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I don't like to feed my family. I said I don't like to cook. Then how do you expect to feed your family if you don't love the thing I feed your I don't like to cook, but I do like to feed my family. I don't like to pay bills that I have to pay bills. No, that's different. That's like a man saying he don't like to pay Else imagine says you want you should want to like. How don't you desire that? That's like the truth. I don't. I'm sorry, I don't like to cook. I don't like

to cook. I don't. I just don't like. I'm not like, I don't like to cook. I just I don't know. It's like a guy like I don't want to protect you. I don't like to protect. They like it. It's good. I just I don't like to protector. I don't want to take care. I don't. I don't. I really don't get whatever lack of that energy. I really just don't. I'm not saying it. I just don't get it. Sorry, G I just don't like to cook. I get it. I just I just don't. You get three meals a day.

I could get probably eight meals a day. Eight meals a day if that's what I was eating. Okay, I'm sure he gets about five, at least five. That's what I definitely don't eat that much. Eat three. You got three. You get your three meals, and your tooth smacks snap. Many males, you know, it's funny. I never thought that that was not something people would like to do. I thought all Niggers like to take care of their family, and all women like to nurture their family. I never

in my life thought I would meet human beings. You are a lie. You are a lot. That's like, there's a lot of women that don't even know how to cook, but how they can't even I totally understand that because they are not women yet. No, there's some grown as women. Know, there are some grown ass females. The essence as a nurture. How the fund could you have kids and you don't know how to prepare a meal? Oh I didn't say

they had kids, what do you? That's my point? Then they're not even them as girls still because they don't have kids. Know, I'm saying, they don't have a reason to grow up, Like, how don't you want to nurture other human beings as like your mother kids? But you're earth like. But I'm still a protector, the provider. I can never think to myself like, oh I don't like to protect. Nobody said that. You just see it. You like, I don't like to cook. I like to take care

of my family, like my kids. You don't want to nurture that. I don't want to would how would do cook? I just don't like soap? Okay, So if he's like they go out to dinner, let's go, how to funk are you dinner? So you want him to do that too? You want him to take care of the house and fucking take you to dinner, out to dinner that makes you more excited than cooking. Yeah, you are understand why they are going thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands

of mind whatever. They're going thousand thousands of mouth because don't nobody wants to cook them. No, it's not because don't nobody wants to cook them. That's why. That is why. That's why. And they are ridiculous because they just making black women look bad, like, oh and three meals a day and they're making black women. You just literally said you would prefer say that I don't do it. That's not the ploy. That's not how don't you like it? I don't like it. It's some meals that I do

like to cook. I like to don't know how you don't like to listen. I do like to cook Mexican food, but I don't like to cook if I just don't like to cook it or not. Dang, food is there, sucking the ship is there and all the time, and it's breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, baby food, making baby food from scratch right now, you feel me, Dang, I can't express to you. I don't be telling my nigger like I trust me because no, she just called him, and so your food is ready, that ship ain't because no,

she did it with love. She got up this morning, put the roast on and everything like she did it with love. Give us a break. There are times, you know what, I give y'all a break like these niggas a break. Times when I'm likes I hate a gros and these ory okay, like put in no category. She's not like me. She liked to do all that type of stuff. I don't even know why why you should have been married way, but I could have been married. Girl.

I told you what happened to me. Girl. Can you know the microphone is picking up you, slapping the table, bouncing that lighter everything so people will be there? Like, what the fun is going on? That is Red putting her foot down about the fact that she's upset. Sorry, but yeah, no, you know I'm a good woman. What the fuck? Just because I don't like to cook, don't mean I'm not good. Don't mean you're not gonna have a meal. Don't mean you're not gonna have a meal.

It just means I don't like having a good example. Right, You don't like to work out, but you still work out. I love to work out. Who loves Oh, it is a lot of people that love to work out. Working out its fucking excellent. Boy, you're just lazy if you don't like it. If you don't like it, Okay, yeah, I guess that's it. It's not fun. Of course it's fun. It's not fun. It's not Why would working out be fun? Is it fun to you? Let's keep it one hundred? Is it fun? Listen? The only time I have results

is fun? No, no, the only time I have working out when I did the boxing? How are the results? How are the results fun? Because there's out of fun things that the results well, so attention see that's see. This is my point. And this is what I was saying about people seeing you because you worked out, and I was supposed to be talking about my man like mega, please,

it's fun? What's fun? Like? Okay, say you work out and then um, you know you're getting the results that you want, and you're starting to feel a little more sexier, more confident, and you know, you guys are having a little bit more like um intimacy and it gets fun because you're is that what you really think? Do you really think that's how it worked? Well? I haven't really worked out, so I was just asking her where she got that. She tried to flip some bush. I mean,

