Conversations About Group Chat Etiquette

Watch up and welcome back to another episode of No Sealer's Podcast with your hosts Now fuck that with your load glasses, Malone. That's like some girl shit a girl exactly. That's why I'm mad at cuz he's not a girl. Oh why would you do that? Why would you remove yourself? Tell me some other these group chat etiquettes that everybody's supposed to.

Know that niggas don't know etiquette.

Well, if you just saying you would remove yourself, Oh yeah, if.

You brought somebody in and I don't know about that situation, but if you brought somebody in and they were just doing that I didn't like in the what if.

They didn't do anything, they just came in the group chat.

It depends on which one. I got a few, I.

Mean, whichever one. Let's say somebody asked and they said, if it's.

One that you know, you just in there, like I have one where it's just like we just send memes all damn day, like stupid shit. Like I wouldn't care if somebody was in there. I'm not sharing anything personal. It's not nothing like crazy, you know what I mean, It's just like what.

Yeah, but why would you remove yourself if nobody knows you don't want people to be added.

To the group chat.

No, I get that part. I'm saying, if I, if I, if.

You didn't like it, would you I told you? Let's say you didn't tell you. Let's say you wanted to assume people knew that you didn't want people added to the group chat, even though you let them add somebody before.

I wouldn't assume that though.

You would tell them, right.

Y'all would tell him that?

Or Yeah, let's say you read a couple of y'all got group chats going on, and Red ask y'all, y'all don't say nothing. She asked somebody and they say yeah, and then they add you to the group chat. And then you come in there and see that. Would you not just tell Red a uh oh for sure?

Telling Asia like what the fuck? Why you? Who is this? Why you? Ah? For sure? But that's just me though, I'm a for sure say something like you just made a fucking chat fucking other like last two weeks ago or whatever and added me. And she didn't call me and say do you want to be in this chat with all these people? She just put me in the chair. They say, Hey, y'all ask some more people if y'all want to, But ladies only, that's all she said. That was her.

It was just like, okay, I need to get some group chat etiquette.

Yeah, what's the group?

Give me some group chat.

Etiquettes so I can understand.

Because I got a few group chats I probably got about.

Is it group chat etiquette?

Though it has to be.

Okay?

I mean that I think you just established the rules from the beginning. I guess you know what I'm saying, like, and if you don't know what's up, then I mean you should just ask, like.

All right, what are some common courtesies of the group chat?

And I feel like if it's I mean, if it's open to add people, then apparently you can add people because you can make the group private to war only the person who created the group or those admins can add people. So I mean, if it's open, I'm you know, I'm gonna add I'm gonna add people, you know?

Is it a is it? I don't know is etiquette. I don't ever make it. I don't I don't ever make a chats. I don't think it's like an etiquette unless it's like your day ones and you just already know, like what's you ain't know what's up, Like we're not gonna add nobody.

To our like like like, are are gonna add somebody that's just like associate to not with my personal no how you know if we're talking about other life situations, yeah, you know, like you guys were talking like y'all talking about personal but then you'll talk about boxing, So.

We don't really So my boxing group chatt is different, right because so so a couple of my friends in the boxing group chat. We have a personal group chat too, that's just us three and to me, that's where we talk about personal. Our boxing shit is a little bit more liberal because we got a couple of people in there. We just met so Ju. I knew jay for twenty years. Manny I met Manny probably about fifteen years ago. Uh Trash, I met Trash about fifteen years ago, maybe sixteen years ago.

To have.

And y'all got that, y'all have do that. Y'all meet new friends and bring new friends with this friend. And we don't do that me. And that's not like you know, that's because you think you're a nigga. You have always thought you was a nigga.

I never thought I was talking about I just I'm just saying, like I've always just been very protective of my circle and who I've been around, like my energy. Like I've always been that way. So I've always had a core group of people that I've always associated with that's just always been me.

It's nothing, but I'm saying you were not.

There was no new friends.

Now friends I related to that ship.

That related to Drake I did not.

Now I don't know about it, but I'm saying.

I always say that that's my we're not going and and that kept us that that kept us within our circle because no, we're not about to go over here, and like Mingo, me, I'm going.

I know you did, Mingo, what are you talking about?

You always need people? But yeah, no, breat of not doing that.

I'm over there, y'all be coming back over there. I'll be over there when y'all get back.

How many first off, no, seller's yead up. How many group chats you got your phone?

I don't know.

Let me see, Okay, So I have group chats on different social media platform.

I mean your text group chats.

Oh, text group chats.

I think I only have like three, I think I have Yeah, just more than three.

Yeah, text group actually just three? But social what do you?

What are your three text group chats like like not not like? What are they? So?

Our chat, the no seling.

Chat, no seilings, my family chat, and a few just my that's it.

Actually you only have two group chats through text?

That's it?

What about you? So we can let it's read no how many group?

Yeah? Family? And yeah already I don't have one on text except where with the no ceilings one?

Well, he's talking about one text. Let's make sure we.

Okay, So I got the no ceilings one text?

Okay, my family, okay.

Family text. I have a work like a work text like group text. I have, Oh, y'all so cute. I have one more?

No put closer to them.

Oh, I have one with my sister and brother okay yeah, oh and then one with my grandma in it and one without without not with her. Well I have those because grandma we can't say certain things because yeah, so I have that because but then you know, because I have a few and be honest, yeah, so I got but it's still family pretty much the same people. My grandmother is not like in one and then y'all, like you know, I.

Mean we a group, right, you.

Know that that's not a group chat, just as like somebody that's on.

Live and me and we don't even talk on that one really forgot that's a good right, So I have groups, but talking about like active is those two?

