Conversations About Trips (Baecation)

know some they say that. I'm like, all right, she was cool. I was all like, oh, this is bum It was good. I was happy, and then I said you take the first bite and her eyes she was smoking some smoked because I got to make sure. That's wait. That's why I have to stop smoking at night, because I'm ready to just go kill some ship. What I did was I went to Trader Joe's and I got a lot of healthy snacks that are really like good and taste good. Chocolate cover, bananas, chocolate cover. I also

have this one. It's called no um no dairy or ice cream ice creams or ice cream cones and they're only like a hun Yes, they taste like real. You got some when you smoke weed. You have these munkeys. Yeah, you have low calorie munches. You go, so you know, if you're gonna do it, do it right. Yeah, because I won't get my goats. It will be cereal. Ochre chips you have like ochre chips. Really, I like chips,

but it's like dried out, okra the whole thing. Why would you get an ore chip Because it's crunchy and it's good. It's better than the corn ship. It's not better eating it's ok the planet chips are fired. Yeah, those are good. Those are good, right, and then they have no like what is it? Sweeper tails and carrots and oh yeah, I'm just talking about the mixed mos. Yeah, it's dehydrated. I'm not eating ore chips and the three layer hummas. You put me on that, that three layer hummas,

I don't like. Hey they got this to Trader Joe's. Is my spot for snacks only Shopper Sprouts, see, I haven't with Oh we used to go to Sprouts right crusty from Yeah, I like sprouts. Sprouts is my store completely. Yeah, I didn't have it. I don't really try to get creative with meals. I keep it simple. I get seated watermelons, I get raw milk, rawhomogenized pasteurized. It's a company calls

shout out to the company raw Farms. They based on Central California, and they actually the only company that has unhomogenized, unpasteurized milk. I mean it only lasts about four days, five days. But in those four or five days, like most people think they have like their lactose intolerant, and they're not. They're just the product that they've been drinking has been ultra pasteurized. Like in my mind the way I see it, I'm not sure this is true. So

you can't. You can listen to me like just from glasses because it helped my life. But like the minerals and the envitamins create like a bar code on all the natural earth products, right, the combination of them. Um, when you pasteurize, you know, liquid, you strip it, especially when you ultra pasteuriity, you strip it of all this

natural minerals and environments you know. Um. When Lewis Passion first came up with the idea of pasteurization, it was to heat up beer to a place to where he got rid of all of these viruses and stuff that would make it go bad like in a day, you know, I mean all these bad and negative things that can

make you sick. But over the time people realize it was more financially viable if they get rid of all of the living vitamins and minerals in there, then me the milk colass thirty days, you can get milkshire you're looking to go to the grocer store. Milk, don't go back for thirty six days because there's nothing living in it. In your body processes it, so when you drink it, it's stripped of that bar code, that natural bar code, so your body don't know what it is, so it

starts to firm in your body. And milk is one of those products where your body produces either I think it's lactose or lactate. Your body produces it. To digest milk sugar, it needs to produce something as well with it, so when it comes together, that's how you digest milk. Without those minerals and vitamins, your body don't recognize it as milk, so it won't process it, so it's sit in your body and firm it. That's why you have gas. So I have to buy this twelve dollar half a

gallon milk. Can't you can't milk it? Amon what? You don't even care that it's just a lie. Once again, this is just some woman ship. I don't even care. That's a lot you can't make. I don't know. It's not pus pus. So would you breast feed your baby? Plus us? Is it because the animals are sick? No, that's that boys, I don't know what I'm talking about. I'm just talking no milk, milk come out your breast to when you get pregnant exactly. Don't just be plus. But I'm not a cow, and I don't think we

should be drinking. Sometimes. You gotta stop thinking about what you think because you're probably not that smart that this. I'm not saying nothing. We're like the only mammals that still that drink our own milk, right, Like you know what you mean? You mean drink other people? I mean not, I mean after a certain age like we still you don't even know that's what I mean. Drink other people's milk. I mean tigers still eat deers and ship and they

be thirty. No, that's what I said. Why are we drinking babies drinking cow Why do lions still eat cows when they're grown? Why they don't just eat lions? But they were drinking milk. But the milking, Yeah, that's for nourishment for a baby, like a baby cow the size of a adult human. We're drinking human milk for no reason. Now we're growing up, So why are we still drinking

cow milk? You know, like water is like the Earth's milk. Yeah, like you know, this is like this repetitive cycle of all the same ship for y'all start hearing with recipes to SEVCA. But y'all just don't start, because this conversation gonna get crazy. Y'all gonna get all out of hand and be talking crazy. Look, don't I understand In two thousand twenty two, y'all they got two boozy for milk

and tap water. No, I respect that. In two thou two, after all this social programming, Yeah, I've turned your back on tap water and milk. I haven't turned my back. I just never I've never liked milk. Milk is de listens. Understand if you don't like it, don't, first off, then why would you drink the milk of an Norman? Listen? I was happy that they made almond milk, because why would you be happy? Because I like the taste of it, So I was so you would rather drink a process

version natural? I don't care what I'd like, I said, I never liked the taste of milk. It's not about what it was made up, but better for you. I thought the almond milk was better for you than the cow melk. You can't milk and have the It's like it's like they make um, the rice milk, the rice milk soaking. Yeah, and then it's the how the fun would you drink milk rice? What do you do? Like? What is going on? Let justas it's like vegans who get vegan burgers? Bro, why would you get a burger

if you're vegan? Like? Why are you playing games with your mom? What is the patty made out of it? It could be like, no, it's it's a vegan burger. Why would you? Okay? D do agree with you with that because I'm not gonna eat when I did when I went vegan for those little what not when it was my eight months or when I went again, I refused to really eat the we tried it for like our tacos that was that just couldn't get it impossible.

