Things We Believed As Kids But Were Never True

It's Night Side with Dan Ray on WBS, Boston's news radio.

Okay, Madison, thank you very much. Folks. It is a Friday night, and believe me, this is gonna be a Friday night show because I have to be honest with you, and I'm still dealing with the post election hangover. I just I'm like in a hole in my life. Like I just, I don't. I'm the anti Dan Ray. Okay, I'm gonna tell you right now, I am the anti Dan Ray. And maybe that's why his hair is grayer than mine. I don't pay attention to the crap. If it's not positive, I don't care. I'm not. I am

Why?

And a lot of the times it's because of a code. There was a missing code, they got a number wrong, and it's very frustrating. I understand that, and I can understand the frustration of people in this world, But what is it coming to The guy made ten million dollars a year, So how much does this guy make it? He's fifty years old, and to me it shot and killed on the way to a stockholders meeting.

I can't believe he didn't have security.

So this is the type of stuff where like I just got I can't. I can't. I can't deal with it. That's why I did sports for all those years. I had an opportunity to do news at one point, and I don't think my stomach could have handled it. I could not have handled it. I don't know how all these people do it, like you know, uh, CNN and MSNBC and Fox, And how do you do that crap and not have an ulcer? I don't know how Dan does it. God bless him, God bless him, because I can't.

I gotta I gotta go.

I can't. I can't. I can't deal. I can't deal with it. I have to go watch stupid videos on Instagram that make me laugh. So that's why, folks, on tonight's program, it is going to be extremely dumbed down. Well with one exception, we are going to get serious coming up. But you know, just think of me as good Time Gary, all right, if I fill in, just

Don't call me, don't I don't want to talk about it.

Because it's just a freaking merry go round of crap that nobody wants to solve. Nobody wants to solve. And I'm telling you, people are tired of hearing about it. Like Comcast, they're trying to sell they take an MSNBC and some of their like the sci Fi Channel and I think an E and they're breaking it off into another stock configuration because people don't want to watch CNN or Fox or MSNBC anymore. They're tired of it. They're

I'm in them out.

Because Bill Flirty, my program director, is like having a fit. At least I'm saying listening to BZ Radio. I just and I think the rest of the world's the same way. And you know what, it's a problem because that's how people get information and you're not going to know what to believe or who to believe, So you just go on and you vote for who you think and you like. And maybe I'll like this person, I like the way

We don't know.

I mean, we just believe what they told us. I mean, I will say this, you have to have sources. We've gone way too far to the other side. Where now any Tom Dick and Harry or however you want to say it, Harriet or however whatever you know, whatever the journalist, whoever the journalist is, they can put something out and you believe it. If you go, wait a minute, is this true? Do I wait a minute? Do I know this? Is this to be true? I mean, you really have

I got the blas.

This radio sta this is crazy. This radio state in Rumford, Maine, a radio station I started at, the Mighty wr UM AM seven ninety, which would go off there at sundown, would play this song like whenever the sun went down, and you go, that'll be the end of the broadcast day of wr UM and Rumford. It was played the song. It would make my mother cry. Every time. I'm just remembering this, I'm having flashbacks and I think back to it now and I go, of course she was depressed.

She should have been on medication. I think she got unpack. And my mother was the saint.

She was a nurse. She took care of everybody in town. She was an angel. Put a lot of it on herself. But I remember on Christmas when we were done opening up the gifts, she would all of a sudden start crying, and I'd be like, what, what, what's the problem, Why are we crying? I got my toy helicopter, I got my red Rider bb gun, I got my hot wheels. What's there to be sad about? Come on, Ma, that's ma hey ma, And it happens. Man. The holidays are

That smell. I don't know if you remember that.

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What the hell's going on in this world?

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Now? Back to Dan Ray live from the Window World Nightside Studios on WBZ News Radio.

Welcome back, Gary Tankway for Dan Ray too. If you guys want to jump on six, one, seven, two, ten thirty. You know, before I get into this, you know I don't take a lot of calls usually, but tonight I feel chatty. Let's go to Gail and situate. Gail.

