#1595 - Month 1 Check In

Right now , as as of the recording of this episode , it is the 25th of January , so this will be dropping on Sunday . So that will be . Fred is at her son at 28th , so we'll be coming up on the end of January , so we are roughly one 12th through the year .

I had a client yesterday who has had 60,000 downloads this week Whoa . So this this month is the biggest month they've ever had for their podcast , by far . It's not close . Nice work , wrong work shout out to Elliot and Way to go . That's the best they've ever done . But it doesn't necessarily mean it's gonna carry on forever .

Neither of these Necessarily you're gonna carry on forever . I Know we put a lot of pressure on ourselves not to miss a Monday , to start strong , to start the year strong . I know that . But I also know that at this point many of our New Year's resolutions have probably unfortunately died .

Maybe we've gotten overwhelmed , maybe we've changed our priorities , whatever it is . So yeah , I want today to be a drag to five episode where maybe the the month didn't go the way you want Doesn't mean the year can't . Maybe the month went the best that ever has .

It doesn't mean that if we don't continue doing what brought us that success to Last episode , that we're gonna continue to get it . And then maybe Alan and I'll jam a little bit about what the first month has been for us and the team and and all that stuff .

already on .

And it's Leonardo DiCaprio on the front of the ship saying I'm king of the world . And Then what personal growth really feels like ? And it's him on the side of the door freezing to death , Sinking to the abyss .

Obviously it's a joke , but the point is , I think I would do well in the personal development Comedy circuit , which , by the way , in and of itself is a joke .

Hopefully we can turn around .

How we doing one-twelfth of the way into the year , two things , and I think this is where Kevin was kind of trying to go with this if you are crushing it , don't step off the gas If you aren't crushing it . I heard this quote once . I don't know if it's good or bad . Whatever , this is what I thought of .

Messing up your diet for a day and then saying screw it , I'll start tomorrow is a lot like getting a flat tire and slicing the other three tires , and I just don't want someone to have a bad month and to say , screw it , I'll try better next year . And again , none of this is conscious , but I read a book called the 12 Week Year .

Shout out to Bradley , my client , who suggested that I love the concept . Now , is the book world class or anything like that ? No , but the concept is super powerful and the idea in that book is what if you could accomplish as much in 12 weeks as someone else does in a year ?

And the idea is quarter to quarter , and we created Dreamlining based on that and we have a Dreamliner journal that I've been talking a lot about . So , if you're a new listener , we have this journal Achieve your Dreams 90 Days at a Time .

But in the context of this episode , is January 1 third of the quarter towards your 90 day goal , like we do in group coaching , or is it one 12th of the year goal ?

And it's really both ? But I think quarter to quarter is a cheat code , because I think a year out is a little bit too far for it to be relevant and I think that focusing on just tomorrow is probably not far enough to be strategic .

I guess for me it makes it seem like the year really isn't that long . We've already done measurable damage to the year . It's already a 24th . That's wild . Okay , Now we're a 12th , my goodness . But in the reality there is a lot of time to go . There is a lot of time . So I think it depends on what side of the spectrum you're on .

I would probably , in the past , be the type of person that said , if January wasn't successful , things probably aren't going to go that great this year . But in terms of January , for me it was not very successful .

Had shingles , didn't exercise for the first like two weeks due to shingles , and I had goals set for I wanted to have X amount of weightlifting sessions and X amount of Jiu-Jitsu sessions . I am behind and I'm going to have to play some serious catch up . Next level live is coming up . I will be starting a diet soon .

I haven't been great with my diet , so I am in the camp right now of 2024 . For me , is not off to a great start personally . The podcast is doing great and the business is doing great and that's all awesome

. I'm talking about specifically the things that I'm thinking about measuring as a human on a day to day basis . What would you say your 2024 has started off like ? Is it a dumpster fire ? Like ?

I talked a lot about how I felt like such a failure as a writer , because I wanted to do a blog every other week and I ended up doing only 12 . And so I ended up getting half . I 50% failed , 50% succeeded , and I would say , about half the days that I wanted to write , I ended up writing , but I got 12 blogs done .

So there's two ways to look at that . Did you fail or did you write 12 blogs , a blog a month ? You know congrats . And again , I do think they're really high quality . So I'm proud of the quality , not of the quantity .

