Do Better ft. Nile Evans (pt 2)

bomb ass interview with our producer. Now Evans, y'all. Okay, So y'all know we only do audio, so I had to turn off my air condition and I am hot as hell, but I am here with my girl, Justina Valentine, Justina, I'm so hot. We gotta get into this interview so I can turn my airback. Well, girl, it's getting hot in here. It's get getting the steam here because we got now and you got to high ropot system out. But we're gonna get into this now. We are back

to you. We are so excited to talk more. And what now Evans, y'all, yes, I mean just hearing all these stories from now, hearing about how he started. Um, it's a really cool thing because you know now seeing us from little seeds and you know he raised us

into what we are today. So it's cool to hear how he got started, how he met Nick, and just how he balances his whole life between being a producer, a family man and and all that and just spotting talent, because I feel like Nile has seen every single person that's been on the whole the beginning. Yeah, being able to spot talent, you know, it's it's that's his one of his greatest talents. I think it's being able to

spot talent who hasn't and who doesn't exactly. So now that now's back in the building, be I think we we just got to really ask him everything we want to get too, because I know last week we didn't quite have enough time. But this week we gotta put him, we gotta put him in the hot seat. Leta ask him some tough questions. So let's get down and dirty. So now on a personal tip, um, just being a father and a husband influence how your work and you know,

professional relationships. Just being able to balance both worlds because you're a great father, great husband and a great coach. So like, how do you balance it all? I think I think, you know, we we only do whiling out people. You know, people think that we're spending the whole year door whiling out like we're keeping all the time. Because we have so many episodes. They don't know we do ten in a day. They don't know. I'm just kidding,

so they don't understand. Like I'm on this show for maybe a month, you know, so I have time to to to spend all my family and I have time to spend with my girls, my son, my wife and you know your family is so beautiful by the way, Yes, have not at your girls. Yeah, yeah on Instagram. Your wife. Yeah. And your wife is the best man so sweet, she's so sweet, She's fun. I love her. I lover her. I got her from Costco a few years ago. And

best purchase I've ever made. You have to doing what you do, Like your wife is so down for you and what you do. And you can just tell you

gotta have a rider with you. And you know, being a being a dad has really being a dad honestly, being a dad before being a husband, um was probably better for me because what I learned from what I learned how to life is like I had to learn how to raise this the son, and I had to learn who I needed to be for him, and some of those things are the same things that you have to be for your your wife, and you have to be a father not for her, but not just to her.

But you know, in a sense you have to. Like when a father gives a gives his daughter away, he's giving him away to another father. And if you don't know how to be a father, it's it's hard to you know, to be a man. And I had to learn how to be a man for myself. I think

it was better. It was a better situation for me to understand, like, Okay, I have to lead the same way I lead with my son as I do with you with my wife, and so, uh, you know, I think that it was it was a little non traditional, but I think that you know, that's that was what it took. And you know, balancing balancing your career and

and being a dad is tough. You know, you might miss a few games sometimes and there are things that you know, but you try to make up for it by going, hey, look we're gonna be able to go on this vacation. Yeah, yeah, I do take some nice vacase. I see all the little picks and oh yeah, we get out there and it now Instagram and he gonna have a cigar in his hand and he's gonna grow show as on his story like this for me, them them, them little subliminals, I'll be like, damn, he making me

think today. That's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to get everybody to think. And when I learned something, I want everyone else to learn it too. So I'm always trying to push and motivate people to be better because I want somebody to push and motivate me to be better. When I read stuff and I see things, I go, man, this is this is what I need to be doing. I need to I need I need

to hear this. You're never going to stop learning. I'm every season I probably read a new book about coaching or something motivational so that I can bring for the next season, because I can't expect you guys to get better if I'm not getting better. If you're so you know, I gotta do the work too. And I really I take it seriously because it's it's this is a baby and a brand that Nick Burr and I helped deliver, and you know, we're really you know, it's a precious thing.