I don't think I don't like working out. I don't know what I like. I don't like working out. I don't like cooking. I put it this way. When I first started working out, I did not enjoy it, because of course you're sore and all that achey and all that crap. But um, once I got into a routine, I did enjoy it. It was like, Okay, I have to get up and do it. I felt good at but when I was doing it, certain ones, but not

everything exactly. Yeah, not everything you like. I hate doing the core and I hate that, but I do it. I like boxing, you like it all, you like everything anything. That's just what it is. So that's what intellectually you think I would be like. That's just want to disagree for what what would be the purpose of that? I don't know. That's just ridiculous. I'm genuinely flabbergasted. What are you flabbergast that you don't want to do like? I

didn't say I don't like. I didn't say I didn't want Some dudes, listen, some dudes every man wants to take care of their woman, even the ones who lie like oh she lived here too, and want you to pay rent bills. They want to, they just aren't able to. So then what they do is they find a way to pacify you know what I mean, their lack of and whatever they feel is wrong, and say, okay, So I'm then the man in this because this seems acceptable. But I don't know a man breathing air that don't

want to take care of his old lady. And what I'm saying, I mean, pay the mortgage right, pay the bills. I don't know a man who doesn't want to do that or doesn't or doesn't like to. Now if they can't afford to is different. That's where they start to make excuses and reason. And we have problems. M Well, because I don't like to cook. I don't like to cook. Let me. I like to make tacos. She said, tacos? You do make good? Do I make good Mexican food?

Passive saying that tacos is fine? Look, no seilings, Jim Red's happening. Look, I don't have much to say. What you mean, you don't have much to say? I really don't have much to say about it, because it's like, at the end of the day, it's like, what can I really say? Like and you know, like, I don't know how you could consider yourself a good woman if you don't like to cook. I didn't say that I

don't cook that woman. Okay, she she doesn't like to cook or whatever, but she always makes sure that you're fed and it's good food. It doesn't matter that she didn't cook. What if she didn't know how to cook? And why would you not learn how? Like how could you walk to I was gonna say, if you didn't know how to cut, you shouldn't learn how to click. If you have to feed, that means you just didn't fucking learn. There are so many opportunities to learn how.

And that's specifically not but get what you're saying. Look, I was My mother had me in the kitchen that like you or my grandma had me picking like green beans and stuff when I was a kid, like learning how to do stuff like that. And so I mean some people they do teach you. How do y'all feel about rent splitters? Dude that want to split the rent

with you? Honestly, I know y'all in a deep bond because you like saying I don't like to cook or don't, but don't answer from that because it would really be tacky and everybody gonna smell that you lying. So I need you to find a space to be honest, even if you think it's going to sound weird. How do you feel about that? Do you feel like you know what I'm saying? Like you can marry a man who you split the rent with yea for the rest of your life. I mean, why not we in it together?

I don't. I don't know what do you respect about man? I was like, okay, what I respect about man? Of course a man I could take care of his family? I mean, but really taking care of his family if if y'all I believe so, he's able to provide something. It's not like he's coming in there and not providing anything. But wouldn't it be y'all taking care of the family at that point? I mean, yeah, true, But that doesn't mean that he's not providing anything. I'd be different if

he came he can't can't. Um, do you consider that person a provider if they only provide what you're providing? Like, wouldn't that make your providers will, Yeah, that would make me a provider as well. But do you really I wouldn't knock that. I wouldn't knocked that. I mean, okay, I only live I only live with one guy. And the guy that I lived with, he did take care of the rent, but I took care of the bills and then I, um, you know, I bought the groceries

and stuff like that. But so but he wanted to make sure that I want to finished school and stuff like that. But I was thinking a little different. What if he was like, yo, we lived together, you live here too, so we should split ittift? Oh no, I'll probably be like, dang, why I gotta pay rent? But me, I don't know. I've never been that situation. I wouldn't want I wouldn't want it, Like what do you Okay? So if he had it, but yeah, no, like you know where we we go, Dutch, I'm gonna cook you

gonna last show. I just told you I I would want a man to take care of me like I would would love it. But I'm not saying that that's all I would need, like I would be okay. But if if I had that, I'll be good too. I don't know ship because that never really I just think there's a problem like where we That's probably not true. Why do you think that what you respect about me

and is rooted? Like let's say if a dude was giving you ship right and he couse was bullying like he was on you, and then your nigga tried to fight him, and then your nigga got mopped up and he kept working with you, and your nigga was beat up, knocked out? What you mean sucking with me? He just like flirting with you or being a little inappropriate touching you, and your nigga try to fade him, and then your nigga get mopped up. Okay, that's different though, that's a

little bit different, is it? Like he tried, he stood up to try to protect and he got knocked out, damn like mocked up, and then nigga was on you. I wouldn't even I wouldn't. I couldn't that dude, not the guy, but not my dude. But I couldn't work with that guy that was flirting with me. But probably how do you feel about you? Let me shut up, but how do you feel about your dude at that point? Dang? I wouldn't. I gonna be honest with you all, probably Damn, damn,

you just funked up. That's like I remember that time I went to it. I can't even say this on this aird right now, Yes, you can't say it. I went to this um this concert with this guy. I didn't go with him, but we end up seeing each other there. And I actually saw this nigga get like picked up, like damn near picked up and moved to the side, and I was like, oh, ship, you just let it, just literally took him by dollar and moved. This was somebody was dating. It was somebody that I

was there together and I was with you. I've seen him there. What concert was it? You see? That's why I didn't want to bring it up to you. See, just you can say it. And we signed and I'm gonna that. I was like, damn, I couldn't. I couldn't. Did I see? I just literally watched. You didn't see it. I told you you was there. Oh damn good you didn't see that because you have been clowning the whole time. But you to ask your question, I don't I don't think.

