Conversations About Women's Worth

I think it's like chicken shit. It's like, if it's the truth, Like, if it's the truth, we should be able to express it. Feel me in a in a in a um, in a manner that's not meant to be you know, shitty. But like if somebody is five ft one and you say, hey, you're short, because they have a you know, a dislike for the fact of them being short, doesn't mean that we shouldn't be able to say, hey you sure because they don't like that.

Does that make sense? Yeah, it makes sense. But I do believe in the same token that, um, we are trained, we are trained mentally from the time we're kids to not hurt people's feelings, right, Sure, I agree with that. For shure. So I think sometimes rather than telling people the truth, we kind of admit the facts a little bit and kind of embellish some certain things a little bit. Like you know, you see the girl that me have lost a few pounds and she's talking about it, like, hey,

you lost so much way that she's twirling around. You still think you're here, like, damn, you're still fat as fuck. Well again, it's like somebody was asking me, They said, you know what, you're nice, and I'm like, no, I'm not nice, I'm kind. And then somebody told me you're rude. I said, no, I'm not rude, I'm cruel. Right, it's and they're different, right, and cruel in the sense that, well,

we're having a verbal exchange. Whenever we're talking, I'll tell you what I honestly think, and I'm not telling me with intensive of hurting your feelings. But I'm also not going to not tell you the truth because it's hurting your feelings. What a thing, ge, Ever since i've known you, we're going on twenty some years, you've always been brutally honest. Yeah, I think that's more the thing. I think you brew honest. I remember it. I never will forget one day. I

always laugh about this Christopher, who's my son. I remember one day were driving down Street and cheek Way, Chris. Still, that's got signed to the Pittsburgh Stellers. So let's just put the extras on it. Let's put the truth on it. So we were riding down this when you stayed downtown. We was in there listening to your album, right, were listening to the Glasshouse of thank And you smell something, you get like this? You said, I smell something? Still

did you presh your teeth this morning? And I'm like, I said this, motherfucker just told our breast smell like ship. You know you did? And still, did you prush your chief this morning? I was, I wouldn't like this, I said, Damn, I said, no, it's not me, Bro. You said that though. I just asked because I figured, like we brothers for me, so why would I not be able? You know, I'm just saying I'm asking because I do have too pacing too, bro, And I don't mean it negatively, like you know, none

of us is perfect. But the point I was saying is, um, I was listening to uh little Babies, baby mom. It was on Instagram and she said something to the equivalent of men don't value or appreciate women like they did in the eighties or nineties. And I thought that was a bit strange, right because I thought to myself, Um, I was like, damn, that's that's a thought. And I was explaining this to my my people, Nia. I was

telling my AGirl me. I was like yeah, and she was like yeah, well, you know, she was like, do you think that me and value women like they did in the eighties and nine? And I'm like, what's really valuable about modern women? Well? You know what, I always laugh when people say that, and yet like that, back during that time period, it wasn't shitty things happening. You know, it was men cheating on their wives. Back then, men were cheap when they watched in the nineteen fifties, when

America was so called at this purist. I think people have always been people, and some people make choices now And at the end of the day, what do you determine as value? Like somebody says you value somebody like, how you can you make the determination? It's like, I value my wife. I think appreciation is worth more than it's the same thing as value. Why I appreciate my wife with a great deal. Yeah, I value a great deal.

I value my wife, but that doesn't mean that she's not gonna do some sh I don't like sometimes and not even that right so, no sellings. Gil Peter is somewhere in Los Angeles. We gotta do a live podcast on Thursday show. He's not here right now, He's gonna talk shit. I got my big brother, no settings, resident gas and podcasts are extraordinaire and on the verge of becoming a millionaire. My big brother still hey, so, and I want to say something right now. She know you

want to talk about people that don't value stuff. You have a certain segment of your fan base that seems to get irk when I come on as motherfucker because I don't I want to tell that particular base of people. I get some people that like it. For all you people out there that have complaints about me, I'm trying to tell you something right now. You know what you do. You can fast forward my parts and took you her glasses as talking fast. I'm not even gonna go allow

your punk as to listen to me today. You I'm not gonna crazy with my presence, not I got that off my chips because I see these little cocky ear again. I don't like steal when he's on there. He does, he's an ogre. He doesn't add value to the conversation. Oh critical, motherfucker's I don't get a million dollars now. Still we'll be having some dope conversations we always have. But no, so I was asking her. So I asked me, I said, well, what's valuable about a modern day woman?

