Modern Dating Advice Ft. Spicy Mari (pt 2)

I love every episode that I get to share with you guys. I'm also the founder of the Spicy Life Relationship Consulting firm um where I help you become the best version of yourself to attract your purpose fate. I have a question, what about dating apps? There's this one app they say it's for celebrities and you have to be invited on the app, Like, you can't even get on it? What app is that? Yeah? You know what is it? It's called Ryan? What do you have an invitation?

Be like, like, is this like clubhouse? Do you have any invites you need you need to um for to be successful on there? They need to see like UM, you're um, of course like what you look like. But then also they're gonna look you up and see, like what credentials you have. Um, your followers are gonna get your social of course, so you as long as you apply, you already probably be a qualified candidate. UM. And we know lots of people who are already on there that, Um,

you can give us an invitation. Wow, Hey, we need to talk about that tomorrow my session. I want to be on there. Yeah, you can absolutely be on there. I can. I'm not gonna say them by name and bust them out, but I know lots of people already on there, So you like it? Do they feel like it's weird? What people have complaints about dating on apps

in general? I'm a huge advocate of dating apps. So I feel like, if you're not someone who's walking up to man five times to day and you're doing in yourselves, then you need to be on a dating app. You need to use all the tools and resources that God has given us and make it easier for us in order to make connections. But people need is strategic in their dating. People don't know how to use the dating

apps for there into work in their favor. But it's nice thing people tell you go ahead, go ahead about say, She'll tell you you have If you want a man, you have to be in the presence of men. You can't beat just sitting in the house, right. No, I was just gonna say it's nice that they have an app like that, because it's like, be, what are you gonna do. You're not gonna go on like Tinder or plenty officials. First of all, people are not even gonna

think it's really you. They're just gonna think someone using your pictures. So at least they might think it's really be like, she's really looking for a man, She's really. No. But at least if you're on that app, it's like, at least it's people that are like minded, you know, are getting money, have a certain level of favor. I don't know what world, Yeah, whatever the qualifications are. So

that's actually pretty dope. But I actually did that Spicy because Spicy be like, um, you know, have you been on any date? So I'm like, nobody's asking me on dates. She was like, when are you meeting any man? I'm like, no, I'm the house on the couch. So my homeboy had invited me to this soccer game. And I was like, I'm gonna just go by myself, kick it smart to this soccer game. I'll go to the soccer game. I was like, there's so many men here right one boarding

events because you need to. So here's the thing. UM just think it was right earlier about um your energy b And it's not that it is. It's not that it is intimidating, right, It's that while you do have a strong personality and you are super energetic, you need to be with somebody who balances you, someone who you are compatible with. And so because we sometimes like people who don't necessarily like us back, or we're attracting people who aren't necessarily sexually attracted to us back, it's a

numbers game. Okay, you gotta put yourself out there ten times in order to make two wins. Like we just want to put ourselves out there twice, and then we're upset when the numbers don't come back to us. And when I meet me and now I used to not be nervous because I'm like, okay, just be yourself and it's like, oh, don't be yourself, Like spy Spicy Eats

then told me all this stuff. So I'm over you shoulders compliment him, I'm like, hello, it's like spicies like be yourself, but just like turn turn down better like yourself the first date. I'm sorry, do not. I don't think everything needs to be um, you know the Spicy Show. I don't think everything needs to be you know, the Vista Own Show. I don't think everything needs to be the Just show. When we are in a dating situation,

it needs to be hosting co host right. It needs to be in a day on a day, it needs to be both energies learning about one another. And because we have big personalities and I'm guilty of it, we fill up the room and so we have to allow space for the other person to share with us. We have to allow space for them to feel comfortable. And so if we go in charging because I am a very like aggressive person too, um, if we go in

charging with our you know, biggest personalities. Um, it's not just it's not that it's intimidating, it's what are we doing to make the person feel safe first before we get them to open up. And I think that's something that people haven't mastered, is like can you make people feel safe? We wait for people to make us feel safe,

but the real power comes and making someone else feel safe. Also, like, other than our big personalities and all that, there's also the gender role that's existed in the past that we touched on that it's like the man is supposed to be the one who's the big show. The man is supposed to be the one who you know is in charge and is more known and this and that. So be like you might find a guy who likes you a lot, but it's just intimidated that your b simone and who is he or he's just not at the