So that's if you're on Live and you have one person, that's a FaceTime that's not a lot.

What are you talking about?

So you and Britain is not a group chat. That's a text, not a group.

Having group.

I got my group FaceTime calls.

So I got a boxing I got a few, I got some families, I got a boxing group, I got a I got a basketball good chat with all my partners. That's like in pro hoops. I got something to do with pro hoops, which is weird, right because you build a bond and it's funny because I got added last to that. I don't know how I'm just.

Because you're so glasses. You are like the best to talk to. You're very opinionated, but like you like to ruffle a lot of feathers, like I see.

For sure, Like is this whole album canceled? These nets? You canceling the Jehovah Witnesses. I know we're talking about the group, the group chat. But I'm just saying this is why some who witness is the groups.

But that's because my mes's crazy. I gotta tell you about that. After this man Max just was going bad on me. So look so fast forward. Right, So I got the basketball, then I got some up. I got Metro and sticks. Right, I got my my marketing group chat watch, sticks and Metro. So I got a few different group chats, right, and all of them really helped me in some way in life. But I never thought

But see, it's different in texts. I think with text message group chats because there are some that I didn't name that I am a part of. I think that's more personal and it's more so like this is like a conversation amongst us, and no, like we're not bringing anyone into like our circle. But I think on social media, I think it's different.

Giant Life grew chat and I got the group chat with me Duce.

Joey and yeah yeah, and on social media, you're gonna it's different, Like I think with social media, Well, is that where you guys.

Wanna I don't have any social chat except no.

Sinner except for that. Okay, well, oh yeah, that's the one where we dropped.

You know, I don't really have social.

Media is just where you're sharing like a lot of content. So so I guess that doesn't count like as.

A group chat.

So where to get somebody kicked out of y'all group chat?

Mmmm? Have y'all almighty kicked out?

Have y'all ever kicked somebody out of your group chat?

I've never done that before. Damn, I never kicked anyone.

No, because you technically on text message, you can't take anyone out of a group How do you how are you guys taking people out of group chat on text message?

Just kick them out how they are.

If you have some people that have androids, some people that.

I don't have none of those. I don't have none of that. That's only a family. If you got a green text, you could not even be in my group chat if you have any.

We're talking about now group chat. So you can't have an android, you can't remove them.

I wouldn't even I wouldn't even be in a group chat outside of family with somebody with android.

You if you have an android, your anti social.

Like if you know all your friends have an iPhone, you have an android, you're just being I'm not texting you no more like I'll text, I'll call you. You have an android, I'm not texting.

I feel it's a different call, it's a different culture. It really is like I feel.

You're being stand off. It is so if you have an Android, I'm not texting you. I just call you.

What's up.

I'll just test Nah. I'm not sending you no pictures because I don't need none of them. Shit's coming back with exclamation.

Can see I feel like with Andrew, you can't really see.

I can't see what y'all doing, Like I don't I don't know what y'all got going on over there?

Because if I try to upload a video and don't go straight through.

It's just different different, different size like Korea. Yeah, like what was that? Why did you do that? My cousin? I should have went back. I should go back.

Yeah, you need to Yeah, go back korem. Yeah, so I have those chats, family chats.

You're right, because you.

Can't ye they are.

With androids and stuff like that.

But yeah, you're right. I have my family group for sure. I think we got like I think at least two of them in there got mixed.

Yeah.

So I hate it when they try to send a picture of video and like I didn't.

Get it or it's too small.

Yeah yeah, okay, So I don't know social media, it's easy to lead.

One would remove you. Why would you remove yourself from a chat?

I think if you didn't ask me and you put me into some ship that I'm not even with.

That don't count.

You take yourself out because because what he's saying, remove if you've been in there, like you're you know, interacting and stuff.

Because people try to add me to to I leave social media. I get right out of there.

You're right.

I had kids that's fans of mine's eighteen nineteen, twenty years old, multiple different groups and maybe add me big homies. Just don't add me in your group. I will block your ass. I don't even block people on social media or text, but I will block you. You keep adding me to your fucking group chat and see what you're talking about. You ever removed yourself from a group chat that's long standing?

No, not long standing?

What would it take? What would make you remove yourself from a group chat? Is there anything?

Yeah? Like what if you I don't know. It just depends, like if somebody's on some like weird shit, like say, for instance, if I'm in a if I'm in my friend chat and you just you come in in and you're like on some negative stuff or like you're always because I've had a friend that was like that. It was always every time I talked to it was like negative. If I feel like you're on that, like if the energy shifts in that group, I would probably myself only

Take I'm not.

That's not from Drake. That's real ship. The other one though, that no new friendship that I'm.

Removing myself if I don't like your I don't like what the fuck is going on.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like the energy shifts and it's just like you're in here.

I'm not fucking with it, Okay.

So why not just kick that person out?

If it's an open group, it's an If it's an open group, then it's open. So that means that I have to remove myself because it wasn't no rules as far as like, oh we're not we can't bring this person. This person is now if it was say me you and because of group and they bring so and so I'm gonna I'm gonna voice myself. Hey, you know, no I fuck with you. But this was I thought this was a group for me, Brett and Becuzo. Okay, well this is what we're doing. Okay, no problem. So I'm

You're not about to add yeah.

Yeah, I mean that's where common the courtesy becomes common when you have the same upbringing. What's the craziest thing somebody ever said to you in the group chat? But he was like, damn, I need to get out this group chat.

No, I've never left.

I've never left it.

Some like I mean, I know because you have to deal with it.

But I mean I've been in group chats where like somehow you get added onto them most of the time on social media and I don't really pay attention like that I'm in there, and then I've gotten a message that's been like some stupid like or some some like porn or something, and I'm like, all right, I'm out.