And you can tell she got so mad, and I'm like, it's just an honest question. And she said, well, what's not valuable? She said, you know? Uh. She was like, um, well, what's not valuable? I said, well, if we talk about modern day women, right, culturally trending is you know, plastic surgery. So it makes me feel like, right when you see somebody like I know, people who have done surgery on themselves, plastic surgeries, bbls knows jahs whatever, right, the whole ordeal

breast in fact whatever. And I always notice like, you have to really not like yourself. And so when I was telling her that, she was like, no, you don't have to really not like yourself. And I'm like, yes, you do like you have to not like yourself. Like, right, every human being is insecure about something that they look at in the mirror, right, But the separation is the people who decide to live with it and embrace it, you know, find a way to to understand the beauty

in the in the difference of that. And I was just listening to it, and I always say this to my uh. I always say this to my people, to my nieces, different people, and I say, man, like, like that whole culture right now where like we know who people's baby mothers are, not we don't know who people's wives are. Like like at one time, we used to know who people's wives were, Like, right, I knew who people were married to if they were Like I know

who Cookie is, right, Magic's wife Anita? Right, I knew who I need to. Jordan was like, you had to be married. I didn't know, you know, Magic Johnson's baby moms for me. And we're in a climate today to where I am entirely too aware of who other people's baby mother are and and it's like I know who little baby's baby mother is, right, And I'm like, I don't know her for no talent. I don't know her because she's a great singer. I don't know her because

she's a great fashion nista. I know her who she is because little baby is a very talented rapper and he has a baby with her. And I'm listening to her give her opinion on how men value women, and I'm thinking to myself because like, not only should I not be listening to this person, you know, like everybody deserves to be heard, but I shouldn't be listening. But then I thought about it, and I'm like, it's obvious

this young lady gotta bbl. She hadn't even grown up to her full one and body, right, and she don't realize how that's gonna affect her future going forward. But I just started thinking about, like, what's value if you don't like immediately? What pulls back is if you don't value yourself. Right, So I realized women in the past, now, maybe they would have got plastic surgery if it was simpler, if it was easier as it is today. Right, it's

much easier today. It's not easy, but it's much easier today, and it's much more affordable. Well, I think women in general, bro, women in general, you have to understand their dynamic First of all, women spend so much time worried about what other people think of them versus what they think about themselves. Right, and if you the point is when you said that, right, that's gonna cause an uproar, and and it's a truffything.

Everything about their actions say that's true. But because there is no you know, action dictionary to say that this means this outside of the certainties. So even them getting plastic surgeries and bbls right, don't mean that they are unhappy with who they are. Like, it doesn't have to me that even though well they're using to get Yeah, smart money said, that's what it means getting. You know, usually if a woman goes out and gets now, I'm

not talking about a breast reduction. Sometimes women get breast reductions for help from he even though, you know, for help. So when I see the girls and they go out and get these balloons and planting into their ass, right, and they come out and their body they look like ants, you can tell that their body phys their physiology doesn't

permit them. They're not supposed to have that. You know, you see a girl she maybe five too, and her hips around it like this, and then she got this little waste and then you see her boobs and stuff. They look like ants, you know what I mean. So they don't look right. But but I think, and I was explaining this to some of my other people, and I was like, the problem with women is and it's not women, the problem with human being are It is

how shallow they see beauty, right, beauty. Beauty is becoming I think we talked about it in a conversation about beauty standards before, But beauty is becoming this monolithic thing, like this is the traditional look of a bad bet you for me, this is the traditional look. And I was thinking about it, right, like when I was a kid, you know what I mean, in the eighties, Like right,

you remember the seventies. The seventies is before me. But the seventies, wasn't the baddest woman like Pam Greer, like Foxy Brown, the most beautiful woman to y'all right, yeah exactly, And I'll tell you what it was. And I was a little kid in the seventies, so I don't remember a whole lot about the seventies. I do remember, like the till the end of the seventies, like when I was eight nine years old seventy nine. Um, the thing

back then, people had a natural beauty. Back then, they didn't wear all the makeup they were asked for for the most part of it tied the hair back in the ponytail, right, But they were profoundly that they were beautiful. Right. It's like the thing right now is that we're over consumed with content, right. Not right. So everybody is looking at their Instagram. You'll see a woman that you flicking the Instagram. They're looking at other women and they're judging

themselves based on all these other women. Look who might have had She don't know. She's looking at Kim Kardashi and Kim Kardashi and used to be other like if you saw pictures of bourbon, I'm not ugly. She was ugly. She looked like every girl running around Burbank. Yeah, exactly. She looked like a normal average Burbank girl, Burbank Glendale girl. So she got that stuff and she probably you know, she has extinctions in her hair, a lot of that.

