Conversations About Affairs

He just embarrassed her right now, so we can reduce him to however we need to embarrass sir, he had a freaking relationship with somebody and she's that's his What are you talking about? That's public communication? You have children. What does it have to do? That's a that's embarrassing. Why did you say it wasn't have to do with who? I'm asking you? Why is it embarrassing? Yea, man, it's caught. Not only does she know he's Shet, the whole world

know he's She did that's embarrassing. Why because it just is like, damn, I thought about that. I don't know if it's embarrassing, but it's hurtful, of course, hurtful. Yeah, but that's just still embarrassing money, Like you don't I know when I'm sorry someone cheats. Of course it's hurtful and everything like that. I'm just saying, like, just for it to be in the public eye, that ship just embarrassing, like this is but shot up to me along, But my bad if I that made him a young man,

a little man. No, I mean that's how you know about him. I mean that's how I knew about him. I mean, he's the coach of the Boston Celtics, like he would safe suspending them for the whole season. Yeah, but he just took them to the finals last year. No, I was thinking, I was just thinking, um about cheating versus affairs like, um, but let me ask you a question. Why is it? Why do you feel like it's your father, for god cheats? How do I feel like it's my fault? Yeah?

Like why do you like? Why do y'all internalize that? M hmm. Sometimes you may look at yourself in the mirror and be like, Okay, I could have did certain things, you know, or I could have handled certain things differently or whatever. But I think that a man, man or a woman would feel that way afterwards, especially if they Men don't. Men don't feel like it's my fault. Men don't internalize cheating. It's you know, so you don't think that.

Why would I think it's my fault? Exactly? And if you that's what I'm saying, If you cheat, it's your fault, ain't I don't think that way? Not you word? Obviously whatever, internalize it? Right. They immediately start to say, what did I do? No, okay, I had a situation world, No, that's not true. You could do whatever. If a man's gonna cheat, het gonna cheat. So why do you internalize it? Why do you feel like it's some greate? Why was you over there? Like? Why did he cheat on me?

I was young, I didn't understand. That was my first first I was in love with I don't understand none of that. I was like, how could he take my heart and just crush it in a million pieces like that? Like? Why is your heart crushing too? A million peoples? I don't know? I was, I was in love. Well, yeah, your heart hurt? What do you hurt? What was hurtful about it? Why? Why are you hurting? I'm asking why why am I hurting? Like when somebody cheats? On you

what hurts? Like, why you're heart hurting because I'm because I'm gonna leave them because we probably might not be together. That's what I would you know what I'm saying, Like I'm in a different place in my life right now, but yeah, I'm like, oh my gosh, like I can't. I don't. I don't want to not be with him. I can't I start thinking about him with other women, just like oh my gosh, Like that's what's hurting. It's like, what, why does that bother you? Because that's my man? Well

he ain't my man no more. But but I'm saying he's not your man anymore? No? Why not? Because he was? Like why what? Like I'm trying to get into a place to actually get into reason where it's not just like oh I just bla blah blah blah blah blah, reason like why is it not your man? Like let's say, if your man goes and sleep with somebody, you find out two years later, why is he not your man? If he was your man for those two years, Well,

she didn't know what I'm saying. He was hurt. He was still hurt man anyway, but she didn't know that he I mean they probably still stay together. I mean I had a situation where he the baby on me. Oh that's different. You get reminded every day to nake a cheats different. But I was there. I stayed No, I'm getting I'm saying. What I'm trying to figure out is why is it about you? Specifically? Like if I if I explain why a woman cheated on me, I can explain it. I'd be like, oh, this is why.

I would explain why I would feel a certain way or what it is. But I know this when sometimes when y'all like women, and I hate to group you all together, but y'all all do have vaginas, right, so there's somewhat pretty much some likeness and the thought. Right. I noticed when y'all talk about it, like I've been seeing people comment about that situation specifically, it's like, oh, he cheated on me along, And I'm like, who the funk is me along? What's me alone? Alone? What do

you mean? Who is alone? Does that mean? What do you mean? What does that mean? Like? Is she not a woman? She's a woman, but you know it's like she is the woman that you don't cheat on the woman that is the fantasy of like, oh my gosh, like one a woman like that. That's what apparently men or you know what many comments I saw a man saying like how you fumble the bag and all you're stripping? How you how you cheat on the I mean these

niggas as holes. If niggas put that on social media, they ain't never had no bad bitch or they ain't never had a bit that was pretty much. Um, they never had a woman that was desirable, So they think having a woman that's desirable, they got you do anything to keep her. She's gonna do the same thing the ugly ain't gonna do. Maybe war, maybe more. She might be entitled, had that pretty girl entitlement where like I'm pretty.