You know what I'm saying.

I've been added to a lot of Facebook groups that were like they actually hang out, they kick it like whatever, you know, And for me, I'm like, you guys are not talking about doing anything but like hooking.

Up or yeah, they be fucking.

I'm like, I'm out.

Y'all in group chats where people talk about fuck they put me.

They don't put me in it no more.

But we got to call the.

Groups safety hanging out. They be having parties and ship they making like energy all kind of shit. Yep.

I ain't no Facebook.

I'm not either. I'm not in no Facebook group.

I removed myself from one only because I just thought it was just was. It kind of got, like I said, the energy shifted. It kind of got to where motherfuckers started like saying shit like sexually, you know, like yeah, and I started seeing like, oh, that's.

When I started seeing I'm in this group on Snapchat. This's something like midnight after. It's a porn something on snap I don't even know how.

I don't know, dude.

You told me about one that you was adding in the next thing.

I know you guys added in once, but I don't know if it's the same one, but they alway it's like some shit midnight hour something and it's literally just like porn.

I'm like, what what, Yeah.

I don't know. I get all kind of random. What it is the group I'm saying, that's why I said that they link up like that. They be having like little parties game night. You know what.

There's a there's there's a group.

That I was added into that's out in the in the valley area, and they like get together. It's a pool, a whole situation where yeah, like they hang out, No okay where they hang out where they they like kick it, you know, so kick it?

Yeah, I don't know. I never did none of that. I just know people that are that do and I just be you know.

Me, I'm you ain't never hooked that with nobody in these chats?

Hell no, I don't.

Has anybody ever tried to fly with you in these chats?

Hell yeah all the time? Like ship all the time?

How did the game go? In the group chat?

It's the same like what's up the street? Like what's it'd be?

Like?

Damn no they win?

How far have you went? Because you went something?

You you full of ship? If you act like you ain't went, how far have you went?

What do you mean? I've never met anyone in a group and mess with him?

Have you ever seen pictures? Yes?

Oh wait, No, I didn't meet him in the group. That's no, that's a lie. I forgot. I didn't meet him in the group, so no.

I just happened to be in the same group.

We're so happy to be in the same group. We didn't meet in the group.

But y'all reconnected back in the group, So then y'all met in the group.

In the group we met outside there.

No, but y'all wasn't fucking each other. And then y'all seen each other groups like, oh, what's up?

Double back?

It wasn't.

Yeah, it was was.

That's not what happened. That is not what happened? What what I don't know about this?

Yes, so y'all was y'all sex in the group chat out side of the screw chat?

No, what happened was I met him outside, like like you know, out.

And then y'all was just chilling, y'all, we didn't mess around. But then y'all seen each other in the group chat.

You flirted, he flirted. And then I found out that he was in the same group chat, and I was like, this, it's on Facebook. What I don't know the name of it?

What kind of group chat is it?

I'm gonna travel.

It was just one of those kind of chats, like I don't know it was I got a found like she said, like it add people to it. You gotta get added to it. You can't just why you didn't add me. I don't know.

You're trying to meet you somebody.

You know, you never know she didn't have me.

I don't know.

You know what that ship. I know it was that I was single, was single for like five years.

Yeah, so social, dang, Like, I have zero desire to be this social.

You are very social.

I'm not saying that social capabilities, I'm not. I have zero desires to be social, like it only fits my business. If I wasn't an artist that sell music, I wouldn't have a social media.

I see that because I would be too.

Busy socializing in real life.

That's that's made me too like my people they talk to me in real life.

I mean, not used to be funny to not like act like a party or a club. I'm talking about like socializing for real, like with common interests with people that I know, not just strangers like y'all at a club.

Why do you guys say you like y'all?

I mean because y'all like parties whatever, there's still no crime, y'all, like meeting strangers.

I did like meaning strangers.

Yeah, well I would say, no, you didn't like meeting strangers. You just like to go for the atmosphere because you didn't.

Like Well the atmosphere for the strangers used to be like why would somebody talk? You look like you just standing there and looking like stop looking like that. I don't know how the fuck I was looking. But apparently I wasn't so mean.

But she just liked to go because she liked to people watch.

Yeah, I love to watch shit, I just love it strangers.

And what did you like about the club besides the strangers.

Meeting people and the music dancing?

What is it about meeting people that really you really that y'all enjoyed?

I don't get that.

What do you mean like?

I don't care to meet people? Like nothing innately desires me to meet new people. I've never went somewhere in my whole life when intention to meet new people. Never once, I feel you g Like, I'm not knocking, I'm just saying I'm trying to figure out what am I missing that.

I feel that there's sometimes where there's an intention where I'm like, Okay, I want to go to be able to meet somebody like new. But like going out wasn't just necessarily about meeting people, was hanging out with your your friends, hearing music?

You do all that at home?

Right?

You can't. You can't do that at home, you know I'm saying. There's situations where you may not. You might live with your parents, you might have kids at home, you might like you can't literally just let.

Loose and just you know what I'm saying, hear.

Music and be able to just vibe out with your friends, and I have to worry about that. So a lot of times it would just be a common interest that we like, like we like to cure the music, We like to drink, you know what I'm saying, We like to laugh, like it's just a social time.

But then y'all group chat. Have y'all ever shared like inappropriate stuff.

All the time? What you mean inappropriate like.

Back in y'all prime? Obviously not?

I mean like, yeah, I sent her, I mean I remember we definitely sending dick pics. Like so if you sending it.

You already know it's like listen, if you sent a dig pic. Hey, the girls got it. The girl not all not all the picture, but most of the most. Oh, my god, we're definitely showing most of them for sure.

I was like, look at this, look at this.

