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I've recorded it a couple of years ago, and it was right around the ADHD episodes, and I asked people from Patreon if they had any life tips or hacks. I added some of my own in there too, And it's just choc a block with things to make your life better and also things to distress you. So I know a ton of you loved it the first time around. If you haven't heard it, or if you've forgotten a lot, have another listen seriously, some life changers, life changers. Okay, enjoy.

I'll be back in Nah just a little while longer. I'm literally gonna go surfing today, Okay, enjoy. Oh Hi, it's your life, just gasping and hobbling day into the next day, begging you for help. Hey, does life feel out of hand? Of course it does. Could we all use some tips on how to grease your wheels and just slide into comfort and maybe even increased productivity so

that you have more time to enjoy comfort. Yes, and yes, which is why I asked my friends tron dot com slash ologies for life tips, hacks, some tricks, some strategies, some smarts. Folks, These are great if you have ADHD, if you think you have ADHD, if you love someone with ADHD, or if you're just a person on planet Earth who is expected to hold their shit together in a very distracting time. So this will be the button on our ADHD episode. But we made this for people

who are neurotypical and neuroatypical. It's just how to get your life in order with a bunch of great tips. But just a quick note up top, this episode is a little weird. If this is the very first episode of ologies you've ever listened to, this isn't what they are normally like. This is probably the most mellow podcast I have ever recorded or ever been on. It's very mellow. It's just me talking and it's a vibe. But I

also explained later on why it's such a vibe. But it was recorded late at night, quietly in a guest bedroom. We get into it anyway before we dive in. Thank you to everyone who shares these episodes and tells friends about them, and who rates and subscribes and even review because you know, I read all the reviews. For example, this Threshold donut from insta Ashley, who wrote in the review, pretty sure my unborn baby will recognize Ali's voice before mine.

Insta Ashley's baby. I just want to say, what's up? That was a great fresh review that your host body wrote. Okay, let's polish off the sharp edges and just have a smoother existence with a bunch of advice on how to be healthier, more well rested, better fed, less distracted, perhaps a little less irritable, and have a smoother and more empathetic relationship perhaps with yourself and others and more. I put these into five parts. Okay, we cover part number one.

Your hot bod needs this. Part two Home is where the heart is, domestic strategies. Part three is a wrestling match with father time about scheduling. Four is let your brain trick your brain some productivity hacks. And five is emo stuff just feeling around your feet. So life tricks from ologites two ologites. They're good, They're for everyone, They're for you. Here we go, all right, kiddos. Part one, Your hot bod needs this for your brain. So this is not about how you look nude or your bathing

suit aspirations. This is about the lump of jello in your bone bowl, moving around in whatever way you can to help your brain, so I asked patrons, give me all of your life acts. Joe Alexander said, I either run or walk or get on the elliptical for as little as six minutes just to get my heart right up a bit, and if I don't do it, the day is terrible and I'm mostly non functional. And Ann Dolmeyer uses an exercise bike at home and says it's where I go and they need to think or focus

or when I need to get things done. Saffron Alabassi said the clarity after a quick ten minute jog around the block is bonkers, and this was echoed by Emily Anderson and Ted Hamilton, who said whatever happens on a long run makes my brain go from badly tuned radio to sil it. It's pure bliss to quiet everything for an hour, and I've noticed the effects lasts for a

couple days after. It's not for everyone, but it's a necessary part of my life now, Ted said, and Janetta Sore said, if you need to move to think, find ways to do it. Have walking meetings or do exercisey things right before sit still things so you do not have to break your sprinting record. You do not even have to change shoes. You don't have to beat a stranger on a peloton leader board or even sweat. Just whatever way you can move, just move your brain will

be like my God. Finally, thank you to the meat parts of me from the brain part. And another hot tip from patrons sleep, why don't maybe try sleeping? Christy Lowry wrote in and said, no medication note there be no treatment is going to work if your body is tired, hungry, or thirsty. And protect your sleep as if it is your life or sanity. Christy says, I'm a grown ass adult with a stricter bedtime routine than any kid out there.

