Dr. Holmes heard about this amazing book, Emotional Intelligence in Christ, from a video on Lead Like Jesus. Dan and Stephanie are excited to have back on the podcast, Lauren E. Miller. The link to the previous show on Emotional Intelligence in Christ is below. https://www.spreaker.com/user/mhnrnetwork/growing-your-emotional-intelligence-in-c NeuroDiverse relationships can have a lot of stress and tension when the couple is in a negative or conflict cycle. Lauren's area of expertise is stress re...
Aug 15, 2022•1 hr 2 min
Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Robin Tate, a life coach, and NeuroDiverse Couples' coach. Today we discuss Neurodiversity and strategies for executive functioning. Robin describes a little about herself: I am a professionally trained Teacher and Coach who is passionate about providing the best experience to my clients. As well as training, I have an in-depth understanding of the impacts of living with an Asperger's Profile and/or ADHD in a world that is neurotypical. My approach to coaching i...
Aug 08, 2022•1 hr 2 min
Autism in Relationships. What can we work on change? Join Stephanie and Dan as they interview Dr. Tony Attwood and they discuss what may change and what may not in ND couples. Dr. Tony discusses meltdown and anger management, communication differences, and the importance of scheduling time together. About Professor Tony Attwood: Tony is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in Autism Spectrum Disorders since he qualified as a clinical psychologist in England in 1975. He currently works in ...
Aug 01, 2022•58 min
Peter Vermeulen Check out this article on predictive coding: https://petervermeulen.be/2019/08/20/autism-absolute-thinking-in-a-relative-world/ About Dr. Vermeulen in his own words. Peter got a Bachelor in Family Sciences (Brussels, 1985) and in the same year also a Master in Psychology and Pedagogical Sciences at the oldest university of Belgium, the University of Leuven. Because he got the taste of studying at the oldest universities, Peter started to study at the oldest university of The Neth...
Jul 25, 2022•1 hr
Stephanie and Dan wanted to share practical communication tools. In the previous podcast they shared communication cards for starting conversations. Today they talk through a course they have taught couples they work with called Emotionally Healthy Relationships (EHR). We encourage listeners to get the updated workbook where the scripts are included for CTR, Stop Mind Reading, Clarify Expectations, Listen Incarnationally, Ladder of Integrity, and how to have a Clean Fight (negotiating). The foll...
Jul 18, 2022•56 min
Dr. Holmes speaks with Leslie Sickels about autism and sexuality and common challenges in ND Couples. Leslie A. Sickels, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker based in Manhattan. Her areas of expertise include autism spectrum disorder (ASD), NeuroDiverse relationships, anxiety, depression, and trauma. Much of her work focuses on gender and sexuality as they relate to the unique concerns of individuals with ASD. Leslie utilizes a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) approach and integrates trau...
Jul 11, 2022•57 min
Join Dan and Stephanie in a 2 part conversation about...... communication and conversations. Many NDCCs get stuck in their ability to communicate or start basic conversations that are more than logistical. Logistics simply are not connecting nor do they build attachment. In this podcast, Dan and Stephanie will discuss a tool created by Dr. Mona of NeuroDiverse Love. Used with permission, you will hear Dr. Mona describe the cards and her idea for the communication tool. Dan and Stephanie will ill...
Jul 04, 2022•51 min
Listen in with Dr. Holmes and Neurodivergent Relationship Coach Grace Myhill in the second segment focused on relational issues in Neurodivergent relationships (where one person is on the spectrum and one is not also known as AS-NT). This segment focuses on the perspective of the spouse who is not on the spectrum. Dr. Holmes asked on social media and other networks for questions from both perspectives from all over the country to "Ask Grace." Join Dr. Holmes and Grace as they field listeners' qu...
Jun 27, 2022•48 min
Join Dan and Stephanie as they talk with Bruce Wayne Knight on sexual intimacy. Dan and Stephanie took some questions from listeners about sexual issues and intimacy issues that may arise in an ND marriage. The book Total Intimacy: A Guide to Living in Color by Deborah Neel and the late Doug Rosenau. While this book is not written for NDCCs, it is a great guide for intimacy on different levels of intimacy and sexual and nonsexual touch that can build bonding and attachment and intimacy. This boo...
