Hello! And Welcome to Move Into Coherence. I'm your host, Pamela Stokes. In today's episode, this is Part Two of the three-part series on Making Peace with the Past. In this episode we'll be doing the EFT tapping script for Resentments. You may use any of the standard acupoints as you wish, or simply spread your hand open, and place it underneath your collarbones so that your thumb is underneath one collarbone and the fingers underneath the other collarbone.
And let's begin. Give yourself permission to think about what your ideal life might look like—your physical self, your finances, relationships—and notice what you feel inside. Allow yourself to say, I can have this. Feel into it and rate the number of how true it feels If it's not a 10, ask why not? What comes up? What stands in the way? Say, I need to hang on to this. How strong is that? Do resentments or regrets come up? A resentment is a belief of what happened to us. So let's feel into a resentment. What emotions are there? What does it mean about me? And rate the pain of your resentment 0 to 10. And we'll begin by taking three calming breaths through the nose and deep into the lungs: inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale, inhale and exhale.
And repeat after me: Even though I feel this resentment, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I feel this resentment, I choose to love and honor myself anyway.
Even though I feel this resentment, because someone did something to me, and I can't let it go, I cannot forgive them. I'm building a prison for them, even if I'm the only occupant of it, and even though I need to feel this resentment, I choose to deeply and completely love, honor, and accept myself, and maybe this other person, not because they necessarily deserve that, but because I deserve to be free.
All of this resentment
all of this resentment
all this fear of letting go of resentment
I'm afraid that if I let go of resentment
that means I'm saying that what they did was OK
and that it would be OK for them to do it again
I'm clearing that idea
clearing resentment doesn't mean I'm clearing my value
it doesn't mean I don't know the difference between right and wrong
it means I'm tired of being in a prison
as the old saying goes
holding resentment is like making poison for someone else
and drinking it ourselves
and I deserve better
they hurt me
and I'm holding on to that pain
maybe to teach them a lesson
maybe just to protect myself
I'm open to the possibility
that there are healthier ways to take care of myself
I'm older and wiser now
I have better tools than resentment
and I deserve better
and I can let this go
I'm not bad or stupid for having resentments
I've brilliantly learned these from other people
but as I allow myself to relax
I choose to think back
and see if that resentment ever helped those people
probably not
I deserve better
and part of me says
if I let go of this resentment
that means I'm forgiving these people
I'm giving them a pass
that's not what it means
it means I'm getting out of the prison I built
forgiveness isn't something I give other people
it's a gift I give myself
and I choose to love myself so much
that I'm willing to set myself free
I'm letting go of this belief
that what they did meant something bad about me
that I somehow deserved that
that it somehow identified me
letting go of this need to take it personally
if they did something harmful
it's because there was pain inside of them
it's not to excuse their behavior
I'm just letting go of the belief that it was because of me
as I set myself free
I love and forgive myself for having held on to this resentment
believing that I needed it
and maybe I did in the past
but I'm setting myself free now
to feel peace and body, mind, and spirit.
And let's take a nice breath in through the nose and exhale with the mouth closed—Sigh of Relief. And check in and see if you have noticed any shifts, and continue as needed. Thanks for joining in!