Turn your phone to silent in the evening. Let your crew know that if they contact you after seven, they better be dead. Normalize healthy sleep hygiene. Above all, be kind and loving to yourself, Christy said, and Peter West said, I have a nine year old with ADHD. We changed our lights to ones that automatically gradually dim for the hour before bed and then turn off, and that helps with sleep. Janettosaur says, get fussy af about your bedtime

routine and then wind down. And Hannah Michelle says, my sleep is sacred and needs to be guarded. And also while you're sleeping, ABC always be charging. How many of you have woken up with a phone that has less energy than you? Waking up in the red with the battery on your phone is just the best way to make your day a nightmare. It has happened to me so many times. Patron Emily Palin said, I just got a charging station on my nightstand to keep my phone,

AirPods and watch together. That way, when I grab one, I see the others and I actually charge them. Okay, well, what else is on your nightstands? I wanted to know. And Rosa and Miranda Panda both wrote in about sunrise light alarm clocks and in Rosa's words, mornings are made tremendously better when I wake up with light instead of sound, and Miranda said, I absolutely love feeling like I woke up gradually on my own rather than being forced awake.

So these are alarm clocks that gradually wake you up with light. And I got to say me personally, some of the happiest weeks of my life have been when I went to bed super early and then got up when it was not quite even dawn yet. Because I think some of us are night owls, just because we're more productive when everyone else is asleep, so we don't have text to return and emails popping up. And if

you're one of those people, try early mornings instead. I'm going to try and get back into it with you, because you get a jump on things when the world is quiet, and then you're ahead of the game when people wake up, and then you can use your evening's guilt free chillin' instead of trying to force yourself to be productive after a long, aggravating day of dodging distractions like an American ninja course. Also, there's coffee at down and that's the best. So when the sunrise alarm goes off,

open the blinds, let the sun do its thing. It helps your brain wake up. Maybe meditate for a couple minutes. If you can make a list of how your day will go, you just beat everyone to the punch. But if you're still in bed and you do have ADHD Mackenzie Foss rode in if you take stimulants and struggle to get out of bed in the morning, take them an hour before you actually need to get up, and then you'll have no problem waking up and you need to, and Derek Allen chimed in and said the riddle and

wake up call is basically a superpower. And we mentioned in part two of the ADHD episodes though, if you have ADHD and you take stimulants and have anxiety, you may want to take your meds with protein and in Adrian Gregor's words, water breakfast meds in that order.

So for economic to convenience reasons, I completely get it, but if you can get it, Patron Lisa Smith says that clean eating is a biggie just for their mental health and productivity and life. They say carbs, dairy and greasy food make my brain not work right, and Morgan Underwood said they cut processed foods and stuff with high sugar content to increase focus and reduce grouchiness. So what if you know what to eat though, and you're just

bored and tired. Mia says that they found making sure to incorporate mushrooms into meals will make them more likely to cook and eat because my coology is one of their oldest and most loved special interests. So I guess just walk around the produce aisle just like what am I connecting with here? What do I actually want to

spend some time in the kitchen? With some more kitchen strategies from patrons, Tyler Hudson keeps a bunch of bulk, non perishable and frozen food on hand and always has some fancy meats in the freezer to make quote something extravagant and that helps them get hyped about cooking, and Alexandra wrote in that the instant pot keeps things warm and unburnt when done, which I can appreciate.

They say this has been a game changer for me and has cut down on the amount of fast food I've been eating because they just simply could not plan meals. And yes, we do have a code if you need one, go to Alleyward dot com Slash ologies, Dash sponsors, there's a discount link for you. Just saying what about leftovers?

Silas Clish says that flipping over Pyrex glass tupperware so they can see their leftovers will for sure make me polish them off more regularly, and Eliza hammer Gage advises you to just label that shit, put a date on it, so you know you're like.

going to try that. Skylar Ward, no relation to me, not my not their guest room, beat us all and just wrote that their fridge is a whiteboard. It's a menu and a grocery list. You can whiteboard your fridge. None of us do that except for them. Also, let's clean up your life. How about some domestic strategies to save some time and some brain efforts for everyone. Here we go Part two. Home is where the heart is. Karina Bruce wrote in and said, my big tip for

cleaning is to do it often and badly. I do half jobs of everything, and eventually everything gets done.

