This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ Do you feel that heat wave? We’re not bothered. It’s time for Jess and Caroline to enter the dating waters once more, to discuss listener’s burning questions about all things modern love. They start by talking through a love interest who doesn’t communicate well, weigh the pros and cons of sharing location with your partner, and then discuss the phenomenon of catching f...
Jun 26, 2025•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 128
Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __ Kooks, do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by a missed call from a long-distance friend? Or inundated with requests for in-person hangs? Jess and Caroline talk through feeling crazy for complaining about friendship, even though the social overwhelm is STRONG right now. J offers some tips to a friend who called in to the pod about these very problems, and guides C through her own similar issues. P...
Jun 19, 2025•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 127
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner __ Well babies, we’ve come full circle. Or, at least, Caroline and Jess have! In this episode, they discuss seeing an ex in a happy relationship, getting an apology from an ex years later, and trusting your feelings in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right. They answer a ...
Jun 12, 2025•1 hr 16 min•Season 1Ep. 126
Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM __ Has your friend said something weird to you, and you don’t know how to deal with it? Same with Jess. This week, Jess and Caroline dive deep into when to expend energy on a friendship, and when to rein it in. They ruminate on when it’s beneficial to communicate, when it’s better to rest, and when it’s best to pause to figure out what you really want to say. It’s tricky! Plus, there’s a few things we need to go over: AI ads a...
Jun 05, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 125
It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship. Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what emotional baggage is/is not allowed to bring to new relationship...
May 29, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 124
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ Babies, it’s time to get in touch with your rage. This week, Jess and Caroline talk about feeling rage for yourself and on behalf of others, why we’re actually happier in our 30s, and the freedom you feel when you don’t worry what others think about you. Then a listener WHATADO leads them to discuss the chasm between friends in different life stages, the pressures of marria...
May 22, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 123
Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Check out SKIMS best intimates including the Fits Everybody Collection and more at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner __ Turn out the lights and get comfy, because today is a total sleepover-vibe episode. Jess and Caroline discuss weird-shaped cookie cutters, baking reality tv, and the satisfaction of untangling a necklace, before diving deeper on their thoughts about Love on the Spectrum...
May 15, 2025•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 122
Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM __ Good morning, sunshines! This week, Jess and Caroline talk about a new friendship hack: the couple sleepover. They ruminate on casual, frequent hangouts, talk about spontaneous outings, and consider the sunken cost fallacy when it comes to an event not working out the way you envisioned. Plus, they chat about what they have trouble spending money on, a few things they are really glad they spent money on, and a couple annoyin...
May 08, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 121
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ Icks. We all have one, we all are one. Jess and Caroline read listener submissions that, quite frankly, are indefensible—but that’s the point. You can’t explain an ick. They talk about anything from men’s gross feet to people drinking full glasses of milk to someone bragging about eating a bunch of exotic fruit. Warning: you will cringe. A few submissions lend to deeper conve...
May 01, 2025•1 hr 14 min
Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code NOTFOREVERYONE at Lumedeodorant.com ! #lumepod __ Babies, let’s talk about relationships! But not just romantic relationships—Jess and Caroline are going deep on how families deal with conflict, hanging out with friends without your partner, and how siblings affect us. You heard it here first: sibling relationships, and not just birth order, are going to be the next pop psychology subject. Plus: J and C read a listene...
Apr 24, 2025•1 hr 23 min•Season 1Ep. 119
Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __ It's a kooky day in the neighborhood as Jess and Caroline bounce through topics from maintaining bangs to hating at a bridal fitting to blush trends and more. But don't let the topic list fool you; they get deep fast as they explore all the ways we tend ...
Apr 17, 2025•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 118
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code NOTFOREVERYONE at Lumedeodorant.com ! #lumepod __ Ever wondered if you’re in the wrong? Jess and Caroline are talking through listener submissions for a new ~segment~ called “Am I the Hater?” to get to the root of each problem. They discuss asking your partner to give you gifts, wishing your friends hadn’...
Apr 10, 2025•1 hr 26 min•Season 1Ep. 117
Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM __ Hello babies! Have you ever flirted to get something you want? Jess starts the episode off talking about her trip to NYC and a flirting method she used to get her boyfriend on the flight back. This leads to a deeper conversation about seeing your partner flirt with someone else, how the cliches of “finding love” might be true, and advice for friends that actually works. Plus, Jess and Caroline dive into different ideas about...
Apr 03, 2025•1 hr 14 min•Season 1Ep. 116
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ Well, there’s no easy way to say this: the episode just does start out with a lot of bathroom horror stories. But it’s human, babies!! You get it. Jess and Caroline talk about doctor’s office shenanigans, public bathroom woes, ancient Roman ways of using the bathroom, and a few of their own experiences where they didn’t quite make it, if you know what we mean. But that’s not all! S...
Mar 27, 2025•1 hr 33 min•Season 1Ep. 115
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __ Your hater and lover are back together again! After debriefing on the past two week’s episodes featuring friends, Caroline and Jess shift into how their families would fare in the apocalypse, give an update on their thoughts on...
Mar 20, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 114
Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner Start with 50% off your first box with code notforeveryone50 at https://get.everyplate.com/podcast . EveryPlate offer valid with auto-renewing subscription. __ Jess has told us the greatest stories about her best friend Kae, and now finally, Kae joins for a Love Letter episode! The two discuss maintaining their friendship over a 15-year period, navigating friendship struggles, and giggle a lot about the...
