#1426 - Discipline Is Much Harder Without This…

That's why belief is so powerful , because your belief about what , your belief in self , has changed since this week , which is good , but because of that , everything that used to fly under the radar now needs to be you know . So I feel a little bit water bordered for lack of better phrasing , but that's okay , it's not .

That's how you get better , it's how you get better , unfortunately . How do I do on the ? You know ?

Welcome back to another episode of next level University , where we teach you how to level up your life , your love , your health and your wealth . We hope you enjoyed . Our latest episode Was episode number one thousand four hundred and twenty five . What song is playing on repeat in your head ? My heart will go on by Celine Dion .

For me , currently today , for episode number one thousand four hundred and twenty six . Discipline is much harder without this . When Alan and I are on the road , we tend to optimize for Convenience . So I said , hey , man , I'm probably gonna get Domino's while we're out here . I'm gonna keep it Respectful and respectable .

I'm not gonna go crazy every single night , but it's easy . I know there's one relatively close . Let's do that . So the first night we got Domino's . Second night I said , hey , what do you think ? And he said yeah , yeah , of course , same thing . I said you want the same exact thing ? And he said , yeah , love you , man , you're so easy .

So I repeat the order , no problem . And for some reason they got there and I'm not exaggerating when I say it took them 15 minutes . It was amazing , the Pete . It was the best pizza I've ever had . The delivery driver was world-class kind . It was awesome . They , I said to this gentleman . I said were you waiting outside with the pizza ?

How did you get here so fast ? And he said I know , I know we're now best friends . I Made a mistake because the first night I got brownies , so I reordered Some brownies . By accident , I didn't know , they dropped the food off . There's an extra box . I said oh wow , we must get an extra pizza . They like us open it up brownies .

So we had too many brownies . Allen had some of my brownies and that's where this episode came from .

I would say you watched , you have see with me for sure , for sure , and we also had deep conversations , which was awesome , seriously . You went to bed before I did , because I went FaceTime date with Emilia . We did FaceTime dates every night and I came back down and you're like , hey , man , I'm going to bed . I'm like , okay , no worries , and I'm hungry .

So Kevin got Domino's and and I ended up getting . I ended up going back to the event , the convention , and we ended up having lunch there . It was chicken breast . There was this , this delicious garden salad . I was actually sitting in the very seat that we had spoken to , one of the very seats that we had spoken to the day before . So it's kind of cool .

They were giving away some scholarships to some young kids . It was so inspiring , so inspiring . So , anyways , no one ate their salad and there was a couple empty seats at my table Because no one wants to sit with the kid . I'm good , I ain't everybody's salad . It's great I had .

It might as well been the biggest huge garden salad ever and I'm also trying to make up for calories , because we had Domino's the two , two nights before . So , and then it was chicken breast , great , great , great . On the way home , I get this awesome workout in and I text Kev . I said , hey man , do you want subway ? He's like no man , I'm good .

Eight less calories than you burn Surpluses you eight more calories than you burn . So obviously , when we got dominoes , I was over and over , meaning I ate more calories than I burned , even though we did work out every time , every day there and Then this last night , saturday . I'm in a deficit and I can feel it .

When you're in a deficit , your body's hungry . It triggers your body's hunger response

. It's supposed to . It's supposed to say hey , you're in a deficit . If you keep this up , eventually I could die . That's your body talking to you . Now , obviously , I have plenty of excess energy in my fat cells and all of that , so I'm not gonna die . But my body is like , hey , hey , alan , what if ?

What if you ate those brownies that Kevin didn't eat , that he got extra brownies , he didn't eat the brownies . They're right there on the counter , what if ?

And all of a sudden my brain starts doing what it does , start saying , alan , it's not that big a deal , couple brownies . Hey , I mean , it's not that big a deal , you're . You're uncomfortable , you're uncomfortable . What if you just ate a couple brownies ? So I did . I went to the , to the kitchen and I grabbed three of the five .

And I remember that specifically because I it took everything in me not to eat all five of them . And Later that day , or , I'm sorry , the next day , kevin and I wake up , we pack our shit , we get going and in the car we're talking about it and he's like you ate some of my brownies . I was like , yeah , man , and we had this conversation .

And this is where the value of the episode comes . We had this conversation about discipline and how difficult it is . Self discipline is ridiculously difficult and Some of us are better in certain areas than others . You know , when it comes to dieting and food , I'm much more disciplined about exercising than I am about not eating in a surplus .

So for me , I'm much more disciplined with training than I am with nutrition . Some people are the opposite . Some people are way more disciplined with nutrition than they are with training , and Ideally you'd be , you know , high standards in both if you really want to be in shape .

But anyways , kevin and I were talking about how hard it is , especially at the end of the night , to keep your promises to yourself . It's very easy to eat brownies when brownies are available and , by the way , they were absolutely delicious .

