John Edward: Stop Trying to “Move On” After Loss (Use THIS Daily Practice to Make Peace Without the Answers)

first question to you is what do most people come to you searching for? What are they seeking when they come to you.

to fix their grief. So that's what they think that they're coming for like they're going to be healed, They're going to be fixed, and I think truth be told, it's going to actually set them on a path of discovery.

get fixed and healed when they realize that's not the process, And how many people continue to actually say, no, I'm going to commit to this next phase.

I need to hear this, they need to say this, I need to know this, and then that kind of reflects back to them. Then I'll be okay, And they may not hear that. They may not hear from the person that they want to hear from, or they may hear from multiple people. So there's always a level of

expectation management. And I think disappointment that comes into a reading is that I always want people to be like, hey, if you're not ready for this, don't go, like, process your grief in a different way, because you can't make someone come through, and you cannot make them say the things that you want them to say.

help a usuage some of that to say, no, I'm okay. Now, let's work on you, like I'm okay, let's work on what my passing has now done. What are the obstacles in the blockages that are coming?

your approach to meeting a skeptic who right now is going that is just not true, that's not possible.

if I didn't know about it. So I'm an analytical person and I was like, okay, I need to understand what this is. How did she do this? And this woman told me that I had this ability and that in that first reading that I had with her, she said, you're going to change the way millions of people look at this subject matter. I was fifteen years old. You know. When I jokingly say, it's like she could have said, I parked my spaceship in the backyard and I'll take

you for a spin when we're done, right. It was like analogous to that. The reality is that sent me out a journey and I became a seeker. And I think that when we were seekers, that leads to exploration. And my exploration took me to the public library where I read every book back in nineteen eighty five on the Occult, and I was insatiable with information and my discovery, which raised my awareness was this is common sense, like everybody has this. This isn't psychic, this is just basic,

like you know, we all do this. So I started asking questions. Was I would ask my high schoo friends. Haven't you ever seen your deck grandfather? The answer was no. I said, you've never had an apparition? The answer was no. Have you ever had dreams I came through? The answer was no. So I started to recognize that maybe my understanding of myself at that time I needed to reframe certain things. Then I went into the active development part.

But before that, I was the person who was debunking the people that came to my grandmother's house to do readings. So I get it. But there is a difference between skepticism and cynicism. Skepticism says I'm not sure, show me. Cynicism says I'm sure. No matter what you show me, I'm not going to believe you. And I think that you can't give somebody a belief system. And I'm down with people being skeptical. The only part that I think is not cool is when somebody defines a person's personal

motivations because they don't know me. So, you know, I've had every possible scenario, you know, scammer, fraud, con grift, or you name it. They kind of like fall off me. Now forty years of doing this, you're kind of like it is what it is. But the reality is, I've put myself through positions of being studied and tested. I've read for people in positions I've made sure that when I read, I'm giving information, not philosophy. So I just

want people to come on that journey. You know, many years ago, there was a woman who sent me a letter and I hope I get this correctly. She was an insurance fraud investigator and she kind of took it on herself, like I don't like him, I'm gonna like, I'm gonna use my skill set and I'm gonna follow

him around. And so she came to different events. But before she did that, she went to the Skeptical Society meetings and she was armed with what the things to look for, and so she was looking for, you know, reading body language, verbal intonation cues, and most importantly, she wanted to see if the same people were being read in different cities that they were like you know, actors

that were connected. When all was said and done, she wrote me this amazing letter and she said, Wow, I'm more concerned about the negative committation that people are putting out about what you're doing then the reality that you are just doing what you're doing. And I'm still friends with her, like twenty five years later, right, and I remember, like I got that letter and I just called her up and I was like, a name is Marsha. I

was like Marcia and she's like who is this. I'm like it's Jrawn Edward and she's like, oh, I said, I just wanted to personally say thank you for the letter because she did her due diligence. She came, she watched, she saw, and I think that when people do that with legitimate mediums, I think they will think differently because it's basically showing them that there's a process that's happening here. That is not to say that there aren't a ton

of other people that are out there. Go on TikTok, you'll see them right, go on Instagram and YouTube and they're there. I see them. I blocked them constantly. Skepticism is helpful, so I want everybody to have that, but be objectively skeptical. Don't be judgmental and skeptical.

he was going to study this. He wanted to study us, you know, Harvard Yale guy right, And I would sink, like, how do I not do that? Like one, I have a science mind, Like I like data, So I'm like, how do I not do this? And then a colleague of mine was invited. Her name is Susanne Northwrop, and I was like, Susanna, are you doing this? And She's like, how do we not do this? She's like and you know, her joke was, how do we not sit in the seat? You know, how do you not put yourself in the seat.

So it was myself and gaym in, Susanne Northrop, George Anderson, and Lri Campbell. We were like five people that were you know, laborats basically, and what they were doing is they were looking at EEGs EKGs and they the first testing that we did, which was on the documentary, they put the woman that we read and they kind of looked at the data that came through. And then in science, when you do additional testing, as you know that they

have to replicate and extend data points. So we did that and they introduced something called the silence sitter experiment. And then the third time we did that, there was another layer that they added in and then he compiled all that data and it ruled out that body language, verbalignations, like all of the things that the quote unquote cynics would say we're doing, they were able to establish no, we're not. And here's the data. That book was written.