Jun 20, 2022•1 hr 14 min
Segment One: From the NeuroDiverse Perspective Join Dr. Holmes with Neurodivergent Relationship Coach Grace Myhill in two segments focused on relational issues in Neurodivergent relationships (where one person is on the spectrum and one is not also known as AS-NT). Dr. Holmes asked on social media and other networks for questions from both perspectives from all over the country to “Ask Grace.” Join Dr. Holmes and Grace as they field listeners’ questions about their partners to create a better un...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 7 min
Make sure you listen to part 1 of this 2 part series on attachment. In a previous podcast, Dr. Gill gives us a basic understanding of attachment. Today's episode will talk about marriage attachment styles and how marriages become detached or get caught in negative patterns and cycles that cause injury and broken trust.
Jun 06, 2022•1 hr 7 min
What the DSM calls "restrictive interests" can actually be passions and foundations for future career possibilities. Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Autism Advocate and Aspie, Sydney Homes, on her finding her future career and pairing her passions for her future career. Dr. Grandin recommends helping those on the spectrum find their passion and interests and build friendships or careers around their interests. (Tune in to the previous podcast where Sydney interviewed Dr. Grandin). Sydney has s...
May 30, 2022•37 min
This is the first in the series of podcasts in season 4 to dive into attachment, connection, attachment injuries, and the need for repair. Connection is the starting part of true intimacy in all its forms. Join Dan and Stephanie as they interview Dr. William Jesse Gill. Attachment is about having a safe haven or secure base. How does this affect connection? What are the differences between NT and ND parent preferences and what do NT and ND children may need differently for attachment? Jesse Gill...
May 23, 2022•45 min
Sydney Holmes interviews Dr. Grandin with questions collected by young adults and adults on the autism spectrum for Dr. Grandin. Questions range from early intervention to handling dysregulation at work. Join Dr. Holmes and Sydney as they ask questions members of the autism community want to know from Dr. Temple Grandin. See Dr. Grandin's full bio on April 4th show with Dr. Grandin. Questions from the autism community: 1. My first question is from Savannah from SC. We broke her question down int...
May 17, 2022•49 min
May 09, 2022•23 min
Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Andrea Pollack Andrea received her undergraduate, law, and M.S.Ed. degrees from the University of Pennsylvania. She began her law career at Cravath, Swaine, and Moore and then held Sr. VP positions at HBO and Time Inc. and was a managing partner in the NY office of Quinn, Emanuel. When her son was diagnosed with autism, Andrea and her husband joined with a group of other parents to help start a school in New York City. Though the school was successful, it was no...
May 02, 2022•37 min
Proud to be supporters and affiliates of TRU School. We have taken the courses and read the books and highly recommend! https://tru316-truschool.mykajabi.com/offers/ostmhuML/checkout We welcome back Bruce CE Fleming as we take a look at other NT verses about men and women and marriage and look at how they have been mistranslated. We talk about how translations of the Bible have been done over the years and how they are often updated when enough research supports that a mistranslation has occurre...
Apr 25, 2022•1 hr
Noah Seback is a non-speaking autistic, self-advocate and Lived Experience Expert who serves the non-speaking community as a Peer Support Specialist through his mentoring business qUirk. He is passionate about access, autonomy, and agency for this too long voiceless and traumatized population. Dr. Holmes welcomes back Noah Setback. You may want to listen to the Sebacks' story on the advocacy for Noah and Noah's introduction to the letterboard in a previous podcast episode. Noah is a non-speaking...
Apr 18, 2022•30 min
Dan and Stephanie interview David Brown. The topic broadly on a marriage that glorifies God with a discussion on what is Biblical "headship" and what it is not. David discusses spiritual initiator-ship not authority. We discuss some nuances in ND Christian Couples on this touchy subject in Christian circles. David Brown reminds us in his counseling practice, "One of the leading causes for divorce is conflict avoidance." We discuss this more and how this is very common in NDCC. Why is conflict av...
Apr 11, 2022•47 min
Join Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Sydney as they start off Autism Acceptance month with Dr. Temple Grandin. Dr. Grandin will be speaking at Converge Autism Summit April 28-29 2022 in Greenville, SC. She is speaking on "The Way I See it." This segment will focus on her ideas and thoughts- the way she sees it- in the realm of young adults and adults on the spectrum transitioning into the world of work. More About Dr. Temple Grandin: Temple Grandin is a professor of animal science at Colorado State Uni...
Apr 04, 2022•23 min
Dr. Stephanie interviews Leslie Vernick. Having heard Leslie speak many times at the American Association of Christian Counselors, Dr. Holmes has used many of Leslie's resources in counseling. Some questions we will dive into today: 1. What is your definition of a Healthy Marriage? 2. How does throwing an autism diagnosis into the mix change the dynamics? What does a healthy marriage look like for NDCCs? 3. When you know that trust needs to be repaired, what are the steps to do that well? 4. Wha...
