Intel on Mel (feat. Paige Farley & JoJo Bishop)

Hey guys, welcome back to this coolest... Oh. Hello? What's up? This is our turn to introduce you, Mel. Oh, okay. Hello everyone, welcome back to More of Mel, the coolest part of the game where we pick Mel's brain about things that keep us up at night. We're your host Paige. And Jo. And on today's episode, Intel on Mel, we are joined by Mel, who will be personally violated for the remainder of this episode. Hmm, I don't know how I feel about that. Are you ready? I am ready, honestly.

Although I do want to say that I do reserve the right to not answer any questions. That's fair enough, but we're not going to do that today. Okay. Please, please start. Get us started. So we'll start with the basics. We'll start off easy on you. Where are you from? Oh, so I'm from the Caribbean. Shout out Haiti. That's where I'm from. I'm from... Well, I was born in Miami, but then I moved to Haiti. So like I'm from Haiti, in my opinion. Okay, I love. And how old are you?

I'm 19, turning 20 in December. So I'm excited about that. December what? Like what time? Like, I want to tell. It's already starting. Okay, December 27th, 2003. I'm a Capricorn Sun. Oh, no. That's all I need. That's all we know. I don't get the others. Like, don't ask me my big thread on this one. Okay, I'm sorry. Okay, and two things that we're dying to know. Your comfort show and your death row meal. Okay, my comfort show. I hate to say it, but it's for sure. No, I'm not saying it. What?

Wait, I want to know. It's for sure Grayson Adams. Oh, my gosh. Yes, yes. I thought you were going to say American Horse. That's such a red flag. That's not my comfort show. Like, oh, my God. Joe will literally persecute me for watching America. Okay, me and Joe live together just preface. We are roommates. She will literally persecute me for watching American Horse or you would like, please leave me alone. Doesn't matter what time the day is.

I will walk into the room and I just hear like screaming. She's not even in the room. It's just her fucking computer open on this like, oh. No. It's terrible. Okay, so Gray's Anatomy. Although I haven't watched, like, I don't know how many seasons there are. There's like 19. It's crazy because I literally just restarted it for me with 30 at one. Me too. Paige, I restarted like two days ago. Wait, yeah. I'm like, I restarted it in like the middle. So I'm watching season 10 right now. Oh, okay.

I think I watched up until like season 17. But that's definitely my comfort show. It gets really bad. I know. It makes me really sad because I love that show so much. But death row meal. So I did the TikTok trend a few months ago, but I had a really bad experience with Pesto and like Pesto. Yeah, Pesto's like a huge component of my death row meal. So now it's kind of changed. I'm going to start with dessert. Dessert, for sure, coconut ice cream. I know. Are you starting with dessert?

Because that's what pops up in my mind. Okay. So coconut ice cream and also like a family size Twix bar. That's crazy. Oh, that's amazing. Like coconut, like base or coconut flavored? Both. It's coconut. Do you like the coconut flakes? And as we were just talking about this, it's still good. I hate coconut. So I can't afford that. Wait, and Melody, where do you find the best coconut ice cream? Oh my god. Okay, plug Popeye and Haiti. My Haitian listeners.

Okay. Go to Popeye, get their coconut ice cream. They're not paying me for this promo, but like it's literally the best. Go order it right now if you're still in Haiti. But like main course, I would have to break vegetarianism for this. That's so fair. Dude, I would love like a huge like steak with like garlic, butter like melting on top of it and like potatoes next to it. And also like a yummy cheeseburger. Like a yummy cheeseburger. Really breaking the vegetarian by this meal.

And like a big bowl of like broccoli. If that's what you love so much, why don't you eat that every day? Are you a vegetarian? I am a vegetarian. Why don't I know that? I don't know. Wait. How long have you been a vegetarian? Almost five years. Do you like it? And what made you become a vegetarian? Clearly you don't because like you want steak and a burger. No, no, stop. I love being a vegetarian. It's just that like lately I've been having like weird cravings.