The reality is if you sleep with somebody a few times enough times, whatever they look like don't matter no more. Whatever they look like don't matter. If you had her straight up, like why wouldn't matter no more? You had her, show me somebody everybody won't, and I'll show you a nigger that's tired of sucking with her up. Yeah you don't think jay Z be like, man, I could get some way, And that's bullshit. And this's motherfucker. I don't know. I mean, I'm sure they go through I'm sure everybody

goes through things. You know, I'm saying, what makes you think that she like what does that really mean? Like, but that's Beyonce, mean that she would like to jay Z. That's just that's just Beyonce. He just he'd been hit. That that's how you look at it. I mean, you think he's just like somebody that never had her. You think he's looked at it with those are Is that how you think? I don't think he looked at her

like that. I think that you know, they should look at me like yes, yeah, like he never had you. I don't even make sense. Why know, you're saying, look at me like I'm the the prize, the queen or you know what I'm saying, like, just look at me like, oh my gosh, you're not. I am You're not not if somebody had you, if Dady flowered you your fist with whatever. Okay, get back to the damn manager now, the conversations, not the managers, gl rid Rid. This is

what I'm trying to get to. Like, when we have these conversations on those sailings, we don't have a Curran event show. They make us have conversations about things that are rooted trust me, a hundred plus years ago, Like slaves are cheating on slave wives. This is all old stuff. I'm just trying to get down to why of I just I won't trying to get down to a few thoughts, Like one is like, what makes me alone so great to wear? Somebody shouldn't like what y'all taste their macarona cheese?

Not in know about it? Ship fired? No, she just supposed it looks so good because he's in Boys in the Hood. I'm not. Okay, Look, you don't even have to be about ne alone. It's the fact that she's with this man for a very long time. They share a child. You know, this is just very It's just very Yeah, it's just it's just mess. It's this message. Agreed. I totally agree. I understand her embarrassment, right. Her embarrassment is she's knee a long and nobody's supposed to cheat

on her because she's knee alone. But okay, it's very very peplate. So the question is, why did he cheat on knee alone? What does that tell you? He's crazy? He's fun with the bag. I'm just telling what the comments said. I mean, niggas will lie on social media. See, this is the one thing about me that I appreciate more than most men, and I see today I'm meet on and off. This is one. It's one year, ain't no shift, ain't no third for it only get better.

There's no worse meat. This is the worst me and the best me. And then they get you start noticing things that's really awesome about me. The more you interact with me, they don't get worse. Most men that you're gonna see on social media, it was they would never do that. You just ain't never had me alone. Think about how many people left Jenner Jackson and Holly Berryerry, remember, Yeah, that was a big thing. When um Eric Banat had cheated on Holly. They're like, how could you cheat on her?

You know, everybody was just beating her up. Ye, that is exactly what happened. And so my point is they're just women. Men are just me, and like, just because we look at them on television and we find over them, they're still just regular people that're gonna come with the sign bullshit than any other woman or more. And that's true. But they're not looked at like that. You know, it's like, oh my gosh, it's me alone. So the regular you know,

man on the street, it's like, oh my god. If I get I ain't about a woman in my life, I wouldn't chat set. It's not a woman walking or breathing ear that I wouldn't cheat on. She has nothing to do with her. I believe that because you could always find something about another woman that's better than your woman, or that's favorable for then your woman if that's what you If it's about your woman, oh she if she shucked pen is good, you can find one to do

it better. If your woman beautiful, you can find one even more beautiful. She got to ask, you can find one more At whatever you think it's so great about one particular woman, it's another woman that exists that's greater or counters it. Unless he just feels like, oh, I looked up like I can't mess this because ain't no, Nick, you're not cheating because they worried about what y'all gonna do.

They just get better at cheating. Yeah, I definitely think everybody they're trying to do little little things things I'm not saying every man go cheat. I'm telling you it don't got nothing to do with you. It ain't nothing. I mean, you could do things to help your man not cheat. I mean I think you'll do a poor job. One of the things that what are some things that we could do, well, there's some physical interactions. I think

I told you all this, Jack and your nigga hand job. Now, I'm not saying that's a guaranteed thing that's gonna work. I'm just saying that second or third one is a little tougher. What's the second? What's the second or third one? Like if you second or you gotta really want to bet you give her a second that like I always

used I used to have this thing, right. I used to have this thing right when I was trying to kind of get myself off of using women to make myself feel better about myself because that's what me And do you sleep with women to feel better about yourself? For some reason, sleeping with women make you feel accomplished and you just think yourself, it's really gone because women

just suck anybody. They do. Everybody is like, trust me, it's a nigga right now near alone knocked down that you may probably looking like why are you fucking Yeah, everybody but every where they're like what we know? They just the reason why I decided to have sex with him is something totally different than how he may look. But somebody else is gonna look, or he might he was dealing him for sure. So so my point is, yeah,

