Brandon talks with Dr. Kenneth Adams about the signs of enmeshment, emotional incest, and red flag dysfunctional family dynamics. Plus they discuss, codependency, surrogate companions, boundaries, and warning signs that your partners apple may not fall far from the tree. *** TRIGGER WARNING - Non Sexual and Sexual Incest is briefly discussed in this episode. *** Dr. Kenneth Adams' website is https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% of...
Jan 14, 2022•57 min
Brandon talks with Erika Guest (Behavioral Therapist) about the behavior shaping techniques used by abusive narcissists to condition their victims for long-term abuse. Using clips from the survivor series episodes, Erika and Brandon break down the techniques and how to recognize when the abusive narcissist is using them against you. Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% off your purchase of socks, underwear, and t-shirts. Bombas donates an item to a homeless shelter f...
Jan 07, 2022•2 hr 4 min
Brandon talks with Aszul about her toxic relationship with a rage filled narcissist. It's a story of triangulation, open relationships, creating problems that don’t exist, and caretaking. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, patterns of abuse, hypocrisy, invalidation, projection, hoovering, bonding over trauma, mind reading, victim playing, boundaries, control, and much more. Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% off your purchase of socks, underwear, and t-shirts. Bombas ...
Jan 03, 2022•1 hr 53 min
Brandon talks with Erika Guest about Transactional Analysis Theory and how to identify past/future forms of coercive control with a toxic narcissist. By analyzing real text conversations using Transactional Analysis, Brandon and Erika give you a new set of tools in your healing process and fight against domestic violence. A fun and informative episode. Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% off your purchase of socks, underwear, and t-shirts. Bombas donates an item to ...
Dec 31, 2021•1 hr 28 min
Brandon talks with Alisa Stamps (LCSW) about the Top 12 Hoovering Tactics of a Toxic Narcissist & Narcissistic Abuse. Plus they discuss, threats, self harm, love bombing, future faking, faith based abuse, and much more. Alisa's website can be found at https://www.alisastamps.com/ Thank you to our sponsor HELLOFRESH. Go to HelloFresh.com/nap14 and use code nap14 for up to 14 free meals AND 3 free gifts! Enjoy America’s #1 Meal Kit today! Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online...
Dec 24, 2021•54 min
Brandon talks with 22 about growing up with a competitive physically abusive narcissistic mother. It’s a story of physical abuse, shame, hyper vigilance, self forgiveness, and the healing process. Plus they discuss, triggers, taking your power back, pride, Tara Brach, Brene Brown, insinuation, story telling, fear of judgement, being voiceless, and much more. This is an unconventional episode with a little bit of a different structure. *** Trigger Warning - This episode discusses graphic depictio...
Dec 20, 2021•1 hr 40 min
Brandon talks with Julie L. Hall (Author, Researcher & Coach) about 15 bizarre and maddening things a toxic narcissist does to control you. Plus they discuss, body issues, trauma, narcissistic families, emotional abuse, gaslighting, and much more. Julie can be reached at https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/ Thank you to our sponsor HELLOFRESH. Go to HelloFresh.com/nap14 and use code nap14 for up to 14 free meals AND 3 free gifts! Enjoy America’s #1 Meal Kit today! Thank you to our sponsor BETT...
Dec 17, 2021•1 hr
Brandon talks with Roman about his marriage to a narcissistic chameleon that used a bluff and smear campaign against him. It's a story of mirroring, facades, victim playing, threats, triangulation, and the normalization of chaos. Plus they discuss, fear, obligation, guilt, reverse confessions, parallel parenting, gps tracking, recording devices, circular arguments, gaslighting, baiting, reactive abuse, and much more. *** For our female listeners, Roman has a very calm demeanor and is very sweet ...
Dec 13, 2021•1 hr 43 min
Brandon talks with Julie L. Hall (Author, Researcher & Coach) about the unspoken rules of engagement in the narcissistic family and the effect on future relationships. Plus they discuss, attachment trauma, narcissist behavior, perfectionism, people pleasing, codependency, the normalization of chaos, emotions, vulnerability, depression, boundaries, CPTSD, disconnecting from your body, and much more. Julie can be reached at https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/ Thank you to our sponsor HELLOFRESH...
Dec 10, 2021•1 hr 7 min
Brandon talks to Heira about her physically & verbally abusive relationship to a narcissistic addict. It’s a story of narcissist rage, victim playing, infidelity, fear of judgement, and the hope for change. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, fear, shame, guilt, embarrassment, boundaries, justification, trauma, ptsd, memory gaps, depression, no contact, isolation, anxiety, people pleasing, and much more. ***TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses graphic depictions of physical abuse and has gra...
