Conversations About Weddings

seven dollars. I didn't want to spend a lot of money on a dress because I had the mindset and I'm gonna wear this one time for a few hours. They didn't have a permit. They did it in the Angeles Crest Highway all right, with the Saint Gabriel and Sierra Polona Mountains as the back drop. Because they didn't have a hermit, they only had to rent chairs and the arch. Thirty to forty relatives and close friends. Her family, god sister and aunt right chipped in on the wedding cake.

They did the reception at a place called Misty's Lounge, and the guests and the guests who came purchased their own food. And drinks. She might be in the running for one of the greatest women to ever breathe air. There's no confident I'm aware of I'll tell you that much. This is another couple of dope ladies. It's one specifically they talked about. Instead of trying to get child support from her baby dad, she just loaned him some money to help him start a trucking business. M hm. That

she's she's there too. That's for another day. That was called a long money play. Yeah, brilliant, but it's one of the five. Okay, I'm just gonna be nice. She's one of the ten greatest women to ever live for that stunt, easily. Sure, she's top ten, No way below fourth in the top ten. And I've been to weddings. My home girl Devi Dave wedding was insane. Was at

this ranch. You know, it was real nice, laid in and out truck come food, The in and out truck came for the receptions like you ate two or three times truck. Yeah, they went all the way. People are spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on weddings, thirty to three hundred thousand dollars on weddings. I went to one

of those. One of my homies is getting married and him and his girl right there, they're trying to figure out what they're gonna do about their place m hm um wait, their place to live or their place for the one place to live once they get married. Gotcha? And instead of I think he would like for her to say, let's minimize the wedding right to a small number and take the rest of the money right and go get a place to live. And she doesn't want

to do it because this is her dream day. Yeah, not the rest of the marriage, no, but just this specify day because you don't get attention the rest of the time. Is that what it is? Yeah? Women love attention. That's all that they ever wanted. Like they're all narcissists. Everybody knows that if if she invited her friends and family over every single day to the new house, the new house would be pristine, no sillies, zel my man Peter and his bizag going crazy. What was the most

extravagant wedding you've ever been to? By far? Easily? I've been to some good weddings. Um my cousin right, like my family, like my grandpa, you know, has some money. My cousin married a lady whose dad has a lot of money, like hundreds of millions of dollars type ship. So we went to his wedding out in Colorado and it was Yeah, there were ice sculptures of swans. It was at this huge, massive mega resort in the mountains. It had a live band with live dancers, it had

it was ridiculous. Where were they from Denver? The guy like built Denver. He was a real state developer. Wow, what kind of fool was it? Honestly, I don't even remember. There was too much going on. I've been to four or less weddings in my life. I've been the fifty funerals, but I've been the four weddings. Um huh oh, yeah, I've been to baby six. Yeah. The homie Chuck Dizel married the homegirl Tosa Chuck Diesel, who worked at ninety two point three l A. So I went to his wedding.

I went to Debby Deve, who was my dog. I make Debbie Deve used to work at K Day. Her husband plays football for one of those teams. Cool does though, cool dog? Um m. I went to my nieces Tavine's wedding, right, she married, uh, a professional basketball player named Eugene Jetter, the homie poole mhm. And I went to my homeboy, who did probably eight nine years in jail, ten years in jail somewhere like that. I went to his wedding. Huh.

