciting podcast to me personally because everybody who knows me know that I say what's on my mind and I don't filter it. I'm a firm believer that the world is too filtered, so I'm not going to filter it. I'm going to speak my truth.

But I also believe that if you go onto a public forum and speak your truth, you should be challenged. And because I'm so loud and not going off the line, people don't challenge me. They just whisper about it. Now I want to start off on how I I met Double D Vixen and Jay. So I met Jay first. I was at the desk and Jay walked in. I wasn't aware that I had already spoken to their. Their couple hadn't spoken to Double D Vixen. I didn't know I had spoke to her

before. Jay walks in to Mocha and I will give a guy a hard time who I know is confident. Jay's a good looking guy. He walks in. So I see him back straight eye contact. So I, you know, like I do with all the other guys who I know can take it. I just sit right in on them. So we're at the front desk bantering back and forth. His wife walks in. He says, oh, you're Mr. Mocha. Then you say so. So he shook my hand and his wife comes in. She shakes my hand.

Then she hugs Goliath. All right, so I'm still kind of going back and forth with like, I'm still kind of giving him a hard time. So we Fast forward. I see him later on that night. I I go out and this this guy, all right, he came in looking like a good looking guy. I walk over a guy looks like a fucking rock star. I'm like, what the Hell's going on here? This. Guy here is ready like save. Some pussy for the rest of us. So I'm giving him a hard time

because he looks good. He had the cowboy hat on, you know, got his hair done. You know, he had the nappy beard when he first came in and I he, he done combed his beard out, you know, I see him. Yeah. And I saw him, so I knew he was going to be somebody my wife would like. So she randomly comes up and I'm and I know I see her look at him.

I'm like, OK, so now I'm talking to them and his wife, Double D Vixen is standing next to him, not really saying anything to him, not saying much, but she's standing there. Now me being me, I am not sharp enough to know when I'm being snubbed. And the one thing I liked about her is she realized I didn't realize and she let me know you're being snubbed. Now the question is, Double D Vixen, why was I snubbed? Do. You want me to say what I I told him on the way here?

Let, let let me have it. Mr. Mocha thinks he's going to get it. He ain't going to get it. Get what? Get get pussy. Mr. Mocha can dream. Let's get that straight. Mr. Mocha is hoping the reason. I said that is because of how how you were when it was so so I wasn't intending on being on your podcast. I didn't know that it was going to be a podcast episode. I just was on. I happened to be on Twitter one night and I saw that it was like a live, what is that Twitter space?

And I just tuned in and you had I think 2 guys on there. You guys were talking about Splash and being a single guy and the lifestyle and Splash and just all the different dynamics with couples and their. It was their perspective, a single man in the lifestyle and attending Splash. So once you guys started talking about Splash, I can't remember the comment that was made, but there was something about

couples. And most of the talk was about, you know, being respectful and then approaching the husbands. And, you know, usually it's the husband's going out to the single guys and saying, hey, my wife's interested in you. So I can't remember what it was you said, but it got to the point in the podcast where you you were like, hey, if anyone wants to chime in, whatever. And I was like, yeah, I do.

So I said our experience at the 2022 Houston Splash, and I said, yeah, we went in, had day passes, like all day passes and walk in trying to smile, like, you know, we didn't know there was a whole thing, right? And we're a stag vixen couple. And so we knew that a lot of the couples, there's a, there's a high volume of cut couples here. And that's just not our dynamic. But we still wanted to go in, you know, open mind and look approachable. And no one was talking to us

like nobody. And I kind of started to get a little insecure. I was like, what the Hell's going on? Like, do we look like assholes? Like, are we being antisocial? Like, and a couple guys came up to us introduce themselves and I guess they're like veterans, you know, have been coming to splash for a minute and they kind of, yeah, they, they told us like the whole dynamic that's typically, you know, this is the, the guys aren't trying to snub you. They just, they want to be

respectful, you know? And so we're like, yeah, I appreciate that. So we, I'm telling you about this on this podcast and our experience. So then you, you go on this whole tangent about, you know, it's husband and blah, blah, blah, the whole respect thing. And you said, I'm not trying to be, I can't remember exactly how you phrased it, but it was something along the lines of, I'm not trying to be rude, but this is on your husband.

I blame your husband. He should have been approaching the guys and you kind of went on a little tangent there and I said, Oh no. She took this shit personal. I see. I took it personal. I was like. I laughed at. It she took it so but. She's protective of me, man. So yeah. And can I pause you? Here yeah, go ahead so she's she's she's saying it and I think the I have the Full disclosure all right I am very direct and I tend to be brusque often times so.

Me too. Yes, and for so I, I, I say this all the time with depend depending upon the husband. I always say me and me and Mike see this is our ongoing debate. Our ongoing debate is Mike's. He's always said is more the the guy's responsibility. And I've always said the husband responsibility, especially Jay, stand up for me. Please stand up. Thank you.

All right, Especially when the husband looks like this guy, OK and and when I say that for listeners to understand, Jay is a good a big guy, he's an attractive guy and when you look at him, he's intimidating. I. Don't see? That you don't have to see it, but you do see it because when I was talking, when me and me and his wife were having this conversation and he was standing

watching. And it reminds me, there's this meme where there's this mother cat and there's a kitten and you can tell they live in the house with this pit bull. And the mom is introducing the pit bull to the kitten.

But the entire time the kitten is playing with the pit bull, the mom is staring at the pit bull making sure he doesn't give her a reason to attack it. Now the whole time her and I having a debate, he was very friendly, but the entire time his eyes and his body was pointed at me to make sure that

I didn't go too far. He knew that she probably would, but because she's a kitten, she's going to paw at the Pitbull. She doesn't know it can eat her, but he knew it could eat her and he was ready to attack the Pitbull. That, my friend, is what a man is supposed to do. But that same mentality, behavior, body language, stance makes other guys nervous to

approach. So from my standpoint, being the same guy who you remember my first year here, Mister East Coast, remember my first year here, when everybody's like, dude, fucking smile and I'm like, what? Am I supposed to walk around like a happy idiot? Yeah. Like that too? Absolutely. Wait, say it again. Say it again. We. Don't want to kiss your? Wife calls it resting Dick face. I got resting Dick face. I apparently have resting bitch face. Yeah, yeah.

He's right because I seen y'all last night and this is my first year of Splash and I was like, oh, she looks amazing. And I and I literally took two steps forward, looked at you, and it went somewhere else. OK, so now, so now hold on. He didn't even know with this. No, it's not. No, it's not. So hold on, you like? People and you can you can interject. He's had no problem talking to us. But no, go ahead. Soccer cheese.

Soccer cheese. Interject please So here's the thing, what you don't know, you are cool. You can feel that energy. But there has been some guys what we don't know as bulls. Are you the couple that's like I'm here, but I really don't know if I want to be here. I'm really not sure what's going to go happen. So I'm going to take this. I'm here because my wife really wants to be here, but I don't want none of y'all motherfuckers to come around My wife stance and we can't tell the

difference. That's where there is. That's where he's, I agree with him on the man's responsibility to let you know I'm open. Your muscles will show them, OK, if you do anything, it's a problem that's going to show it.

You going up to someone and letting them know I'm not one of those husbands because there are, I've approached a couple of husbands and I just felt like the dude was sticking his chest out a little bit and I'm like, OK, brother, I'm not, you know, I'm not trying to put her in a headlock. So that's what we're discussing. We're not talking about the other side. These gentlemen know how to approach. I know like you say, oh, you're

so comfortable. Well, because I've been through that and I'm fine with the you know, she's here, but she's not here, right? Right. That's what you got to take. We didn't know that there. So what the guys that we ended up meeting when we were here in 2022, they were telling us, they said, listen, we thought that you were a guy that apparently there is a kink that it's kind of like a showing the like wife off.

It's like, hey, they get off on like I want to show my wife off, but I don't want anyone to touch her. Yes, that's what they and we didn't know that that was a kink. We didn't know that was a thing. Really. Kink is called insecurity. Why? Would you come to an event? My question was like bro, why would you come to this event? You spend all this fucking money. You know what I'm? Saying, but you're being logical. Yeah, I mean. That's you're being logical, which is I was being logical.

But here's the thing, I'll say this. She was offended he wasn't. As soon as I explained it to him, he was like, because the way it was explained to me was the same way. It was. No, it wasn't gentle. It was big ass Dmitry walking up, putting his hand, his meat hook on my shoulder. Like hey, stop looking like fucking security, you're scaring men away from your wife. Oh, that makes sense. We went back and forth and I enjoyed the conversation because it's very difficult to change my mind.

She was able to change my mind in the conversation. Not about me thinking it's his responsibility to go out because you're a scary looking dude and you have a good looking wife and people just ain't going to want to walk up to you because there's a good looking wife with a guy who's not scary looking. OK. And then also a lot of these guys, and this is something that I had to learn with Misses Mocha where she's told me, hey, my wife likes threesomes.

