Conversations About Passport Bros

Nobody got Asia backs. No more because Asia sold up. She's living up well. Back to the point, I was, ha, that's the thing. Like women really connor will find themselves in bad positions, Like she feel like I got to clean up, Like she really don't want to clean up. So in order for her to move into that space right of a wife, there are things that people expect

of a wife. She do want to clean up. But yeah, you know what I'm saying, she's I think it's more so pressure now for her because it's like she wants, you know, she wants all these things that she wants a husband, and so she's trying to do all these things that I don't know because she does clean, she does take care of children. She's she just he you know.

The thing is that he go to work all day and you know, she makes her money and she ain't got to work like that, you know, So he like which I told her, I said, look, he's going to work all day and when he come home, because she like when he wants me home? I said, you should be home when he come home, like you know, and you home all day, the house should be clean. I told her that, like it should you're not working, you're not you know. So he's like, well where are you at?

Well what are you doing? You know? And the thing is with her, like she's just very she's just used to. She takes she does things. She's like what Jamaican. So he wants her there when he gets home from work? Why does he want her there? You know what? I can ask a woman why that? Because I would I don't know, because men really probably has I want to know why most men do want you home when they

come home. I mean, unlet you ask work. You know, if you're working, that's different from what's what I'm saying, Like what else? Like where else would she be? Exactly? But I get it. I don't. I don't quite note. No, I'm because I'm really trying to figure out because she

go be, she's gonna be everywhere. She just be everywhere, like she just harand she might need to do or she's the type of she's the type of check where she wake up in the morning, she's gonna get dressed, and she goes to eat breakfast every day, would like say a certain person and she goes to get her coffee and like she just she's there. And I told her, it's funny because it feels like she would be compromising

herself to really be with somebody. Yeah, she's just Yeah, I think like I told you, I think she was. She's setting her ways and now she's looking at it like she went through it. And I think that's what anybody g I think anybody that anybody that has been single for a long time, male or female, you have to grow accustomed to dealing with someone else in your life, especially if you've been single for years for a long time.

But it was an easy transition, don't lie. Yeah, I mean, what do you mean, Trance, You were single, But that's why I said, I think it's the kind of person you are like, so, yeah, I've been I was single forever, but I've never been single, like I never conduct myself like a truly single person. Like probably the worst thing that I did. I used to work all the time, Like I would work into the night, like I don't

even care. So that's kind of what I did. But as far as broad like, I wasn't never really ho hopping hard like that. That just ain't really my style. I really think I'm pretty valuable in my mind. I think it's different stuff like um checking in, you know, like if but but this is my thing, right, so real checking in? Right, So relationship check in and like hip hop check in is the same type of checking in, so right, it just depends on the mentality of the person.

So when I check in, like right, when I check again, if I go to another nigga town, I really want to hang out with the niggas towns that I'm in. So if I go to New York, I'm gonna hit my nigga wink all, my Flatbush partners, I'm gonna hit Trade Pizzy next time I go, I'm gonna see Tray Pizzy and them in the Bronx. Feel me, I'm here, my partnering queens, my potler stat nil and hit my people because I really want to function with my people's

while i'm here. So what somebody else may feel as a burden of fellowshipping with a loved ones, I don't see it that way. So even as a marriage, as a maryor as a married person, I don't see it as a burden. Yeah, it's like, I want to talk to this motherfucker and never had a problem. I didn't feel like it was a burden. But I'm saying for me, I did have to remind myself, like it's you in a relationship. You need to make sure that okay, Like example, this is the ship that I used to do, and

I had to check myself. Um, I'll make plans. I ain't told this man nothing. The day comes for the plans and I'm like, oh, I'm going with woo here. Oh you didn't say that. You didn't. You didn't say anything to me about that, And I would get like why the woman? I mean, like, I just I made plans. I'm sorry, but I'm telling you right now like that I'm going here like I'm not hiding it. I'm not. It's not I'm not you know, and it was it was like, why would you you knew? How long you

knew about this? And I'm like, oh, probably a couple of days, okay, and you're just telling me today and I'm just like, I didn't get I didn't know if that's about being single, why is that? Well, I don't know what it is. It's about moving the way you want to move, right, But I think so it depends, right if you like you may not just be a trustworthy person. Oh my god, I'm a I'm a very trustful What does that have to do with me? I'm a very trustworthy person. What are you talking about? Okay,

that's not the right way. Let me that's wracked up. Let me empty that burrito back out of reaping. Okay. So maybe part of the reasons I do what I do because I know who I am, Like, I know who I am as a person, and I know how other people see what I can be. So then I know, motherfucker's be worried. Right, So, like, I don't quite know. I mean, would I be offended if a woman if somebody didn't tell me what their plans were. I mean, I probably wouldn't be offended, but I probably would be

like damn that was or maybe not. I guess it just depends, like wait a minute, we talking about in the middle of the day, like are you telling me you're going to the at so short? Because because even then, like I think the natural insecurity is one thing, right, you have a natural insecurity. But for the most part, I'm glad when I'm by myself sometimes, like I'm glad when she's around. I'm glad when I'm by myself. Like I'm pretty much a glad person the whole experience. But um,

I don't know. I just I just think that's weird, Like I don't know quite like what does that mean? Like, but she didn't used to complain. She's like, that's the probably this single so long, And I'm like, what am I doing that makes you? Like? What what a part of this makes you feel like it's a single move? Maybe not like she said, like, um, were you like not checking into maybe you weren't doing something like that.