It's called the air Flife Experiments. And I foolishly thought, like when the studies came out and when the book got published, I was like, Okay, we're going to take this work to the next level now like people are going to go like, okay, there's like science. Oh no, they attacked the scientists. Now the scientist was crazy. And it was that moment where I recognized it doesn't matter, right, twenty percent of the population, you're going to believe. Twenty

percent of the population, I'm not going to believe. And some people fall you know, somewhere within that range. So that's why I came to the place of be skeptical, question everything, so they're not taking advantage by people who are claiming to do this and can't make sure you're getting information and validation evidence that that person is talking to your relative and they're not just giving you philosophy. And I travel around the world, I do events constantly.

The first part of my events are always to establish that because I want to protect people from like, you know, anybody who walks in front of a crowd of people and says, who here connects with a butterfly? Well, guess what, somebody's going to connect with a butterfly? Right, Every afterlife book has a butterfly on it because it's the quintessential transformation.

So I try to do the debunking of my own field while raising the bar and kind of trying to put out there what I think people should be looking for. In my professional opinion.

people raise their hand. And then I go through cardinals and hummingbirds and dragonflies and finding pennies, dimes and quarters, and then I go through feathers, and then I talk about seeing eleven eleven and then other iteration of numbers. By the time I'm done, ninety percent of the room has raised their hand, and I'm like, all of that's off the table. I'm not going to bring it up.

When we make connections today, we're going to go deeper and you may have to think about something that's not on your top ten list of what you want to hear. But as long as it's the fact in a validation, then it sudden you know that it's them coming through. A lot of times, it's really trivial stuff. By the way, conversations has just happened, things that you know they did

when nobody else was around. But it supports that there is a survival of consciousness and that our loved ones and friends are still part of what we're doing.

look like, because I almost want to have a conversation that helps people understand what the process looks like and feels like. And I was talking to my producer, I know how to call with you before we book this and everything. So she was saying to me that when you were on zoom with her, you asked her if you could read her quickly or whatever the right language. Is that accurate? And she said, you asked her a question like who's Chris, And Chris happens to be her ex boyfriend.

You know, it should be like cloudy seating cloudy, hearing, cloudy, cloudy feeling. And then in this kind of like downloaded vibe, I'm basically telling you what it is that I'm seeing, hearing, feeling, And.

thoughts that are happening. So maybe somebody's asking me a question, and while she's asked me the question, it's like Chris, I'm like, can I ask you? Like, who's Chris? And in the case of a reading, it's just a lot of that, and then I put myself on the zone of receiving and my style of reading actually changed from the University of Arizona Studies because the second time we went out there, they said we're going to do something called the silent sitter experience, and I'm like, okay, great,

what does that mean? And they said, you're going to sit there, they're going to put the person behind you, and for the first ten minutes of the reading, they're not going to talk. And I about had collitis in that moment, and I went, what do you mean they're not going to talk? And they said, we want to see if you can get information without the person having

to say anything to you. And I remember thinking, I don't think I can do that, Like I think I need them to validate like what's coming through So like an athlete goes into training for a competition months leading up to that. All my clients when they would come to me, i'd be like, hey, listen, I have to go through this like science testing. Can you not talk for the first ten minutes? Can you try not to say anything? And they would be like okay. And I

recognized that I was already doing it. I just didn't know that I was doing it because I would stop people from trying to say something because if they gave me a bias, it might take me in the wrong direction. I'm also like by habit, and I have to stop myself from doing an interviews, like, while I'm talking to somebody, I will drift over to a blank wall because what I do is I focus on a blank wall to

see what I'm seeing in my mind's eye. So when I did my TV show Crossing Over, I didn't design this, but they came up to me and they showed me the sets. And the original set of Crossing Over had these big white sales all around the room, and I thought, why did you guys put those there? And they because, oh, we thought that it looked great, and you know, these amorphous shapes, and I'm like, perfect, That's where I would focus. So I didn't look at the clients. So that's how

information comes through. I see it, I hear it, and I feel it.

probably be better numerologists, tower readers, astrologers. But because they saw popularity with the word medium, they were like, oh, psychic medium, but they're flipping cards psych psychic medium, but I'm doing astrology. It's like, no, do what you do. And I come out of a health care background, so for me, it's like you have different specialties, right, So you have your doctors, you have your general practitioners, and then you have surgeons.

So a medium is like a specialty of being a psychic. I think every person that does whatever metaphysical practice that they're doing is tapping it to their intuition, and it gives them a framework, a boundary, something to work within. So I think everybody can do that. My goal is to get people to look at life through an energetic

lens and not to think that they need the medium. Right, if you could raise your awareness to a point of paying attention to your intuition, then when you're making decisions, you're making decisions based upon not fear but you're making decisions based on a feeling of this is good for me or this is not good for me. And I think if most people just sit and just sit with what's happening around them, they're going to go, Wow, this feels not good. Maybe this is not a good person

for me to be around. But then we talk ourselves out of that. No, but I've known them forever and they're you know, and our families knew each other and blah blah. But meanwhile, you're the one who's keeping the relationship going. That person's not doing anything for them. So I think if people sit with what they're feeling and they're true to what they're feeling, they can make better informed decisions. So I would want people to look at life through an energetic pair of classes.

