#1351 - Is Your Life Based On Intention Or Accident?

How you feel about yourself is more important than what you have . If you have been listening to us for a long time and you remember the Hyper Conscious podcast , go make sure you listen to that episode , because that was very hyper conscious . Today , for episode number 1,351 , is your life based on intention or accident ?

I am not necessarily proud of this , but I remember this was 2017 , probably . I lived 15 minutes 10 , 15 minutes from where I sit today and I remember Alan saying Kev , i know you want to know more about money . I know you want to be more financially free .

You got to read this book it's called Rich Dad , poor Dad And I said , all right , cool , i'm not going to read it , i'll listen to it .

I like listening to things with my ears not a huge reader , not a fan of it And I remember cracking open this audiobook and you can't really crack it open , but you know what I'm saying And I remember saying you know what I'm going to do . I am going to play video games while I listen to this .

I want to play video games , but I also kind of want to get better , so I'm going to do both . Now , thinking back to that , that was because I was more interested in checking the box than actually making progress . I was more interested in saying I was doing something than actually doing it .

I was living way more by accident than I was intentionally and I didn't understand the importance of learning . I know this is going to sound weird , it's probably going to sound very , very simple , but I remember kind of asking you , alan , i don't understand the point of this book . I understand it's going to teach me about money , like .

I don't understand why that is so important . I had such a fixed mindset that I could not comprehend how reading a book would help me . I just couldn't comprehend it . And if you're out there and you feel the same way , i'm not making that wrong . I completely understand , trust me . I wrote the book on it . I had a very , very fixed mindset .

I was very much living by accident . There was no intentionality behind what I was doing . I was just kind of hoping . I

was hoping for the best . If I read this book , i'll download some of that information and cool , it'll be good . I'll know investing , everything's going to be just fine . It'll be wealthy at no time . So I have this written down . Alan and I were talking about this last week .

Okay , let me study , let me study that . Okay , i go read a book , listen to a book , watch a TED Talk , watch a YouTube episode wherever it may be . Cool , now I have studied . Okay , now , with that study , i have to go practice , and that's taking a thought from the internal world into the external world and trying it . All .

Right , i'm gonna have a coaching call . I'm gonna try to sell something , whatever it may be . Where are you stuck ? Are you stuck on the belief ? Are you stuck on the ? what was the second one ? Study , study or the practice ?

When you practice it , you believe it more , And then you have capabilities of studying it more and then practicing more , And it becomes this beautiful , beautiful cycle if you run it the right way .

It's spring now it's nicer out , and I've been playing basketball since I was a little kid and she's brand new to the sport , so it's really fun , cause she doesn't know any of the slang Like on the basketball court . I didn't ever know There's like a lot of slang , so you know what a teardrop is .

She's like rebound . Like what are you talking about ? Like go get the ball . It's like funny . So we have a blast with it and she's getting much better Layup . there's a lot of slang . The difference between her and I is that we both believe we can play basketball .

The difference is I've studied the game for I don't know 20 years more than her or whatever , and I've practiced the game for 20 years more than her . So Emilia and I OK , jesse Brown on the NLU team is like an amazing basketball player .

I'm also taller , but with Emilia it wouldn't be hard for me to beat her , because she's brand new , she hasn't studied it and she hasn't practiced as much as me . So I would have higher results in the game of basketball than Emilia , regardless of whether or not she believes in herself just as much as I do .

I can believe in myself all day , but until I get to the gym and lift the weight , it doesn't really matter . But if I don't believe in myself , i won't get in the gym and lift the weight . So belief is the first step , but it's not the whole game , and so I want to tell this story briefly .

There's someone I was on a coaching call with recently Brandon wouldn't mind me sharing this . Brandon , my man . Brandon shout out to Brandon . Brandon is one of the hardest working people I've ever met . Statistically speaking , he's just a workhorse . The dude works And he's 333 days doing a mile a day , every single day .

Hard work and grit is not his issue Rain , sleet , snow or shine . He's out there running And his girlfriend Hannah we coach them . She's like blown away by him . It's like unbelievable , right ? Imagine running a mile a day for 333 days Sounds terrible , right ? no-transcript .

I said , brandon , you have these big goals and dreams now And I believe in you so much and I promise you you are more capable than you think . I know it . But here's the thing grit and hard work is not the issue with you . With a lot of people , that's the issue . Some of our listeners love all the love , hard driven , but no BS .

Hard work might be the issue . Okay , for Brandon , that's not the issue . I said , brother , it's learning . You just don't know enough yet . That's okay , it's learning . He reminds me of you , kev . Hard work and grit was not the issue . Resilience is not the issue . You can grind .

The problem is you don't learn enough , and so every single day , for the last probably four and a half to five years Kev , you've been learning 30 minutes a day , and now you're just so aware that the hard work can be applied in a more powerful way , and so I told Brandon and I'm telling the listeners , learning needs to be something that happens daily , and

most of my clients have one of their habits that they track called targeted learning . That's like a common habit for my peak performance coaching clients targeted learning . As a matter of fact , pretty much all of my clients yeah , i would say all my clients I give a curriculum of books . Meaning my coaching probably sounds terrible .

Yeah , it sounds brutal Yeah so , basically , each one of my clients and if any of my clients are listening shout out to you . I have a specific book that I'm deploying into their consciousness so that they can get their goals . For some people , they need to learn some emotional intelligence . For some people , they need some more grit .

For some people , they need to read the art of impossible . For other people , they need to read a finance book , like what I recommended with Rich Dad Portat . So for our listeners , what's my point ? Fall in love with learning , fall in love with targeted learning . I used to say this all the time .