You're on wbz's night side.

What's up.

Gary, Hey, I'm listening to you tonight as I'm driving home, and when you were describing your mother, I felt like you described my mother to a t I felt like your mother was my mother. It could be exactly the same. I have to ask, is is your mom still around? She's still alive.

She is not, no, but she lived to eighty four.

Good run, as they say, I'm so sorry, Well thanks, I mean, but I you know, it's one of My dad lived till he was ninety, my mom to eighty four. You know, my father in law he passed away suddenly at sixty. So you know, I'm kind of I'm grateful.

Yeah, I my mom lived to eighty seven. But I feel like you described my mother to a tea and my mom too. She was not a nurse, but she was a nurse's age, worked in the nursing home. Then she went to a private care. So your mother and my mother are very similar. And the depression is it's debilitating. And I felt, I just felt crushed when you described your mom and what she went through with her father, because you know, when your mom and my mother growing up,

Oh god, now, my mom was born in nineteen eighteen.

Oh, nineteen eight Oh yeah, she lived through a depression. Well yeah, because here's the thing like with my mom, and I found this out later on. You know, her mother died at childbirth of giving birth to one of my uncles. Actually, let's see, there was one, two, three, four, Okay, there were She had two brothers. She had three full brothers, and then she had two half brothers and a half sister. And her mother passed away giving childbirth. And I don't

That's how they justify.

It, right, you know.

But you know what back in those days when you were a woman, back in those days, just like my mother, and you know, my mother grew up in the fifties and sixties. You you know, back in those days, you did not dare talk against your parents all the thing out. So your mom was born in nineteen eighteen, So was your mom older in age when she had you?

My mom was like forty six.

Yeah, okay, that explains it, because myma was thirty six when she had me.

Late fish.

Got it, Okay. Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. But she's in a better place.

Yeah, it's all good. I mean, Gails, it's I don't even know how the hell I got on the topic. I just the thing I like about this show is that I can just come on and ramble. But I will tell you this that in that you know that day and age, the boys definitely get the better clothes.

They certainly got praised more.

And I think that's why our parents, our moms became nurses. My mom took great pride in taking care of others, and she was always she took care of herself. Last I remember, I'll tell you, Gail, I remember one time I called home. My mom suffered from reuma toward her critis later in life. Oh my god, holy crap, Gail, Gail, where you been.

And she had depression just like your mom?

Yeah. Medication, Yeah, oh, finally they took medication. I mean finally. I mean that's the big thing with depression is you know, I have a I have the director I'm teaching at Emerson and next week I have the director of psychology or psychology for a for the Boston Celtics coming in to talk to kids. I mean, look, there's a there's an epidemic with mental health in this country. Period. It's been ignored. It's been ignored, we haven't addressed it. We're

You know, she oh, what was I saying? Oh?

I called home one time, I'm talking on the phone. She'd fallen off the bed and she was in between a table, a coffee table, in her bed. She wouldn't tell me, and my father told me later. He came into the room and found her there, and he goes, well, why did you tell? Why didn't you tell Gary so we could have you know, not that I could have done anything, but she wanted We kept talking, like for another twenty minutes. She wouldn't say anything because she wanted

But yeah, I'll tell.

You something Gail, and people need to remember this. And we're going to talk about this coming up at nine thirty when we at nine o'clock. When it comes to mental health, and I have read this, you can't take care of anyone else. You can't take care of your kids, your significant other, your parents, you're until you take care of yourself.

That's right, and that's what people need to remember.

And that it sounds like your poor mother suffered. It's too bad she didn't go on, you know, get medication until much later. My mother never took medication. My mom didn't take anything. I know in anxiety. She's anxiety just like your mom. It's delicating.

Oh and here's the question, Gail, do you have anxiety?

I do?

So I had this discussion.

With a therapist.

