Father, Son, You - Part 3

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But pretty excited about the father , son and you , and I think we're getting close to ending this series . I'm hoping that you're getting a lot out of this so far , so we'll jump into this . So thank you for being patient . Hopefully you're gaining something valuable from this . I know I am . So what is a son ? As the same definition with the father ?

It is very positional , positional in a household , as the offspring of a mother and father . Even in some definitions in the dictionary , they regarded it as the product of a country or a product of the environment or a product of influence . So think about that . That can be used in different terms . Definition that you can find .

Also , is the son of my people a male descendant , a representative of the family or the family line , the lineage , a deeper definition kind of goes into the identity of the family , which is very deep if you think about it .

Generally , sons follow their father in their vocations and in many instances , in most instances , especially outside of the modern world , and even in ancient times , historically , the son was the carrier of the responsibility . They were the carrier on of the legacy .

If your father was working in construction or he was the first doctor and college graduate in his family , guess what , son , what do you say ? You want to be A football player ? Yeah , I don't think so . Dad wants you to be a doctor and the next one to graduate from college . It's kind of been expected throughout history .

It's kind of been expected Throughout history . It's been the norm For the son To follow in the footsteps of his father , to see his father as the ultimate role , model and example , and the son is supposed to be a duplication of that , an offspring of that , a reproduction of whatever the father was .

In many ways , especially in the places where I've grown up , when the son's a reproduction of the father , it's usually not a good thing . If the father was a raging drunk , the son didn't have much hope . The son would have followed in those footsteps .

Didn't even much hope , excuse me , the son would have followed those footsteps , didn't even want to do that , but somehow they would quote unquote inherit the behavior . We know now that there's such a thing as generational curses , and it gets a lot deeper than that and we can get into that at a different time .

I'm pretty sure we'll be discussing that on an upcoming His and Hers episode . But the son's supposed to reproduce their father's efforts or at least carry on the legacy of what the father has done . Sonship also means to be a servant . There's several examples of that in scripture that you can point to to see what it means .

I mean , one pointed example is what's supposed to happen in the realms of organized ministry when someone comes to the church and they stay long enough , whatever that means , whatever that number of years is , I don't know the answer to that .

If they stay long enough , whatever that means , whatever that number of years is , I don't know the answer to that If they stay long enough , what they're supposed to do is walk in the pastor's footsteps . Excuse me , they're supposed to walk in the pastor's footsteps , learn the lays of the land , the lay of the land .

They understand how the church works , what the church's vision is , what the global components are and what they're trying to accomplish in the community , in the neighborhood , what their responsibility is to their family , first and raising a family without any places where the ministry or the family can be embarrassed , just raising an upright household , clean living , et

cetera , et cetera . And then at some point they will be given the opportunity to walk in the Father's footsteps , in this case the pastor or spiritual leader's footsteps , and begin to start doing what they've been doing Up to now .

They may have been just doing certain tasks , they may have just been administrating or being support staff within the confines of the organization , and at some point in time they are elevated to a place where they begin to serve on a grander stage , perhaps on a platform , in preaching and ministering of some sort .

Maybe , perhaps they're doing more evangelism work you name it et cetera , et cetera . You fill in the blanks , but sonship is supposed to be a component of servanthood .

A component of servanthood Now , when I shared last time about Luke 15 and the prodigal son , what I was trying to get you to understand was that just because the son that was the young , impetuous one that wanted to leave , just because he asked for all of his inheritance , didn't mean he should have gotten it just because he asked for it .

His father gave it to him for reasons that , scripturally , we don't totally understand . It could have been because of his great love for his son that he wanted him to have what he desired and he wanted the best for him , even though he knew it probably wouldn't turn out very well . But he gave him the opportunity to learn and to grow in some areas .

Perhaps that's why I'm not really sure Scripture's not really clear on that but Luke 15 talks about the prodigal son and the parable therein , and what's happened there is that the son had an expectation , because he was a son , that he should have certain things . I am not advocating that .

I'm not saying that if you're the son or you're in a sonship arena in your organization of any sort , that you have a right or you deserve to get anything . I'm not saying that there are times where the son that lives inside your household , your seed , or it can be your grandson . They may see crackers and demand crackers . Even though it's time for dinner .

They demand candy even though it's time for dinner . They want a fruit snack when they already had four packs already today and they demand to get whatever it is they want and they will scream and cry .

You seen them at Walmart in the middle of the aisle , laid out back up feet in the air , screaming at the top of their lungs , because they want that thing on that shelf that their mother or father said they can't have . So they wigged out . That's the wrong example of sonship . That's what sonship should not look like .

Sonship is not demanding what you think you're owed . I've seen it many times and I don't want to get into a lot of the deep examples and specifics , but I will just share a few things here . There were times I've seen people who were in a scenario that I just laid out for you a little while ago Gone to the church for a long period of time .