I'm not sure if it lands , but you have to know better to do better . If you don't know how to play chess , you're gonna lose . If you don't know how to play basketball , you're gonna lose .

You're always gonna lose to the people who study more than you , and if you can fall in love with learning , you're gonna be so much better off , even though in the moment it doesn't seem like it's doing anything .

You helped me with the strategy and you gave me all kinds of really great support . You know , i think the key to success in business is a great attitude and you have that in spades . You really walk the walk . So thanks again , take care , i'll talk to you soon .

One of the reasons I studied so much is because I didn't believe in myself . So belief isn't even necessary . Because what is your response to lack of belief ?

If it's to study and learn more and make sure you aren't ever caught in the dark for lack of better phrasing then you that's a superpower Like Brandon has that If he doesn't believe , he'll just go study , and if you study it , you can go practice it . Then , when you practice it , you'll start to believe it . It's one of the interesting things .

I was talking to somebody the other day and he has 600 and some on podcast episodes And again , i know we have 1,350 , but 600 and something podcast episodes . Most people don't ever get there .

That is a wild number And I did a free coaching call with him And we were talking about how Somebody told me I should be coaching like a hundred episodes in and I was like I'm not ready yet . Now I know more than ever why I hadn't studied enough . That's something . That's not that many opportunities to study the industry or study Speaking or study It's .

That's why the more you do something , the better you get , because when you're studying it and then you practice it , you believe in it more and you understand it , and then everything starts to connect and it makes sense , right ?

if you're listening to this and you're in , whatever your job is , whatever your career is , whatever your passion is , you are aware of things that I just am not , because you've been there longer than I have . Mm-hmm , a certain sound means something to you . A certain smell means something to you . A certain Yeah , a certain lack of sound means something to you .

It's you have something different because you've studied it and you've practiced it longer . But when we're starting something new , i think we forget that . We forget that Studying it is half a third of the battle . Believing it is huge , studying it , studying it awesome , practicing it cool . Then rinse and repeat that forever and ever , and ever and ever .

Most of us Tend to run away from something when we don't believe in it . Mm-hmm and I've made this joke many times . I think my anxiety is my greatest superpower , because I'm always trying to figure out Okay , what can I Learn ? to make sure I don't have anxiety going into this ?

I've practiced , so now it's not that big of a deal . It's yeah , it's very . It sounds too simple . It really does sound too simple , but think of the things that most people struggle with relationships , money and fitness . There are so many relationship books , there are so many money books and there are so many Fitness books , health books .

But if you've never read any of them , it's not necessarily a surprise that you're not getting results . How else would you get results if you don't believe it's possible ? if you don't study The and get the knowledge and you don't practice what you've studied , you're gonna be in a perpetual cycle of feeling stuck forever .

So , yeah , this is more , probably more powerful than I originally expected from this episode , just based on the fact that , yeah , it's very simple . But just because it's simple doesn't mean it's simple to do , or just because it's simple doesn't mean we're actually doing it yet .

These people studied for years and years and years and There's what if ? what if you studied wealth ? What if you could be your own wealth doctor , or your own health doctor , or your own love doctor ? oh , interesting love doctor . And One , two things I want to share and we get a jump yeah , quickly , quickly .

The first one is this this episode I was listening to . Sometimes I'll work out downstairs . We have like a little mini gym . It's not great , but it's , it's doable . Thank you for the new kettlebells . Okay , i Was listening to . For some reason , whenever I work out down there , i just want to listen to something like powerful . That's personal development oriented .

So I listen to a Bob Proctor speech .

Okay , so I'm down there and he says this interesting quote . He said people aren't making $50,000 a year because they want to make $50,000 a year . People are making $50,000 a year because they're not aware of how to make 150 . And it's like that's true and It's really what this episode is built around .

Which is what , if you just raise your awareness You raise your awareness now you see opportunities you never saw . Now you do things you never would have done . Now you become someone you never would have become . Now you have more opportunities . It's like this , this expansive thing .

What's the difference between Kevin and I at 33 and 34 , respectively , and us in our teens ? I joke about making $7.25 an hour in Rhode Island at a golf course and $5 an hour as a bus boy getting tipped out . I wasn't worth that much because I wasn't that aware . I didn't know that much .

Now , compared to other 16-year-olds I probably knew a lot , but compared to me now I could be the general manager of that whole golf course now , because I'm aware of how to do it And I just wasn't back then . I had to learn , i had to study , i had to grow , i had to go to college , i had to . you know all that .

And so , very last piece here , interesting story . Okay , so I don't know if you'll relate to this . You're a cat dad , so you might , of course . Okay , tauriel , my kitten lover , year old , almost probably eight months old , she knocks . We say she knocks daddy's stuff .

This was when I was really quite busy And you know , sometimes you sleep in it's whatever So , anyways , i'm not waking her up in the morning . And now I've been waking her up in the morning . She doesn't knock my stuff anymore . And I'm like Emilia , how did you know that ? She's like I grew up with cats . She's studied cats . She knows .

She knows Tauriel better than I do , and she knows talker better than I do too , because she has three more years with him than I do . And so you can study these things . You can study cats , you can study dogs , you can study finance , you can study health . There's great books out there on these things .

Now , there's a lot of terrible books too , So you gotta wean through some . I always say careful not to step in the bullshit . Okay , some of it is nonsense , but at least go study . I recommend books over everything . But learning is a super power . That's the end of the episode .

Okay , yeah , we got to go because we have a team meeting that I am running , because it's all about it's out here , jeff , and we call it the out here , jeff and club club , i don't know what .

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