I started doing was when I like women. You when use women, like when you when you're young and you don't know better, you use women to make yourself feel better about yourself, like sleeping. When women make you feel accomplished, like you special because she got you some pushes, she gave you her body. Women just I just realized women just retort. Now the more I see it now, I just realized women just don't really care about their body. It's like, oh, it's no big deal. They care. It's

just that they haven't been taught. No. It's literally the movement going on to say, oh, do whatever you want to do. It's just no problem. That's the movement. It's literally there's a there's a walk called a sluptwalk where they literally practiced like women being sexually. Women go to sluptwalk. I've never been so a sluptwalk I've heard about it. Of course. I always tell you the masses represent you.

That's not the masses. I'm saying. If it's something, If not the masses, any women not mine, Any women have never dad, have never stepped foot. I don't know anyone personally that has been to the SlutWalk. I don't either. First off, the problem is it don't matter if you know somebody personally. Your friends are sluts. I don't know your friends, So we got hold up your friends. No,

first of all, your friends is not my cousins. All your friends having sex with me and their relationships with only we're you mean only like are they sleeping with me? And they're not in committed relationships? Well, now that you're getting older, so it's different, I'm saying. That's not the point. I'm saying. These same girls that she was friends with the whole time, they was like, we're only giving up pussy if we're in a committed relationship. No, they were

finding me in to sleep with. That's where a slot is. They wasn't finding me. They wasn't. So that girl, I'm about to try to find about to find what. No, I'm just said that I'm said in women language. We went out to the clubs Now, girl, what're you're wearing?

You wearing that dress? Are you trying to get Oh? No, none of my friends, we never nobody was going home from the club and having sex with anybody X y Z. Yeah, but you might meet somebody eventually, you know, you might have Yeah, but it's not going down of these people getting pussy. No, not everybody. You're right. I did. I got I had some I won't even say like my friends, but I had some home girls that was like damn

you wow. And I respect as women. Y'all really hold it down for women to lie and try to defend it. Like when y'all know that that they were slucked. Some of your partners a sluts. That's true, and y'all have had slutty moments. I'm sure in your life that because you exist. I don't mean that. I know girls said if you only seen, if you only seen, if you go to parties, like like we was going to parties when we were coming up, a slut, you have slutty moments.

That's It's not a big deal. What I'm saying at the party. I'm not saying you slept with somebody at the party, you sleep moment, you know, or you had a slutty moment that now you might have met the right person. You just I'm just giving some pussy for this whatever reason. Well, okay, well I never had a one night stand because you did it twice. Don't mean it's not a one night stand. What one night stand is on the first night and never know? No, no,

you can't talk to him again. No, no, Listen. The whole thing is you had sex on the first night. I have had first moment. No, no, it's different cause I slept with him twice. The point I'm saying is listen. So my point is I have stopped she used to be through meAll So the reason I stopped valuing those moments is because I realized women just wasn't what I thought they were. They weren't these precious jewels that was you had to do things to get them in position.

I mean I used to think that. I just think women were really special. I get women are special, but they don't know how they're special. So if they don't know how they're special, then they let me and use them how they use them. Listen, see sexual relationship last only one night? A single performance of a play or show in particular. No, that's not one night stand. I don't know that is the meaning if you got if you gave away some coot on the first night, it

was a one night stand that you kept. Yes, it just kept going. That's not sex on the first date or the first one. That's actually a slug. No, that's what a moment. I didn't say. I had a slutty moment. I'm trying to tell you guys that that's what it is. Well, we're saying that that makes you still listen, why is he saying we that I just said. I just said, you don't have to do it one time, but the

first night is a one night stand. I wasn't even saying that sexual relationship or you are slut if you slept with somebody on the first night, man, whatever that point. I'm saying this. Once I realized that y'all didn't care about your bodies, I realized that I cannot put value in your body. That's not true. Seein point you finished throw me off. I don't got to read you from l A mean. We all used to go off the clubs. We all used to we used to buy drinks, stuff,

was popping. It's easy lower inhibition. Look, I'm not asking you to frame your your first nighters. What I'm saying, that's not what I'm doing. Because what I'm saying is I'm saying I used So men used women right as a sense of accomplishment. Right, If a woman give you some some vagina, you feel like you're special, like you accomplish something because you think women are special. The reality is women are special. They don't know they're special, so