But it got to a point where I had to stop because a lot of guys are more comfortable sexually with the guy who they feel superior to. So you don't give off inferior vibes. So now that means you got some guy who wants to be in a room having sex with a woman where he feels like he's got one up on the husband. And you're looking like that. You're looking like a fucking you, looking like you, looking like a predator, like you got a lion sitting in the room staring at you.

Unless you're in the room with another lion, it doesn't work. So now these guys are looking and unfortunately for us, I go around and when you I was standing with you, I'm a clown. I'm a clown for a reason with my friends because then they feel safe. But unfortunately I had to go out there and Dimitri pushed me a lot. Hey man, go talk to these guys. And now my wife is my wife is dirty like she want Dick. She's is that your vagina? No that. Was. That was that was badge, wasn't it?

More badge. You're such a perfect so, so so that was so but the the thing that I would say, her and I going back and forth, I attacked her like I would attack Mike C when we had this conversation and her thing was basically, I told you I was new. Learn how to fucking talk to new people. I was. Like wow, you steal your ground. And that's when I tapped out she's. Still the ground. Oh, you. You. I was. There because originally I was

talking to them. I was talking to them originally and then he came over and she, yeah, she went and I had. To start throwing punches, so. What you're saying? You could have ended that whole thing by saying stop clock. Oh, Nah, Nah, she wasn't, she wasn't here, shot clock. No, she wasn't here, shot clock. She she went in that she was like all. The attack. So tell me what I should have done.

I would say this, so you had struck me in the conversation when I was on the the Twitter Space podcast, a thing you struck me as I, I got off of that call whatever, as I was like, this is a cocky motherfucker who is used to having women fawn all over him. Like Oh my God, he's so sexy like. I want more fawning. One and they are just like throwing the pussy at him like all day every day. And I'm like please, like that's how I would. I don't like cocky guys.

I like you, got a cocky. Guy he is. Quiet. Confident Like. He's cool because we had chatted before we came, so I knew he was a cool dude. We are the most unserious. Like we love all genres of comedy. Like we love stupid like Will Ferrell, SNL, you know, I think yeah, goofball. Like he is the biggest if if you can make me laugh, you're in. Like if you can banter back and forth, talk a little shit, like you're good with me. You're good people. So fucking quick quitted.

And I'm like in the shower. I'm like, yeah, I should have said. That that's that's me with. My wife, literally. It hits me after the fact like and he can just pop it up. But you said that's from being in, you said that's from being in high school. Y'all would have to like check each other like and I'm not that like I come back with something but then I'll take it to the next level. So when I come back I'm like going for your core. And he's like, God damn.

Like I was just joking. Yeah, like so I go zero to 60 like unintentionally. Oh yeah, She came. She came in all guns blazing. She let me know that she thought I was arrogant. She thought I was. Cocky are you not used to having women for a pussy at you? Your wife would know best. He is definitely very arrogant. She doesn't. Thank you. But he's arrogant on the like on the outer court. He once he gets that's like him on the podcast, that's him.

Like if he's in a like professional world, he's very he comes off as very arrogant. That's how I didn't talk to him for three weeks after we met because I was like, I liked his Dick, but he was really arrogant. And I don't know if I could deal with that. But the more like you get to know him, the better he is about he's just not. I'm friendly from the get go.

I'll be unfriendly if I decide I don't like you, but I'll I'm friendly from the get go. He's not unfriendly, he's just more guarded if that makes sense. He's like. We're. Here we're professional. I don't know where your headspace is. I don't know where my headspace is but I've had to tell him to meet you side to tell him several other people. Like dude, stop walking around like a security guard because if he smiles he looks kind of friendly. Yes, yes.

You. Can't say that to me because you do the same thing. This fucking guy, he's like, yeah, that's a great smile as I walk into him, like. That's how he was. Yeah, I know. That's why you turned around. He called it, he said resting Dick. But that's how I think I come off like I don't know, I'm like I'm the biggest impact. Like I get I'm a people pleaser. Like I'm just naturally like I want to make sure everyone in the room is like comfortable

everyone. I would never want someone to feel like humiliated or uncomfortable. And but if I'm just like, he jokes all the time, like I'll just be reading because I need to put my glasses on. I'm like reading something on the phone. I'm looking like this. He's like, is everything OK? I'm like, yeah, I'm just reading some, he said. It looks like you're like reading the worst news ever. Is it, is this something that I mean, because during the

conversation I was like, yeah. I mean, he got a point, you know what I mean? And again, I knew not knew you, but we had we had talked a little bit before then to let you check in. Hey, how you guys doing? You know, we, we again, we talked on Telegram. Before. But is it something that possibly could be? Just read your shirt, sorry. I. Know. I just read your shirt and we felt happy the same.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Is it is this something that you that could possibly be true, but you haven't noticed it because you live with him, you all you're with him all the time. So you see that other side that people here don't see from him. I will say, yes, I get, I can, I can understand it to a point because when we first met, he had been Mr. Bachelor, like having girls throw themselves at, buy him stuff, like show up, you know, bring him food. He'd be like, thank you.

So I got punished for his behavior. I she projected his bullshit on me. We were complete strangers when we met like we we had no mutual friends. Like he literally walked up to me at a bar. So when I found out from a mutual or from my friend, she had some coworkers that a few of the girls knew him and they were like, Hey, tell your friend, you know, be careful. He's he, he gets her, you know, like he gets around. He's used to having women, you

know, fart all over him. As soon as I found that out I was like. But you told like never denied. It but you also said you were like if you had been a yes woman, I wouldn't have. I saw him as a rebound. I was like, look, I just broke up with a guy a few weeks before he walked up to me. I was like, fine as fuck. I just want to fuck him like, and he was the one that was like, hey, I really like you. I want to like take it slow. And I was like. Definitely it was. A. It was a.

Like you had. We had great conversations. Smart fucking conversations. Yeah, you're a deep thinker. So I knew that he was used to having girls throw themselves at him. And I was like, I'm, I like what you said yesterday. You said that you're stubborn. I was like, Yep, I felt that, like, got it. But that's how he. Was the challenge. Also, yeah, I liked. And again, rebound. I was still fucking married when I met him. I mean like they. Were separated.

They were. But I was not like legally. Not wait hold on, I said that wrong, not that I wouldn't have still fucked her if she was. I don't want you guys to think that I was trying to claim decent because I still would have. However, in that she was separated at. The time but same I like literally just wanted some Dick and he he would give me. I called him my vacation because there's one day a week I was his Monday chick. He was my Monday Dick.

It was the only day of the week we didn't have our kids. So I would go to his house and it felt like vacation. He listened to me. He responded like, well, to me, and I was in my mind, it couldn't be real. You got good Dick. You're really nice. But when I met, you didn't seem really nice. You were kind of scary, but you had a good Dick. We all went, We all circled back around to the Dick a few times before I was like, OK, maybe he's like, we're really good

Dick, right? Yeah, I I like that. That's The thing is like if you come off as cocky, I feel like you're overcompensating for something and then you find out. Not bad. Let's see it but. I feel like the end of the day, I'm like my goal because I have all brothers, I'm the youngest and I'm the only girl, so I'm used to like ready to fight, like let's go.

She was, she was, she was ready. So I, if I see that you're coming off as you think you're the shit and your shit doesn't stink, I'm like, no, you're a bully and I fucking hate bullies. So I'm going to break you down like I'm going to cut to your core because I'll give it right back to you. But I find out that guys that are like that, they're the most sensitive motherfuckers. I think they're. At their core. Oh yeah. Very sensitive, Very sensitive.

Question to you, Mr. Mocha. I just thought what you just said. So being like somebody new into the splash, how would like single guys in this splash really approach a couple if they feel intimidated? It's just something you just got to get over. Or is it? How does that even work? You know what I'm saying? Because honestly, I I seen y'all last night and I girl, you're like amazing. I was like. Yeah, I mean, I, I told her that, but she didn't believe me. But I told her that today.

I didn't tell her yesterday. When we get to we had my experience last night. So so this is what I will say to you, and this is because I know that I intimidate people. Reserve stag Mister East Coast there, Jay. I look at a guy, I look him in his eyes. I feel that he's strong and then I engage him because I have created a circle of guys around me. Because if you ever met my sisters, my sisters are fucking savages like my sisters. Like we talk to each other.

Like my wife, the first time she heard me and my sister talk, she's like, what is wrong with y'all? There's no filters, you know, instead of having. What's wrong with? Y'all. Yeah, yeah, the first. Time I heard it be a little. Bit what happened to? My professional that went out the window. We. We. And my friends we instead of speaking 100 words, we speak directly.