It's a thing that you're you know, it's it's a child, you know what I mean, and you don't want people to damage it. You want you want the best for it, and you don't want you know, you definitely want nobody to suck it up. So if anybody's gonna sucking up, it's gonna be Nick, you know what I mean. It's like, you know, if you want to suck it up, that's fine, you know what I mean, it's your kid, bro. You know, we all just have to deal with it. But I'm not gonna I'm not not on my watch. I'm not

gonna let nobody else suck it up for it. So you know that's that's part of what I try to manage. And you know, we just try to build this brand to be you know, my my roommate made the logo, you know what I mean, like that dial and now he's like he is he still getting paid for that when he doesn't get paid, he like did like you know, from that, he did a lot of work, like he did some like NAS album cover stuff. Yeah, you don't live far from me. He's yeah good, He's definitely good,

you know. So you know it's like when you watch something grow up it's it's it's a dope thing. And then when you know, for me to watch you guys grow up, it's even doper because it's like I'm watching my kids. Just I remember, yeah, I remember geting you both. You know what I mean. It's like it's like my adopted you know what I mean. It's like, and now I see you guys all growing up and get money and doing your thing, and it's just, you know, I

just go, it's just you don't understand it. It almost bring me to tears when I see some of you guys online or on a TV show, because I go, I go, I remember seeing you when you didn't have that confidence. Remember you were just starting, and now now you're getting money, and I just go, I love to see it because it's just it's watching your kids grow up, you know, you remembering than discussing, you know. Yeah, And that brings me to my next question, who's your favorite?

Who's my favorite? Oh? Yeah, they want your top five? Remember stop five? But you know, of all time, so I ain't gotta be in there time all time. Yeah, I do all you could do all time. And then currently, okay, I'm gonna do of all time and then currently and this is this is bad um because I shouldn't choose like this. Okay, so all time are you in the hot seat? Now I'm in the hot seat. I'm in the hot seat. Open your favorite black girl with fingers

with the ship of all time. I'm gonna probably go I'm gonna go Cat Williams, I'm gonna go Mikey day Taren kill him. I'm gonna go untraditional Gene Hang. If you ever saw the first, very first pilot episode Gene Hong was the he had a moment against spanking where he says, yeah, I'm Asian, like it's a disease, but I got ten times you scoring the s A T S and he murdered the wild style. We went out on that and I felt like that sold the show. You were like that's what got us the season or

that was it. And I don't even think Jean did another season after that because I'm trying to is yeah, you probably you'd have to go into the um um naima Funk probably one of the most brilliant um improv actors that I've ever witnessed, and that was somebody that Nick was like, she's got it, and I was like, Nah, she don't have it so magical on this show. You know in the first few seasons that we had her that you know, I will always say, she's definitely in

my in my top. How can we watch these seasons because some people you're naming, I don't even know. I would just learned my history. This is my history now, you know. I don't think I'm going to find something for you, but I need to put him on. I'm like, you need to put on a drop box for all of I'm gonna put I'm gonna put the pilot you You probably never seen the original pilot now where Kevin Hart was a cast member. Wow, people have never seen

that original pilot where Kevin is a cast member. He's just a little kid. Yeah, I've seen. Yeah, I've seen the episode where he stands up and he wrote everybody. But that wasn't pilot. I think that was just an episode. I was like, are he was already big? Yeah? Yeah, but he did. He did the original pilot as a cast member, just a regular cast loon. Loon was the special guest artist. Yeah yeah, so then maybe he was

the rapper. Then a few months later, so playing had come out and then his star had listen and when the original the other pilot for MTV, he was the special guest. That's where Gene Hang did his saying wild So um yeah, so that's that's that's from the people of old um uh. And I'm probably missing somebody that I should should say anyway, but you know those are those are the ones that I'm gonna go with for right now. Um of the new group. You want me to want okay, you want my roots? Yeah, you I'm

not gonna go in any order. I'm not gonna go in any order. Um, no order. Um, I'm gonna go. Uh, Charlie Clips, Emmanuel Hudson, Um, Justina Valentine's let's go in there. Uh, there's one more. I know where you're forgetting d C I did, No, you didn't do DCY no so DC. Yeah, that's gonna be let's go. Yeah, just fy I now just put me in there because I'm on the podcast. I promise you I'm not. You know why. I'll tell you exactly why you're one of my favorites because I

saw the most improved I saw. I saw where you came from, and you improved so much and then took it to another stratosphere. And to me, that is the success. That's the goal for me years to go. I want to see you on another show or starting bell. Yeah, you took it to another level where you were like, oh, I'm just gonna be this ultra entrepreneur and it's just something that I didn't even see, you know what I mean.

