No matter what your newest resolution is, it's not the resolution which creates the likelihood or the probability of whether you will get there or not. It's actually your approach. Happy New Year on Purpose listeners. I am so excited, so grateful, so passionate, so ready to be back in the new year. This is our first solo episode of
twenty twenty two, and you've made it. Ready to transform your life, ready to build your life, Ready to go after your ambitions, your goals, whatever you've been pursuing, whatever you've been dreaming of. This is a time that we all use to reset. And I am so excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My new book, Eight Rules of Love is out and I cannot wait to share it with you. I am so so excited for you to read this book, for you
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experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. Now, I get it. This can be tough, this can be tiresome, this can seem hopeless. How many of you get to this time of year and think to yourself, Oh, not again. I'm gonna set a resolution. I'm going to set a transformation. I'm going to set a goal and then I'm going to fail and I'm going to feel overwhelmed, and I'm going to feel like a failure. And there's if I didn't make it, and as if everyone else is achieving
their goals but I'm not achieving mine. And it can put a lot of pressure on us. It can put a lot of stress. It can put a lot of weight and burden on our shoulders. Feeling not this time of year again. Or you're at the other end of the spectrum where you love setting new goals, you love starting over, you love that new diary, that new journal, you love turning over to January first and seeing that
blank slate. But deep inside, there's a little voice of doubt, of dilemma, confusion, knowing that you still don't know what you're working on. Well, what I want to share with you in this podcast is not how to set your goals. I think we all know that setting your goals it doesn't mean you get there. I also think we know that just writing down what you manifest doesn't just work that way. Today, I want to talk to you about the real manifestation. Today. I want to talk to you
about how manifestation actually works. Today, I want to talk to you about how results are actually created because I remember what it felt like being in that position, setting goals year after year after year, setting targets, and feeling like I wasn't even close. I know what that feels like because I've been there, and five years ago I started doing something very different and I saw very different results in my life. I started creating content five years ago.
That's how you probably discovered me did through my videos, my podcast or my book. And as things have grown, and as I've grown and learned, I want to pass on all the lessons, all the learnings, all the practical tips that I've learned along the way to you as we start. So I want to first dive into some
statistics and data for us to understand. And I was looking at a survey on you gov, and it's said that around sixteen percent of people say they will make a New AS resolution, compared to eleven percent who said they made a resolution this time last year. It's a fairly low amount. Now, young people were by far the most likely to be setting themselves a New Year's resolution, with nearly a third thirty two percent of those aged between eighteen and twenty four, compared to ten percent of
those aged fifty five and over. Now, let's talk about what kind of New AS resolutions people are making for the third year in a row. Help them. Fitness come top of the list of people's resolutions they plan on making, with the most popular among those making resolutions being to do more exercise or improve their fitness. Now, I'm sure
many of you have those things on your list. And another forty one percent say they want to commit to improving their diet, forty percent want to lose weight, and the list goes on and on all the way through to pursuing a career ambition, spending less time on social media, taking up a new hobby, cutting down on drinking or smoking, and even raising money for a charity. So we can see that there are lots of different types of news resolutions.