Like I was telling Joe, I really want to have like crispy rice and spicy tuna. I just had that. It's so good. I've never had it. I really want it. You should stop being vegetarian. It's lame. Oh, she was thinking about it. She was like, she needs two weeks in advance to prepare. Yeah, like mentally. That's fair. Like I was vegetarian. Then I went past Teran and like I was over it. So here I am. Eat the crispy rice tuna. Like I want to so bad.

So that would probably be a part of like my appetizer and also like a low to shit ton of like edamame with like soy sauce. Soy sauce. Yeah. And like drink obviously I need a Chardonnay, a Merlot, couple shots of vodka and maybe like a shot of like Yeager or something. Do you want any like non-alcoholic beverage like water? She doesn't want to remember this. Maybe like a cup of water. I think that's a good choice. Maybe like a cup of water and also like passion fruit juice of some sort.

That sounds good. Do you like Pog? What is that? I shouldn't have said it because it's, wait, it's passion fruit. I think it's orange and guava. Oh, like POG? Yeah. Like Pog. Well, they should change the name of that because that's awful. That makes me really sad. But that's my death row meal. Amazing. That's a good one. Thank you. That was a lot about humility. Oh. It says that you're really questioning your life choices. Yeah, basically essentially that's what my life is.

What do we think this show says about her? Oh. I'll answer that after this. OK, OK. Can't wait. OK, now that we have the basis down, we're wondering why Emerson? You come from Haiti, very different lifestyle. This is good question. Compared to Boston. OK, so why Emerson? I actually, my dream school was and always has been and still is NYU. So yeah, I'm planning on going there for grad school. I got accepted. But I was like, I'm a person who gets overwhelmed very easily.

And don't get me wrong, I love New York, but I've only ever been there for short periods of time. So I've been there for vacation, like spring break or whatever. And so I don't really know the lifestyle and the tales exactly. So I think that little freshman me would go stir fucking crazy in the city of New York alone. Like I couldn't do that. And I thought I always call Boston like New York on a smaller, cleaner scale. It's a baby step.

Exactly. So I thought that like I was looking at a bunch of schools around Boston, too. And I don't know why I chose Emerson to be so real with you. Probably the scholarship. That's such a main component. So. Um. Are you OK? And also I I feel like now in retrospect, I kind of like the fact that it was small. But now that I've been here for like almost two years, kind of like it's too small. It's too small. But I mean, like I can talk all my shit about Emerson, but I really do like it.

I've had some great friendships here and like I'm able to do things like more of Mel like I think there's just a lot of opportunities like offered at Emerson. So that's why I chose Emerson. That's very like that answer. It's very honest. I would like to know more, but like we don't have all day. OK, fair enough. OK, so you're in college now, obviously. Here we are. So high school friendships, we must know. Like, do you have the friendships that like you think will last forever?

Or do you agree with like the stigma that like high school friendships like don't matter as much as the college ones and the college ones are the ones that last forever? I don't know if I particularly agree with that. To some extent, I do. I'm not like I don't know because I have maybe two friends from high school, like three, like a handful maybe that I know are going to be in my life forever. They're going to be at my wedding.

They're going to be at my kids like birth or not in the hospital room, obviously. But that's OK. You know what I mean? They're going to be there. Like they're going to my kids are going to call them aunt and uncle, whatever. So but I also feel like high school friendships like my personal experience, especially growing up in Haiti, things are just so tight knit in Haiti. And so when you fall out with someone, you fall out with someone. You're never going to speak to them like ever again.

And like that's happened to me multiple times with high school friendships where like I'll talk to them, but it's not someone I consider a friend anymore, per se, whereas in college, like I don't know. Like you guys know my best friend, Nia. Like for me, that's someone very important. I know she's going to be in my life forever. I hope so. Like I hope either of us don't fuck up and like throw the relationship because obviously we're human relationships fall out always.