I was just like, if I'm not gonna be able to eat this ship, I'm just gonna make whatever tastes good without it. Like, so that's what I did. So I started making like mushroom burgers, yeah, and stuff like that. I started. When I make a burger out of a mushroom, it's good. It was. It was just why are you using? Why are y'all playing with y'all mind? Hey, it's just some woman ship woman ship? You know what I realized y'all. First off, there's no silings whatever. I don't know how

y'all do this ship every time? What are you talking about? Just give me a fucking headache? Okay, listen, this is no ceilings, Gail Glasses, Logan house co holes, Red Red's up. I got sired sanity from folsom back once again to pretty much just fucking irritate my soul. It's my soul, y'all, just serious, milk, right, it's not deep. It's just I don't mean it in a negative because y'all just are foolish. Listen, sir, you can you can foolish by twelve dollar milk, and

I'm gonna buy my almond milk. Do you do not even care that you can't milk an almond? It's not Why would you call it almond milk? I don't know, because it's you don't even milky. It looks it's not milky, but it looks like milk. So just because it looks sperm looks like milk, that bigger milk definitely not what else because look like milk when it dries. It's like, gu so what y'all call that? Like? Man, milk? Y'all just giving names to anything with white substance, like it's milk. Yeah,

I guess so sentiment in their little cup with a sentiment. Man. All I'm saying is I just don't understand why humans play these mind games. Like if you if you're vegan, if the goal is to get away from you know, like be like like meat products or animal products, why would you call something a burger? A burger is a meat product, So why would you do that? Like they have vegan wings hamburger Man, But it's more than that that makes a burger. Burger is not just a bun.

A bun is a bun you can put everything you put everything. Do you understand the first handburg has had nothing but just just the meat in the in the actual buns. Buns existed before burgers. Now you got why why would you like? Why are you why y'all meat? Y'all? Are as they have patted out burger. It's made into a patty. It's a burger, that's what we're calling it, right have like, no fucking nothing, what are you talking about? We have nothing? It makes sense, Like it doesn't make sense.

You can't milk, but you don't like milk? You want because I need it for my cereal. So then why the fun would you call it a milk when that actually is how you get milk. It's fill water and almonds, So why you don't call it almond water? Whatever? That don't sound a pilling, does it? You know why? Because milk is fucking delicious, so you want to call it the thing that tastes delicious. Milk is good. But I just point like right now, like you call it a

burger because you know what a burger tastes like. But if the whole goal is to get away from you know, if the gold is to get away from animal, why would you fucking make they have fucking vegan boness wings. They do, they do. Why would you do that? Why

would you disrespect a piece of chicken that way? I'm telling you, But this is what But this is what's happening, right, this is what's happening with street terms like this is what I'll be on what I'll be saying, like niggas want to be real niggas and don't want to do nothing real like no real nigga. If I take care of my kids, that's real nick Year, No, bro, that's real father ship. I'm dedicated to my wife. I'm real nigga. No, that's real husbandship. I wouldn't had six surgeries today at

the hospital. That's real doctors. You could be a lot of real things. A real nigga is specific, Like milk is a milk is not just because it's white. It's not just because it's white. It's not just a density. Milk is um. It's because it comes from mammals. All men is not a mammal. And I get it. I get it because you're like, I don't care, I just want what I want. I'm just saying, this is why the cows women ain't better than cows. I don't know.

Have you had breast milk? Really, I'm not saying the flavor. I don't just drink everything your taste good. I'm saying milk. Milk a cow is healthy as big as long. So you think cow's milk is good for you? Yes, yes, of course it is. I'm sure it is. Why because I'm educated on nutrition and not somebody because he's been programmed. I mean, if that was the case, I would have been deep programmed. Because milk is over Yeah, milk. That drink milk commercial was when I was a fifth grade.

Because milk, it causes mulk. It's in your body and you're not I understand what's saying. But did he talking about that bad milk? I'll be drinking what's the bad? We don't drink ultra pasteurized milk? Oh, because you drink the twelve dollars. I drink real milk. Get that, that's the real milk. What's been top dollar? Shout out to raw forms? Where do you get from sprouts? Sprouts? Raw forms? Raw forms? They got a cream, Yeah, they got a

cheese products. Shout out to raw forms it they follow me on the people for me and they got that straight on homogenage. Does it tastes better? Yes, really tastes. So it's not like, um think like that, like that curvy curvy you know, I don't know what, but it's just really it's just really like taste. It tastes like when I was drinking it, like non fat or like one percent. I don't want anybody funking my milk. If you take a fact, that means you funk with my

