Not Just a Stepmom Podcast

Heidi Farrell & Ellie Marooney

Heidi Farrell and Ellie Marooney co-host a podcast designed to encourage, strengthen, and provide practical tools for women raising stepchildren, biological, and/or "ours" babies.

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Episode 6: Maintaining a Household (Sort of!) in a Stepfamily

Heidi and Ellie get real about what it means to have a constant flux of people coming and going, with big kids, little kids, and all.the.stuff! They share some of the areas they struggle in to maintain a household, but offer suggestions and encouragement to make a few changes that will bring functionality and aesthetic enjoyment of the home, as well as a mindset shift when it comes to tackling the cleaning. Make sure to visit notjustastepmom.com for Heidi's eBook, blog posts, and to schedule a c...

Oct 31, 2021•44 min•Season 1Ep. 6

Episode 5 Bonus: A Dad's Blessing

What happens when a dad looks at his children and speaks life over them? We get a glimpse into how God wants to love and cherish us. Listen to this short bonus material from episode 5 about how Ellie's husband does this for their kids. And hear a blessing meant just for you, too!

Mar 11, 2021•9 min•Season 1Ep. 5

Episode 5: Helping Your Stepkids Adjust to an "Ours Baby"

Whether or not your stepkids were on board with the idea, repercussions from the change that a baby adds are inevitable. Doing these things we’re going to talk about today doesn’t guarantee a perfect relationship between you and your stepchild, or between your stepchild and “ours baby,” but it can certainly help when it comes to resentment and jealousy building up in your stepchild, which often comes out in ugly ways. As the stepparent, we have the power to build up our stepkids, to speak life i...

Mar 11, 2021•30 min•Season 1Ep. 5

Episode 4: Some Questions to Ask When You're Considering Adding An Ours Baby

What happens if you are more than ready to add a baby to your stepfamily but your spouse/partner is hesitant? Maybe he is reluctant to have to put his kids through yet another major change. He may feel stretched financially and is concerned about the costs involved in adding another child. Perhaps he is older and feels like the baby ship has sailed: He is beyond wanting to consider all things baby and wants to focus on building a life with you and his kids. While those reasons may all be justifi...

Feb 05, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 4

Episode 3: Is It Possible To Prioritize The Marriage in a Stepfamily?

When a couple in a stepfamily is confronted with the question of what comes first - the kids or a marriage, that can be a confusing, divisive subject! For a parent bringing a child into the marriage, that parent may be hesitant to prioritize the new spouse over the child. They feel responsible for advocating for their child, for shielding their child from even more change, and they often try to compensate for some of the pain the child has already faced. In the biological parent’s mind, their ch...

Jan 29, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 3

Episode 2: Adding An Ours Baby - When Unmet Expectations Cause Tension in Your Stepfamily

When a woman has a baby, she is confronted with emotions she never knew she had. If that woman is also a stepmom -- playing a part in raising children she didn’t give birth to -- along with adding in an “ours baby,” it can be easy for her to feel a whole extra set of emotions on top of the things she’s feeling as a new mom! Things like wondering how everyone will acclimate to the changes a baby will bring, to worrying whether her stepchildren will be gentle around the baby, to wondering why her ...

Jan 29, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 2

Episode 1: Help! My Husband Won't Parent His Kids!

When you think back to when you fell in love with your husband, it’s quite possible that you were drawn to his nurturing father side. You saw a man who loved his children, who looked at them like they were the apple of his eye. In fact, watching him parent his kids gave you a peek into your future together, as you imagined him looking at you with the same affection, and maybe even at the little baby you hoped to bring into the world together. But then you merged lives and households and you star...

Jan 29, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 1

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