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 4 min
Join Stephanie and Dan as they interview author and speaker Jude Morrow and they discuss differing journeys of acceptance of autism identification. Stephanie asks Dan and Jude about their neurodiversity identification processes and discuss why it can be difficult for some adults to accept autism as an adult. What's up with ancient Egyptian algebra? About our Guest; Jude Morrow is an autistic best-selling author, entrepreneur, philanthropist and keynote speaker from Derry, Northern Ireland. Jude ...
Mar 21, 2022•46 min
Dr. Holmes and Dr. Hull discussed co-regulation of the brain and the importance of parent brain regulation while parenting a child on the autism spectrum who is dysregulated. When Dr. Holmes was researching co-regulation she wondered about this in marriages such as NDCC. Please check out part 1 to get a full discussion on the basics of co-regulation, as part 2 today will focus on co-regulation for spouses in a NDCC relationship. From Dr. Kevin Hull's blog, he defines co-regulation as: “What is c...
Mar 14, 2022•1 hr 3 min
Dr. Holmes and Dr. Hull discuss co-regulation of the brain and the importance of parent brain regulation while parenting a child on the autism spectrum who is dysregulated. From Dr. Kevin Hull's blog, he defines co-regulation as: “What is co-regulation?” you may ask. Co-regulation is a neuro-relational phenomenon that occurs when two or more brains are in synchronous connection. Basically, the brains are in tune with one another. This attunement brings a sense of connection which translates into...
Mar 07, 2022•59 min
Dr. Holmes heard about this amazing book, Emotional Intelligence in Christ from a video on Lead Like Jesus. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DORFxBJp7E4&t=50s&ab_channel=LeadLikeJesus https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eqk9hTk00Nw&ab_channel=LeadLikeJesus Today Dan and Stephanie are interviewing one of the authors, Lauren E. Miller. About Lauren E. Miller, M.Ed, MSC, ICF-PCC As a stress relief expert, award winning author, motivational speaker, HRD trainer, Edge God In podcast host, and ...
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr
Join Dr. Stephanie Holmes as she interviews SLP, Siobhan Carpenter. We will talk about social pragmatic language and differences in use of language/speech between ND and NT individuals. We reference this article: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1362361320919286 About our Guest: Siobhan Carpenter, MS CCC-SLP has been a speech language pathologist for over 25 years. With a career focus on early intervention, language development, autism, and literacy, she’s served children from birth...
Feb 21, 2022•54 min
Dan and Stephanie talk about the power of love today! In this episode airing on Valentine's day, we talk about a subject of interest and pain to many listeners- navigating holidays and special days in a neurodiverse relationship. We take a look at 1 Corinthians 13 and talk through why days that are meant to celebrate love and romance are challenging for NDCC. Stephanie and Dan share some practical tips and advice on how they have navigated the differences and come to collaborative approaches tha...
Feb 14, 2022•59 min
Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Jeremy Hamburgh, referred to as the Hitch for the autistic and special needs community by The Atlantic in 2013. The article by Rula AL-Nasrawi quotes, "Jeremy Hamburgh is a New York-based dating coach for both neurotypical people and people with disabilities. He’s a Hitch for those who can hardly flirt, and he spends hours hiding behind bookshelves and potted plants in bars and restaurants as his clients attempt to initiate conversation, then offers feedback lat...
Feb 07, 2022•34 min
Dan and Stephanie are leading groups right now on the power of words and reading through the 40-day word fast by Cameron. We will be talking through a few series of the power of words to speak life or death. Talking through some Proverbs and other counsel in Scripture about the importance of words, keeping your word, and how we use language. While it is important to learn new skills and work together, it is important and stop and pause to think, 'What could I be doing better?" or "How am I contr...
Jan 31, 2022•45 min
Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Jeremy Hamburgh, referred to as the Hitch for the autistic and special needs community by The Atlantic in 2013. The article by Rula AL-Nasrawi quotes, "Jeremy Hamburgh is a New York-based dating coach for both neurotypical people and people with disabilities. He’s a Hitch for those who can hardly flirt, and he spends hours hiding behind bookshelves and potted plants in bars and restaurants as his clients attempt to initiate conversation, then offers feedback lat...
Jan 24, 2022•32 min