I can speak direct to my friend if you know that there's no bad intentions behind it. So when I see a guy that I didn't know, none of the situation when I first met him and automatically I was, I was talking to him like I knew him. But then they're guys who come in and I look in their face, I look in your eyes and I feel like they're more gentle. So I tone myself way down. I told myself down.

I told my personality down. Because the one thing I never want someone to be afraid of me. I don't get off on someone being afraid of me. You know that that that does nothing for me, my wife. I like being afraid. Of you, you should. But so, so, so all of my guys like Mister East Colmes will tell you if there's and you guys saw when I was standing there talking to you guys coming up fucking with me, Big J come up poking me in the head, right that I give it. But I take it you know what I'm

saying? And that to me is the mark of that says a lot. I deal with people based upon how they deal with others. If I see you and you're mean to people who are weaker than you, I lose respect for you 100% saying if you see me. Like even during our conversation, I was still very careful with you, not just because of the pit bull, but because listen, I mean, let me help you understand this and you'll get it this time. If you ever seen my daughter's play with mine, disagree with

you on that. If you I keep doing it too. If you ever saw my daughter when she played with my 120 LB Pitbull, she had No Fear of it. She would ride his back, pull his tail, do his nails. Now we have a. Video. Yeah, but here's the thing. She was afraid of bugs, and when he was around she wasn't. She was afraid of nothing when he was around, but she and her mind could not perceive him being violent, yet she felt completely safe with him. You don't worry about him being

violent to you. But you know, if I push you out of the chair right now, you can say all the tough guy, I'll fight you, but you know who's going to be climbing on top of me. So you do understand what he represents, but you don't want to accept that when these other men walk in and look at him, men automatically see a threat in other men. That's the first thing we see.

That's the first thing we. Describe it though, it makes it sound like to me it's like someone that's over masculine, over like doing that cocky, whatever. Like. He's that's that's. How it? So that is what men, that's being in the world of men. That's what we deal with every single day. As a man, what keeps me from disrespecting another man's home, what keeps all these guys, guys in here at Bay is the constant threat of violence.

That's how men live our lives. As a lady, you don't have to live that way. Wait. Let me just let. Me just OK, wait, hold on. If you got up and slapped me right now, let's be honest. What's the what's the chances? Do you think I'd slap you back? Give me 10%. Twenty percent, 30%. Not what you think is fair, but what are the chances? Zero. OK. If he got up and slapped me right now, what's the chances I'm slap him back? Oh yeah.

A. 100 So So here's the thing real quick, we just answered the truth of it is, and we know this, we feel this constantly. You don't have to. We do. Virtual state of violin 100%. Yes, absolutely. But a different type. Yeah, a different type. So it's not the same. We're talking apples and orange. Let. Me tell you a scenario. So we before it was the day before we left to come here, we had stopped at a store and it was we were leaving the stores

at night time, right. So there's a difference between when I go to the store by myself versus going with him. So we walk out of the store and I'm looking at my phone and like there was some sketchy where where we're from, like it's not a great city at all, but he like I was looking at my phone and he was like, damn, he was I didn't realize he was taught I was in the middle of texting you. Hey, look up. Like got some guys over here. Yeah.

And so, but that's The thing is because when I'm with him, I'm not, it's not that I'm not, I'm always going to be just from living where we live. Like you have to keep your head on the fucking swivel. Like don't matter if he's with me or not. Like that's just the city we live in. Like, but when I when he's with, I told him I was like, it's a whole different story.

If I came to this store at 8:00 at night and those guys like I probably would have been on the phone with him the whole time, like go into my car like I would I'm fit. Women are constantly as she said, and it like it's. Different. Not by. Myself and you're you, you just made my point. So you only took a piece of both. You took a piece of what I said. So now, based upon what you just said, when two of us are in the room, the constant threat of what could happen is what keeps it peaceful.

It's, it's the whole nuclear arms thing. The only reason I'm not going to start fucking with you is because I know you got nukes. I got nukes. That's a constant state of male life. So for you guys, you are in a different state of danger because you have people who perceive you as weaker. So therefore they're going to attack you or may attack you because you're weaker. You and I, two men are assessing each other to determine is it worth it? How much damage am I going to take for that?

So that's the assessment that we live with. So when you're talking about the male mentality in an environment like this, for a guy to walk up and approach a beautiful woman, I'm assessing my threat and I see a lesser threat with an equally beautiful woman or acceptable beautiful and I'm a move in that direction. So my point I. Just got to say something. Oh please. Yeah, jump in. Get in there. Come on. I'm really confused. This is our first time here, right.

So the whole afternoon kind of some topics have come up about how do you approach the wife? How how does how, how to how to or vice versa, how, how do you connect with somebody right. So part of the reason we come here, right, is because I can't take her to a regular bar someplace and it and and hope quote that a guy's going to come up and float or flirt with her. Excuse me, right, I bring her here because we we enjoy that. Hopefully somebody's going to come up and flirt with her.

That flirt doesn't mean that anything's going to happen. It's a conversation, right? But now I'm kind of hearing, OK, I'm the one that needs to to coordinate that right, which is OK. But from the same sense, I think it's just as easy for a single guy to come up to to us and approach me and go, hey, right there, this in the wrong way. But man, you got a beautiful leg right there and I can go, well, thank you. Let me introduce you to Ron.

Exactly. And then that opens it up and if. They want to flirt. They can flirt right? If it gets too handsy or too whatever and he's not polite, then I can step in or she can take care of herself. That's the that's exactly the like, that's how that's how we were expecting guys to come to us and it not like aggressive, like, you know, way, but just like approach us and I'm like, why is it always on the husband? Think about it this way. There's two people.

One knows something and one doesn't. Your husband knows everything. He knows how he should approach. He he might even know what the guys you're attracted to. I don't know shit about you. What I know is tall, good looking muscles. That right there for me is why? Because I was me and Michael see your good friends, me and Damien will get on a three-way call and talk for hours, right? I was not, I was undecided until I was like, oh wait a minute, I know as a husband because I'm stabbed.

I know my wife is like if you ain't playing with her, you doing some really fucked up shit because she'll grab your ass. But a lot of guys still don't know. So I know they don't. That's why it is. Now, as far as addressing you, you don't have to be obvious. You don't have to be running around. Hey man, this is my wife. Fucker please please fucker please. That's how it felt. That's how it felt. You. Can have a little bit more open stance. You can put a smile on your face.

You can say, hey, how's it going, Sir? When he walks by, there's thing the husband can do because I don't know, I go to you. You're very beautiful. This guy, I don't know if they're stag and vixen couple. And plus, when I found out interracial, a lot of other the interracial couples that I've seen at Fort Lauderdale, for example, the dude was like almost had his wife in a headlock and I was like, I'm not approaching that couple. Why? Can I interject?

All right, I want to say what happened last night? So you talk about looking approachable, saying like, hey, yeah, she's down, like whatever. So last night I we were, you know, mingling in the play area. One of the guys introduced us to another guy. And I am. So I think also I must be giving mixed signals or something because I don't know, I asked the guy. I was like, oh, OK, so for me to even go, it's not necessarily my thing to just be out there fucking in the play areas.

But if I've built up because I'm an extrovert introvert, and if I've built up like had a few drinks, like I want to try this out. And so I was going to do the wife watching room. So the guy, I asked him beforehand, I said, hey, do you, because a lot of the guys, you know, well, it's kind of I guess mixed. Some people play in the playroom, some don't, don't bother me either way. And so I asked him on the front and I said, hey, do you play in the in the wife watching?

He's like, Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. I said, OK, cool. So I'm about to go around the corner and I'm going to get on a mattress. And he was like, OK, cool. So we go over there. I'm literally like legs open, like rubbing on my pussy. He's sitting right there and we have these, all these guys like come like once. It's on either side of you. I'm being very accommodating. Accommodating So he is doing exactly like hey, she's hey, no threat here, right? I'm opening myself up, I'm

looking open. I'm telling guys like you can fuck her like she's here to get fucked on this mattress. Nobody is fucking coming on the mattress. Hold on. So I literally stripped down butt ass naked. I was like, maybe if I get on all fours and so I'm all fours, I'm like what the fuck? And so no one literally and like. No, see, I was there. I know I walked. By SO can I tell you what I'm thinking?

Hold on, fuss. So then I I knew there was a guy that was leaving today and he we've been messaging. So I was like, what the fuck? And I'm like looking at him, he was like, we're both. So I immediately got in my head, yeah, like I was on like I was about to be done for splash like done. Fuck this. Like I've done the opposite. He did the opposite of what y'all are talking about, which is being open literally telling guys, hey, you can fuck her. Like she's on this mattress.