that over a zoom call. I'm sharing all of this because this happened in real time and you know it's not at an event, and just for people to get context of you doing this over someone that I know on my team, and I was thinking, wow, like you know, it's it's pretty amazing to be even to be able to do it across zoom. How does that work?

a group healing maybe over Facebook or whatever. And I was talking to my kids and I'm like, you know, it's kind of like interesting. I was like, I would think that as a healer, you would have to like be next to the persons like to heal them. And I see my kids look at me like I'm like what, and they're just like they'd like to kind of turn the ahead of me, and they're like, do you need to be next to the person in order to connect

with them? And I had that moment of like, oh, that should have been my answer, right, but look at me. I do what I do. And I still questioned, like the process of something, why because I didn't understand it. But once I put it in the frame of reference of oh I get it now, I get it. Okay, there it.

that people actually come into and I wanted to share those examples just because I felt that they were like you said, but they were just so real to me. Someone that I know someone who's producing the show who isn't coming to you for a particular need, and for them to still have that experience was pretty powerful. How can people watch out for anyone who's misleading them, taking their money, taking advantage of them. What are the things to look out for?

They may be intuitive in psychic, but they're calling themselves a medium when they're not, and they then blame the person in spirit for not coming through, Like they'll say something like, your dad's not evolved enough in spirit, he needs more prayers. No he doesn't. That person just couldn't make the connection. So like, I will never blame my lack of connection on the person who's passed. I'll just say I'm sorry I can't make the connection, which means

it's a me thing. I was live on a Larry King night, like you know, doing readings, and there was somebody had called up and I got nothing, like absolutely nothing on this one person. And I said, I'm so sorry, I can't make the connection with you. And we go to commercial and Larry looked at me and he's like, he's like, I might believe you more now. I went, you believe me more now because I couldn't do the reading. He said, because you could have said anything. I go, no,

I couldn't. I said, I had nothing. So because I had nothing, I could not say anything. So I think we have to look at being careful that people are not just giving philosophy. And that's what they went for me, Like when someone pontificates in a reading, and I always watch it when somebody will not kind of feel like they're getting information, but then they get something right hypothetically and then there's a story that's built around it. Right. So if you know that the person's past, right, if

it's a mother, it's a dad, it's whatever. There's personality traits, there's relationship dynamics that you may want to hear. Your mom wants you to know that she loves you and she's standing with you, and it's it's swirly and it's flowery and it's ornate.

the flowers right their thorny. So I don't like when people give philosophy as information. I don't like when people, you know, go for the low hanging fruit. Who here has the butterfly connection? Like all of those types of things.

I think you need to be careful about things like that if they're asking you for any type of like questions Like I was watching something online one day and the person said, in order for me to make the connection with you, I need you to tell me the relationship of the person who's passed the name of the person who's passed, the date that the person's passed, and how they passed, and I got levitated out of my chair.

I was like, then, what are you doing? Right? So, if I'm doing a radio show, if I'm doing a call in, I might say to the person, Hey, how can I help you? Do you have a question, and they may say I'd like to try to connect my dad that's it. And then I'm going to say, Okay, I may not get your dad, but pay attention to everything that's coming through. And then I feel like my job is to interview who's coming through, who are you, how did you pass? When did you pass? Any pertinent dates?

And then ultimately I'm looking for the why now right, So at the intersection of you, me and the universe, Why now? Why today? And what is that nugget that I have to mind for that I'm going to help them with. That's what I'm looking for in a session, whether I'm in front of people or if I'm going to want on one.

I would, you know, jokingly. I remember one guy, there's a card reader that they had, and after like three people came out, the third or fourth person came out and I went, wait, let me guess you're going to Florida, And the person went, yes, he said, I'm going to Florida. How did you know that, I'm like, because you live in New York. Like New Yorkers go to Florida and Aruba, Like, why is nobody going to Kansas? Right? So the reality was I was that person. So when I say, I

understand SAPs skepticism. But after I had that first reading, I went to de bank Her and I went to de bunk Her because my grandmother came out of the room crying. She made my grandmother upset, and I was like, what did this woman say to you? Very protective of my grandmother, and she said no, she told me that Tony was with me. And then I felt bad because I'm like, Grandma, you were Tony was my grandfather Anthony? I was like, you were introduced as missus esposito. It's

not a big stretch. It's going to be an Anthony or a Tony in your family. No, And to my grandmother's credit, she said, if you don't believe that your grandfather, who loved me more than life itself, is still with me, that's like a you problem, not a me problem. And then she said how would she know this? And then she proceeded to tell me things that apparently were true that I did not know having to do with my grandfather. So I didn't leave it there. Here's what I did.