He didn't get married in Cartrated, did it. No? No, he came home and got married like a year after. I was the four weddings that I've been to, and when I tell you, they couldn't they were so different. But I just think about what a wedding really represents. What do you think of wedding girly representtion? Yeah, I definitely think it's women's turn to have all livees on me. I think they have a few moments in life where

it's all lies on me. Right, the baby shower is all lies on me, The wedding to some degree is all livees on me, and prim is all livees on me. Mm hmm. Yeah. And my miss is something in the in the Latin community, excuse me, and that what I say for me. So that's another one, but I don't even want to count that. And if you're a Jewish, the botto mitzvah. Oh yeah, yeah, I just don't get it, Like,

what's the point? I mean, to some to some degree of scale, most of the time, women are just in the midst of inexplicable actions for the purpose of trying to gain unwarranted attention, And you're asking, what's the point, Well, what's the point of which part? What's the point of the wedding? Because the point of the wedding is where I just described. What's the point of what I just described? There isn't one, but if you ask them, that's the only point in life. So it's just a natural wire

for a tency. Yeah, because women are men are producers and women are consumers. Say it for years. If you ever get married, Yeah, well, what kind of wedding would he be? Um, it's gonna be a wedding. I actually want to have my wedding at a graveyard because there's gonna be an unnamed guest of honor at the wedding and the crowd who has been paid an obscene amount of money to assassinate me. So I'm already at the graveyard from my wedding assassination. Oh man, it's autography. Help,

I don't know at this point, probably not. Now, I don't want to go on a dinner date for Christ's Sacre. That's me if I want to get married. You really don't want to go on a dinner date now I would. I wouldn't mind getting married. If I could be a strange husband, that would be cool. I wouldn't mind being desfined as estranged, so you would get married just to be defined as an extant what you and women? Man, we gotta we gotta get the spokesman for women to

sit down at the table with you, because this ship crazy. Man. I've never met anyone get demoted like and and honestly, Pete, do you hate women? No? We had this episode before we're gonna get back to weddings. I was just saying before we slip back, so I can see how that I'm saying, Do you have an extreme dislike for women's ways? Um? I just don't want to be bothered with women. I understand it depends on how all right, in the context of me personally in my life, they're good for nothing,

what they other other than a sexual ship? I mean, really, you take that out of there, what are we doing the rest of It's just just an agitation. But in the greater scheme of humanity and society and everything like that, Yeah, there's value there. I understand that there's a lot of value to the greater population and to other individuals in the scope of my individual existence. It's full sy, it's about it. I'm sorry. Not the cooked meals. No, I'm a better cook than most any woman I ever met

in my life. I like companionship, God, even't know. Fuck, that's the worst part. The companionship is the worst part. What part would be worse than that? If that's not the worst part, then what's the worst part? Exactly? I arrest my case. I don't think. I don't know. If the companionship is the worst part that, what's the worst part? In the companion is the worst part, what would be the worst part? Then what's worse than that? In dealing with a wife or a woman or a wedding, like

so certain parts I'll agree with. Right. I agree women tend to want to turn what should be affairs will right as a relationship, they tend to naturally want to turn into a roller coaster. I agree. I'm not gonna lie. I've seen that enough times. I don't know I think they want to I interact with a ton of traumatized women. Yeah, I mean, because you know, from the community. But I have watched women turn fairest will relationship, which that's how

a great relationship should be. Is a fairest will should be a smooth process that got its high low points, but it should go as a small circle, smooth setting. And I have watched for sure and been a victim of them turning it into a roll across them. So yes, I'll agree, as long as we're keeping the carnival theme, you know, going with that relate, I'm gonna put a twister. I don't disagree with the roller coaster thing. I think

that that's very true. I could also make a strong case that instead of a fairest whill, women want to turn a relationship into a house of mirrors where everywhere they turn they just see themselves, not even you in the picture with them. Not if I have my way, I'm saying they don't want you in that house of mirrors with him. They probably do. They just want me to stand in a corner so that I'm not in the way of the mirrors. I've said a relationship is