they don't treat themselves like they're special. So you getting vagina from them is not really an accomplishment. So but when you're young, you feel like that. So when I would misuse women, well I really wouldn't misuse them when I was use them for what they wanted to be used for, right, I thought that was special. So the more you didn't made me lose my damn training thought of where I was going with this, I know what I'm saying is so the same thing. That's not what

he's talking about. But I'm saying the same thing that we was talking about with cheating is that's the same reason the sense of accomplishment, right, So so men cheat, like you're saying, of course, I know it doesn't have anything to do with the woman, but okay, we're cheating or they're cheating because it's because it makes them feel better about who they are. But now when they ask it caught, No, no, I mean it's never caught. But what I'm saying is it's not about him, it's about

the mentality. Like, so, once you have a woman, right, once you act sleep with the woman. Once you've have had a woman in the biblical sense, it's not the same. You'll never see her the same. It either is going to increase or most likely go. Now what do you mean mostly why because if that, if that soul tide doesn't happen right then and there, feel me, then you look at him as less stand right off the rip

like whatever you know. I mean that it's the reason why that was the ultimate gift when you got married at first. I mean like, oh, I'm gonna give you myself. Now, women can't get nobody. They sell when they give it. Didn't give it to everybody else, n't But yeah, you know what I'm saying. So she wished I would have waited. Yeah, me too, I do too. As a man, I wish I would have waited because it's just confusing. I mean, like me to start comparing people. You start comparing their performances,

you start comparing how they like to have. You have this whole belief in your mind of how it should be going. Well, I'll be just laying here looking good and he don't want to do nothing, you know, And then that's because you comparing them to I mean, you compare it to some horn though that was wouldn't let you fucking walk four feet? And then or like true,

it's true. You start making bad comparison and you don't know that somebody is probably treating you correctly or whatever, but you're comparing it to somebody that was probably in a failed relationship that didn't work. And you're like, well they don't do it like that time. Yeah, yeah, because um but back to the point. So what I did

I remember? So the point I was getting to is when at that time, when I would miss use women right or use them for what they thought they was good for, I realized, like, do I really the way I would help myself as I would jack off before I would go just to ask them then if I want to sleep with like if they was trying to give me some pussy, and I was like, damn, do I really want to funk with this person? Or am

I just trying to make myself feel better? I would jack off and once I nut it, yeah, right off the rip, it's left feel left it. Then I'm not hitting them back. But if I still wanted them, maybe three times total, maybe I'll have probably bought a couple of hundred times. What I'm saying that I realized I still want to interact with the person. Then if I really want to interact with you, I'm like funk with her. But if I jack off and I come and it's

like because remember there's something about Mary. Remember when the guy told Ben Stiller, you know you need to jack off before you see her. Yeah, No, it wasn't because he didn't want it. He didn't want to about the sex. He didn't want to, you know, he didn't want her to think that it was just about sex, just about sex. I mean, I want out. I've done that before, just

from like having um phone sex. So I was kind of stupid, but I went and masturbated and I was like, Okay, if I still want to like have phone sex with him or whatever, then I'm yeah, but I was like, I'm good because I was. I really just wanted to get mine so me over here like entertaining this and sending these little list stupid ship like that's yeah, that's stupid. So and that's what I realized, Like, so that's that became my go to tool when I started kind of

realizing what was going on with myself. So, you know, you start talking about more like a couple hundred girls, it's you still realize how much you don't want girls. I don't want this girl. You start realizing how few girls you really fucking with m I mean, and outside of that, it'll just be some pussy. And then you you get that fun, the feeling not on something, you know, you snutting and ship. Then this smatherfucker, You're like, what

you're about to do? That's fucked up? All you would care about that like the morning after, you know, or the after right after you mean, no morning, but if you in the morning, yeah, like in the morning, in the morning when you get up, you know, when when you don't go to sleep, No you're not, I'm not going to sleep. That happened to me before that. That's not nice. You would do such a thing. You do stuff like that. You did stuff like that, you didn't feel bad about it? Why not? Because I want you

to leave? So did you like what you're about to do? Really? That would crush my poor little heart? Right? You like to stay later? But everybody that never happened to be all these people you slept, would you. I was just saying, like, Dan, that's kind of messed up, Like I've never had that happened to me before, where everybody, I've never had someone say that to me. You just knew to leave. No, he'd be out here we go you ain't got no or he was coming to your house, so he was

I got to go to mouse. That's out. So then how was you leaving? I'm out go there and I leave. Oh yeah, so you knew the plan? No whatever, that was my plane. That's exactly what I'm saying with women, specially, that was my pussy. If it's somebody that you, I mean, you feel me. It's like at that time stated you gotta get what you gotta get when you get it. That's not how it goes. That's exactly what you said. That All I said is that has never happened to me.