I don't think I could listen. I mean, look, you ain't gonna win every you know, every fight, you know, but I understand. Let's say every time you'll get stood up, that's what every time, every time you try to protect you, you just get can protect me? So good enough? Still is he's still like you're like, you know what, I'm sticking with you because you have a penis that makes you a man and you don't have to protect me because he has a penis, right, so that can make

him protector? Like in what since do we look at these gender roles and when do we actually say okay? Is it only like uh, like we're saying this today it's a new day. That that expression when you just you list a new day, how much of a new day is it? Is? It? Is it a new day enough? Where um, you don't care if your man is a protector for some women it is. I think everybody's lying when they try to act like they want to evolve. I think obviously women, right, they want to have as

little accountability as possible. I don't mean that negatively, just honestly, it's just kind of how it is. But I still think you want a man to be accountable completely. And I'll just be thinking about that sometimes. Um so if you, if you're a girl is cooking, you're getting all your meals, but she doesn't necessarily like to cook. Are you gonna feel something like I'd be pretty devastated. What if she

just didn't tell you? Well, then that's smart. Yeah. I would just wouldn't tell him that, Like like I wasn't tell him that, like I don't want to come. I just couldn't imagine I don't like him. I just but I just couldn't imagine not liking to be I'm telling y'all that I don't like to cook. My dude, probably he don't know I don't like to cook. I'm sure he knows. You know this show he's been new. You could tell when somebody don't like to cook. But I don't know. It's a joy if you've been if you

likes to cook, it's a joy about it. I agree with that because I like when I cook, and that's what I like about cooking. When I see everybody like, oh, this is good, like you put, I'll be like, thank you, I did that, and I like that. I like that you're happy and you fool I would think that that's like the ship. But I don't know, man, I'll get confused. Valentine's Day right and coming up, and I just think to myself, just like, man, I don't know what's gonna

happen to the future. What about they have to do? What does that have to do. I'm probably gonna be laid out. I don't know what be doing, if I even be, you know, hopefully I'll be doing whatever. But um, I just was thinking about it, and it's been on my mind a lot. But the last podcast and different podcasts and listen to people talking like and I just like, I have no hope for the future, Like, no hope.

I'm not lying, I have no hopes. I feel like we're going into a weird space where human beings are becoming less human, they're becoming more like animals. That the animals, the dogs are more protected than other human beings. You have people that really don't like to exemplify, you know, what we on this earth for? Like, how do you not like some of these things? That's just crazy to me. I love it. Do you think that you're on this earth to have a baby? I think that was definitely

what my situation is unique, y'all? What is it unique? You haven't had no kids, But it doesn't make you less than you don't want to have kids? Why? How could you not be a man and not want to have kids? How could you not want to leave? How could you not want to leave your what? How I can't even have kids? Who said that I can't get pregnant? You know what? You know what? I can't have kids? You know what? I'm just saying. What's today? I'm done with you? How could you be a man and not

want to put your leave your seed? Because I meet women now who don't want to cook, but you were put here. That's not too now? So how is it not? So? Why don't you have How could you be on this earth and not because for a long time I met women who didn't like to cook. That's so damn So that made you not want to have a damn kid? Who gonna feed my chip? No glasses? You used to say that you wanted to have a kid, you want

to walk him to school and all that. Yes, because I thought I was gonna meet a wife, right, women who liked to cook, but you and be nurturers. And what I'm not I'm not meeting that. I'm meeting more women I'm not saying they are not exceeding at being a parent. I'm saying I'm meeting more women that I care about selfish and personal things. So if you having kids is probably the most selfish decision we make in our life, right, and then it makes you the most

selfless motherfucker. Every reason people have a kid is selfish? What makes me think I'm so great that I should leave myself on this earth that you got to be? I just want to leave a little bit of me left, bitch. You wasn't that special. But that's what we're here for. We're here to pass information. So when when you have a kid, right, your sales pass information to a child. I'm passing y'all information and the world information. Excuse me,

When you get married, you our intimate it's to have children? Right? No, what do you mean? No, it's not. That's not what I'm doing it for. Is that what it's supposed to be generals for? That? That's so what are you doing? I'm not Where is the little g? Where is the little g? You saw many little Jesus? No, no, no, Jack, where is the where you don't see these niggas? Jack? In my style? Now you're not knowing what you're supposed to do. I'm disappointed in you. But the difference is,

I'm not saying I like it too. You said I don't want to have it. I'm telling you, how do you? How do you like these? You have a wild when women? How are you in a relationship and you don't have no kids and you're having you know, technically your woman becomes your child. Listen here, you gotta get excited when you take them to dinner like kids. They want to tanch you like kids. You gotta watch them like kids.