level you're at and no matter how much money he makes. Yeah, I think I think people have stereotypes to write of like oh, um, successful women at like this, or women in the entertainment industry act like this, So you guys must act like that. And unless you show up with your true authentic self or really giving them an opportunity to get to know you, they're gonna stick to what they even pretty girls. Pretty girls get a bad rap like they I'm not gonna think the pretty girls are

stuck up. So it's like until you dispel that, someone's gonna already have preconceived notions, and you can't control those preconceived notions until you show them something else. And I think, what there's differences in your guys personality. I don't think it's just you know. Um, I don't think you guys it's you know, just one way. I think that there's different levels to this. I think that there's different facets

of your guy's personality. And when you show time, yeah, when you show all of them, it makes you a more well rounded, lovable, you know, person versus just the entertainer who we see. You're not always who you are on stage. What about telling the person everything? If you're dating somebody, do you feel like they should know everything every day? Maybe maybe at least, but like, b did you wait, like, okay, three months I told him this another three months? Or you were just like first night

I told them every day like first night. I was no. I just I felt like, Okay, if you're my boyfriend, I'm laying next to you every night, we're intimate sexually, you need to know certain things, Like you know, if we're in the industry and I'm walking into a room and I had sex with somebody, I I feel like, Okay,

you shouldn't like I asked him. I was like, have you had sex with anybody in the industry, because I need to know that I'm around so many females and I need to know you're my boyfriend who you have sex with, especially if I'm around them. When I'm not around them, it could be somebody I follow on Instagram, Like whatever, You're like, who do I need? Who do now?

You know? But you know, I feel like certain things not secrets, but like, honestly, there's nothing anybody could tell my ex, my ex about me that he doesn't already know. And I felt like that it's fair when you are in a committed, you know, serious, serious talent. And I was like, I don't want no secret. It's not that it was a secret, but I'm very like, Okay, give me an example something that you wouldn't tell either you wouldn't tell or that you're asking around, Like if you

should tell them everything that I wouldn't tell. Yeah, Like I think that's it. That's literally, that's it. Like not like how many people have you had sex with? That's so stupid. It's such a stupid question to me, Like, let me count all the guys since freaking my teenagers I don't. My mom told me at a young age never tell a man how many people you've slept with. The number will never be good enough, especially the number one two good enough. Especially if your body count is

like a cemetery. You better keep it to yourself, whether it's one or twenty. You're not ever so sweetie, You're you know. But I think my example was just like, Okay, maybe a guy that people might know that I've you know, dated, or talked to or whatever. We're in the industry, so I feel like, I mean, some people don't feel like that's needed to say, but I do. If I walk into room, I want to know if you've slept with her, the girl. You have to have that conversation with your partner, though,

be because my I have the same rule. I'm like, don't have me looking like a fool and you have the secret with the woman inside of a room where you guys know, you guys were intimate, and I'm on the outside, I don't know, like letting him know any And he was like, okay, bet I will be respectful and that you know, if we're in the room with someone I slept with. He was like, but I don't want to know if we go into a room and then he's like, don't tell me because I'm gonna want

to kill him. And I was like, fair enough, right, so you have to conversations. I mean, you want to know he doesn't that agreement? Guy? Yeah, He's like, I'm not trying to be you know, over here about to fight. I don't right, And I'm like, okay, fair enough. But we made that back together. And so sometimes we think like, because this is my rule, it should be your rule too. You know, we should both follow this rule because we both need this and know the truth of the batter

is each person whatever that's different. Yep, So you gotta I don't know what your part. I don't want to know. Now you beef with Barack Obama? Right right? Okay with Dwayne Johnson. Now you're so Marie, what do you think about? Like?

What do you think about? Like? Because I find people always have an interesting take on this, like other forms of cheating if it's not just sex for example, you know, let's say be let's say this guy pans out and y'all get into a relationship and you like him a lot, and one night you open his phone and you find d m S and there's nothing too crazy. But you know he's d m N A chick consistently. What's your take on that as far as is that breaking the trust?