But I'm always kind of I tell her so she knows, like I want to tell her, got you no, But I did too. I'm just saying when I first it was it was just weird because I was just used to getting up and just going and doing what I needed to do or whatever. So yeah, and didn't sometimes it didn't dawn on me. It wasn't that I was doing anything or trying to hide something or it wasn't nothing like that. So I do see why you're saying that. Maybe it was like some trustworthy stuff, but no, it

wasn't like that. He just wanted to. He was like, you should be. Why wouldn't I know that? Well? He? Um, so the homegirl, you know, dude, he's saying that she don't call him all day how many times? See but that, But me and you talked about this before that sometimes the way we've been loved was the wrong way, and then we make that the way that we understand love because we really think that. So we started comparing everything

somebody else did. That's why it's bad, Like like, um, when you compare things to the past, like if somebody did this this way and this person don't do it this way, you will find yourself in the fun up position. And like I always say, well, if I compared to that, that didn't work. So I hope this motherfucker not doing that. And I'm not saying that you could have liked that part of the relationship, right that you liked this that the third because but that don't mean it really was

good for you. Like me and Red was talking about some ship. Me and my sister was talking about some same type of ship when she was like, oh, well, you know, I want this dude to sleep with me all the time. And I'm like why, well, who else he's sleeping with? And I'm like this was recently. I'm like, damn, I just had this conversation on a podcast and I'm like,

they don't get the intimacy changes. And we've talked about the intimacy changes and it becomes way, but what if both parties in the relationship have never really experienced real intimacy, how do they like, like cope with that ship because they both of them don't know gratitude. The key is gratitude the kids to stop overlooking the simple things like they're nothing. These are still things you're not doing with

everybody else. There's certain things you do with the motherfucking really funk with that you just don't do with all the nig and those are the intimate things that you just overlooked, and you go to the things that a stranger does to you to show you they like you, and you're like, well, I need the stranger type of approval where it's like, you know when when guys usually like me, they sleep with me, and it's like no, but then somebody like you, they take care of you.

So but no sailings, jail handing, read bro stuff, shout out to he came by here, I missed too. Yeah, I'm to put a mailbox out this motherfucker so you can drop it off. Bread was heading driving family. Ain't no criminal right now, right now, So know what I was stripping off of. Did y'all look at any of the YouTube videos I sent you? So this movement that's going down called the Passport Bros. Where it's a bunch

of brothers, And I called him early. I saw, you know, one of the main guys Zoom to Thailand, Richie Mac. I saw him probably about a year or two. Yeah, So I saw him and he was just making these videos.

And I remember seeing the first video where he was like, you know, he was like, she makes me breakfast, she folds my clothes, and I was like, and he was talking in the video about how he was having problems in the States meeting women to do that, and I'm like, I never met a woman who didn't cook breakfast or

fold clothes. But I started listening to I started going down that rabbit hole of passport bros, like going down that rabbit hole falling, and I'm listening to the dudes talk about like these foreign women and comparing them to the you know, the sisters here American women, and I just was thinking to myself, like, damn, women ain't doing this simple shift for y'all. Like they was like, yeah, she's so pretty. And I'm like, I ain't never bust no bad looking at as women in the States. They

ain't never had no women. The women in the States they want to get over a year, so they're gonna talk to this is the women here in America. But the women that she's meeting that they're meeting, the foreign women they want to come, want to come here, they want to get married and come here. So they're gonna talk to a negative look like you gotta also remember what did you just say that? But I say, I like said she said it, and it sound when the

man said. But I was thinking to myself, like, yeah, maybe as these dudes look strange or they're strange guys or something. No. I have a friend that Um. I make jokes with him all the time, like Nigga, I know you're going to the Philippines to get you a pride that ship all the time, like why are you doing over there? Because he go over there by himself a quick trip Like okay, what you doing over there? Right?

We cloud him all the time about that. What's crazy is in two thousand and fifteen, right fourteen and fifteen, I was planning to move to South Africa, really but I was gonna move there in two thousand and sixteen, and uh, I was gonna buy uh my boy c Will Rock Slanger from from over g Do Solid super rep Um. He was showing me all these bomb mass places in South Africa and I was looking at these, like these condos on the beach for like seventy eight thousand on the beach, and I'm like, yo, I could

move here. The internet is popping. I could do my stuff from there and record music and meet African women and chill and go to the African places, just be a crip in Africa. I had this start like I can go be a cripp in Africa. I mean all my Western African homies to my Nigerian homies. They was like, yo, South Africans don't really funk with other Africans. Like they was like, really, tell me about how prejudice it was. Man, it's crip like, you know, this criping is good everywhere.