I don't want nothing as much as I can. I don't want anything process. That's why I don't funk with most vegan things. Who would process this much ship to make it taste like fucking hamburger. You know much you got to go through to make a piece of Colie flower tastes like a buffalo wing. That's why a lot of vegans still be likely. They'd be big, Yeah, because version you gonna eat a ton of potatoes, right, it really do a cart They do eat a lot of

card out of to because they're trying. It's not necessarily healthier in the sense of weight gain. It's it's it's supposed to be because you would be like slim. That's if you ate vegetables for a year, I feel like I'm getting pale. Yes, you are, because meat is responsible for your colors. Proteins. Beings are definitely the greatest thing in the world. They are most underrated food of all

the foods. But but the point I'm saying to you as women, y'all just don't care specifically about anything, Like you don't have any care for like the reality. It's like whatever the fantasy is, deliver it. And it made me want to talk to you about something. I sent you all the post on Instagram and it was about what is the infatuation with somebody taking your ass somewhere?

What's the infatuation with this flying somewhere? Like I see so many girls be like I just to fly me to another country and so we have sex on the balcony. You're talking about being fluid out? Yes, what is that about? Um? I mean it's about like I want to go away and I had to pay for it. I don't want to go on a vacation. I don't want to not have to pay for it. Well, that's you what I'm saying. Who I mean what women want to do that we want to go? We want to go. Now, I'm not

about to fire with everybody. I'm not taking no no no trips. But what is it about trips? It's fun travel that much. So I got to my basic places to see people. I know, it's fun. It's fine. I dated a guy that we he I was gone a lot where I was, I was gone a lot and it was just, um, it was nice. You know, he's sent an our service for me, go to airport, get picked up in car service. It was it was nice. Yeah. I was like, okay, they got the little sign waiting

for me, like yeah, yeah, it's romantic. It was nice, like he cares. I wouldn't say it was romantic because he wasn't that type of like no guy, Like, is it fair to say he just pretty much paid for it? Why did you? Because because I'm been wondering how do women feel sometimes like when you have a guy that pretty much stow money at you, do you feel bought and paid for? What was it like that? It was just that he lived. He lived on the East Coast and he travel for work, and so I would just

travel to where he was. It wasn't like we were taking trips like that. So it was like I would travel to he was that we would do dinner and go hang out and do all that like on like that off time in between. So my cousin. My cousin brought up a situation where sure, I guess you YEA wasn't dating y'all was sucking. We were dating a year? What flying you back and forth and not getting no pussy. You're a damn lie. No not fly you know, work

for no years straight and didn't tackle. You know, before we started flying, Shore had six or seven before we before I started fighting, we were already like we were dating. I was already sleeping together. Yeah, it already happened. Yeah. So then you be came in person flying down to sleep. That sound worse than I wanted to sund You know what I'm saying. Do you be thinking to let you say it out loud? Then you think about like damn,

but it's not. But it's not sucked up. It's not sometimes because it's true you're saying, no, it's not suck up because sometimes people mean wall that. She won't call it a ship because it's not quite that. It was a special type of relationship. So what I'm saying is, so, look, so my cousin was getting at me right, shout out

to my cousin the cad right. She was getting at me and she was saying, we were talking on the phone actually the last time we did the podcast, and I was driving home and she was telling me the story about this girl, and she was like, the dude flew her out of town, I think, to Miami. She flew to Miami and she got there and kind of didn't want to sleep with the dude. So he's like, man, I'm not paying for your ticket home. You gotta get your own ticket home. And she was so frustrated, and

I was like, why are you frustrated? She like, just because somebody fly you somewhere don't mean you suppose to getting no pussy. I'm like, that's exactly what it means. I'm not going on the trip. I'm not gonna have sex with so why do what about you? So if a guy said, let me fly you to New York, I'm gonna fly you to Paris, are you gonna feel honestly, honestly, you're gonna feel like I got to give him some pussy if I take this flight. We don't even have

to be pussy. They feel like you you you know, you're gonna put yourself in that situation, and if you don't want to, why would you go? Right? Yeah? What about you? D Yeah, I feel like I'm not going. I want to knock this guy then, So help me understand. Why do some girls not realize that, like what am I missing? That makes them say, well, you know what, he wants to fly me here because of he wants to get to know me, and I'm like, you drink

they lying today? So here's my thing? When that should happen? If you if you weren't clear about what it was before you left, you shouldn't have went like, I'm laid on the table? What's what's this about? Where were we going? Oh? For real? This is how long? Like? What what's I need? The whole tender plant? And I'm gonna tell you if I'm if I'm going, if I'm with it, or whatever

the case may be. For her situation, if she didn't feel that way, she should have been like, you know what, No, I'm not I'm not feeling I don't feel comfortable, you know, flying out to take advantage of that fun trip. Yeah, she wanted to have fun trip, but she didn't want to, you know, do that. But that to me, she didn't like him. To me, she didn't like him, So why the funk would you take advantage of someone him? Exactly?