Is it a deal breaker? I just think that leads to other stuff. To me, that is opening what is it, Jamail's box, whatever the damn saying Pandora's box. Pandora Right, Yeah, it's like you're opening the door for things to happen. If you're in a committed relationship. Why are you talking to this girl sexually or in a opriate leader. Man, my ex actually got not an argument. I mean it was actually argument. I think we called spicy at two am. Did we call you? Oh, he's a m But I

was upset because we had an agreement. We've already talked about this. I don't just be going off like we didn't have the discussion. I will come, you know, and say, you know, let's talk about this before. But he liked an inappropriate picture of my home girl. She was in a thong, in a thong, her ass was shaking, and she was walking out of a pool. And the first I'm just scrolling the first name that says so and so, Like I'm like my boyfriend is the first name I

spent on this post. It. I don't care if you like her pictures. I don't care if you like female pictures, don't like the inappropriate ones. But we had that discussion prior and he didn't, you know whatever, He didn't get it. Man, that's you insecure. You're being manipulative, right, So like and so let me advocate really quick. Um, I do think that when it comes to dating, it's a guiding and learning process, right. So they were they were two people

who had two different perspectives on it. Her boyfriend her ex boyfriend's idea of social media was that this is not that serious, like, um, it's not disrespectful, it's fake. So me think they're lying and that. But the truth of the matter is he really, in his mind believed

that it was not bad what he was doing. And so knowing that, it's like, okay, now we need to put some boundaries and guidelines in place because this does hurt her, this does make her feel away, and him still playing with fire, like okay, well you know I didn't comment though, or I didn't like it was excuses, But you think that somebody should automatically just know these rules and boundaries, but they don't, so we have to

communicate them. And sometimes we got to do it a couple of times, like sometimes we got to remind them and smack them upside the head, like remember we made a pet that you were I'm gonna do this, um. But I think we even went through his I g and like made him and follow her the people that we thought, you know that he's up within the past. That was disrespectful, hilarious, Like I say, you don't need

to be following nobody. You slept with, sweetie, for sure, but like your part hast to like agree to this because I I even know with my husband he was still following exits and all kinds of people on Facebook, and he was like, look, I don't care about it. I don't got the time, don't you know, don't worry about those people. And I was like, oh no, I

got time. What's your code and win? And I'm followed these people on Facebook because I wanted that He don't care about it, and that's perfectly fine, but I do, so let me do at least trust me enough to do what makes me feel secure. And if we're in a committed relationship, you should have no problem allowing me to do that, unless you still want to say if thet really don't care, why you want to stay connected

to them. And we're female, so we know, like okay, if a guy is a big old athlete or something, he's this, he's married, he's this, he's that, and he likes your picture and you are in a song torking shaking your as a female, You're like, damn, that's kind of inappropriate. But he on my page like me, you think I'm fine. He think I'm He got a whole family, a whole or whatever, a girlfriend, whatever in a relationship. But you're like, he think I'm fly, Like that's just natural,

Like okay, he's he's watching my stories. He commented on the ash shaking stuff. He commented on me in a thong, you ain't commenting when I'm talking about baby. Yeah, and then him liking that picture. That's like one step under the truth though, is that? Like is yeah? Because y'all like we're forgetting like even though even though it's oh, not that big of a deal. Is fake and social media, if you hurt someone, if you tap, that means I liked you. I am affirming you because That's what it is.

These are affirmations we're giving people. So if a man is affirming your validate shot, that lets you know. When I post a booty shot, um, I get more attention. When I post my titties, I get more legs. Let me continue doing this. Oh when this married man just hit like on my photo, I must really look good. You think I'm attractive. In this moment, we are telling people that we find them attractive, because what is photos,

That's the whole point. Photos and video and publicly publicly your ass is right, right, and it is inappropriate because prior to this, we only had magazines, right like we all we have. We've had the Internet, but we only had magazines when it came to looking at photos of celebrities. And so now you know, we have access to so many models, so many celebrities, so many um shoot naked

even unemployed women. Um, we have access to like all these shots now that we're well, they are only fans, she said, even as always people you can see anybody want to see what it's like. The temptation is even there now and it's in your face right, like I see something, you know, people working out, like I follow a lot of fitness plages or whatever, and I'm like, dang, here's one six pack, there's another six pack, there's another six pact. I usually see that many sixpects in the day.