Dr Ruth know the name in that movie the st tried to dimond you got. That's not what I was on. That was not even the point, man. But the point I'm saying is so, yeah that that's so that that helps a lot. And when you start to realize that, that's how you start to control the concept of cheating and ship like that. I mean, you start to really understand that, you know, other people just trying like you're you, like you're you need them to make you feel better.

They're the easiest. They're the easiest or simplest sense to making you feel much better than you currently feel. So if you're feeling bad, they'll make you feel better. It's not it's not really a funk boy. That's not with it really, you know, I don't even know what that means, like fucking I mean, how she's super donta. I have so much faith in her. Oh yeah, Pump. It reminds me everything I love about Memphis. She four videos and convinced, Okay,

I haven't watched the Yeah. So once you realize that, you know, that's why men involved themselves with women. For me, you start finding other things to make yourself feel better. I'm saying you don't use women in their regards as loosely anymore. Now, I was like, Okay, I'm not gonna form a bond with somebody else to make myself. I need to find more things to accomplish to make myself feel more accomplished or better. That's really what it comes

down to. But it's not no woman in the world that's so fine that somebody won't What the hell does that mean? She's fine? Like? And ain't no man gonna not cheat because I mean, if a man is out here not cheating because he worried about losing his woman, he's a bit chass nigga. I would never not chea because I'm worried about losing my woman. I mean, you're not cheating because that's you don't want to cheat. You

don't have the desire to. Like if I if I agreed to do something, I mean this, I'm trying to handle my agreement, but I'm not like, I'm not cheating. I would not cheat because I'm worried about losing no motherfucking body. I mean, but that should come into here. I mean, or you think if you were to be cheating when you think like man like I can lose like my whole family. Yeah they do, bitch ass niggas. Why would you not? Why would you let ever the

thought of losing anything make you not do? Like what type of man are you? Like you can't find it in your own Like why does it have to be a consequence for you to not do it? Okay, this is just regarding cheating or as a man. As a man, like what type of man is in fear of Oh you do not mean feeling jump off a plane because I'm scared of dying. I don't. I don't work like that. I don't work off fear. I mean like when you pair of shooting off a plane, I mean you're jumping

out of plane, like you can't live your life and ship? Right? But you do? You do know that? Like there's consequences, So you're like, you know what, I'm gonna make this choice to do this because yeah, I can you know, mess everything up over here. No, that's like I'm not gonna drink. I'm not gonna be drunk and driving because this can happen. Like, yes, you you have to have think. Okay, there's consequences. It's all personal consequence to me, Like when

I made decisions I don't drink. It ain't because I'm worried about killing somebody else. I'm worried about how I would be intoxicated. I'm worried about embarrassing myself intoxicated. I ain't worried about nobody fucking elsee me. I ain't worried about the ebarrassing my mama. I'm worried about it or my father. I'm worried about the barrassing myself. So cheating

would drives me. The most about the concept of not cheating right or having affairs is it would be literally the fact that you know what I mean, it has to be me because it's only gonna be me when that moment matter. I ain't no woman fing to be around. It's only gonna be me. So at that point, if that's the case, then I'm might aful cheating get away

with it, because then that my minal changes. If I'm worried about losing you, right, we're married, and I'm worried about losing you, should I just need to make sure you don't catch me, right, So when I do it for me, whether you are around or not, it's gonna piece fights a fight. You know, I'm saying, it's like, hold up, NI, do you really want to feel me? Like you ain't really even working with this bitch? You're not even really fucking with her? What is wrong with you?

What's you? What? You mad that this didn't work out? Like you figure out what's up with you and deal with it, and me deal with it. But if I'm worried, if i'm if, I'm not gonna cheat on you, bet because I'm worried about losing you. I just mean I need to cheat without you knowing, right? Yea. But see that's the thing I as when I was younger, I used to be like, well, what what didn't I do or whatever? After dealing with that type of stuff as I got older, I'm not I know. It's that's what

you wanted to do. I could then the best woman to you as possible, or at least that within my means woman, But you know, a good woman being the best woman you just wasn't You don't know that. But either way, the best of my ability at the time. It's not true you wanted to be at that that was the best thing. That's how it was. You wanted to be whatever I mean what do you mean that's how she wanted to be. Yes, she wants to be like that because you'll don't understand what we judge is

great women. Women who go out. It's not a good woman. She wasn't going out going out. I mean she wasn't it when she was in a relationship. She wasn't good. Was you going out before us in a relationship? Yeah? So the same person, that's not that's not the same person right now. Let me let me say something that's