But like, I don't know, I feel like to an extent, I do agree that high school relationships are a much more surface level kind of. But also high school is like the fundamental years of your life as a teenager. So like you have people that you go through so many steps of like people that have seen me get cheated on. People that have seen me go through shit with my family, people that but those people are still are the ones that are still in my life right now.

So I guess you can say that like if a good relationship or friendship comes out of high school, then you know it's real. You know, that's what I was going to say. So like those were like your best friends in college. Like were those your only best friends in high school? Yes. Like did you have other best friends or were they just like friends? So I had I feel like in high school, I had like we had a group of like three.

Like I'm still close to the girl but not as much like the guy like he's literally my left nutzag. Like he's my best friend like ever. Like I love him to death. And so like I don't know. And then I had a girl best friend for like almost over a decade. Joe knows his story and like we fell out horribly. Like it was just like but for me that was in a high school friendship. That was just like a life long quote unquote friendship that didn't last for life.

But yeah, I did have what you can call best friends. But obviously since most of them are not in my life, I don't think they were best friends. So I don't know. But fuck a high school friendship honestly. Not really. If you do have high school friendships, I'm happy for you. I mean some are great. Some are awful. Very true. Like that depends on the relationship. I agree with that. But yeah, that's my answer. That's a nice answer, buddy.

While we're talking about friends, we're wondering if you like, first of all, if you have ever like spotted fake friends in your life. And then if so, which I see you nodding your head. Like how do you spot that? Like what is a sign of like a fake friend? And what do you do about it? Okay, so I've, I don't know if I've spotted them from like, from like way before we were actually in a friendship.

But during the friendship, I for sure like there were little slights or like comments or like instances where I was like, ooh, like I need to like take a step back and evaluate the situation a little bit more. But there was this one girl, oh my God, I think I talked about her a little bit like two episodes ago. But I met her freshman year of high school and automatically we kind of clicked.

But it's again, it was such a surface level relationship because you know, like you're a freshman in high school, you're 14, freshly 15, like you meet this person that you kind of click with and you're like, okay, that's my best friend now. It's like automatically within two weeks of school week, we were calling each other's, each other, each other's best friends. And it was like, no, you were like, you did not even know where this person lived. Like you don't know them.

But anyways, like we continued being like, quote unquote best friends for like couple months. And then there were just certain things that she would say or do that I was like, oh, you're not a real friend, like at all, like friends. And she'd like that just a typical thing.

Like if we were like in a group of our male friend, like with our male friends, like she just like shit on me or like bash me like in front of them on purpose, just to like make a slight at me, which like, just makes her look worse. Exactly. But like at first I was like, oh, haha. But then I started realizing that, oh, you're doing the show on purpose. You freak. And then there was, I told this story, but I'm going to make it short again.

But I was dating someone close to her and then like she claimed to be my best friend. But like she would just do things like in regards to me and this person's relationship. That was just like very fucking weird. And it was just like, oh, you're in love with him. Like you want to fuck on him so bad. You fucking freak. And like it was just like so weird. And so that that girl is for sure the number one person that I always go back to when I'm asked this question.

Because she just did so much shit that I was like, you need to go to therapy. Like you need to know how to be a friend. Like you're not a good friend like at all. And yeah. Well, because then it's like, why are you in friends with you? Exactly. Like I don't understand. I feel like she was just keeping me around like, oh, Melody's my best friend. So basically she had no other friends. Yeah. Like the rest of her friends were like her cousins. That's not her friend. I'm sorry. I feel bad now.

No, that's the one person. There's like a handful of people in high school that I really don't fuck with. She's number one on that list for sure. And when Melody says she does not fuck with someone, like she does not fuck with them. I would never want to cross that line with Melody. Oh my God, I want to see your shit list. Oh, I'll show you after that. That one? Yeah. Totally has one. Is it like long?