So I was planning to go there, and I guess I didn't think about the women as a primary thing. I started living on the beach in Africa would be solid for somebody of African descent. You feel you can make some dope music, like I had it planned out, But I never thought the women was my thought of moving anywhere. And as I start falling down the whole of all of these people that are talking about traveling,

you know what I mean, they was like married. The thing was called like okay, I'm not gonna deny cost of living was important, but the women, Yeah, that's like Brazil. Mary. I heard, you know people will go to Brazil. The go to Brazil because the women is going down downs everywhere. Yeah, but I guess I don't know. We're gonna say. I can't speak for them. They must be a little easier to crack. I just think that it's a mutual situation. They wanted that's going to do? You know what I mean,

what they want or whatnot? What could they want? That's so crazy? Like what am I missing that? Sisters here don't do. I'm gonna be honest with you right now. Have a voice. I was about to say that, but a lot of sisters are like they got a voice. They really they depended. They're gonna say, yeah, they really independent. They're not them saying the foreigners they're not gonna speak up too much. Oh yeah, they're not because they want they they're gonna do whatever. They're gonna say, yes, yes,

Do y'all think that's more feminine? What do you mean like because that is considered submission? Do y'all feel like that's more feminine? Like foreign women would be more feminine to y'all because you'll always have something to say? Does that represent all of us? Have there's a lot of submissive That's what I'm saying in here. So no, but I'm so am I they don't have because they don't have,

but they're they're not looking for um citizenship. Yeah, but so you think the foreign women are acting right because they hope if you marry them, and yes, why wouldn't they of course, yes, So you don't think they genuinely just like these guys. No, No, they don't say maybe they grow into I think maybe they can grow in love with them. For her actually did that with his wife. With his wife, his wife is um, she's Chinese, I believe. I'm sorry if she's not, just to say Asian. Um.

And they met when she was I don't know. I'm not trying to. I can't remember this, says okay, whatever, that's the most racist way to say, because you have orient It's like you got an Oriental rug. But it was really I don't know, but I just know that I could tell by their interaction and everything and um, how he was telling me how they met and stuff. I'm like, oh, like, it was just really weird. And she's very yes, sure, would you need me to get

this for you? And but it's also a culture of how they raised That might have been her culture, because I know my my sister in law, she always says that she was raised to do a cater to you know what I mean, or a man in the house. In the house. That's not how all women are raised. No, that's not how all women are raised. You never your mom when your dad would come around, would never be like get this for your dad. Oh yeah, But I remember.

It's so funny because I remember when I was younger, I used to tell my uncle's and all them like, I'm not getting a man like you, cause you'll just I'm not about to be Um. It's so funny because I'm not about to be making plays and cooking dinner and go do this. And I was younger, why because I felt like they were just bossing them around, like telling them what to do. You know what I'm saying, I'm young. I'm not understanding like, Okay, this is a

a partnership, you know, a benefit or whatever. My into like he would be in the studio or like in the back where his boys and all this, and my aunt I would see her like doing all this stuff, or he'll be like calling her like can't weary, this can't bear that. And I'm like, I'm not kidding though, man, he's a laugh. When I get older, I don't want

a man like you. But you know what, though, my you know, I think y'all was both raised to do the same for men, especially like your father and my grandmother, and um, so what went wrong went wrong? What we're wrong to where you feel like because I don't think that I should. I don't have a problem with one of those things. But we were talking about the past more bros. How they said they're not able to meet women that will do this, this, this and that. Well

he was like, she cooks me breakfast. He ain't going in the right, he ain't looking right. I mean, you got. I mean, it's just there's there's women that I don't I don't make my man breakfast every day. I make him food. I do, but he's not like a breakfast person.

But I can't say every day I'm making breakfast. This woman, she's not missing a day probably unless don't you why do you miss a day because I might just not want to feel like doing it that day, or maybe I just I don't know, I just didn't do it. But that's crazy because but I but I still make sure he eats. Because I was gonna say that's like with my like with my children, like okay, I gotta make I gotta get up and cook them dinner and make them breakfast. So you feel more indented to make

your children breakfast then your dude. No, I'm saying when they were younger, I did that. I cooked dinner, always make sure I cooked dinner. But I mean, I guess maybe because I wasn't a breakfast person. And I another reason why I didn't make breakfast because I was always gone in the morning, Like you know what I'm saying, I would leave, like to leave for work or you know, now I'm home. But I don't know. I just don't make it every day. I don't. I don't make breakfast