I said a marriage. Right, so post the wedding, I said, a marriage is a man walking with a woman, a woman walking trying to find her way through life and having a man to hold the flashlight. Yeah, as they try to discover who they are. Dude, you know what weddings are like? Weddings are like Joe Biden press conferences. You have one handler walk her up to the podium and then another handler grabs her real quick and but make sure she's where she is, and then that guy

walks her off. Otherwise joke gets lost. That's a wedding right there. So we'll forget it. But by the time you know it starts, he'll call me. So so, how could this woman, how could this woman right yes, be so selfless? Or is their selfish motivation that we're not aware of. Maybe she has you know how you can get a vitamin that like vitamin B for example, that's time distributed. Maybe she has buffered time distributed selfishness, and she thinks to herself, you know what, I'm not gonna

spend all my money on these friends and family. I'm gonna hoard all my money and spend it on me later, which sounds kind of like what she said so, then that means, oh, so she still got the attention for free? Yeah, she got the money and he Yeah, she's a Tony Montana of Bryan's. Oh is it? And right now that guy which he was the one who got his head sought into by a chainsaw? Yeah? Do you know anything about weddings at all? Besides that you don't want one? Yeah?

I've been most of the weddings I go to. I'm in the What are the group of guys that are there with the guy? Yeah, I'm one of them. I was the best man one time, for real. Yeah, that was a mistake. They got divorced. Why was it a mistake? Though? They shouldn't have asked me to be best man. I didn't want to be at that wedding. I hate going to weddings man, for real? Yeah, I hate that ship? Is it too much happiness? I don't like small talk

of people. That's a lot of that ship. You always get stuck talking to a bunch of people you don't know. Don't like, I don't want to be talking to Am I doing here? Yeah? But you actually formulate an opinion on that, like, I don't think I've ever formulated an opinion on small talk. It's most all of what you're

doing there. Like if you're there for four hours, you sit there, you watch the wedding for an hour, then you're at the reception for three talking to people you don't don't know, don't care about, and whatever the fuck. Like we haven't got a gill from there. Hell no, I don't think so. Uh no, not really. I mean I met a couple of girls at um at one wedding, but it was like a super Christian wedding. So that was a waste of time. It was a super Christian wedding. Yeah,

so that was a waste of time. That's right. Why the funk would that be a waste of time? Pete? We real quick? So you really feel like women are only good for just six Not in the world. I know everyone wants to hear this I'm saying in the world, that's not what I'm saying. Am I saying? In the greater society? Your personal existence to me? For me, there's not a whole lot else to that did you bring to the table? I asked you, I ask girls, why what do you do? What is it that? What am

I getting out of this? There's no answers. There's a blank stairs. What if a woman wanted to marry you, but she was a billionaire, so she could finance all your ideas she brings them. I'm not dumb enough to fall for that ship. There's no way that. Then immediately they become her ideas. That's any wealthy person. No not, they become her ideas on paper. As soon as she doesn't like the direction I'm taking my idea, it goes

a different direction that it's her idea. Now. Yeah, so there's no woman breathing air that you would marry at this point in my life, Rihanna. Hell no, I'm manly, got knocked up. Jesus Christ, What does she got? One of them? Late abortions? You want to know the cold this ship, I'm gonna say on this entire podcast. Serious they might want with you? I don't know. Look, here's my here, here's my rule on abortions to me. If you wait so long that the stretch marks are already there,

you might as well keep it because you're good. You're good for nothing. Now, you wore yourself out, Now you might as well just keep it. You don't like stretch marks, not if they came from somebody else. No, I don't want to look at a bunch of reminder lines of the last guy's dick. I'm cool on that, but do it matter. Yeah, I don't want to buy a car

with someone else's face painted on the hood. That's not a face, it's just reminded somebody else drove the car every time I try to look at it every goddamn time. That's what you see, a stretch marks. I offered to pay a girl that at the time I would have married like ten grands to get an abortion because she was with another dude for a minute. They wanted to come be with me, but she got pregnant. I'm like, man, give I'll buy you a ring. I'll pay for it.

