#64: The Role of Criticism in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics
Apr 12, 2023•24 min•Season 1Ep. 64
Episode description
Today's episode is all about the role of criticism in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Both anxious and avoidant people have been known to deploy criticism as a strategy to manage fears and self-protect in relationships - but this will often look different (and be motivated by different drives) on each side. One thing's for sure: no matter how it shows up, criticism is really harmful to relationships - so if this is something you struggle with, you've come to the right place.
We'll cover:
- how anxiously attached people use criticism as a protest behaviour
- criticism as a way to convey our hurt
- how avoidant people use criticism to sow seeds of doubt and create distance
- how to identify the needs underlying our criticism so we can communicate in a healthier way
Highlighted Links
- FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
- Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
- September 2025 London Event Waitlist
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