I went to the list of people that were in the room that this woman read before my grandmother to see who could my name is Lydia Clara. Who could Lydia have extrapolated that information from and then given it to the oldest person in the room. None. There was nobody that that woman read before so then my cousin went. My cousin's thirteen years older than I am, but she looked like she was the same age. And she came

out and she was like, oh my god. And I'm like, come on, ro not you too, and she's like you have to go, Like you have to go. She's like, I'll pay for you to go. And I looked at my mother like could I go? And she said you can go, but you better treat her with respect. And I said, oh, I'll treat her with respect. I'm just not gonna help her like the rest of you. So I went in armed with my like attitude, and she said,

can I have your high school ring? And I went sure, I took off my ring, my handed to her, and she went like this did not look at me, and then proceeded to give me information that kind of sound honestly sounded batshit crazy. I mean, she literally said to me, you have highly evolved beings of white and gold light that are ready to work with you, and I'm here to put you on your path. And I remember, like

the way that she said it with such conviction. I'm like, oh, so she's crazy, Like this is like this is crazy. So I was like, okay, and then like part two of the reading made sense, but yet it didn't but it did make sense, so she was two for two. And then the last part was where she just like rocked my world, like flip me upside down, and I was like whoa, Like there's no way that she would

know this. That set me on my path. And then from like nineteen eighty five to nineteen eighty seven, reading just what's happening now, what's coming up for a person? I had no interest in dead people. In nineteen eighty seven, my uncle died. That shifted my perspective. And I always tell people that when you have a perspective shift, that's where lessons come in if you're open. I was open, and it was the first time I saw what grief

does to a family. And then, unfortunately, a year and a half to two years later, my mom was diagnosed with cancer and then my world was just rocked and that was a catalyst for me. That was a huge catalyst, and it changed everything because then then I was the client.

the beginning. Is that okay? And people look at me and go like sure, And then I would do the first part of the reading where whoever was going to come through was going to come through, and then I got into what I thought was the real part, you know, their life, like why they were here and how I can help them. And then I had this one woman where her dad he was just loud, like you just and it was going The session was like fifty sixty percent over and there was no letting up. Papa was

not stopping. And then I looked at the woman. I remember saying, I am so sorry I go, but I can't get into other stuff. I said, your dad's like legitimately like not stopping. And I say this often. It

was the way she touched my hand. She leaned over and she touched my hand and said, it's okay, it's my dad, And I like looked at her I was like, so you're okay spending your entire session with me just talking to your dad who's crossed, and she went yeah, And that was like my first kind of like, oh, I didn't think people really had an interest in that.

too long and they can't move on. Is it because they really feel that because I'm just trying to understand, like what I've lost people, but and this is just who I am, So it's I've just I'm very at peace with the closest people I've lost in my life, and I feel like I still communicate with them, even not in a not in your way or in any direct way of listening. That I'm not a psycho medium at all, or don't believe I have those abilities, but I feel a connection to people in my own way,

So I'm at peace with that. So I guess I'm trying to understand what drives someone and at what point do they really do they value and need what you have to offer.

you believe or know right, and that's important. But I think if we can get people to be fifty percent of the equation. When someone passes and you are legit still communicating with them, you're incorporating them in your lives. Like I love the movie Coco for that purpose. Right, It's like you're not forgetting the person, you're including them. I include my family and friends that have crossed in my daily lives, Like I keep their presence very much

with me because I talk about them. That doesn't mean that I'm in channel with them. I'm not having conversations, but I kind of am. Right, So, like, what really is social media? Right? When you do social media, people are posting their lives out there for the people that follow them to see it. Your photos or your whatever you're doing, you're putting that out there. So you may not send it as a text to someone, but you're

putting it out there for those to watch. We're living our lives and they're watching, so we're like the social media for them. We're like the reality show for them. Actually, but they may or may not like your photo, but

they may come through to you in a dream. They may come through that song on the radio that scent or smell that dragonfly, hummingbird, butterfly, penny, whatever those things are. That is your pattern or real by the way, but I don't think anybody needs a reading. They need an understanding.

could tune into you. Just think key unlocked your energy, and I'll make sure that object is only yours and yours alone, and that it's not related to anybody who's passed, because I don't want to pick up their energy and read the energy and not make the connection. And then the first part of what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna look for where you're at in your life right now,

and I may do that with numerology. I may like look at your personal year and kind of see what what the lesson is because that'll give me a frame framework for you and then passes. So in numerology there's a lot you can do, right, So every letter has a correlation to a number, and there's certain things that you can do numerologically. When I say you can do an entire chart with numbers, your birth name, your birth date.

I have found for me, I like two things. I like a personal's personal year, which is a yearly vibrational pattern that goes from birthday to birthday, and your life path, which is kind of like the number that you are, right, So like I'm a life path nine, which means I'm a life of service. So the life path. You would take your birth date like the number and edit all across, right, So you would take like if seven, do you want to tell you what's what's your birthday?

letting go and loss. Perfect for my field, right because what I do I work with people who are dealing with loss.

be within this window. So I like that. So that'll be the first part of the reading, and then the rest is going to be like who's coming through?

below you just means younger. And then to your side would be a contemporary husband, wife, brothers, sistant, cousin, friend. So instead of going I feel a man's energy, I try a place where I'm feeling it. Where do I think they go? And then I want to know what their relationship is, so I want to feel that. Then I want to know any important dates that are connected, any initials or names that are connected. When they give me names, it's their way of telling me who they are,

who they're with, or somebody who's here. And then it's just anchoring myself. And then I like to validate the validations, so I like to give something else that supports that.