She did not like him, and she but a free trip of to do what because the nigga that you don't like is with you. Maybe she thinks she's gonna see some other niggas or I think a lot of people travel, honestly to take pictures for Instagram, So it ain't really about necessarily going to do anything. I think most people that go out of town and go do

something don't really go. Like most people. When I would go travel all these states and do this stuff, people want to go to the club, and I'm like, bro, there's a club in l A. But they really just want to see the people in Florida, which is weird, like the club a club or people like seeing people and meeting people they don't like, to be honest. So maybe that person could have took that flight thinking to

themselves like hey, um, she's gonna be somebody. No, like she could have been like, Okay, I'm gonna just take pictures and look popping on my Instagram, or I could be somebody else. I don't know, why would you fly to another town on somebody else that's dying and not think to yourself that probably means this person. And let me tell you something. First of all, you shouldn't be

cardinal rule. You shouldn't be going nowhere with nobody nowhere if you can't afford to get your Mamma taught me that any situation dinner, it don't matter because you never know person gonna flip on you. You You might get into it arguing with this food. This some food might do some ship. You might need to get a f out of there. You better know, you better be able to

uber yourself do whatever you know. For me when I started dating, when I when I was dating, I would meet that person at the restaurant or wherever we're going or whatever, like I did not like I had to really get to know you before you really could be in my personal space or whatever. And I would even like going to their personal face until I felt comfortable. But that's just I've been. You know, the guy can see it, for God said come over, and then that

could be misinterpreted. Right, but let's go to Miami. You're fucking in Miami, right. You ever had a guy fly you somewherehere's the father that you have had a guy fly you, not you had him, but he flew you flown out, not not not the Negro place, but I flew I but flown out the furthest was you got a guy flight as you make it, and y'all and you for sure like this guy. You had to be putting out. Yes, okay, you haven't rather got to fly

you out yet? What was the furthest? Tampa? Tample? As far as the motherfucker me, that's definitely three thousand mile wasn't exotic enough for you know, I had a great time. What did you do in Tample? We went to like a comedy place of places. That's not bad? All right? What about you, Red? I'm sure you're asked whoon out? He's just flying everywhere. I know. I don't say your boy my list out there. I'm just trying to get

a much better grasp on how people's mind works. Honestly, this is gonna sound crazy, and I know you're gonna deflect because it's what you'll do for women. I respect it, but I think it most women couldn't take pictures and show other people where they went. They wouldn't go. Why would they like, what's the social curse? Like? Why would somebody tell it ain't about everybody? Why would somebody I'm gonna tell you why. I've been a lot of places that I haven't posted or did on my little, my

little sneaky trips. Ain't seeing none of that. I don't need to see a picture of me somewhere. You but you ain't gonna know where that why you didn't tell me you were going. So this is just the moment of truth that y'all gonna lie about. But I'm asking anybody so it is. But so right now, you see all of these girls taking trips to these places. You never see a guy what you know? It's the guy there, right? So that guy? That guy. Has that guy ever flown

you out? Of course? Oh yeah, I don't win. Let me stop go to your mind when that guy flies you somewhere. Now, when I'm saying that guy, I'm not talking about that guy that could be married. That's like, this is these all morals. I'll talk about that guy where you like, I don't want nobody to know. I wouldn't show this guy to nobody else, but I funk with it because he cool. That guy. Yeah, but no, Yeah, did you post pictures by yourself? Did you do the routine?

Don't lie? Yes? Why would you do that? He still did? He pictures too? Let me, Yes, he didn't want to show you. He didn't he didn't post me. Well, why would we post each other? Weren't together? So I was gonna post him, but you know, so you wouldn't post nobody that you're sleeping with, even though you'll travel to another state because you're not together. Are you serious? Why

post him what? You're not together? We're not together? Like because you out of state posting stuff, it's still still Instagram, right, and they're going or wherever? What did doing? It's just a vacation that can we leave some stuff private? You ever had that guy? Why are you somewhere that that guy that you was like? I could not put this nick on my Instagram know never in life, I only had one person fly one guy. I was gonna let fly me somewhere. And then my friend called me and

I hadn't talked to her in a minute. She was like, I had this nightmare fly somewhere or something really good, and I was like, I called him back and I canceled and I could hear in his voice he was upset. And then I was like, is everything and he was like, yes, whatever, suck me up right? But I was a what was the reason Bridge? You didn't want to show the guy? Besides you just wasn't in a relationship. Was he older? No? I wasn't older. Well one of the one of the

guys was older. How much older? Don't lie? Not that much older. I don't do too old. I got to still be able to get up and do what I need you to do. So you can't be there? Do you need them to do whatever I need them to do at that time? What can't they get up and do it? With age? Can they not get up? Do what? I don't know? But if you I don't date over. I don't date over fifty. I don't date it. I just don't Something about this don't feel right. But I no,

