All right, so just recorded those episodes. Now I'm sitting here eating lunch, watching Bill Murray doesn't flinch while eating spicy wings on YouTube. And he's talking about improv and... what it taught him about acting or some of the like key key lessons he learned and it was how to make the other actor look good and how like when you're just an actor you're just thinking about how
good you look or whatever kind of self-absorbed but but if you focus on making the other person look good it like relieves you of a whole lot of stress and you know whatever anyway and this spurred another thought It spurred another thought that I thought was related to what we just talked about. So I'm recording it because it's another one that's been rattling around. So the last episode was about judgment and contempt and when you feel it from other people and how to deal with that.
and it's some mental exercises but i did you know have this little diatribe in there about how you can't really think your way out of your nature sort of it's really hard to it's like you know trying to beat somebody up beat yourself up with a fly swatter or something i don't know it's trying to there's probably a good fun metaphor in there like trying to hammer a nail with the fly swatter this is what you're doing but you want that sledgehammer those big
environmental changes or whatever and and i find that that sometimes you know the be the or what is it you know people say that all the time it's like uh if you like in when you're going for a job or something it's like um Fake it till you make it or something like that. There is something to that. I've always liked that. It's like, well, you can always just behave as if you feel a certain way on the inside, you know, and sometimes that can impact what is on the inside, which I think is.
completely true. You can change your body language and feel more confident. There's a lot of things like that. So one of those practices, I think, here it is. is making is being happy for someone else that is a practice it's something that you can do people who are people who celebrate others wins They have good insides. And I think we all sense that. You know somebody in your life who's just rooting for you and is so happy for your wins. That's a sign of a person with healthy insides.
in my opinion and recently i was sitting so with you know the family that was just in town we're sitting there and somebody's talking about you know there's this horrid situation where somebody in our group whatever lost a ton of weight and his brother just is like mad about it for some reason somehow oh no at that person person's retiring and his brother is mad about it
I forget the reason. How could you be mad? How could you, is not like celebrating with him. And that person also just lost like 70 pounds. And his brother's not self-absorbed. And it's like, because it's whatever, it's self-absorbed. And so somebody else in the room said, it's like, how can somebody so self-absorbed, how can somebody be so self-absorbed to not be happy for their brother for these things, right?
And it's true. So it's a practice for me and it's something, it's nice to just have like a simple practice that I can think about and actually perform. It's like, how can you be happy for somebody genuinely and then show them that? You know, somebody else, even it's, it's much harder when that person is right in your circles or right close to you in some way. It's part of that. What I'm saying now, that's easy. It's hard when that person is your competition.
It's really hard to be happy for somebody who's competing with you. And yeah, that's the real measure of internal health, I think, you know? That's the real measure and it is hard as hell. But in general, I don't know. I just wanted to leave you with this that I think a good indicator of internal health is...
is how easily somebody is happy for other people. And I think a good fake it till you make it thing, if your internal life isn't as good as you want it to be, if some of your, if negative emotions get the best to you sometimes, then I think a good practice is... being happy for people and celebrating other people's wins um it signals well it looks good and it makes you feel good and i think it impacts some of that change that you want to see inside yourself so i'll be seeing you