Healing Sexual Trespass With Nudity

How does being nude in nature and with other nude people help aid healing as a survivor of sexual assault slash childhood sexual assault? And I'm going to answer this in the way that I can answer it, obviously based on my own experiences and why this space is held to heal, to tend to the wound of sexual trauma. Thank you for tuning in your consciousness to the Naked Human podcast. I want to acknowledge your presence and what it took for you to to be here today listening.

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Find what you didn't know you needed. This podcast is about what it means. To be a human being and what it really means to be naked and how our relationship with Mother Nature has the power to heal us. My name is Carrie Cai and I'm a nude nature photographer, licensed physician of Chinese medicine, plant guide and wild woman embodiment mentor.

I help women heal from sexual trauma, awaken their authentic voice, and distinguish between fear and intuition so they can be led by their deep feminine heart. I bring to life in this podcast my own internal wisdom. I will only share what I've learned and experienced on a personal level. As you listen, I encourage you to take from this what you need and just trash the rest. So happy listening. So I received a really great question from one of my Instagram followers, Superwoman.

We're gonna connect to in this conversation. And just a little side note, if you have a question for me or you would like me to speak more deeply into something, you can DM me on any of the social media platforms that we're on together. You can also send me an email@caricariecot.com okay, so question is, how does being nude in nature and with other nude people help aid healing as a survivor of a sexual assault slash childhood sexual assault?

And I'm going to answer this in the way that I can answer it, obviously based on my own experiences and why this space is held to heal, to tend to the wound of sexual trauma. And immediately what was there for me when I received this question was just my own personal experience and having access to that in how being naked, period, being naked in nature and being naked with other people in different scenarios has been healing for me. So if we look at sexual trauma, it is a trespass.

Your body is this boundary and a trespass is when somebody violates a boundary. So we're going to look at it this way. Is that your, your body is this physical boundary barrier and, and there is a trespass, meaning that someone or multiple someones have gone beyond the boundary of your body without receiving consent, without receiving an agreement. So there's a no trespassing sign. Imagine we've all experienced and know what no trespassing means.

So there's a sign and people indicate, this is my property and no trespassing. So your body is your property. We'll just look at it like this. And you have a no trespassing sign. A no trespassing sign doesn't mean that people are not allowed to go on the property. It doesn't mean that people are not welcome to engage with your body and touch you and hug you and hold your hand and to have sexual experiences with you.

It means that unless I've given you my consent, my word, my agreement, this is a no trespassing space. And really, when I say this out loud, I think, like, that's what's so for all of us, right? Like, unless we've given. Given others permission, like, it doesn't inherently exist. So a trespass is this violation to our beingness, to our body, which we are so deeply connected with. Yes. We're not our body, we're not our thoughts, we're not our emotions.

And we live and experience this life through this wonderful physical vessel called our body. So it is a part of us. We feel when our elbow is touched, we feel when our cheek is touched. We are connected. So just clarifying that. So in this experience, how being naked. So it's just like, not safe, right? Like, I didn't give you consent. I didn't say yes to this. And maybe I did say no, but that wasn't honored.

Like, whatever the specific scenario is, there's this experience, and these are my words from my personal experience, is that I'm not safe. I'm not safe in this body. It's not safe for me to be in the type of body that I am in. For example, I'm in a female body. So it's like being a woman isn't safe. Having a female body isn't safe. Having specific parts of my body, my, my breast, my lips, my mouth, whatever, is not a safe space.

Because if it was, then I, like, these things wouldn't have happened. And there becomes this association with the, the self because there's a lot of shame. So it's like my body, who I am, isn't. Isn't safe.

So for me, when I first, like in the experience of being naked in an environment with other people, I have an episode on this about nudity and bondage, which is a personal share of mine, which was really really, really pivotal in the work that I'm doing now and, and helping me tend to sexual violations in just a, another layer, in a different layer. So I first want to touch on the part about, like when we're with others.

So if the, the wound is about being with others and not feeling safe, and not feeling safe in our body, an antidote to that is being in an environment of vulnerability that we can feel safe with, with others, to reprogram, to heal, to connect with this part of ourselves that is hurt, that's wounded, that's tender, that's hiding, that's trying to protect. So removing clothing, there's such, this collapse with being naked and sex. So like nudity equaling sex is a huge, huge programming.