But it's not that. It's just I just think that there's a field somewhere. I just don't know what I'm not. I'm not feeling. I promise you I'm not lying it. Um. I think it was honestly because I just you didn't want nobody to know he was waiting. What would you say it wasn't. It wasn't that. It was because I was trying to pursue somebody. Somebody else was pursuing somebody else at the time, which I wasn't together. But you kind of liked him. No, I never liked him like

that that was pursuing you. Oh yeah, the guy that was not the guy that took the trip. Yeah. Not. I said you didn't like him, but you knew he wasn't the guy. This guy who was pursuing you was a lot closer to the guy. But this guy was kind of doing the things that you wanted to pursue guy to do, and you couldn't miss the opportunity to those words, I wasn't even the opportunity was just well ship, he asked, and I was like, cool, let's go. Where was this? No, no, don't tell me where, because it

was it was? It was, it was, It wasn't I needed a passport? Okay, okay, all right? Real, So why would you not at that time, back in those days post the guy? You fill me? I'm like, why would you not post the guy? Because I know you did. Why am I not posting a guy? Why would you not post a guy like Why are you doing the solo post when you know you're here with somebody else? Well, I never I haven't done that. I haven't like went somewhere, been with somebody post and not posted like them. I

just didn't post. Know the guy, the guy that I dated, that I traveled or whatever. I don't even I would post. Yeah I did post, I was and I was posting. Now I think about it because he doesn't have social media, he's not like a social media guy. Why you didn't post? That's even better because there nobody could figure out who he was. I just I just didn't post them. They would never posted a guy and I just don't think

you should. Just we were official. But what difference you would make if it wasn't official, if y'are just having a great time? I mean, but we were, like we were Just what is that about it? Just because once you post something with someone and they know, like say, it's not like they know the friendship or it's worked related or whatever. They're gonna or just be like, oh yeah, they're together, there this that it just becomes like, how's

that going to hurt? It makes a difference because you might be dating you gotta go back and delete all the pictures if you just dating somebody, Could somebody really be upset if you're not in a mutual thing. No, they can't be upset, but they will. They shouldn't be, but they will. That's crazy to be handicapped to somebody, To be committed to somebody that you're not in a

committed relationship with. Everybody crazy committed because it's like you're committed to not upsetting them, like you don't want them to know you did this. Did you at least tell then think he wouldn't care about. Did you tell the dude that with that that that was pursuing you, that she was going out of town? Yeah, but you didn't say he's going with this guy. I didn't tell who the guy was. I just said I was going to listen, you're about to tell a lot. I'm not about to

tell a lot. What once you say this, and I'm not lying, I promise a very very honest when it comes to ship like that, because I just am. I don't give it. Like if we're not together and I'm we have an open conversation and you tell me what it is that you're looking for, and I'll tell you what I'm looking for. We're not on the same page and I ain't gonna sun with you anyway, but if we do decide to deal with each other whatever like that, I am going to be honest about, especially if I'm

just dating. If I'm dating you, because if I'm talking to you every day and then I say, oh, I'm going out of town, oh for real, the first thing is gonna come out that person out. It's not even if they're gonna say, oh, for where are you going, I'm gonna say where I'm going, you know whatever? And who are you going with? And I'm gonna tell him if you don't ask, and I probably won't say ship,

but if he asked, I'm gonna tell him I don't like. Hey, That's what I'm saying that when I when I had went to the Jamaica trip, I did have to tell the other dude that I was going on to the Jamaica you should not go with him and go with me somewhere. Where are we going? Oh you don't, you don't know, have nowhere to go. I'm going to Jamaica. Sometimes, just things like that, But that's what stamp No was it? Did you post him? Did you post him, didn't you post? For? Yeah?

The first some things when I got drunk on Snapchat and I deleted a picture and they never posted him on my story on Instagram post the post from the post is what you get? You here? Not? But because I have the picture, I have a picture. I sent it. At least you're probably know that, probably screenshot at it or something crazy shit. No, you know who sent it. You're talking about when we went to the fucking pool first birthday? Have y'all ever got flown out together? We

got it was a surprise to her. The guy that she was talking about for her birthday surprised her with mele me so I could be with her for her birthday. Yeah, but she didn't know. It was funny because I almost slipped a few times. I'm not good with that. Airport said airport, I could be with you. You gonna have so much fun, And she was like, I know, I was my dirty third. I dropped her off and I

went to the other terminal. And then when I got to the to the hotel because I was like running late and I was trying to get dressed, he like, get the door. I'm like, oh my god, what get the door to open the door, and she's like, hey, I like and we got lit that day and didn't

make it to nothing. You got so lit. He used to do that on purpose, like he would just like, Okay, here's money, here's whatever, drink like and just I feel like because I was wasn't like a really I didn't drink, so I would get to up and then I wouldn't be able to go out or go with to be knocked out. I went to the room and passed out. That's ridiculous, because he like, you take forever to get dressed. You gonna make me late, We keep me late, blah

blah blah. So yeah, very smart strategy. So he would have the driver to be like, okay, well she's ready, just take her, bring her, take her wherever. Like it was an interesting situation. I see that all the time, and I just always think about it, like like the prompt, Like I'm just thinking about the thousands of dollars you were spaying to sleep with somebody on the back, and like I've did this before. It is not what I

don't even think it's about that. But honestly, it could just be that you just want that spend time with that person and then you know, you know, you know that type of stuff is gonna happen. So just that's just like a little bit of it cherry on the top, what's thery on the top, A little bit of something on the back. And I'm just saying, No, I don't know you said for him last places. You know what

I'm saying, I've done all of this before. I just didn't understand why I was like, and so you expected to have sex with them? No, I just that's gonna give me some pussy. I don't have to think about it. Huh. All right, See what I'm saying that you already know what time it is, so we should know what time it is. But there's there's men that you like that I've talked to her that I've dated, and I'm like, you know what, I can go somewhere with him, and I think he's not gonna I tried, or if I

think I never had to try nothing. I was always to pray. I never had to like try to get no girl to try to like give me no pussy. It was like, this is what she was coming for in the first place. But yeah, I'm like, like I did. I never went to go getting. That's pretty much all of the sort. I mean, I guess him, I had girls, job across I had girls. I don't wanted that joke across state lines and times, oh wow, drove to I don't even fly all the time, trove. But it's been

interest of life. That's why I can tell you said saying what I what I wanted to be, we have ruined that. I have ruined it. Man. It is because for whatever, however good it feels what I'm saying, it's like, um no, it's just like the joy is stolen out of it. Like I thought it was special and it's just not. But if you if you keep telling yourself that it's not special, I mean, it's like saying it's it's oxygen. It's actually just oxygen. Tell yourself that it's special.

