February Check-in (1968)

those things really well and I think we are more focused on the present than we have been .

So now I'm going to have to move when we have kids because I need to meet some , whatever it is . So it's constantly both , and that's why life is so hard and that's why you have me . You know , every couple months I usually have a sort of little identity crisis .

Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University where we help you level up your life , your love , your health and your wealth . Today , for episode number 1,968 , we're going to do a quick February February , is that how you pronounce it technically ?

I would say one month has probably felt like six months . It maybe was the longest month ever of all time . Really good . A lot of good stuff happened , a lot of stressful stuff . I was sick multiple times . There was a lot going on . Are you ready for it ? Yes , I'm going to hold on . Let me guess . I'm going to guess it's 10% would be 20 .

I'm going to say it's 8.6% .

Maybe you have already given up on some of your beginning of the year goals , maybe you feel like a loser , maybe you feel like you're the best and you're crushing it . And I think , realistically , none of that is true and all of that is true at the same time , and I think sometimes we just need to zoom out . We need to zoom out .

Alan and I were talking before this about how we're dealing with some different stuff behind the scenes . Alan more than I . Now I seem to be in a good phase . That means it's coming for me , because the good phases don't stay super long .

Sometimes , zooming out means looking at the present from a different angle , and sometimes zooming out means looking at the past , and oftentimes it means all of those . This is my intention for today's episode is for all of us to be able to zoom out a little bit and just take a pause . Zoom out . What happened in January . Was it good ? Was it successful ?

Did we do more than we wanted ? Did we do less ? What did in January ? Was it good ? Was it successful ? Did we do more than we wanted ? Did we do less ? What did we learn ? What did we ?

by example here . How did January go ? My brain goes to a couple places Number one huge month for business Great work , strong work , awesome work . So , winning in business , okay , great . Excellent Progress . Fitness meh , not terrible .

I didn't let it ride , but meh , I'd say give it maybe an eight Okay , which for me is wildly unacceptable , quite frankly , because it's one of my most important things . And then sleep was pretty good , but not great . Now here's the problem , and this is what I really hope lands .

The most important priority in my personal life right now my Alan's world for a second is business success , growing Next Level University as a company . That's my number one most important priority in my world right now in this chapter . Okay , so I did that . Great job , awesome , strong , fucking work .

Now , this might be unique to me , it probably is , but I don't know . I know some people feel this way . In order to achieve that , you almost have to kind of suck a little bit in some of the other shit , and it's very hard for me to be okay with that . It's very like I get it intellectually , I get it right .

You're not going to win in everything all the time . You can't . It's dumb . You can't be a professional gamer and a professional athlete and a professional business owner . No one does that . This is a good thought .

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So just to put this in perspective 1438 5k , that's 3.1 miles , that's sub five minute miles the entire time . Basically that sounds terrible .

The point that I'm going to try to bring into this episode for myself and as well as the listeners is holistic is so difficult . The listeners is holistic is so difficult .

It's very hard to do well at sleep and be present in my relationship with Emilia and crush it in business and be a world-class coach and make sure that I'm on time for my training and that that's well prepped for and the in trainings .

The standard for professional trainings is three hours of prep for every one hour on stage or in front of the class , so to speak . Yeah , good luck , I mean , with the way we have our life set up . So trying to be really , really , really , really world class at several things is extremely difficult . And for the nLU listeners health , wealth and love .

And then break those into categories okay . So health , sleep , hydration , training okay , good boom . Love , okay , quality time boom , boom , boom . We break this down in relationship talks , coaching recently . And then wealth when am I making my money ? How much am I making ? I have one client that's doing five different jobs , that is frozen and part-time .

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And if you're out there watching or listening and you look at january , to the point of this episode , and you say , okay , I did really well at the most important thing , how do you and I'm asking this for myself as well how do you feel really good about that , knowing that that took away from some other things you value deeply ?

And here's why I ask I don't know . I feel like for many of us , so for me , I think if I really focused on the present in the beginning and just getting good , not just like be present , I mean lock in my habits , lock in the things that I need to lock in Then I could focus on the future Versus .

Right now it's the end of February and you're saying well , I'm worried about January of next year already .

NLU listener , what is happening ? I just wanted to jump in here and let you know if you want to get to the next level faster . We have a free virtual monthly meetup at the first Thursday of every month . You can connect with like-minded people and become a bigger part of this amazing global community . The link to register will be in the show notes .

I love this conversation . I'm so grateful you asked . I really appreciate it . This is something I've contemplated my entire life because I'm very future oriented . I think your way of being hyper-p , present and focused on getting better in the present is optimal if it's reverse engineered . But you can't reverse engineer the present .

So if you have your quarter , if you have your dream 10 years plus reverse engineered into and I do this , this is a dream mapping . I do this with clients , emile and I just did it with relationship docs , coaching clients . What you do is you take the year . You expand that out , so from 2025 to 2026 , boom . You break it into four quarters .