It's not her real hair. So they've been through a lot. And you got a person at home whose husband might be making sixty thousand dollars a year. They may have a job, but they're making forty and they look at these women that they had million dollars surgeries and thinking like, Okay, this is my comparison, this is what I want to be. Because they may catch you taking a glimpse of somebody else, so now they feeling figure to that person. So therefore

they want to change your things. But in your mind, you're thinking out like you just the way you are you but not gonn do ship to yourself? Um yeah yeah, but even moving out of that space of you know where kind of estimating what they think, because the reality is will never get what they really think they you know, I mean, they just ain't going They're not gonna be forthcoming with that type of information. Well, men are doing

it too. I promised I wouldn't say anything because my homeboy had to sign a you know, nine disclosure agreement. But it's a well known basketball player who just went and got his second penis in planting. And you gotta keep in mind the implants he's getting cost thirty dollars, a problem, the procedure he's getting right. So the dude tickets pecker, I guess from him having a seven inchs pecker. I guess because I don't know about picker, so you know,

I don't know. This is what I've just been told. Right, he had a seven inchs pector at first, he wanted a nine inxpeccer, right, So they gave nine inches. The doctor told him, he said, this is gonna take a while to do it. He didn't recommend it. He recommended he only got an inch, but he said, well, you know your average size, right now, why do you want to get this? We'll like he's going to have a bigger penis. Right. Then he came back for another one a year later, right, and says he wants to get

twelve inches. Now, I will say this. He was married to one of the Kardashians, so you know they puts is probably deepest motherfucking deepest Atlantics, right, And so he's judging his performance in his wife game based on this girl, and he's feeling like he's not fulfilling her needs. Right, but he might be fine to the average that to the average other, you know, another female. Right, So he's basing his self esteem on what she wants and what she said, or he probably just feels that way in

his mind. He probably feels like a she and holling and screening when he knocked down and he's not doing his job. But I wouldn't give a damn. Ain't no way in the world I'm going. I'm never putting somebody cut on my penis, my manhood. That would be tough to compromise the feeling. I wouldn't give a damn when I would be entirely too much about somebody else, like man Like if I got four inches and it requires me to feel less for somebody else to feel better,

I wouldn't do it. Well, that's what I'm saying to plus. They say with those surgeries you do lose some feeling. I would imagine so, because you're taking your natural self and getting ship injected into it. And then my thing is this. I think when people go out and get these surgeries, they don't think about the long term effects. Just like this. We are naturally, as human beings, supposed to age and die. That's it. I for damn. Shoot, don't look like I did when I was twenty five

years old. I give my wife credit. My wife had three of my children. Man, she's always kept a way to order. My wife still got a good figure. She's not looking all funny. I see some of these women walking down the street our age and they look like Milton Frostly snowman. You know, they just sagging everywhere. But the thing, you know, that's time. It's a progression. My gut is hanging up with my bill buckle. Now I don't look nowhere near like I did when I was

in my twenties. That's a progression. I want the woman when I went to progress with me. I don't need you because my thing is this. These people get these plastic surgeries. When they turn sixty seven years old, they still have certain features on their face, like their nose maybe plastic or whatever. Right, they're looking funny. It's like you, we have to use we have to be happy, but the God gave us. And if something like you don't accept that, man, let me ask you a question. How

important is beauty? Well, I'm gonna tell you something, man, I had this conversation. I've been fortunately married over thirty years. Right, I really think you know when you first meet somebody, see the young, the vibrant, right, and you're growing together, Right, you still see that person. That's the same. If you really love that woman, you still see her as that same young, vibrant girl. You're always growing together. Right, It's like I think I feel my wife is the most

beautiful woman on the planet. Like I'm sure you do yours too, Right, We're supposed to feel that way, and if you don't feel that way about your wife, that maybe something wrong, you know, But it's that's that's such a shallow pretense to just to get with somebody, or you don't get me wrong, I want to marry no ugly asked woman. But at the same talk, and I'm with a woman that's attractive to me. I don't give

a fucker's don't nobody else like her? This is my thing though, right, Um, I think it's a very minute word because somebody, right, beauty is kind of from this shallow perspective. Not completely, but yes, most of the time it's from a shallow perspective. And if you hung on that actual simple perspective for me, that beauty fades for sure. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying they don't look good, but it's different to not have something versus having something.