I'm not. I'm not a woman. I can't lie to myself. And true, my sex life is tremendous as always, but I don't think I think the value of it is not what I wanted it to be in general. Well, that's because you keep thinking sex life versus like love

or stuff like that, Like fucking it's different. Fucking somebody is just sucking somebody and you thought, like I told you this's earlier, right when I was explaining to you, when me and sex was here, and I was saying to you like pussy was only special because you thought you were special when you got it. Once you realize that women don't, they just have horrible taste and they will pretty much fuck anybody. Forgive me. That just sounds harsh,

but it's true. Y'all definitely are because everybody's getting pussy, well from some some other pussy, not specifically seeing you, not you three per se. But I'm sure you guys have that guy that y'all wish you didn't sunk, so that guy too. Right. So what I'm saying is so once you take only because they were turned out to be it was always asked. You just ignored it because

you just liked them. But the point I'm saying is when you really look at it, right, it's like whatever I thought sex was special because I thought having sex was like special because I was somebody she was giving it to. It wasn't really like mines. It was just my turn and tell me something that you really like love, that's just your turn. You don't love door knobs. Sex is special with the person you beget to them, then that's not sex. That's the point that becomes intimacy. It's

not sex sex. Sex is very specific, but it gets there what I'm saying, it's not about the person. Like the thing that makes sex special with that person is because of everything else outside of sex. Then the sex is better. Then it's different. Right you You kind of claiming something that's yours. But when you really think about, like, like I was telling you the reason why he was asking me why me and cheating? I'm like, the reason men cheating is the same reason they get pussy when

they're single. It's the same reason for us. It makes us feel special. It makes us feel accomplished. Some woman thinks that you're special enough to give you some pussy. You feel like, damn, I must be special. She give me some because they're angry because you're mad with your girl. No, that don't even hurt her. She's not gonna know. I mean, she ain't making you feel good. Why do you need somebody else to make you feel good? Know? One person make you your good happiness itself having to do with

the next motherfucker. So because you're cheating because it's something wrong with you. That's why you funk women in the first place, because something right with you, wrong with you. Celebration of life, it's a celebration life. But I'm saying

most likely yeah, yeah, Broyal chicken, barbecue chicken kebabe. But what I'm saying to you is it's like, let me, let me try to clarify as much as I can and thought, um like when you first when you first started hearing about sex, right as you're growing up, you becoming a teenager, right, so they start before they even come in teenager, But when you become a teenager, it's special because first you hear how good it makes you feel.

Then you get into a space to where you believe the more women want to sleep with you, it's your value, Like I'm valuable because that's why she want to sleep with me. I must be special. So that's how you grow up living your life. You know, your twenties, you're like, oh, she holds me tonight, some little much. But that's the point. So right, I don't know what it's like for those guys, So no problem that on both guys. I'll be around.

That's not their problem. So I don't know if it's like I remember, I stayed downtown and people was intent of course bombs. So that's my point. So everybody, so everybody getting pussy, right, So what it is is so you really feel valuable when some woman gives you her body, because we, as much as y'all don't understand the value of your body, we do y'all feel valued when you get it the first time, Yes, because that is the moment that she chold that you are worthy of sharing

this precious other times. Right, I can make good, probably got a better chance of work it. But yes, it's just messed up you. I mean, the value of it is that. So you sleep with girls because it makes you feel like they create a false sense of value, like you really got you special, like she giving you play, like she giving you pussy. But so that's why I nigga, she too, because something about their life they're feeling unaccomplished or they want to feel more accomplished as a man.

So when somebody getting pussy, they think they something. It's ego and you need to put that ship damn. But you can't put down the one thing that if we put our ego down, we be you would be a woman waiting for the right one. Masculinity makes you a man. That's my point. Masculinity. Think about the sense historical times. That's just how it is. You can't separate the man from the Masculinity is the protection and conquest, conquering things, not women, though, I men are something to be conquered.

But there's a point where it's like, Okay, I'm done with this because I've grown up and become, like they say, a man. So you find other things to conquer besides women. It's never like you never meet a woman that makes you feel like you don't want to sleep with no other woman. That's just not how I go. You always want to look at another woman like me. I don't care which car you got, you know, just the last car I wanted life. I mean, you want other cars.