And so by removing clothing in itself exposes us, can be super, incredibly vulnerable. It has been for me, one of the thoughts and spaces that I've moved through within myself is if I'm naked, that sends a signal that I'm available for sex. And also this experience of that makes me susceptible and sends a message that people can touch me, that like I'm open and, and I'm available for what others want to do with my body. Like that's the messaging that's there.

Like your, the body doesn't inherently belong to you. It's a susceptible space that makes you vulnerable. So getting naked in itself presses on that wound, presses on that tender space where the, where trauma is held. And I also just want to bring in that there's an art to this in the way of paying attention to your own personal journey with the medicine of nudity, with the medicine of being naked in nature, and with the medicine of being naked in spaces with other human beings.

Because we all have growth edges and we also have edges that are way too fucking far for us. And then we have comfort spaces where we're not even like stretching. So whatever I share, just listen for the pieces that you need. I'm not advising you to do it in any particular or non particular way. So being naked creates an opportunity to be with something. It's vulnerable, it's uncomfortable if you haven't been doing it. And even if you have been doing it, there are still edges.

Like there's a never ending journey of layers upon layers upon layers of tending and expanding greater into ourselves. So in the experience where I was in an environment with a group of people naked, there was also a boundary of no sex. It wasn't spoken, but it was there. And that was really yummy inside my body. And at the time I didn't I didn't like analyze it. I just. It was a fucking edge for me.

So if the trauma, the wound is with other people, going into an environment where you feel safe and where there are boundaries as it relates to sex.

As it relates. Yeah, I was going to say sexuality, but that's not it. It's sex. Being violated, that energy. So if you can go into an environment with other people, then that creates an opportunity to heal that wound. Because the. Literally, the brain has a programming that being with other people isn't safe if this happened with a specific gender. So, like, being with men isn't safe. Being feeling sexual energy in the presence with men isn't safe.

Being naked in the experience with men isn't safe. That's my own example.

So going into environments where you're leaning into that actually starts to reprogram and you get to feel into the places where the trauma is stuck, where that moment in time got frozen inside of your body, inside of your emotional body, your physical body, your energetic body, and then you begin to touch those places within yourself by exploring these different types of experiences because you're reprogramming that it is safe to be in your own body.

And in my own experience, what has happened is I've had to show up for myself in these spaces and hold that version of myself and say, I'm here, I'm not leaving you. Because what I've discovered in my own personal journey is I leave this scenario, I leave my body. And things happened with my body, I left. And then I didn't process and feel anything about that. I just stuffed it down. So I left me in those scenarios as well.

And there's blame and there's judgment and there's all these different things. So for me, I've connected with this part of me and held, felt process through my body, through emotions and communicated that I'm here, I'm not going anywhere. And only do that. I've only done that because it's what's really fucking truly there for me. Like I'm fucking here now. I can see this. I'm. I'm kind of, I'm feeling it.

I. I'm touch this space within myself and just holding myself, holding myself, like reclaiming, retrieving this part of me. And I've experienced so much of it through exposing. That's just the word that's there is exposing. Exposing my naked body in environments and places that feel really fucking vulnerable. Being outside and being naked can be vulnerable. I mean, it is.

I mean, there's Bugs, there's mosquitoes, all sorts of things that you could get scratched and poked and depending on the environment. So there's lots of different environments you can be naked in. They present different things. So the first time that I went to a nude beach, and actually multiple times I went to a nude beach, I went by myself. Like, that invites a different layer of healing than when I'm, you know, at home with where my cabin is. I live in the woods.

I cannot see anybody, any houses. I have my own private space. That is a different layer than going to a public nude beach. It's a different layer. Going to a public nude beach by myself and going with a friend. And then it's a different layer of attending a women's only nude nature retreat, which I facilitate. They all provide different layers to healing. And there's a layer of shame that comes with wearing clothing, that comes with having a pussy, having any genitalia, all fucking genitalia.

Like, that is just a place of shame, regardless of what your gender is. There's shame that comes with having breasts. There's just a shame of the human body in itself. So this becomes an opportunity to remove, to reveal, and to lean into those spaces and then to invite other people into that space then becomes another opportunity for healing. Because it's like, for me, it's like my little radar is like, am I safe? Am I safe? Am I safe? Okay, there's women here. Okay, I feel safe.

