Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! In this episode of My Sober Addiction, I go a little further into the Kybalion. We begin to explore the possibility of none of this being real. As interesting of a subject as this may be, it can lead to a nihilistic attitude. I certainly am not trying to trigger anyone to relapse back into active addiction but to demonstrate how this realization can be very freeing. We’ve already broken free of addiction and now living sober lives, now we can break ...
Aug 19, 2024•28 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! In the last episode I was talking about how so many addicts, whether in active addiction or living sober in recovery, always seem to look outside themselves for an inspiring story. They never seem to realize their own story is as amazing as the ones giving leads at your local AA or NA meeting. I am not at all suggesting we shouldn’t listen to those people but we also shouldn’t sell ourselves short either. In this episode, I go totally off the cuff w...
Aug 05, 2024•25 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! So often we, addicts, find ourselves looking outside of ourselves for inspiration to stay sober. Your story of sobriety is an amazing story of beating addiction and moving forward, so please don’t sell yourself short. In this episode, I talk about how we have got to stop wanting an amazing life and simply begin to BE what it is that we choose to be. Getting sober gave us an opportunity to reinvent ourselves and be the person that we choose to be. It...
Jul 24, 2024•33 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! After my last relapse in 2017, I was finally serious about sobriety and saw it as a way of life rather than just quitting heroin. Around that time, my dad told me that “people don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan.” I do not know where he got this old saying from but it is a good one. Moving forward in a life of sobriety can be scary, it’s not unlike death and rebirth. It can also be a very exciting time because it is an opportunity to reinvent ours...
Jul 07, 2024•25 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! When we realized we had had enough of life in active addiction and wanted to get sober once and for all we were told to admit that we are powerless over addiction and needed help. I will take it a step further and say that we aren’t necessarily “powerless” as much as we were just never wired that way, we were never meant to do all the work ourselves, our job is to design this new life free from addiction and then press the start button. What I mean ...
Jun 30, 2024•34 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Continuing our talk about toxic positivity, we go a bit deeper into the subject. We do have traumas and other negative things from our past that can hang around our necks dragging us down not unlike how it was when we were in active addiction. I say “not unlike” because its not the same thing as active addiction but we do need to recover from things in our past so that we can move forward in recovery with as few relapse triggers as possible. I know,...
Jun 22, 2024•29 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Our time in Active Addiction was most likely the most negative time in our lives. What we have learned from this is that we can’t always turn a blind wye to our problems. Yes, I am a firm believer in “Where attention goes energy flows,” but that doesn’t mean to completely ignore past traumas or bad things that have happened in our lives. A lot of times we need to forgive ourselves so that we can truly get over it and move on. Transmutation is when w...
Jun 10, 2024•26 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! After a bout with Shingles, I am in recovery and back on track! In the interest of preserving my sobriety, I steered clear of the pain meds and was reminded how important it is that we, addicts in recovery, stay healthy so that we aren’t faced with the possibility of needing pain medicine in the first place. Just sayin! Shingles is one of the most painful and miserable things I’ve ever had to go through…and I’ve detoxed off of heroin in jail, so…yea...
Jun 01, 2024•35 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! It seems like every time I get on here saying I need to get more consistent with my uploads something always happens. It’s not unlike back during active addiction, something would always come up giving you a reason to put off getting sober until tomorrow. The difference is, though, during active addiction, an excuse to keep using drugs was always welcomed. This time, the lovely Kitty’ s mother passed away and we’ve been dealing with that. I have los...
May 17, 2024•38 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! The Kolbrin bible is very interesting for sure and I have to give credit, once again, to Jason Breshears of Archaix.com for introducing me to it. In doing that, he has also inspired another episode of My Sober Addiction. In this episode, we talk about how life in this reality is all about learning some very important lessons. Active Addiction taught us the ugly side of manifestation, it taught us that we create our own reality, for better or worse. ...