Like come on, like here it is putting it on a platter for you and still no fucking attention. And so I was like, something's wrong with me, like something is wrong. And so we went up to the room, guy came by the room. He was like, wait, what the fuck? And everyone, everyone we've told is like no one came up. Before we left, though, the guy that I had, he had told me he had played in the playroom or the wife watching room. And I said, yeah, dude, you told me you put I literally.

And he was like, oh shit. I thought it was like a performative art thing. Like he's like just watching. I'm like, I'm just sitting here running on my clit like. This is what I thought. So body language he'll talk to you about. So here's what you did, brother. I'm telling you, he's like this. Because he's just, he likes looking at my pussy. So I thought I walked by. I was like. God. Damn it, but I thought she was. Performative and she's just doing this stuff for him until I walked by.

I'm going to tell you another situation where I did play. So I was in a club in Colette, same situation, but the husband was like this. He sat next to the thing and he said right, right. She laid down, did exactly what you did. I laid down. We had a great time. It was beautiful. The difference is if you like this brother. You know it sucks. You know how many couples come in? But he never play. But he, like you said, is the insecurity of the. I just want to show y'all what I got.

And it sucks. He likes looking at my pussy so he's just his intrigued so. Can I Can I? Can I explain something? To you guys, so I'm explaining this. The stuff that I'm saying is 100% based upon experience. You know how bad it feels for your wife to come home and cry because she feels unattractive like that Breaks my heart. I've I've I've been through watching her cry and feel unattractive and what's wrong with me? And we went through so much for

so many different years. And unfortunately when I say it's your responsibility, you as one man to another. Nobody's job is to please my wife but my own. And I will do whatever it takes to make sure she leaves her happy. My ego is not bigger than my wife's pleasure period. Like we like it got to the point where when we play with other couples, I I would never pull my Dick out first. I would never start fucking till

she was already fucking. This is this is multiple times of her being upset multiple times with some guy wanting to play with her. And then we start and I start playing with his wife. Then I just said, fuck it, I'm going to let you play by yourself. She like threesomes. We invite a guy over. I come down the room, he's rock hard. I'll pull my Dick out start playing with her. Now he's soft and limp. Now he goes home. She comes upstairs. Daddy was wrong with me.

That's that's the. That's terrible to me. So when I say it's your responsibility, you don't have to understand it, but he understands. He understands. At the end of this week, I want my wife to go home satiated and happy. So I will do whatever it takes. I will go through whatever I will. Yeah, she won't be satiated, but that that's kind of where where I say like, I remember, like you listen to the podcast we've talked about.

I can remember her going on a date and the guy coming in like 30 seconds and she getting in the car and calling me breaking into tears. So now it's what am I doing wrong? And I, and I'm a man, I understand this. So my mentality is this. Right now my wife can float all around Mocha because over the last couple years I have made sure I've shaken as many hands as I can. I've talked to many people as I can. I laughed and joked with as many

people as I can. I have like, I have a thing where I will go up to a guy and just say hey, just to let you know, the wife finds you attractive. So when you see us together later, feel free to come over all of a sudden, yeah, all of a sudden doing. That last? Night. Well, no, no, I get it. And still no one would fuck me now how many you know how many years? Because I was. Still in the dungeon?

Yeah, but so for me, there was many years and lots of tears and lots of trial and error to where now I have learned where we go to a new place. You have some guys like we'll get lucky, but we'll get guys like him or you or who walk up and just start talking to me and talking to my wife. But the one thing you will notice, even if a guy comes and talk to your wife, he keeps doing this to you. You. Know what that is? That's the constant threat right there.

OK, I'm going to speak to her and look, is it OK? Speak to her and look, is it OK? Speak to her and look, is it OK? That's what we do. So my advice over the time, like there's no question that you're an attractive woman. There's no question. And you've actually got a good personality, you know, once you get past all the prickly knife poking, you know, you know, I got a couple scabs. But I'm good, you know? Yeah, you. See mine, I'm in the same situation, but that's what I was

saying. I know that the delivery, Oh my God, listen, my my boys keep me humble. They don't let me get away with shit. I mean, but so, so I think over time and once people get to know you and you start to really get into the circle, that'll all go away. You know, once they know, like, oh, yeah, he's cool. And like he said, because him and I've had this conversation, you don't realize that I'm just as nervous about rejection as you are.

Like I look at these attractive women here and I am not guaranteed to be successful. She has a whole plethora of guys. So for me, I'm nervous, I'm concerned. I want to make sure that I am pressed and I'm not guaranteed. So there's a lot of stress in me coming up to you. And you're saying to yourself, why the fuck? Why won't they come up to me? And I'm saying to myself, man, man, I hope the guy like the husband gives me like a sign. Just just. But what happens when they are giving?

You. What happens when they are directly saying hey you can go fuck her, still don't? Listen, we're going to bring, I told you, we're going to bring you some better guys. I knew I will say this. It raised itself. I'm out, so I will say. This. I apologize, I am selected on who I'm like, I'm not just saying like, hey, it's a fucking buffet, like come on, I'm open. You know, I am selective. I will say that. And so it has.

I think that's where he's because he's like, I don't know who you're feeling or who you're not. So I've had to learn that and myself and take that lesson and say, OK, because he if it were up to him and I let him have full reign of like, Hey, you make the calls. He would have a fucking guys like coming out our door, like

our room, just a revolving door. It would be he'd be like, yes, go take it. But the thing for me, so like I I've done a few content things where I've gone by myself and like just shot content and he stayed at the house and you know, he's like just come back to me, blah, blah, blah. Like that's a huge turn on for for me. I don't like it that much. I don't like playing without him watching because for me the turn on like is when I'm fucking someone and I'm seeing how turned on he is.

It's my people pleasing nature. It just like it makes me even more excited and like I really want to get into cuz I see how turned on he is and that makes me like I guess a slight performative thing. I don't know it, but it's to me doesn't feel performative because it's like a safety thing where it's like, oh, I feel like I'm going to lose myself in this fuck session right now because I see how turned on he is and that makes me even more turned on. I don't necessarily like I've

done it a few times like going. He would somebody that we're very close. With yeah, like he's like, hey, if I know the dude, like I'm totally cool with you going, meeting him at a hotel, fucking coming back. And that's just not it for me. Like I'm not really. In at home with that tingly feeling in your stomach he loves. It. We were talking about yesterday about, you know, it feels like a roller coaster. Yeah, bro. I mean it's. Yeah, that's what I like about.

It you get to, you get to swim in a different level of emotions when your wife is off playing or going there and once you embrace them and misses Mocha, you guys are your, your story is very similar. And there's this we, we went through, we we've gone through a lot. We've been through a lot. And with my wife, like I'm a very logical person, which sometimes maker wants to punch

me in the face. So like with her, I'll say, OK, honey, if we go to a place and there are 125 men there, there's only about 30 that you want to fuck, OK? And not a 30 that you want to fuck, OK? When you're in the mood for me to watch, only about half of those guys going to be comfortable when you're watching, when you in the mood for me to join, OK, Only 1/4 of those guys. Now those guys that you tend to want are going to be the the top tier guys that everybody wants.

So now you're in a situation where like for you, if you're saying, man, the guys that I want aren't available, No, the guys that you want aren't available because you're attracted to a guy like that. OK, You're attracted to a guy who's used to getting what he wants for the most part. So that means all the guys that you're attracted to are going to

be more like him. So that means that you have to understand what you're trying to get and what you're attracted to and then realize that in this environment, because the environment makes a big difference and the timing was. A good thing this morning. That was a good point. Timing and environment. In this environment, as attractive as you are, No, I'm stop calling you attractive. Well, not you. Her, Her, her, her, her.

Attractive as she is. You know and attractive as the ladies are here, you have to understand this there's. A lot of beautiful females. Here I, I, if I come to you being the kind of person I am, I'm going to come to you humbly when I want to play with you because I feel like what I'm asking for and what I'm offering are of equal value. I am not going to downplay your value because I know that I'm only attracted to a small percentage of ladies here.

And that means everybody's going to be attracted to them. And when it comes to that, if I come to you and say, hey, I would really like to play with you, I am nervous. And if you give me a bunch of Flack now outside the people like the like, if I know you like all everybody who I know they're smart asses, they're going to like, it's always bantering. But if I just met you and you make me feel like I need to worship you to play with you, go fuck yourself. Not you, not. You. But.