When you really get your kid, you get it. But it really is, where is the little g and the little get man to some of these niggas wrapped? I'm doing a fantastic job of passing information. But the difference is it's not because you're It's not about not wanting to. It's a not desire to. Of course, when I was when I was twenty No, no, no, you don't that it's not. But it's not a question of desire. It's

not a question of desire. Is it doesn't make sense for you to have a kid, but you're supposed to. Why That's why you bust a nut right is to have a kid. Sure, so then that person didn't get pregnant. Mm hmm, it's not my fault. I can't get pregnant when I was, when I was, when I all the way until I was twenty three, I just knew that I was gonna be married with children at really it was supposed to be. That was my only dream. My

only dream was to be a pharmacist. Go to Zuosa Pacific and a degree in pharmacy, work at a pharmacy, open my own pharmacy, have a house in Lakewood Race car, a wife, a couple of kids. That was my dream. Sick, that's how compact and small and reasons I had a house in Lakewood. But the point I'm saying to you is when you start meeting the opposite sex, that's where you started being like, your how realistic is this going to be? How do you well when you meet that?

When you meet the one and you guys, tie the knot. Now it's time to have a kid, because that's what you're supposed to Everybody having kids without trying to not when you gotta go that far, and it's a whole bunch of women that don't know how to cook and I feel that. That's my point. That's why they ain't got no business getting bregnant. It's not just about not knowing how like I get it if you just don't know, But how don't you want to learn? Every Man should

learn how to change all your agree with. Every Man should know how to change the type. Every man should know how to change the light book, and they should love it. It's the reason why you exist. Every Man should take up some level of fisticuffs to know how to defend your your family. Every man should, especially in America, you own a pistol if you legally can, and know how to shoot it, just in case that day comes when you have to defend your family. These are part

of what make a man a man. Yeah, every man, I don't get how you don't like to. You know what's funny? I like to fight. Now. That don't mean I walk around starting fights. I enjoy it. It worked out for me, and I know some guys who don't, but that's because they don't understand. So you got a couple of different kind of fighters. You've got guys who can fight that blackout. They want to stomp your head in the ground and acting donkey, and they don't even

have control themselves. Like you win in the fight that they're on the ground, don't not finish, stomp your head. I already won. Whatever I couldn't explain through verbals, I explained through these fits. So you got people don't like to fight because they don't know how or they're not control their selves. But a standard fistic cover match is not really a big deal. It's it's conversations outside of

verbal sometimes it becomes physical. I need to explain this to you, nigger, and the words are not working for me. Understanding the words that are coming out they know and then so understand the words that's coming out of my fist. So I truly enjoy being a man. I don't. There's nothing about being a man I don't enjoy. Now I'm not saying there's nothing wrong with the parts of that you don't enjoy. Yeah, I'm not. You don't want to have kids, that's not part of being a man. Why

it's just not being a father. Well, that's being a father. I'm not a father. That don't mean I'm not a man. But in order for you to be here, mean to be here, we had to have a father so it is a part fantastic. That's really a woman, right, so he not really a man? No? No, no, no, no. First off, I can't have a baby. No, but you said that a woman. I'm saying, you're saying that for a woman can't cook? And I said, I said that,

how do they feed their kids? I said, what they haven't had You said, what they haven't had kids yet? I said, well, then they don't have a reason to become a woman. Mm hmmm, because they are. So you can play around like you could, which I don't know why you're not preparing. You know, maybe you you know, you hear people like I'm having fun, It's like, well, you're just being a hoar? What is having fun outside

of being a hor for women? Wow? It sounds a little harsh, but I mean, if you're not in Nigga's face and getting drinks at the clubs and parties and meeting different guys, what are you really doing? What's fun about being a woman? At that point it just becomes regular human being. Ship Like, if you ain't going to the parties getting free ja, what are you doing? What do you mean what's fun for a woman? When people say like you don't need to get so serious. You

need to go out and have fun. What does that mean not have any responsibilities? In which world does that seem like fun? To avoid responsibility? Look how we even raise people? Well, I'm saying responsible for someone else, But that's the point of it. Like literally, and you're not married, and you don't have the husband or the detector, the whole family. Just keep meeting guys. And you know what I'm saying. That's like I'm not telling my daughter in general.