I said, because it's you know, my mom's anxiety was off the charts. And I said to that, I got and I noticed certain traits in myself in certain situations, and I said, is this hereditary? Is it is it?

Is it genes?

It's it environmental? And the doctor said both. I go, thanks, but I could have figured that out. But it's definitely, you know, it's definitely both you know where you know and of course back then, back in the early seventies, they called it, oh, you're just a worry ward. You know, well, being a worryward is hanging.

Anxiety, exactly what it is.

That's exactly what it is. Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah, there's no doubt about it. And I hope people, you know, again at nine at nine o'clock, we're going to talk about it. Around the holidays, talk to people.

Get health.

It's really hard, though, I do know, it's hard to find a therapist. It's like if you if you you want to start a business. Therapists are like booked, which is good and bad. It means that people have finally woken up and are addressing mental health, right, but it also means it's a shortage of therapist, which is how you have to You have to really search out there.

People like your mother and my mother, and then I'll this is this one last thing I'll say, and then I'll get off the phone. People like your late mother and my late mother, they deserved compassion and understanding, and they didn't get it. People, you know, when they were growing up, people would think, oh, what's wrong with them? They deserved compassionate un They did.

Get but here's the thing that I will tell you that may make you rest a little easier. I don't think they realized it. Like, I don't think they didn't really, they didn't think anything was wrong. And you know, like my and I don't want to make it. My mom lived a great life, you know, my sister. I think she's very proud of my sister. And she was my sister and myself and her grandkids, and she was married to my dad for forty something years.

They had a great marriage.

But looking back on it, I see I see uh evidence of it. But I don't think she recognized it. I don't think your mom recognized it. They just said I got the blase or you know, you know, or something like that.

So that's thought it was normal for her to be down. Normal for them, yes, you know, and it wasn't normal.

No, But here's the reality I think.

I mean, what do I know. I've I've listened, I've paid attention. I've read a lot about this stuff. I've talked to a lot of people because it affected my family. I find it interesting. I think any sort of mental struggle is part of the human condition for whatever reason. And I think it's this way when we come out of the root womb. And it might be a defense mechanism, is that we think of the negative first, and it

What could hurt me?

Right? Like the first thing when I get out of bed in the morning, I don't go, Man, it's gonna be a great day, you know, like those stupid cereal commercials. Man, it's gonna be a great day. I'm gonna go to the gym. I'm gonna get everything done on my list. The first thing that happens to me when I wake up in the morning, I'm like, oh crap, what do I have to do today?

What could go wrong?

It's the first thing that happened and I and I and I have to change my focus.

But I think that's a defect way of thinking.

But I think that happens to everyone because I think it's a defect mechanism with being our survival right.

And I hate to say it, I feel like it's mostly men that think that way.

Probably, yeah, I think so too, because women are more secure. Gayl thanks for the call. Pal, take care go. Okay, that was an outstanding call, and I have my list that I still have to get to, but I wanted to talk to Gail. We will continue to talk more about that discussion coming up with psychologist Greg Chance, but more I guess more of the crazy things we believe as kids and they say they're untrue. Semi challenge. That's next on Nights Out of WBZ.

On Boston's News Radio.

Okay, welcome back, Gary Tangling for day tonight coming up.

Not a here in double nine o'clock.

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Let's let's do this.

Let's talk to Stephen Maine. Steve, O, what's up. You're on WBZ.

Hey, Hey, hey.

Gary, you're gonna have No, I'm not going to I'm not going to repeat what I did eight days ago with it.

Thank you, Steve. I appreciate that.

Hey.

You may think your ram went on, Gary, but I really enjoy getting to know you. You know about your family history. And I didn't realize your mother was born in nineteen eighteen. My mother was born in nineteen thirty two. We shared the same birthday together.

Wow, wow, Yeah, so was she born in Rumford?

Yeah?

It wasn't everybody up there, I know, I know kidding.

You got that right?

Yeah, my dad was. My dad was nineteen fifteen, my mom was nineteen eighteen. So yeah, I was like an accident, Like I was a bait, you know, one of those miracle babies that couldn't happen.