every day. On the weekends I do. I don't know. Why would you not a lot of time? And I think I've told you this before, and we talked about this about making place. How don't you actually feel like this is like why would you not want it? I don't get that, Like I don't get why a man don't want to take care of his old lady. I don't get how you could not want to take care

of somebody I do. It's just sometimes, you know, but it's even then, it's like that's the best time to do it when you're tired, because it is more gratifying, like you're like, oh I got through this, Like today, I'm like, is it just lazy, I'm tired at that time. Yeah, but I'll why am I spoiled? I'm not. I'm asking. I'm not really accusing you. I'm really thinking about this, Like you have the ability to make your husband breakfast every morning, and you're like, well, I just don't do it,

and I just do it on the week. Why that is not how? No, I said, I don't do it every day, but I make his lunch in his dinner and pack his lunch every day. Do that just he remember he he gets up at four, I will send I guess like I'll send a breakfast sandwich to work. It's just he leaves at to thirty. He doesn't always eat in the morning, so that you know, I wasn't really doing breakfast. And at the same time, we've been together a year and when we lived together, I didn't

make breakfast in the morning. I make breakfast. She made breakfast on bread morning. I don't see. This is what I don't get right, or at least a smoothie. We want to be in these situations right where we be married, and I think we all want to individually carve out our own ways of doing it versus doing what needs to be done consistently, and I don't get why, because you're making a good point. He didn't know. I'm not I'm not, no, no bullshit, I swear, because he was

saying that, like she makes me three meals. Then I'm like, well, that's not really a big deal. That's a big deal. No, not not a big deal for a man. I'm sure man would be graded like is that really a big deal for a woman to don't think I think that's a big he had to fly tens of thousands of miles to find a woman or anybody think about that. But why do you need gays? Is she working full time though? Or is she just taking care of it?

I think she is just take care of that. But he was saying that was a problem here and even America for someone not to work and to be able to because being a homemaker, that's a job, you know what, it's a it's a job. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I would love to stop not work in just being a homemaker. I love it. I don't believe that I do, because this is why I struggle to believe that that's true. Right now, I'm not saying I'm sure you would love to not work. Okay, I'm sure, I'm sure, for sure

you would love to not work. Yeah, I'm sure you don't want the pressures of working and bringing home a check. But I don't still think you would make breakfast every morning. I don't think that's nothing to do with work, and I think it's just a desire. And I'm really trying to understand if you know that, because you know it though, if you know that, because there's some morning, there's those mornings where I'll wake up and I'll be like, like I want to get up, like make breakfast, do all that,

like I want to do it. But probably because there's been times where I'm like, well, I know he don't eat breakfast, but I'm sure he wouldn't be like so and I don't eat breakfast, but I should start Just when I think that's my point, I think, so just start doing it. You're because of you, Like I don't get what I'm saying, brit Is, And I'm not really

giving your ship. I'm really thinking because I'm thinking, why would just need a travel ten thousand miles to me the woman to do something that a woman right here would do? And you said, like his game is whack, And I'm thinking to myself, it's like, why would you need game for a woman to show out as a woman. That's what I'm saying because those type of like what I mean is he may not even have the right conversation. You need to have conversation for a woman to be

a woman. You want to you want, you want, you want to say, yeah, I mean over there, But you don't understand that I was just talking about this on the record. I just did about snitching. But people keep thinking, well, yeah, Nigga's niggas ain't staying lord nothing. You know, they're snitching. And I'm like, oh, you know, nigga ain't here to do time for nobody else. That's not what snitching is about.

Snitching is a personal accountability, right as you did something and then you want to tell on someone else to not be held accountable for your own ship. Right. So it has nothing to do with loyalty. You don't got to be loyal to your friend, be loyal to your character. Be a man, right, just like a woman right where you If you're saying that, right, you're like, well, he

meeting the wrong woman. What's the wrong woman? And she's a woman like what type of what type of woman you need to meet that really wants to show out at being a nurturer. You know what I'm saying, Like, I don't get quiet nurturer like my friend. Okay, so my friend, that's her. She's a nurturer. Every woman is a nurturers. Literally, your she's no, she's cooking the three meals a day. This is before he even she loves but exactly, and so she loves doing those things, like

that's just in her. But women don't want to be that's why would you? But that's my point? Why would you not know? That's like a man that doesn't know how to take out the track? Why would you not learn how to cook? Like? True, why would you be my daughter? Why would you be black and not know Billy Jean? Like why would you? Why would you exist in certain spaces where these are pretty much cardinal ideas, Like I'm not saying a woman shouldn't work. Let's say

a woman does want to work. I expect Oprah to know how to fucking cook. I'm gonna funk how much money she got. How the funk would you not know how to cook? You are a bringer? You are a bringer of life. See, Look, I don't want to I'm opposite. I wouldn't want to be the homemaker. I'm good at all this. I'm not even talking about being a homemaker. I'm not saying a woman should want to be a homemaker. I'm saying, how would you not want to know? How? I agree with? How don't you brush up on being

