A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins , a restorative family mediator and certified divorce coach who shares insights for porn addiction recovery, religious trauma, and high-conflict rela...
Jun 26, 2025•58 min
We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety , long after you’ve quit porn? In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn, but before I had truly healed. This isn’t just about addiction. It’s about how perfectionism, spirit...
Jun 19, 2025•43 min
Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You’ll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your shame, and begin the process to stop for good. We talk honestly about how masturbation addiction rewires you...
Jun 05, 2025•32 min
Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire , Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how both behaviors reinforce the same addictive pathways in the brain. You’ll learn: How dopamine dysregula...
May 29, 2025•31 min
If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her moods... but your missing leadership? In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men’s coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, overcome porn addiction, and become the grounded, trusted man your partner longs for. You’ll learn how...
May 21, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit? In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle. You’ll learn how to respond to cravings, urges, and negative self-talk using...
May 15, 2025•47 min
In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers . Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything. Together, Jason and I dive into: Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction. How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses. What it really means to heal — beyond symptom management. The transformati...
May 07, 2025•1 hr 6 min
Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast , host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy. 👉 Grab your FREE DOWNLOAD of The 8 Tools to Heal from Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Here. 👉 Grab the Raabsmith's Free Guide: The Honest Connection In this episode, you’ll hear: The ...
Apr 30, 2025•1 hr 11 min
Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term? In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery : gratitude . Learn how daily gratitude can: Rewire your brain using neuroplasticity Reduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortex Replace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purpose Build a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just discipline I also walk you through my personal morning gratitude...
Apr 23, 2025•30 min
What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup. But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life. In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his wife and kids were out of the country—how he avoided porn cravings, built emotional resilience, and grew s...
Apr 16, 2025•32 min
How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency. If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency. You may have achieved a week or two of sobriety at some point. Or even a few months. But would you like to make ...
Apr 02, 2025•30 min
My conversation today is with George Haymaker. We discuss the neuroscience of quitting porn and other addictions, and how to change habit patterns and rewire your brain. George is an inspiring man with an incredible story. He’s helped many people heal their brains and change their habits for the better. He is a certified neuroscience coach & consultant, and an impressive entrepreneur with a long history of successful business ventures. George helps addicts overcome their destructive patterns...
Mar 26, 2025•1 hr 20 min
It can be very hard for many men to stay sober from porn on vacations - both during and after. We are thrown out of our structure and norm, and many of us can feel far more impulsive and prone towards porn addiction. This can seem counterintuitive, as you'd think that vacation and travel would make it easier to stay sober. I talk about why this is not the case for many people, why post-vacation can be a time of serious relapse with porn, and how to guard against these pitfalls and stay clean of ...
Mar 19, 2025•35 min
When your husband is addicted to porn, you can feel powerless to stop it. You may ask: How do I stop my husband from watching porn? Is there something I can say or do that will convince him? If only I could find the right words, maybe he would finally feel motivated and stop hurting me and our family like this. Anger and feeling the impulse to control him is normal. Feeling judgmental, hateful, and appalled by his behavior is normal too. You wish you knew what to do, and you can’t help feeling s...
Mar 12, 2025•1 hr 2 min
There are a lot of voices out there telling you that all you need to quit porn addiction is more discipline. They say you just have to want it bad enough, fight hard enough, and exert enough self-control. But if you’ve ever tried to stop watching porn using willpower alone, you already know—it doesn’t work. In fact, relying on willpower actually fuels porn addiction. Today, I’m going to show you why, and more importantly, what works instead. Willpower Is a Symptom of Recovery, Not the Cause of I...
Feb 26, 2025•33 min
Why doesn’t God take away your porn addiction? People tell you to give your addiction to Christ, and it doesn’t seem to work for you. Why? I remember how frustrated I used to be by this concept of giving my addiction over to Christ. People advised me to simply surrender to Christ and that was the answer to get sober. But it didn’t work for me. I thought this might be because God didn’t love me, didn’t care, or that I was simply too sinful a person. I’ve worked with men across the world who strug...
Feb 19, 2025•40 min
Do you feel like your wife is ignoring your progress with porn addiction? That she doesn’t understand how difficult it is for you to quit porn? Do you feel like you can get sober for a few weeks, or even a few months, but when you relapse with porn it is devastating for her, and you have to start over from square one? Do you feel like you can’t do anything right in her eyes because of your pornography addiction? That she sees even your best intentions to be loving and kind as selfish and self-ce...
Feb 12, 2025•39 min
Do you believe that you are genetically prone to addiction? What if you could alter these genetics? Today, I speak with Dr. Evelyn Higgins with Wired for Addiction about the science behind porn addiction, specifically the impact of epigenetics on addiction. According to Dr. Higgins, we can alter our genetic expression, developing a completely different way of life, and rewiring our brain to overcome porn addiction. Dr. Evelyn Higgins is an internationally recognized expert in epidemiology of sub...