Apr 23, 2024•36 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! In this episode of My Sober Addiction, we discuss the importance of breaking patterns in your life to create change. It goes a lot deeper, though, the ultimate goal is to throw Reality some curve balls. During active addiction, we became slaves to rituals, it wasn’t enough to use drugs, we had to make entire rituals out of it. While we are now living sober, we still do some things religiously, the same way every time. From the routes we drive to wor...
Apr 01, 2024•32 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Are we there yet? One of the first episodes of My Sober Addiction was titled “From That to This at 1,000mph” which could imply that sobriety is itself a destination. It certainly could mean that but there is no destination. Every experience is another stop on a trip to…well, we don’t know, do we? We have come to the conclusion that it is never about the destination but the journey, and while that sounds like a corny slogan or a bumper sticker, it’s ...
Mar 29, 2024•34 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! I know I have entire episodes where I don’t even mention addiction, sobriety, recovery, sober living, or any of that. I’m not really sorry for that because well, we do, in fact, recover and then move on into our lives as sober individuals. So, what happens next? Well, that’s where this podcast comes in, assuming you are thriving in your sobriety. A lot of us had brushes with death…if we didn’t just straight up look it in the eye! Most of us have had...
Mar 02, 2024•28 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! During active addiction, most of us were in a series of codependent relationships, it seems it’s just part of being an addict. Both parties rely on the other to cover a shortcomings, usually its to do with the addiction itself. Either, they have money or are well connected or whatever. These relationships revolve around what they can do for each other rather than companionship. However, once we get help and recover and are transitioned into living s...
Feb 09, 2024•30 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! I’m baaaaack….finally. In this, my 2nd come back episode, I am continuing our thoughts about “life after addiction” because, after all, we do have to move on from addiction and even get past recovering and begin moving on into living sober. By getting past active addiction, we have overcame an amazing obstacle, which is awesome, but at some point we’ve got to move on into what comes next. What a lot of us are left with, though, are the questions abo...
Jan 22, 2024•29 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! We have all heard of people becoming institutionalized. They get to the point where they don’t know how to live outside of some kind of facility, usually it’s jail and/or prison, or rehab. It’s sad but it really does happen. Being on addictive drugs is very similar. We’ve all heard people say they use drugs every day but they don’t even get high any more, I used to say that all the time, and I wholeheartedly believed it. I have since realized that I...
Nov 18, 2023•30 min
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! This podcast is, primarily, based on addiction and recovery, and very much about relapse prevention. Those of us in recovery have a very distinct opportunity to rise from the ashes and build amazing lives for ourselves. I have even said that not only should we do it but we kind of, as survivors, have an obligation to so we can show the way for those still suffering in active addiction. We have to light the way for them. With that said, In this episo...
Oct 29, 2023•25 min•Ep. 17
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Believe it or not, we can learn a lot about spirituality not only from addiction and recovery, but also from science, particularly quantum physics. It demonstrates to us that reality is malleable, we can bend it and shape it. Thoughts are energy and, at its core, so is matter. We are actually hard pressed to find any real physical matter anywhere..maybe that’s why less than 5% of the universe is made up of what we can see. I was never into science o...
Oct 20, 2023•28 min•Ep. 16
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! At some point, we have to move past addiction. I don’t mean to forget where we came from, “those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” However, there does come a time when we realize that we did win our battle with addiction and need to move on. As always, I say that we do not owe anyone anything, but it would be good to go and create amazing lives for ourselves in honor of those who lost their fight and didn’t make it. Also, so th...
Oct 07, 2023•24 min•Ep. 15
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! My Sober Addiction is finally back with new content. …and no, I didn’t relapse! In fact, I celebrated my 6th anniversary of sobriety while I was away. I did, however, take some time off to focus on getting my CDL…it’s all about improving our lives, creating momentum to springboard us into the future as happy, healthy, productive and free in every sense of the word. The message has been, and continues to be, that we can be inspirations to addicts who...
Sep 27, 2023•26 min•Ep. 14
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! What happens when we give up our attachments to outcomes? In active addiction, we become fiercely dependent upon outcomes. Dependent! Now, in recovery, are we still as attached to outcomes as we ever were? I know it’s not the the same thing, active addiction is very unhealthy in every way, but still, do we become addicted to…dependent upon…attached to…outcomes in a similar way? What happens if we just live our lives pursuing our passions and serving...