If we really liked you, like if we was, if we was, if we was fucking with you, we really liked you, we're not sharing your to the of the of the it's not but.

The ones that like, the ones that you the random that they.

Want to just like you.

You wake up in the morning, you're.

Like, oh, like you. He's like, hey, good morning, lady, and I'm like, we're gonna talk about it.

Remember two tone?

Oh ship, two tone? We're talking about this guy had a two tone dick.

Name Pink. And it was like and it was like, was it a white person?

No, sorry, oh my god, you asked.

Just send dig pics without you asking for him?

Of course, yeah today today. Yes, I don't let me tell you what I get. I got a couples. Fucking whoa does somebody send to you send to me?

Does get crazy crazy?

I got It was this one couple because of talk about sex on the show, and she like that. So I think it was kind of like people want, you know, I don't know ship, who knows corner, Kitty corner. So it was this one couple that would literally, I'm not bullshit you not. They literally I think they would get a room like once a week somewhere and they would go down.

This is the one you would tell me on snap or.

Yeah, and then they just and they would send it to me and I would know because first they would show the scenery, right, they was trying to show the drink.

They were sending you that because they wanted to get you to come and join.

So that's I got a couple of invites. I got this one couple right now, like they he'd be like, you ready to come home? Yet? No? What because he knows. He knows that I think his girl is pretty. I don't get that, but I don't want to be I don't want to do that. But he knows that because I always be like she's pretty, like and he'd be like thank you, And then he'd be like, you know, she said, she said you pretty too, iself, and were.

Inviting you in.

You decide to.

Have you Have you ever had a three sime?

Remember?

He said, no, no, I'm not into that.

You're not into that?

No?

No, I mean it's too much power for one man. Wow, No one man should have that much power. It's not like I got offered a six on my on my birthday.

Before I was gonna say so if your partner I once have a threesome, that's all.

Not a helton No, but just.

No, okay me, no surprise, turned it down.

Okay, you're not like that is nothing wrong with it. It's just too much for one person. I don't want to like it. It's like doing Heroine. I'm sure Heroin is the ship I feel.

You know, that's the really ship that.

I'm not mad at. No, nigga, don't. I'm not trying to tell others this is what you should do. Yeah, I'm not. I don't want that because what if I enjoy that and then now I want that.

Off That does happen though, my homegirl, I'll never forget it. She the prize her due with a threesome, and he kind of like expected that ship. He liked it too much, and he like expected that from her.

No one man should have all that power.

Yeah, and she really felt like damn, like, I don't want to do this all the time. I was trying to like treat him, and I don't mind doing it occasionally, but I don't want this all the time you.

Open them doors.

Its you gotta just have y'all gotta you already open the doors?

Well, you just it just can't be about the problem is it can't just be about sex, because sex, for sure can get like boring, right, you could keep you gotta find ways to be intimate with somebody outside of fucking, because if you do, you're gonna keep igniting different shit.

Yeah, baby, And.

I've had situations where girls tried to get me to do Ain'tal, and I'm like, bro, that's.

Remember this girl. I gotta no, no, no, I gotta ask him this how I like, do a lot of women ask that?

I mean, not that I know, maybe like just my whole, my whole sexual existence maybe before.

Okay they ask that.

So do more men just y'ah? Do more men ask that?

Yeah?

Because I think so.

Between Aintal and Head, I think there's some kind of domination for niggas where they feel like it's theirs, because you know, if you give the pussy away too much, like niggas feel like they need something that's just theirs, even as weird as it's sound. And I think a lot of niggas infatuation with Head is cause nigga. I mean, I think head feels good, right, I don't think that's the problem. But head don't feel better than pussy. And you got a lot of niggas who, in their mind

But really like one man fucking like five six Really it was the.

Thought a lot.

I mean, I've been offered.

I mean, how can you can you enjoy?

I mean, I guess you can enjoy that, but can you get through all of them?

For sure? But I don't think that's the I don't think that's the point right about.

I don't think it's Yeah, yeah.

I don't think that's the point, right But I think what it is is it's like you just feel like special, and I don't need to be. I'm not that fucking special. I'm a special motherfucker, but I ain't that fine special, you know what I mean. So it's like I just don't fuck with it like that. I just won't, you know. I mean, I've had I've had obviously, you know, you've been three some folks and all that shits seemed fire,

Now?

Even though in my mind the answer is no, I'm flattered. Feel me like, so you want to suck my dick on tape all the time. Wow, I'm thinking to myself.

Like why and she just wanted to suck your deck?

Well? No, she makes content. I think she still makes content.

And I mean, imagine the headline sucking glasses Malones.

Well, she said it wasn't even about the name. She was like, Yo, we're gonna cover your face up.

I mean, but she's still sucking the rappers dick.

Mm hmmm.

That is it's empowering to her, probably, you know what I'm saying, Like, so.

Y'all think of y'all minds sucking some women.

It's not the rapper, so I just said rapper, but it's not even a rapper. Like some women too. If you're sucking a man's dick and.

You're there're at what they called him a throat goat, okay, definitely gets off of making a man feel a certain type of way. She's doing reason. Not every girl is gonna do that. So I'm just saying there are some women they're gonna get off of. Oh a few women that get off of they get off. They get super like we off of just sucking the man's.

I'm not saying that. I'm just saying, why select my penis to suck on tape versus everybody.

I mean, she's gonna get off.

She likes you, but it's a lot of other penises to she.

I mean she's talking to you though, and.

But we're not talking.

That's my point. It's not somebody we slurred it.

She talked to you when she can swear.

To god, it went from like one to nine on seven Street.

Crip.

It wasn't like two, three, four, five six flirt so.

With you, though, it's very.