Feb 05, 2025•57 min
Today, I’m joined by Owen Marcus, an expert in somatic and emotional healing for men across the world. His company is called MELD. He is highly knowledgeable, with 30+ years of experience, and it was a real pleasure speaking with him. Many of us men struggle to express our emotions. It’s classic! What we may not know, though, is that unprocessed hard emotions can easily evolve into porn cravings and porn relapse. Anger and shame (the feeling of not being good enough) often drove my cravings for ...
Jan 29, 2025•1 hr 13 min
I had an excellent conversation with Tony Smith from The Walk Family Podcast - a Christian podcast for parents. It was a huge privilege talking with Tony about the true struggle of pornography addiction in this country and around the world. As many of you guys know, porn addiction is rampant. This is no longer the 90’s where the internet was new - porn is now recognized as a legitimate addiction across the world. While it has not yet been officially included in the DSM (the Diagnostic Statistica...
Jan 16, 2025•51 min
As a porn addiction recovery coach, I see clients of all backgrounds - religious and irreligious. Christianity and porn addiction often go hand-in-hand in my experience. I know that they did for me. I love my faith, but the reality is that many Christians carry burdensome shame about their sexuality, and others about their porn habit. This sexual shame is part of what drives their addiction. Many of us grew up being taught (explicitly or implicitly) that sexuality is dangerous, and is to be fear...
Jan 09, 2025•49 min
Today's episode is from the New Paths podcast . Dan Johnson and I tag-team it again and talk porn addiction recovery, touching heavily on my personal porn addiction story. In today's episode, I'm going to dig in some to my childhood trauma, as well as sexual trauma, getting a bit vulnerable with you. I want to say from the get-go, I didn't experience severe trauma. My heart goes out to those who have, including many of my clients and friends in recovery. Rather, I grew up as a kid with a very se...
Dec 23, 2024•1 hr 1 min
Every man or woman who struggles with porn addiction carries trauma and emotional struggles. In my own personal porn addiction recovery journey, I’ve come to understand many things about the emotional pain that I carry. And by understanding it, I’ve been able to release much of it, and I continue to after a decade of sobriety from porn. In my professional work with clients, I’ve come to see many of the same patterns - the same burdens, insecurities, and coping mechanisms. If you or a loved one i...
Dec 18, 2024•1 hr 36 min
In the episode, Dan Johnson gives you 3 easy steps to stop porn addiction. This process is called The Frontline Framework . Dan Johnson with New Paths is another man just like myself helping men overcome porn addiction. Dan and I not only discuss this framework but also dive into multiple psychological and lifestyle strategies you can begin using right now to quit porn. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Por...
Dec 11, 2024•1 hr 13 min
I recently had someone reach out to me directly to ask about porn addiction withdrawal—what it really feels like, what challenges come up, and how to get through it. Their question instantly took me back to the beginning of my own porn addiction recovery journey. When I was six months sober, it was one of the most beautiful yet difficult times of my life. I was learning so much about myself. But I was also facing challenges I never expected. You might have heard people describe withdrawing from ...
Dec 04, 2024•33 min
Anger and porn addiction—what do they have in common? At first, it might seem like the answer is nothing. But think about it: how many times have you been angry, and shortly afterward found yourself relapsing on porn? Or maybe you felt stressed or frustrated after a hard day at work, only to come home and slip up. Doesn’t the shame you feel after watching porn feel similar to the shame after losing your temper in a big fight? In this episode, I’m going to show you the connection between anger an...
Nov 27, 2024•25 min
What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it’s trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time? Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning yo...
Nov 13, 2024•29 min
Porn addiction and perfectionism go hand-in-hand. If you want to stop watching porn, you need to understand the underlying relationship between porn addiction and these self-critical tendencies. One of the great misconceptions out in the world is that porn addicts are selfish, lazy, or simply don’t try hard enough. But in working with these men one-on-one, I don't see this at all. What if I told you that men who struggle with porn addiction are some of the most self-critical and perfectionistic ...
Nov 06, 2024•31 min
Do you wish you had a list of recovery mindset statements that could train your brain out of porn addiction? Do you wish you had porn addiction positive affirmations that could convince you to quit porn? Today I am not going to give you that list…because that list does not exist. Don’t believe the hype out there… But what I am going to give you is: Fundamental principles for writing porn addiction positive affirmations. A comprehensive list of positive affirmations that work for porn addiction. ...
Oct 31, 2024•35 min
You cannot quit porn simply by overcoming sexual cravings and urges. Porn addiction doesn’t ultimately stem from these urges (as surprising as that is). In reality, porn cravings are a symptom of underlying psychological barriers you're experiencing that are preventing porn addiction recovery. Instead of facing or fighting porn cravings, you need to get to the root causes of pornography addiction. You need to access the mental blocks in your mindset and remove them. I’m going to teach you how to...
Oct 23, 2024•33 min
