Everything Starts With This One Thing (1975)

But that all starts from a place of clarity .

I was on a podcast recently and this question has gotten increasingly more challenging to answer as we have done this more and more . Let's say , kev , I reconnect with you in two years . What's life look like ? It's like . This is going to be very upsetting and disappointing to you . Same shit , just hopefully a lot better . Same shit .

It's going to be the same thing . It's going to be podcasting and I'm going to be coaching , and I'm going to be talking about podcasting and I'm going to be talking about holistic self-improvement and that's it . Yeah , I'll probably be podcasting more and coaching more . A multiplied version of what I'm doing .

Today is usually my answer , but I also say at the end of that I say but I also understand that I am very privileged in the fact that I have this and I have worked very , very diligently over the last however many years to get this level of clarity . Because of the clarity , there is not really that much uncertainty .

If anything , there's like a boring amount of certainty . It's just not that exciting in terms of what will I be doing . I'll be doing the same stuff . Luckily I'm excited with that stuff , but it's not . I don't know . I think I used to expect that so much would change around . Everything like health , wealth , love , everything would change .

It would go from like zero to one to two to three , like all the way up to 10 . Now I realize it's probably just going to go from like five to 5.1 .

So essentially almost nothing will seem like it changes , but then when I look back five years , it will have changed a ton and I think just having that level of clarity is really a privilege that you can work really hard to get and it's kind of a cheat code it's .

There's not a lot of time wasted on doing stuff that isn't part of the vision , and I can understand . Maybe that's like a hyper-masculine thing and a feminine energy might not do as well with that , because it's just the same thing every

day . But , yeah , that's what we're talking about today . We're talking about clarity . Everything starts with clarity . If I One of the hardest things in the world , this is not really . But just as this example , taryn and I will be hanging out on a Friday night what do you want for dinner ? We have no clarity .

Why does it take so long to come up with something to eat ? Because we have no clarity . Well , we're going to have something that's Italian . Okay , cool , that's clarity which then allows us to hone a little bit , and then that gets rid of a bunch of things .

Yeah , clarity is an amazing thing to have and I think it's probably harder to get than most people give credit for , but maybe easier to get if you have the right people around you . That's my opening thesis .

Do you think I should go all in on my own thing , like you did ? Or do you think I should kind of go part-time back to corporate and then do the hybrid thing ? And I said well , there's three roads . There's you go back to corporate and do that . She's like .

I said okay , the second road is hybrid , where you do both corporate pays the bills while you build a brand and a business . That's the one I highly recommend . That's not the one Kevin and I did . Kevin and I both quit cold turkey , no income , went all in on this and almost lost ourselves .

It was brutal , yeah , but we had absolute clarity and I said you want to know why I know you'll succeed . If we do the work Is because you're not trying to do a new industry . She wants to be HR consultant . She has 20 years of experience in HR already and big companies , big , big , big name brand companies . I said you're going to be fine .

We're going to start an HR company where you're consulting and that's where companies are going anyway . They want to consult if they can rather than hiring it in-house because it's more expensive to hire in-house . So I said one of the reasons I'm certain I can help you is because you're not trying to go play piano for a living .

You've been in HR for 20 years and then you come to me and say I want to play piano and make a career out of it . That would be listen , do you have another 20 years ?

Because you're taking your expertise and transforming it into a different space , but it's the same expertise and I think that her having that level of clarity makes it much more likely that she succeeds .

Kevin and I had a ton of clarity going into this and the more we do this we work with , I think , 68 podcasters now , 28 business owners now for me , I've gotten a lot of new clients lately , which has been really awesome , and I think that the cycle that I'm running in coaching is inject clarity , which creates certainty .

Certainty creates massive messy action , massive messy action , massive messy action creates momentum . Momentum creates results and then , when results come . It creates a bunch of mayhem and less certainty .