Oh no, no, no, no, you're not an accident, remember that.

Yeah, thanks Steve. I appreciate it.

Look, you got the great voice, you got the great pipes. I just let everybody know on Facebook that you are on and I said, I said. I sent an audio eight days ago to Tom Kelly, Tommy Dick Stewart. Yeah, my cousin Dick and Mark Palmer's wife Stephanie. They all loved it.

Well, that's well those they're all great people, man, I mean, yeah, Hey, what's going on? Do we get some snow?

Well, it was supposed to get up in Maine, was supposed to get a coating to two inches on the coast.

I live in Freeport, Oh, Okay.

And I didn't get to tell you last time we talked because we were on other topics. But I lived in Massachusetts for thirty years. I left, and yeah, I left in October of eighty five. I started in the hull well started to hang him for six months, a three's company situation with a girl from a good friend from EU Maine, Farmington. Because you know, I majored in basketball. Yeah, I only lasted a half a year. But you wouldn't know.

Oh I know Stevie Clifford.

Yeah, Steve and I and Steve Burns with a three teams three teams yet three Steves on that eighty eighty one team with Beavers semifinals. Yeah, we lost to Franklin Pas eighty seven to seventy three.

My sister went to New Math.

My sister went to Yeah what she studied special ed. I mean you guys are all teachers, right, I mean pretty much everybody's.

Yeah, pretty much.

Yeah.

I'll tell you though. I'll tell you Stevie. This is interesting. Steve Clifford came in. I was doing the Celtics pre and post game show at the time, so I'm hanging around the garden, right, And I remember because the Rumford Falls Times, that's or the Lewis and Son they would have all the game stories of like um f or Umo or baits or whatever. And I remember pictures of Steve Clifford and then he then when they I saw

Yeah. We uh we had a he was a defensive type player, and you could you could see the coaching him back then too, you know. And he was a sophomore when I was a freshman. Yeah, we were one to three. I was one of three Steeds on that team.

Ray McKenna, two from Rumford, played.

On Yes, right, big Red, Big Red.

I know, all right, we're.

Boring people again there.

I don't care. I just talked to people. It doesn't matter to me.

I know. Hey, Gail was very sympathetic and very compassionate. Woman, Gail. It was a wonderful call from you. I just want to let you know. If he's still listening, there you go, all right, yeah, thank you. Keep rambling on about your life. I really appreciate it. You got me chuckling here in my truck driving back to Maine from uh Pennsylvania. That's what I do for work.

Oh well, good luck with bean.

Oh, I'll see you.

That's what I do.

You know, you guys want to come in here for four hours.

I'm going to ramble. I just rambled. Steve the Coonzo I don't know he called me. I haven't seen that guy, like thirty years. He played center field for Derrego High School. He was a really good athlete.

You know.

That was another good thing, you know, with high school sports. And I know there's still big around Massachusetts. The super Bowl's going on, the high school super Bowls. That stuff's great. You know, that's the one thing because I got burned out covering sports. But man, high school sports is still where it's at. My kids played well. My son played it. You know, I have a my my youngest daughter's gonna play. She'll play field hockey and lacrosse. He's gonna be in

Now back to Dan Ray Live from the Window World nights since two years on WBZ News Radio.

As you can tell, Dan's not here tonight because that's uh, He's a smart guy. He does the heavy lifting, not me. I can't take it anymore. I'm just keeping I'm dumbing dumbing down, BZ. That's what we're doing here in WBZ Danuy program nights up. Gary Tango here. Okay, my childhood was a lie. Twenty things we believed as kids that turned out to be totally untrue. I'm going to get to these, and I believe this is a kid. If you cross your eyes, your face will get stuck that way.

I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.

I hate it when somebody else does it to me. I want to throw up when I see somebody cross their eyes. Oh my god, I want to puke. And I probably believe this till I was like eighteen, Uh eating peas. No, I never believed that kids are starting around the world. Okay, this one, I do not believe. This author said this is a myth. You do not in fact, need to have pain to gain. That is bull crap. If you're gonna work out to lose weight, you gotta suffer.

