In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott explore what it means to be on mission together as a couple. Whether you’re raising kids, leading a class, or serving behind the scenes, a shared purpose breathes life into your marriage and moves you from being just roommates to intentional partners in the gospel. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures: Ecc 4:9-12 Acts 20:24 Eph 2:10 Eph 5:15-17 Questions to Discuss: 1. How have you seen...
Jul 01, 2025•19 min
In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss what it means to build an intentional marriage using four categories: what you want to know, be, do, and experience together. In this mini episode we encourage couples to dream together and define their marriage vision through Scripture, spiritual disciplines, and fun experiences. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Questions to Discuss: 1. What do we want to KNOW about marriage, and about each other? 2. What k...
Jun 24, 2025•16 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about the importance of trust in marriage. Trust is foundational in any relationship, but especially in marriage. They discuss how past wounds—whether from family, friends, or former relationships—can deeply impact your ability to trust your spouse and experience true intimacy. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures Referenced: 1 Peter 2:23-24 James 1:19 Resources: Podcast Episode – ...
Jun 17, 2025•16 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the common habit of going to friends or a spouse before going to God for wisdom. While community is important, the best place to start is with the Lord. Scriptures: Matthew 6:33 James 1:5 Proverbs 3:5-6 PR 19:11 Questions to Discuss: 1. Who and what do you turn to when you’re looking for counsel and advice? 2. Are you more of an internal or external processor? How about your spouse? 3. What’s one decision you’re facing r...
Jun 10, 2025•21 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about how to keep your marriage healthy while walking through hard and difficult seasons in life (i.e., loss, illness, infertility, emotional strain). Through biblical truth and personal stories, they discuss how couples can remain unified, cultivate gratitude, and grow spiritually even in life’s darkest valleys and seasons. Scriptures: 1 Cor 7:28 John 16:33 Luke 6:47-49 PS 34:18 Phil 4:4-7 Lamentations James 1:2-4 Rom 8:28...
Jun 03, 2025•28 min
Drew and Paige Greenway return for part two of their story on infertility, this time focusing on the spiritual lessons, marriage dynamics, and ministry they’ve embraced through their journey. Using the acrostic TRUST, they unpack teachability in trials, reliance on the Lord, unwavering unity, surrender to His will, and resting in God’s timing—all of which shaped their marriage and deepened their faith. Scriptures: Romans 5:2-5 PS 34:18 2 Cor 12:7-10 John 15:5 Rom 12:10 PR 3:5-6 Ecc 3:11 Resource...
May 27, 2025•37 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Drew & Paige Greenway about their story of infertility and the challenges they’ve faced along the way Drew and Paige reflect on how these trials affected their faith, marriage, and understanding of God, while offering hope, empathy, and wisdom for others walking a similar path. Part 1 of 2. Scriptures: Gen 2:24 Rom 12:15 Resources: Website & Resources – Julie Fowler Ministries Bible Study for Women - Treasures in the W...
May 20, 2025•34 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott interview Derek & Kellie Davidson about foster care and adoption. May is National Foster Care Month and in this episode, the Davidsons offer a glimpse into how their marriage has been shaped through saying “yes” to God’s call. While sharing their story, full of joy and challenges, they reflect on how families and the church can step in and reflect Christ’s love for vulnerable children. Scriptures James 1:27 2 Cor 5:18 Isaiah 1:17 ...
May 13, 2025•41 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott talk with Dr. Juli Slattery from Authentic Intimacy about how past sexual abuse impacts individuals and their marriages. With biblical truth, personal insight, and expert care, Dr. Slattery shares how healing can happen in safe relationships marked by trust, patience, and grace. We hope this episode provides hope and healing for those affected by sexual abuse. Scriptures Referenced (in context): Rom 12:15 John 10:10 PS 34:18 Rom 8:28 ...
May 06, 2025•30 min
In this episode, the More Than Roommates team tackles the tension between work and marriage, offering practical and biblical wisdom on balancing career, family, and faith. They unpack how motives, identity, communication, and expectations shape how couples navigate work's impact on their marriage and family. Scriptures: Gen 2:7-9 Eph 2:10 Col 3:23 1 Cor 10:31 1 Peter 3:7 Resources: Podcast - More Than Roommates, Episode 82 - How Does Work Affect Your Marriage? (feat. Jordan Raynor) Book – When W...