I thought. You were bow down to the. Superior penis I shall lay like penis on upon the table. She kicked me in the nuts. If I tried that, I'm not going to do that. I noticed a movie this conversation first started. It was a it was it was opposite on the on the base side. But as y'all got to talking I realized that y'all both said the same thing. You know what I'm saying? You said your own daughter feels protective because of her because y'all pit bull because

it's so fucking big. I'm scared of animals like all of them so but. When the. Daughter is scared of bulls too. Score everything when your daughter's with the dog, there's No Fear factor and that's OK. But you said the exact same thing because when you was in the hood and you went to the store and if you wasn't with him, you're going to be on the phone with him because you understand that hey, my protector is not here. But when he was there, you walking around, bumping into

walls, you. Know. What? I'm saying because. You know, so it goes back to my SO, then it goes back to this, but y'all both agreeing and y'all always disagree and y'all still agree but it goes back to this. When I see you, could you keep a smile on your face and you're fucking beautiful. I would have sex with you. Every last compliment she gets. No more. You had enough. Look at her head. I can't even move. Get your head off me. I would do something bad to you everyday in front of him.

The problem is this is. Your. This is your protector like he's his wife protector. So at the end of the day, no matter what guy, I don't care if they they could be Brock Lester, they're still going to take the time to say is it OK with you? Now his problem is he has a it doesn't matter face. He's just like. Yeah, who? Who wants that face? Staring at him when you're trying to get hurt, you're trying to get an erection and this guy's over he.

Looks like he's going to beat you with a. Guitar not going to work if you do the whole thing. You might get hit with. A. Flute upside the head. You know how you want to I've. Been looking at this. But that's but that's us that you, you're going to have a small percentage of guys here who are going to be comfortable walking up to him, having a conversation, talking to her. And then even her personality, her personality is similar to my wife's personality.

No, I like strong personalities. I'll talk to you for a few seconds. I've talked to you. I mean, even the blushing shy when there, I've heard her when she engages, she knows what's on her mind. I'm attracted to that. So the problem is not the problem. The beauty is. I understand that you reduce the playing field for yourself because you don't want a weak guy. You're not going to be turned on by a weak guy. You would have been turned off by me. No, I can't do wet blanket. Yeah.

If you don't have a backbone, if you can't talk shit and banter with me like. She came and attacked me and she was trying to see if I would back that shit up when she saw me in person. She was waiting for, oh, she was red. She was. She hit me. You, the military, this is. A question to you, all right, so you've been doing this right. This is you missed the mocha for a reason. You did, so you've been doing. It's been.

Nice to me. My father like this is this is what I've been going through since I've been here. A couple will say, hey, are you available at 2:00? I'll say yes. Then another couple will say, hey, are you available at 2:00? And I'll say yes. And then the third couple will say, hey, are you available at 2:00? And I'll be like, yes. And you make you give us all the bad God damn name. Lock that shit off. You had a guy.

You guys. You guys your Dick doing the scheduling, but that's my Dick wrote you in here and it wrote you in there. I've had that with a guy that has like he wanted to meet me in 2022 and this whole like he was like, I'm never going to meet you, blah, blah. And I'm like, dude, I literally am in your face right here right now and you're with another couple. I'm not going to like just be an asshole and come up to you and be like, when I sit here with a couple and you're going to go do

your thing. I would never try to step on somebody's, you know, that has something lined up, but he's like what He's like, I guess we're just over going to and I'm like, dude, that's on you. I've told you, I'm here, I am available and then your your ghost for you know, and then it's like 30 minutes, an hour later and then I've already got something lined up. Now I will say we have ourselves more so him thinking with your Dick, he'll double book.

He'll be like, Yep, she's down. Yep, Yep, come on. And then he's like, oh fuck, double book. Like. But that's the other thing is a lot of guys we've met so far this this, this time around are not like with having other guys join like they want just a single like just them, just. The first time, just the first time. Some guys you know. No some. No, so, so to answer your question, I would say this, there are, there are a lot of people here and you're going to want to play with a lot of

people. I I am very careful to not schedule a time. I know there are people who I would like to play with, but timing is always off. Like if if you just finish, if she just finished playing, she may want time to to rest, rehydrate, you know, definitely take a shower for playing with me because I don't want, you know, but but often times while you're playing, she's not. And then like I said, you know, we only got so many bullets in the gun. OK. You know, they have renewable resources.

You know, we don't, you know, they cannot fuck us any day of the week. Like that's not a competition we should try to engage in, you know, and then you you have to choose. Do I want to be the guy who shows up to a woman who I really want to play with? And I'm trying to push limp Dick in her. And now the worst thing is this. It's not even about your ego. Now you have this poor woman walking around questioning herself. Now she's thinking, is it me? It's the young. Ones that I have had.

Horrible. Luck with because I'm like putting in some fucking. Work like. They that you're attractive, they want to have sex with you, their Dick is dead, but in their mind they're like. Maybe you need to give the old. College try and then they go in there and it don't work so they're. Getting a forever, I mean. I don't, but I'll. Look over at him and I'm like. Don't do that shit to my. Wife, I see that face. I'm like. Yeah, I've been putting some work in here.

It's always the older the older guys are like it seems like they seem more self aware of their limits like what you just described. Because I'm an older guy. Like you know the old saying you got 2 bulls, the young bull and the big bull the and then the young bull run down the hill to try to try to get get some but then the big boys. Walk down and fuck them off. Walk down. Because. You're going to wet yourself out

trying to run. And then also the question is like, we all have a different motivation here. Like we one of the fellows and I talked, there's a lady who we both seen we both want to play with and she's only a group sex person. That's not me. I I have AI can't fuck with ATV on like I'll be fucking and I'll hear something on the nature channel. Like what that bird dive did you go to? Mouth Dick's gone. Dick is gone.

I was enjoying the flogging but like I having ADHD like that's why I was like I want to be blindfolded so I could like really like get into the sensory play and I was enjoying flogging was awesome but I couldn't fully like engrossed myself in the experience because I hear his loud ass laughing like just hanging. I'm just like. Yeah, come back tonight. He'll get you some. He'll get you some ear for ear. Plugs or headphones, not the. Same way I can't like and so I'm.

Fucking I don't. Care what it is, if something off the topic be heard, I'm like. Wait, what? Was that. And then with me, with my This is where my arrogance comes in. But my arrogance is this. If I'm not the best person she's ever had sex with, that's fine, but I'm damn sure you're not going to be the worst. OK, who? Are. You talking? About. We still have negotiation. To go into you and I, you've hurt my feelings. I want to wrestle. Oh, this is going. To be. Fun.

I've got back problems on this. I'm not wrestling you. So, so if your motivation is to, to, to take care of her and do a good job, because like I said, we're going to go back to how I feel about my wife. He will tell you the first time he played with my wife, I came, gave him a hug, slapped him up, was like, hey, man, I'm a little worried at first, a little worried, but you came through. She came out happy because my wife is, she cannot lie with her face.

She's a bad liar. She came out she's like now we friends. That's what that's that's what I want everybody to experience when I touch them and I know that I'm not going to be able to do that if I fuck too many times. There's women who I want to play with this mocha, but it's not going to happen because if the bullet if the guns out of bullets, I'm not going to go in there and push, push rope. You know, I'm very particular

about myself. I tell people if I give you my number and we decide to play, you need to give me 20 minutes. I'm going to go shower. I'm not bringing. I'm not bringing, you know, used balls to your room or you know, extra salty. I have a whole procedure. My wife is the same way. My wife is not going to. My wife is going to clean herself up when she goes in. She knows me personally. Don't make me look bad because I'm not going to make you look bad if you not up for fucking.

Don't go in there and fuck that man. Go in and blow his mind. If you have that mentality, you're not going to double book, you're not going to double schedule. You're not going to over fuck yourself because otherwise what's the point. And believe you me, if you get my wife some lame Dick she going to tell her friends. It's game. Yeah, I'm bad. She going to tell no see but now but see after years that's her version of.

Telling because if he give out some good, some supreme pain, she's like Oh my. God the Dick was so good he hit me the head with twice. What if they had like a bad day that day or you know, whatever. Like you always get like one time. If you give me one time a bad day, that's cool. We can still try again. You couldn't say that about me. I always give people a show because there may be a day that Mister Mochas went in and had some fine ass chick and he comes out and he's like, I'm having a

malfunction. I'm mad at him. I'm like, what the fuck you're representing? Us. And I'll tell her, I'll tell her I'm not going to sit there with a limp Dick for 20 minutes. I'm going to say, hey, I'm sorry, you know, I'm not functioning at the moment. You know, if if I feel better later and you're willing to give me another chance, please do.

If not, I understand. I'm not about to sit there because we've been there where some guy sitting there trying to push rope for 20 minutes like and now she was she giving me the side. I like, get him off me and I'm like, all right. Buddy, that's some awkward shit.