I wouldn't say it's long, there's just like, okay, maybe like seven people on it, but I have like long descriptions of why they're on there. Oh, so it's like a detailed like, yeah, 100%. Okay. Yeah, I like that. Yeah, me too. I like that. I know you have one too. It's more like mental. Oh, okay. Yeah. I feel like it's like pretty short, but like, like with you, like they're on the shit list for a reason. Exactly. No one's creating a shit list because you're like, oh, I don't like them.

Yeah, exactly. No, like fuck off and go away. Like your ops? It's like more than ops. It's like, it's like never come back into my life. Exactly. Yeah. You did like so wrong that like, yeah, I don't ever want to see your face. Yeah. It's not even like, oh, you see them walking the street and it's like funny. Yeah, like no, like don't approach me. It's like a jump scare. It's like a go to a different planet, please. That's exactly what it is. Just one. I have a feel.

Okay. So like you were talking about French was from high school. So like this girl, like first impression, like how important are they to you? Like for example, like why did you become friends with this girl? Like what was her first impression? First impressions are really important to me. Not that I judge books by their cover, but I feel like just the first impression you make on a person is just an imprint in that person's brain.

And so like I can shit on her all day, but she's a super charismatic person. She's so bubbly. She's like outwardly friendly. Yeah. But like, like once you know her, it's like you're, you're not a friend, but like she was just, she just had a great personality. Like from the jump, like outwardly again, obviously, but I feel like first impressions are very important to me. Are you talking about like guys too? Yeah, like everyone. Oh, for guys, it's like super important. Yeah. Like super important.

I remember there was this one time I was, I think junior year, like because I had a boyfriend junior year of high school, but before him there was like a little, not a fling because like obviously he made a really bad first impression. So I was like, no, like get away from me. But we were like, we were friends, like middle school friends and like we went to high school together a little bit. And I invited him over to dinner at my house because my mom already knew him or whatever.

And so like it was not anything uncomfortable. And so he comes over and like it was my cousin's birthday and so we were throwing a dinner party at my house for my cousin. And so I told him that. So you don't come to like a dinner party. You come to a dinner party like well dressed, like well put together. He's like silent on your face. Like pretty self explanatory. Exactly. And he shows up. I'm assuming he had just left the gym. Yeah. So his sweatshorts galore. It was tank top.

I think he was wearing like a sweatband on his head and I was like, my jaw was on the ground. Like Hailey just in launch party. Exactly. And I was so sick to my stomach because like this is my family. Like this is my embarrassing. It's so embarrassing. Like this is my family. Like I was courteous enough where I had like enough faith in you to like invite you to like see my family dynamic or like meet my family or whatever. And then this is how you show up.

And like just he was making weird comments at the dinner table. Like he had manners like table manners, but like just the comments he'd be making and it was just like and you smell really bad. Like at least a shower in the locker room. Like what do you think like went through his head that was like this is okay to do. Like that's the thing because they know that this is their first impression. Like you think they would care like and it just really pissed me off and we're not friends anymore.

I don't want to say because of that because he's done a lot like a lot of other small things that just really irritated me. But that was like my first like big impression of him where I was like, I need to stay away from you. Like I'm never starting anything with you ever. Is he on the shit list? He's not on the shit list. I feel like a surface level. Exactly. And I feel like he's just too stupid to be like to be like manipulative or like conniving. You can't blame someone for being an idiot.

Exactly. That's what he is for sure. Sorry. I was kind of just thinking back to like the fake friends question. You like I agree with you that first impressions are so important. But then like people can use that to their advantage and like be as fake as they can. Just to like. We talk about this a lot. There's a couple of people here at Emerson.

I don't know if they're majoring or anything, but it's just really weird to me, especially given the fact that we're in college and like we're in our adult lives and for you to still be putting on a front and like having a fake personality. Like I get it sometimes it's good to like kind of not dim down your personality, but like kind of polish your personality at first to like make that good impression.