But here's what I find fascinating. No matter what your newers resolution is, it's not the resolution which creates the likelihood or the probability of whether you will get there or not. It's actually your approach. It's your methodology of manifestation to get those results. And as we've seen in the past, we don't tend to be as good at those because every year we feel quite far away, right, we feel quite distant from our resolutions, and I'm sure
you've experienced that too. So today I'm going to give you a series of steps to help you learn and understand how manifesting and getting your results really truly happens. Now, the first thing I want to start off with is Step one. We live in a culture and a society that is goal based. It all starts with what's your goal? Where do you want to get to? What do you want to happen at the end. What is the result
that you desire? Do you desire a new house, a new car, a new job, a new vacation, a new body. It's all about what is that new thing that you want? It has got nothing to develop the mindset to get there. Western society operates on a results mindset, a results lad approach. Spiritual traditions or Eastern society is based on an intention led approach. Are you being led by your results or
are you being led by your intention? Your intention is so much more powerful than any result, because when you don't get the result you wanted, that doesn't help you. But when you know what your intention is, that intention keeps fueling you even when you don't get the result you want. I'll give an example. Let's say you've been trying to go to the gym three times a week and you end up making it once a week. Now, from a results point of view, you have missed your
target and missed your goal. But if your intention is I really want to do this to be healthy and fit for my family, I really want to do this for my own health and well being, that intention is going to fuel you to get to that three times a week. But when your result focused, when your result lad, as soon as you don't reach that result, you put pressure on yourself. You start talking down to yourself. So I want you to focus more on the intention then
you do on the result. Stop looking at your calendar going well, why haven't I made it five times this week? Why haven't I been able to lose this much weight this week? Because that leads to critical conversations with yourself. It leads to a lot of self judgment and a lot of self sabotage. But the idea that I'm doing this because why are we doing it? What is your intention? What is your input? The Western world makes us focused on output. My question to you is what is your input?
What is it that you are bringing in to this process? So I want you to sit down and for whatever your goal or resolution is, I want you to deeply connect with your intention for why it's so important. Why is it important for you to lose weight? Why is important for you to improve your diet. Why is it important for you to exercise more? Why is it important for you to spend time on social media less? Why is it important to cut down on drinking or smoking?
I know that the people who've made their biggest changes in their life, their reason was deep. When we say dig deep, you will dig so much deeper when your reason is deep. But if you haven't really thought about really articulated, really written down, really communicated your reason. You can't go further, You can't go deeper than your reasoning and your intention. You can't dig deeper than that. You
can't dig deeper than your intention or your reasoning. So make your intention really deep, make your intention really profound and powerful. Now, the second step I want to share with you is why we need to monitor obsessively. Now, what I mean by this is as you start the week and as weeks go by, months go by, what we often do is we go, oh, well, last week I didn't make it. That was a failure. All right, Well this week I made it, so I guess things
are great again. Okay, well next week I didn't make it. That was a failure, and the week after that was a failure. And then I'm just a failure and this is not going right. So what we do is we only measure results, but we don't monitor results. This is a really fascinating switch from measuring to monitoring. So we measure how much weight we lost, and we say, oh, wow, this week I lost you know, four pounds. This week
I lost nothing. This week I put on this much. Right, So we measured the result but we don't monitor it. And I'll explain to you the difference. Measuring is taking a measuring tape or a scale and writing down a number. That's literally what it is. Right, it's measuring. You are just data collecting. You just data recording. What is my height today, what is my height tomorrow? What's my weight today? What's my weight tomorrow? What's my follow account today? What's
my follow account tomorrow? How much money did I save this week? How much money did I save next week? It's just a number, and you learn very little from that number. I'll give an example. If I create a podcast and it gets a number of downloads versus another podcast, I can be upset when the next podcast is higher or lower, or I can be curious. I can monitor
it can be observant. So whether your day or week goes well or whether it is difficult and challenging, I want you to make time to say why, why did it go well? Why did it go wrong? What happened? What did I do differently this week? When I think about weeks where things are going well, and if you just take them at face value and think, yeah, I've got this now things are going well, you get complacent. And I know the phrase goes, curiosity killed the cat.