They served . They cleaned toilets , vacuumed floors , cut grass , repainted stuff . They did all the things that they were asked to do . I can't tell you what their heart was when they were doing it . Only judge about what they were saying .

But they did a whole bunch of stuff and there was a time that came where they felt like they were owed the opportunity to preach from the podium . They were owed the opportunity to have a name plaque with their name on it and a position and a door with their name on the front of the door in gold plate .

They feel like they was owed them because They've been there so long and they did all these things . They feel like they were owed some kind of right . That's not true . And now there's a child screaming for the cracker . They're not owed a cracker . They're not owed a thing from on that shelf . They're not owed an opportunity to preach from the platform .

That's earned and it's given . It's not . And it's given . It's not taken . It's given . You're going to give your child a fifth bag of fruit snacks . That's your right as a parent . But the son should never think that they owe that . Or if they scream and cry or complain loud enough , they should get it .

Some examples of sonship where servanthood was at its best . I'll share some of those Joshua and Moses . Moses was the leader . Joshua didn't look for any kind of authority , but he was faithful , so he was given authority . Joseph and Potiphar .

Potiphar's wife went back crazy and accused Joseph of attempted rape , but all Joseph did was serve Potiphar with his whole heart . No complaints , honor and integrity from top to bottom . David and Saul . Saul wanted to kill David . David said Saul is my father . I had three chances to kill him . I'm not going to do it because he is anointed of God .

God called him and God is the judge between him and I . So even though he's trying to kill me and do all he can to take me out , I respect and love him as my father and I won't do him any harm . Elijah and Elijah . Elisha wanted a double portion of the anointing that he saw in Elijah . He didn't demand

it . He asked , though Elijah said it's a hard thing for me to give you that . If you see me when I'm taken up , you get your request . Sonship and servanthood go hand in hand . If your heart's not right , it doesn't matter . I read that same story in Luke 15 in the prodigal son .

The other son that didn't run away from home stayed there and served his father the entire time , but we've seen it play out in the account that his attitude was worse than the son that left home . How can that be ? He was at the house serving , doing all the things his father wanted him to do .

He still had the worst attitude because he had an expectation that I'm doing all these things to get something . He had an end game in mind . I'm going to do everything that I'm supposed to these things to get something . He had an end game in mind . I'm going to do everything that I'm supposed to do until my time comes , until I get what I want .

Sonship and servanthood should go hand in hand . Sonship is the relationship through which God makes promises and covenants to the heirs . That's when he passes on covenantal promises Through sonship , through your willingness to be humble and serve . That's where it's at Now .

If you want to think about a son as being Someone who has a father and a mother , that's fine , but it goes a lot deeper than that . I'm talking to you about your service , your humility , your willingness to be a servant . I'm talking to you about your service , your humility , your willingness to be a servant .

I'm talking to you about being a carrier of a great responsibility . At the end of the day , that's what being a son is really all about . Check out Galatians 4 , 6 to 7 . It's really incredible Love for you guys to check this out right quick . But it says because you are his sons .

God sent the spirit of his son into our hearts , the spirit who calls out our father . So you are no longer a slave but god's child . And since you are his child , god has made you also an heir . Now check this out now , because this is important . See , there's a big difference between a son and a slave .

You got to understand that because the mentality is one that well both mentality we can see in the world around us . I , just being honest , I grew up in an area that had a , that most people had a slave mentality . I'm not saying everybody , but I grew up in an area where there was a slave mentality .

I live geographically right now in a location where there is a slave mentality at work . What do I mean by that ? What I mean by that is that a slave expects to be given something or think that if they work for it , they can achieve it . That's going to bother some folks who believe in hard work . But don't get me wrong , that's not what I'm talking about .

I'm not talking about trying to work for something so you can have something . But in the case of what we're talking about in the entire context for this episode in this series . That mentality can't work . I'm going to explain why in a minute . Like I said , a slave expects to be given something .

A lot of people in our world around us have their hands out expecting to be given something , not because of the work that they've done or because they've earned anything , but because they feel like it's not fair for them not to have it . So they deserve it . Because they don't think it's fair . Nobody told them they deserve it .

They feel as though they deserve it because they think they should have it . It's not much different than a child in the Walmart aisle screaming I deserve that thing on that shelf , I deserve that bear , I deserve that fruit snack . So because I deserve it , in my mind I should be given it . A son understands that what the father has is also theirs .

That's a lot different than the slave . Example correct If they're a member of the house , what the father has they have . Every benefit and luxury the father has , the son has because the son is a member of the house . I'm talking about connection more than I am attachment .