Then you take another scale and you break the next decade , so 2025 to 2035 , boom . And then you write out 12 things you want to achieve and then you put those 12 into the proper syntax and what you realize is oh wait , a minute , I'm . I want to get married and buy this home before I have these kids .

Okay , well , I need to get this certification before I do that , because I want to be able to afford having children and being present . But so it's . It's called dream mapping . I do it with clients all the time . Shout out to the clients that have done it . If any other client does want to do it , just let me know Dream mapping .

But the reason why that's so powerful is because once you have that done and assuming you did it well , now being hyper focused on getting better on the day-to-day and being present is actually optimal . But , brother , without that first step , if you're just focused on today , your struggle , your future is going to suck because you're not achieving anything .

You don't , you don't have it , you don't have it reverse engineered , and so that's why life is so hard . It has to be both and the moment . Brother , let's say it's a quarter later and you crushed the quarter , guess what ?

You got to go and reevaluate the map and see where you're at and say , okay , well , I took a detour here , well , I decided that wasn't that important . Well , I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend because of so now I'm not , we're not

going to get married , so now I'm going to have to move when we have kids , because I need to meet some , whatever it is . So it's constantly both , and that's why life is so hard and that's why you have me . You know , every couple months I usually have a sort of little identity crisis .

Well , I think we as a business have gone in a very interesting place where we've expanded and then locked it in and maybe contracted and expanded and locked it in and right now we are in a very simple but deep time , like there are very few things I'm doing , there's very few things you're doing in terms of within the business , but we're trying to make sure

we just do those things really well and I think we are more focused on the present than we have been . Yeah , agreed , probably because we were super , super focused on the future . That's why I asked that question .

Not that I don't think , trust me , I know the value of the long-term thinking , but I do think you can Jeff yourself Definitely , but you can also Jeff yourself on the other end .

Good luck doing that in three years . I mean , everything has to be reverse engineered , however . You have to do the behaviors and the process in the present , and it's very difficult because all of us myself included , kevin included we are either more long-term or more short-term . There's no one I know who isn't , who's exactly perfectly centered in this .

There's no one . I mean some people who are overly present . They their futures . I can look and go . I don't know . Like , if you keep doing what you're doing now , I know you say like you're going to achieve X , y , z , it's . That's a little delusional , it's not tethered to reality . You're not doing the process now .

And then there's other people that are in the present doing the stuff and they're actually going to end up way farther than they think . I had a client recently asked me where do you do you really think that's possible for me Like seriously . I said you're underestimating what 20 years will do . Of course , 100 possible , assuming that you continue improving .

I said you need to look at your calendar . Three years ago you were not dialed in . You didn't know what the hell you were doing . What you need to understand is the compound effect , like if you keep doing what you're doing , 34 therapy calls per week . But you will . I mean , the math will . Yeah , absolutely .

I actually think you'll go farther than you thought . But the problem is is the people that are most future oriented usually have the most belief but the least humility , and the people like you , who have higher humility , who are like I need to make sure today goes well

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We have the most clients we've ever had . I feel good about that . But to your point , I couldn't tell you the last time Tara and I went on a date . I have no , it's been .

I won't say there are other priorities , but there are other goals that dictate other priorities , and that's a season . That is a season and so far the season has been a month and it's been a successful month so far . But this is the thing I'll end with , because we've got to pop off here .

If you feel like you've made no progress , that most likely isn't true , and there's still a lot of freaking time left . If you feel like you're crushing it and nothing can go wrong , that also isn't true , because there's a lot of freaking time left . Yeah , you might have a 20-point lead , but we're only 10 minutes into the game . There's a lot of game left .

You might be losing by 20 . There's still a lot of game left . It doesn't mean you can't turn it around and really make something of it . Last question Sure .

It's like that would have been thousands of dollars . But it's like that would have been thousands of dollars . But it's . It's the . Yeah , you know what . Would that break the bank ? No , would that break this ? No . Would that break that ? No , but it would slow down momentum . It would slow down momentum .

And is that slowing down of momentum worth the little lifestyle upgrade that I'll get ? Probably not . So I think I'm just trying to weigh it better . Even like we have more money in the bank than we have in a long time You'd think that it would make me want to ball out . I have been cooking , I'm not ordering out .

So , if anything , it's reinforced the fact that it's actually working . Being a little bit stingy and being disciplined has actually created the opportunity . Being a little bit stingy and being disciplined has actually created the opportunity to be disciplined at a higher level . So I'm trying to lock that in . I'm trying to Nice . Yeah , I'm trying to lock that in .

That's probably the best answer I could give . Currently Fire , I just have a more positive relationship than I used to . I'm not taking away from myself answer I could give currently Fire , I just have a more positive relationship than I used to . It's not , I'm not taking away from myself , I'm actually creating a bigger opportunity in the future .

That is what I would say .

There is a meetup on Thursday , so if you're listening to this , it might be Tuesday . If not , no worries .

Don't let your progress just stop because you don't feel like you've been making any . Either way , there's a lot of growth . So we'll have the link in the show notes for that .

As always , we love you , each and every one of you , and at NLU , we do not have fans , we have family .