But the cool part about 2024 thus far there's a point to this is that thus far in 2024 , I've been very successful on what I'm calling my next level five to thrive . So not to be confused with our course , the big five to thrive that I'm using is exercising every day , number one for 30 minutes . Writing every day for 20 minutes .

Mobility every day for 10 minutes . Dreamlining , as you've heard the dreamliner , the journal every single day , for again , it's probably around 10 minutes , sometimes more , sometimes less . And then the last one was what I'm trying to do WhatsApp every day for 20 minutes .

I have not been successful at that one yet , but that's my new system and I created that actually today .

And the first four that I said I've done it every single day for all of 2024 . The fifth one , the WhatsApp for 20 minutes batching messages . I've only done , I think , yesterday and today . That said , 2024 is off to a really good start , but it's been a little bit rocky . In terms of quality time with Emilia . It's been a little bit rocky .

Not that we're great , but I haven't had a ton of time . I've also had a hard time keeping up with the back-to-back .

So in 2023 , I'll go brief with this but I had these 15-minute buffers in between meetings , in between podcasts , in between meetups , in between coaching , group coaching , all of that and I got rid of those because I knew I had to level up and that's been really hard .

Being on time has been really difficult , having no bathroom breaks in between , that kind of thing . That's been tough . And so my back office work hasn't been great . So , not a dumpster fire , but definitely not perfect , but I would say probably the best I've ever done .

On the personal side , I would say the opposite of what you said , which is on the business front . I think it could use some work .

But I also want to temper it with you might have had the best month ever , there's still a lot of time left . So it doesn't mean it's just going to keep going the way it's gone , and I just think that's a very important distinction , and I was thinking about this the other day .

I don't know if I mentioned it , I don't know if I've been dreaming of podcasting or what , but we were talking about how , every episode , the goal is to create some sort of drive to five . Did we talk about that ?

Especially if you feel like you're riding the emotional roller coaster of results versus the logical roller coaster of results . I think those are just two very , very different

feelings and two very , very different approaches which create two very , very different realities . So that's really and maybe this won't be a super long episode , but you and I are doing check-ins every day for the month , throughout the entire year . So this is something that you and I are very , very focused on .

You mean , with habit tracking , with habit tracking and looking at where we are today versus where we want to be for the rest of the quarter or whatever it may be , I'm trying to do the best I've ever done with yes right now , these are my goals .

It's my job to try to hit these goals , but just because I don't hit them in the first month does not mean I can't hit them in month two and month three . I'm trying to really understand that . I know it seems like a lot to do in a very short period of time , but the juggling act of a month is a long period of time .

A quarter is a long period of time . A year is a long period of time but also , as long as I'm doing the right things , it's a long period of time . If I'm not doing the right things , it's probably a pretty short period of time because I'm gonna lose that time if I'm not investing my time correctly .

So that's really the juggling act that I'm trying to accomplish with this episode .

Of course we've gotten better and I'm not saying that arrogant , I say that with humility of we're still far from perfect and we're , jeff and all over the place , but less than we used to . I do believe that to be true , and here's what I mean by that . I think we're investing our time more effectively our effort and our money .

Now , based on what you said at the beginning of this episode , I think maybe you're investing your time not as optimally as what you would want , but again , isn't that always gonna be the case ?

A lot of the time they say that Sometimes they don't . Sometimes they'll say and then my next question will always be well , when

was it at 10 ? And they'll say you know , honestly , last summer I was just dialed in on fitness . And then I go okay , what do we gotta do in fitness ? So , for everyone out there listening or watching this , if 10 is the best you've ever been , holistically , health , wealth and love , and I say zero to 10 , how dialed in are you ? How fulfilled are you ?

How on point are you ? Does 10 come up right away and go yep , 10 ? And if not , that's okay . But what's the gap ? Because that's what you can go to work on . So for me , I'll just lead by example . I said nine and the reason why is because of my relationship . I haven't spent as much quality time .

It's been a grind , honestly , and , the truth be told , those four things I've been consistent on every single day in 2024 , it has been alarming and humbling how difficult it has been and what else that's taken away from it has been really . I mean , there have been many nights where I've said , sweetheart , I didn't do my writing .