But social media has created the successibility that we now have to control ourselves to not be tempted. Like it's these snapshots of images constantly over and over in your face. At certain point you are going to become luss ful and be like, dang, I would like to stopper up

with a biscuit. Right. So it's like, we do have to be mindful of our partner and their needs and see where they're at with it when it comes to social media, and most people don't want to have that conversation or take accountability for their behavior on there when their partners does confront them about it. But it doesn't

have to look like confrontation. It could just be a conversation, but we automatically interpret it as like, all you're tripping, because sometimes we do approach our partners wrong when it comes to how we want to talk about it with them because we're offended and we feel like they should just know, and the truth of the matter is is like, no, we have to explain it to them like we have to exercise patients. Hold on, Spicy, this is getting too juicy,

too deep, too good, you guys, stay right there. We're gonna take a little break and we're gonna let her finish that as soon as we get back more with spicy money. Welcome back, y'all were in the building. It's your girl, just seeing a Valentine here with my baby girl be Simon and Spicy Mari. She's a magnetic matchmaker

and we're about to get into these topics. So so me, you know, I wouldn't want to go through and then follow, like my man is not even on social media like that anyway, but I wouldn't want to go through and unfollow anyone he left banged or anything like that because because I wouldn't want him to do that to me, because we'll be here for a wife. So I just I just honestly wouldn't even want to open that can

of worms. And so that's why for me, because I feel like, all right, so if your man is gonna give you his password, you got to give him yours. And I just feel like that opens a lot, you know, And I do feel like if you're looking for something, whether it's in text messages or social media, you're gonna find something that you're not going to be thrilled about

either which way. Unless you're a church mouse and you just don't talk to anyone, you're gonna find something that you're like, you know what, I'm not happy you said that. So for me, that's a winding road that I wouldn't want to That a smart decision. If you are secure with your partner and you don't want to cross that path, don't do. But if there's signs, are evidence all of a sudden, and say your man gets on social media tomorrow, you may feel otherwise if he starts following and like

it the ocean. See see No, that's what I'm saying. I understand, like be is different because like your man's your man was on social media and stuff like that, so I could understand. You know, it's it's levels. So like you're not even liking uh Rihanna's booty r. I don't even care about that girl. And we can't control that because now your friends we can't control. We can't get because your friend is like that's crazy, like your man is likeing me, But we can't control our partners

like that. It's very clear. Um, me and my husband are both on social media. He follows for these people too, and he'd be seeing big booties and all that. We can see all that because you can see that walking by. You can see that when we go to the gym. I don't care that you see it, Okay, I care that you engage. And so if you engage, that's when

it's crossing the line. And if you can't control yourself but not hand that like, or you can't control yourself not to comment or you know, repost like you're out of control, then because you don't need to validate this person and then also show the world that you're validating this person. You can look, but don't fucking touch. And that's all that I ask, Right, don't touch that phone, don't touch that app. Just keep on scrolling, keep on.

You can look at that booty, don't touch so Spicy before we go, I want you to give any women out there that are listening, Um, you know you don't have access to Spicy Mighty like I do, because I got when he's like the first step to manifesting a healthy relationship or like I guess a single woman out there. Okay, I don't know where it started. Like, what is the first thing she needs to do to be like I am opening myself to love and I'm trying to find

my purpose made or my like person. What are like the first steps to even like going down that opening up your heart to love. So you guys asked me earlier for like, um, my favorite like quote or scripture to have like on standby or whatever? Can I say right now? Because I'm like, it's it's well, yeah, well we we think end in with that. We say, yes, it's it's almost time. Yeah, we end with the quote quote. Um. I think that we need to be very honest when when it comes to and this is why the spicy

method um is has been created. But it's also what it serves. We need to be very honest about who we are, what we want, and what we have to offer. Right. So, understanding self, I think is the first step to finding true love and to finding your purpose mate. The next one is understanding your passions and what lights your fire and also the process of lighting other people's fires, because some people you could be a passionate person but not know how to ignite other people's passion. And bring it

