Hello! And welcome to Move Into Coherence. I'm your host, Pamela Stokes. In today's episode we'll be doing Part Three of Making Peace with the Past. In this episode, we'll be resolving our Regrets. We’ll be using an EFT tapping script, so use the acupoints that you may be familiar with, or simply spread your hand open and place your thumb underneath one collarbone and your fingers underneath the other, as you place your hand on your chest over your heart.
Think about a particular regret that keeps you from deserving something or that you can trust yourself. Be aware of your unwillingness to be forgiven for that, and notice how this feels in your body, and give it a rating 0 to 10. And we'll begin by taking three calming breaths through the nose and deep into the lungs—inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale, inhale, and exhale—and repeat after me:
Even though I really regret this, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I really regret this, I choose to love and honor myself anyway.
Even though I really regret this, I still can't believe I did this, how could I have been so dumb, how could I have been so thoughtless, how can I ever expect to be really happy. And even though I really regret this, I choose to deeply and completely love, honor, and accept myself, and maybe anyone else who might also be involved.
all this regret
all this resentment towards myself
all this fear of letting this go
if I believe
that forgiving others means I'm letting them off the hook
what does it mean for me
if I forgive myself for what I've done wrong
can I trust myself to not do more damage
it's much better to punish myself
not because I'm bad or stupid
but because I think it protects me from others
maybe it will stop me from doing harm
I can also see
it's stopping me from doing all the good that I can do
I'm open to the possibility
that I did those things because I had pain inside
I had anger inside
I had fear inside
as I allow myself to clear those
as I allow myself to make peace with the past
it's much more likely I'll do good
I remove the possibility of doing bad
all this fear that I can't trust myself
because of the bad decisions I've made
all this resentment towards myself
I choose to move through this
I was doing the best I could at the time
if I could have done better I would have
something inside of me made me make that choice
and I'm allowing myself to heal whatever was there
whatever choice I made was the choice I thought I had to make
it's not that I make bad choices
it's just that I'm not always clear on the right destination
maybe I made a choice that put me into debt
maybe because part of me believed
that I needed to be in debt to be safer
the mind is not always logical
I've put myself into situations
that part of me thought I needed to be in
and I'm getting better and better
I'm allowing myself to think about those things
that I would really like to have in my life
and I choose to be open to the possibility
that deep inside I
'm worthy and deserving of the best that this world has to offer
and nothing from my past proves otherwise
I've been off course at times
but I'm still a magnificent being of the universe
and the best is yet to come
and I'm allowing it to show up
I'm clearing the fears and doubts
that have caused wrong behavior in the past
so I tend to do right
and hanging on to all this regret
just keeps the pain inside
and that was the problem in the first place
keeping more pain isn't going to help
I'm releasing what doesn't feel like peace
I'm releasing what doesn't feel like love
I'm open to the possibility of forgiving myself
it doesn't mean what I did in the past was OK
it recognizes that I may have made a mistake
and I'm setting myself free to do better
I will right whatever wrongs I can
I will make whatever amends I need to make
and I choose to be a force for good
for myself and others
I'm allowing myself to heal the past
setting myself joyfully free
in body, mind, and spirit
And now let's take a nice breath in through the nose deep into the lungs, and on the exhale with mouth closed, Sigh of Relief. And now notice how you feel. And check in a see if you have noticed any shifts, and continue as needed. Thanks for joining in!