And Justina, it's just you're just such a magical talent. No, no, every season, I'm like, we gotta bring in somebody to try to handle. Uh, you know, Justina, I had to get up. I just gave up. There's no one's going to do that. Like in a minute. You're just You're just we're just gonna sit you on the throne as the just the wild style poet and no one's just alone there now. But thank you. We appreciate honestly, you know, I we say it, but I just want to like

say it while you're on here. Is that you know, you and Nick like really changed my life and I'll never forget that if it wasn't for y'all, Like you know, you gave me the platform and b I'm sure you could attest the same thing, the platform to like live my dreams show the world my talent, like get me money.

I really can never words can never express my gratitude or even thank you enough, Like when people say this person changed my life, I really mean it when I say it about you and Nick, like you'll change my life and I just love you forever, like you place yourselves. All right, y'all, we gotta take a quick break. We'll be right back with some more women while in our podcast without very special guests and levits. Yeah, we are

back from break. I'm so excited to get into more with now Evans, our producer back with the Women a while now podcasts. So we want to know from you, what are some of the traps or missteps that you see young talent, new talent full into when they're starting their careers. I think that people are like especially with especially nowadays with the with with the internet, people are afraid to fail. People are so afraid to not have it would be the most perfect thing that they don't

move forward in their career. And you gotta go out on stage and fail to you know, like when you started walking, you had to fall a bunch of times, and people don't want to fall anymore, and you know, because they're afraid someone might be recording and probably you know, but I feel like people just need to they need to understand that you've got to go through some ship to get to where you to be, and people don't

want to go through that. They're just like, let me take the easiest route, and I go, if you just dragged the drug through the mud for a little bit, you'll understand what that world is like and how to either function in the mud or get out of the mud. And I think that, you know, I just I just want people to know, like it's not gonna be easy. And most of the time, it's like a lot of these resources are right at your fingertips, but they're like, I don't know how to get an agent. How do

you not know how to get an agent? When there's Google? How are you asking me a question saying like, oh, I don't know how to start a business? What you and any time? Thank you? And so I think that people are people are lazy because there's too many resources out here and they just want somebody to do it for him, and hungry, hungry, And I know, you know, my mother always said that, you know, people don't change into the pain gets great enough. So sometimes you gotta

let people go through the pain. And that's how I am as a parent, that's how I am as a coach. Okay, I say, hey, man, when you like with my son, I go, you want to be late to school, you don't get to drive, you don't get to have your phone. Okay, when that pain is enough for you, then you'll get Yeah. You know, I've had to fire people for not being on time and I know, yo, you don't. And I do that to say, hey, everyone, look what happened to him.

He's not here anymore. I remember my first season, someone came late. People walking out with luggage. Yes, so someone came late to workshop. They're not on the show anymore, and you made them go around to the entire room. We were still doing you, you were still making cuts, so we were This was season He did it again, I'm sure. But season eight in l A, someone came late and you made them go to each and every one of us. There's probably thirty people and give a

different funny reason why. They absolutely absolutely, because if you don't go through that, you just then you're gonna feel like I could just come in late whenever I want to know you can and I go, you can't do that here. You could do that at home. You can show up to the too much or wherever on your own, but not here. This is a job. What I also had to realize is a lot of these influences have

never had real jobs. That never has clock in. They're they're doing internet stuff, never had to be accountable, never had to be accountable to anybody but themselves. And they're making money, which is great, But I go, this is a different structure. Also, we also have to keep in mind it's corporate, so there's things we can't say and can't do and uh, and it's a big addressment for some people. And so I understand that. But you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna pay a fine if you want

to be late. You know what I mean. If I can get up and be on time, you could be here on time on time? You can literally yes you alright. So now before we go, I just I have a very open ended question. You go, you go first, Oh, open ended. We'll not open ended. It's just very like kind of vague. I was just gonna say, yeah, it's very broad. Um, you know, you've done so much, you've accomplished so much already at you know, a young age,

because you're still mad young. But we just you're just like a mobile already in the business, a boss to so many people. It's like, what is not only what's next, but what do you see as the final destination? Question? Oh says jump right in. You know, we do it happen now? That was so good, go you're delivering it. Like it's just like, what do you have plan next? Having done so much already, and where do you see yourself?