Maria agrees. They say, I simply no longer fold my items. Mediocrity is freedom. Mediocrity is freedom, y'all. Let's just lower the bar. No one's looking in your underwear drawer, and if they are, that's their problem. Now you could also just ease your stress by outsourcing all your shit to a robot. So Cassandra Grassroom says, this is absolutely coming from a place of privilege. But auto pay any and

all bills and get a robot vacuum. Take thing off everyone's plate so that you're all less likely to get overwhelmed. And Sarah Albrick agrees, saying, if you can swing it, invest in things to make life easier for you, like a robot vacuum, a quality dishwasher, an automatic litter box, et cetera. And Sarah says, my floors are clean now, my dishes don't pile up as often, and the litter box doesn't get so stinky. So, now that you have some tips for your home, let's engage in a wrestling match.

Let's grapple with father time. Let's get some of your life back from him. Okay, first, you need a dump location. You need to give yourself the gift of a trip to Ross or TJ Max and just say, what basket speaks to me?

which sounds so peaceful, doesn't it. My keys have hung on a hook by the door for decades because in college I locked myself out of my dorm room seventeen times in the first six weeks.

Patron Caffeine had this extra hack if you use a reminder hap on mobile electronic devices right the reason you have to do the thing rather than just do the thing. Example, they say, instead of scheduling a reminder that says use in hailer, try anyone that says ah caps OMG lung damage is bad for your health. Just take your damn asthma medicine woman and include many emojis. If bright colors help you, so reminders and use a clock when you need to kick your own ass gently and with fun.

So many patrons wrote in with this, and Caitlyn M said, I recently discovered the time timer, which is basically just a visual timer, but they absolutely love it and they say it's really good for visualizing how much time you have left for a particular task. And Joe Alexander also loves a timetimer. They're kind of like an egg timer, but more visually and socially friendly. And they were invented by this cool lady in Cincinnati and I got to interview her for my CBS show Innovation Nation, and I

love her. Now, if you don't have a timetimer, you can also use the laundry as one. This is a cool hack. See if you can get certain things done

before the washing cycle is up. Recommended Olivia Shaeffer and Miranda Buckley keeps it light and fun and wrote in on good days, I keep a timer and I race myself to see how quickly I can get all my boring chores done, while don Zwart creates a dystopian prison chamber, saying when I clean, I set a timer for ten minutes and I don't let myself leave the room until the timer goes off.

white noise to remind you it's workie time. It's Workie time now. It also has very cool Bear art, So twelve out of ten Ward approved Bear Focus Timer. I think you're cool now. When it comes to a strict twenty five minutes working and five minutes off, patron Michelle is like, eh, not so much. She likes the hyper focus and uses something called the flow time technique, which is where you start a task and you stop when you're tired or when you're just like, I'm done here,

I'm reaching my limit. And she uses the twenty percent of break time to eighty percent of worktime kind of ratio there. But there's also this thing called the Eisenhower matrix, and I was like, Eisenhower matrix, it's just like a post war history fact. I don't know, but Salmon like the fish, and Chelsea Feris both use it. And the Eisenhower matrix helps you wrangle priorities. It's like four quadrants. There's a do do it now. There's a decide, which

means schedule it. There's a delegate, see if you can outsource that, maybe to a vacuum robot. And then there's a delete quadrant, which is like just forget about it. You'd pretend you don't.

but Ward quote a caveat though. Don't get all bogged down looking at the crazy Instagram pages of people who spend more time making their journal pretty than actually using it. It's meant to increase productivity, not drain away all your energy thinking up a monthly theme and drawing out intricately illustrated layouts, and Caitlyn says I wasted two years trying to make pretty layouts with my bullet journal and ended

up not touching it for months at a time. Now I've found a nice balance of functionality with just enough creativity to make it interesting without becoming just another task.

daily quests rather than to do's. And there's Notion Planners, which has lines for gratitude to get you out of a funk. Those also got shout outs. And I'm going to toss in my own dadly advice here in a Patreon life stream I did last week, I showed my daily Planner, which is just a small mini binder. It has three rings and it holds sheets that are half letter size, and you can just go to an office supply or print shop and buy a rim of paper, ask them to cut it in half. You now have

one thousand sheets of paper. And you know those black three whole punch you know the ones you steal from.

write down ideas. And I like it better than a bound journal because I can edit out what I don't want and I can just spin it out from time to time and throw away the drunk and I draw little pictures on some days if I'm feeling fancy, and I too love a nice pen and can I just say that colored pencils that turn to water color when wet are just the best. They never dry out like pens.