I've always thought complacency killed the cat, right, it's complacency. Well, hopefully no one killed any cat, but whether your dog or a cat, person, we want animals to be safe. It's complacency. And complacency sets in when we measure. Actually, a lot of self sabotage checks in when we just measure, because when we have a good week, we don't know why, and when we have a bad week, we don't know why, and we just beat ourselves up about it. So I want you to really think about that, why did it
go well? Monitor don't measure why did it go well? Why did it go badly? What specifically change this week? And actually that might even make you have some compassion for yourself. You may think, oh, yeah, you know that week my family came over and I took it easy a little bit, Or you know that week I launched a new product on social media, so I spent a bit more time on it. You start actually not drawing
yourself excuses. You might start to judge yourself less and that lets you go, Okay, well, next week I can shift. Next week I can make a change like I know, for example, on Christmas and New Year's Week, I ate more sugar in a week than I ate or year, and I know it, and I don't judge myself for it. I'm glad that I allowed myself to enjoy and really let go. And then this week I knew I wanted
to be playing tennis. So I've been playing tennis every day for two hours, working really really hard to get fit and healthy again, cutting out sugars out of my life again, getting back to my healthy diet. And I'm not judging myself for that week. I know why I wasn't focused on what I wanted to focus on, and now I know why I am, And so I want you to monitor over measure. Measuring is what our apps do, Measuring is what our fitbits do, Measuring is what our
order rings do. And measurement is important, but only if you wanted to the reason behind the men as uman. It's not just good enough to measure the data. You have to monitor the data. Now. The third step, this is something that really blows my mind when I think about it and talk about it, and this will be a game changer for you. There are four steps to making a change in your life, and I find that most of us are just about on step one. Most of the time, we're on step one and we're trying
to have the result of step four. So there are four steps to change. The first is theoretical, theoretically understanding that this change is important, it's needed, and it is necessary. But your understanding, in your knowledge level is theoretical. For example, the theoretical idea that we all believe that we should take care of the environment, the theore radical idea that we all have that we should take care of our health.
We all know we should. That's a theoretical understanding. We all know that it's better if we eat healthier, it's better if we exercise. These are theories. We understand it theoretically. Most of us are at this stage when you try and use your will power to achieve a result, but your level of change is only theoretical. It is so unlikely that you're going to get the result because theory does not change to transformation. Theoretical understanding does not lead
to transformation. So ask yourself, are you add a theoretical level in the area you want to change? For example, if I say, oh, yeah, theoretically, I've heard that meditation is good idea. I know it's good for me. That's theory. So the next step is meaningful. We have to make it meaningful. That's where that intention comes in. Going back to step one, How meaningful is this to me? I remember when my health really took a bad hit. I polyped my throat. They had to be lasered out. I
was having really bad gut issues. I was having chronic fatigue. I was in bed for fourteen hours if not more a day, And that was when it became really meaningful to me. It's almost like everything switched from theory to meaningful. And it's frustrating that we often have to go through pain or real challenges or real stress and pressure to make that shift from theoretical to meaningful. But I also know that it's possible to do it without the pain.
But the pain is often the trigger. So when we go through problems or pain, chances are it's so that we can switch from theoretical to meaningful. That's actually what
your body's doing. It's so your body is giving you pain saying I don't want to live like this anymore, so that it becomes meaningful for you to apply that theory because before it was meaningful to you, you assumed it would be okay, right if you never had a health challenge, you would just theoretically know it's good to take care of your health, but you may not focus on it because it's not meaningful yet. So theoretical to meaningful Now meaning isn't enough either. I'll give an example.