a nurturer? Like I understand where we're in a space whereas genders or gender ro but you literally can have a baby that lets you know you may have to be responsible for feeding somebody. How don't you prepare yourself for that? That's like a man that don't got no hands. You may in this lifetime if you have a kid, become a protector. How are you gonna look if you

can't protect this little dude or this little lady. There's some there's a lot of men and women there weren't raised to understand that concept of But I don't And that's what I'm saying. But I don't know if that's true. Man, I genuinely think I don't. I think that's a very minute few. But I think there's a not like you, there's a natural resistance to it based off how you

view the world. But so it was how you were, what you interpreted, how you felt what you were UM taught you know what I'm saying as far as like like you you frowned upon your auntie, right, he's look at Monty going to get that stuff. Why is that

a frown at that time? It was for me. So what I'm trying to get to that point at that time because that's when they just being a little bossy kid like, because I doubt I doubt you would feel that way if a nigga ran up it was talking crazy auntie and y'allco stepped up and knocked his ass. I don't think, like why he gotta take her face? She should let her take her own face. Yeah, but I didn't see see, I didn't see a lot of um, a lot of them like being lovy like you know,

say kissing or hugging or anything. I just seen my aunt and you know, just doing all these things. You know what I'm saying. I'm just saying, like you didn't understand what's loving him? Yeah I didn't as a twelve year old mind, you think loving is kissing and fucking you still kind of not kissing her and I say no. I did not say kissing her. I was gonna probably say no. I was probably gonna say getting things like I would see, Like I'm like dang, Like she even

on her feet all day. She we we had a flat and she changed the tire. Not she called my uncle, but we were on the side of around, remember because a THEO. Anyway, it's so I'm like dang, and she not to change of tires like girl term like what like I It's just she was super woman And I didn't see the like her reaping any like benefits, like she wasn't getting a massage or like she wasn't able to just kind of like you know and so and see.

And this is why I think it's incomplete. See, when you truly mature as an adult, right, when you truly hit the space, and it's hard for y'all, y'all may not never hit it as women, right because and I'm not talking ship, I'm really saying, your natural nature is very insatia. It's not very insatiable. It's it's you have a constant desire and it's going to constantly alter. That sounds a bit chauvinistic, but it's not it's true. That's why, like,

what have you done for me lately? All of these songs were made by women that are close to fourty years old. You know what I'm saying that that pretty much been the theme of their love, right, So when you see it that way, right and you're like, oh, well, that's him loving her, that's her loving him. Right, So when you're saying he's not getting anything, her gift was her loving him. She loving someone is the gift, not

being loved. That's the confusion to being love is not the gift, because you really can't tell if somebody being loved, like you can think loving is buying you something. And then that's why a nigga could suck you over really bad because he buying you ship and you think that's love. Loving someone is all personal gratification truly when it's done correctly, and I know that to be true. Like when you

love somebody, that is the gratic to buying them. The gift is the is the present to you, not the present they get back to you, but buying them the present. You see one of those types of people and it's not even about them receiving. I don't got to see them happy me picking it, knowing that I'm thinking about this person is the whole thing. Yeah, that's because I think it's important to be like you. I like getting

to what you. I know that they you know what you would like or what can make something better in your life. But see love love like love is just weird, like like I can't really give you love. I can show you it. I can't give it to you because I don't know how you were. So the showing part, that's where I'm saying, like, that's where I like to, Okay, give me a give me a kiss, let me like. But but it's not about but that's the point of So that's what I saw. So even like the love language, right,

people can speak to different languages. That don't mean they can't effectively communicate. People just have to decide to a herp with somebody else's language. And it ain't always about somebody loving you the way you want to be loved. It's about somebody loving you. You know what I'm saying, Like, if you can get somebody to love you, even it may not be Let's say your love languages gifts. Let's say his love language is like what he his love

language that he shows is words of affirmation. It would behoove you to not start to care about how somebody is trying to love you versus and this is how I want to be loved. Love ain't selfish, for sure. Love ain't selfish, it's for sure selfless. So if you always worried about yourself, then at that point you're not really loving nobody. But you know, I don't even think nobody being love at all. You actually ain't even truly experiencing how great it is. So that I'm asking and

I'm not. I swear like I know, I give your ship. Sometimes I'm really not giving your ship. I'm just trying to say, why would this nigga have to go tends of thousands of miles. There's a lot of I mean. And then the other situation, Okay, another I grew up my grandmother. She was single, she didn't remarry, she ended up, she had a boyfriend. My grandmother worked. My grandmother like she did every chance, like you know what I'm saying.