And the reason why I do that is it gives me the opportunity to build up a trust with who's coming through. For when they give me something that the client doesn't understand. So then I know that I've now created some type of control in the environment that any variables that they don't understand I can trust.

But what they don't realize is that sometimes behind the person that they don't want to hear from is the person that they do want to hear from. And in my style, I am a little bit like a dog with a bone. I don't give it up because I feel like my job is to make sure that I

say everything that I'm seeing, hearing, and feeling. Because sometimes the biggest validations happens outside of the reading when they go when they go home, when they talk to their family and they find out, oh, yeah, we did have that, but we didn't talk about it. Nobody talked about that. It happens a lot.

this is for, we'll let them come in. And I looked at her. I was like, there's nobody in my waiting room and she's like, well, there has to be. She's like, because none of this is my family. She's like, so, you know, I get what you do. I'm open. This is not for me. And I was like, it's kind of got to be for you. I said, you're the only one here and she's like, well, it's not like that. And I said, can I see what you do for a living? And she goes me. She's like, I'm a

grief therapist. I was like, okay, and that's all I said, and she just went, oh my god, you just brought through my last five clients. So she had five clients that she saw that day. I brought through the people that her clients were coming to see. And she looked at me and said, what do I do with this? She's like, because they're not coming to me for mediumship. I was like, you are the psychiatrist or the psychologist. I go, You're going to have to figure out how

to do that on your end. I said, but these are the validations I came through. So she wound up working I believe she wound up working that into a

you know, hey, I had this experience. Are you open to the world of energy? Is this something that you have ever considered? And it wasn't to get me clearly clients, because there was no need now the information came through in that way. So I like those moments because those are validations that happen after the fact.

working through. I'm like, I could work with that. That made me feel that made me feel confident. But I'll see her again.

it's like the Internet. It's it's it's a dimension that you can access and you can connect with and you can communicate within too and through.

at me and she said, what's up. I went, I was here before, but I wasn't John like at twelve. I said that, so, you know, get that perplexed look like you haven't left New York. What are he's talking about? And I was like, no, there's something at the end of this block with birds and nuns. And at the end of the block there was like remnants of a building that had a plaque that said, you know, a miracle happened there, and it was next to something that said park at the Palomas. A twelve year old was

like help, like like why do I know this? Like what does that mean? And for three years I really suppressed that until I had that reading. And then when I had that reading, and that sent me down the spiral of studying, somebody talked about reincarnation. You know, your raised Catholic, reincarnation is not an option for you. If your Catholic like that, that is not something that they

discussed in you know, religious CCD. But now here this you know book I'm reading is talking about different philosophies and reincarnation is one of them. And right next to that was something called past life recall, and past life recall would be where you had the exact experience that I did, which was you're in a place that you have never ever been before and you know it and add in the phrase, but I wasn't. John just kind of like was like, oh my god, wow, this I

had that. So I kind of feel like when people do a deep dive into the world of energy or spirituality, they'll have those same awakenings. The important part about it is to keep the ego out of it, because the ego gets in the way of your progress. You need a little bit of it to kind of like go like okay. But soon as soon as the ego self

and this world marry, the lessons stop, and I think we have to continue to be I'm forty years in this year. I'm still a student of the universe. I still want to be better. I'm still evolving into like who I'm supposed to be because I'm still here in this body, which means I'm still learning.

that with you. There's a lot of stuff that's written in the Good Book where it's just ridiculous and preposterous and people argue over it and bad things happen as a result. Right, So for me, it's energetic based. I feel like I'm painting a portrait of energy, and how somebody frames that portrait is their religious upbringing or not. But I see this as being more scientific and energy based, and that's not scary for me. That's educational. So I feel like I lean into the education, I lean into

the empowerment. I lead into helping to enlighten people in there on their path, like I'm wherever I'm meeting them, If I'm meeting them here today for the first time, I'm hoping that this is sparking something in them where they're going like, oh I should I should meditate? Yes, yes, you should meditate. Oh I should learn about you know,

my numerology. Yes, that has nothing to do with me. That has to do with them, Like they multiple books that people can go do. So I feel like part of my job is to raise awareness and teach and wherever I meet that person, helping them on their journey of grief, that's my job.

that's going to be passing. So now we're just going to what wait a month, three months, six months until that person leaves the physical world, and nothing gets said, nothing gets talked about, nothing's communicated, and I think we rob that person, that individual, as well as ourselves. The opportunity is to say the things that maybe you want to hear or need to hear, or need to say, or they need to say. So I think, starting from a place of where does grief really begin, it comes

in with the understanding that something's ending. Right, So you can grieve the ending of high school. You can grieve the ending of college, you can grieve the ending of your job, there's no death in that. You can grieve the ending of a relationship, the ending of a friendship. So grief is grief in various different ways. But when we're talking about not acknowledging that grief that's the problem. So I think we have to start with acknowledging the

grief and then expressing it, not suppressing it. So say the things that you need to say to the people while they're here, and give them the opportunity to say it back. Because so many people sit in front of me with that look of did they know that I love them? I don't know? Did you tell them?

