Privacy When We Work Together

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Let's talk about privacy. Let's talk about privacy. Privacy. Let's talk about all the privacy and what it means for you and me and why are we talking about privacy? Why is it important? Because it's so important. And I view privacy. Like I view. Boundaries now, sort of. Okay, let's just get into it.

So a boundary, from my perspective, is about what I will and will not do if something in my space is not honored the way that I need it for myself, for my personal safety, for me to thrive in the world. We all have boundaries. Our house has a boundary. The street has a boundary. It's because it's providing a service. It's creating an environment that is conducive for flow and harmony and thriving and protection and warmth and all these things, right?

So boundaries are these spaces created to literally support in an environment for life to thrive. So if you look at a boundary like that and then bring in the word privacy and connect those two, let's pretend that they're the same thing, which for me they are.

So privacy is super important and I initiated this episode because I was wanted to definitely communicate that when women, when people work with me, their privacy is honored. And what does that mean? It means that I don't share their name with people. Even if I know they know someone, I don't say, oh, hey, Tiffany came to my retreat. I don't do that. I don't share with people even if I know they know each other. I keep that private. I honor their boundary.

They came to the retreat, they had their experience and if they want to share with their friend with someone, they get to choose to do that. And it's my job or my personal commitment to honor that. And, and it doesn't matter why, you know, like maybe somebody doesn't really care that you might, you know, like, oh, it might be like, oh, hey, so and so came here, maybe some people wouldn't care about that. And, but that's not the point.

The point is, is that unless I have permission to share about someone, to share their story, to share that they came, like, I'm not going to do it. And everything is personal and intimate because oftentimes people say, oh, can I share something personal with you? And it's like everything in my perspective is personal. Tiffany coming to a retreat, by the way, there is no Tiffany. I just made up the name Tiffany in this conversation.

Tiffany coming to the retreat is personal and it's not up to me to let the people in her life know that she came is just not. I look at it too, like there's another layer. It's a really vulnerable space, like being naked. We're doing lots of different practices like yoni massage, like literally using our own hands to enter our yonis and to gaze at our own yonis and do different non sexual touch practices, working with plants. Like it doesn't matter what we're doing really.

And we're in this vulnerable space in our naked bodies and encapsulated for me is this medicine of healing sexual trauma and knowing that we all have these different layers. And so it's, it's supposed to be a space that's safe and a part of that safety is honoring the privacy of the individuals coming. And for me it's not just about people that I work with, it's about my life. You know, I'm not interested in talking about other people.

I actually grew up in a town where so many people, like, that's what they do. And I just remember thinking like one, I didn't like it and two, like there's much more to life than this that was a little sidebar. But it's a part of, like, why this matters to me so much. And, you know, I have women who approach me, have a conversation with me, and they want to ensure that they can be private when they come. Like, there's no photographs of their face shown publicly. Really, that's. That's mostly it.

They just want to make sure that, like, they're not going to be seen naked online somewhere. Then that's also a part of another conversation talking about retreat photography. But side note, no photography is mandatory. And if women want to honor their autonomy and their privacy, then I don't share any photographs of them of their face that gets to be honored.

And it's also because nudity is taboo, sexuality is taboo. Like, these things that are so innate are taboo. And reining it back to privacy, it's important for healing. So in order to actually open more, we have to know where the boundaries are and that we're safe within that boundary. And for us to be able to open, to let go, to be messy, to be ugly, to say things, to sound like things, to move our body in a. In any way that it needs to, we have to know that there's a boundary.

And we have to have to trust that our boundary is going to be intact. And so if you ever work with me, if you ever come on my podcast and you want to use a pseudonym, you know, you want a nom de blume, I just want to say that on this episode, nom de blume, which means it's not what your given name is or the name that you go by, like, it gets to be honored. The thing that I only ask for in life, the only thing I ask for in life is authenticity. That's it.

So you can use a fake name, but there's a commitment to being transparent and authentic in your sharing. Again, privacy is hella important. It's a boundary, and without your permission, it's a violation of your boundary. And I can. I can ask for permission, right? We can all ask each other for permission. Like, hey, can I share this experience that you had with a friend of mine? I think it would really make a difference for her. And we wait and we listen to what the person has to say.

They can say yes, they can say no, or they can say maybe. Can you tell me a little bit more? Can say, hey, would you like to share your story on my podcast? And they can say yes, they can say no. Say, hey, can I thank you know, the friend that referred you to my retreat? Can I thank them and say, thank you so much for sending Tiffany, for sharing my retreat with Tiffany. And they can say yes or no. And I've had that happen.

I've gotten referrals and I just have a check in and I say, hey, can I thank so and so for you coming? And they get to choose yes or no. And that is a lot different energy. When we check in with people and we give them permission with their. Where their.

Where's your boundary? Does this feel okay to you? Does it not feel okay to you? I check in with women like, can I share these photographs of your face or your hands or, you know, like your lower back? And you know you can't see your face, but can I, you know, you're hugging. Can I share this like this? And they either say yes or no or they say, yeah, actually, could you crop that a little differently? So it's just about checking in and seeing where people are at and honoring boundaries.

So, yeah, I give a damn. And we're complete for now. And privacy. Just knowing and trusting that who you are, how you are, is honored. And we are complete for now. I won't share with anyone that you listen to this episode, but I don't know if you did or not. Okay, bye for now. Thank you for tuning your consciousness to this episode of the Naked Human.

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