She had to get right to the point.

Listen, swear to God, That's how I came. It went from like it went from like, oh, that video so tight, I could suck your dig for content. That knock it out video is so tight. I could suck your dick for content. Wow, what just happened?

I thought it was there for that video, behind the scenes for that.

And it's funny because I thought it was like a punk. I was like, what the fuck just happened?

So it didn't take place?

No chance, come on, that's not even my style. Like I'm a bold nigga, but I'm not suck my dick on tape bold like for public consumption. Like I think it's cool. But I was flattered because it was like she's like, yeah, you know, we're not gonna have sex regular sex just ain'tal and I'm just gonna suck your dick. And I was like, what the fuck do you?

How do you feel or how would a man feel if the woman is just saying, hey, I just want to have anal sex Like before.

That, I did like that.

I mean, I think some dudes like it.

I know some of my homies do, but this girl kept trying to get me to do it, and I was like why I just like to keep trying to give me the fucking I wouldn't do it.

You've had anal sex.

Before, yes, when I was really younger.

How is that it sucked?

I didn't like it?

Why? It just didn't feel right. It's not how it's supposed to feel. It just that's not what it feels like. Pussy is a unique forgetting my language, but vagina is a unique But.

Was it like was it like a situation like like you this was like because it's like, this is one of my girlfriends where you're fucking This is.

One of my girlfriends at twenty twenty one, Like right, we was cool. It's funny because I kicked herut because she didn't make my plate. That's why I stopped talking to her. We was together. She moved in cause she kind of lost her place and she moved in with me. She's supposed to be there for like thirty days and ended up being like closer than ninety days. And she didn't want to make my place. She had made food and left it on the stuff. And it's funny because

She made the food.

It was on the stove. I just make won plo. I gotta make we plate. I don't make you pay no bills. But yo, as up out of here. That's really how we stopped talking. But long story short. She had came to my job. And I had a job for about seven months when I stopped hustling and she wanted to. I was cooking for disabled developmentally disabled people. It was a really cool job. This is right when I finished selling shyman, I was trying to make it in rap and I didn't want to sell drugs. No more,

Like the job at the.

Job in the ass.

That's why I'm sitting here like dad serious, let our hormones get like fuckuper duper around that time.

So and I remember it lasted about fifteen minutes and it was so odd.

I couldn't even like finish.

It was like I just think in the act listen, let me tell you is right next level. There was those times where by accident, oh.

Bro ho that hurts, and we were young.

I was minutes long, fifteen minutes.

I probably was like twenty three, twenty four, so like I was really young, and I wasn't like I'm not like that.

Feel like I mean, but what time of day was? She probably like.

This was night? So all days it's like nine forty five. I get off at eleven, like not even way till eleven. When I got home, like nine forty five, she just came and brought me aside of ass.

What is that?

Literally the ass said all that? What is that? Like?

Like what?

It wasn't you know it's funny. It wasn't as flattering as that scene.

I really didn't. I wasn't into it. It's funny pretty much. That messed it up the whole time. Damn, Now, I'm cool. I'll never do that.

So it was a girl that used to want me to do it. I was like, naw, I'm cool.

Damn fifteen.

It was not popping. I mean it was. It was a level of shit.

I'm just applied. I'm telling y'all, I really applied. Although all y'all out there, who is that enjoy that ship and love it? I applied, y'all because I don't get it. It does not feel great and I do not.

I swear to god, it is the greatest.

Like only know like two girls as has told me that they like it, but I don't. I don't. Yeah, I'm good. I just it's.

Mhm.

She's traumatized.

No, it's just that.

I mean I feel like that's something definitely, like you want to be able to like be somewhere where you're comfortable, like where.

You're this motherfucker. And it's crazy because she has.

To like she had that player. It wasn't her first time, definitely, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm just thinking about the first. But I'm thinking because I feel like your vagina it goes, it goes back, right, so.

Your ass, No it doesn't.

No, I don't know that's the thing.

Your ass does not go back.

I hope that.

I don't think it has. I don't think it does the same thing continuously do that.

No, it does not. It's not making it just using.

The bathroom just get cracky.

Right, So I mean I'm I'm wow. I mean, you definitely want to be comfortable, Like.

It's just this motherfucker.

Was this motherfucker was a.

Savage and was you just like and it was your first, so yeah, it was my first and so you it was just.

Horrible. It wasn't you know what, It wasn't horrible. It just felt like not right?

Was it?

If it was? So, was it better than the pussy?

No?

Nothing is better than pussy head.

It's a different feeling, was it. It's definitely like, okay.

It's definitely completely contractive, but that's not part of the greatness of that type of intimacy is rooted in you feel me, Like the the way vaginas and penises work together to accomplish a goal, the aintal part and the head part was not meant to accomplish the same goal. So it's like you're kind of forcing things that don't fit to work. So it's like, if first off, this didn't turn to the kiddie corner and I never wanted to talk sex with y'all. This is just weird, but

We talk about kind of suff group chat?

But no, I don't even want to ask y'all because I don't want. The point is one thing I was always proud about with no selings is he never is a guy and two girls. And you gotta think any girl that knows me already gonna be looking like he got these girls on the shows. Like, I'm like, we don't even talk like that. Now we're fucking talking like that.

Then we don't. I don't to do it every now and then. No, we don't.

We don't talk about it all the time. But this is I mean, this is important stuff.

This is real shit. This what goes on in the group chats. I literally, at least from my chats.

I mean, I'm not in a chat where anybody is having anal sex.

But I mean, is there a chat where that happens?

I mean sometimes yeah, where they say, hey, I do have a lesbian one.

Why do you know about all these groups?

Why would a lesbian one have anal sex?