Like people probably thought Bentley's is the greatest car in the world. To somebody who had it is just a car. It's it's all a how somebody else feel about it. Um. And that's why it's important that a woman's beauty, you know, be be like skin deep. It it's internal, you know, I mean, because then like you have to shine from the inside out consistently, you know what I mean, because everything on the outside, no matter what changes what I'm saying.

So I was just saying that to say that it's like you have people who you know and I'm not a big fan of of I feel like I love with Charlotte Manner and then be talking about mental health. But I definitely think it's starting to be a bit, you know, a lot, you know what I'm saying. It's such a very vast and general concept, you know what

I mean that it really don't have an end. But I appreciate that concept when it comes to this because you have so many women trying to, like a girl told me, fix something that they feel is broken, right, But what's broken is how their their brains sees it. Does that make sense? It makes a lot of sense. Like you know, I give you a perfect example. Do you remember when Biggie first introduced Junior Mafia? Right, sure, I thought Kim was a beautiful black woman. I thought

she was a good looking girl. I think, you know, I look at her now, she looks like Madam. You remember that puppet Madam No, I'm gonna show you right now. Hold on, look him looked like Madam now And and it's kind of like you know, I think people, man, they look at society, the standard that society sets for for beauty, right, and they I think it folks, what they here? Bro? Let me ask you a question. Is a woman who makes a lot of money more valuable than a woman who does it? No? Not necessarily, I

think in their own mind. See, some people place values on the most primitive things. Geeky, I'm just I'm just saying, let's let's just focus on women, right with with value when it comes to that, right, Like, would you value a woman taking care of you? Do you think you could value that? Like, let's say if Maria hits a lot of if she makes two hundred millions h do you would you value her buying the house, buying your car, buying you clothes, buying you would you value that even

though that's been your wife of twenty plus years? Right? And she decide she won't take care of me. Now, yeah, do you think that would be valuable? Hey? Motherfucking yeah, I wouldn't. You know what the thing is. I wouldn't be with her just for that. But if she tell me I want you to kick back, I'm the bread winner now, I wouldn't have no problem with that. What time you want done? When you come on? I don't

believe that now she don't get me wrong. I wouldn't stop doing what I do now, don't get twitter she said, I don't want you to do what you do anymore? Well she if she's making two und a million dollars, I would say, you know what this is. I don't do what I do just for money is financially rewarding. But I do this because I don't want you to do nothing. I just want you to wait on me handing foot. Uh No, that wouldn't work right us. It's something inside of you that that has to go out

and build right It's it's it's like a wire. So women having financial benefits really is not valuable to a whole man, you know what I mean? A W H O L E like a complete man, you know, as complete as you can before you find your woman, right, I don't know if that's really value. Like still, I think, like, you know, you cook nigger like a like a like an old Southern slave lady. You know what I mean, you get cracking and and you know you're decent. You know,

I've seen you clean up behind yourself. You clean decent. You know. I just couldn't see you just waiting hand and foot. I don't give a damn what Maria guy. I just couldn't see that. It's not you that's right there, and that's not that's look him, look right now, they'll kill gonna fire your ship up. Yeah, she went from being you know. And and I'm not giving him a hard time, man, I get it, I get it. She does kind of favor that I'm not giving. Sure, I'm

not giving her a hard time man. But but that's how, you know, I think she's turned herself into that man. And and I just genuinely think. Now I could be wrong, but I just cannot believe this is not true. Somewhere along the line, growing up, it wasn't enough people telling her you're beautiful, And then as she got older, men did things to her to make her question how beautiful she was. Now that don't mean that's exactly what it is, because no ge, what happens he is people have situations

in their life that mess with their self esteem. It all comes down to people's self esteem. Because I'm gonna tell you what I see, and that's what I love about our people. Man, we got so much flavor. Right, you will see a big girl walking down the street and going to the club. Right, she dressed to the nines, got her nails did, and got her her pumps on. And you can't tell her she ain't fresh to them because she feels good. But for herself, we can get

and steal this. On an other spectrum, you have this woman it's heavy said. They feel like ship right because some man don't call her fat, some dude that she loves and use it. What happens els It's not that women give a damn about just a regular man's opinion about them somebody they love and admire or somebody they like. They cutting them down due that does something their psyche