her responsibility. Her whole life she lived with that. So you know, that's a that's an extreme example, but I think there were a lot of people that just need to have the reinforced understanding, right, So I want everybody to do it now, like say the things now so that if you you know, I have a thing with my kids right when they were younger, I would say to them, in case I get abducted by aliens. They would laugh, but then that usually was followed up with

a really heavy conversation. So I couched it in a way that they would participate in it. And you know, I think my son was twelve. We were on a walk and he goes, Daddy, I get the whole psychic thing. He goes, but what age should you become obsessed with alien abduction? And I was like I'm not. And he's like, you kind of are, and I'm like, no, dude, I'm really not, like, why are you saying that? He goes, well, always say in case I get abducted by aliens. That's

so I laughed. I was like, well, I think you're old enough to understand this. I go TuS. I go mean, if I'm no longer existing on this dimension and I'm now existing on a different dimension, I'd want you to know the things that we talked about. He goes, do you mean like in case you died? I went yes. He says, well, that's not funny, I go, not meant to be funny, meant to be a conversation starter. So

for your listeners, your viewers, use that phrase, watch the people's reactions. They'll laugh. But then you you're ice breaking. You're literally kind of setting up the opportunity to have a converse that might be serious.

change afterwards. And I think part of my piece is because I've always lived in a way to say how I feel in the moment and say what I believe and make sure people know how love they are and even if they didn't know how to reciprocate or respond to it in the moment, I was always happy to express how I felt because I just never wanted to feel that way.

big way. And I'll, you know, I'll kind of make a little like joke and be like, wow, look at that, Like all your family right now is going the dog rates more than I do. Right, But here's the thing, what does that dog do to that person? Unconditional love? That pet shows you unconditional love. It's a reciprocal energy. You love it, it loves you. There's nothing that gets in the way of that. So I use it as a teaching tool when it happens, and say, listen, look

at what took place. It's about connection, It's about communication. So I always want people to say the things. You know, if you're leaving the house, I don't care you're in a rush. Let the people that you're leaving know how you feel about them. Just what if you don't come home?

need to be explored. How do you help them and guide them through this already difficult process, but with the emotions that could come back of like yeah, you didn't tell me you loved me, I treated you that way because of X or whatever it may be, Like, how does that work? What does that look like?

someone who's crossed that wasn't that exact relationship dynamic. But oftentimes the person that's coming through is coming through to assuage that feeling of guilt or disappointment or anger to help them. The hard part about that is that as the medium, you kind of feel like you now represent that person, so you could feel that coming back at you.

So I'm not a therapist, and I will say, I don't know if you work with a therapist, but maybe you may want to have a conversation with someone that can help you move through this.

I could read you, but it's not going to help you. And I think it's going to be a waste of your time and money. So how about we save your money and let's just have a chat. And I'll usually spend the time with them anyway, And then I find the astrologer that I think that they're supposed to work with, and I always trust that.

One says love and the other side says grief. And I think throughout our lives we're holding the love side close but when we lose a person, it flips to grief, and I think honoring our grief, honoring our feelings, not ignoring them, gets us back to the other side of that pillow, which is the other side of grief, and that's love. So I think grief teaches us about love and appreciation and communication, and that's the goal.

I feel like grief is highlighting the cracks. We put ourselves back together because we have to, but we're never seen the same way again. How could you you know? My son's middle name is after two boys that have passed, both named Michael, and one of the one of the Boys, The Boy's Man. He was a firefighter in nine to eleven, Michael Kiefer and his when I've read for her, she's

a powerhouse of a lady, powerhouse of a mom. And she told me a story once and she said, somebody asked her how you doing, and she said, well, there

was the me before nine to eleven and there's the me after nine eleven. No greater phrase can be said, because we all have that. There's the U before the event and there's the U after the event. And I think when you recognize that there's a different version of you now and again, that's in every way that you can grieve. By the way, it's not just death right. If you've gone through a divorce, there's the you before

the divorce, there's you after the divorce. If you broke up with a long term friendship, there's the you before that. Do you after that? How how do you navigate life in this new way? Trying to be the old you can't doesn't work.

that's a scary feeling. There was nobody to tell me no, there was nobody to stop me. There was nobody that was going to be like you shouldn't do that, because nobody would probably dare at that time. It's a scary feeling. So in life, when you find yourself in a place of questioning something like I did right, and you could be thirty six doing that, you have a feeling that could be like free falling, and that's a scary place. You know, you don't know if there's a net, You

don't know if somebody's going to catch you. And then with that grief, maybe you stop talking to people and you shut down, or maybe you start drinking, or maybe somebody puts on forty seven pounds, whatever the thing is, So it could be a It could be a scary thing to recognize that life's never going to be the same. Joy is not going to be there, So how do you work through that? You know, having a reading not

going to fix you. Having an understanding about readings can do can help give you an understanding of putting one foot in front of the other knowing that there's a survival of consciousness and that they're still they're still with us.