crazy to you. Do you believe a person is the same person as they are single as they are in a relationship, Like you should be worried if somebody changes when day in a relationship, Like if you meet a do right and y'all just talk with your friends, y'all mess around a little bit. But he liked bros you know this thing, and he started relationship with you because he commits you know what I mean? He likes sleeping

with broads. That's his thing. You know. You're like, well he should change that for me, Like why would you make somebody change that? I first of all, I wanted to be with somebody want to sleep with some broads? What does that mean? Like I'm not gonna do. I'm not if you openly tell me you ain't got He's not gonna said with broad but you know he likes sleeping with broads. You could tell, you know the type

of man. You could know the type of dudes who go through the stuff to attract I don't want that comes with a lot of drama, a lot of bullshit. You know that I didn't know I had that. I already did, already took my heart broken crushing one time. And it wasn't that you have been talking. You've talked to guys multiple times that attract women that stay listen. Like I said, I was in loved. He broke my heart. I was in love. That was okay, and he broke my heart and that was it. After that, I was

just like, how do you break your heart? What do you mean? Broke my heart? He was just told you about it. I remember you talking. He was a horn when you got him. Know that, I swear didn't she did. I'm at a young age. I was naive how I was, Yes, I was, you were no virgin, No, put my business on. He's doing this to me. What's funny? I don't know. You act like you. You you asked me this before we talked about this. What are you talking about? You know why? I know because I know you some bushes.

I'm not lying, man, you know I'm gonna be honest, like I promise you. Okay, So let me ask you a question. Is there a difference if your husband is cheating or having an affair? See, this is the thing, right, if your husband is cheating or having an affair. If I ever cheated, right, like, I would probably give me like like one of them. I would go to it with like a massage's house and peddlar extra whatever to give me something like. What I wouldn't want to do

is have an' have another relationship. Yeah, that's a whole mental like, And I get when women fall apart because of that, right, because those be those times which which I think it's a bit weird, but I get one that's the one that's that's gonna hurt, that does hurt because you have a whole See it's different. I mean, it's cheating, but it's like dang, okay you okay, you suck this bitch, Okay, whatever, But now you're in a

whole relationship with this woman, y'all. Spending time together, intimate time. You guys are like, you know, hanging out, hugging up a yeah, like what Yeah, it's that hurts, that's like that could have been my time. Didn't care, Yes, care, you have your nigga around, man, get your ass away from me. I don't don't. You don't do it as much, but you do it. You only want to be bothered when y'all want to be bothered. That's just the reality. That's really who we are. Y'all act like y're not.

It's only separation. We let you know. We don't want to. Y'all act like y'all want to be bothered all the time, and till those times you don't want to be bothered, and then you do ship to make your sure you know, and they don't want to be bothered. I don't know what you're talking. Yes, you do every last time. You know what I'm talking about. You don't like that seeing all the time? I do, I mean we I do, I do. I do enjoy that, I do whatever I do, I do, I enjoy it. Look, we get all tell lies.

I'm not, but I think it's dope. I think, but I think that's the giving take up more times than not. Yeah, but that and that's true more times, but not all the time though, sometimes like, oh my god, this Nick, I want to hear about this. What he's talking about just say sleep? Yeah, but but we we actually are honest, like, I don't want to hear this ship. I don't given what happened with Britt, can we talking about this later?

Because I'm like, you'll better let us vent because we let you vent, we don't have you You actually like us venting, You actually like because you know this is fucking you want to be all in the business and you want to give your she know, if you know, I like to hear it. What do you say? You'd be like tomorrow, what do you say today? Nah? He'd be like, you don't have to be devils to have a kid. Let me just I just want to let me just say what I need to say. I'd be like,

why do you have to be like that? Well, maybe it's like this, maybe it's like that. He's like, it's not that, So I'm I'm stopping. I just let me just that's not that's not what happened. I want to be They said this, but they really meant that. No, bitch, that's not what it was. I'm telling you from what I heard on the phone that's said, this is what happened. This na here be tripping, Yes, exactly. Ship. So I just I just I've just been noticing all. But I

just noticed that's the culture of men today. It's like a whole ass nigger. Like I could tell these niggas aren't really getting no girls because they really be like niggas today, really like when I was when I was growing up, and you know, you could bland gangster rat, but we didn't, you know, we like I used to put women on pedestals for the most part. But that's not the culture of putting women on the pedest You

have to earn it. And I think today we're back in the space we're like, oh, you know, just she's just NEI alone. How could you do NI alone? Like NI alone? Fifty some years old and old Pussy loved me alone just like every other guy. So not late then my childhood crushes Regina King is my greatest childhood that's fifty year old puts you know what I mean. Niggers ranting through that now, you can't be feeling like that's your special now you can't be feeling like that

ship special? Now, why can't your woman be special? I'm not saying your woman can't be special. I'm just telling you that some year old NEI alone can't be as special as twenty seven year old NEI alone. Now, I'm not saying NEI a long ain't find as a motherfucker for somebody in their fitty. But you know, nigger that had that pussy at this point, this motherfucking and been recycled him was kind of in and out that time. Babies that came out of there, you know, yeah, you know,