Oh yeah. But maybe that's something when you guys have these, I mean, I'm, I'm, I don't know what y'all talk about when you guys have the, the single guy like meeting that needs to like, I get the communication because we've also talked about this, which is the thing about I told him this. I said the thing I find like and funny about the lifestyles you get on any podcast and what is the number one topic lifestyle people talk about all day long

and they preach this shit. Communication, communication, but communication, talking about it and practicing it is two different things. And single guys, couples, whatever your dynamic is, it's very interesting because this couple or this single guy might be like you and be very self aware, know his limits, feel comfortable expressing, hey, I can't give you what I want to. I am interested in you. This is nothing against you. Like hit me up tomorrow,

whatever. Or this couple might be, you know, great communicators and then they get with someone that's like trying to push that. You know, I just find it interesting that all these lifestyle podcasts and people have been in the lifestyle for years and years and years. They talk about it, but what we've witnessed is in practice, they'll be preaching about it, but actually practicing it. You see the like miscommunications.

You see the little things if you're an observant person, but with the single guys to that point is them being more like telling them hey, especially the younger ones, if it's not happening, you need to like you need to be the one to say hey right now is not the time, blah blah blah. Like because I feel like they don't they can't read the room. Someone in the chat said that they were like, I just think in general in society people have a hard time reading the fucking room. That's true.

That being said, though, you, you're putting a broad spectrum into one situation. You know what I'm saying to? I'm not saying the single guys or the young guys, but your, your, your comment is based off of a situation. Because I promise you, Mr. Mocha or myself, if we can't, I'm just going to be like, hey, you know I can't do it, right? Now, but we. Would appreciate. That we would appreciate. That we are. A small. Percentage We are a. Small percentage. But she's speaking on a small

percentage. No, no, she no, she believe it or not, in my opinion, she's speaking on a large percentage and to the communication point. No one wants to take responsibility for communication, OK. That's why in my opinion, it's the husband's job, because it's my job to make sure my wife is happy. My wife come here and get Dick. It ain't none of your job to please my wife. You are going to give her some pleasure but it's my job to make sure she's good and my

household. Everything is my responsibility from the dishes to the God damn feeding and education of the kids. How I was delegated is one thing but her pleasure is my job and I will do whatever it takes. So that being said, that's why I say I put it on the husband. Me and Michael see the basis all the time because if my wife come in here and she leaves unhappy, you know who she mad at? You know who suffer? She say I ain't mad at you daddy, but I got to look at her face.

He laughing because he know right Dick. You know when she come home and she upset because somebody gave her some lame Dick, you know who suffered this guy. So now what I do is I make sure when we go to the clubs, you know, I have my my little things that I do. There's certain guys when I read the guy, there's certain guys. I got to step back, you know, just like with you. Like when you came in, I was joking with you, messing with you about that. I know I can joke with you.

We've been poking each other randomly the whole time. I know I can do that. My job is to learn to read the guys. That's what I do. I learn to read the couples because I would much rather have no sex here and let her fuck everybody she wants to then her go home with that disappointed look in her face so nobody wants to take. And you're right, communication is the worst thing within a lifestyle because everybody wants someone else to be responsible for communicating.

I don't need nobody to communicate with my Dick. Where'd he go? Because it goes back to what you just said, goes back to what he just said. Because there's some people that you can talk to and you don't. You don't know because I know me. You know her, she knows you, but I'm that third. But I don't know y'all. Yeah, and it's two against one. It's two of y'all. It's. One of me. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say and or how to say it.

So if you beat me down in the lobby and you say hey, let's go to our room and fuck now my eagle going to say hell yeah, we're going to go upstairs. Then my Dick don't get up. I don't know how to leave the room. I'm like, well damn. So something motherfucker, eventually it's going to do something. I mean. Maybe. It might not get all the way to Harvard. We're going to get you something, you know what I'm

saying? So with that, it's like going back to what he says, it's hard for the guy who goes, who's the outcast to interact and entertain and even say anything because what you going to say? You know, it's like, my bad Sir, my bad, ma'am. I don't want to say that. But it's just as uncomfortable for the female to speak up if she can't or she's not feeling it. Like there's been times I've been playing with guys and I'm like, I don't know if he took something because he's going

really hard. He's going really long and I can't take it. I don't know how to speak up in that situation. Well, that's easy for you to say in perspective. God's like that, though. God's like one female step out. They be like, oh, she's got that well. But females don't necessarily know that, and not everybody's the same way. So it's kind of like we all have to get to the point where we can be in that uncomfortable space and speak up because at the end of the day, we all are uncomfortable.

You know what I do? I actually say that I'm going to pee and then take a few deep breaths. I usually do pee. I could pee anytime of the day. And then like I just go back in the room. Like OK Ari, like can we take a break? Like maybe we can come back to it later. Especially if I've sucked the Dick or something till my face freaking hurts because that's happened a few times because I like a challenge. So that's cool. I'll sit here and suck it for 30 minutes.

Hopefully it gets hard, but that's your time limit when you hit 29 minute, one more minute and then we're going to be done. But I try not to make it awkward for anybody. I just say like maybe we can do this later, like or don't say anything at all and start putting my clothes back on like no big deal. I mean it's going to be I feel like it's going to be awkward either way when that happens because the guys, most guys get embarrassed.

I'm not embarrassed for you because I've been married to Mr. Mocha for a long time and that motherfucker has a finicky penis. If there's too many things going on in his peripherals, it goes down. If he's in like, great, he won't do like group play, He won't do whatever. Something could smell weirder in the room and he'll be like, oh, I couldn't do it because there, because there somebody had wings in their room and I couldn't stand the smell of the wings while I was getting my Dick

sucked. I'm like, you're focused on the wrong thing, but that's OK. I could fuck in a room full of people. As long as you know, nobody's touching my asshole, I'm good. But I mean, there are ways around it, and it's not for that in particular for me. It's never comfortable. It's not. There's not a comfortable way to just say like, sorry dude, your Dick's not working. We don't have to get our Dicks to work. So I try to, I don't have a Dick, so I don't have to get that to work.

So I just take it with, well, I don't have to do that function. So I mean, the guy may be in his head. There's been plenty of times I'm just having sex and I get in my head, you know? Yeah, my pussy dries out. Maybe I don't know, but I can just put Lube on it doesn't matter. I I don't have to have a functioning part, you know, So you. Suck my Dick for 30 minutes, I'm going to sleep. That's what Mr. Mocha does. It's OK. So say I need you to either fuck me or suck my Dick till I fall

asleep. OK? No problem. No problem. Look, man. Look at me. But no. Going back to the way beginning when it first started, you are you look amazing. Thank you. I seen you last night once again, you like you. Are. So you are intimidating and then it's like my thing is being new to Splash. I don't know who knows who. So some people come just for their people, you know what I'm saying? And that's in my mind like, well, they might be here for the people they're talking to.

So when I seen y'all last night, you all, you were smiling, but you were standing. There like security guard. I really don't want to be here, right So. Security guard. OK, I'm going to let. Them enjoy their people who they're talking to already have. People. We're going to fix that, right?

No. But that with that too, though, when they talk in the single guide meeting, like one of the guys that one of the meetings I was actually in, they say don't approach the couple, like let the girl kind of look at you and then you know then so you would have to. I mean, I just look at a guy like steak. If I want to have sex with them. I'm not and I apologize about it later because I probably like super pervy, But I mean, no, I can't help it. That's the.

Thing is like I can come off as very extrovert but like truly in my like inner core I'm an introvert. So like, I think that I can give off mixed signals, like where I'm like, Oh yeah, I'm down. But like, I'm waiting for the guy to be like, you know, hey. You just ask because here they want, they want like that's what they told the guys to let the

couples ask you. So there may be some guys here that have been to several, several mochas and they will say like, are you playing, Would you like to play, blah, blah, blah. But for the most part, I I have to advocate for myself, you know, I have to say, can I play with your Dick leader after the podcast? Maybe. And usually like, you know, but not even in that way. But you know what I mean? Like I mean. You you can. I want to. That was the plan. I told you after the podcast.

Sorry, we're all subject. But you know, that being said, like I understand your perspective, you guys's perspective too, Yeah. I think that for me, it's like in my single days, I am old fashioned in the sense of like, I never pursue men. Like I was used to having guys pursue me. Like, so coming into life into this situation where it's typically like you just said, the women are like, hey, if I do attractive, I want to fuck you,

blah, blah, blah. Like that's awkward for me because I'm a natural introvert where I'm like, yeah, I might see someone I want to fuck. I'm like, oh, I want to, you know, see if that vibe is there, but like it almost I'm like to me last night, how I felt it was, I felt like I was like having to beg for Dick, like literally opening myself up, like come fuck me like and nobody would. Back to what her husband just said though. That's when you communicate with him.

You communicate with him. Because they do also tell them in the meetings that the guys you need to talk to the husband first. And that was the problem was he was telling guys, hey, you can go fuck her. And they still weren't coming. Like that's what they thought it was some performative piece. And that's why I was like, OK, I get that. It's now OK. It's on him to like tell the guys like, yes, you can go fuck her. She's she's open. She's here on this mattress, right?