and their self esteem. Yeah, you understand what I mean. Like, let's say, if you've got a sister and she heavy said, and you always called her fat, that's gonna bother to a certain extent that's gonna call you in her life, even if she never says anything about it. It's all about people's esteem and that's how we we are pretty much programmed from the time we've children with certain in their traits, right, Like you have some mothers who starved

their daughters. Or you're getting fat, so don't eat that, and the girls ain't fat. It's like, my whole thing is this, bro, I've never done that, but none of my children. They are who they are meant to be. If they're a little on the heavy side, that's what

it is. Now when it comes to health, I get my family still my ask man, you know, Marie, if I go into trying to buy ding dongs and cakes and ice cream, by the time we get to the check out wine, all that ship is gonna she don't put that ship somewhere And he's like, no, you're not about to happen stroking And I don't mind, wife, But that's love the right. It's not that she's telling me on YouTube. Fact, Maria got like she I go walk three miles every night, and now you know what I

do what I do with my wife three miles dude. First, it was kind of a hit where there was a lot of wear and tear on my knees through But I actually I'm feeling better now. So before I get this surgery, I would have lost some weight and I'd be cool, and I'd probably recover faster, you know, just because of my wife. But she's not telling me to go walk on. You're a fat ass right now. Go walk Some people just naturally big, like gee, me and

you are naturally big people. I know you work out, You work out like you're a professional afft that you're in boxing, you're doing all this stuff, but you are never going to be that skinny dude wearing tight ass jeans, the tight ass T shirt, the wait a hundred sixty miles. That's just not just to be healthy. That's said, I just need to be healthy. That's what we need to do. Dog. We need to stop letting people mess with our self esteem. Because if a person that's cutting you down like that man,

they're not they don't really love the ladies. If you're out there listening, and if you got a man at home, it's always critiquing you and body shaming you and all that ship till let motherfucker to eat his own dick and walk out the ouse. I agree, the right man is gonna work with you. He ain't gonna tell you take your fat as the gym. He's gonna be like, let's go to the gym, or let's go to the park. Yeah, because I'm gonna tell you my mama was said woman. Yeah,

but my mom was too. But but before we even say that, that goes into how men feel about themselves, because they really only come and regurgitate how they feel about themselves and then place it onto women. That's important to know, Like, you know, sometimes women become men's punching bag, you know, and sometimes women becomes men punching bag. Like right now, you can have women on social media looking at this bullshit life that Nigga's baby Mamas is selling them.

Give mean different but baby Mamas and selling them like this this glamorous life, and they're really selling you a lie to get your money and to make you feel bad. I was talking to a dude yesterday on Clubhouse UM, and we were talking about the state of of of

of of the black ghetto. You know where we're at these urban streets, you know, corners, these urban street cultures and I was expressing to him, um like yeah, man, like our our black elite has to do better, Like that's to catch our black elite has to do better. And to listen to him explain to me how like, oh no they doing you know they they they first generation millionaires, you know, leave them alone and we gotta

do it ourselves. It just made me think we're like like we're in the time where we really are worshiping like celebrated people as a celebrity, whether it's a dalist Eliens, whatever,

celebrity I am. I can never allow people to truly celebrate me like I will never It's so hard for me to reference people as a fanatic of me, fan of me right and only because I feel like I see myself in every person, you know what I mean, breathing air source like honestly like yeah, And this is one of the things I love about, yeah, is like if you're a fan of me, you got to be a fan of yourself because I'm inside of all every person that listens to my music. So maybe you're not

a gangbanger, but maybe you read books. Maybe you don't read books, maybe you're a gangbanger. Maybe you know one of my perspectives of how I live my life. I feel like it's in every human that listens to my music and that's really where they connect that. But the point what was bothering me, like I said, is just the value part. And I was thinking to myself, like do we really do we really value women from the

eighties and nineties more? And I think because they prided themselves as being kind of how we see women from its route right wound like a wound man, like a a womb man, a woman right like a nurturer, you know what I'm saying. So I think women in the eighties and nineties, like you know, um, fancy themselves as more of nurturers versus the modern woman fancies herself as

a gatherer, know what I'm saying. And I've heard a lot of time to be like, oh, well, you know, men ain't getting it like that, so I gotta go get it. And it's like, well, I respect that if that's you know, your your experience, but there's no value to that. I've never met a woman and thought, oh, she's making money. I want to hit Like I don't see Oprah and be like, oh I want to hit that. I've never saw Oprah and thought I wanted to hit that for me, I don't care what money she got, Like,