How hard it would be for them to not eat the brownies . Because , at least Mathematically speaking , when it comes to the deficit in the surplus and tracking calories , I have years and years and years and years of doing that . I do know that if I want to lose weight , what I have to do is train more and eat less .

And I know that if I eat in this deficit , I'm gonna lose this weight by this time . I do that for clients , I do that for myself . I have a spreadsheet that's I'm certain it's gonna work and I still ate the brownies . He said imagine what it would be like for someone who is even sure it's gonna work .

How hard would it be for them to stay self-disciplined ? And I had this light bulb moment of whoa If you're uncertain it's gonna work and you're uncertain It'll be worth it , why would you suffer , why would you struggle ? Why would you sacrifice . I Didn't even sacrifice , even though I knew it would work , and so that's what this episode is about .

How certain are you that it's gonna be worth it ? How certain are you that it's gonna work ? Because if you have low certainty that you're gonna get the goal whatever weight loss , income , revenue , intimate relationship if you're uncertain , it's gonna be infinitely more difficult to stay disciplined , especially when it's hard .

I Would have to assume that Many of the New Year's resolutions that get set are ends up failing because of this , because we don't set the New Year's resolutions based on the fact that we actually believe we can do them , because if we did , we wouldn't wait to the that original date or that actual date .

And then , if you don't actually believe in your ability to do it , you subconsciously don't think it's gonna be worth it , so you just pull the plug . It's it's a self-fulfilling prophecy of alright , I'm gonna set a goal and this is why and I really think we're on to something with setting bite-sized goals . Yeah

, definitely , that landed really well at the at the presentation . You set a goal that's too big . You think to yourself I Don't think so , I don't think I could do that , no way , no way . Then in your mind , it's Well , what are we doing ? Why do we ? Why should we even try ? It's not gonna be worth it because we're not actually gonna accomplish it .

And then that breaks or that creates a cycle of Every time I set a goal , I don't actually believe I can do the goal and I know it won't be worth it for me to even try because I don't believe it's possible , I'm not gonna set goals anymore and that becomes the , the unfortunate Cycle .

And I said that to the , to the kids , to the teenagers , to the young adults . If , if you sat me down and said , kev , your goal is 1425 episodes and your goal is all the results that you have today , I never would have started , I Never would have believed it was possible . I always believed it would be worth it .

I still , to this day , believe it will be worth it , but I never believed it was possible . I never would have continued going it's , I believe it's as much a goal issue as Anything else . Now , on the other side of that , you know that well , you know Worst case scenario , I'll just eat a little bit less tomorrow .

Number two is they don't know what they actually want to achieve , what the specific goal is . Or , number three , they don't know how to get there . There's a fourth option I forgot , which is they know where they are , they know where they want to go and they know how to get there , but they don't have the discipline .

Because I know where I'm at in fitness . I'm a hundred and eighty five point six pounds . I know the goal a hundred and seventy five . I know exactly how to get there . I just don't want to do it . I Don't want to do it , so it's . I don't know if it'll be worth it . I don't want to suffer anymore than I already am .

I Understand , I know and , but that , but guess what ? I

Don't get to have a ripped six pack . I Do . I want an eight pack . As bad as I want to not eat brownies , obviously not . Well , what ?

I haven't told anyone I'm gonna reach 175 . I Haven't even told anyone I want to and and Don't get it twisted public account abilities

everything I I have a lot of clients and I have , and when you come on the NLU team is a perfect example for the team members . They'll resonate with this . But for listeners , imagine you come on the NLU team one day All of a sudden , everyone can see your stats , everyone can see your total productive output .

Everyone can see whether or not you're consistent . Everyone can see whether or not you're tracking habits . We have a very powerful thing going . I want the accountability . The NLU fit pick challenge 123 days in a row of consistent 30 minutes of exercise .

That's why I'm more disciplined with exercise than I am with brownies , because I'm not posting hey , no brownies today . The public accountability is a cheat code . That's skin in the game you have . You have to risk . You have to risk something and I just haven't risked enough in that arena .

I'm , you know , 124 book clubs in a row as of yesterday the last thing I wanted to do yesterday , after 16 hours in a car between the last four days was do book club . But I promised book club . I keep promises I make to the community . I promised book club we would never miss and We've never missed . 124 .

I think Kevin and I calculated it that's five , no 2.38 . I believe 2.38 Years in a row every week . On the week I stayed up last Wednesday until 2 am . I don't recommend doing this to get my blog done , because I promise the community I'll never miss . I'm not gonna miss .

I'm gonna do a blog every other week for the rest of my life and those are really powerful and they're getting better . I don't want to miss I , but I do . I let myself down . I let myself down with the brownies . I . I need to attach it to something that is More . I'll do a lot more for NLU than I'll do for myself .