You can use them like dry ass pencils, or you can make them come alive and you can blend that with just a drop of water and a paint brush. And I have the same set of water colored pencils that I got in high school, which was almost like five years ago now. And on my best days, I take little breaks to draw tiny pictures of my activities, like a little nice mug of tea, or maybe I

saw a frog or something. And I need you to know that I googled the brand of colored pencil to figure out what they were, and I was looking it up for a few minutes until I realized that the colored pencils were in my backpack four inches away from me the whole time. And they're the Stadler kind. Just so you know, they're great. And you know what else is great? Giving away money? And this week, let's toss

some in two different directions, why don't we. I'm currently at my sister's I'm recording this in my nephew's bed, but I'm helping out with some family hell stuff. But March happens to be the awareness month for multiple sclerosis, which is a neurodegenerative autoimmune disease which my mom, a fancist of Nancy's, has, and March is also the awareness month for multiple maloma, a blood cancer that my dad has.

So donations went to the National MS Society, which connects patients and their families to resources and information and support groups and funds for accelerated research and shout out to my mom's MS group. There's more information about groups at NATIONALMS Society dot org. And another donation went to the International Maloma Foundation, which is IMF, which is the first and the largest organization focusing specifically on multiple maloma and you can learn more about them at maloma dot org.

You can also check out the Hematology episode with doctor Brian Durry for more about blood and also about multiple maloma. So my visit to see and help them out is made possible by you listeners understanding when I'm a few days late, and donations were made possible by sponsors of oologies. Okay, more of your advice. We're still wrestling with father. Time listener to listener, let's talk apps. So apps, you got them?

Several of you love Have Been, which is a role player game that gamifies habit building and they have to do lists and daily lists and peta Luck says, I get a reward every single time remark something is done. It's life changing. Tyler Hudson and Jellybean Green second and third Habitica. I had never heard of it before. It sounds delightful. Shell uses a free app called Owwaves, and they say Owwaves it's I think it's always. Owabes helps manage my cognitive chaos and has changed my life, y'all.

My time management skills are typically that of a disoriented pigeon. Shell rights, but this app helps me divide each day into productive slots with visual cues and color coding and gentle notifications highly recommend So that was Ouwaves and Emil says, I've been using Finch, which combines health and goal setting.

Cheese says, instead of an app, they made their own Discord server to save links and pictures and to write lists and save ideas and notes for later, and She's says it's very multifunctional and I never forget it because I also use Discord for friends and such, unlike most organizing apps that Cheese tends to download and forget. And also Miranda Panda told me that you can categorize your Google tabs into groups and as long as we're just

given some Google tips. Side note for me, I found out from Hollywood writer and producer Shaddy Patowski that in Gmail you can add a task list and it's tiny. It's hard to find. It looks like a circle with a check mark through it. But if you select an email and then click that checky little circle, it'll add it to a taskbar on the right hand side of your Gmail so that you can respond to it later.

Since I know even the most well intentioned, starred emails just fall to the bottom of your inbox like a vapepen in a bucket purse. But if you use the task list in Gmail, it's like right there in your face. I have returned to so many emails I would have forgotten about. Is so good and so yes, we all live and die. Buy a to do list, but what about a to done list? What This is a thing and it can help your brain like a tiny little treat.

So Fee Cameron says that if a to do list is too overwhelming, start writing a done list to see what you've already done. Or write stuff in your to do list that you've already done so you can click them off straight away, like brush my teeth, tick did it. And Amy Ducre says that they write a post mortem at the end of the day to see where hiccups happened and figure out what strategies they could use to

streamline it for next time. And Miranda uses Trello boards for work and for their personal life and says, I love that you can move things from your to do to your done list or archive tasks rather than totally deleting them and keeping with the Captain's log vibe cat Backlars also says, quote, I track what I did and when on Google calendar. So not just like, oh, I had class and then I studied, but they change it afterward?