it don't work for me that way. And I then you only don't feel like it works for a whole man that way. Like you have to look at a woman, you know, the most beautiful parts of them, the most valuable parts of them is the nurturing part. Nurturing your brain, whether it's nurture your children, whether it's nurturing in your body with nutrition, whatever it is, nurturing, that's the most

valuable part. And I think they're again why is irrelevant because we have a conversation of why women are being like this, but the fact that like they are getting further away, right culturally away from nurturing. So you know, brother, you and I'm gonna tell you what happened, right, Yeah, we went through a period in this country to where

we had grandmothers. We had generations to people at one time around people, right, so they kind of kept that in order, right, Like you would have the grandmother she would teach it her daughter. Hey, when you're sitting down on the dress across your legs, right, um, you have that mother then spread it down to her daughter. But that turned into was the grandmother stay in the house with the mom. The dad is gone and they have

a pity party. So that grandmother she's miserable because the man left her for somebody else and left, and she has this daughter and these kids that he's raising. She can't stay in the sun because he reminded the dude that walked out the door on the right. And the daughter hears this woman complaining all day about men. So now you're raising this bitter person before they even get into it. So she has this this thing for men kind of coming up. So when she starts dating, she's

automatically expecting, though this dude is gonna leave. He not shipped. So they wonder why they can't keep a man, And it's them. It's not their beauty, it's not nothing. It's them because they have low self esteem. So what they're doing, they're projecting their problems and their issues on on them people. And that's what happens for people in society today. People like to project their issues on the youth. So if they're not feeling good about theirselfs, they gonna do all

they can to cut you down. It's almost like these guys that are on the internet. Now, I swear to gee, if I'm not into something, I don't watch it. I don't leave a comment, I don't do nothing. I'm not pressional like button. I might love your content and I may hear it like on it, right, but if I don't like it, I'm not gonna going on there every day and say, hey, this sucks. The only reason I watched this show is blah blah blah blah blah. You feel what I'm saying, and it's like it's hated, hated.

They committed to Hayden and it's like this, and you say, like, I had this one dude to send the message every day to us, and I finally told him one day, and yet here you are once again just left it at that. Well, the only reason I watched shows because hey, I said, and that's fine. That means I did my job by casting in this role. So you get people that like to reject, and the worst thing we can do as men women whoever is start rejecting that stuff

back to him because it's an exercise and futility. Right. Those people are very work people, have a work mind, They have low self esteem, and they have issues that they want to blame everybody else for It's kind of like um, women can cut men down to two where if you've had a homeboy who was just beat down all the time, his wife is always comparing to something like that, I'll be feeling so bad for him. Man, and they have this, And that's what I would tell everybody.

If you're at home, that's a form of abuse, and that's the worst type of abuse. If you're sitting down just mentally cutting people out. You gotta people that cut the kids down. You've got people that cut their spouses down. You've got people that just that's what they are because they don't feel good about themselves. That's not an issue with me. That's not an issue. If you it's something

wrong with them, there's something wrong with them. And if you're marrying somebody or deciding, you know, to be in this committed relationship with a person that you pretty much from the sound of the things, you can't stand something that's wrong, something that's wrong, because I think when you truly love somebody gene you take them for the best and worst. If I was to go out and get into accident in my eye and I missed wrong and looked like deeper. I look like telling listen, my wife

ain't going nowhere. She loves me for who I am. Just like if something happened with her, God forbid, I would still be with her. That's my wife. It's way more deeper than just skin deep. You know you understand what I mean and then like it happen. Do you worship the ground that your wife walks on? I wouldn't say it's worthship. I feel good about her and I'm proud of her. I'm proud to have her for the woman that she kills. I wouldn't say worship. I don't

worship nobody but God, but I love her. Where there was somebody was saying that to me. It's like, well, do you think men worship women in the eighties and nineties? And I'm like, I hope not. I don't think so. G I think it was a time, Like I said, I think our before all this technology we have, I think it's kind of made us dumbrous human beings. We became way more you know, we you know, get started

and advance far. Smartphones were getting down. Yeah, because you know what I had to teach my kids and I make sure they know I told all my kids how to read the map because my thing is this, Like I told him, I myself, these satellites go out one day, you'll not even go to get know how to get out of state. Man, I always laughing. Ship. My dad

taught me how to read the Times. Guy. You should don't because at one time, you know my former life, I was a salesman, right, So when I got my first sales job, Dog, they used to give you a big briefcase in the time, Scott, you have to find yourself around l A. So if I had to know my route in events, so you memorize, you're wrote by heart. Right. So I had a certain amount of stories. I had stores in south central Inglewood Hall, knowing certain parts of downtown, right,