Like do you have a final destination? Like once I accomplished this, I'm chilling find me on an island with my family. Because you love what you do. I don't think you're ever going to stop or do you have retiring next year? Now? I do love what I do and in my mind, I'm just getting started. So I just feel like I feel like this show is like the springboard for me to do the next thing. This produce my show to find Yeah, we're gonna do that,

We're gonna do that. The panel there it is. But but my final destination is you know, I would I want to have another show. I would like to have a scripted show. Actually I'm gonna manifest I'm gonna have a scripted show. So yeah, that that I'm gonna I'm writing and producing. Um and yeah, that's that's the goal for me. And what I'd like to do is have like maybe one or two more shows and then have that one show that just I can hit out on and be like cool, I just created Jeopardy right now,

what's my life? And and and ride into the sunset and you know, to me like wilding out raised my son from birth too. I mean, it's still going to go into Now. I have six year old girls, so I need another show that's gonna take them them and then to where I can get to a point where I can just you know, I can do whatever I want to financial freedom, that's where you want to get freedom. But we want to be in the stripted show now, so just you know, write us in. Listen. It's a

done deal. All right. Well, I mean what I was gonna say, come on, very go ahead. Was gonna say you could go, but we have some more questions to get to. Yeah, let's go. Let's go. Now, how do I find a man? Did you eighty and all this week's stuff? How do you find a man's let's dig deep into that. Let's dig deep into that. How do you find a man? One you manifested man? You know you have to manifest it. And I always tell people, if you don't know what you want you like, Let's

just put it like this. When you go to a restaurant, they give you a what when you sit down, men and a menu has a bunch of different items. Right cool? But does the waiter say here, you're gonna have this? Or what do you do? You order? Right? You order? You order what the thing you want? If you don't, you order everything. So that's like dating. Let's see, I could date, you can, but you can try everything on the menu, and I know, next time I go back,

I don't want that. I didn't like that. But at this point you should have dated enough to know what you like and what you don't like, and what works for you and what's healthy for you. But you're right. Until you figure that out, you're gonna be in a limbo. And I go until you make an order. The waiter can't put your order in so that God can say here's your guy. But you're you're just gonna be dating around and not really if you don't say I want my husband to be this, this, this, this, I want

his interior to be this, this, this, this. I want him to look like this, this, this, this, this, and I want him to treat me like this, this, this this. Then then you're just walking around with you have no listen. If if if, if you put into your into your navigation, take me to New York. It's gonna drop you off in New York somewhere anywhere. But if you say I want to go on fifth and Broadway, I want to go here, it's gonna take you there until you order

the exact same thing. And then what do you do to your order? Oh? I like this salmon, but can you put this on the side? Can you do this? Now you've refined it and made it exactly how you want it, But until you do that, you just you're just saying, give me whatever y'all got. So you know, it's a good example of that. I made a list of my ex, Like before I met my ex, I made a whole list, like you said. I was like, you know, if I want this type of man, what

type of woman does he have to have by his side? Right? So I made that list and I made my list, and I feel like my ex was a ninety percent of that list. And guess what, I started taking off of it just like any But I'm saying like I was like, um, a good father, like baby he or a father or whatever. I was like, you gotta be specific, not a father yet because he was a father, you know what I'm saying. So he made me change out some things like likes to go out, likes to have fun.

He went out too much, so I sometimes you gott that when I feel like it. You know, he likes to take me out, saying do fun things together? You get he knows when to go home, right it's sick, the night is over. You gotta be uber specific if you want the thing that, like I said, if you're ordering off the menu, you know you like the salmon I wanted, but I want the dressing on the side. Can you give him I want a side salad, but

some crueltons here. Refine that thing to where you find what I wanted to be and then say this is what I want and I promise you. He shows up a promise period. Thanks. That's so cute. There is Where did you? How did you find your wife? Now? Was it like your mutual friend or nah Facebook, Costco. Right, I made the purchase at Costco. I bought her at Costco. That's that's a terrible joke, I thought at Costco. I

met my wife on Facebook and um yeah. And I used to do a blog called the Gluttony Tour and where I would where I was gonna go on I was gonna go on the Fast, but before I went on the Fast, I was gonna go to all the restaurants that I loved. And I was like, if people want to come along, they can, And it became a thing and people started. I would be like, Yo, I'm gonna go to this this taco truck, and then people would show up at the taco truck and so and so.