I give you five thousand cash, all that ship, whatever you want. She kept that motherfucker straight up, and a dude left her in like a week. It's not to bribe somebody's baby mama to get an abortion. It was super early. It was super early. It woult to show nothing. Bro, you a sick nigga. Bro, I never looked sick. I never said I was nice. Man. You guys over there acting like, oh, how you're not nice? Because I never said I was nice. I didn't think you were nice

on it for life? Why I didn't know you was the same matter? For sure, you will matter, but you actually are a white person, that's right. That was what the fuck? And it sounds like you loved her, So I guess that's how it worked. Whatever, that's how, that's how it didn't work. I tak that much. I don't even know what to say, man, I ain't never what's funny is he said some ship? Because I don't even know what to say. Sometimes I'll be like, damn, how

do I even respond to that? I just was thinking, like, I don't know, Pete, you're a different breed dog, different breed you and sugar free man, You and sugar free y'a awesome ship? Tell you that he is weird though, When some when people have these huge, giant weddings and they marriage don't last, that's hilarious. And then you see these people who don't have these huge weddings and they'd be married for eighty years. I don't know what the correlation is, if there is one. That's a good question,

because it has to be some kind of correlation. Yeah, I mean, I look around it like people that I know. There isn't any I've seen like um, like relatives that did, like the just did, like the city hall marriages and that kind of thing that neils didn't work. They were done in eighteen months. And I've seen the big old blowout ones burned down too, and I've seen them both work.

My grandparents wentn't eloped in lank Yuma. It's some tiny It was like the Vegas of the time back in the forties or fifties or whatever the hell, some tiny little chapel that ran over there and got married, came back, you know, until death did them part. Have no idea. Um. The weirdest ship to weddings with me is when you see a girl were white. Now, sometimes I'll be thinking to myself, like am I the ownly person here? Thinking

why is this woman wearing white? Like, and I'm talking about like I've only been the four wedding, so I'm thinking of who wearing white? I'm like, and they probably go here this's it cuts me out. But I was thinking to myself, like, this is such a lie. It didn't help that you mentioned some of the weddings already, but it's like, why would you be wearing white. This is not a token color for a wedding, you feel me.

It's supposed to be emblematic. Yeah, they're supposed to be emblematic. Yeah. Yeah, But I think, but I think sometimes I think that also is a problem. Right, because our whole life white. We're taught that bride like women are like innocent. I mean, they're innocent, they're like precious, they desctly look after and care for. Right. That's how you kind of are brought into this world believing or you should never put your

hands on them. They are speed shure, right. And then every day you're on planet Earth for as long as you could remember, you start noticing that something about what people are saying is not either true or easily identifiable. Oh, it's female propaganda big time. It's just a bunch of lies being fed to us by by women, or being fed to men who propagate them with the behest of women.

So one of the main problems is if you're a bribe, if you're a groom, right, and you see this lady coming down the aisle, h and she's wearing his white dress, she's with her father, you're just staring at it. It almost sends off a false like sense of like, what's about to happen. So now, now the average nigga, the average human being might not look at that deep, but that's what I see. I mean, I don't think there's

anything I can disagree with on that. You're kind of almost are saying, Wow, I have a big lie head in my way, and the whole family appears to be in on it, because the patriarchal said a family is the one handing the live to me. I just don't understand why they can't wear yellow or like a darker color. I mean, and if it was if white signified pure in the wedding, no white, you as most of these

motherckers should be wearing brown or black. Well, if you ask the women who are wearing the dresses, all those other dicks didn't count, so they vergens because said, you know, I said, the only person, the only person a woman is more comfortable lying to than you is herself. Hey, I need to get you on with a woman man, because you just really and you know what, I can't just say you're crazy. That's that's my because because it's right, I ain't gonna jump off that cliff because women do

have more value. Now, what you find valuable is different, right, So I can't tell you what you found value in that. I know women have more value to me than vagina, of course, and I acknowledge to me, not not to the world, but to me totally. So what else do you value of a woman? If it's totally you know I'm saying, I totally can understand based on knowing you know me where you're coming from. Okay, okay, yeah, yeah, I don't think that you're crazy, you're weird. No, not

at all. I don't think that I understand that ever looked at another human being. I mean, I guess some people it is only good for one thing. I guess some humans are whatever that one thing could be the humans I look at when I or I look around and see, I'm like, just just good for nothing, just just in my way, just in my fucking way. I can't focus because you just really going right now, I'm not, I'm not going. But when the monologue starts, it's evident I don't know. I just I just like I said.