So is you have to find more things to conquer outside of women. But women has been the thing you was talked to conquered as long as you good men. I'm trying really hard to be calm and not just take this information. It's it's a lot. Yes, it's true. I'm telling you from a man's perspective. I'm telling you because I talked to men personally. I asked them, what do they really think I will force it out of them. Doesn't make it right because they think that's like saying,

is it right if a line eats a gazelle? It's just nature. It's not right at room. You just can't be mad that somebody don't see you and be like, oh, life ends. This is every You should not entertain the thought of someone else. Of course you have to, don't think about it. Right. So my man is sitting next to me just imagining himself fully having sex with somebody else. What does that body really? Your heart? It's in your heart? What this fucking got to do with a terrible Wait, okay,

I'm done. What this fucking have to do with art? Done? Right now? You really thought got something to do with each other? It should? Okay, So every LA's person you ever slept, what you've been in love with? Yeah, you're not telling the truth. You're lying on kind of disab This is kind of my lashes. That's that's what funk. I was doing it for. That's what I was doing it to fall in love. I was doing it to to experience love. That's not love, obviously, It never was,

and I understand. I'm sorry that I wasn't around to teach you early on life like to be like look, because yeah, if you exactly, And I'm giving it to you now when you are resenting it, like I'm telling you something, Cristy, and I'm telling you how we see it. You can just tell me how they think. And with knowing that, I can move based all that because I don't agree that it's right. It's not, but I'm saying

nature is nature, why it is nature? The reality is I can see a guy looks good with chiseled all that, and I'd be like, oh, you know, he was good, But I'm not about to be like whip his dick out. Why do you think you and literally we have a completely separate chromosome count, like different chromosome excess, and that's why why would you feel like we are this name at all? You just think we just signed because we just got y'all start off as a pussy, then y'all grow,

y'all at that point that grow. The hormones that forced that growth makes us different because you didn't have that hormone. But the basis the same. So then the basis is in the wound, So the basis separate right in the womb. So therefore our whole journey separate completely different. If your DNA is still yeah, but it's not the DNA that's driving. Is the dick is driving the car. It shows stupid.

It's not the thoughts. You don't show you you I've never said to myself, let me not think about sucking her. You have it. You have to master mind, mastering your mind. What is wrong with the thoughts because they can manifest, because thoughts are so powerful, and they give off these invisible colors and current, and it makes just because you think it has to happen eventually, keep on fantasizing you're gonna end up sucking somebody, certain people that don't mean

I'm ever gonna You never know. You might not get them how you wanted them at first, but it might come a time I'm not going to get him because I don't want just because it's a thought. It's a thought. It's cool to have thoughts. Fleeing thoughts. Keep it moving. I'm gonna let you have that. Are you okay with um? Your girl having thoughts of sucking another I'm sure she does. I mean she could tell me a lie. I'm We

don't think like that, goddamn lie. We do not think the moment I want to suck somebody else, I'm leaving, I'm not with the person that I was with. I don't want. That's just a lie to that. I'm not saying that, man, it's sexy. If you say that's sexy, that's a thought of sex. I'm not saying if you know, it's a sex appeal of another person using the key word sexy. Sexy's having sex with the person that you're dating,

you're dealing with, talking to on a regular basis. We don't see a man or like, we don't be with hard dude, and we'll see another guy and just be like no, but you can tell later wrong. You might talk to a bread later on and be like, girl, I saw this nigga today. Well let me say something though, I will take that back to see when I went to us see the wool tanging nas at the New York State of Mind concert. Nas could get it right, somebody's over your limit, over my limit. But guess what

he could get. So your limit ain't your limit? When that nasty nuts. So the wealth, So the wealth got you breaking your rooms. The thing got your breaking your right and he got me breaking the roof. So he looks good enough to where you're breaking the route. Listen, I just say the whole. You just presented the whole. You just presented the whole thing. You really just said, Okay, let me take thee I just said, then let me

take that back. Because I did feel a little something in my heart when he came outside with the red jumpsuit and I was like, oh he was like. I was like, but can you admit you built up this fantasy around nas and then when you seen him, it was like my dreams could be coming true. I was like, damn, if only I could have had a backstage pass to this concert, I would have definitely because I always loved me some na, So this was like I had never seen him, and this is the point. This is the point.

See y'all feel like you're not like y'all, but y'all are exactly like us. I guess it got to be the right one, is what I'm saying, Because see I didn't, but we normally don't. Normally we don't. But the reality is all this stuff is untrue. You never met somebody you always have thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts, don't you don't try to materialize him. That's the keys, just thoughts. She's just the wine. He's having thought to somebody. So what that means You're gonna think of a lot of

things I just shouldn't care about. It's not caring. You just can't overcare. You can't over dramatically what you're thinking about thoughts. If you you would never message, I don't even think I would want to you. You would never y'all would y'all would get so far away from me. And if y'all saw our thoughts, Yeah, y'all would get so far away from me. And if you like, I'll be seeing yours when you make certain faces, you'll be looking done ever hurt my? She think I've always aggravated

like way left. I don't think I can ever look at you and figure out what you're thinking, because you should be like nobody could ever really figure out what I'm thinking because it's not one specific thing. I'm thinking of multiple things, right. But what I don't do is take of expectations. That's the key for me is I don't have expectations. If my whole life I had, and the more I've got away from having them, everything has

worked out better. Now that's not to say I don't have a standard, but I don't have expectations for me Like God could bless me a thousand different ways. I can't be mad that I didn't get it the way I won't. You can't want to win the way you want to win. When it comes to God, you gotta win the way you're gonna get you a w and that work out better for me. But what I'm saying to you is it's it's like, that's not a realistic expectation, and a lot of things I'll say is built on fantasy,

even with this trip conversation. But let's take it to something simple as I want to feel like the only girl. I want him to make me feel like the only girl in the world. Think about how retarded that is when there's literally billions of girls. That's just like a horrible thought. And sometimes you don't ever sense yourself standard. Yes, why would you want to feel like something that's virtually impossible?