Mar 13, 2025•1 hr 33 min•Season 1Ep. 113
It’s about time we had another Hater Hour…and in this episode, Caroline is joined by Not For Everyone Editor Prince Abi! They’ve got lots to say about listener submissions, including discussions about freelancing, working together while maintaining their friendship, building a life post-religion, making meaningful adult friend groups, and navigating romantic partnership dynamics. Plus, they read their first DMs to each other, answer a few hot takes, reminisce on a shared traumatic experience, gi...
Mar 06, 2025•1 hr 38 min•Season 1Ep. 112
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ It’s time for a new segment! Introducing Am I The Hater, a take on Reddit’s famous Am I The Asshole threads, where listeners write in about moments where they can’t tell if they’re in the wrong. Jess and Caroline talk through a submitter’s conundrum of talking too much when a partner is not in the space to hear it. They dive deep into believing your partner loves your q...
Feb 27, 2025•1 hr 23 min•Season 1Ep. 111
Go to Zocdoc.com/NOTFOREVERYONE to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __ Carter's Events, Workshops, and 1-on-1s: - ARTIST'S WAY CREATIVITY COURSE: https://www.carterumhau.com/artists-way-course-page/ - 1-on-1 APPOINTMENTS: https://www.carterumhau.com/appointments-2- EVENTS: https://www.carterumhau.com/events- CONTACT: https://www.carterumhau.com/ - IG: @carterfleet. *** Boy, do we have a treat for you! Jess and Caroline sit down with therapist, artist, and writer Carter Umhau...
Feb 20, 2025•1 hr 41 min•Season 1Ep. 110
Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at https://hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm . This show is sponsored by Skims. Check them out at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner __ Look, the Grammys came and went, but don’t think for one minute Jess and Caroline are going to pass up a chance to talk about Beyoncé. C brings up a Beyoncé conspiracy theory, J brings her defense to the table, C continues to litigate, J pushes back, and it all ends up with the two...
Feb 13, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 109
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. __ Ever fantasized about rage quitting? You’re not alone. Jess and Caroline are discussing all things work this week, from the benefits of corporate jobs to balancing work with other projects to the spectrum of people’s working styles. Are you more of a “I take naps throughout the workday” or a “I’ll create work when there’s nothing to do”? Either way, J and C are going to...
Feb 06, 2025•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 108
Go to Zocdoc.com/NOTFOREVERYONE to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at https://hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm . __ Shall we start things off with a complaint? The answer is always yes. Jess and Caroline are really annoyed by the lack of good lamps in the world, which leads them to discuss finding their personal interior design style, sharing a space with another person, and even testing out what it’s like to sl...
Jan 30, 2025•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 107
Go to Zocdoc.com/NOTFOREVERYONE to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __ This frigid winter really needs to go…so Jess and Caroline are bringing the heat. They collected a few listener hot takes to discuss on this week’s episode, including naps, TikTok, straight men who only have female friends, licking envelopes, passive aggressiveness, work colleagues, and airplane trash. Unsurprisingly, their opinions lead to some deep chats about redefining “community,” the difference between ...
Jan 23, 2025•1 hr 27 min•Season 1Ep. 106
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month. This show is sponsored by Skims. Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner __ Coming off the holidays, Jess and Caroline talk tears, sibling rivalries, and myths about sensitivity. Amidst all the family stress, though, there were a few bright sides: they discuss classic Christmas movies and how one of them led to a night ...
Jan 16, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 105
You wanted sleepover vibes? You got it. This week, Caroline and Jess discuss how giving credence to your feelings actually helps you move through the hard stuff easier, while reminding you that the made-up meaning in conflict is the scary part. They talk about the point of college being exploration, and Jess ruminates on some a cappella experiences. But first, ever heard of the technology adoption life cycle? Caroline talks about her TikTok misconception and Jess tells us why software updates ar...
Jan 09, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 104
Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at https://hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm . __ Happy New Year, kooks! This week, Jess and Caroline discuss a few listener WHATADOs that revolve around goals for 2025. Think finding the right motivation, working through emotional dysregulation, starting a side hustle, and making peace with being single. But of course, they talk about a few pet peeves first: New Years itself, hairbands on people’s wrists, and smartphones. This episod...
Jan 02, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 103
This episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh. Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone. Shop SKIMS Holiday Shop at https://skims.com/notforeveryone. After you place your order, select "podcast" in the survey and select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. __ It’s the last episode of the year, and Jess and Caroline are feeling kooky. After circling back on owls, they discuss what’s wrong with influencers, a pronunciation mishap in a sexual situation, and what it might be ...
Dec 19, 2024•1 hr 17 min•Season 1Ep. 102
This episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh. Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone. This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. And make sure to check out our SECOND ANNIVERSARY APPAREL LAUNCH at https://nfepodapparel.com. 10% off with code SCIENTIST through December 16, 2024. __ Who’s ready for part two of all things dating apps?! The kings and their kings are BACK to discuss even more dating app conundrums. They debat...
Dec 12, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 101
Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/NOTFOREVERYONE . Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. And make sure to check out our SECOND ANNIVERSARY APPAREL LAUNCH at nfepodapparel.com . 10% off with code SCIENTIST through December 16, 2024. __ The boys are back in town! The kings to our kings (just go with it), Justin and Ryan, join Caroline and Jess to talk all about dating apps. Who better to discuss the apps than four people who met on them? The barbershop quartet discusses listener WHATADOs, like what photos to ...
Dec 05, 2024•1 hr 33 min•Season 1Ep. 100
Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone . Visit skims.com and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout. Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/NOTFOREVERYONE . Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ This podcast is like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re gonna get. Caroline and Jess discuss how adventure can be simply leaving the house, some of their instinctive feelings about their futures, how “you’re welcome to join” feels like a slight, an...
Nov 21, 2024•1 hr 19 min•Season 1Ep. 99