Did class enderly, did they skip? Did they study for a full hour after did they scroll half the time? And ideally they say that would keep me accountable. And the final piece of advice in Kicking Father Times ass comes from patron Charlotte Felkgarde, who reminds us all that being kind and considerate of your future self is a life saving skill. So think of you in the future

and do things for them. So, speaking of the future, let's just march straight into part four, which is let your brain trick your brain to learn some little ways you can help your nogain. So you know how you feel like you are dragged in a bunch of direction by distractions, right, things you want to look up, things

that you should do now or maybe later. What is the solution A parking lot, says Laura Bee, who continues, basically, you have a designated notepad and if you have a thought or something you remember you need to do, you write it down and you just revisit it later. And Sarah Simpson does this too and calls this a later list. And Sarah wrote when you start to go down a

rabbit hole, write it on your later list. When you're done with the task at hand, you can go back and decide if you still want to do those things or not. And most recently, Sarah wrote while working on a project, their nine year old kiddo included things like play Pokemon, learn braille, and insult my sister, and Sarah writes she decided she was cool not learning brail by the time her assignment was done, but everything else was important. And side note, I have been doing this parking lot

method the later list, and it does help. And later, when I have clarity, I realize that no, I didn't need to urgently search perfumes from the nineteen nineties, or how the woman who played Andy and the Goonies is doing career.

it turned out it's been worth it so far. So essentially, you go to say YouTube and you write, click on the suggested videos column and a little window will pop up asking if you want to hide that using ad block, and you say fuck yes. And then instead of a bunch of delicious, irresistible videos you watch for hours, you just have a big blank white space there instead, so you don't have to keep writing, watch another, say yes to the dress suggested video on your notepad later list.

By the way, if you don't have a paper list. Donia Molmquist all caps vouches for dry erase boards for this, saying I can write faster, it's easier to edit, pleasing colors and just fun. And I guess, as long as we're talking about whiteboards, let's use them for your brains. So Hayley Aronson is also a whiteboard fan, and Mercury offered the life advice that if you can afford it, it's okay to spend a little money to make your

life easier. Buy a fancy whiteboard if it helps you remember, buy cloud storage and upload important documents directly to it, and Kate Zer below agrees and engages in what they call the magic of multiples. If you have a lip balm in your bag, on your desk, on your dresser, in your car, you haven't ever forgotten or misplaced it, Kate says. But let's talk cash. What if you don't have it? How can we save a little more?

And I still struggle with impulsive spending, but I was also able to save up a down payment for a house and my first off the lot new car, all using funds from my out of side account. Thank you, Stacy, good tip.

So if you do that, perhaps you can show your face at the library again, especially if that's where you do your working. But if you are forced to work in an open office, patron Caitlin m wanted to offer some advice. They said, this is not so much a tip as a reminder to myself. No open offices ever. Bring it up to HR as a disability accommodation if you need to. I didn't do this in previous jobs,

and I really wish I had now. If you don't have that option, so many Alagites said three magic words, and those people were a very good painter, Heather Horton, Whedon, Laila Green Touchet, Ann, Marie Benz, and Joe Alexander. Those three words noise canceling headphones. I personally got some like one hundred dollars, skull candy venue active noise canceling headphones at the start of the pandemic. Can't imagine life without them. Well, I can't imagine life without them, and it would not

be good. It would be very loud. But what should you want listen to? So Brenda Cornett says when they work, they listen to focus at will dot com, which has a rain sounds channel, There's a zen piano channel. They have cinematic channels. But Joe Alexander uses a brown noise generating app. And there's something called noise Genet and it does white and pink and blue noise too. But Joe says, I like brown best when I have to focus on work.

low bass roar. And according to an article on Live Science, it was named after some guy with the last name Brown and quote brown noise has nothing to do with the mythical brown note, a hypothetical low frequency sound said to cause people to lose control of their bowels. So brown noise is just basy stuff to listen to. It's just a bad name for a good thing, unlike shikshuka, which is a beautiful name for a disgusting thing. No offense shukchuka. Just please see my feelings about tomatoes earlier

in this episode of Ologies, which is a podcast. Also, many of you said, Hi, Hello, I listened to podcasts while I work to stay entertained, which makes sense given that you were writing into me someone who hosts a podcast, and I'm looking at you and Dolmeyer, Emily Anderson, Adam Weaver, Ren Beach, Rosa Vincentosaurus, and Sara And speaking of speaking

another brain, tricking your own brain tip. Gary Stobbs says, when I'm reading, I pretend that I'm reading in front of a sixth grade class because it helps me day focused.