I would blog a lot, right, and so people knew me from my blog and and and and being on on Facebook. And I wrote this. I wrote this back in the days and had these things called Facebook notes, and I would write these funny notes. And this one was called utilizing your lights end And I probably could never write it now, but I thought it was. It was just a funny thing about you know, if you if you are going to have this privilege, you better

utilize it basically, you know what I mean. It's like, if you're white, utilize your white privilege if you can, just don't abuse it. But right, And so somehow my wife, she wasn't my wife at the time, she found um, she found somebody said Yo, you gotta read this. And so I always say she's cyberstalking me because I put on my I put on my Facebook. I was like, yo,

I'm gonna go to this this restaurant. And she was like, I want to go to that restaurant too, And so I said, if you meet me there, I won't be able to recognize you. So you gotta have an I Heart nile t shirt on. She was like, she was like, yeah, okay,

she didn't do it, but she thought about it. But she ended up we we had a date that we we went to we went to this place called harven Stone, um in Hollywood, and we had a we had a great date, um, you know, and I was you know, I was being typical nonchalant me and we had a good time, and uh, you know, we started dating a little bit more. Um and you know, then date one were you like this is my wife or just you

didn't know? I was like, you're cool and you but see, let let me go, let me take it a step back. I manifested. I manifested my son's mother. But I didn't manifest the things that I really want. An interior, the interior stuff. They're not manifested. They're not manifested, all the interior stuff that I really wanted. And so when I say, when I tell the story, I go. I didn't recognize that she was supposed to be my wife because I was like, oh, you're cool. Whatever, Yeah, you're cool. I'll

take you. We'll we'll go out a few times. And God was like this, oh you don't see that, this is the one you asked for. Jesus, So my wife so so so Julia is her name. She gets sick and she goes to the hospital and finds out she has staged four brain cancer. Jesus and God knows my heart. And I was like, and she was like, look, I'm going through this thing. I have to have surgery on Thursday. You don't want to be around for this. Just you know,

it's all good. I said, you're gonna have surgery on Thursday. I said, I'll be there on Thursday. I can't believe that. In the beginning, that was we're made three dates in Oh my gosh, you know. And then I was like, okay, I'll be there on Thursday surgery. Cool. Yeah, I sery the whole thing, the recovery, and I spent I might have spent two weeks in the hospital with her, spending the night in there with her, and that was the

thing that brought us together. And that was nothing, but my manifestation said that was like, oh no, no, no, this is her. Let me now now, now I know, I'm a little not all done up, dolled up hair, makeup, weave booty, you know, you get you get to see her heart at her lowest point, at her lowest point, and I was like, and I still was kind of like, oh, you're cool, but I'm gonna rock this out with you. And then and then you know, she was doing chemo and she was like, you need to give this a try,

and I said, got it, you're right. She said that. She said, oh God said that because I was on my I'm still out here because she was like, now you need to get us a try. And so that was it. That was it, and you know, and and she recovered and you know, and and and we're good to this day. And before y'all got married, we did it for a while. I mean we did it. We did it for a long time. I mean it was it was a couple of years and lived together and

broke up and got back together. You know, we went we went through some things and then and so um, you know, and then it was a time where it was just like, you know, where am I in my life? Let's let's yeah, let's just get to that step out on faith. And what you realize is every time you step out on faith, your life gets better. Something good comes from it, whether you'll stay together, whether whatever it is,

something good comes from it. And my uncle told me a lot of time with this is man, when you get a wife, you'll be able to focus Jesus. And when I did, I was way more focused. Everything started. This was when while and now first started coming back. You know, I was kind of in between things why and I just started coming back when I when I got with her, and it was just like then the ball started rolling in every stage in my life that

I needed more elevated. God was like, here you go, you did the wife, Here you go, Oh you need this, Oh you need the house. Here you go, you got, you got, you got twin girls, here you go. Let me provide for this. It was like yeah, and then and then honestly, you find a wife who loves you and hold you down and like, now you're not out there just dating and you know, being in the streets and stuff. So when you get a white you'll be able to focus. That's the only thing that's hilarious. Thank you.

