#1547 - Scarcity, Abundance, And How They Affect Your Growth

I had a call last night with a client who has decided they don't want to do their podcast anymore and it was kind of based on my advice I guess a piece of it of my advice so I was very happy for them . I said I'm gonna keep helping you , no matter what you need . I'm always a message away , let me know .

And I said I don't know if this is a real thing , but this is what my mind is thinking right now , based on your circumstances . I said I wonder if this aligned abundance is better for you . Then aligned scarcity . And I said let me just go into what that means for me .

Mm-hmm , been there , been there , didn't really have . It's almost like they didn't have enough necessity or scarcity To do the things they needed to do to be successful in their business also , they have also been there , but now they have too much scarcity mm-hmm , where it's kind of to and there too , okay for them .

Getting a job is Aligned I Sorry , getting a job is misaligned abundance . What does that mean ? It means you're not working on your dreams , but you have enough money to support yourself , and the job is misaligned enough where you're not living

in anxiety but you're also not super happy with the job . So it gives you an opportunity to make money and it gives you the necessity to say I don't really want to do this for the rest of my life . I have a runway to live off of so I can actually make effective decisions , but I don't want to be here forever .

And that really was my goal by saying I think it's better for you to have Misaligned abundance , where you have money and you can dream , chase and build your thing , rather than just having all the time in the world but no necessity , you have no necessity , you have no necessity .

And then it gets to the point where the scarcity is too high for you to do anything and I think it can be a challenging thing . Now I know that's not where you wanted to go with this episode , necessarily , but I did think it was a Appropriate story .

So the idea underneath this I was trying to explain this to Kev before we jumped on the microphone and we got to go fairly quick with it because Kev's got a coaching session .

You're almost a little bit bored . You're not engaged , you're not super dialed in , you're not super challenged , you're not getting tough workouts in , you're not stretched that thin . Your counter's looking a little empty . It's kind of like crickets , you know .

And then on the other extreme end , you're so spread thin like Kevin and I this week , with an event coming up on Sunday where you're so spread thin that Kev earlier this week texted me . He said , dude , I gotta clear my calendar of some stuff . So I just you know firefighter went to our calendars and just deleted him off of everything that I possibly could .

That wasn't immediately important . And we are constantly dancing between those two extremes . On one end you're kind of bored and you know your

future's taking a hit because you're just kind of relaxing a little too much . You're overdoing it . Okay , I've been there . You're really overdoing it . And again , this is unique to each of us , because we all have our own goals and dreams .

If you're trying to climb Mount Everest , you know it's going to be a different R&R than if you're trying to climb Mount Watchu Sit or something like that . It's just a metaphor here . So , but you know , your intuition knows when you're really letting it ride and you're kind of just relaxing .

And you know you're reading a lot of books or you're watching a lot of movies or you're watching that Netflix series . I'll give this as an example . I remember when Matthew McConaughey came out with his book Green Lights .

I don't know if it's something I would or wouldn't recommend at this point , but I remember I couldn't put the book down and I remember at one point it was like all right , alan , you really need to like work . You can't just read books . Okay , and that's my own self-talk .

Okay , there's phases in life where you're either too relaxed , too easy , everything's a little too easy .

But then it flips the other way and all of a sudden you have too many clients and you have too much work and you have too much of a to-do list and too big of a team , and now it's like mayhem and you don't know how to handle it all , which one's better ? And that's the philosophical question which one's better ? The sweet spot is in between those .

So you want to try to be dialed in and engaged and charged and challenged on a day-to-day basis . You can't go through life without challenges . You're not going to grow . You're not going to grow , but you can't be so overwhelmed that you just want to eat food and watch Netflix . So you kind of have to .

We all have to play this little game where we are constantly designing and redesigning our life in this challenge skills sweet spot , where we're not bored and we're definitely engaged and we're definitely working hard , but not so much where we're burning down and burning to the ground constantly . And that's the the episode that we've done a lot . And

Kevin brought in another layer , which is I Would rather you be Misaligned and abundant , then scarce Alignment , and I think that If we can bring this other sort of olive branch . I'll give an example of a client of mine .

I have a client of mine who Wants to invest in real estate , has some capital but not enough Also is waiting for the real estate market to change a bit . I Said in the meantime we can't just have you sitting around . We got to get you making some short-term profitability . And so we have him do indoor dash .

So this is a shout out , anonymous , but it's so cool because I'm like , wait a minute , you love motorcycles , you love cars , you love personal development , you want to invest in real estate and you love doing door dash listening to books . I said , imagine this . He's like I want to start a YouTube channel , I want my YouTube channel .

