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Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield,Carly Harrispodcasters.spotify.com

When two single mums come together to talk about the realisation of their marriages ending. Chatting all about the new challenges faced as a single parent, coparenting, dating again in your 30s and everything in between. We love hearing from you about your stories, dilemmas, dating disasters, happy endings (both kinds) so email us on notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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Episodes

35. Apparently I Give Better Blowjobs

A lot of laughs and tears this week as we share some male perspectives on relationships as well as some crazy dating stories, listening to your gut and hearing your blowjobs are better than the other woman!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acas...

Mar 14, 202453 minSeason 1Ep. 35

34. Buy Me a F****** Meal First Hun

We answer some intrusive questions we always get asked… also sharing our biggest icks, green flags and teaching men what women really likeProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Mar 07, 202448 minSeason 4Ep. 34

33. Lydia Bright: The Single Mum Club

We talk about becoming single mums and the highs and lows as well as dating, fostering and Lydia shared her new and exciting venture with us!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Feb 29, 202455 minSeason 1Ep. 33

32. Hindsight Is A Wonderful Thing

This week we talk about setting those boundaries, learning lessons from past relationships and not staying in those toxic envoirnments.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Feb 22, 202456 minSeason 1Ep. 32

31. Babe... He's Married!

A man whose most certainly married, whether you should go back to your maiden name and being submerged in balls….Talking about it all this week!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Feb 15, 202447 minSeason 1Ep. 31

30. What Would You Rather??

Valentine’s Day might be approaching but we aren’t talking all roses and sunshine’s this week. We share your date fails, terrible valentines stories and want to know if you would rather give up sex toys or microwaves!Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acas...

Feb 08, 202445 minSeason 1Ep. 30

29. You Made a Lucky Escape

Should you tell your kids about infidelity? Do you admit to having children when dating and how to cope with feeling insecure. We discuss it all on this week’s episode.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Feb 01, 202454 minSeason 1Ep. 29

28. He Actually Spent the Evening In a Motorway Hotel

From the obvious red flags to the in law dramas we share your stories and continue to give our opinions to your questions. And don’t worry the confessions will forever be anonymousProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inf...

Jan 25, 202448 minSeason 1Ep. 28

27. We Broke Up

January seems to be a hard month when it comes to break ups and separation. We talk about this raw topic as one of us goes through the motions of a break upProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Jan 18, 202458 minSeason 1Ep. 27

26. Jessica Hayes: An Honest Chat About Being a Single Parent

We talk to Love Island star and influencer Jessica Hayes about becoming a single parent, loss and navigating coparentingTrigger Warning: Baby LossProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Jan 11, 202454 minSeason 1Ep. 26

25. A Fresh New Year

This week we talk all about resolutions, lessons learnt and focuses for the year ahead.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jan 04, 20241 hr 1 minSeason 1Ep. 25

24. He Was Cheating on Me With 4 People

Hearing and sharing your dilemmas and experiences with some shocking stories and giving you our advice the best way we can. We love hearing from you so make sure you continue emailing in anything you want to be shared anonymously of coursehas context menuProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons....

Dec 21, 202349 minSeason 1Ep. 24

23. That’s Triggering

This episode we talk about discovering triggers following trauma in past relationships and what we’re doing to work on themProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dec 14, 202354 minSeason 1Ep. 23

22. Shelley J Whitehead: Healing your Heartbreak

We talk all about fixing relationships, how to leave bad ones and learning more about yourself in order to make your relationship successful.Shelly's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelleyjwhitehead/Shelly's Website:https://shelleyjwhitehead.comProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/...

Dec 07, 202352 minSeason 1Ep. 22

21. Tis the Season

We talk about the anxiety surrounding Christmas as a single parent, elf on the shelf and a cheeky surpriseProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nov 30, 202349 minSeason 1Ep. 21

20. The Legal Queen: The Knowledge of all Things Divorce

Helping understand the financial battles, how to split the children and all those questions surrounding divorceProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nov 23, 202356 minSeason 1Ep. 20

19. Daniel Chidiac: His Take on Relationships

We are so excited to have our first guest Daniel Chidiac chatting to us all about relationships. He’s an Australian author with two amazing books which you need to check out. His insight on relationships, and present day dating really resonated with us and we think you will love what he has to say as much as we didProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution...

Nov 16, 202352 minSeason 1Ep. 19

18. Reasons to Stay or Leave

We talk about what we believe to be the key reasons to leaving or staying in a relationship. Of course no relationship is perfect but we feel like these topics we touch on our important foundations for successful relationships. We also share our experiences along the way as well as some of your emails.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0...

Nov 09, 202352 minSeason 1Ep. 18

17. Trying to Parent With Your Ex

Sharing your children and parenting with someone you’re trying to move on from can be a challenge to say the least. We share both ours and your experiences, hopefully showing you that your feelings and doubts are valid and so normal.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0...

Nov 02, 202354 minSeason 1Ep. 17

16. The Downside of Social Media

This week we talk all things social media. Including the impact it has on mum guilt, pressure, comparisons and the list goes on ... Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Oct 26, 202355 minSeason 1Ep. 16

15. Mum Guilt... But has Anyone Heard of Dad Guilt?

It’s like the minute you become a mum you feel guilty for everything? You can’t win because even if you don’t feel guilty you feel guilty for not feeling guilty. It’s safe to say mum guilt is real.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pri...

Oct 19, 202349 minSeason 1Ep. 15

14. He Asked Me If I Wanted to Be Spanked and Whipped

Let's talk about sex fetishes. The sexy, the dirty and the downright weird. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 05, 202349 minSeason 1Ep. 14

13. Friends… some you gain and some you lose

This week we talk all things friendship; how it changes with motherhood, going through different situations and how they can serve different purposes as we navigate life.Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Sep 28, 202343 minSeason 1Ep. 13

12. Continuing the Healing Journey

Discussing more into our healing journey, our biggest fears of ending our relationships and how it can impact new relationships.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Sep 20, 202354 minSeason 1Ep. 12

11. Becoming a Mother

Trigger WarningWe chat all about our first experiences becoming mothers, explaining those overwhelming feelings and sadly some births not going as planned. We also touch on how becoming parents has an effect on your relationship with your partner.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/lice...

Sep 14, 202352 minSeason 1Ep. 11

10. Dating in your 30s

Let’s delve deeper into dating in your 30s, talking about those first date rules and sharing your good and bad experiences as well as ours.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Sep 07, 202353 minSeason 1Ep. 10

9. Manifesting a positive mindset

We share in more detail our healing processes through journaling, manifesting and vision boards. The perfect way to make change and you can start now.Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Aug 31, 202345 minSeason 1Ep. 9

8. Second Chances

Second chances… do you believe in them? With different opinions, we share our experiences and your stories that you’ve sent in to give you an insight into whether second chances can workProducer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for m...

Aug 24, 202350 minSeason 1Ep. 11

7. Let’s Talk Dating Apps

It’s time to start dating again and we are here to talk all about dating apps, things to avoid on those first dates and knowing when you’re ready to start dating again after heartbreakProducer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mor...

Aug 17, 202357 minSeason 1Ep. 7

6. Our First Holiday As Solo Parents

Going on holiday with your children is hard enough but going without your partner was definitely a new challenge for us both in different ways. Also chatting about other firsts as single parents and accepting those changes.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted o...

Aug 10, 202350 minSeason 1Ep. 6
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