I knew the beats of the story. I knew how people are going to react to the story. And then the story was over and I remember not feeling it and I was like, oh, oh, that's not good. I'm like, this is like a really personal, powerful moment for me, and I think I'm not going to share that for a while. And I stopped telling it, and I remember being at events and people were like, oh my god,

can you tell your mom's purple code story? And I'd be like, you know, I actually I can't write now, I said a boundary because I wasn't feeling it anymore. It almost became like flat. It was too powerful of a story for me, and I needed to own it again. So I think sometimes when you're grieving, we go to places that become superficial, and I think that we have to make sure that we never lose the depth of what that emotion is and that depth of what the

person is. And for anybody that's watching this journalize, write down your feelings. Don't forget what it is that you're feeling, because you want to make sure that you're you're honoring yourself, but you're also honoring them, because sometimes we go through these moments of like I'm gonna forget this, I'm gonna forget their voice, I'm going to forget that this happened. I'm gonna forget write it down.

bedside for four months in hospital and home herever. And my wife the force probably like maybe now like six seven years ago to interview her grandma, and so sheared all this video of asking her questions and stories, and so when she was preparing her speech for the funeral, which was such an emotional thing for her to do, it was filled with all these stories that she had

from this video that they would never have known. And yeah, I feel like there's such a need to interview your parents and interview your families before they're not here anymore.

I love that because there's so many stories your parents haven't told you, even though you think you know them. And I did that interview my mom maybe a few years back now, maybe five six years ago, just at the dinner table. We didn't record it. I wanted to record it, but I learned so much about my mom that would never have known and it brings you so much closer. And so whether you're an interviewer or not, it's a beautiful thing to do while someone's still here.

them to have their astrological chart done. Here's why. If they look at their chart when that person passed, it's like snapshot of like what was the syllabus you were spiritually supposed to be learning. And I like people to look at that because then it gives it gives a meaning and a context to the pain. It's like diagnosing an energetic thing. I like that. I like people to

do that. And this is where, like, you know, people are like he's talking about neurologists, he's talking about an astrologer, he's talking about I do that a lot. I feel like as a as a practitioner, for me, it's going to be like how do I best serve this client?

It means having your natal chart looked at, which you would need your birthday, the time and location that you were born, and then if you don't have that time, they can do something called rectification where you give them events in your life and then they kind of like retrofit where they think your planets are and then they will kind of look at your life and kind of tell you who you are.

going for a specific reason. So I would say, okay, well, if you're in Ares, then you're going to have Saturn in your chart. Maybe go see how Saturn's going to play out for you. So now there's an intro into your chart. But in that specific example, I would say, hey, I lost my person on December thirteenth, twenty twenty two. What is the lesson?

numbers are going to go up. That can cause this tell my brain works. I used to work in the laboratory,

so it's like when I'm doing reading, I'm seeing the energy projections and I'm like, hey, this is the line of probability that you're flying on. You know, you may want to shift this, or hey this is awesome. You know, guess up, keep going.

up or her up. Living with that, acknowledging it, writing about it, journalizing about it, and making sure that they're not forgotten, because that means that you're not forgetting your connection to them. And then I'll make it about living grief as well. Let's say you had a relation to somebody a thirty year friendship and or as a sibling, and all of a sudden you have a falling out with that person and now there's no contact. That's a

painful moment for you. So I ask people to mine for the positivity in that because half of that relationship is positive. It doesn't mean that you'll ever Like I

have people that are out of my life, they will not have access to me again. They've that's not happening. But when I reflect back on my time with them, it's not negative. Like I know that negative things might have brought us to where we're not connected now, but I'm not going to take away my past. Yeah, I had a great time with you. I had a great time for the time that we were spending spending together. So I'm not going to be spending negative energy mourning

the negative side of it. I get the negative side. I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna reminisce about the positive stuff.

the name, you know, not forget not.

their name. You're gonna make them feel connected and that you're honoring that person.

And if you're at someone deathbed, they may do things where they're having deathbed visions, they may call out to a person. You may sense that yourselves. There's always people that come for us. So if you were not able to be with the person when they transition, please know that they were not alone. There's always people, sometimes pats that come for us. So nobody passes alone. And you could set up a schedule to make sure that Grandma is not alone and that everybody's going to be with us.

She'll never be alone. That one moment where Grandma was alone may be where Grandma transitions. And the reason why is people choose who they want to be with when they pass, and if it's too painful to leave while that person's there, they'll wait till that person's not. So if you were not able to be there. Please don't take offense to that. Don't think that you fail them. They may not have been able to pass with you in.

them go, but I will let them grow. And I feel that when it comes to grief, we may have to let them go physically, but let us grow together until we are able to connect again.

because it wasn't you know.

I knew him. So it would be like if you go see a movie and I'm not going to get a chance to see the movie, and you now tell me all about the movie. Yeah, you gave me the plot, you gave me the characters, the cinematic of it, all of it. I feel like I've seen the movie now because you did such a good job describing it. Well, I'm happy she did that because she gave me language, and that language is what I had to use with

my kids for her. And I will have conversations with my kids legitimately where I'll be like, make sure you tell my grandkids this, and my daughter will be like, you tell your grandkids meaning like you ain't going anywhere, But the reality is what if I'm not here? That is a reality. I may not be here when they have kids. So I'm having that conversation with them. Make sure you tell my grandkids this, make sure that they

know about this. So I think having the conversation is important, communicating with people that you know will never know them or meet them, so that you're keeping this three dimensional archetype of a personality present because really what it's do is keeping a bridge between you and them and doing that. On my Instagram, I think it was April. I was feeling my mom. I was just thinking about her, and you know, she's been gone thirty years and I was like, I'm going to post a photo and I posted it.