So I got another while now question now, because you know, we've had people on the show who, you know, everyone felt were talented in their own right, whether they were a social media person or median. But what is the difference between a talented performer and a talented performer who's

actually set successful on while now? Because there's a difference, and not all talented people are able to make it on the right because most of the time people are talented on their own and when we get them, they're usually like we never get hairs of people usually get either you're a stand up, you're an improv actor, or your uh, you know, influencer, and you have to on on in order to in order to work on this show, you have to work as a team and you have

to be a team player, and it's hard. It's a hard transition for someone to come in and go, Man, I'm talented on my own. I get laughs on my own, but I gotta work with I gotta work with Carlos or I have to be the butt of a joke and I gotta laugh this thing off or less. Somebody have their shine for a minute. You ain't always got to be the head of the show. Yeah, but you know on the internet, you're always the star. You're always

the star. Yeah, You're always a star. So you know, it takes a lot for a lot of people to transition and understand that this is a team sport and then we're all in it together to make one funny show. It's it's competitive, but it's not really that competitive. It's like, you know, we're gonna figure out what we're gonna do, but we just want to make a great funny show. Like we don't care about the score on the show. We just care about did everyone have a good time?

You know, no one cares to snoop one are lost. We just care everyone laughed. Yeah. Yeah, And a lot of people, you know, they don't Sometimes they just don't work within a team structure like that, and you know they gotta go and they you know, or they're selfish, or they just have a big ego, you know, And I go, if your ego is bigger than next, then you got a problem does over here? Yeah? I mean Nick is probably one of the most humble guys in the world. So it's like, you know, you don't. You

don't have to come in with all that bravado. Take that down a notch and come play these games great, you know, period. I think we need a good Nile quote. What do you think? Oh man, a good quote? Oh man, I almost forgot the format of the show. Oh what is the quote? Um, I'm gonna take a quote. You know. I had a good one that I had a meeting yesterday and somebody who told me this great quote. But this one is one that my uncle always said. He says,

when you know better, you do better. That's it. And most people know better, but they choose not to do better. And when when when you are in the know and you already know it, you know, now it's up to you to do better. So I know that I don't. This type of person is not for me. And I keep going back. If you know better, you do better. So when you figure out that something is not working for you, you've got to do better and either go

past that thing or work through that thing. Yeah, from your diet, to the people in your life, to your career, whatever that is, whatever resonates with y'all, whoever is listening to this podcast is better. Better because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over over over over and expecting expecting a different result. You're not gonna get a different result. It's the thing that's why you don't date the same types of dudes. Go find a different type.

You level up, You level up, you know, get something different, you know, rappers, no more, no more data. Plumber a hundred percent the owner of the plumbing company. Hello, thank you? Is uh well, I think thank you? Nia. Yes, And this has been this is so good. Yeah, it's been such a great show having now on her. Like we said, guys, he is the executive producer not only of this podcast Woman a While and Now, but of the best show in the world, While and Now. And he was there

since day one literally birth this baby. And he's an icon, a legend, and he's the best coach in the world, and we just love you now, I appreciate I love you guys too. So you guys definitely my loves and definitely my favorites. And I just thank you for being on the being a part of the show that as I guess that I could be on this show here. So where can these people find you that they could blow you up and ask you? Put me out? Out?

Put out now? Evans on pretty much everything Instagram, Um, you know Facebook, now, Evans, don't look up my son. He's a little light skim version of me. So handsome. But but yeah, no, that's that's where I am. Make sure to spell my name right if you're gonna d m me and blow me up. It's Nile like the river, the river, It's very simple. That's not me. That's not me, you know. But don't ask nobody for a job and spell the name wrong. Correct. No, Okay, we love you now,

thank you for saying I was your favorite. Alright, y'all, we will take a break. We're gonna be right back for more women a while in our pots. Okay, you guys are gonna be Simone Mabo just in a Valentine and women a while in our podcast. We are back and we just had now events on here our producer, my you know, industry dad. He was so good, just he was so good and it was so cool be like to you know now, like knows all of our stories and he watched us grow. But for us to

be able to be like, well, what's your story? We want to hear him back in the day and to even just hear the skill set that he has it literally in his family, his aunt, his uncle, or being showrunners and being like the forces behind so many iconic shows. That was a cool thing. I had no idea. And him talking about his wife, their story is so beautiful.