And that's the thing. I mean, like it's comes out of his mouth. I'm like, he makes ten years right or something with somebody before that she was, well, they got I don't know. I just know they've been engaged since engaged for two years. They've been together for a long time. They've been engaged since Yes, right, they've been engaged for long ast time. She should have been. Yeah, but I think I read something where she said that

she didn't want to be married. Yeah, that's probably why she probably or or or she was just keeping hers open and she she had a baby. She's sinking fifty years old, like who wants to be not to say that she can't, but she wants to have her her family, her partnership. That wasn't going to do with him. Maybe that could be the reason why he stepped out anyway, Maybe it could be like, you know what, she this

ain't what I wanted to be. But this, this is ne alone, So I'm gonna try to stick around, but I need somebody gotta She didn't want to be married, and you're like, old, I'm trying to marry you. She's like, I don't really know. I'm ne alone. How many niggas won't meet? Why she did that? But you never know? I mean I did read she did? She did she didn't want to be married, Well, why she accept the proposal? Man? Maybe she thought about about to change her mind. Maybe

he's like, man, this mother fucker still ain't ready. She not fucking You can't tell what we're going through a nigga. And that's why I said, you can't let a woman for me. This this is not like we don't know none of the whole. It's not really about them. It's about the mentality of all this ship to cat Like if your mind is fragileizing man for me and I'm not saying this is what happened with this. Nig is a fantastic NBA because this is rookie season as a

coach and he coached them to the finals. So he's a strong man and thought you need to even deal with personalities. But what if that was the case. He was like, man, she want to marry me? You feel me? Like, so now he's looking for somebody to find comfort or that's why you can man? Is that something that men does? The comfort? Yeah? Like like if you felt like and this ain't true, but this is for men that it is true with If you feel like this, don't marry

for me. You gotta find your nothing throw away. Hey, you know what if you don't think I'm good enough to be because there is a growing culture of women that's like, well I don't want to be married. I hold up, you don't want to be married. You don't know how Nigga might feel. Yeah we made me, Yeah, but you know except your room. Like, let's let's wait about four years. You've been together ten Yeah, and someone wanted to wait two years for the engagement being together

already for a while. Bro, Like what's going waiting to see if they're gonna get there ship together. If they're gonna I'm not accepting. If I'm not if you already have kind of reserves, see what I'm saying. So, and it's not it's not hurt like he did what he did based off of how he felt. I mean, I'm not saying others help him feel somebody else a part of the organization. I know, that's what I'm saying. I wonder how it's a whole bunch of stuff swirling around.

I just want to you want to know. Yeah, but they haven't really released all of the details. But from what I loosely here, I don't really like spreading rumors. But it's like it's one of those situations where people felt like he could have been using his power to develop the relationship, which I don't think she'd be used. So that would that I guess that would That's why

you can suspend it for a years. I was just about to say, because I'm like Celtics racist as don't care about Yeah, I'm like, what so yeah, something like that. Spending on Niggers and the Sisters and seventies Niggs. Bill Russell played for the big they was he wanted championship. They spending on this nigger, so they like be along. But that's a whole another conversation, like, well, I think that shouldn't be wrong. Like if a man uses power

to get vagina for me, that's not wrong. Women use their fuckings appear to get gifts, you what you got to get what you want, right, right, I didn't say that. I didn't say that though, but yeah, right, I think that, um right. I think when you're gullible or you're being taken advantage of, I think that's when it's you know, it's a problem. But how can you be getting took advantage of? What you mean? Like, how can a man

take advantage of you? Okay, So there's instances where sometimes if you tell a man a lot of things that you've been through, sometimes they use that. So why would you tell then what you've been through? You're thinking that I'm saying that women do. That's not taking advantage of them. If you reveal your trade secrets and somebody use them in battle, this ain't your therapist. Why is he battling with ex? We meet you to sleep with you? Okay,

I'm some we're in a relationship. She's saying, we meet you to sleep with you, like our first The reason we approach you is because we find you sexually attractive.