So it was no like for me, like oh I have to sit and like wait like so I'm just so used to that. So when I so when I see or I felt like Okay, these men are being like like um, like I would be like damn, like they think that they like own them, like you know what I'm saying, like this is my what I'm thinking. You know, I'm young, and then being with um, you know, my son's father, I'm like, okay, wow, like this is

like too much, like yeah, you know. So yeah, that's the point though, the way we see it, it's probably never the way it should go, for sure. I know I didn't know for a while, a long while, but but yeah, that's all I'm saying. I just don't get washing. Brothers will travel ten thou and I'm trying to forgout now, but that's what I'm saying. What is the right women? Apparently, whatever it is that they're looking forward, they're not finding it in here apparently. But I personally feel like I

didn't think that's what it was. That that's the point I'm making. I just cannot But but but now listen to y'all. I'm like, Okay, maybe I'm tripping. Maybe women here are, but like I said, they probably don't probably no one wants to. I mean, they probably don't like him, ain't very like they not really like swaggered out to be like, what is that? But what is? Because you keep going to the woman because as women, we like that ship. Come on, keep that ship real. We like that ship.

We like a man? What confidently? And I love myself? That's not that's not That's not what I'm saying. What do you mean? How do I like myself? You just asked me about the man. We're not going into myself now because you because you keep I'm not asking you about the man. I'm asking you. You mean to tell me that women only act a certain way depending on the man named. That's what you just said. How do I say that? Because you said because I'm gonna tell you how say you just said to me? I was like,

they not mean well them type of niggas. What does that have to do with the type of woman that that like? A woman is a woman to a woman is a woman. I'm the same type of nigga, no matter what type of grill it is. That's you because I'm me for real, listen to what I'm saying. I'm not me based off the type of woman you're saying. They're meeting certain type of men because they like me and to be what they're meeting women, and the women

they're meeting, they're having bad experiences. So what I'm asking you or they're not getting even the chance to In the conversation, the one of them said he was married, So you mean to tell me women or women because that's who they are, Like, you're not the type of woman you are, because we don't know if she maybe he she left him. I'm not saying I'm not I'm

telling you he's complaining, right. He said he's traveled thousands of thousands of thousands of miles to meet a woman, and he's bragging about her because she cooks three times a fucking day. I mean, like you said, why the would you travel? And now I'm starting to luck apparently whatever reason why, I don't know. I think it has more to do with the what she said, them girls getting to ship. But no, but I don't think before

I don't what country was that. I mean, American women know they are going to cook three times a day. They really that culture. They were raised to to do that. So what were you Listen, this is what what we and not every woman was raised to do that. What were you raised to do? If you wasn't raised to be a woman. What were you raised to do, like to nurture. I'm just saying nurture because this is about nurturing. I'm not even saying that gender roles are staying at home.

I'm not even that. I'm saying, how do you get? It? Just doesn't mean they don't want to cook three times three meals? But but how would you not? Like we don't know, because you're American women, why would you not? So maybe you were raised to be what I was raised to be a woman. So then why the funk would you not cook three meals a day, no matter what the nigga is, because you might be working, might not because they have to do those things. Now there,

she's home all day, glasses, I'm at work. That's an answer class. I couldn't cook breathfast I was at work. Uh yeah, I can make lunch. I mean we packed that. I was at work. So but that's not what we're saying. He's saying, Okay, so like he really that was a flesh A lot of that sent me. The man was like bragging, like this dress that the woman had on was four dollars. Maybe showed his four dollar dress. Don't that ship look good on her. He say she was happy,

yeah with the dress, with the dress because she wasn't materialistic. No, but that's not how and that's how in there, And you don't think that's a fracture at that point for y'all that y'all materialistic if you just if it really comes down to the price of an item, that is, if you are if the dress looks good and you're worried about the price of it, then yeah you are. I mean it is dress like if yo if like,

y'all do best start buying you outfits? But he all of them was nice though they were nice outfits, but he not buying you expensive person. Is he not buying you none of the design and stuff. He just buying you clothing and they're nice. I'm a wearried you really believe that that's what you're gonna be? What you mean? Do you know there's you could rock and look what you're being proud of it? Would you show it off like how she was? No? I mean, like look my

guy got in the video. Hey, I mean I get dollar dresses showing it offs different, But that now that's just a little nah, I think na. So is there a real conversation to be happy about y'all being kind of like funked up and spoiled as women. I mean, not funked up in the sun up since but like you're so far away from the essence of actually what love is and the simplest forms that you just so driven by capitalism that the dress needs to be a thousand dollars for you to see love you versus he

buying your address. That's just nice that he definitely not know. So you don't cook three breaths because you don't feel like it. No, God, you're not gonna flost this dress. So y'all making foster dress. I was telling her about how she let's me get my work done. Stop really really like, he's like this, he has to come out there them over there, And that's what I'm saying videos, That's what I'm saying. No, but I'm saying, but what you're saying to me, It's starting to be like, but

how wright is this naked? No man, is it? How right are you flying? Do you need to go to glasses? I have no idea because I never I never met a woman that I thought wouldn't cook three meals a day. Now, women what I've never I've never in my life met a woman that I didn't think wanted to cook three meals a day. I've never been around I'm long enough. I first off, I've really never until recently been around women to see if they would cook three meals a day.