I didn't say that, I said I know that there's a lesbian chat, yo.

I'm sure it's.

Crazy, is I was on a party line because I think party line group chats at the new party line, and I can remember hearing this this girl saying she was a virgin. She's like and she was talking on the party line. My older brother starts to be on the party line shout out to snipe, ain't my older brother And this girl was saying, and we had it on speakerphone, and she was like, yeah, I'm a virgin

See, technically she is because they say that you're a virgin if your hymen is isn't isn't it intact?

Is intact?

So if she's saving that part portion for whatever reason.

I mean, I think a dude, I heard that they do that.

Yeah, they do that a lot. So they're fucking their ass.

I've heard. Yeah, it's just weird. Oh my god, I heard. I don't know, man, this is the type of ship y'all.

Do you did you remember the party line? Do you remember the party line?

Used to be on the party line. The party line was like a phone number that everybody down and it was like everybody was on one phone call.

It was the original FaceTime audio.

It was the original that ship all the time.

I remember the box, but I don't know. I remember the party line.

The box of the party line.

I think I think I was probably on the party line.

I'm sure you were. I don't remember it.

Definitely remember the box, though it was cracking.

Did y'all ever meet people on my Space?

Oh?

My space?

I didn't meet people on my Space about Black Planet? Oh yeah, No, I didn't meet people on black You.

Were what are you talking about? You on every social outlet because IGAs on your.

First anyone on Black Planet? But I did. That was the first. That was my first son. My first one was a l I wasn't. I was just on there like I'm nosy. I'm telling you, I like to talk ship like, but I love that ship.

I didn't really, I didn't really bust well. I wasn't trying to really get with girls on my Space or Black Plan. Black Planet came first in my space. You know, I used to kill and.

Where a real wow.

Savage.

I didn't really, but the dame I had my aim was Blue Division.

That's crazy, yeh, you division?

And that motherfucker used to go up. I was dating this girl too, and she used to be looking and like niggas used to you know. I used to have the most savage away messages, pawn pawn away messages that nigga might show like pun who got the ex boy show and community pawn might have. I got two nine millimeters for sale, fifteen round magazines. I just finished sucking this bitch. That shit was fire.

Where's the next bitch?

At that? Nigga? Away messages used to be like movies. I'll be like, cuz you're going.

To jail, ma'am.

Yeah, no I didn't.

I didn't You remember your aim?

I don't remember.

Did you have an aim? Do you have a you have a sidekick?

I did have a sidekick, Damn, I don't remember what.

Was your aim?

It was exact, Oh my god, exacty exotic red, exotic red.

Okay, I don't remember mine, but I did have a fucking sidekick. I don't remember that ship.

How did you say?

What was the but the other one? What was black two way?

I had a I had a BlackBerry too, but the two way? Remember the two way pages? You put the infram let me Sky Sky?

What was the skylink something like that they had that time.

I already had a chirt.

They had, yep, had all that. I had all.

My email, my email on on my on my BlackBerry was Blue Division had t MO BlackBerry got net.

Remember, I was like, I'm tripping angel face. That was it. It was angel face. It was and think about it and we spelled right angel face just like that. That was she was.

Yeah, you were it was you were always an angel face.

Lie.

Our crew our ship head us. Our ship used to because head was Bibblehead, quiz ship was quiz. My ship was Blue Division. Like our ship was crazy. We was like way.

Too crazy, that's crazy.

Our angels to go.

Wow. I don't really fuck with AE, but I was on all the other shit though.

Yeah. I didn't really start looking at social media as an engagement too like that until probably when the girls start trying to talk to me Facebook.

I didn't start looking at it like that until Facebook.

I mean, girls start flash it was.

It was crazy. It was a lot of girls. I used to fly with me on my space, but at that time I never answered my like I didn't personally like I was way too street for like social media. So I wouldn't even answer my all MySpace. I remember checking my mydspace. It was so many girls on my DM. I'm like, I mean in the little messages, I was like, this shit is crazy. The O for me, it used to be girls out of me, Like y'all sent you a message on MySpace, I was like, wow, it's girls.

Now.

When I look through my Facebook even right now and I go through like all my social media on ig if it's if your message is older than like four years, it going to this little private thing and if I just like I was just sometimes like when I'm blasting out my album, like buy my album, by my album, and I'll send all of these little things like I

Used to cry. I used to change my little stuff all that changed my songs on there. Oh yeah. I used to be like, what's up, what's going on? I used to put all my pictures of and ship model and stuff, so I would go and take my little bit problem.

I was with model Mayhem.

Remember yeah, what is model Mayhem?

That's like a site.

There was a it was a sight that.

Like, did y'all have Did y'all want to be models at that time? Was that kind of the normal thing I did do?

I did a lot of print work when I was younger, but I don't think it was something that I really.

I don't know why would want to be a model.

A singing group too.

They it depends on what you get into. But if you really work and you can get paid really good. I was. I did all that shit. I did a lot of stuff, but after a while, like I didn't really care for it. Like I didn't. I wasn't really into the because it got to the point where you go to certain like auditions or certain things and you see the same people you're going for the same kind of type of ship. It was just kind of like, I don't know, I was over that. I was over y'all.

Brian Pumper oh all the time? If he was on there, you ever tried to get y'all.

No, because no, he never tried to get at us, But we did see him out a lot.

Did y'all ever see him get out of the girls for the club?

Oh? Yeah, for sure.

I don't remember running into him.

You know what I mean.

I'm sure he was at all the spots, but I'm so bad with like faces.

She would see people or not really see people being same and be like they were there.

Let me tell you there was this.

I've been in a lot of situations where I'm like, that's who.