So then you have to come back and inject clarity again , and one of the things that I think is a misunderstood concept is people who don't have clarity on what they want for their health , people who don't have clarity on what they want for their career , people who don't have clarity on what they want in an intimate partner , people who don't have clarity about

where they want to live or in what type of house or what type of car they want to drive . People who don't have clarity . It's very unlikely that you randomly stumble upon the things that you want . So it's the who , what , when , where , why clarity questions , and that's really what coaching is .

It's just you just get so much clarity on what you want , why you want it , how you're going to actually achieve it , and then how often you're going to iterate . And I just Kev and I , when we got together this morning I was a little late and it's like what do we want to talk about ?

I said I think I'm finding it difficult to realize that a lot of people have very little clarity on who they are , why they want , what they want , what they actually want , where they're going , where they've been , the who , what , when , where , why , and that must feel so scary .

There's a personal development speaker named Zig Ziglar , way , way , way back , and he said there's two types of people , and this is a spectrum , so don't quote me on this . There's a meaningful specific and there's a wandering generality , and I've used Taylor Swift , you can use Simone Biles . We just watched the Netflix series . I've been talking a lot about that .

It's very inspiring , best gymnast in history , unbelievable .

Shout out to Simone Biles . She just does gymnastics . She's dating an NFL player . They have a very successful life . It's very obvious . Their statistical level of success is wildly beyond average . But she doesn't play piano on the side , she doesn't do anything other than gymnastics , and he doesn't do anything other than football . But they do travel and all that .

It's but for your . I think that what I'm really starting to understand and I hope this is of value to everybody taylor swift her future . What's she going to be doing in five years ? She's going to be singing and concerts . What's Simone Biles going to be doing in five years ? She , at the end , she's like I'm 27 . I'm retiring as a gymnast .

I have no freaking idea what I'm going to do . She was showing her house and she's like well , this is my office and I know there's going to be a computer and a desk in here , but I think I'm just going to be Googling shit .

I , if I have a block in my day , I can hammer out an episode . One of the episodes that I did was it's a show about architecture super interesting nice . And the episodes that I did was it's a show about architecture Super interesting Nice .

And the person that was on as a guest was somebody who was like a behavioral psychologist , nice and they were talking about how the layout of offices affects workflow and productivity and behavior . And the through line of this person's entire career was that behavior . Like I want to know about behavior .

And then , once you do that , my wife my wife has a master's in . She's a behavior analyst . I didn't realize that when you do that , you can be a behavior analyst for pets . Oh yeah , you could be a behavior analyst for the government . You can do it for serial killers , blah , blah , blah , blah . All that stuff , sports teams , probably all that .

So let's imagine and this is going to be a bold statement , this is going to be a bold statement I don't really think the universe cares about me . I don't really think it cares whether I get my BMW or not . I don't think it fucking cares

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Okay , I have my dream car here on my desk . This is a Mercedes AMG GTR With the hood popped . I got the hood popped . You want to see under that ? You're flexing that thing . You .

When I was 26 years old , I just happened to make enough money to get a BMW . And that's the one

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By that is I always wanted some level of luxury car . I never thought I would get it . I think it's because of clarity . That's all . So what type of body do you want when you and I used to do fitness coaching ? You still do to a degree with clients , but not like you used to .

If that helps you exercise more and eat better and be more disciplined , awesome . But it might not be serving you because I'm not going to grow a foot and look like the rock , that's not going to happen . But I do think . Having that level of specificity and clarity what kind of house do you want to live in ? What kind of car do you want to drive ?

If that's what you value ? What type of relationship do you want to be in ? Do you want it to be deeply respectful and trustworthy ? And amazing intimacy and communication . Blah , blah , blah . Is that what you want ? Awesome . Do you want somebody who takes care of you energetically Awesome . Do you not want that ? Awesome .

But that all starts from a place of clarity . It does .

Yeah , I'm glad that we had this conversation and again , kevin and I are big into this and it's , I mean , some of these , some of these guys claiming natural art , but we've talked about it a lot . It doesn't matter .