But that's how sometimes you gotta do. You gotta hit these niggas upside the head and be like, look, bro, I'm the one, okay, So you need to take this chance, stef I don't faith and stop dating me and make me your wife. Right. No, that was like super bossy of her. She was like, look, you just stood with me in the hospital for two weeks like it should. Now you need to come give us a chance and right, And she is so sweet. I absolutely loved, like, she's

so dope. But it's cool to hear how that came about and she was really that calming force that sat him down and was like, no, we're about to do this because it seems like that's what he needed in his life at that time time. What was the quote he said is uncle said if you when you get a wife, you'll be focused. Yes, once you get a wife, like you'll you'll be settled and I guess just focused on what you need to do. But it's it's the

truth when you think about it. Be like even thinking like you know, let's say right now you were trying to date around you wouldn't have the time for it. It's like, right, it does take your energy and your focus away from other things. So you know, right, right, right, So when you have that one person, you're focused on all the building and growing and pouring into each other together. Hello, you know you have a goal, you have more focus.

You're just not looking out to lift and right up down left you focus on that goal you know, with with your significant other. So I love that. Yes, Like you know, I didn't know all that about him. I'm so glad I made his top five. I was saw but see if it was you and B he would have been like Vina, No, if Veena is here. He would have had to like say all three and not one of the person, all three of us, because you

know he wasn't gonna do two or not one. Now he's like, but I really I would you know me, Like, I'm not like what that stef sucked up? I'm like, Justina is a fucking wlven out legend. I get it. Thank you, sis, No, you were killing me. You were like, all right, and don't forget about your favorite girl with the finger holes, finger waves, blind hair poking at uh you know Simone Joe for um. But no, what what

now said? It's true? Says like you're you know, you're just your brand and just you as a person, like your legendary and you've exceeded and done so much when he put you on the list, like you're definitely deserving of that. And like he said, it's not just about the show, it's also about like everything you've done into exactly, so like all that and that's what I feel about you. Let me tell you out something about Justina. I don't

care how long she's been doing something. I don't care how bomb, how bossy, how amazing she is at something. Justina Valentine treats every single day like day won I really value that you stand that and see that in you. I don't care Like she doesn't get complacent, she doesn't get comfortable. You see justine it in the workshops. This bitch is in the corner on her own taking it.

I'm like, bitch, you can wrap relax. You're like relax, You're like, no, I think we're wrapping about apples, Like I gotta gets crazy, have an apple ready to school tricks up my sleeve. That's out of me now. I mean no, it's it's true being. I appreciate it, and you know, I think it is part of it is that, like I definitely am competitive, and also I'm just like

really thankful to be here. So I treat my I don't I do treat my eleventh season like my first, you know, And I think that's just what like makes us great and has made us, you know, stand the test of time on the show and even with just what we do, because the truth is, like you know, in the industries were in, it just is women got to do more. We just have to do more. We have to show improve more, and it is what it is.

And I'm just so grateful that like you and me and v and and and Jess and all the women on the show, like Mimi and Maddie, like we've just all been able to grow and get along and right and and and just run with it and support each other and just be here and like you know what generally has been like a male dominated field, and just be killing it. And we've all made and carved out our own space. So that's a blessing, and it is.

It is all thanks to Nick and Nil and the whole team of producers on Wilding Out that have given us the opportunity and we've taken it and and made to work for us. So it is what it is. I love you. I Love you. Episode was so good. It was so like family, and y'all make sure now I'll go to his social medias and stuff and bud him And I'm just kidding. Don't bug him because he's don't bug him too much because it's it's over for this season. He's like, it's over. We chose who we chose. Yes,

he's like, stop d having me, stop emailing me. The season's done. But yes, make sure you tune in because season seventeen is currently playing every Tuesday and Wednesday, so watch out for that and tune in every week to the Women a While and Out podcast, where the ladies controlled Mike put it down, do what we like and that's how we do it. Love you guys, fine, peace,