And logan m uses the spoken content aid and the accessibility portion of the settings on an iPhone if there's no audiobook version of something, or when they want to listen to something rather than read it or listen as they read, and Katrina Wibol was like, heck, yes, screen Rader, but Katrina increases the playback speed to one and a half to two times of speed and then follows along reading with their eyes, and Katrina says, I get through

everything so much faster, and my brain's some water at all. Maybe you're listening to this on noise canceling headphones.

scrambled brain together ADHD or not? I feel yeah, so's Rosalo Dulita, who said, I have practiced that positive self talk can fight and write out the very intense feelings when they come. And another hot tip said many of you maybe therapy. Miranda says, get a therapist if you have the means, and so does Jamie Kishimoto. Get a therapist.

They say, even if you think you're not quote depressed enough for one and Kasey Kerrick and Lee t both agree, and Shannon and Marianna both wrote in to recommend dialectical behavioral therapy for some people for developing skills around emotional regulation and distress tolerance. And if you do have ADHD, perhaps gather a good support.

my productivity and my mental health. And Gaelic Pearl and Lizzie also say gather your people and maybe work together. Literally it's called body doubling. Janetta Sour says doing things in the presence of a solidarity human is amazing. Janetta Sour says I started hosting co working sessions in my coaching group, and they're the best decision I've made in the past year or so. And Miranda Buckley and Katie

Courtwright are like, yes this Yes. And Lisa wrote in to say, married to a lovely man with ADHD and what helps him is scaffolding, setting up a routine, and body doubling. So relationships, let's talk about them. So we're gonna cover some ADHD stuff, but just good practices, nonetheless from y'all. Derek says, I try to check in regularly with whomever I'm talking with. I say, do you have any thoughts, concerns, or feelings at this time? Very frequently.

It helps keep me from dominating a conversation act accidentally. I'm also time blind, they say, so I end up saying how are we doing for time? Pretty regularly too. The third phrase I say a lot is asking my cat why she is so baby? Derek Allen, thank you

for that. Now, if you accidentally interrupt people, Adam Weaver, Mercedes Maitland, and Analista Young all recommend holding up a finger instead or touching your nose to indicate I have a thing I want to say that I'm holding in So fingernosers unite.

a lot of arguments. And Katie tim says that they refer to their ADHD girlfriends long pauses mid sentence as glitches and wrote, we make it all into a computer metaphor.

For her, it takes the feeling of being a burden away because she definitely isn't And I can just say, hey, maybe you're glitching and she snaps out of it without being made to feel guilty about it, because glitching is just fine with me, Kate writes, and on that note, for people whose partners have ADHD, Stephanie Broches says, my main tip to those like me is purposely remember to be kind, and Brooke Elizabeth says just meet them where they are for a while, listen to the actual struggle

that they have and work to find a solution together. Loving your person means doing your best to understand them and why they do.

his art and video games. For hours, and remember it's a totally livable thing if you just find how your brain and body work and you listen to yourself. And lorain Aorad said, my tip is to be patient and kind with yourself. I also remind myself that ADHD gives me a unique perspective, and that perspective is extremely valuable. Rosa said, I try not to be too hard on myself when I make mistakes or I have troubles. Exceeding is something. This is just how my brain works, and

I wouldn't trade it for anything. Another pro tip is figure out what you're passionate about, and Miriam Hoflock wrote in and said, find your passion and run at it with full speed. And finally, never ever ever think of yourself as someone with a damaged or dysfunctional brain. We all think in processing comprehend differently, and you have the ability to see things in ways most other people don't. So find your bliss and obsess about it and change

the paradigm. Or, as Janetarsour said, find the perks and celebrate the shit out of them. ADHD also comes with superpowers, not just flaws. While Natalie Parsons made the point the only unhappy ADHD people I know are those who feel abnormal and rejected. Don't you think the problem is society, not us? And last piece of advice applicable to everyone from patron Patrick Voy said, most of all, give yourself

a break. Life is hard, and bullying yourself accomplishes nothing, while loving yourself, no matter what, accomplishes what is most important, accepting yourself, which is really sweet and it's making me cry. So there you go, folks. So now you know what your hot bod needs is you. You know, home is where the heart is, but it doesn't have to be that hard, and you do not have to match your socks, and that you can win a grappling match with father time.

And it's good to let your brain trick your brain. And that emo stuff is normal and okay, and you deserve some help and some solidarity to get through it.

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