And I said that's a long play . You're not going to make short-term money on the YouTube channel . You're just not . Okay , it's very , very rare . It's possible , but it's very , very rare . So what if you did this ? What if you door dashed

on your motorcycle ? Be safe . Wow , he said he wants to get a microphone in his helmet and he wants to have a GoPro and he wants to do he's gonna call it to to wheel therapy and he's gonna talk about personal development and hyper conscious stuff . Well , on his motorcycle . Well , and I said , imagine if you did that while doing door dash .

So you're making short-term money and long-term money Simultaneously while growing a brand and a business . That is the sweet spot . That's the sweet spot . You're not bored at home dreaming about real estate . And , by the way , when you make the short-term money on door dash .

You're gonna build , you're gonna buy a fixed rougher and Invest in real estate , and then you can talk about that on your YouTube channel . See how it all feeds .

This person is the right amount of engaged Not so overwhelmed where they can't move and can't do anything , but not so bored that they're just sitting at home dreaming and just dreaming but not taking any action . That's what this episode is about .

Mm-hmm , I don't necessarily know . I mean it's very blanket statement , but it's a cyclical thing in the economy though . It's a thing if you , if you think of , just Think of someone who Think

of someone who had a really challenging life and they had to work for everything they ever had , and eventually they get to the point where they Become successful , whatever that means to them , but let's just say financially successful then they have children and the way they raise those children is you don't have to work for anything , everything's gonna be amazing ,

you don't have to do anything , life is gonna be super easy and everything's provided to you . I'm willing to bet those people and those children are eventually gonna grow up into adults who probably aren't super capable Blanket statement , just you know , for lack of better phrasing Then , when they have children , what's gonna happen to their children ?

They're not really gonna have any work ethic and I Would say that's kind of what we're talking about in this episode . If you're too scarce and You're not sure you're gonna be able to keep the lights on for the next week , that's obviously gonna affect your growth in many , many , many ways . It's maybe some positive , definitely some negative .

If you're so abundant where you never , ever , ever , ever , ever have to worry about Again the lights going off just as an analogy here it might be Really good for you , but it might not be as good for your growth because there isn't any necessity . Too much necessity facilitates . It's not great .

I mean it's going to facilitate stuff that isn't sustainable and it might not be healthy for you . Too much abundance is going to create no necessity , where you don't really have to do anything because everything's going to be fine the way it is . Quote unquote . That is really what that quote means to me . When I hear that quote I don't really like .

I understand and unfortunately it's strong men create good times . I don't like the strong men label so strong people create good times , whatever it may be . But that's my next level nugget in this episode . Scarcity is productive if we know how to use it . Too much scarcity is deconstructive . It can be very , very , very bad .

Abundance is great and that's what a lot of us are after . But too much abundance will create us , or it will create the opportunity for us to stop doing the stuff that brought us abundance in the first place . Yep , very well said .

eat extra food probably more foods that we shouldn't be eating just to cope , emotionally cope . And so how do we all self-manage , self-lead and keep ourselves in the challenge skills sweet spot where you're having tough workouts ?

You're doing tough workouts , but there's a big difference between I have to run this 5K for my own survival and I'm going to die if I don't , versus I want to challenge myself with a 5K , versus you know what . I'm going to run a half mile , maybe the half mile is too easy and you're not going to grow .

Maybe the 5K for your survival being chased by a bear is detrimental and you're going to get injured and or killed . Maybe the 5K where you're challenging yourself and then eventually more than a 5K , and maybe timing yourself . I remember I did a 5K a couple summers ago and I ended up with I don't know a 22 or something or 21 .

And I remember thinking to myself if I did it the next year , I wanted to beat my time . So no , I'm not going to go for a 17 minute 5K , I would have to train . That's outside of alignment . It might be too much , but if I just shoot for regular , I'm not going to grow , and so that's really what we're talking about here is abundance .

Are you overly complacent right now and you're kind of chilling , or are you overly spread thin ? Where you are ? Just , you are just burning the candle on every end , and it's just too much , and we all need to either slow down or speed up our own treadmill , based on our own consciousness , capabilities and goals , and that's really what this episode is about .

It was detrimental , it was yeah , I always say it took pieces of me . I'll never get back . Maybe that's you , that's the kind of necessity you want .

But just know , creating a life that has the right amount of scarcity , the right amount of abundance , the right amount of necessity really is what it is the optimal amount of necessity for you , your goals , your fulfillment , your family , your friends , what you want out of this life experience .

That is the extra , next level nugget for this episode Tomorrow oh , I jeffed us . Tomorrow . For episode number 1548 , there is no title , so I have no idea what we're going to talk . So my apologies again . Please give me grace . It's been a hell of a week . It's been a hell of a month because we're only a week into the month .

So I'm sure it'll be valuable , we'll try to make it valuable and I hope you have a wonderful Monday If you're listening to this on Monday , as always . We love you , we appreciate you , grateful for each and every one of you . Nlu , we do not have fans , we have family . We will talk to you all tomorrow .