Dec 06, 2021•1 hr 41 min
Brandon talks with Tracy Malone (Author & International Educator) about the top 10 signs of a covert narcissist & covert narcissistic parents, passive aggressive behavior, and her new book 'Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up'. Plus they discuss, ruminating thoughts, trusting yourself again, gaslighting, smear campaigns, gossip, and much more. Tracy Malone's website can be at https://narcissistabusesupport.com/ Tracy's new book 'Divorcing a Narcissist' can be purchased...
Dec 03, 2021•1 hr 9 min
Brandon talks to J.D. McCabe (Abuse Survivor & Author) about his shockingly true memoir 'The Third Gift: My Dance With The Devil & Her Mother and all of the abuse manipulation tactics that he endured. J.D. maintained a loving relationship with his wife for nearly twenty years before the underpinnings of their marriage, family, and world began to crumble. One day, for reasons Danny could not fathom, his wife became suspicious of his every move. Phone calls, text messages, and work emails ...
Dec 01, 2021•57 min
Brandon talks with Lotus about enmeshing with her controlling narcissistic parents. Lotus' story hits all the hallmarks of a romantic abuse/coercive control story, and as her story unfolds, the similarities between the manipulation tactics are impossible to deny. Lotus is 19 and the youngest person to be a guest on our show. However, she's very quotable throughout and wise beyond her years. ***TRIGGER WARING - Physical abuse is briefly discussed on the episode*** Thank you to our sponsor "Operat...
Nov 29, 2021•1 hr 48 min
Brandon talks with Sabrina Victoria (Narcissistic Abuse Coach) about the shame of being in an abusive relationship & why intermittent reinforcement, criticizing, and accusations work so well as manipulation tactics. You can visit Sabrina's website my visiting https://www.herversion.life/ To hear Sabrina's survivor story as Valentina, click here. Thank you to our sponsor "Operator". Follow “Operator” on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wonder...
Nov 26, 2021•50 min
Brandon talks with Penelope about her sexually coercive marriage to a physical abuser. It’s a story of de-escalation modes, proving yourself, IPV, narcissistic rage, mixed messages about money, and the relationship with your body. Plus they discuss, people pleasing, caretaking, anger, future faking, escape plans, stability, sexual boundaries, swinging, gaslighting, bullying, fear, obligation, one way streets, emotional needs, and much more. ***TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses sexual coer...
Nov 22, 2021•1 hr 42 min
Brandon. talks with Christine Cocchiola (LCSW) about who is the perfect prey for a toxic narcissist, post separation abuse, and how an abuser uses coercive control within the court system. Plus they discuss, schema therapy, the enneagram, subjugation, Evan Stark, cognitive dissonance, subjugation, counter parenting, and much more. ***The views and opinions expressed by guests on our podcast, do not necessarily reflect the official policy, views, and opinions of the podcast. Please do no use the ...
Nov 19, 2021•1 hr 13 min
Brandon talks with Cassandra about her marriage to a charming Christian rage filled abuser. It’s a story of threats, using kids as pawns, shame, the broken court system, and smear campaigns. Plus they discuss, belief systems, people pleasing, energy healing, gaslighting, name calling, mirroring, bonding over trauma, control disguised as protection, trusting your gut, isolation, manipulation, bullying, court, custody, trauma, parental alienation, Disneyland Dads, jail, fixing, and much more. *** ...
Nov 15, 2021•1 hr 43 min
Brandon talks with Michele Rosenthal (Trauma Recovery Specialist) about healing from narcissistic abuse and domestic violence trauma. Plus they discuss identity issues and Michele's own trauma journey. You can reach Michele Rosenthal at her website https://www.mytraumacoach.com/ Thank you to our sponsor "Operator". Follow “Operator” on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App. Thank you to our sponsor Bl...
Nov 12, 2021•1 hr 21 min
Brandon talks with Saturday about her abusive marriage to an unhinged narcissist. It's a story of threats, reactive abuse, stalking, smear campaigns, shame, divorce, and the safety of a step child. Plus they discuss, addiction, mental health, control, fight or flight, protection orders, court, blame shifting, financial abuse, being held hostage in arguments, trauma, PTSD, shame, guilt, rage, verbal abuse, fake suicides, panic attacks, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses p...
Nov 08, 2021•2 hr 24 min
Brandon talks with Korina Jochim (LMFT) about coercive control, systemic abuse, gaining back the trust of your children, the silent treatment, and unwinding belief systems. Plus they discuss, the importance of documenting, Physical Episodic Violence Framework vs. Emotional Long-Term Abuse Framework, and escape plans. Korina can be found at https://www.portlandtherapycenter.com and at https://abuseisntlove.com/ Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in th...