That's like a nigg of like I want you to make me feel like the biggest dick in the world. You know, that's a lie, bro, and if y'all try to honor that ship is just dumb. You got two people trying to play into a make believe ship versus just a make believe thing versus just being happy with who you are and what you are. The motherfucker that I'm with is more than great enough for me, right, motherfucking now. I don't need this motherfucker to be nobody else.

What that motherfuck is is perfect. That on mean, it's not what I thought it should be. Once I lost what I thought it should be and realized God won't give me what it is. This is gonna work out. That's what you gotta do. You can't be like, oh, well, I wanted to be this way because it'll make me feel what Like, yes, that's how you saying. And no, y're not the type of motherfucker's that y'all don't think of other people. That just a lie. You just don't

act on it. And sometimes y'all still do me and do it. I'm just giving it to you and and any man that's listened to this podcast. The reality is you have to figure that the main reason you see with women, it's a sense of accomplishment. The same reason you do it while you're married, the same reason why you do a single. It's just a sense of accomplishment. So you have to find other things to accomplish that you're passionate about, simple as that. Once you do that,

you got a chance to not cheat. Without it, it's a it's a crime of opportunity. The relationships are complicated, they're not. They're really simple. If you wake up every day and try to make the next person you wear life better, that's the whole goal of it. If they don't see you trying, it's not about what they say, it's about what you're doing. You could never waste your

time if that's what you want to do. If I go out to the free throw cord to shoot a hundred free throughs, I mean that's what I want to do. It non't matter how many I make a miss. The whole goal was shooting the free throughs. So when you're going to love somebody, the whole goal gotta be loving somebody. It can't just be I want to love them because I want them to and it's not because that's what hurt your finners. You want somebody to love you, so you feel like if I give them love. They're gonna

get me love back. That's the point of relationship. That's actually not the point. Everything about life is giving, especially for women. But you're no, you're not. You're the givers. You're the giver of life. You're the giver of everything, giver of the nutrition and nourishment, uh, every last part of giver. But somehow y'all got lost in this weird

world where y'all really think that y'all the receivers. And that's why nobody because vain is made and the penis, you take penis, you receive penis, so you can actually give life. That's the only thing. He can't do nothing else for the baby for nine months. That nigga can only do ship for you. He can't do nothing for

the babby for nine months. He gave you two seconds to give you nine months of this ship, and he can't do nothing till it's time the motherfucker came out, until you delivered, until you put it out the oven. He can he can talk to the stomach, and yeah, that's all you know. That makes a difference. I think that's again again to believe that it's it's an idea of science, but that ain't really what it is that my fun don't know you mother fucker might be to

recognize your voice. I think this nigga has talked to me now in the belly. But at the end of the day, it won't never be the connection with the mother. It's gonna take him a while. I had that connection with their father because this motherfucker' and feed them the whole time. So I think the point I'm saying to you is when you really really think about it, the point of relationship is if you're doing it right, it's

about giving. If you're worried about receiving, you're gonna always feel like you wasted time because you didn't get what you was looking for. But if you focus on what it's about, which is giving somebody something, giving what you want to give, as long as you give you what they said they were. If you expect anything in the world, you're gonna come up short from anybody, especially anything with consistency. Your kids gonna let you down, your parents gonna let

you down, everybody gonna let you down with aspectations. So if you're not in a relationship to give it your all, if you're in the relationship to get give it, get something you're in the wrong. I mean, you better focus on what you're supposed to get. But if you a real relationship is when you focus on giving somebody. Every day you're supposed to make the next person, trying to make the next person life easier. That's the whole goal. Every day you wake up and focused on that. It's

hard to figure out another bit. It's gonna be tough. I don't have a lot of time and not do a thousand things. That's the trick. But I ain't nobody flying you nowhere if you ain't sucking, so you ain't got no business. Let nobody fly you nowhere. I ain't goin't nowhere. I'm not even thinking of you like that. First of all. My thing is this, I'm gonna tell you, I don't want to even have like a vacation with

somebody that I don't even want to now. Back then, yeah, but now I would prefer to be with the person I'm with and enjoying it because when you're out on a trip and stuff like that, you're not really feeling that person anyway. It's just like you're there, they're there, and it's just not really that ship is off. Yeah, I mean you want to take pictures, experience this with somebody that exact for the ground. You're gonna look popping people me in the comments, girl, you could always post

that throwback Thursday, Take me Back, Take me Back? Baby. Good looking out for tuning into the No Sellers Podcast. Please do us a favorite, subscribe, rate, comments, Share. This episode was recorded right here on the West Coast of the USA and produced by my homeboy A King for the Black Effect Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Yeah.