out of them. The next step is intimacy. How do you connect with someone on a very deep, vulnerable level. You know you have to share? Can you get them to share? Can you make them feel safe and secure? In order to do that, you need to be safe and secure with yourself first. You know you have trust for yourself First. Um, if someone is untrusting of others, it's usually because they don't trust their decision making. And then communication, Um, how do you communicate? How do you

deliver messages? Do you understand your target demographic and the kind of messages that they need to receive. If you're speaking to a man, do you know how to talk to him? If we're speaking to a woman, do you know how to get her attention? So it's really about message delivery. And then the last part is like your belief system, learning to say yes. So what do you believe? What are you willing to sacrifice in order to get what you want? And what are your limiting beliefs around

love and relationship? Because you're not gonna be able to manifest anything that is holding you back or hurting you or voids that you have to feel if you haven't done the healing work. So it's the entire thing is self passage and intimacy, communication and learning to say yes, which is s P I C Y spicy. So that those five steps right there is how I service my clients and where the program comes from. But it really starts with self. Everything starts with self. For any relationship,

can you use somebody to heal? And you can use you can use somebody as a temporary band aid. Um, and relationships have the power to heal in the sense that when someone pours love into you, love has a healing component. But if you are unhealed and you are extremely wounded, UM, that is when the damage happens. Right, So like if you haven't, how do you know when you unheal? UM, So you're gonna be in your gonna

be in your wounds of feminine or wounded masculine. Yeah, well, I'll review with you would defeminate and wound of masculine tomorrow because there's a lot of there may be some of that going on, and I want to make sure you're not sitting in those UM. But those are your shadow self usually UM, your hurt self, how you react

and how you handle situations. If you're making bad decisions, or if you're hurting others, if you have a negative disposition, those are used coming from your shadow self, and those your shadow self usually operated fear. But um, we'll run through it. But it looks very it looks different when it's feminine, when it's masculine. But you can identify those things.

And most people need to do the shadow work. Most people need to do the healing work before they even start dating and get into relationship because you think that being with the lover is gonna make you feel better, and it can't semporarily. But you can't hide your shadow self for so long. You can't. You can only you can only do it for so long before it comes

out and it starts to destruct. Yeah, you start to self destructing, destroys your relationship, You start self sabotaging, you start becoming manipulative like and what you attract also is affected by that. Okay, so we got yeah it's a it's a hole. We need another whole another hour for that. How long will your sessions? About? An hour? Hour and a half. I've been trying to get that her. I I'm like, what about being only supposed to be an hour? I was on there for like two hours. Sometimes we'll

be there for hours. Okay, So Spicy leave us with the what is the quote? So you see what my method um. The quote that I stand by is actually a scripture Matthew seven, verse seven, which is asked, and you shall receive seeking you shall find knocking the door will be opened. And what that means. The way that I interpret that and how I applied to my life is I asked for everything that I want from life. So when it comes to my career, when it comes

to my partner, I am not afraid to do the asking. Okay, it doesn't matter even who I'm asking it from. I'm gonna ask because closed mouths do not get fed. Okay. I'm also gonna seek it out. So I'm gonna behave in a way and put myself in an environment to get my needs met and to get what I want. Most of us don't put ourselves out there enough to be able to touch the people that we want or to have the opportunities that we want. And then I'm gonna knock. Okay, I'm gonna get there. I'm gonna I'm

gonna ask for what I want. I'm gonna get there. Put myself on environment, and then I'm also going to knock until I can't knock anymore. So if you tell me no, I'm not going to receive that note. I'm gonna be like, Okay, you don't do You just don't have good judgment. And if I can't convince you, let me move on to the next person. I'm gonna keep knocking on doors until my needs are met. And I think that's how we need to approach dating. I think

we need to ask for what we want. I think we need to seek it out, so we need to behave in a way that serves us, and then we need to experience so many doors, knock on so many doors when it comes to dating as possible until that person is equally yoked with us, until that person is in alignment with us. And don't get stuck behind door number one or number two, because that may not be it. There. You got eighteen more doors sail on until you meet