It's like my daughter she's in college right now. No, you don't have need to have children. You need to focus on that, you know what I say. I'm not telling her go out and party, but no, you don't need to have children right now. Like you got other things that you need to worry about. You can't even take your of yourself children, not right now? Why so, because she she's barely taking care of herself having another child in this we're not in in um, you know,

but what do they call it? Ancient times? Where like it was different, you know, where women couldn't work, or women couldn't go to school, or women couldn't be educated, or you know, they just wanted to have them. You know, they were just have children in yeah to taking care. So we are in and I'm not telling my daughter who's nineteen, yes, go and have a child. No, I would want her to meet her husband and so have a child. So what if she got married next year

in college? I mean, if she got married next year in college, then she gets married next year, I want a kid. Okay, that's I felt that too, because because you're trying to hold your points so cold, but you just realize it was soonestly, I listen, it's not time for her to have children. What's the time? Not now? What is the time? A different time than definitely not give me a time. Because when you're saying, why can't I wait till I'm tifty, wait till you fifty? Who you? Yeah?

What's wrong with that? Because because is at the time, because you everything, everybody's your situation is already I'm still literally doing what your daughter is doing. I'm literally running a business. Hold up, because because you understand his mom, and this is what you don't want for your daughter, because she's learning, you know, she's trying to figure out life and stuff. Right, that's what you're saying. Right, you said you don't want her to have that because blah

blah blah. So what about glasses malone, who was trying to let me, let me make my point to Rodge and enterprise business. I'm trying to get no selings off the ground. I got all this work I gotta do. I gotta put my whole cow. I got so much stuff to do. Like your daughter, I don't have time for a child. But how could you be a man and not want to have a family. That of course I want a family. I've always wanted a family. That don't mean that it's time you said you're You're not.

You don't it's not. It wasn't about this high year. What I told you. What happened was I kept meeting women, but were talking about now. So now put my business like your daughters and treatment. You see the different No difference, It is a difference. No, it's a differently because you were like, no, that I'm not having kids. I literally said that after meeting women who didn't really want to be a family. But that's it's done. You have a this way deeper than that. I meet women who don't

want to be a family. So he's just saying in general, like it, just you don't like you like they don't. I don't like. Think about women. Think about that little piece of me and me that died when you said you don't like something. He probably here the like in the room. Think about that little piece of me that just died when you said you don't like cooking. A little piece of me died, like when this man said he had to fly three thousand miles, not even three thousands,

three thousand bad. Listen, listen. Just because I don't like to cook, don't mean that my man is not fed exactly. It's definitely fed. He is. Yeah, I don't know how you could not another thing though, I ain't talking. I'm just saying some people, which is sad. I get it about to say some people have sex they don't like to have sex. But that's not You only supposed to have sex for one reason. We just missus everything. We have sex for white. Yeah, for one thing. What is

that to have children? And why you don't have no children? Because I'm miss used it like everybody else. The difference is I don't like to I frown it myself for getting pussy the way I've been in pussy my life. I frowned him. Might be like, you ain't had no kids, you to suck all these holes? Man, what are you doing with your life? Or you have met some pretty

decent women? And then I always be like man, and she said she ain't gonna cook man, and like they're not proud of it, and it's like they don't really desire to be that type of thing. If you want, and I'm not saying women are just cooking, right, women can provide companionship a thousand other things. But then are you really good at these things? Yes, excellent? Don't be doing don't don't don't. I didn't even say anything, you know, I didn't say ship. What the fuck? I didn't do nothing. Listen,

y'all need to stop. I didn't do nothing. Damn might even say nothing y'all all my as my name said ship because you always over here talking about what we ain't got going on the same way, why you don't have no kids? And where's like I said, I've been a part of raising other people's children. I'm doing my part, and I enjoyed it. I didn't like. I didn't like it if I had get kids up from squatting back. I don't like picking kids up from school. I just never felt that way. It's not like I don't like

the idea of being a parent. I don't like the idea of co parenting with somebody who doesn't want to truly like being a parent. If you don't like, like, if you don't like let's say, if a woman didn't like cooking or cleaning, it's like that's like devastating. It's like we have to be a parent unit together, and it all means you're not gonna be a parent unit. It's just they don't like to do it, but they're

gonna do it. But they don't like. You know, people don't like to go to school, but they go to school. How don't you like to learn? There's a lot of people that don't like to learn. I can't really that's again like that said, that's a malfunction. There's gonna but there's a people I mean, yeah, not grown ups, not adults, not you know, they definitely you're they like learning. That's why they're going to school, you know, But that's not true.

They may not like. They just going because they need to. It's a reason like they gotta get, you know, might be something, Yeah, you want to go sit in a class where whatever. A lot of people. I like it. I love I like certain courses. Listen. I'm not look, this comes across a little he man, but it's really not. It's just like I enjoyed being a man, and that's good. I'm happy that you do enjoy that. Are being a man, being a father I said. I didn't say I enjoy

being a father. Being a man A part of being a father, a part of being a man. It's not like being a being a woman. Don't have to be being a mother. But nurturing is a natural thing, like protecting is a natural thing. I don't have to just protect my kid, right, I protect other people? Can I show other people kids how to fight? M So I'm literally a protector and provider for earth, not just personal.

