Have a Do Nothing Day Topic: The guys dive into the complex challenge of mental rest and the idea of having a “do nothing” day. What does it mean to truly rest, especially for neurodiverse men whose minds rarely stop racing? Main Themes & Takeaways: • Rest vs. Productivity: Many participants admit that even when given free time, they struggle to stop doing. Rest often becomes just another task to accomplish. • Making Rest Intentional: Some found that designating rest as a “task” (e.g., the d...
Jul 16, 2025•54 min
Today, Dr. Stephanie & Barb discuss the differences in reasons for divorce between men and women when they divorce. Dr. Stephanie interviews Barb about her two divorces in neurodiverse marriages. Other discussion points: Why is divorce so stigmatized in the Church? Are there differences in the reasons men and women divorce, based on a Stanford University study on divorce? Is abuse a biblical reason for divorce? Does Malachi 2:16 say God hates divorce or the impact of it? How do we love those...
Jul 14, 2025•1 hr 4 min
In our book, Uniquely Us, Stephanie uses the phrase: 'It was a tale of two marriages.' Dan's was going okay, and Stephanie's was not. We discuss the transition from our NC marriage to our GA marriage, from parallel lives and experiences to building a shared life of experiences. Our uniquely us may look different from your uniquely u and that is okay! We talk about conflict resolution, and Stephanie completes the 50 states quest. Watch the YouTube when it comes out to see pictures of the amazing ...
Jul 07, 2025•48 min
Have you been taught that all emotions except joy are bad? That you need to "count it all joy" in such a way that in your church or religious circles emotions were taught as bad or good, Christians don't have big emotions like sadness, anger, or fear? Today is not a discussion like that!. Dr. Stephanie & Dan talk with Chris & Jen Coursey about REAL joy, and that joy is not a choice, and that joy does not mean denying or diminishing other emotions. Join our discussion today to learn: Joy ...
Jun 30, 2025•55 min
In this insightful episode of Neurodiverse Christian Couples, hosts Stephanie and Dan welcome Ed Khouri, President of Equipping Hearts for the Harvest and author of "Becoming a Face of Grace." Together, they explore the crucial interplay between grace and joy, clarifying how genuine grace—being seen as special and favored without earning it—naturally leads to joy, the gladness of being together. Can you have grace AND have boundaries? What about the phrase, "Just give me grace." The conversation...
Jun 23, 2025•59 min
🧠 Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking conversation, Dan sits down with Dr. Jeff Holsclaw, co-author (with his wife, Cyd Holsclaw) of Does God Really Like Me? Discovering the God Who Wants to Be With Me. This episode dives deep into the transformative idea that God not only loves us but also genuinely delights in being with us—and what that means for our theology, relationships, and everyday life. Geoff shares the journey of shifting from a theological framework focused solely on God’s lo...
Jun 18, 2025•51 min
Many couples who receive a later in life identification of autism or neurodiversity in marriage come to couples' work traumatized. In addition, we may come to marriage with our own unresolved trauma from life! How does unresolved or unprocessed trauma impact your neurodiverse marriage? We will be discussing that today with Dr. Karl Lehman. About our Guest: Dr. Karl Lehman is a board-certified psychiatrist with twenty-five years and more than 40,000 hours of clinical experience. He has worked ten...
Jun 16, 2025•1 hr
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Jun 09, 2025•46 min
This month is focused on neuroscience and your neurodiverse marriage! This entire month, we have elements brought in from LifeModel Works, Deeper Walk Ministries & Thrive Trainings, and those who are ministry partner friends! Today is Amy H. Glazer. Our topic begins with Fear Bonds, and we took some questions that you, the listeners, had on this that include: How to reduce the intensity of fear bonds when in a relationship that has ongoing trauma or reminders of the fear bonds? How do you pr...
Jun 02, 2025•58 min
Discussion: Join Dr. Stephanie and Meredith Sinclair of Life Behavior Consulting to discuss how communication skills are key to relational skills and meaningful connections. Today, we discuss how to assess social interest, discern if someone is genuine or manipulative, cyber safety skills, and find sources of friendships. About the Guest: Speaker Biography: Meredith Sinclair is the Executive Director/Founder of LIFE Behavior Consulting, LLC. Meredith holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Cou...