Maybe someone's lost a family member to cancer like I have, and someone may theoretically understand the health reasons and implications. They may meaningfully. Obviously and meaningfully pains you so much when you've lost someone, but you haven't made it practical for you. You haven't understood it practically. How does it practically work in your life? How does it practically flow in your day to day? We have to turn our
meaningful feeling emotion based understanding. Now we had an intellectual knowledge based understanding, we have now an emotional feeling understanding. We now have to turn it into something practical for us and then finally applicable. We adgievet it apply it once we know what's practical, and we have to see where that goes to keep actioning it. So the four stages of change are theoretical meaningful, practical, and applicable. Now, I guarantee that what you're trying to change this year
is in the theoretical and meaningful areas. You haven't yet figured out the practical and the applicable areas of what you want to do, and that is where you want to put the energy. How do I practically apply this in my life? For example, going to the gym for me now my plan and when I'm back in LA I'm in London at the moment with my family, but when I'm back in LA my goal is to be doing probably three days at tennis and two days at the gym, two to three days at the gym, And
so that's how I'm practically committing. And then I'll apply it, and then I'll observe it and monitor it. But the key thing here is it can't. When it was just theoretical for me that I needed to take care of my health, I didn't do it. Then it became meaningful because of the pain. But then it needed to become practical. I had to find what I enjoyed, what I got a passion for, what I flourished. And this applies to all areas of your business and work. Too. This doesn't
just apply to your body and your mind. This applies to anything you want to do. This I hope you will apply this to all areas of your life. Now. The fourth step is actually this is game changer. Have you ever thought about what's the difference between efficiency and effectiveness? What is the difference? Is there a difference between efficiency and effectiveness? So efficiency, in the way I see it, is the ability to do a lot of things, and
effectiveness is doing important things. Think about that, right? It sounds like efficiency. It's like, Oh, I'm really really efficient. I get a lot done, I achieve a lot of stuff, I take a lot of boxes. Or I've been highly effective this week. What would you like to say at the end of this week? Would you prefer you were saying I've had an efficient week or I've had an effective week. I'm sure each and every one of us
are drawn towards that word effective. I've had an efficient week sounds like I checked off stuff on my to do list, I did my laundry, I got a lot done. I was efficient, but I was effective. Says oh, I made a dent this week, I made an impact this week. I moved the needle this week, the differences between doing a lot of things and doing important things. I want you to focus on the latter. In twenty twenty two. We all have to do a lot of things, but
are we making time to do the important things? Because often we make ourselves so busy with being efficient, because we don't want to put the brain energy and brain power to be effective. So we'd rather clutter our day with lots of insignificant activities than clear our day for one significant activity because we're scared of doing that. But when you realize that, no longer do you want to clutter for something insignificant, You want to clear for something significant.
We want to shift from being efficient to being effective. And this is a mindset shift. This is the mindset shift that I'm taking into twenty twenty two. I've been saying to my team, I want to have an effective year, not an efficient year. I think there have been a couple of years in my life where I've been highly efficient, but I don't think I've been as effective and as impactful because I've just been busy. My schedule has been full.
I've been doing a lot of stuff, but i haven't been doing the stuff that makes the impact that moves the needle. Look around you and think about who the people that you've noticed that you think have made big lead. Do you think have just pivoted their career and shifted and made huge strides. Who are those people? Maybe maybe there's some things that I've done that you're looking at and going, wow, Jay, I never saw how you did
a book and then you did. You have the podcast, and you did the tea company, and I'm sure you've got something else coming which I can't wait to share with you. It's like that all came from an effectiveness mindset, not an efficiency mindset. Sometimes I'm highly inefficient. Sometimes they don't complete a lot of stuff. Sometimes there's stuff that's just left for days. But those are not the things that matter. They're not the important things. So do you want to do a lot of things or do you
want to do important things? You want to look at each week and each month in that way, ask yourself, is this an efficiency week or is this an effectiveness week? And if you recognize the difference for yourself, right, if you recognize the awareness for yourself, that's going to make all the difference. Now, the next step that I want to share with you is this balance between thinking and acting, like thinking and doing. And it's been debated for a long time whether we should think or do. And I
think we've realized that action is an important part. We have to act and then reflect. But here's what I've realized. Thinking is important, but do it less than you think. I feel like a lot of us struggle with procrastination and overthinking because we think, rethink and think again. We think, we rethink and think again. And if I had to divide the way I like to work, I probably do
about seventy percent action, thirty percent thinking. Now there are times when I think by thinking went down to ten percent and dad didn't work either, or went down to five percent and I was just doing doing doing, and that wasn't great either. And there have been times when I've thought seventy percent and acted thirty percent, and that's not healthy. So I want you to think about your ratio. What is your ratio of thinking to do? Is it
fifty fifty, is it seventy thirty either way? Is it eighty twenty, is it ninety ten, is it sixty forty? Where are you on that ratio? And I want you to start shifting into doing more than thinking more to get to doing seventy percent and thinking thirty percent. And when you'll start shifting that, you might start to feel uncomfortable, you might start to feel scared, you might start to feel some anxiety of like, oh my gosh, I'm just doing so much stuff. I don't even know what I'm doing.