I promised myself in 2024 I'd write every day . So I need to siphon 20 minutes out of our quality time and that sucks . And she's been really supportive . I'm very grateful , but it really does suck , and so I want to let everyone I hope that people hear me with this and I hope that I hear myself with this Every now and then I have these moments .

I'm sitting there going , this sucks . I do that often . Oh yes , like behind the scenes , by myself . I'm like , ah , this really sucks . And then I have the second moment , and the second moment is of course . Of course , I mean , the future is bright and big and you're climbing . It's a climb . If you're a hiker , you know it blows , it's supposed to

suck , but the top is awesome , right , the view is amazing and it's worth it , but the climb make no mistake about it , climbing sucks . And I think that , if we can , just I say this to Kev all the time behind the scenes Now they're nailing the structure . Now they're nailing the structure . Now they're nailing the structure .

Keep doing the hard things no one wants to do . That's why I say that every time , because , number one , we're building towards something or climbing towards something , and number two , if you want results that other people aren't going to have , you've got to be willing to do things other people aren't willing to do . And that's just the facts .

So , whether it's fitness , relationship , health , wealth , love , no matter what the climb , I mean , the Dreamliner literally has another unapologetic plug apparently , the Dreamliner has a mountain on it . There's a mountain on the front . This is not a coast . Everything's uphill , baby .

I don't know why I said baby , everything's uphill , you're leaning into that comedy thing .

And just make sure you're climbing your mountain , not someone else .

If it's somebody else's goals , it's not sustainable . Next Elevation Alan mentioned this in yesterday's episode but next level , live 2024 . Is it March 23rd ?

They took this place and they put it in the middle of a beautiful area . We're going to be there . You will have lunch presented . It is included in the ticket price . Alan and I are going to be talking about what we talk about Life , love , health and well . A great opportunity to come see us in person if you are local .

If not , we have a virtual option as well . The majority of our audience , obviously , is global . We realize that not everybody is going to be able to attend live . We said , all right , this is the year we're going to do a virtual ticket as well . That is something we will have live on Zoom and there will be breakout sessions . I'm just super excited .

I'm super excited to be in person and be on stage again and get to see all of you .

If you are not able to be there in person , you will still be able to see all of the amazing content and join 30 other next level individuals virtually and continue to learn and grow . So that's six groups 30 virtual , 10 people each , 30 in person , 10 people each group . So six groups total . The ticket price for in-person is $97 , which includes lunch .

We cannot feed you lunch virtually , so that will not be included in the $47 ticket price for the virtual ticket . This is what you're going to learn how to understand yourself at a deeper level . Part one . Three parts . Part two how to succeed in your most important relationships . Part three how to create your own unique version of success .

But the real reason to come let's be honest is because you're going to get a free Dream Lantern at your spot for the in-person one . For those of you that are virtual , we are sorry , that's only for an in-person thing , but it's going to be workshop . You're going to leave with a guidebook and a Dreamliner .

You're going to leave with tangible takeaways to make the rest of the year extraordinary . And you will leave different and , more importantly than anything else , you're going to get around other amazing listeners .

That's been the best part about this journey is Kevin and I surrounding ourselves with other growth-minded individuals that are all trying to achieve goals and dreams together , and it's better together than it is alone . Both can be super lonely and you can meet some amazing people .

You can meet some so many amazing people , not just virtually , but you can connect with them . Obviously virtually in Zoom , but in-person too , it's going to be different . It's going to be different . We're going to be there , you're going to see us . We're going to engage with virtual as well as in-person .

It's going to be workshop-esque , it's going to be different . So I hope that you join us . And the last thing I'm going to say is this I told Book Club this Listen , if , for whatever reason , you buy a virtual ticket and for whatever reason , you somehow absolutely hate it which I seriously doubt Kevin and I will give you your money back . Okay .

I think we're going to have a vegan side , a vegan option as well , where all of our vegan community members are out there All right . Tomorrow for episode number . Oh , I'm excited for this one . 1596 . What we wish we knew about relationships sooner . I had a breakthrough recently , a breakthrough thought , and I said , oh , I really wish I knew that early .

I really wish that's something I had at my disposal when I was a younger man . So that's what we're going to talk about tomorrow . As always , we love you , we appreciate you , grateful for each and every one of you , and at NLU we do not have fans , we have family . We will talk to you all tomorrow . Talk to you soon .