So I would go to all these different liquor stories. Man, and I had to learn how to use the time was guy, because it wasn't no even that was just maybe sixteen seventeen years ago. It wasn't a hitting the you know we had cell phones then, but it wasn't a hitting your thing and find the math to go somewhere. The best you can get to that dog is going onto the one program. I forget it you were going this one website and put the address in and it would give you turn by turn directions. I think that

was the precursor to what we have now. Right, but we have to learn certain stuff. If anything, technology has made us intellectually lazy. Sure, And I think that's what it is. Me and head head feels like people are incapable of learning. And I just feel like people are too lazy to learn. Oh that's laziness. Because I'm gonna tell you this, Like I remember jazzone was telling me one day. She was crying, that's my daughter. You know, since my daughter this is when she was probably six

sheet now she's going to elementary school. She wanted the phone. Of course she wanted the phone because her brother asked what the thing she wanted? One Christopher had him a little boot smoke at the time, Right, you know, I got jazzing one of them phones to where she can just call me and her mom and had two buttons on there. My number was programmed the number one, her mom was programmed the number two. You know, she was so upset, she she was like traumatized. She cried, Dad,

this phone is ugly. How can the phone be ugly? The phone is a two. Yeah, and these kids, you if you asked the AVX person that they to put their cell phone down for they would lose their mind. There was a time she we only had a house phone. Sure somebody wanted to catch you. You know, you you you you're old enough to remember that error, right, Yeah, you know the house phones all through the nineties and cell phones. I remember only so many people had break phones.

My mom had a car phone in her car, and then in the late eighties the early nineties she had a car phone. But yeah, like pretty much house phones the whole time till like the mid nineties. Mhmm, yeah, you know what man. And it's like I remember, you know mom, Mom, Like I told you my mom, you know, she's lost weight since then. But my mom was a heavy set woman, right. My mom was always a good cook. My mom was like one of those real down home

southern Midwestern moms. You know. She made sure we had food. It might not have been necessarily we weren't exactly eating um, you know, steak and you know uh, you know, shrimplet lobster and wag you beef. No, it might have been the type of a pot of beans with a tender

corn bread of you know, buttermelk corn bread. And I think I told you the other day, I got so tired of eating that stuff, man, But now I miss it and she you know, I eat at the best steak houses I've had, you know, the best food in the world, right, but nothing still compared to that part of beans with the neck bones in it, bro and that part of corn bread right that Tennis coubree right because it was cooked with love, and that was what my mom could afford the time. And I look back

on it, not my mom. And you know, my mom and my stepdad did a great job. We ate every night. We pretty it's got most of the things we wanted Christmas time, you know, I was excited we would get atari. You know, I had the collegual vision, always had the video games. They did the best that they could. And I think now, man, that our kids, I think, and I was talking to my wife about this one day.

I think we do our children at disservice by trying to and I almost think it's loving them too much for trying to by love and display affection with or I gave you this, I gave you money. Your kids don't give a shit about that they carry about attension, getting attension right, Because what we're doing is we're raising a bunch of a bunch of people who are very condescending, a bunch of people who have these expectations that they just go get something just because they're here. Just because

you're breathing there, don't mean you deserve something. Yeah, you understand what I mean. So I think we became we become very TRIVIALUS society. We've become to where that's what the divorce raiders to have. People marry people for the wrong reasons. They meet a girl or i'll make this bad bro, while met this nigger that got this going on. But they meet these people and before they know what, they're married because they married him for the wrong reasons.

And you're not supposed to spend your marriage's time for getting to know somebody. Of course, there's gonna be a period of discovery the world when you marry somebody. I don't care unless you live with him for a few years. Bro, when you've just been dating somebody, you decided to move in with him and get married, you're going to find

things out about that person that you may not have necessarily. No. You may come home to your wife one day in her hair may be looking like mine, and you're like, damn whatever that long has man hair or not, that's when she is. You may be even telling to your husband and one day you come out the shower in his head it's like mine. He balled right, Because people, we've made so many advances in society, but yet most

of those advances are real. Just asking that almost stupid, like they g didn't have a male hair pieces went from a male hairpiece out towhere. If I wanted to get a faith, right, I could do that now. See if I wanted to come in you'll see me tomorrow, lone. You see me now with my big black ball here right, and you saw me next week and I have a hairline down here and add this, and you could look real. You would look at me like something wrong with me?