that person. So don't let that fear of rejection um limit you and stop you from achieving what it is that you know that you deserve. Ladies, if you number twenty and you're number two, you gotta stuck a couple of more. The ifs, you just get through it, that's a fact. Don't get tired. That's what I'm I got stuck at number phone. I gotta g b. That's it. If you've only sucked for dicks, you got way to go. Okay, no girl, Okay, right, I mean but I'm saying your

head is so hard. I mean it's a lot of work. Depending it is work work, did you that's fun? Yeah? But like is it like positions or this needs to be a whole another episode. I need to bring her one here. She is a popping sex expert, and she's going to teach me how to to give. No, it's a lot of stuff she don't teach. Oh, I want to know I never had an orgasm. We want to work on that. Yeah, we want to work on that. Mar You know, the women'll be some mode. Thank you

guys so much, Valentine. Then I'll never say the video how to did all that skitter? Because it's ways think us on that. We go, Okay, we gotta cover that. We gotta because I think once you could reach that orgasm, it's the man is gonna fall in place scared, because then I'm gonna really be a hole. We're gonna really tell your love. I don't know if I would be having sex if I didn't orgasm. That to me, it's like, wait, what am I doing wasting calories? Am I just burning calories?

Actually working out with no results? Right? What are we doing? I hear it all the time, y'all you're gonna you're gonna learn. No, No, you wouldn't. She would know, she would know. Would Everybody says that. So then it's like, if my mind is questioning, then I didn't. So you has never risen. You've never gotten hot, You've never felt like an itch that you had to scrat you never you never felt like a release, like like a release.

Everybody says that. No, No, for the for the men that man that are listening, I want them to felt like your slow wafter applications fellas for the men that are listening. But my I taken class this week, so I'm gonnaee if I can do week. But then everybody's like, well, you need to masturbate, and I'm like, I can't do that. I feel like Jesus is watching me in the room, Rabbit, and you can be good. You can masturbate. Start with starting. You want to see my room. They all in the box.

We have to become more comfortable with our with our sinuality. No, I'm trying. That's how I paid this lady for this class. It made a work and she was not you're doing something about it. That's at least you're doing something right. But rather than just like accepting it, I don't think we should just accept the thing. We should like totally be like, okay, how can I soawve for this because you're missing out. Yeah, I'm trying to be out here.

But you never you never flicked the bean or no, you never you I wish you'all can see Justine his nasty ass. No I tried. Friend was like, go drink some wine, like some candles. I was like, I looked in the mirror. I was like, we gotta go, we gotta. I was like, this is ridiculous. I'm not to go on Instagram your son to care. You never use your son to care when you were traveling on the roads, electric to brush a little vibration, vibration. No wait, spicy, when you get be on on the dating site for

like the rich and famous people, we just come. We're gonna make her little like capturing her profile. You know, my girl be hot and she ain't never found a G spot. So they all want to be the first. N't want to be the first one, that's true. They want to they want to say that man, be Simone come for the first time, like the BC Incredible, the B Simone Come Challenge. Look, that's gonna be incredible. The person who does that is gonna be famous. You're gonna

make him famiely. Okay, I gotta ride because she's gonna be screaming at the top of her lens and we already know she when you are so great with like advertising and you know, saying your truth, that's gonna be a story. Tell definitely. I'm definitely not telling nobody, but oh gosh, I'm like, I will kill you now because the one who makes you come, Yeah, you're gonna be sacraming at the top of your lungs. You're gonna be sharing it with the world, like have you made me come?

An jump on anybody out there? And once I come, if you want to make her come come from her, come for her. Y'all come firt And my Instagram is at the best. Someone I checked my d MS hourly if you really eating? Would you really? Girl? I've been on my Instagram all the whole time. I can't. I can't do that now. I'm just kidding on my on Instagram. But no, I check my d m um, yeah every hour on the hour. Oh you're good, You're better. Nothing be in there. You didn't even post on my story daily. Hey,

how long have you knew about that little trick? And I guess it's not a trick, but I didn't know about it. How when you go to your d M you could like filter them and put top revenish mode, no top requests. Girl. You know, I had like hundreds of blue checks that I had never seen. Probably important people, yes, people and people signing my dams, all types of jo I'm like literally like going as far as back be there. It don't be nobody. How do I get How do I get my blue check? I don't know why I