The son understands that , as a member of the house , every benefit the father has they have also . The slave doesn't think that the slave is hoping to get any scrap . They can get any little boost they can get . If it's 10 cents , they'll take it . If it's a quarter , they'll take it because they don't think they're going to get anything else .

They're not sure , they don't have the assurance that they're going to be taken care of . If you understand slavery and the background of all that stuff , you get why that makes sense . It's historically wrong . We already get that part . We should already know that by now . We don't .

We might be living in the idiot kingdom if we don't get that by now , but we should be able to hopefully understand that . But the mentality is still present . Right , the mindset is still present . As a matter of fact , I take it even one step further . Even beyond a slave mindset , there's an orphan mentality .

People are walking around with what I call an orphan spirit . They don't recognize that they have a father . They don't recognize that they are loved and taken care of and they are important to the household at large , theoretically speaking here . So they think that they the household at large , theoretically speaking here .

So they think that they're on their own and they have to beg , borrow and steal to get scraps just to survive . They're in survival mode Best way I can put that . Have you guys heard the story of Little Orphan Annie ? I know that we watched it when we were kids and we might even laugh , but we thought it was cute .

But some of that story is messed up , man . See , when the part that we're not talking about is when the father leaves in this case daddy warbucks . When he leaves and he goes back to the orphanage . See , he's a rich businessman , but he was never called a father . He was called a benefactor . He took care of a young girl whose parents had died .

He gave people money on the situation to try to solve a problem that required more than just his finances . Hopefully no fathers out here are hearing that and are guilty of that . Trying to put money where parenthood and fatherhood needs to be , not trying to buy things that only love can provide .

Trying to fill holes with finances and gifts that only unconditional love can fix . I hope that's not what's happening out here , but that's what happened in this story . He tried to put money on a situation that required a father . See , annie wasn't in need of new clothes as much as she was in need of a father .

Daddy Warbucks could have provided that opportunity Initially . He did not . But as the story went on , I believe that he eventually came to the realization that he was a father . He was willing to be more than just Daddy Warbucks , but he was willing to be Annie's father and that was more of a blessing to her than anything that he could have done .

In the idea of sonship , what I want you to get also is that in sonship , especially in the Bible , there are a lot of themes in there . Sonship in the Bible is kind of like entering into the father's business or the family business and eventually inheriting it . Now , I'm not trying to lose you guys .

I don't want you to think about business and e-commerce and entrepreneurship . I don't stay away from that for a minute . We're not talking about that . I'm talking about the father's business . What is the father's business ? Excuse me , I know that your father's business might've been construction or accounting or HR or cybersecurity .

Maybe being in the military was your father's business . Maybe technology was your father's business . Maybe farming was your father's business and the family business . But I'm asking you , what is the father's business ? Not your father , but the father . What is the father's business ? Now , in my humble opinion , it breaks down to this . To keep it short .

We're going to close our episode out for today , but I want to kind of just share some things to cement what we've been talking about . The father's business is to in short , there's a lot more to it for the children to represent the father and carry his rules and his standards and establish kingdom and take territory .

It gets deeper than that , but that's the gist of it . That's the father's business To bring light where there's darkness , to take territory that's his and it belongs to him anyway . Just recapturing and taking possession of what's already supposed to be his anyways . The father's business is to be salt and light to a people that don't even know he exists .

You're supposed to be a representative , an ambassador for him , a spokesperson for him . That's the father's business , a spokesperson for him . That's the father's business . Not construction and accounting , not technology , not human resources , not government administration , but that's the father's business .

Now think , until all these sons are here and these fathers are here , in my humble opinion , you can't spend your whole life trying to be a good son and a good father in your household . Honestly , if you do the business , the father's business , you get the power . If you do the thing , you'll get the thing if you do the thing , you'll get the thing .

If you do the thing , you'll get the thing . Matthew 6 and 33 , and I love this , I want to share it real quick . But Matthew 6 and 33 says seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you . We're talking about priorities here . There's levels to this stuff . We're talking about priorities .

What are these things ? He's talking about ? All the things that God knows you need , all the things that people who don't know who he is cry out for , daily needs , daily provisions , issues that you need to have resolved , with things with opportunities , with stuff with finances . God knows . All that stuff is there .

He's saying seek me first and you have all these things me first and you have all these things .

I'm telling you right now whether you're a father or a son , focus on the father before trying to be the best father you can be , or the father that people in your household expect you to be , or the world tries to pigeonhole you and say that you are with all the definitions that we saw earlier in earlier episodes .

Focus on the Father and you'll be a fantastic Father because you're modeling the best example one could ever have . I hope this was a blessing . I hope this series ministered to you . It would be more in sonship because it's big on my heart and my priority list . So I'll be talking about this a lot more . A lot more episodes coming your way on this .

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