But. You shouldn't have to. You shouldn't have to approach the guys. He did that. Yeah, yeah, he did that. He did that and still nobody can just. Do a helicopter, do a helicopter, put your Dick in her mouth. And then people will start coming over. They'll be like, OK, that's just another dude that's not even her husband. And then you can just stop calling them. Here you go. She's good to go. You just need. A few minutes with this mania and. I got you, you just got to tell

me you want to fuck. Good at giving references then. You'll get annoyed because everybody will think that you're their best friend because she's everybody's best friend. So her friends generally are like, oh, you want to smoke? Like hey. Put y'all a royalty in this motherfucker. There's no such thing. There's no such thing. Yeah. The reason I say there's no such thing is because we started coming here because we wanted to go to a place where we didn't know people and we're both outgoing.

Being outgoing. I realized that for me to say hi to every guy and talk to every guy and make him comfortable with me opens him up to just not seeing me as a threat. My first 15-16 years in the lifestyle, I had to tone myself down because I got into a lifestyle where being a black guy in a lot of the circles I was in, I had to realize that I was intimidating husbands and things like that. So for a lot of years, I made sure I tone myself down, tone

myself down, tone myself down. I'm aware of who I am. I'm aware of my presence. I'm not confused about it. Sometimes I forget and I need a reminder, but I'm weird. I'm usually there to help you out. I'm. Like Daddy? You're talking to people. That's why I pinned it on you, because you have the personality and energy. You should be the fucking mayor. And and when I say you should be the mayor, it's why not. You're in this lifestyle.

But for that only, like he said, that does actually help her because then they're like, Oh no, somebody says, oh, this guy's intimidating. They're like, Oh no, he's not temptating. He's cool as shit.

You know, just being nice to this girl because I have people that don't want to fuck me. When they found out that I'm married to him, that's why we walk around separately, but don't tell him that I'm OK. No, no, no. But once people started talking to him because they I had a few guys like, Oh no, I'm not fucking you. Like I got to go talk to your dude and I'm like, no, you don't. I was so confused. I'm like, I don't. It's not wack. We we survive. We survive life by identifying

patterns. That's how we survive. If you walk into a situation where 80% of the guys who look like you with a wife, like her behave this way, I mean, if 80% of the time your parachute wasn't going to open up, you wouldn't jump out the fucking plane. For these guys, it's the same sensation of walking up and getting denied. We know what denial feels like. It's it don't feel good. So that being said, that's why I it's experience. It's experience saying dude, for

for you, it's a compliment. It's a compliment that you're intimidating. And then on top of that, once you make guys comfortable for them, they feel good knowing that, knowing that you know you're a cool guy and she's going to have a better experience. When the guys like you and they're comfortable with you, that's that's huge. When they like you and they're comfortable, you like these guys who know me. You have certain husbands who get weird if you fuck his wife

too good. I shit you not, that's a huge percentage. Huge percentage of guys get upset if you fuck his wife too good. I. Even if they encourage their wife. Even because I I've seen husbands cry. I had a husband threaten me recently OK it. Was good times. But he wouldn't. He initially said that though. There's a huge percentage of guys in their mind, they've been with this woman X amount of time and they brought her here

sexually. You come in and they're like, yeah, I want you to. I want you to do get her there. I want you to do this. In their mind, you can only bring her here. In their mind, they know her limit. They push this car as. Fast as it can go. You bring it here and now they're like, who the. Fuck is she and. What you do and now they're upset with you. So now. That's happened to a friend of ours. Yeah. The husband was like, yeah, that's true. I didn't think about that. Yeah, they're not.

Of course, because you guys, I always see the couple, you're actually the hunters. There's two of you, one of me. Once you start understanding the prey that you're stalking, you're going to be more successful at it. You know what I'm saying? So that that's where with me, I know I've come across rough. And to her point from the very beginning, I should explain myself better instead of just whacking her over the head because I wasn't. Talking. But wait, did you know her?

No. So that was why he doesn't explain things to people that he doesn't care about or no, when he meets you, that's a true statement. He's first of all, you do that to her children. OK, You RIP the Band-Aid real quick. He's the he's the he's the boss's house. OK, but he and it's not it's I don't think, because I know him and the intent is never mean. He's just super fucking direct.

I told guys here, if you want to have sex with me, you have to say I want to have sex with you at five O 1 and 30 seconds PM because I live with this motherfucker. And that's the only way I'm going to know. If you're just like, hey, you know, whatever. I'm going to be like, oh, hey, how are you? Because I'm a little bitchy sometimes. I'm not always the brightest crown in the box. I'm like, OK. And then he's like, baby, that guy wanted to play with you. I'm like, oh, did he?

He didn't say anything. Yeah. So is it That's what when I had to become more direct. He'll be like he just needs to smile. That's it. But you're still controls an illusion. As he always says. You're the person in control. You're the pussy. Pussy has power. He's just here as a let me explain the Pitbull, OK? I call it at home. Releasing the Pitbull. That is because I can take care of myself. He knows that I completely do. Just like you said, I go places by myself.

I was home with all of our children for years by myself without him. If I what we call release the pit bull, that means it's really bad and somebody's done something really, really mean. Really, really bad. So that's what he meant by like the pit bull. He is, like you said, gentle Giant. You know that cowboy doesn't know that. You know Dick doesn't know that he doesn't know that you know that I know that he's not a Dick. If everyone else in the world thinks he's a Dick, I'm OK.

With that, she's not afraid. Right, exactly. But that's what I was saying, like gentler what releasing the pit bull for us is. I've had enough of the doctor's office. OK, you can come with me next time and talk to them because clearly I don't speak English. So I I say this. I I say she. Went to. A doctor's appointment. So I say this like, look, I'm crazy, right?

Like I, I, I, I'm crazy, but if, but if, but I can still talk to you logically and like, you know, I can receive what you're trying to tell me if you're not hearing me and you're still like trying to argue or whatever the situation is. If it gets to a point where I'm fed and I'm done, I'm like, hey, handle this. That's because I'm, I always tell people I'm like, I'm crazy if you think I'm crazy.

Like if it gets to that point where someone is like crossing a line, if he has to step in, like, I'm sorry dude. But. But he's very like, he's sharp with it, yeah. But he just said wait, wait, wait, wait. He just said he was going to be real cool with it. So Mr. Mocha is definitely super cool with it, but he looks like he's about to kill. Like that face that you're making right now, He looks like about to kill someone. So you don't have to say shit

with your words. You're saying shit with your face. That nurse is going to put the IV in the correct vein with you sitting there. A guy came in and gave me an IV one time. I was fucking sweating. Mr. Moko is just sitting there chilling, doing nothing. His whole hand was shaking. He didn't say or do anything. He was just chilling you. Talked. About actually, what I said was, listen, her veins are fragile. Are you experienced in this?

If you're not, please get somebody else because she's already terrified of needles and I don't like seeing. Her no, I was no we were past the terrified of Needles Park and. Then right there right there was enough to put fear into any MD who's trying to find your van. They've. Been building for 10 years, not my but but you know that pain you experience when somebody like to see her, that nervous look in her face, it it hurts

like it makes. I'm not an anxious person, but when I see her in any sort of discomfort, it makes me anxious on the inside. I can't take any of this pain. It's like your kids and your wife. I wish I could take it the last two years if I could have taken that pain. So for me, I'm OK humbling myself, communicating whatever it may be, doing the research,

figuring out the science. And that's the only responsibility that I challenge husbands with, like make sure she's happy, make sure and whatever it may be, because I don't need her to humble herself. I will do that. Now there's times when I like her first mocha. She's in there walking through there's you know, this is Dick heavy, right? I just don't know which Dick to choose. And usually we go to parties. There's two dudes that she can fuck. There's 100 here.

She's like daddy that's just in the hey, come to the room to room to room. I don't know what to take. They're dudes. No, no, no. Let's start from the beginning. What'd you actually do When we got in the room, baby, what the fuck? And I was like, what the fuck? What? There's a whole bunch of Dicks. Just pick one and just do it. And I'm like, but I don't know who to pick. Like I've never done this before. But here was the problem. We'd only been to couples

parties before that. Couples you have to talk to for five hours sometimes. Sometimes you get lucky and they're down to fuck just like you, and they just want to go to the room. But it's usually like the smooshing. The people want to socialize, they want to dance a little bit. And then, you know, maybe at 3:00 AM play. So the concept of coming to a party and me walking up the cowboy and saying like, hey, I want to play with you. And him playing with me was alien, right? Fucking alien.