I'm not used to spending twenty four hours with people. Got you, I got you, I get what you're saying. So I'm saying I genuinely most women I've ever interacted with, we'll cook three meals a day. I mean, let's stay were just young. It just didn't have to cook at that time. But it all honestly, man, come on, g like, you know, there's plenty of good women that's after that are about nurturing for exactly my man, they my mom was making three meals, she's still making like a thing

of the pass. I just think a lot of women are more more independent, They got more What is that? What is that? Because trying to stop me when I'm saying something, because I need to get what independent mean? What does that mean? I'm saying, like they're really into I can do it all myself and I don't need to do anything or need anyone to do anything like an adult. Why do you have a title for being

an adult? Because all adults take care of themselves. Okay, but we're talking about Wait, because we're not talking about a woman that's independent. You don't want to be independent in the relationship. No, I'm just I'm just because I gotta get No, I'm gonna change you. Why hold up? Because listen, No, listen because because it's hard to move. Sometimes we say so much bullshit and I'm not talking about you. I'm saying the ship we say like being

an independent woman? What the funk is that? So I can know before we move forward, because that way we can either have a full understanding or we can stop saying silly ship. So what is an adult? Are we saying an adult woman who provides for themselves is an independent woman? Well, because, like you just said, most people try to equate that you have to have a husband and so it so what so what single adult women?

Well because because because I would imagine I could see if we're saying an independent woman is a woman in a relationship, she's gonna pay half of the bills, She's gonna pay half of the deals when they go out. Sometimes she's gonna pay the dating bill. That's an independent woman, and that's the woman that we're talking about. No, we're not talking about a woman in a relationship. We're talking

about a single adult woman who provides for themselves. Yeah, but we're can we stop using the term independent woman? And that's about those men. But those men were probably those were the women they were in the relationship. How do we know that they're the women aren't paying the bills and you know, doing at things that he's not doing. It is a proud thing. So no, I don't think most women are in a relationship proud that they're Like, you're not proud that you have a job. I am.

I like my job. I didn't say that you you wouldn't be there. I'm going to I love going to work. If I the choice, I would still go there. I'd be right here making music right now. I love what but I and I want to do it. You, on the other hand, you would not want to do it. This job, not this job. But so you said you wouldn't want him because to pay everything, that's what you're saying. No, you don't want him to know. I don't need him. No, I don't want to ask you need him to. I

want my man to. That's what that god damn hands. So you mean to tell me you don't want somebody to cover all your expenses really honestly on everything else, because I know Brick gonna tell it to. So really you don't want a man? And is it because you fear that he thinks he controls you? Is it all your insecurities Because you mean to tell me you don't want as a fucking adult woman, you don't want somebody to take care of all your ship he covers your

expenses your day, I'm not of course you do. That would be fucking heaven for you. The only reason you feel like it wouldn't because you feel like he would have some like you have insecurities about how it would go. In the back of your mind. Man Nick might be trying to control me and control the money and telling

me this and that and silly ship not that. Like if it was really just he put you at a group account and he came and put it in, he took care of the business, and you just did what you did and he did what he did and it was all him, you would not have a problem. You just think it comes with other ship that's all, and that's cool because that's kind of something is do some niggers feel like they throw their power around like that's not me, my power up top and it ain't really

in my pockets for me. Like that's why I say so, I look at somebody like them, and I'm like, oh, that would be the challenge. She's not gonna cook three times. She's gonna be cooking three times to day. Fun with me. I'm a breaker breaker like in the Dice game. Now, I'm not gonna be you need to cook three meals a day, but she gonna notice that. You know what, I think this nigga might like if I cook three

meals a day. I just don't stand why she wouldn't like that like a nigga like, I get it when niggas can't afford to cover the mortgage or the rent. It bothers me though, when niggas don't want to m hm. So I don't know some nigga like she did here too, now now I get it. See niggas also insecure, like sometimes like girls to that point too, they say that because they can't They just scared to say, hey, I can't cover that all by myself. So it's like, well

she did here too. It's like, what I mean, you want her to pay to split the mortgage with you? You want her to split it with you. I'm saying that, and that's how I feel as a woman. You mean, you don't want to feed your nigga three times today. Now I can see if you can't, if time permits, blah blah blah, But you don't. That's not something you

you aspire to do. Like as a man, you don't aspire to protect your old lady, Like if it's nigga ran up and shitty somebody wanted to fail you, like, you don't aspire to go knock that nig out in front of your lady, Like that's not what you want to happen. And that's my issue is where I don't know if it's a desire anymore. And that's what I'm saying about these brothers, Like I'm looking at it like so I can't personally use me because all this ship