Will you? Friday? So you know? Yeah, yeah, we are afraid of being who we are supposed to be God and tender less to be. I'm not gonna go get no pet and plants. I'm not putting here in my head. If it's not good a few where I am, then Sayonora, let me ask you a better question. I'm ask you the last two questions that we're gonna wrap it up because I don't want to drag this out. Um, what do you think you appreciate about Maria? Like, straight up, don't don't brown nose. I'm gonna be real. Just let

me tell you what it means. First, it's recognized the full worth of so outside of her being a wife, right, a quality wife? What about her? Do you recognize the full worth of where you like? Damn, this right here is unbelievable. Her sense of family and I'm talking about this woman loves her family. I'm talking about me and her children. Like to where she would fight a beer, she would fight a bear for her family. You feel

what I mean? I've had times g to where I wasn't doing the best all and my wife held me down. She didn't make me feel like ship doing it, you know as she did that? Right, I feel like my wife has my back unconditionally. That's her biggest attribute right there, is her love her family is her family. Okay, now what about so that's actually a dope ass answer. That's a super valuable thing. Okay, what about what do you respect?

And now respect in the Nigga way, like how we talked when we said respect, because respect in our community and our culture is usually rooted in fear. I mean, but where is the most like the thing you admire the quality? So so you you you appreciate the full worth of her coind the full worth of how she sees family. But what is the ability or the quality that you have a deep admiration for um the fact that she doesn't deal with everything and emotions on an

emotional level, and that's rare in a woment. My my wife strictly deals with situations about lodging, don't what do you? So? Respect is like like you regard this and approval like you approve this, like like you're like, yeah, that is it right? That approval? And she's truthful. You know my kids sometimes that I'm to meet one, Oh my mom is something mean? No, she's not mean. She's gonna take

the truth if she cares. If she don't give a damn about because she's not gonna she do carry on, do what you do, that's on you, right, But if she cares for you, she's gonna be honest. Do you think do you think some women lie to their significant other in the the family. Oh yeah, way too much all the time, I think, because again we're going back to where people want to keep up appearances. That's why you

have the family. What you said when you first started this conversation, it's um, they are entirely too concerned about everybody else's opinion. It's literally, we used to have the same back and death to always have here. My parents say they're trying to keep up with the Jones. Is right. You have people in this country g that are living in places like that they can't afford right literally to

where they may be making pretty good money. You may have a husband that's making a hundred thousand dollars a year, right. You may have a wife that doesn't work or whatever whatever reason. He wants her to stay at home, or he wants her to beat this housewife. But really they can't afford it. They could afford it if he decided, well, maybe maybe I can't afford the living um in the valley, right,

maybe I can't afford to living this part of town. Right, Maybe if I wouldn't have got to create over here, it would be better off. Right, But no, he's making a hundred thousand dollars a year. But he's spending a hundred and seventy thousand dollars a year to maintain a lie from driving a carter he can't really afford to live in the house that he can't afford, to sending

his children to a school that he can't afford. All to appear to his peers, who may have that money or may have that, you know, be able to finance that lifestyle they're living. He's trying to keep up with them in order to be acceptable to them. But at least that's what he thinks in his mind. Is to him being honest and saying, you know what, man, I should have bought that crib um, I shouldn't have bought that creab cos of code. Maybe should have moved to

Surreals of Lakewood. You follow what I'm saying, But do you think asked for his period? I think women. I think men do things for their for women, not they do. You know it's all optics, bro, but it's not from a pure place. Right. If I if I go on, Tom decided to buy a new house, get right, I'm going to get a house that's good for me and my family. Now, if you like it, and you come over and see this is myself, that's cool. But if you come over and see it, man, I don't like this.

Met I'm must respect your opinion, but at the end of the day, I'm not gonna care because this world live. You ain't gonna sleep over here. Good looking out for tuning into the No Sellers Podcast. Please do us a favorite, subscribe, rate, comment, and share. This episode was recorded right here on the West coast of the USA and produced by my homeboy A King for the Black Effect Podcast Network. And I heard radio Yeah,