So when he comes, we get to the room, he yells at me. He never raises his voice. His tone changes. If it goes low, we're good. If it goes high, we're in trouble. The red light if we're, if we're, if there's a higher option. But I'm not. Yelling. Yeah, So we call it yelling. So he yells at me in the room. I cry a little bit. I was being a sense of a bitch. It was overwhelming. I get overwhelmed quickly. I do too. So I get in the room, I cry a

little bit, dry up my tears. He's like, who do you want to fuck? And I was like the tall guy. I want to fuck the tall guy. I said stay right here. I walk over. I was. Excuse me. Thank you. All right. You see the lady staying up there? Right here? That's my wife. No pressure. She finds you very attractive. Would you like to play with her? Yeah. And then she comes down like. And after that it was just like, OK, this is like, but the first party, he was like my emotional sport human.

I normally now we don't have to be together because I we know enough people that it's not, I'm not scared to be alone. But that party too, he was definitely like my advocate, just hey, like my wife finds you attractive. And like they did say, I don't normally agree with like the whole machismo like alpha, like like women worship their men type thing. I'm waking being a little bratty, a little bratty maybe for later.

But I mean he really does what I the way I look perspective for me is that what I can't do he can. I can put that on him. So even when he's a Dick head and I just say, well, I'm sorry, he's being a Dick head. Had I known he was mean to you, I wouldn't have apologized in the beginning because we didn't know each other. And I've been like, she just, she just might be some troller from Twitter. We don't know.

But now we meet each other in person and I'm like, Oh my God, you were so mean to her and now I'm mad at you. She's. Automatically. On your. Side, there's no question. Yeah, but you? Do to her. Overall, you can as your as your person if you feel, especially if you're as cute as you are and you feel like a bunch of people are not talking to you, girl walk around with me.

But I also feel like the vibe was different last night because there were a few people that said like it, that I think maybe people got here earlier in the week too, and people were kind of tired yesterday. We heard that people go balls the wall like Thursday night or like maybe Wednesday, like we got in Thursday morning. But I wanted to bring up what you said about the medical part of it.

Like I had to have a hysterectomy and like the guy that was Wheeling me from the OR to the room, like I was like he was bumping into everything. Like I was coming up out of anesthesia. So by the time we got up to the room, he was there and he as soon as he made eye contact, I looked at him and I just had like, like starting to cry.

And this nerd, if I wouldn't have been fucked, I would have fucked her up because she goes, she went crying until she saw you because he saw the look in my face because he immediately his reaction is what's wrong? What happened? Like I was like, they're fucking bumping me. And I'm like feeling all of that. And it was like that look of like, that's my safe space. So when I made eye contact, like getting wheeled into that room and he saw my face and he was like, what happened?

Like that was just like, he was immediately like on high alert. So I wholeheartedly like can relate to that. And then that part of being who I am, it relates to every single thing. My kids the. Same. I come home. And the kids had her pissed off the first thing I asked. Did I do something wrong? Did I do something to offend? You did I do something to offend you? That's always my question. And then she told me it's the

kids. I'm like, thank God these people because it's not me, you know what I'm saying? And then and and so that's how we are the kids. Everybody knows because she's going to get she won't take it out on those people. She'll take it out on me. I'm the one not going to get in the pussy And like you know what I'm saying? You piss her off, I come home. Now I'm sitting. There with a dry Dick. So I go out there and attack these people, let the kids have

it, and I'm like. FY he's never spanked our kids in the entirety of our our relationship. OK, He has not had to. His tone changes. The tone change. But but it, it goes everywhere. It goes everywhere from and, and it's, it's, it's equal. It's I protect her from myself. You know, my wife is very, very sharp, but she doesn't carry the awareness that I carry. That's not that's not her. Again, not the brightest crown in the box. I am all over the place. It's. The mocha bit smoker.

I apologize, I got the pee pee. Not having to ask. We just don't want you pissed in the. Cup in front, it's not that kind of part. Bro it was nice. You ain't you ain't doing nothing, man. Why do you fuck? Did you just? Stand up. See, I'm trying to tell you. If y'all ain't doing nothing, If y'all ain't doing nothing, when y'all ain't doing nothing. Holla at your boy. Are you going to? Be. Honest, I'm going to be whatever you need me to be and I promise you I tried.

I tried to get you last night and it's intimidating her. Mr. Morgan said it personally and said it out loud. I feel like that was a lie. You're lying to her right now because I saw you fucking somebody in the wife watching her room because I came in to check out. Your penis. How about when I tried to? When I tried to talk to? I was like wait, how big is his Dick is That is like a medium size.

I could probably do that. When I tried to talk to him as a couple, it was just like, I walked up. I was just like, OK, they're not into this shit and I'm. Wearing. Here, if we weren't into this right, we are into a lot of people. There's a lot of couples here that's here right now. There's are like I was. Paying the money to come to.

This that makes zero sense to me because you're looking for another couple and y'all just want to have fun with the female and I'll be like OK I understand that. You know, I'm saying because some couples just want other couples. But this then go to another naughty Nolan's or some other like a lifestyle where like couples are the focus. To me it's like this is a hot wife event, right? So the focus is the wife getting fucked. Like that's the fact.

Like I get that there's couples and there's all different type of dynamics, but like to me it's splash mocha. It is catered to wipes. When people hear splash Mocha, they're like, Oh yeah, I want to go. Or it's just like, if you want to go to Belize, you know what I'm saying? The name, the name is Self Hose. Wait, so when people, so when couples come to Splash Mocha, there's couples that just come to splash Mocha just because they got the money and they don't care, they want to come as

bad smoker. And they can say they've been here. They can say, you know it was. A flat smoker. We did that. We met a couple couple of couples. And they and they maybe it's maybe their first step as well into especially with the interracial part of it that this is some areas it's hard to find that. They're in room. I never thought of it. So they. Come and then kind of test the waters. How do I feel when a black man

is talking to my wife? You know, and so, and you got to understand from a black male perspective, not that I, I am one, but I'm married to one as well. And that can be into. I don't know exactly who really is here that is going to be approachable or that I can approach, or if they're here to kind of use my energy for their own sexual stuff. Not actually my body and who I am, but just the threat of possibly fucking as well.

Wives. That are just coming to abuse the husbands because the husbands really want them to go to splash. And we met a couple and they say they both want to be here. But she's also like, how much more do I have to walk around tonight? So you never know. That's how I feel when I'm the end cowboy. Like how much longer do I have to walk around, wait for her? Bed for us because I don't even know what's going on, but do what y'all do. Y'all a couple and y'all met a couple.

You see what I'm saying? So it's easy for a couple to talk to a couple in real life. Oh, when we first met, my wife was near. My wife only stopped because she saw him. She didn't know what was going. On. She saw him stop and it was like. I did not mean to be like. We. Just shook hands for a long. Time. Yeah, we. Did it was a really long like it was like the Will Ferrell like step brothers at the end like. Yeah, you started. To apologize, I was like, I didn't even see what's because I

was. Too busy going on. My. Own girl. I got you. I got you. Y'all got it. Hey, the rest of y'all, the rest of y'all vacation. Don't be all outstanding, I'm telling you. Yeah. OK. I can't hear Mr. Mogram. I appreciate you coming in. Yes, Sir. Yes, Sir. All right, Mr. Mocha, you got to end. It we're going to wrap it up. I appreciate you guys coming in and listening and hanging out with us. Wife, can you hump his leg in the back of the room? I'm like a regular.

Person, I apologize my. We thought this was the wife watching room. So we'll wrap the episode up. Thank you guys for. Coming in. Thank you for having. Thank. You and this right here, I'll tell you one two things. When you go downstairs to hang out, do not hang out on the perimeter. The perimeter was the worst place to be. Be in the middle, in the mix. Yeah, the perimeter. The perimeter. People hang out on the perimeter. Who are watching, who aren't approachable or who are nervous?

And so for you, if you're in the middle also, what happens is you tend to be in earshot of conversations and people who want to talk to you can have an excuse to speak to you or an excuse to interact. A lot of times, you know, you'll hear a joke and then you can kind of kind of gently move in there. But if you're on the outskirts, you're far away from everything and people.

So it's it's the small things, you know, body language, obviously this right here, which is something that I'm a terrible, terrible that no, I've had I've had fighters tell me like, dude, you look like you're about to attack somebody. Like just got my hands. Arms are comfortable like that. Yeah, they are. Sometimes I like to put them on my dudes like I'm cold. So I just hold. Your titties. But besides that, if you, if you do those small things and then like this right here, you're

open right now. You're not usually this old. If you take this energy out there, you're going to make friends. You're going to have people in your face. They're going to want to talk, they want to play with you. You will get to that point where you're just like, OK, there's too much Dick coming back. And you better not complain, yeah? We just say maybe you're swimming to see a Dick.

So until next time, thank you for joining us and thank you for coming on to correct me and my poor behavior and we will see you back soon. Give it to you get pulling your head, bring it over to this mid so I can see your legs trip. I got it somewhere easily that you just like a porn me swimming air and when rod on the sea.