And all I want you to do is try and get to that seventy percent of doing and thirty percent of thinking, and that thirty percent of thinking. Going back to the monitoring point is the reflecting is the observing Why did that work? Did it work? What could I have done better? You're focused on that, You're not focused on, Oh, well that didn't get me anywhere. And that's again that results mindset is just so deep. That didn't get me anywhere? Well,
what was the point anyway? We didn't get there? Well, I didn't achieve anything anyway? Right, Like that language, that rhetoric is actually stopping us as opposed to okay, well what worked? What did and what could I shift this time? So get that ratio between thinking and acting, thinking and doing right for you, and you will see huge shifts and huge changes in your life. Now, the next step is something that I recently spoke about on the Today's Show,
and it's growth versus goals. You can set goals all you want, but it's the growth that gets you to those goals, right, growth versus goals every single time. What I mean by that is when you set a goal I want to do this, you have to ask yourself what growth, what skill, what aptitude, what mindset do I need in order to get there? What is it going to take me to learn? So, for example, if I say this year I want to share meditation with you, all I want to help you will learn how to meditate? Okay,
what do I need to know? I need to know how to meditate. I need to know how much time everyone kind of has in their day. I think people have like five to ten minutes a day maximum, so like seven minutes. Okay, if they have seven minutes, how do I help the meditate seven minutes? Right? So I need to think about that. I don't just have to think about okay, well everyone needs to meditate, so okay, I just need to make sure people meditate, and then we just have this goal and we don't do anything
to it. We have to build the growth path to the goals. Potential. So if you're setting a goal, I want you to set the growth that you need to take in order to get there. I want to end, finally with one last point, which is how I define every year. And I spoke about this last year as well, but I think it's important to re share it because it is how I set up my year. Every year. I sit down and I call this the three Elves of a Phenomenal Year, and I ask myself, what do
I want to learn this year? What do I want to launch this year? And what do I want to love this year? These are three necessities for feeling like you're thriving as a human, for feeling like you're absolutely winning as a human. When you do the thing you love, it brings you joy, It brings you happiness. When you launch something, it brings you nerves, It brings you excitement.
When you learn something, it gives you the feeling of growth and improvement, and the feeling like you're going somewhere. These are the experiences we need in life. We think that it's just about winning. Notice how winning isn't one of them, because winning doesn't give you an essential feeling that we need as a human. These are the feelings. We need to experience love. We need to experience joy
and happiness. We need to experience excitement and enthusiasm, we need to experience nerves and that kind of like butterflies feeling again. So I literally want you to write down, learn, launch, love. What are you learning this year? What is it that you're committing to learning. What is it that you're getting coaching classes, mentorship? You have to be learning something every year.
It's crazy that we stop learning after graduating. If we're lucky, right, it really really is insane that we stop learning after that time. What are you committing to learning this year? It could be an instrument, It could be a language. It could be learning to work out. It could be learning a new mindset. It could be joining our genius community and learning about health and well being. It could be joining my certification school and learning to become a
life coach. If that's what been a goal of yours for a while, what is it that you're committing to learning this year? Second, what are you launching? What are you starting that's new? Are you launching a podcast? Are you launching a book? Are you launching a new community, a new book club in your area? Are you launching a company, Are you launching a business, are you launching a YouTube channel? What are you launching this year? I want you to launch something this year to get the
excitement enthusiasm of pushing forward. And finally, what are you doing that you love? What are you doing that you deeply, deeply love? Thank you so much for listening, Thank you so much for being here in twenty twenty two, It's going to be your year. Thank you.