I question a lot of different things about weddings, like why do people who don't go to church do it in the church, the same reason they wear a white dress. It's all about optics, It's all about your moment in the sun. Everyone's looking at you and Saras you wanted to be right. You want them to think exactly of you what you want them to think of you. So at that point, is that a conscious line? Yeah? You know you want to know how I know what the

conscious wants lie? Because who the funk plans the wedding out of the two people involved? Sure, the woman. But I'm saying, do you think they're aware that only like a white dress signifies pure. Women don't aren't aware of truth, so they don't know truth exists. No truth exists as they see it. The only truth is the on of the multiple choice of options for perspective on everything. We're looking at it like false false true false false, and we go see they're like, hmm A, B, C, D

E which one makes me feel the best? B. So you think when they're wearing these white dresses, they're conscious that they should signify pure, but they decide if I wear another color, it won't make me feel as good. I think it's hard for me to swallow the idea that it doesn't cross their mind. I think that it's all about, well, I want to look and be perceived

a certain way. This is my opportunity to paint my personality over an entire day in front of everybody that I know and care about, and even people that this idiot that I'm marrying those and that you know, I want to be perceived as prettier better. I mean, you see the dress of me that since they're wayte uffing that got the fake man? Hey, can they spend hundreds of dollars presenting themselves to make themselves look ten times

more attractive than they will the following morning? Of course, so they just they want to make it look like this other idiot lucked the funk out. He got a moral, upstanding, gorgeous woman, and he should be down on his niece thanking God with all the whole hundred of you. And it's his my witness and his witness. I can't laugh because you it's just give me a trouble every time. Oh that's part of the fun. Oh hold up, Hold up.

So they're consciously aware that the white dress signifies pure or do they think just all bride supposed to wear white? I think it's like the white is supposed to signify pure. That's what I'm saying. Is it a conscious lie? I don't think it's a conscious lie, but I think it's a conscious omission. You know. It's like the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. It's like they're a little often see and be m oh Man oh Man.

And there was the church represent Like if you don't go to church right every weekend or this is not your church? What does the church represent in the grand scale and the wedding? If if you're not if you don't have God, if you're not going to the church for God to oversee your life, why go to the church for God to oversee your wedding? What's their thoughts at that point? I think it's simply perception. We want to be perceived as good and moral, upstanding, god fearing people. Well,

this is a great optic for us. It looks very conventional and acceptable. And I also have to be here so that this idiot that I'm married can thank that guy over there on the cross a million times that he got such a pure and beautiful woman that I've duged myself up into appearing like today, ah oh Man oh Man oh man, oh man. Not again. So you're saying the whole wedding is just a great lie. It's not a great lie. And it's certainly it's a great production.

You know what it is. It's like it's a TV show. Yeah, it's based on a true story. It's like a sitcom that's happening live. Yeah, yeah, it's it's it's like if you go onto the Netflix and it says movies based on real life. It's not not real life, but it's based on it. You know, it's based loosely at one time she was a pure person. Yeah, we're summing her whole life up into one day. Starts with the dress, ends with her half naked and drunk, So it sums of her whole life the way she would like other

people to see it. Yes, it's a little bit of her visionist history. So she's rewriting her narrative on this day. Yeah, it's it's it's a great creative interpretation of reality and a based on reality. Um, lifetime movie. Huh. And what about the honeymoon? The honeymoon, h I mean ship that you owe me if occasion, just see all the effort that I put into making that wedding happen for you. Did you see how uncomfortable my hair and that dress was, so that could look good in front of your family?