I had no idea. So yeah, mmm, I don't know.

I think y'all got some problems. What you mean just thinking about all this group chat stuff. It's just so much stuff going on that people be talking about that I don't know what it's all about.

Hey man, you just because you don't like you say you don't care about that type of stuff, So you're not. I'm nosy. So I'm gonna look, especially if it's something that i'm into or I'm like, oh what's that?

Like?

Oh, I'm really gonna try to you know, so I'm gonna be in that group. But you yeah, you're not going trip you like, why is that?

Why am I?

So I'm such a social butterfly?

You're not a social but I am.

You just said you.

I think socially when I'm engaged, like right, I'll take over room. Oh yeah, but that's but I don't want to be in a room. So what is going on?

That's the magnetic energy that you have.

I'm saying, why don't I want to go in the room?

Why don't you like?

Why am I not excited?

Because that's just you're not excited. There are certain things that do excite you, and you are ready to go.

You're ready to go into the room.

But I mean, hey, every day is not an exciting life to be around mother It's not toy.

Why do y'all like being around motherfuckers?

But I don't always like to be around people? But I do have my days, Well, yes I do. I would like to. I just think, do it like be around people?

Like I don't have to be around people all the time.

I'm not sure, but I'm that, but I won't meet like I feel like you're mate, Like you guys should have a bond as far as like where your relationship is exciting.

That's you know, And I know you're gonna say that and I don't care.

But so you don't care that it don't make logical sense.

It should be exciting for you, Like if you guys have those same.

Common like why would it being then I don't want it shouldn't be born.

Why would it not be. It's literally designed to be born.

It shouldn't be not all the time. It doesn't have to be just.

That doesn't even make sense. It's literally built on consistency insaneness.

Okay, it could be consistent, but you canet throw in a little bit. God, you have so let me ask you questions that you can just like, that's the point of the point of it. You can have consistency, but it's exciting and consistencies literally sometimes you need exciting.

Honestly, they're most likely antonyms. They literally don't don't go together. It's the point of marriage, right, the consistency of the sameness the thing.

But okay, well fine, not the excitement, but you guys should at least share the same There needs to be common.

Interests.

Why similarity, because there's gonna be some type of like conflict, you know what I'm saying, Like, you may want to or you may be into reading and they're not into reading.

There's why the fuck do you need somebody to be into what you into?

Because that's you're you're with them all the time. This is your best friend.

Where did y'all get that dumb ass ship from?

Wait, guys said that too.

Where did they get that dumb ass ship from?

Why is that dumb?

Because it's not your fucking best friend? You have a best friend going into it.

Okay, but so glasses, it's Friday night, you're you have.

A relationship or you're at home with your with your girl. Right, sure, it's Friday. They've worked all day, Like.

You want to like me the fu alone?

No, I want to fucking hang out.

I want to fucking chill like with you. Like, what the why?

I'm sorry? Why do I want to leave you alone?

Sorry?

G I feel like gee, like when I'm fucking I don't know like I do. Okay, look, I do not like repetitive ship. So I get what you're saying, like, and then I know that he's saying it should be regular, repetitive boring.

This is what it is. I'm not saying that's what it should be. That's what it is.

It's that that's relationship should be Friday.

It's not You're right, shouldn't but you but you want a roller coach.

No, I don't want to all your time, but I want some excitement, Like, then.

Go fucking hike a mountain.

Stop trying to do it together.

No, because you on excitement.

Don't ruin nobody else fucking life because you don't know how to kind of get your ship together. But I just feel like, stop feeling.

We would just it would be just a little bit better.

No, it wouldn't. It wouldn't be better. No, that was fake, That wasn't real. No, it wouldn't fucking be better. Grow up. You gotta grow up. Stop thinking that you women is ridiculous with this ship. Y'all have this desire to live a single lifestyle marriage.

Thirty six No, I'm bored. I want to go and do something.

Shit your board ass down to go do something around this house, Go find interest in doing that.

For thirty six weeks, you haven't been doing a good jobs ship that needs to be done right.

Now, and you still did it anything else?

No, we're not, that's your point.

Yes we are.

You know what the problem is is, you guys want to be single in marriages. Think about it. You want to go do single things. You want to date the whole time.

We're gonna go. We're going me and you were going away.

That's not going to be fun. Yes, it is, because you're not fucking fun that you still and it's still you, no, because you're gonna be somebody else. It's different, it's not different. It's not fucking different. Stop trying to create that ain't different.

Different, it's not different. We're going away. I'm not as stressed. I'm relaxed.

I don't have to worry about X y Z. Now guess what it's all about me.

But what you want to do.

Exactly is listen. I can't really explain to you why the things you want are unobtainable and they don't make sense. But if you can't logically process it, what can I say?

There's a lot of men there is not it's.

Not and the fact that y'all keep doing that and then every time you'll look around, there's not a lot of men that understand it.

There is, there's a few, there's a few may but there's a few.

But you know what I feel like, I mean, me and my students should be able to like.

Listen to music together.

Why do you feel that way?

Why not?

Why do you what makes that feeling the truth?

Because we did it before.

Because he didn't know you before.

Out like, what what are you talking about?

Because once, okay, okay, when you date somebody. You're getting to know them.

Yeo, once you date somebody, you.

Know them, right, you know them?

So what he is he learning about you?

Now?

There's always things to learn, Like what, I don't really think it's about learning.

I was about to say, that's true, it's just quality time. And I understand. Gee, there's other quality time.

Like we watch movies, or we go to the car or whatever the case.

May be, chilling the backyard, whatever those qualities.

That's not good enough because you're not going somewhere. It's not a little silly ass down. Stop doing that, Like what is wrong with you? You got to take We gotta go somewhere so everybody can see us because it's fun.