Jun 23, 2023•25 min•Ep. 13
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Wow it’s amazing how fast things can change, isn’t it? One day it’s this, everything is clicking along as planned, and then the next day everything is turned completely upside down and you’re back to zero….and no one wins…??? Well, at least you still have the experience and knowledge gained to take with you as you move forward. We must accept the fact that things will happen that do not make sense, even to the point where you can’t even explain it t...
Jun 08, 2023•25 min•Ep. 12
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Ever notice how addicts in active addiction always seem to be able to somehow fund their crazy expensive habits? Of course, it’s never enough, but that’s another topic for another episode. Heroin addicts, in particular since that what I’m most familiar with, tend to live in a perpetual mindset of lack. They can have a lot of money in their pockets but it must all go toward feeding the addiction so basic necessities are always on the back burner. In ...
May 28, 2023•32 min•Ep. 11
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Part of reprogramming our subconscious minds is getting control of our triggers, actually that’s a very big part and of the utmost importance if we are to move forward with confidence. With as much time as we dedicated to our active addiction, we kinda owe it to ourselves to put in the work on making sure our inactive addiction is at least just as effective. Also, We discuss narcissism and how it seems to be taking over the entire world these days a...
May 09, 2023•29 min•Ep. 10
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Momentum is momentum, and wherever it comes from is not what’s important. What’s important is that we ride that wave. Just by getting sober we created an immense amount of momentum for ourselves. Active addiction took us down to zero, but then when we finally do recover and get sober we need to allow that to propel us into an amazing future. A lot of people would give about anything to be in the position that we are in once we are in recovery, once ...
Apr 10, 2023•26 min•Ep. 9
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! …sure, that makes sense. No one is saying it’s easy, just that it can be done and is so worth the effort. What exactly is “it,’ Matt? I’m glad you asked. “It” is each of our’s subconscious mind. As addicts, we have already had to reinvent ourselves from being a zombie of addiction, a mind numb robot subservient to our habits and addictions to someone who is free from all that. Our next move should be to reprogram our subconscious minds to attract gr...
Apr 02, 2023•25 min•Ep. 8
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! What if you had to have some kind of surgery and opioid pain medication was necessary to control pain afterward? Many addicts who are in recovery, at some point, have to face this. We guard our sobriety ferociously because it is, in fact, a major part of who we are, and we take the risk of relapse very seriously. Maintaining our health and not needing surgery is the obvious answer to this conundrum, but accidents DO happen. In this episode, I give s...
Mar 22, 2023•27 min•Ep. 7
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Something we all say to ourselves at least once is, “Why am I still here when so many others aren’t?” …or, “I was just with him/her, I should’ve known not to leave…” and on, and on. It’s natural for us to feel that way, it means we have a heart, but we have got to forgive ourselves. We’ve got to forgive ourselves and move on into an amazing life and, in doing so, inspire others to do the same. We can honor the memory of those we love who didn’t make...
Mar 09, 2023•24 min•Ep. 6
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! So are we advancing our cause? Are we becoming better humans? In this episode, I ponder what the high-brow types would refer to as “The Human Condition.” Regardless of what people around us are doing, we can be better than we ever were. We have lots of reasons; to make our own lives better, and to lead the way for those around us, for. Example. There are so many little things we can do to better ourselves dramatically and in shockingly short periods...
Mar 02, 2023•31 min•Ep. 5
Something on your mind? Send Matt a text here! Can we really change who we are? Genetics may or may not be able to be changed (that’s a topic for another episode) but we can absolutely change who we allow ourselves to be and where our attention and energy are focused. We have to become more aware of what we think and of our environment, turn off the auto-pilot, and become more conscious. If you like the music in the intro/outro, its by a group called Fixate. They have a lot of music and can be f...
Feb 25, 2023•32 min•Ep. 4