Like if a little kid was walking down the street, and you know, if the one who was walking down street and the nigger for the kicker ass almost hey bro chill, I mean, like, relax now, if it's his woman, I'm back up. But if like let's say it's a stranger man messing with this woman, messing with a woman he just owner and he hey bro, relax, if it's a kid at the park shooting jump shots and he don't got a good form. Amen, tuck you elbo. I'm

gonna show him. I think that I like it, though, I think that I would probably like to cook more if I was just a homemaker. That don't even make sense. I think I would enjoy it more. But because I have so many different things going on, it's just sometimes just like, man, I don't want to cook this. I cook it, but I just I don't want to change that. You have to get you more excited about being a nurturer. It's an awesome thing, awesome dog, It's so awesome. It's

one of the most attractive traits for women. I mean, they enjoy that. Look, I get it. Um. I meet some women that I never I met women in my life I should have never opened the door for they was like the worst type of women. If I opened the door for this motherfucker, I'm tripping. But I opened the door because I enjoyed being a man. It's not necessarily representation of my responsibility or how many crappy women

I meet. Like if I made a crappy woman in the past, that don't mean y'all deserve to be crappy. So my circumstances don't change the man that I am. Right. So that's like I know that I enjoyed. No, no, no, no, I enjoy it. That's the cornerstone of everything. You know. And I'm not saying you know it's wrong that you don't like to. I think that's just where we had in time, A little piece of you died. It was like little pieces gown. So what's your plans for Valentine's Day?

I don't have any plans right now. You don't have a Valentine's Day. I don't know what I'm gonna do for Valentine's Day. Valentine's probably not what you mean. You don't have a Valentine. I don't know what what she got? Some ship? Damn, we gotta talk. I don't know what I'm gonna do. Probably, what's your plans for Valentine? What's yours? You're gonna cook something? I mean, you probably want to go out. I need to be off today, even the day of all loves like, I need to be off today.

I think we might be going to see Mike Epps. I think we might go to Vegas. You know, I probably won't cook one actual Valentine's Day. I'll be home and I am gonna cook what kind of meal is a Valentine's Day meal? So it's gonna be whatever like his favorite. So he likes steak lamb. Probably do like his favorite type of steak. He likes lamb better, so um,

I probably do like a Hebrew rab. He just started eating lamb when he got with me because we don't eat pork like I didn't grow up, even pork chops. We always eat lamb chops or Lamb shanks or stuff like that. So now he every Sunday it's like we always have like lamb. So if I was to do

a steak like today, I made a ribby roast. Um. So yeah, I probably do like one of his favorite meals, which is gonna be lamb, And I probably do like a rack a lamb or Lamb shanks, and then probably like some um jasmine rice and maybe like some grill vegetables or something like that. On getting I don't know. You know, honestly, I never felt like me is supposed to.

I'm wrong, but I agree. I never felt that my ex I was annoyed because he really felt like, yeah, like he expected remember that he expected a Valentine's and that was the first. We're all wrong, but I mean me and you are wrong, but I do agree slipping like because I think I've always started Valentine's Day as a woman's day. I think it is too I think so, But I like my He was really like, I'm like, because what did I get him? Oh? I got him some um some floor mats. His new car he got

he had a new car. I've been decided about that. But but but I'm a gift of purpose type of person. I'm a man's man. Gifts that like screwdrivers, right, I get you got me like that? That's why he's in ex man now. He would love anythough thing for the car. It's like for me, I would do something. I don't know. I just put together like special gifts. I don't really you feel like you're supposed to get laid on Valentine's Day? Yeah, yeah, you're supposed to get laid, or you're supposed to get laid,

or you're supposed to do the lane like you're supposed to. Like, hey, we could do Is that a gift? I love that? Are you giving him? Are you? Are you wrapping up and giving it like, oh that ship like one time and he's and ship crotchless panties. Yeah, I didn't understand that the girl walked into crosses panty. I would cry, like why no he he say, he say, you've never seen I'm not why, But I agree because I just didn't say. I didn't understand what was the purpose of

the pantis. But it's supposed to be I guess probably looks sexy. It's like a whole little thing. It literally just what is it there for? The one thing? So what is it like? It literally this is all open, like it literally just covers the back of your like but in you're like your your giant. Everything's open, like there's nothing there in the middle. I had to be weird. It was weird. So it's probably like to have like the brawn a whole little like sexy thing. That's probably

why it's like that. I think I heard, you know, maybe like some edible panties. Edible panties is fine like that. No, it's I'm not into that though. That's not I'm not because I'm not into I'm not a super romantic person I believe in like I'm not I'm not like a that kind of person, like I'm more of a Yeah, I'm not like that. I'm saying he didn't really care, Like if you were, I don't even like lines read