I'll do a lot more for Emilia than I'll do for myself and I have to know that about myself and I think that for the listeners they're probably similar .

now identifies as the fitness guy again . So when I post on my story , I'm the fitness guy again . I love it . I don't want to lose that . So I don't want to lose that . I'm afraid I'll lose that if I don't do what it takes to Keep it . So there's yeah , that's the necessity there . It's a challenge . This whole thing is a challenge .

It's not for me , it's for the cats . It's not about me . I'm not doing it because I want to . I'm doing it because , if I don't , it makes their life less luxurious .

Figure out where you really unreasonably disciplined More so than other people . For you and I , it's podcasting . There's two of us . We said publicly we'll never miss , we can't miss . And I've said it on hundreds of shows at this point , every show I go on , I say well , we're never going to miss , we won't miss

If I'm in the hospital or Alan's in the hospital , or I have to say , hey , siri , create a podcast episode for Next Level U and I'll record it and put it up on whatever we're going to do , whatever it takes . That will be my next love of nugget .

Good on you , as Emilia and I would say good on you . It's her thing , but I picked it up Good . My next level , nugget . Self-discipline is doing things that you don't actually want to do in the moment . That's why it requires self-discipline , and self is the important part . Self-discipline . No one's going to be upset with me that I ate three brownies .

Why would you ? Doesn't make any sense . Good for me . If I want to earn my goals , I'm the only one who's going to keep me accountable . But to my point earlier if you want extra accountability , you can pay for it . I've never missed a therapy call . I never will . You can pay for it . I have a lot of clients who they are paying for accountability .

It's my job to make sure they get their shit together . I say that hardcore for a reason I want to see them win . They're not going to do it without accountability . They're not going to do it to the same extent without accountability .

Whether it's Kevin knowing he's working out with me in a week or it's me throwing out my back trying to impress Kev , that's the truth . Kev said wow , you look better in person than you're doing pictures . Strong work . It gave me a fist bump . Don't pretend that that's not motivating . Of course it is . Yes , you have intrinsic motivators .

Yes , you have maximizing your potential . Yes , you want to be better and be a good person . But there's external motivators too . You would work out harder in a gym with people that are inspiring . You will work out harder if you're going to the gym with a friend .

You'll let yourself down more than you'll let other people down , most likely if you're listening to the show . I think that you need both . That would be my next level . Nugget is get some personal accountability , get some skin in the game , but also get some public accountability . We can help you with that .

If you want public accountability , you can DM Kev a checkmark hey , I did it . Or DM me . I have one client who checkmarks me every single day and I love it . I hit the little heart button on WhatsApp Reach out .

You'd say , now , I don't want to do that because then I have to send him pictures every day . And if I don't , if I have three brownies is gonna yell at me yeah , same , trust me , same . We want to want it . We want it more than we want it , more than we don't want it , but we don't want it as much as we need to want it .

Really well said , and I'm right there with you . We're , we're getting a turn . I are getting dinner . My birthday , if you're listening to this , was on Tuesday , I think Monday . Tuesday , tomorrow . We're getting Food tonight for dinner .

I'm gonna love the burger side of Cajun fries . On top of that , I like to get the Teriyaki cauliflower , and here's a cheat code for anybody out there . I'm gonna share this with you because I love you all . I get a side of Children's fettuccine Alfredo . The reason is it's cheap and it's a decent size portion and I don't need a whole Separate meal .

That's what I'm gonna be eating tonight for dinner .

And and don't worry so much about the other stuff . If you try to hold level 10 standards and everything , you will fail forever . I'm convinced of that . But you can incrementally , slowly and surely Improve your standards holistically over time , which is what I know he was all about .

Alan will always tell you what the C's are . I'm not gonna tell you what the C's are because I think if you really want the five C's , you'll go get them and you'll find out what they are behind the scenes . It's totally free . We spent eight hours together on a Sunday when we had the studio doing this . I wanted to charge for it .

Alan said it should be free . Alan won the argument because he's the CEO and I don't have any say and what happens in this business ? Evidently , but it is to your benefit . It is some of the fundamentals that we've built this business on and have helped us so much you disagree with .

Her and I have done many Trainings where , if you're out there and you feel like your team , you have a team or a group of people , it can be five people , it can be 20 people , it can be a hundred people the first one is free . The first training is free . It's virtual and if you feel like you need more direction , more structure and more productive .

So if anyone out

there listening feels like they don't have self-discipline Based on this episode or feels like they're not super productive , that's what this training is about how to become more productive , get more done in less time . And if you want a training the first one is free Please reach out , alan at nextleveluniversecom say hey , I listened episode 1426 .

I checked out the course . I want the training . Let's book on your calendar .