May 26, 2025•48 min
Discussion: Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Dr. Sean Hirt discuss their clinical training and how neither was trained in neurodiversity despite the update in thinking about the Autism Spectrum (DSM-IV Asperger's). Dr. Holmes and Dr. Hirt discuss that applying neurotypical marriage models to Neurodiverse couples is not only not helpful but potentially harmful. Dr. Hirt discusses the role of the central nervous system and its impact on regulation and how typical marriage work may disrupt both partners. H...
May 19, 2025•48 min
Welcome back to Just the Guys, where a handful of neurodiverse men get real about growth, relationships, and life post-diagnosis — all without a script, but with a ton of heart. In this reflective and candid episode, the guys dive into the evolution of their emotional intelligence and how their journeys have led to stronger relationships, especially with their partners and kids. The catalyst? A missed celebrity interview and a realization: if flying fish exist, maybe change and empathy aren’t so...
May 14, 2025•1 hr 3 min
Today, we discuss the newly released book aimed at NeuroDiverse Christian Couples and Coaches! Dr. Stephanie & Barbara discuss Uniquely US: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of NeuroDiverse Marriage. We will talk about the research that went into the book and how clergy, chaplains, coaches, counselors, and clinicians can use this book along with a workbook and videos for ND Christian Couples! Where can you order the book? https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/uniquelyus Download the Fre...
May 12, 2025•51 min
What does it mean to be naked and unashamed? Did your mind first go to sex? That is part of it in a literal sense, but being 'naked and ashamed' also means being vulnerable with each other and not afraid. By the time couples find out about their neurodiversity, there are toxic patterns, and friendship is lost because everyone is focused on their own needs and what is missing. I often wonder if couples even like each other anymore or just on the this religious quest for the marriage some pastor o...
May 05, 2025•1 hr
Continuing our Autism Acceptance Month, today Dr. Stephanie interviews Dani Bowman from Love on the Spectrum. We will talk about her involvement with the show and how she built her company, DaniMation. Guest: Dani Bowman,BFA, MBA President, DaniMation Entertainment Dani Bowman, who is on the autism spectrum, founded her company, DaniMation Entertainment, in 2009. Over the years, she has spearheaded summer animation camps and conducted personalized online 1:1 sessions, diligently educating, eleva...
Apr 28, 2025•33 min
For Autism Acceptance and Action Month, we are focusing on the autistic experience. Today, our guests are Kim Clairy, OTR/L, and her husband, William. Kim will be a speaker at the 2025 Converge Autism Summit. Today, Dr. Stephanie talks with Kim about autism and sensory issues and how an occupational therapist can help. About our Guest: Kim Clairy OTR/L is a Brenau University graduate with a BS/MS in occupational therapy. Kim has been invited to share her expertise on autism with over 100 organiz...
Apr 21, 2025•56 min
In this episode of 'Just the Guys,' Jeremy and Dan pivot from their original plan due to an unexpected airline mishap, turning the moment into a meaningful exploration of their personal and professional insights on coaching from an autistic perspective. They delve into what makes effective coaching, highlighting the importance of adaptability, openness to change, and focusing on potential rather than limitations. The conversation emphasizes the courage required to question long-held beliefs and ...
Apr 16, 2025•40 min
It is Autism Acceptance and Action Month, and we have Dave Glick as our guest neurodivergent coach and clinician. Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barbara ask David a few questions about behaviors. We ask: Can you differentiate freeze and fawning? What are your thoughts on pervasive demand avoidance? What behaviors can actually change? Can those on the spectrum learn regulation and relational skills? About our Guest & Colleague: Dave writes on his website: https://triadpsych.org/therapists/david-gli...
Apr 14, 2025•49 min
Join Dr. Stephanie and Tiffany in an interactive discussion that will help you delve deeper into understanding your rights as a parent with a school-age child with disabilities. You will have a solid understanding of the variety of support plans, how to navigate the school teams, and how to ensure your child gets everything they need to succeed in school! About our Guest: Tiffany Yandle is a non-attorney Special Education Advocate and President of In Bloom Advocacy. She has a 15+ year history of...