I feel safe with women, like, physically, okay, there's men here. Okay, am I really safe? Am I actually safe? Like, what's happening? And so there's these. There's just these different layers, and then the. The nature component. So, I mean, the natural world is like this juicy, pure, vibrational space that I see as. I mean, come on, like, just step outside and notice the difference. It's like pure consciousness holding this space.

And when we can remove, there's like this biological aspect as well of being outside in nature. I mean, like, it's. It's who we are. We are nature. We are part of this natural world. And to create a barrier to ourselves inhibits us from something, from connection. And when we remove our clothing, our whole entire body can communicate with our environment. We actually also get to receive nourishment through our environment, through our entire body. The sun, the wind, the dirt.

We're interacting with more bacteria and insects and animals and elements that is all interconnected. And just like having bare feet on the. On the Earth is like our feet are communicating with the living, conscious beings underneath Our feet. We are connecting with all of the mycelium and the roots of the trees. We're connecting to the core of the Earth, of the planet, of the home that we live in. So there's this ability to access something greater that helps us root.

So as we're connecting, specifically being outside, being naked, whether we're alone, we're with someone we trust, we're in a women's retreat, we're at a nude beach, we're wherever we can bring our awareness into our connection with all of life, with all of the Earth, and feel that. And that provides us and opens us to a deeper connection so that we can potentially expand and lean into these other spaces because we're being so held through our environment of the Earth. Like, she's got us.

And I don't know how else to explain that piece about the Earth. I kind of wish I had, like, some. A lot of scientific aspects about it, but that's just not who I am. That's not the thing that I connect with. Like, it's just so inherent. And if you've never done that and you're listening, all you have to do is just take your shoes off and put your feet on the Earth and then put your shoes back on and just notice what you notice in both scenarios.

And another great example would be to lay on the Earth with your clothes on, face up or face down, and then take your clothes off and lay on the Earth and then notice the difference. So in my personal journey, being naked, being in my body, having experienced trespasses and being environments with other human beings, specifically men as well, have helped me to land more home in my body. And it's not the only work that I do. I work and do my inner work in many faceted ways.

Nudity is a part of it. Like, my naked body is a part of it. And nature, the natural world, is a huge, huge component. Because I'm always working with plants. I'm always working with plants. I'm going into specific containers and events and experiences with other human beings that help support being in environments and being naked with other human beings. And really, truly, like, being in an experience where there's a boundary for no sex is, like, so pivotal.

That's why at my events, there's a boundary of no sex. It doesn't mean no sexual energy, no sexual expression. It means we're not there having sex with each other. Like, that's the boundary for this experience. That's a part of the container so that we can go deep into this healing where there's sexual trauma and knowing that we're safe, like, that's not going to happen here.

No matter how juicy a moan may sound, no matter how much you're feeling the energy in your pelvis or no matter if your nipples are erect, no matter if it feels so yummy and pleasurable in your body, like, whatever we're doing, you're not going to be trespassed in your body with someone trying to have sex with you. Like, that's not going to happen. So you can go in and reclaim and connect to this part of you so you can strengthen your spine, your backbone, your center.

And that's how these environments are so incredibly healing. And the art is being done intentionally. I've had many, many different experiences of being naked in different types of environments. And it's also why I provide. The one that I provide for women to come into is because I know how important it is to come into a space and to not feel the pressure of sex, whether it may or may not be there for someone else.

Like, I get to enter into a space where I know that's fucking not happening here, and I can relax in my body and I can feel safe in my body so that I can also actually drop deeper into sex with someone. That is a yes for me. And I can drop deeper into that experience for myself when it's a yes for me. Because it's not being void of sex, right? This is about tending to being trespassed and reclaiming your body. So boundaries, intention, the people you're with, matter.

And wherever you are in your journey of that is perfect. If you need these really tight spaces and boundaries, great, I have one for you. And if you have a lot of support and resources, maybe there's a lot of different ways that you can explore this. And maybe you're quite further along in a way of saying that in. In your own personal journey of, you know, healing, sexual trespass. And so maybe there's. There's more space for you to.

To play and go into different environments, even if other people aren't intentionally in an agreement to something where you, you know, feel strong within yourself.

So I hope this answers your question to the woman who asked it. And if you're listening in, hopefully it's brought more awareness and deeper connection into this medicine of being naked, being naked outside, and being naked together as human beings. So much love. Until next time, we are complete. Thank you for tuning your consciousness to this episode of the Naked Human.

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