Nov 05, 2021•55 min
Brandon talks with Neely about her toxic marriage to a cheating narcissist. It's a story of narcissistic in-laws, smear campaigns, reactive abuse, and begging for love. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, compassion, sexual assault, loneliness, future faking, liars, love bombing, believing the lies you are told, self doubt, secrets, financial abuse, enabling, PTSD, Infidelity, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses sexual assault and victim blaming. *** Thank you to our sponsor ...
Nov 01, 2021•2 hr 5 min
Brandon & Vienna talk with Mark Vicente ('What The Bleep Do We Know?' & 'The Vow'), about his new documentary, covert narcissistic abuse, spiritual narcissism, surviving the the cult of NXIVM, psychopaths, and the experience of waking up. Plus they discuss, enmeshment, the dark night of the soul, the enneagram, natal charts, Stranger Things, and much more. To be a participant in Mark's new documentary, share your story by going to https://www.markvicente.com/yourstory or click here. Than...
Oct 29, 2021•1 hr 44 min
Brandon talks with Judy about her fairy tale 15 year marriage that turned into a nightmare with a covert narcissist. It's a story of betrayal trauma, infidelity, financial abuse, PTSD, love fraud, and stolen memories. Plus they discuss, codependency, trust, mask slipping, gaslighting, forgiveness, suicidal ideation, intimate partner violence, lies, PTSD, court abuse, bankruptcy, emotional abuse, narcissism, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses intimate partner violence and...
Oct 25, 2021•2 hr 22 min
Brandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about codependency vs. narcissism, shame vs. guilt, self acceptance, & intimacy. Plus they discuss, perfectionism, compulsion, core feelings, abandonment, emotional availability, imposter syndrome, and much more. They even have a giggle when Brandon realizes he has more issues than he thought. ***There are a few different types of sounds due to audio changes and a very brief plane noise in the background that we didn't hear while recording. Our apolog...
Oct 22, 2021•52 min
Brandon talks with Ethel about her physically abusive relationship with a violent narcissist who used their PTSD as an excuse for everything. It’s a story of victim playing, infidelity, guilt, shame, emotional abuse, and the power of persuasion. Plus they discuss, people pleasing, care taking, failure, body issues, mirroring, gaslighting, future faking, child abuse, sexual abuse, CPTSD, rage, reverse psychology, fear, financial abuse, push/pulls, tantrums, cancer, self doubt, animal abuse, trian...
Oct 18, 2021•2 hr 6 min
Brandon talks with High Conflict Divorce Coach & Consultant, Tina Swithin about her experience with post separation abuse, self representation, legal abuse, domestic violence, manipulation, and stalking. Plus they discuss, financial abuse, filing motions, counter parenting, family court, teaching children boundaries, parental alienation, neglectful parenting, dealing with a narcissist, domestic violence, and much more. You can find everything Tina Swithin mentioned on the show at https://www...
Oct 15, 2021•1 hr 1 min
Brandon talks with Kinsey about her abusive relationship with a psychologically abusive narcissist. It's a story of financial abuse, infidelity, victim playing, loss of individuality, CPTSD, manipulation, and that something was wrong. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, trauma bonds, love addiction, shame, control, depression, nightmares, self worth, people pleasing, silent treatment, dangling carrots, betrayal, lies, disappearing acts, questioning reality, push/pulls, and more. Thank you to our spo...
Oct 11, 2021•2 hr 11 min
Brandon and his old pal Melissa, listen and read letters that our community sent in about domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, toxic families, betrayal, and more. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. *** If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library...
Oct 08, 2021•1 hr 17 min
Brandon talks with Adelaide about her 10 year toxic relationship with a dehumanizing wealthy narcissist abuser. It’s a story of financial abuse, isolation, infidelity, neglect, threats, and that something was wrong. Plus they discuss, custody, intimate partner violence, codependency, people pleasing, being a fixer, celebrities, extreme wealth, self made people, being vouched for, death threats, dangling carrots, future faking, nit picking, gut feelings, gaslighting, feeling seen. victim playing,...
Oct 04, 2021•1 hr 56 min
Brandon talks with psychotherapist and author of The Gaslighting Recovery Journal, Alisa Stamps, about recognizing and healing from gaslighting and emotional abuse. Plus they discuss, Golden Child vs. Scapegoat, narcissistic abuse, internal family systems, Gestalt therapy, and doing the work. You can find Alisa Stamps at https://www.alisastamps.com/ You can purchase The Gaslighting Recovery Journal by clicking here. Alisa's Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/alisastamps.therapist/?hl=en Than...
Oct 01, 2021•52 min