Apr 07, 2025•45 min
We all want a marriage that feels like home. We long for a partner who is there for us through all of life's challenges and griefs, who is in on all our inside jokes, who delights in the family we've built together, who looks with hope toward the future with a shared faith and an arm firmly around our shoulders. But how do we get there? What actually works in the real world and honors the picture of marriage found in Scripture? Based on the findings of their meticulous research, Sheila Wray Greg...
Mar 31, 2025•53 min
Today, Dr. Stephanie is joined by Dan to talk with Dr. Naseef about the impact of passive or engaged fathers on children, especially their autistic children. Dr. Naseef discusses the psyche of a man and how to engage fathers for a positive impact on their marriage, family system, and the autistic child. About our Guest: Robert Naseef, Ph.D., has a distinct voice as a psychologist and father of an autistic adult son. He has spoken nationwide and trained professionals internationally in treating a...
Mar 24, 2025•48 min
Join Dr. Stephanie and Dr. Saulnier as they discuss her presentation on broadening the autism spectrum at the Converge Autism Summit. They will discuss: The key features of autism How Autism symptoms are expressed differently in male and female The role of racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic disparities in misdiagnosis of autism Common overlaps and differential diagnosis What if someone being assessed doesn't want to be on the spectrum? What do clinicians need to know? Bio: Dr. Saulnier obtained h...
Mar 17, 2025•56 min
In this lively conversation, the “Just the Guys” team explores how crucial context can be—whether you’re deciphering a strange image, navigating a complex relationship, or fielding unexpected life events. They kick things off by sharing news of the new book *Uniquely Us* and then dive into fascinating parallels between fooling AI systems with “adversarial examples” and how our assumptions can mislead us in everyday life. By using an analogy of seeing a “penguin in the desert” (something bizarre ...
Mar 12, 2025•44 min
Today on Coaches' Corner, Dr. Stephanie & Barb Grant, MMFT, talks with Bob Hamp about abuse and recovering from abuse. What is Abuse? When does a relationship become abusive? How do you recover from that abuse from a victim mindset to a healing and recovery mindset? Today, we ask: What is abuse? Can both partners be abusive? How do you change your mindset from a victim of abuse to a survivor and healed from abuse? How does the church and Christian onlookers help or hinder? What are some inte...
Mar 10, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Do you and your spouse have constant communication misfires? As the ND spouse, do you feel interrupted, falsely accused, and often confused about what you said or did that was hurtful to your spouse? As the non-autistic spouse, do you feel unheard, dismissed, that issues remain unsolved, and when the relationship has a rupture, there is no repair? These cycles leave couples frustrated, and by leaving issues unresolved, issues will leave a chasm of disconnection and unresolved issues. Dan & S...
Mar 03, 2025•53 min
Today, Dr. Stephanie talks with Dr. Natalie about Autism, Burnout, Depression, and Suicidality. Dr. Natalie Engelbrecht is a clinician in Canada and was diagnosed later in life with both ASD and ADHD. Dr. Natalie will break down burnout, depression, suicidality, and the suicide gene. Did you know in bee hives there are NT and AS bees? Topics We Discussed: Burnout Suicide Gene Depression Protective Factors Links you may find helpful: Autistic Burnout Construct https://embrace-autism.com/autistic-...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 9 min
Part 2! Some of you had questions for Drs. Jeff and Mary so we had them back? Drs. Jeff and Mary are back to discuss therapeutic separation, addiction, autism, and healing! Some of you had questions, and some of you had criticism, and they are discussed today! Listen to part one here: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/autism-addiction-healing-with-therapeutic-separation-s-with-drs-jeff-mary-jones--62412733 Find Dr. Mary at: Dr. Mary Jones believes there is greatness in each of us and is passionat...
Feb 17, 2025•1 hr
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Feb 10, 2025•50 min
Dan and Stephanie start their discussion with the book Building Bounce: How to Grow in Emotional Resilience by Warner & Hinman. For more resources on this, go to www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com Group Resources—Bounce. We have put together a video for every chapter of Bounce. The key elements of building resilience are knowing your weight, not breaking under that weight, and building capacity. You can do this through key practices: quitting, appreciation/joy, beliefs and expectations, a...
Feb 03, 2025•53 min