You do.

I don't care. I mean, I don't know if I do orange theory. And the only way I've ever lost weight is with orange theory because I get on the treadmill and I need to get into the orange zone and I am sucking wind. If you want to lose weight, you gotta eat right, So it's a mental pain. You can't eat junk, you can't eat the good stuff. You can't eat on your rings, you can't eat fried pickles. You can tell what I like. You can't, you know, have a HYPOSTRROOMI sandwich got them getting hungry. Yeah, I

You just do.

Anybody that tells you any of these ads. That's you know, any of these ads and all this stuff. You don't lose weight easy weight. There's no such thing. And there's no such thing.

God probably isn't bowlding when it's thunders.

Yeah, that's an old one. I never believe. I never heard of this one. The blood that is on the way back to my heart has never been blue. I don't really underst stand that one. Going to sleep with wet hair gave me a stiff neck. My mom told me that all the time, and I believed it. I totally bought it. Also would give me a cold if you went outside. They say, if you went outside with wet hair, you'd get a cold. I don't think that's true either. Oh, here's another good one. I'm pretty sure

Sitting close to the TV, you will go blind, it will hurt your eyes.

That's probably true.

This one.

It says, I swim all the time after eating, and I'm perfectly fine. I still think you got to wait thirty minutes. If you have a big lunch and you got you gotta get a sight eight. I understand. I've heard that's a myth, and that's just something our parents told us. But I disagree. I think you're gonna I don't think you should. I don't think you should swim right after you That's quite what I think. This one says, I eat a ton of carrots and I still have night blindness.

It is true.

I've looked this up on the internet, so it must be true. Carrots can help you see better because they contain vitamin A, which helps you adjust to a certain vision in the darkness. It's good for your cornia and good for your lens. So there, I'm gonna clean my ears. There was something else I was thinking about that people told us if you did too much as a young man, or quite frankly, maybe as a I don't know, I'm

Eyesight and doing the other things you will not go blind.

Let's go to Alex. Alex has been waiting. Let's go to Alex and milliks, Alex, youre a WBC's nightside. How you doing?

He's your human Barry.

Yeah.

I was told that if you drink your milk you'll grow up to be tall, and eat your vegetables.

You'll be big and shrug. So all my adult life, I've one hundred and thirty two pounds, five foot.

Six well, you know something, you're not overweight.

In maybe in China.

No, but you know, I mean you ate your vegetables, so you're not overweight.

You know.

That's something about milk though, too, because you know something, Alex, I drink the.

The nut milk there, the almond milk. I know, I know, but you know what, I drink it.

In my coffee.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's my wife says that.

Man, that's what I do too. All right, Alex, good stuff, Thank you, yest your vegetable so you can go to be big and strung.

Patent Boston, you're on WBZ.

Hey, how you doing. Hey A pimp told me when I was a kid, use your ear wax to make sure that lady is good down there.

Wait a minute, Wait a minute, Wait a minute. Okay, use my ear wax to make sure a woman is prepared for intercourse. You're telling me.

She's nott no disease, she won't have no disease, she got she's.

Okay, So uh, ear wax is gonna cure an STD.

No, it's and you know she's burning, so stay away from him, all right.

Pat thanks for the call. Eait a minute, that took a turn. Excuse me. Wow, all right, Pat, that was a different one. So I guess if you're a young man and you're going on a date, you want to make sure you don't clean out your ears.

You just never know what you're gonna hear. On wbz's Night Side. You just don't.

You just don't. You just don't. All right, it still come. We are going to talk about Battling the Holiday Blues coming out next with doctor Gregory Chance. We'll do the best and worst Christmas films of all time. We can take some calls on that. With Boston Globe film critic Odie Henderson, my buddy Tony V Comedia checks in at eleven o'clock. I just want to talk to him about his career. Guy's been a comedian for like fifty years.