you're not romantic though, No, I don't think so. I think I'm more like I don't know the quite word, you know what I mean, Like, um, romance just has to a touch of corniness to me. That but you're thoughtful. Yeah, so like that's when that's romantic. Well, I can't find I think people can find romance in who I am. But I'm not like rose petals leading up to the world parts like okay, but you're are you more so like you see something that made me think of you

type that's romantic and that's romantic. That is really romantic. I'm saying based off the traditional sense of what people use and all that. So you a woman, we definitely we wouldn't see like a video where she's like, oh my god, thank you gee because there's rose petals and like all this that's flowers. Yeah okay, but I'm not

like rose petals made me. Uh that's just Tuesday. I get you, that's just Tuesday, you know, And I'm not My hands are really strong and funked up, so like I'm stupid heavy and so mamassages ain't really great like you really, I do not know that they are not good at giving the massage. I'm not If you ask me for a massage, that's that's that's that's my I like dang like he's the same way. But I think you guys are like manly men and there's not I

love manly men. It's just I love it, but it's not a lot of manly man and it sucks because I guess I'm not sound like the cook. I'm not like a womanly woman. But they you know, but I do it fine? That would be so dope. Desired. Got to find a certain space to where you desire to excel in the simple roles in life. Like if you don't enjoy that, and then it's never going to be done with the joy and care should be done with. You're missing out on what makes it great. You're missing

out on everything that's awesome about it. That the nourishment of a man, how a dude feels and how he looks. I love that, though, how could you not like that? Like, I'm not like, like, even if you didn't like the concept of standing up, which I don't. That's just so unny humanly, but or turning your arms to stir or you know, watching I don't get quite what it is because I don't know what I'm saying. But I'm saying the desire of it all should That's just I'm always

I'm always looking for time. So I think for me, like, there are meals besides taco. That was just being funny, but there are. I'm just saying there are meals I do like to cook. But I think because I'm just always looking for time, it's like I don't like to cook because I would think you don't like to work. I know, I don't see now that's different. So but that's what I'm saying. But she just said you don't

like to work or cook. That's think about it. You've to count that, you'ven count that they were both didn't trip off that well. But I said, you said you would be You wouldn't mind being a homemaker, right if if you weren't, Yeah, I would mind you like you know, she says, she you would like it, right, She said

she wouldn't mind. She said that. I said last week or a couple of weeks ago, I said, yeah, I would love to be a homemaker, Like if I didn't have to work and I could just But how would you love to be homemaker if you don't love to cook, Because I'm saying right now, I don't. It's the fact that I don't really have the time. So I'm just I'm just always running, you know what I'm saying. It's like I don't really get to take the time to enjoy that thing that I'm doing. Yes, I'm always running.

This is a consistent joke between like, bro, you work from home. I'm not saying you're not racking your brain and I'm not saying even though you shouldn't be stressing at home. But but it's weird. Okay, So it's like it's weird because I do work from home. Now this is new, right, I haven't worked that from I've always worked and I haven't worked from home. And I took care of kids and they have practice and I had a whole show that I went to at nine and I was there on time, did coming all the way

from the valley all that. But now it's crazy, it's like I'm at home, you know, I'm working, taking care of the baby. People listening to this ship like holy ship. Whatever. I'm working, I'm taking care of the baby, I'm cooking, I'm cleaning, and you know, shopping. Sometimes I don't even get to leave. I'll just try to like door dash um and it's like I'm still trying to find time, like I guess to fit me in there. Yeah, but that's kind of the point of having children, to not

be able to fit you in there. Yeah, you lose you first, And I guess because you know, I had kids young, and then I had I tell Joey induce right. The giants La Johns shout out to the home like they they really fantastic rappers. They were raised to be rappers, they were really born to be rappers. And they have went to the college. Their father player hand put them through the college of it and they are fantastic. But they have a fucked up understanding where it's like they

feel like I need to make time to rap. No, no, See, this is the thing about this as your career. This is the thing about kids. Do that make it tough when you're doing hip hop and when you're trying to start this business, you have to find time to be somebody's boyfriend. You have to find time to be somebody's father. You have to do this. This is a commitment and if you make it a hobby, you just about sign you no chance opportunity. You have no chance. So you

have to be a wife first and everything. Find time to be everything. And even people make disagree with this, but literally, from the most historical ideas, you're supposed to find time to be a mother. You're supposed to always have time to be a wife. You find time to be a mother, You find time to be a homemaker, and you find time for your job. You always find time for those things. The for shure thing is being a wife. So I don't know how you don't like that,

and I think it's priorities. Yeah, and what we've learned or seen or like, you know, because the way you broke that down where it's like, okay, you are you should you have to find time and yeah, you know, and it's like that job. You know what I'm saying. But you you know what I'm saying. You can't say that job, that job, But you have to say you have to love cooking and nourishing your family. You have to love that today and hate your job. Yeah, I mean I get that. That's like today I was like

you both. I don't hate cooking. I'm just not liking it right now. I'm trying to like I'm trying to um, I'm starting all over again. So this is like trying to find a balance. And at this age I figured I would be I mean because I have my kids young, so I figured I would be done. I never done

doing what raising kids? And you know what I'm saying, not done with as far as like my marriage and things like that are like, you know, I don't know why people stop having kids that once you start having kids, excuse me, because you don't have one. An that's why you don't even have one. I'm not just I'm saying that's the point. So why would you stop if you have something, you don't have one. I'm allow, I'm letting

y'all have the space. Why would you stop? I mean, first of all, you get to an age where you have to stop. Um, Financially, it may not be feasible for you to have children. Stop doing something of the ship you want to do. Take some backseats. If if you're if you're addition to the world, if your addition to the world is going to be children. Like my addition to the world is I'm passing information through film records.