You owe me a vacation. I need to relax. I've been stressed out playing this wedding for the last eight months. It's a well learned vacation in her mind. Sorry, now, it's a well learned vacation with a great opportunity to take selfies in an expensive beach resort. So is anything about it Real's anything about a wedding reel? Yes? What's the realist thing about a wedding? The bill? So what

about that five or less bill that are here ahead? Yeah, that is real that that Honestly, I wouldn't have gone to that wedding. I don't like weddings. I'm sure ship not gonna go to a wedding where you slap me in the face and say come through here and we're gonna have a checkout cash here so you can buy your own food at this reception to this wedding you don't want to even be at. So, like, that's pretty

low rent. If they had done everything except asked the guests to pay for their own food, I would have been like, this is the most unbelievable thing of all time. The fact that they didn't get the permit is the greatest thing of all time. They just thumbed their nose at the State of California to fuck you. You don't fucking permits. You a bunch of communist bastards. I'll stand in whatever park I want to. God damn it, I'm already paying for the license. Isn't that a permit? It's

a license, true fact. So your issue is the fact she made the guests pay for their own food. Yeah, because on the special you should have been them. Yeah. And it's like there's like everything exists on a spectrum. There's there, there's obnoxiously overdone, and then there's obnoxiously underdone that that's a little bit, and then there's you know, right where you want to be in the middle. They actually came down so far that they passed the sweet

spot and were obnoxiously cheap. So what should have they done for the food if they wanted to keep the billow? Whatever the funk they want, But you've got to provide it. I don't I'm not big on inviting people to things and asking them to pay for it. Dude, I wouldn't even be here. You're asked me to be here. Why am I? I want to technically have to eat, right?

You know you don't you don't, but yes, I mean I I don't need to eat at the wedding because after that miserable display I just witness, I'm gonna have a hard ti keeping it down. But most people, yeah, I get it. Go ahead, most people. Most people, you know, they associate large social gatherings around food and drink. It's kind of a tried and true historical culture. It's normal, though, It's very normal, very normal. This is, this is, this is. I don't know how we spun back I guess because

we're mentioning women. We're talking about how we spun back into this place of why would you wear a white dress if you're conscious that white dress is to signify Purity's Yeah, it's funny because I just did a podcast and I was telling this girl. I was explaining, I'm like, makeup is like deceptive, right, It's specially the way it's used today. So I'm thinking to myself, right there there, women are doing something, whether they're trying to alter the

contour of their says. The smoothness of their says they're altering something, is just mind to deceive you or it. Yeah, that's the scene because they're gonna always yes, they're always gonna come into a space where it's like, I do it for myself, And that's kind of my hardest. That's the one point. I don't believe. Everything that they do is for themselves. For fox sake. Of course they're doing

from themselves. They're getting you for themselves because they need a man, because they want you to be in their life. They want to be seen with you. They want you to pay for their ship. They want you to entertain them, they want you to company them. They want you all that ship. They're doing that for them. Everything that they do is for them. And I know for a fact that that they know it's a lie because I've tried

to see girls. I'm cool with it, I like, and they refused to see me because their hair is fucked up. But they make up, not on or whatever the funk else they won't. All right, I can't see you right now. I gotta keep up this lie. Funk out of here. It's true, I mean, can can can I scratch off the serial numbers, change the color of the car, and roll back the odometer. No, they don't roll back the oldometer, do they. Oh, you can spray all that makeup all

over your face. That's rolling back the oldometer. Yeah, all that work on the face, work, dying the gray out of your hair, putting all the spray on, wet foundation on, and all that we foundation putting over that, and the foundation they put on over that, and then the foundation they put on over that to cover up all those wrinkles. Your goddamn right. And that one day, that one day is the day where nobody's where is it? Is it? No, that's not the day everybody's applauding those lives. It's today

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