Apr 29, 2025•26 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle explore what it looks like for married couples to value, support, and engage their single friends in meaningful ways. They reflect on how Scripture elevates singleness, how the church sometimes unintentionally devalues it, and how we can better reflect the love of Jesus—whether single or married. Scriptures: 1 Cor 7:7-8 MT 19:12 PS 16:11 MT 19:6 Luke 8:21 Resources: Book – Single, Dating, Engaged, Married , by Ben Stuart Book – ...
Apr 22, 2025•26 min
In the episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss our tendency and desire to win and be right in marriage, when the goal is to “lose”, become more like Jesus, pursue oneness, and walk in humility. Scriptures: Gen 2:18-25 John 10:10 Phil 2:3-4 1 Tim 1:15 1 Cor 13:6 Resources: Removed Series from Harris Creek Watermark Marriage Conference – Lance Sisco - Keeping Score in Your Marriage Book – The Meaning of Marriage , by Timothy & Kathy Keller More Than Roommates Episod...
Apr 15, 2025•25 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Jonathan “JP’ Pokluda shares about the necessity of tension (dissonance) in marriage and 5 ways we need to S.H.I.F.T. in our marriages. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church. Scriptures: PR 15:18, 17:14, 17:19, 20:3 PR 18:2, PR 18:13, James 1:19-20 PR 10:2, 19:11, 28:13 PR 19:11, 12:1, 19:20, 25:28 Resources: This is an edited version of the talk. If you want to watch the video of the...
Apr 08, 2025•45 min
In this live recording of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott respond to John Elmore’s talk from the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference. We discuss some of the practical implications of the fact that Jesus is the composer, conductor, and canon of the melody of our marriages. If you haven’t listened to it yet, go ahead and listen to John’s message . Questions to Discuss: 1. How can you make Jesus ultimate in your marriage? 2. How can you and your spouse become more dependen...
Apr 01, 2025•22 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, John Elmore shares an incredibly powerful message about how Jesus is to be the composer, the conductor, and the canon of the melody of our marriage. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church. Scriptures: Genesis 2:20b-25 Matthew 19:4-6 Colossians 3:18-19 John 17:17 Ephesians 5:22-33 Questions to Discuss: 1. Do you act like you’re the composer of your marriage, or do you acknowledge that J...
Mar 25, 2025•36 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott & Kristen Kedersha discuss how to be in Harmony with one another in marriage. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church. Scriptures: John 15:5 Matthew 19:3-6 Ecc 9:9 Gen 2:18 Heb 10:24-25 Matthew 7:3-5 1 Corinthians 10:12 Questions to Discuss: 1. Of the 7 aspects of Harmony shared by Scott & Kristen, where are you doing well? 2. Of these 7 aspects of Harmony shared by Scott ...
Mar 18, 2025•36 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about the importance of good investments. There are many ways we can invest our time, money, and energy, and in this episode we discuss the importance of regularly investing in your marriage. Resources: Book - Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything , by Juli Slattery (release July 1, 2025) MTR Episode 62 – Your Marriage and the Unhurried Life (feat. Chris Schultz) MTR Episode 64 – Questions to Ask Yo...
Mar 11, 2025•25 min
In Part 2 of their interview with Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how the little things truly matter in marriage. We discuss the importance of believing the best about our spouse and why we need a combination of quality and quantity time together. Scriptures: 1 Peter 3:9 Rom 2:4 Phil 4:8 Questions to Discuss: What are some small changes you can make in your marriage that could make a big difference? How do you and your spouse do at believing the best about y...
Mar 04, 2025•30 min
In Part 1 of a 2-Part interview, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott interview Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins about the small things that make all the difference in marriage. In Part 1 we discuss the myth that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and why it’s harmful to perpetuate this myth Scriptures: 1 Cor 13:13 Hebrews 3:13 1 Cor 7:28 Questions to Discuss: How can you build your sense of hope in your marriage? What would you tell a young couple before they get married? How would you encourage or cha...
