I have never been good at doing what I am supposed to do. Because of that, I have caught a lot of flak over the years from the “keepers of order.” It seems that most people want a clear outline of how they are expected to behave, the more detail the better. If you give me a list of things to do I will struggle, but if you give me an objective to achieve, I come alive. In my early 20’s I found myself face-to-face with one of the most confusing concepts surrounding spiritual life.
Aug 12, 2025•8 min•Ep. 24
The greatest battle each of us must face is the battle to defeat ourselves. The world we have been baked in our entire lives tells us that we deserve to have what we want when we want it. The average person is hit with 5-10K marketing messages a day. Most of them we don’t even notice because of how many are coming at us, we have developed selective attention. So marketers work harder and harder to make us notice theirs amidst the sea of ads floating past our subconscious every day. And yet many ...
Aug 12, 2025•9 min•Ep. 23
As people who live in the information age, we are used to being able to find answers to almost any questions we have. Finding these answers has gotten infinitely easier over just the last 50 years. My parents had libraries and encyclopedias when they were in high school, and now we have AI in our pockets searching the far reaches of human knowledge and providing us with almost instant answers in a format of our choosing. Rewind the clock of human civilization a couple of hundred years, and acces...
Jul 29, 2025•10 min•Ep. 22
Larry Mills is a mentor of mine and a master at asking challenging questions that lead to deep thinking and changed lives. When people come to him with their frustrations and challenges, he often asks, “Is this situation life-threatening or ego-threatening?” It turns out most challenges we face in life are not life-threatening. Usually, when we are frustrated, disappointed, angry, or let down, it is because our ego is threatened. This simple but profound question has led me to see that most of w...
Jul 22, 2025•6 min•Ep. 21
A year and a half ago, I began studying male initiation because I wanted to understand how I could be intentional about raising my boys. Since then, I have read lots of books, talked to lots of people, and begun writing what I have learned into a simple and applicable model to guide how I raise my boys. Here is an overview of what I learned and some of the most important principles.
Jul 15, 2025•12 min•Ep. 20
Every person experiences wounding, some have the courage to heal. Part of the myth of the strong man is the belief that a man is not weak, and therefore, he doesn’t need to heal spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I believe that everyone needs healing because everyone has been hurt. Some are small wounds, like things said to you that led you to feel shame and insecurity. Others are massive wounds that come from what other people have done to you and how it made you view yourself. Whether our...
Jul 07, 2025•13 min•Ep. 19
Sixteen years ago, I began praying some courageous prayers. At the time, I didn’t really have an idea where they would take me or what they would require of me. Looking back, I can see how God has answered those prayers, even if His answers and mine looked very different. I think we all need to be willing to pray prayers that make us very uncomfortable.
Jun 17, 2025•9 min•Ep. 18
Every society is built on stories that tell people who they are, where they come from, and what to expect from life. Most of the stories our modern culture is built on are lies. Some are fictional works of art, and others are true stories that have been retold through our modern worldview and lost their deeper meaning. Kids and young adults now grow up on a diet of almost all fictional stories that celebrate the superhero, the genius, the explorer, and the warrior. Most of our modern cultural st...
Jun 12, 2025•10 min•Ep. 17
In this note I talk about how mentors have shaped my life and why everyone needs these critical relationships.
Jun 03, 2025•20 min•Ep. 16
We have a dangerously flawed view of what work is and the role it has in our lives. There is no question that most of us have to work to make a living and provide for our families. Unfortunately, what we do for a living has become an integral part of most people's identities.
May 27, 2025•15 min•Ep. 15
Too much comfort is a barrier to our journey of growth. Are we defining success as wealth, stuff, recognition and influence or are we operating out of a higher definition of success?
May 20, 2025•11 min•Ep. 14
Are our actions and decisions driven by rules or identity? In this note I share about a tool one of my mentors shared with me called The Rule Line.
May 19, 2025•12 min•Ep. 13
In this note I look at the cultural division we have between sacred things and the rest of our lives. This division is unique to modern cultures and makes it hard for us to recognize the spiritual in all aspects of live.
May 13, 2025•18 min•Ep. 12
In this note we unpack how our current paradigms about God and our relationship with him have been shaped by our modern world. Then I discuss how we can rebuild our paradigms to align with the path of discipleship that Jesus invited us into.
Apr 22, 2025•16 min•Ep. 11
In this note I dive into how we can often lose touch with truth and be our own worst enemy.
Apr 14, 2025•8 min•Ep. 10
In this note I explore our tendency to think that successful people in all areas of life "know what they are doing." In reality most of the time nobody knows what they are doing whether in business, family or faith.
Apr 08, 2025•7 min•Ep. 9
In this note I explore how organizational thinking limits our lives and relationships.
Apr 05, 2025•13 min•Ep. 8
In this Note I dive into what it means to die to our false self.
Apr 04, 2025•12 min•Ep. 7
Identity is a very important concept, but what does it actually mean? In this Note we discuss what Identity is and how it drives our lives.
Apr 01, 2025•11 min•Ep. 6
In this note I talk about what it means to renew our minds and how to do it.
Mar 25, 2025•14 min•Ep. 5
In this note I share about my experience wrestling with what I really wanted and hearing God for the first time.
Mar 18, 2025•11 min•Ep. 4
This note explores how content feeds and technology shape our expectations and perception of reality.
Mar 15, 2025•12 min•Ep. 3
In this note I look at how technology and media are designed to steal our time and attention.
Mar 11, 2025•11 min•Ep. 2
An introduction to personal transformation journeys, their role in society and impact on us.
Mar 10, 2025•12 min•Ep. 1