The point that I'm making about this is , if kevin wanted jeff nippard's physique , he could immediately , tomorrow , start going to work , buy that book , look at the diet , look at the training , look at the mobility , look at the regimen , look at the science , look at the mobility , look at the regimen , look at the science . And he could work toward that .

And he might never be at that level , but he'll get a fucking lot closer . I don't know why all those words just slurred together a fucking lot closer but . I think it's really important for all of us to shoot for things that inspire us and motivate us , and we've been talking a lot about goals and dreams , and I do .

I feel inspired by Simone , I feel inspired by Michael Phelps . I feel inspired by these achievements , and I'm not a swimmer and I'm not a gymnast , but I have my own thing that I want to apply that level of dedication to . So if you want level 10 results in life , it's going to require level 10 dedication .

If you want level five results in life , it's going to require level five dedication . But all of those both of those require clarity too .

So if you want a home on the beach with a two car garage and land , and , and , and , and and you're going to have to have more and more and more clarity about what you want , but also how you're going to get there , who you are , why you want it , who you surround yourself with and who you don't .

I remember Kev said one time how do you know all this ? This is early , early , early , and we were doing spreadsheets and he had never been in spreadsheets with me , the all these and he asked , like , how did like , where did you learn all this ? And I , I said , dude , I had to know all this . This is , I mean I was when I was 21 .

I was at a billion dollar robotics company . I mean , we had to just to survive . I had to know this . I mean , this is basic shit , right so , but it all depends . That's like a gymnast . Well , everyone can do a backflip . It's a triple backflip that no one can do , right .

So it's it all depends , and I think that the more clarity you have on what you want to achieve , there's probably a direct correlation with the probability in which you actually achieve it . The problem is , the more clarity you have , the more you might have to give up in order to stay on the path toward that thing .

So my last question for you I know we got to jump soon is why do you think you're someone who you and I ? We just tell the truth , you didn't have any clarity growing up , dude . Like I , you didn't have very much clarity . You loved baseball Great , you were good at baseball boom but , like you , didn't know what your career was going to look like .

I I feel like I always had strong clarity on my goals . In statistical comparison For you . How did you decide what to do and what not to do ?

No , that ain't it All right , let me get an in-between job until I can figure out the next thing . I'll go drive a forklift oh , firefighter Shit . Okay , let me go do that . That would be awesome . That's a career I could do that . I'll just paint houses and and work as a little contractor with my buddy here on the side . Will I do that ? Graduate that ?

The odds of me becoming a firefighter very low . I'm not a veteran , I'm not a former police officer , I'm not a paramedic Like that's years and years . Do I really want to wait for that ? No , on to the next thing . I'm going to do this weatherization thing .

I'm making four times the amount of money I've ever made , at least up to 10 times the amount of money I've ever made .

I don't know if I ever had a dream of what I wanted to do from like an operation . I wanted to be financially free , I wanted to be in shape and I wanted to be in love .

I'm in love , in shape , reasonably depending who you're standing next to , and then building wealth , financially free depending , but like it definitely was , could have been , could have , could have , you know , kind of coasted in my early 20s all the way into the sunset . So those were a byproduct of clarity though .

get closer to it .

What do you want that relationship to look like To the best of your ability ? You might not have super specific clarity in the beginning . What do you want to look like ? What do you want your body to look like ? And then , really , what do you think about money ? How does money affect you and what kind of money do you want to have ?

Because clarity goes both ways . If you think you want to be a bajillionaire and then you work your face off for your entire life and that's not what you wanted , you're gonna be fucking miserable too . So I think it's just that . Let's just . It's not gonna most likely not gonna go from I have no idea what I want to do to .

I know exactly what I want to do . I think it's just a little bit of course correction . So , yeah , I would just say what's one thing I could do to get a little bit more clarity , what's one question I could ask and answer . What's one thing I could learn all of that ?

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