Feb 25, 2025•26 min
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the importance and centrality of serving your spouse in marriage when life is full and busy and when you don’t feel like it! Scriptures: Mark 10:45 Gal 5:13 Phil 2:1-11 Phil 1:27 1 Cor 13:6 1 Peter 3:7 Resources: Book – Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage , by Ted Lowe More Than Roommates – Episode 16 – The Importance of Empathy in Marriage (feat. Ted Lowe) Questions to Discuss: 1. What is the...
Feb 18, 2025•24 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates (our last “Quickie”), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what’s next—what do you do with all that’s been shared in these 12 days of Quickie episodes. We also share some recommended resources to help you take the next step in your marriage and sexual intimacy. Questions to Discuss: Which episode of the 12 days of Quickies was most helpful to you? What’s something you learned in this series that you want to apply in your marriage? Are there some concept...
Feb 14, 2025•11 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some frequently asked questions about sex, including questions about cussing in the bedroom, sexual abuse, can I say “No,” sex during menstruation, and more. Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 Hebrews 13:4 Ephesians 4:29 Questions to Discuss: How do you handle it in your marriage when one of you is in the mood for sex and the other isn’t? Is there any part of your past/your story that would be helpful to discuss a coun...
Feb 13, 2025•15 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question about orgasms—for him, for her, and the elusive unicorn of mutual orgasm. We also discuss some common differences between the male and female orgasm. Questions to Discuss: Have you and your spouse discussed your expectations about how to please each other? How can you take one step to help your spouse reach orgasm? How do you do in giving feedback to each other in the bedroom? Resources: ...
Feb 12, 2025•13 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question— how followers of Christ should think about and make decisions about birth control. What does the Bible say and how Christians should think about birth control. Scriptures: Psalm 127:3 Romans 12:2 1 Cor 6:19-20 Questions to Discuss: Have you and your spouse discussed your views about birth control? Take some time to pray about what God would have you do regarding birth control. Do some re...
Feb 11, 2025•14 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common myths and stereotypes about sex drive, desire, and frequency and some potential differences between men and women. Questions to Discuss: What’s the biggest challenge you face in your marriage related to sex drive, desire, and frequency? Have a conversation with your spouse about the topics raised in this episode. Make sure you listen well and seek to understand. Resources: Book – Secrets of Sex and Marri...
Feb 10, 2025•13 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss common challenges couples face with sexual intimacy. These challenges (such as past abuse and trauma, physical pain, guilt and shame) are more common than we might realize, and if you’re struggling, you are not alone! Scriptures: Romans 8:1 Genesis 3 2 Cor 5:17 Questions to Discuss: What’s been the biggest challenge the two of you have faced in sexual intimacy? Who can you connect with to discuss any issues/challeng...
Feb 09, 2025•12 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how sex changes in different seasons of marriage – newlyweds, with a newborn, with kids in the house, empty nest, and everything in between. Scriptures: 1 Peter 3:7 Genesis 2:25 Song of Solomon Questions to Discuss: How can you best serve each other in marriage and sexual intimacy in your current season of marriage? What’s one challenge you anticipate in the season ahead and how can you proactively address some of t...
Feb 08, 2025•11 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss whether or not it’s within bounds to “have a quickie.” We discuss different ways to think about sex depending on your schedule and margin, and how to have a healthy rhythm of intimacy. Questions to Discuss: 1. Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to quickies? 2. How can you make space for more extended time for intimacy together? Resources: Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagin...
Feb 07, 2025•11 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss specific questions of what’s in and out of bounds in the bedroom. What does the Bible say about specific questions such as pornography, masturbation, positions, oral sex, and so much more. Scriptures: Hebrews 13:4 1 Cor 6:18 Ephesians 5:3 MT 5:27-28 1 Cor 10:31 Questions to Discuss: 1. What are some ways you can honor your spouse and serve them in the bedroom? Discuss with one another. 2. Take a few moments to pray ...
Feb 06, 2025•14 min
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some general principles of what’s in bounds and out of bounds in the bedroom. Sex cannot involve others besides your spouse (Matthew 5:27-28), cannot involve willingly hurting your spouse against their will (Philippians 2:3-4), and cannot violate your or your spouse’s conscience (Romans 14). Come back tomorrow as we get even more specific. Scriptures: MT 5:27-28 Phil 2:3-4 Rom 14 Questions to Discuss: 1. Have you an...
Feb 05, 2025•9 min
