Part 1 of my breakdown on the show Falcon and the Winter Soldier; we touch on Sam Wilson and the complexities of being a Black military veteran/member, the dog whistle of "woke" agenda being code for something being ruined by the presence of Black people...and SO much more.
In this episode I examine how the life of Dr Strange helped me get to radical acceptance about my disability, and how we can reinvent ourselves after surviving trauma (when we are ready of course)
The first in the comeback of NICTalks, as I talk about characters that have impacted me, and what lessons they've taught me. In this episode I break down the life of the MCU Wanda Maximoff and how we can relate to her complex trauma.
I completely underestimated how important your clothes are until I left the military and wasnât told how to dress anymore. I realized I didnât know how to express myselfâŚ.because honestly, I didnât even know who I was outside of the military.
A few years ago, I came to the radical acceptance that no matter what life path I chose, as a Black woman, I would always be treated like shit. It then became a matter of decided what life path was going to be worth it for me to go through all that inevitable bullshit: the military? Corporate life? Entertainment industry?âŚ
My dad died this past June. I have a lot of complicated feelings about it, but the biggest thing I think about isâŚ.how your death doesnât affect you when youâre deadâŚit just affects everyone who ever knew you...what kind of impact do you want to leave behind?
Nobody ever told me âitâs just a game.â
Shit isnât just black and white, light and dark, good and badâŚthey taught us to chase days in the sun, but never taught us how to sit in the dark
We try to get back to âold meâ after surviving traumaâŚonly to eventually realize, that version of you is dead and goneâŚ..so what now?
The signs were thereâŚthe red flags were thereâŚyou felt sick around themâŚ.but you fucking ignored itâŚ
Why the fuck do we automatically say "oh yeah I'm okay" when we're definitely fucking not? And what good does it do us.....or is it for everyone else?
Success = opportunity + preparation....and you can literally only control ONE of those
But then I went through some shit and realized....these versions of success are kinda bullshit
I've been shit lately at making sure I perform the self care habits I know I need to remain balanced and at peace....and I bet you have too m-fer.
Relatable characters with flaw and depth beat out hero stories dependent on angst, drama and darkness.
When going to see a movie, managing your expectations will determine whether you enjoy it or not...
All it takes is ONE incident...one betrayal, one....whatever....to send you into a mental health crisis. Nip it in the bud before it gets that far.
Not because they love you, but because of what you can do for them....
Toxicity is always noticeable. Sometimes it's shit we've been ingesting all our lives that we never knew was bad for us.
We been throwing this word around so much, I think some motherfuckers have just found an out to not take constructive criticism. Oop.
Fuck the past if it's being harmful to you now.
You don't owe EVERYONE the details of your life ALL the time.
We're not endless balls of light and energy. Even stars die out....
You didn't ask to be born....
Finding the right person is the simplest part. The rest is actually wanting to make it work...
You ain't gotta pay dues to any person, job, institution, etc that is causing damage to your health and life. Fuck that.
I've learned that the spirit knows things before the brain can catch up. Don't second-guess it. Trust that shit.
My husband Justin and I talk about Izuku and Katsuki, their strengths and weakness, comparable levels of ridiculous intelligence, their weird ass friendship, and what we anticipate happening in the next season! We also get into random zodiac stuff haha
Your life still matters even if you aren't the first Black person to land on Mars or some shit....
You can't avoid the harassment, BUT you can navigate it....