This is how pass information. Any great sale, the only single responsibility of even the most single sale is to pass information and not do this ship all the time, all the time to two millions of people. Right. But if you're going to have children and you're not teaching the world ship, you would think you would have more kids. I don't know. I just think, like I said, I honestly think the world is going to a sense of selfishness and it's like we just kind of like, you know,

mm hmmm, I don't know. I'm like, fuck it, yeah, this world is. It's cold world. I'm like, people care about the dogs more than humans. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. These people be turning these dogs dogs eat your ass. Yeah, like this is a dog my girl stuff. She leaves her air conditioning on in the house for the dogs. My mom leaves her teeth if you don't put them fucking dogs outside in the doghouse. No, my mom leaves a TV on. She'll leave a light on if it's

hot in the summer. YEA. What it is about white people and dogs, black dogs, I hope not my black grandfa in the outside and they came in, you know what I mean that when he let him in, but not they weren't there all the time getting Oh my dog? She owed, How did your dog? She's like sixteen and dog years, that's a hundred or something mine? Did you did you actually prepare all that? Did you start making arrangements? Do I need to it's happening soon? Huh? My son said,

it seemed dog is a hundred five. She's still very life. Actually, your dog is a hundred hold up seven times fifteen five three? Yeah, seven years dog years seven verse sugar free verse as one dog is, it's seven dog years for a year, followed me. I got to figure out a hundred and sixty eight. Yeah, so how old is my dog? Your dog is a hundred and five fifteen times seven five three? She doing I'm really good. My son did say that looks like she's going blind. I'm

sure seeing a lot of ships for a long time. Yeah, she's been since the kids were in like elementary, they were a little, very little. Now I'm not getting another dog, so when it so before I leave? What is it about work? You don't like what is about work. Um actually like my job. I do like my job. I like my position. I like my job, like helping people. Um So I do like work. But I don't like the fact that I have to work and I have to take time away from my daughter. Or I can't

do the things that I want to do. I mean, I still I can't do them right, like I can't like I have to um when I'm on the clock, somebody else's controlling what I do. Like you know what I'm saying, I can't just okay, I gotta stop doing this to take care of my man, like or I gotta take care of my daughter, my daughter, you know. Like, so I don't like the fact that I have to go into work and punch a clock into work. You got to start at least caring about some of these phrases.

I don't like that I have to go to work. Geez leave her alone. Mentally, she's she goes into that room, she travels. I'm not saying you're not working. You're kind of using a lot of like phrases that include traffic and after go into work, where the funk are you going into the living room my office? I have to go into my office and do I love working from home? You use you like, go into I can't have time, and I don't have time. You know how funked up your ship would be if you had to drive to work.

Oh yeah, I probably would have got fired having this baby and trying to if you actually had to go in, yeah, I would have been like, honey, the most woman This is the most womanly podcast. Like people are gonna listen to you and be like this is crazy whatever. Man for sure gonna be like what because You're like, I got to go into work, and I'm like, you don't go. What I'm saying is I can't just take care of my daughter, my family, my man, nourish them all day

long because I have to work for the man. That's not true. People used to do that and take care of their family home. I have to work for the man. I did it too, But so you can do both. But it's hard. But it is difficult sometime because I who has ever had to So you don't even like it work unless you're self employed, but work for a company and still take care of your baby at the same time. Think that means you're saving that you can

actually get a babysitter and spend some of that money. Yeah, I started trying to see about somebody helping on Tuesdays and Thursday. But I'm not sending her to daycare? Why not? So you want it all? My baby needs to be with me. I need to say, I'm she's not ready

to go to daycare yet. She doesn't speak. Yeah, when you put the babies in the bay hare when they could turn I mean, this is a blessing for me because my other kids I had to put had to put them in daycare, like one, and she just turned one and I haven't had to Actually, No, I was back to work when they were babies, so they just went to like family and stuff like that, daycare, family, friends, to your office at home or knows. How do you figure this out? How do you figure out the time

to do anything? It's hard, Lord knows, you're stuck in that living room traffic, that traffic from the from the that traffic from that traffic from your home office to your kitchen. Sometimes, man, you stuck at that intersection at the couch and Ricky Lake. It's hard. Good looking out for tuning into the No Seillers podcast, Please do us

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