I don't. It's not about any money seeing us. It's the fact that, yeah, I want to I don't want to be in his house.

That's your problem. To go somewhere. You don't want to be you. You don't want to be married, But you don't want to be married. You want to be seeing we go. No, don't say you want to go so you could drive somebody go hang out? Why he don't want to fuck?

Ain't got pays to the movies. Guess what we're doing today.

We're going into the fucking movie. That's what we're doing.

You know why he wanted to shoes on, get in the car, break up and date.

Here what we're doing?

Break up and dating and you'll get all that what break up and don't make him take care of you all the time. Yes, so that way, that way, Yes, no, this is true, because that way you get that he don't have to deal with your little raggedy ass waves, the consistency of your failures. You don't have to deal with every selfish decision you want. And then you still want him to be enamorated with you walking in the room.

Yeah, but I still want to go to the movies.

Though, then you need to be single.

I still go to the movie.

Why should have to be seeing what? She want to go to the damn movie? Stop it with my man? You supposed to, but I love him and I'm sticking by him.

You're not supposed to date your relationship. What did you get that dumb ass ship. Why do y'all keep making these rules up?

Let me tell you something. Well, then you need to tell motherfucker what's her name? Angela Bassett and her motherfucker cousin. They said that the key to their successful marriage. Well they still continue to date and do in twenty twenty three. Yes, I've heard my brother and his wife they've been together twenty one. Fuck they just say date twenty one years. They fucking date. They don't tell me shit.

Gotta be born, vance in advance, in first off, advance and so again.

So what you're doing is you making the exceptional rules.

First off, most motherfuckers ain't Angela Bassett and the fucking b So let me names, so you're in the name. Every other person that's been married forty years that don't do it, don't make the exceptional.

Rules, not making it, say done because you're trying to make.

It so they keep all holding on to see it. So keep on waiting to see a unicorn. Le's see unicorn. It's not planning.

This is why you're supposed to fucking date, so you can fucking find the person for you that wants to do It's horrible.

My first off you know.

You're supposed to date and figure out, so you get.

First off, you're not supposed to date. First off, you're not supposed to date prostitutes. Date dating is a prostitute word, y'all fucking for y'all married. Listen, miss listen, listen, you then already fuck that's why you got them kids. You're missing a point. You're missing the point about me. So this is the in general thought. This is the in general thought. Fucking right, you've been fucking you're missing a point. You already too far in so all of the thing. Listen is listen.

Fine, you're right. Most motherfuckers' trying to chase you. Right, Okay, you're right.

Listen. Let me make my point. You motherfuckers lived this unconvintional lifestyle, but you want conventional concepts. You want somebody to be so infatuated with you that he decides that he gonna deal with your he's so intriguing to get to know you, except you literally have developed in front of you, and that's.

To be infatuated with y'all and do all this shit.

I ain't never in my life heard no nigga talking about me, and this bitch need to date. Never I ain't never said no nigga ever, she don't want to go on dates. No more said no nigga ever. So no, we don't want that.

You're right, You're like, she don't want to get dressed for me, no more.

She don't want to know. She don't want to look good, not get dressed. Nobody ask you to take all the funky ass nowhere.

That's a really good point because.

So we know we don't want the same things.

Not the date. So they may not want the date, but they want you to, want you to and want you to let yourself go. They want you to, but they're still ship that both. You know what I'm saying.

They're not gonna leave you know, so they're not gonna leave you if you don't look good.

They know who you are.

But the point I'm saying to you is the point, the point, the point I'm saying to you is, first off, no, you're not supposed to date and be married. That's a concept that just came about the other day and it don't fit with nothing else. Because therefore, the reason why you date or court somebody is to get to know you. He g yes, right, So yes, if you like to go to the movies. Find you a nigga. I like to go to the movies.

Yes, but guess what, you're my husband and we're going to the movies. We're gonna go because I want to see this movie.

So it's all about you, what the fuck that's the problem.

But we have the same comment at a movie, Yes, we're about to go to them.

So then you would never have a problem.

Exactly.

That's my problem is to find out who is yours.

That's not what you date to find out, because that's not who you're gonna be in ten fucking years. Okay, so you fucking won't. Y'all come up with bad ideas on top of bad ideas and nobody tell y'all.

I'm yeah, listen. So I'm gonna give y'all something. So my grandmother and my grandfather they have been married for should I don't even know, probably like thirty five some years before you know, my grandmother passed. But one thing about their relationship was, like my grandma like to travel, she likes to go to festivals, she likes to read her books, she watch her story stuff like that. My grandfather wasn't into that. He was a homebody. He liked

You know.

Every He may not want to do everything with you, and vice versa, like I'm not gonna want to go with you to the fucking fucking game, Nigga, I don't want to go there.

So I'm trying too a bit.

But I'm saying I wasn't saying like, yeah, they want to do everything with you. But there's those things where you might be like, hey, babe, you want to go do x y Z Okay, No, okay, well I'm still gonna okay, so I'm gonna call Brit Britt.

But you're always been more of a planner anyway, because even even not even in the relationship, just in general, like you'll be like, Okay, we're gonna do this, Hey, I found this whatever, we're gonna go here. Hey, look at this what you guys want to go here. You've always been that type of person, so with you in this situation, he's not that way. So then yeah, you're I'm sorry, that's your that is your role. Like you

She wants to go, she can go. He not begging her to fucking go nowhere. No good looking out For tuning in to the Note Sellers podcast, Please do us a favorite, subscribe, rate, comment, and share. This episode was recorded right here on the West coast of the USA and produced by my Homeboy A King for the Black Effect podcast network, and I heard radio year