Marshall Rosenberg’s topics include: Gratitude exercises, the making of giraffe fuel for life, components of gratitude, reward and punishment, hearing people’s feelings and needs rather than their thoughts, what stops us from celebrating life, and more. Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast, contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to dis...
Oct 05, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Season 3Ep. 1
I sometimes do workshops just with the married couples or other people living together in a love relationship and what we do to begin the workshop. We identify the couple who has had a conflict, the longest outstanding conflict that could not be resolved. I make a prediction and it's right. My prediction has been accurate and it may be I'm sure at least 75% of the cases, but my prediction is this that we will resolve the conflict within 20 minutes, within 20 minutes. From the point at which both...
Sep 10, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 3
How to make clear requests after we have expressed our unmet need. A clear request defined in giraffe is first, it's a positive action. We say what we do want, not what we don't want. A woman gave me a very good example of what happens when you say what you don't want, in a workshop. She said, you've really helped me understand what happened to recently, Marshall. I said to my husband, I don't want you spending so much time work. Then I got furious with him, when he signed up for a golf tourname...
Sep 10, 2020•54 min•Season 2Ep. 2
The Purpose of Nonviolent Communication & Expressing Observations and Feelings Comment First let me begin by clarifying the purpose of Nonviolent Communication. Its purpose is to help you to do what you already know how to do. Why do we need to learn something today that you already know how to do? Because sometimes we forget to do this. We forget because we’ve been educated to forget. Now what is it that i’m talking about that we already know how to do? The purpose of this process is to hel...
Sep 10, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 1
In this session, I'll be talking about the role that sincere gratitude plays in helping us to remember what nonviolent communication is intended to serve. And to help us to maintain the energy that it takes to stay compassionate in a world that often makes that quite challenging. In an earlier session, I described the spirituality that nonviolent communication was designed to serve this process, nonviolent communication has great power to enrich our lives, when it is our intention to create the ...
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In this session, I'll be focusing on how nonviolent communication can support our social change efforts. In previous sessions, I've shown how social change can be used to communicate with ourselves. We've also looked at how it can be used to communicate with others and our family relationships and our work relationships. Now, let's take a look at social change, which for me, to a large extent, shows how to use nonviolent communication when we are communicating with gangs. Now some gangs call the...
Feb 03, 2020•50 min•Season 1Ep. 8
I'll be showing the power that empathy has in three functions, healing, mediation, and reconciliation. In the previous session, we looked at the dynamics of empathy. We saw how it requires our full presence to another person, and full presence on what's alive in them, what they're feeling and needing. In this session, I will show just how powerful that process can be. In healing past wounds, mediating conflicts between people, and reconciling groups that are at war with each other, to see how th...
Feb 03, 2020•54 min•Season 1Ep. 7
In this session, I'll be talking about authority, both how we exercise authority, and how we experience it, and how certain institutions are set up to give us certain qualities of authority. nonviolent communication suggest that we get certain things clear when we're in a position of authority or when we're dealing with people in positions of authority. Some very important differentiations. One of these is the difference between respect for authority and fear of authority. Getting these mixed up...
Feb 03, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this session, I'll be talking about how nonviolent communication can support us in deepening our intimate relationships. And let's start with a dialogue that is likely to be heard in almost any intimate relationship, at least variations of it. One person says to the other, do you love me? And the other person said, Oh, yes, of course. And the first person said, but I want you to be really sincere about this. I want you to seriously look at this. Do you love me? And the other person seriously ...
Feb 03, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 5
I relate empathy to surfboard riding. Imagine yourself getting up on a surfboard, this requires getting in touch with a certain energy. If you don't get on exactly, you can get knocked off. To me, empathy is somewhat like that. Empathy is getting in touch with a life energy that's coming through another person. Now, as I have expressed in other sessions, the life energy that's coming through people at each moment, I have learned can best be described in words by referring to what that person is ...
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Observations and Evaluations - Developing a Literacy of Needs and Strategies We're interested, in nonviolent communication, with the kind of honesty that supports people connecting with each other in a way that makes compassionate giving inevitable, that makes it enjoyable for people to contribute to each other's well being. This kind of honesty basically involves telling people what's alive in us, without using any words that criticize, and tell people what would make life more wonderful for us...
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Working with anger, depression, self-judgement, and not giving away our power to cultural programming In this session, I would like to focus on how we apply non violent communication within ourselves. Then violent communication requires quite a transformation from how many of us have been programmed to communicate. Many of us have been programmed to communicate in terms of a language of categorizing people and their actions to judge what they are for doing what they’re doing. Excerpt: OJ Harvey ...
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 2
In this session, I’ll be giving you an introduction to how I came about the process I’ll be talking about and I’ll be sharing with you its purpose and give you an outline of it. The process I call nonviolent communication. Excerpt : The process that I call nonviolent communication consists of an intention to contribute to our own well being, and the well being of others, compassionately [14:57] And what I mean by giving compassionately is first of all of it, whatever we do is done willingly. It’...
Feb 03, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 1