It had nothing to do with birthdays anniversaries. A moment I was feeling my mom. I posted a photo of my mom. It was me honoring her. So you know, I have this like image in my mom image in my head of my mom being in the afterlife going Look. My son posted a photo of me on earth Agram. Look, let's go look, you know, but it's where I'm honoring. I'm keeping that person. Food. Food is another way that you can honor someone. So with my grandmother, we talked

about you know your wife's grandmother. And with my grandmother, I lived with her. She had arthritis, so she used to cook every Sunday for a lot of people. So she'd be like, come help me. So I cooked with her. I didn't know at the time how important that was.

Like that I had like my grandma's recipes that I could if I wanted to make at Christmas time STRUEFULO. I can make struthful of for the family. Not that I do, but but I could if I wanted to write. So there's a tradition that gets passed down. So what are the legacies. What are the traditions? Food, like music, all of those things are ways to keep them present and allow them to still be part of our lives.

They're the true true value of the world, energy, universe is love and connection, communication. That's what they value. That's what they come through you know, mostly about. But I think for some people they're in positions where they can't

keep a house. Right. So if someone can't keep a house and they know that they're let's say their spouse love the house, They lived and breathed for the house, for the garden, They put their entire life into that, and now they have to sell the house because they can't afford it. That's devastating on top of the loss. So I've had so many readings where people come through saying it's Okay, you can sell the house. You're not losing me. But that's great to be released of that.

But that person still is losing their house. So now they're going to grieve the loss of the relationship and they're going to grieve the loss of the house. So what's the solution. And an example like that, I say, hire a real estate attorney, a real estate photographer to come in and film your house in that three dimensional thing so you can always have a walkthrough of the house that you remember because you don't have to be in the house in order to feel the house. You

could legitimately walk through that house anytime you want. So you find ways to navigate and kind of experience your grief, but to work with it and through it.

all the time. How do you help someone move on or move through that, because it can kind of feel self fulfilling to just sit in this space, try and get affirmation and validation, but not really do the work and apply and move forward.

those moments. And I think I was very kind of like, you know, lucky because I was popular, like from the beginning of my career, so it was hard to get back in to see me, so I could keep a buffer between people. But before that kind of like happened, I would say to people when they would say, you know, why can I come back and see you again, I'd be like a year, nine months, like take some time, and they'd be like that's a long time. I'm like, well, yeah.

But when I used to work at a psychic fair when I first started, the same people would show up like every like two or three weeks and they had the same questions, And I remember saying to this one moment, I'm like, can we let some like life happen? Here. I was like, cause I feel like I should be coming over for dinner now, like I feel like we're friends, and I don't really feel this as professional. And then I had another client that I jokingly fired her and

I just was like, I cannot read you anymore. And she was like, why I go because he is never leaving his wife for you. I was like, I'm not the right person for you. I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear. So I think it's important to set boundaries. So I set boundaries with clients all the time, like I'll just be like, you know, you can't come back and see me. If I'm doing a zoom group and I recognize somebody, I will literally say to them I can't read you. You know, I've

just seen you. I remember you like I don't want to remember you.

my assistance. He brought nine items, five of which were pretending to the case, four of which were control items that had nothing to do with the case, and in the beginning of my meeting with him, I separated the four things that did not belong to the case. Got his attention. He had arranged for the woman that was missing her daughter to be on standby because he heard me make connections with people on the radio, so he thought, you know, put me on the phone with the woman.

The woman comes through, I solve the case. That didn't happen, but I wound up reading for him and gave him information that was applicable to his life, and then information that when he went home he had to get validated from his parents things that he did not know, so his world got a little bit rocked, right, He got the reality of what a reading looks like, the validation, and said, can you use your ability to help me? And there was a sense of duty that I kind

of had. Now. The ironic part is my dad was a New York City police officer and told me, don't sully my name with this BS that you're doing, and never let me find out that you're like working with the police, Like, just don't do that. And I didn't. And by the way, I really didn't have an interest in it, and with great respect with this book in this process, I still don't have an interest in it. It's not where my passion lies. My passion is not

into crime solving. My passion is to help everyday people. In the same way that when I did, you know, crossing over in TV shows, I hated when they brought celebrities on because I didn't want to read celebrities. That's not my thing. Chasing Evil was different. I got pulled in with Bob and it took me on a journey that I wasn't expecting. It forced me to review that although I had thought I did the work where my

dad was concerned, apparently I didn't. And I might have been seeking some patriarchal approval by helping him, and we had some great success working together, and there's multiple cases, there's a lot of sadness, and I felt again the word was duty to try to help this man on his path. I say openly, I didn't solve anything. I did for him what I do for my clients. I gave him information. He used that information and he solves his cases.

therapy on there. We have numerologists on there, we have astrologers on there, and they're all people that I work with, like I've worked with them send clients too, So I kind of brought them together in like one spot, and on evolve plus, people have the opportunity to set up a profile. We do a ton of live streams, so

there's multiple opportunities to interact, evolve, learn and grow. But the book Infinite Quest is on my channel under books, and then I have an eight part development workshop workshops that's on their call Project You, and it's all geared towards helping people to do exactly what it is evolve.