I mean every noning that you meet somebody and they don't have nothing to do with that, but most likely you're not working with them, like you could be friends with them or something, and then you realize later like why fun with But if you usually the normal dynamics, you meet somebody attractive, so you know this person want to sleep with you, why would you arm them with tools to help you to help them accomplish that go Your job is to hold out and and women are

losing track of their responsibility. Your job is to hold out to see who this nigga is and really developing to develop the relationships to see if he's worth your time. Our job is to sleep with you. Your job is to deny once you accept you we did our job. Now it was like we just moved to the next job. Every now and then you might be, oh, this is a cool job. I'm working here for a while. Yeah, no, work here for a while. Hilarious, I'm working here for a while. I like this place. I might have a

couple of jobs but just some over time. If I really funk with the gig, I might put in more hours. At least I got an hour for the week. It's why I mean it's good. I'm like, damn, where were you, like twenty thirty years ago, five years ago? We should have had a conversation. Yeah, I'm just saying, you know, it's just a thought. That's awesome. You need a daughter, Uh definitely. Well, you know what they say, you have a daughter when you need love, to need to need

to know love. I don't think I need to know love. I think that's my issue. I think that should be awesome because I'd be telling their most that do not put out. You put out game over And I'm gonna be right, Daddy's right, you put out. My dad never told me that, like he should have. He didn't tell me that. My mom always told me. What if. I just want to say, stop being a whore, lacks bro, keeping in your pants, keeping your yeah, like make this

nigger earn it. Stop like you're decreasing the value of something so special that could bring a life into this earth and you just finish give it to everybody to him. Damn not what you're doing with that and you're trying to you want money to marry you on the raft at the dirty thing. You didn't get into this weird. I'm just saying, if you didn't let this tainted ass nigga knock you down, and then you try to come down in that white dress. Now we all embarrassed. You're lying,

stupid speaking come down in that white dress. You come down the all in that white dress. If you didn't lie to everybody at the wed and everybody know people, you's not pure, Hopefully you would know that before. And why would you lie and have this white dress on? What you mean? Most of these women need to wear brown, tan, yellow, It's all kind of cool light colors, tan, yellow, line,

try something to stop wearing that white ivory. I genuinely think I've sucking up marriages the white because when she come down that aisle, right, you see her? Feel me, My boy Joey got married the other day. Shout out to Joey West are congratulation, And that lady came down in that white dress, his old lady, and he you know, had tears in his eyes and ship and I'll be thinking.

I was thinking to myself, like because you be you kind of tears because you know I've watched multiple me and kind of Chuck cried when Tasha came down the aisle, Chuck shout out the Chuck build. He crowded candy and came down the aisle. And the whole time, I'll just be thinking, like from a sophisticated level, like you know why you crying because you think you got something, Like you really think you got something that's yours. Everybody had it.

Everybody didn't stop saying everybody. Everybody didn't have it too many. Everybody except other people except you had it. That's why the white signifies purity. That's why you crying, because you're supposed to be looking at it almost like an angel coming down. It's not an angel, bro, just not she has the flowered herself. It's not that we're ivory. Yes, there you go ivory. I'm not I'm wearing We're bone.

You're wearing a lavender dress. So when she comes down, at when she comes down, just coming down that aisle. But it will help because I think he'd be like, Okay, I can like subconsciously you and accept, but imagine you think you got something special coming down this aisle. You just super like, just like, man, it's my little angel and this motherfucker the devil and be a head devil, like you know, she didn't practice. She told about harder

a little bit more this, that's why you're married. And you're like, yeah, that's why you're like, yeah, I gotta keep her with all that, with all that, with all that that just can't with it. I just don't know, do you think so do men getting relationships with women if they're more freakier, like they're sucking them real good? Is it like Okay, yeah, I'm gonna marry her or I'm gonna be in a relationship with her. Say they're

gonna marry the freaky one. Now, sometimes it happened because they could be so caught up, but that's not what they think it. Most niggas don't be wanting to marry a freak, thinking like, let me marry a good girl. I mean, and he had a freak on the shide what I'm saying. But it is a new day, So niggas might be wife in these prostitutes. I don't know, it's a different day. I can't really speak for what niggas is that in two thousand two, I seen twenty

one sevens at the slug walk with Amber Rose. Yeah, and that so that pussy could be strong. But now Amber shout out to Amber because she wants to do no sinnings. She heard some stuff I was saying, but like it feels Amber for me. She coming down it out like if I'm funking with Amber. She couldn't wear white, like stopped playing and you need to wear like something else, cream or something. Cause I can't wear no white because

I don't need my mind to wear it. I didn't girls and being the flower for twenty some years, they've been picking petals off that thing for twenty years. Maybe that's the colors. No, you want to signify purity because you knew that that was the thing. But that's because you're supposed to get that man something that no other man had and you can't. That's she's gonna give him up that little thing back the odd of the hole. No Oh, good looking out for tuning into the No

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