haven't got my blue check. I've been on TV shows, I've been on ship. Where's my blue check? Check? Three years ago when it was like throw the plug two hundred dollars and they got the check. Now it's like a huge I don't know what you gotta do is it's so hard now. I think you could do it in your in your settings. See, I think like putting your Instagram, I mean putting your ID or you know, yeah, all that stuff. Because I'm like, what the hell, this

don't make that kind of sense. I'm so sorry you guys. We have to wrap this up. This was such a good combo with my girl Spicy Mighty. Where can't we find you on all socials? Yes, you guys can play with my Twitter or struck my I g at the Spicy Mady s p I c Y m A r I and also go to the Spicy life dot com. So cool. Love it, love it, love it. Alright, guys, it's time to take a little break and I'm gonna send my girl be a little video how to get

that skittle diddling. But we'll be back before you could even flick your being. Right, what's up, y'all? We are back. We just had Spicy Mari on here and b I see why you use her as your relationship coach because she loves her so bomb And listen, be if we're ever playing a game of never have I ever already know how to get me, already know how to get you? Out quickly. Have I ever had had my skittle diddle whatever?

That's crazy. That's one of those things like if you're in an interview and they're like, tell us something we don't know about you, because no one will ever think that. Yeah, I've said it in interviews before, have you. I mean, like one it was a sex podcast I was on. I was like, why am I here? I don't know anything about this? Yeah, You're like, I don't know what. Yeah, but you know, like of women never have Are you serious? Yes, it's a big thing. Wow, I guess I feel I

feel grateful. I know you're so blessed and highly favored. I feel grateful to Yeah, I'm gonna take this. I'm gonna take this course. I mean, like the closest if I had to pinpoint one moment was like with my axes, but it was like, you know here, it wasn't like doing it okay, Yeah, I mean but I don't know if that was I'm like, if that wasn't it, then I never have. Did it feel like warm and gushy?

I feel like sex always feels like warm and gus Yeah I know, but I mean like, well, I'm not going to ask you all types questions on it, because I'm sure you've been asked a milion questions and if you would have had when I let you know how the sex class goes. Okay, I paid the money. I'm about to watch the video and the girl got to show me how to do it a tutorial. She was like, I can do a private FaceTime. I was like, you'bout to sign an nda my vagina all up in the camera. Literally, wait,

so she's gonna have you. She's gonna have you flicking on camera. Her close friends is gonna be Oh, I don't have to, But she was like that's an option. I was like, girl, I can't. I don't know. For me, I'd be like I can't have my roast flaps just flapping. But she's like a sex expert, like she's very professional. She's like it's like her thing. Whatever. So we'll see me in person, no cameras. I'm not doing that either. Just send me the videos, the tutorials. That's it. Well,

I just want the tutorial. I think I have a good quote end the day. Okay, what's your quote? If he can't make you come, you can still get the job done. I mean, I really thought it was about to be about as I'm like, oh no, I mean, it's motivational for you. If he can If he can't hit it down the middle, you're gonna have to take a course to diddle your own skittle, digital your own skill.

That's my next caption, did all your own skittle? Yeah, I mean, I mean at this point we at this point be were pushing pet and I'm talking about your puss. I just need to push freestyle. I'm not even gonna drop it to the gonna be. I love that you d you know what's funny? Um, I don't even think I've heard it yet, Like I just hear everyone actually think exactly, But now I need to go listen to it. It's so good. Do I have a quote? Do I have a quote? Never give up on lows? What else

you got? I don't have a quote. I think I don't have a quote. So no, just I'm reminding you of the caption when you get on the famous dating site. Yeah, you know, my girl be hot and she ain't never found a g spot. That's not the captain. That's my bio, that's your bio. That's what I meant. Yeah, I think I'm like, okay, so well, thank you all for listening. Thank you all, y'all. Don't found out something else about me.

Don't please, don't tell nobody at this point, nobody tell nobody if you heard this podcast, mind your business when you see me out on the street. Don't give me no skittles, don't give me don't flick no beans. Out of love you, guys. We missed pretty Be. We love it, love you the It's always fun chopping it up with you, says and I just hope next time we do this podcast you've had some sort of revelation. I know I'm gonna tell you about the Fifth Class. I can't wait.

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