he talking about to me is just a challenge. I'm not going nowhere and I'm not fine way over there to dude, none of that. I need my sister as black as the night. But I understand of other brothers for me like, I don't want to challenge. I just need her to fold over and do it. Because the stuff he was talking about, we're so simple. Shout out to Richie Matt because I really dig his content. Um. But it was just weird. He's like, she makes me breakfast,

she makes me grits. She I was like, grits. I'm teaching how to make pancakes and she fries chicken and ties no how to and I'm like, God, but listen, he could have found that here my brothers listen. But if you don't, Nigga's like grids, you are fucked up. I'm not. This ain't bad it, trust me, man if Yo Nigga ain't learning how to change tires. That's a problem. Yo, Nigga should not have to change lightbulbs tires. Feel me put ship together or take it to Walmart to have

them do it. It's certain things as a man you should aspire to be and just like a woman, you should aspire to be every sense of a nurturer. I'm not saying a woman who doesn't set at home, I'm not. I don't care if you want a job, cares nobody said you gotta be barefoot and pregnant, which I don't understand. What's so bad about that? You ain't can't you can't carry it yall? That's why you don't understand that. I don't know, because I just doubt that I want to

do a lot of ship. If I was prayed it, i'd be wanting to chill, like I don't want to do nothing. You're not gonna work still, I gotta work, that's what. So what's wrong with nik? I don't want to go nowhere where I'm going because of that reason right there. So I don't get the concept of barefoot and pray. I don't get like I get the shot at it. But it's like, what do you want to do? And I think there's this weird desire that people think

being hoeing hoeing is it? So they feel like hoing, like really going out being in people's face, over socializing, socializing for no purpose, to drinking, not actually selling vagina, but like going to the club just to be in people face, just to get fake affirmation of desire that's temporary, and then you just live with it. Like that's a lot of things that we call fun that's what we You know, you tell your kids, don't you don't want to get into a serious relationship right now. You need

to have your fun, enjoy life. That's what that means. Because you can do the same ship married whatever, you can go out and do ship. You could do all the same ship. The one thing you can't do is that ship. So we think that that makes some sense of fun. And I just didn't understand it. But back to the point, it's like, I don't understand why my fucker traveled three thousands of thousands of miles to be the woman. And I was thinking this bit from the

do backflips or something. Its like she cooks me breakfast, but she cooks me breakfast, she doesn't bother me. I finished my work, I'm like, dam I'm a bit. Won't let you finish your working Where they're stopping, he was like showing him like, hey, we just went to this restaurant and we only spent this much money. And it was like like basically showing like y'all can come up here and live like a he got a whole movement. No, it's a whole movement. Come out here for all of me. Crazy.

All things look crazy, look I'm not. I'm not. I'm not the handsomest nigga. But the Lope has got the has a glow that makes the loaf work, said the low No, it strimps. I'm not like you know. I mean, I'm not but the Lope But for me, I know my glow but I don't. I was looking in there, Yeah,

I was looking. They had an episode where they was in the Motherfucker's Spot doing with Thiland and it was just a bunch of crazy looking niggers with crazy looking tied with him, like, oh, these bitches ain't even fine. He looked like a weirdo. Don't do that, my boy, chie, let me tell you. But you know with the bullshit, that's what I do know. That's cool because he wasn't make him three meals or let him finish this work she might make. Would you make him grit? She makes

me grit. I can't believe it's going to find a brite. I don't know how to man it was here you to find a woman who know how to make something else. We didn't get to the bottom of it yet, but it's something else. It is continue it is into You don't know that though, what could be. I don't change a woman for being a woman. Oh, I'm just saying he might because he's not here. The interest is not here. When he went over there one woman because she was

like a woman did everything? Yes, but what woman don't won't do everything? Woman don't just want to just do everything? What are you talking about? We're talking because she went over there. Yeah, I mean he went over there. I said, why would a woman not want to do everything? She probably was doing everything here, but it just didn't work out. So he went over there and he said, oh, I don't have but you said it didn't work out. See

that's not true. You see, that's my issue. He said that he wasn't getting these things, that's why he was who brags about it? And he was married though, so did he have any So is he bashis off with just this marriage? You know? He was meeting different girls and he was like the sisters overre com playing too much. And I know he was for sure talking about how they was materialist because America does breed capitalism and he was with a black woman. I don't know woman, that

could be true. I gotta see. This is what I'm saying, Like we don't know we can get to the bottom of it. If these guys are thousands of miles, I'm not saying they like I've seen them. They are very different and unique characters for sure. Like I don't what I'm saying, but that still shouldn't stop a woman from being a woman. Now I can see why I don't. Last, let's stop her from talking to him. But what are you talking about? It just depends what type of woman. Yeah,

that's true. Let's leave it there. Good looking out for tuning into the No Sellers podcast. Please do us a favorite, subscribe, rate, comment, and share. This episode was recorded right here on the West coast of the USA and produced by my homeboy A King for the Black Effect Podcast Network. And I heard Radio Yeah Trucks