But for you to like keep that pushing and keep it going like within a deep relationship, like you're fucking freak. It's ridiculous. It's like we're at the point where it's like what is the point of being in a friendship or relationship where like you can't even be yourself. Exactly. Like it makes no sense. Zero point to that. Zero point. And I don't like it. Like people. There's one person in particular can think of like that at Emerson and it's like I don't even call them a friend anymore.

Like prior I would have but like now that I've spent like more time with them this semester, it's like you're an acquaintance. Like do you know my birthday? Do you know my parents are divorced? Do you know anything about me? Like you know nothing about me. So service level. So service level and I can't deal with that. You don't have time for that. It's so useless. You're wasting your energy and mine like. Exactly. They're just screwing themselves over anyways. Exactly. It's very annoying.

But yeah. Exactly. Okay and then on the topic of first impressions, obviously make your own first impressions on people and like not even just first impressions but just like if someone knows you kind of surface level ish. I would do like a like not a really good friend but like an acquaintance borderline friend like something like that. What do people most commonly misunderstand about you? Oh that I'm a bitch. Yeah. And you know what? They think you are and you're not. They think I am a bitch.

Or you are. Okay there's like two different answers because I'm not going to lie. I'm always a very transparent person. Anyone who knows me. And I like that. I love that about you. If you know me for even a week you know the type of person I am like obviously surface level but whatever.

I've been told multiple times like oh like within my friends like my best friend like my guy best friend he told me like I was afraid of you like I thought you were the biggest bitch ever before like I actually got to know you. I love intimidation though.

Yeah. And I feel like and not to be like oh Melody is so fun and cool and like intimidates people but I feel like I genuinely do like my I have a big personality and I feel like my personality does intimidate people at times but I don't think I'm a bitch now. Like I don't I think I'm a really nice person. You can second that. Thank you. I think I'm a really nice person. You have your moments. For sure. I think everyone does.

Yeah. I think I'm a nice person now but I still have like high school me bitchy me. Hunt waiting to come out buried inside of me like she's not leaving. She's very it's a part of you exactly.

And so if someone people on my shit list if you fuck me over to get on that shit list I'm not going to be nice to you like and I'm not going to apologize like if someone doesn't mean to you like absolute bitch mode but like I'm talking like like your friends like I feel like so many times people like like in today's day like let's be honest everyone is so sensitive like in the world everyone is fucking sensitive and they like they confuse

being a bitch with like brutal honesty and it's like yeah when you're brutally honest and someone super super sweet and like won't tell you the truth about something inside like won't say something that you want to hear they're going to be like oh my god that was so rude like no you just can't take like yeah exactly I like you're not a bitch like you're transparent like you're on exactly I agree with that wholeheartedly I feel like

hmm like the impressions I make on people I feel like it just can go either one of two ways either like I suck I'm a sucky human being or either I'm like the sweetest person ever with like that quote-unquote edgy side to me like I don't know you're so edgy you know I hate saying that I just don't quote me on that well I just quoted already you know these are really good questions guys edgy mel can you rename it to that no one would

ever listen to that I would never listen to that exactly okay so do you think like being like called like when he like your phone was like oh I thought you were a bitch or girl scaredy like is that an insult like you're proud of like no like well like is there an insult you're proud of like that someone oh is it an insult I'm proud of oh yeah yeah being called I love being called like within a friendship where it's like oh I thought you

were a bitch I love that it's like oh I make my impact I don't have to worry about that I'm glad oh yeah no you're here another insult I don't know hmm I don't know I'm trying to think of like examples like I don't remember what on earth like I'm trying to think like people call me like sarcastic and like think it's like I take it offensively like you know like that's my people call you brutally honest yeah people say I'm really honest and they're

like they like say it with like like a negative connotation behind it I'm like what like I'm not seeing the issue yeah that was the reason I liked Paige in the beginning when we first met because she would just tell me straight up I would do it right back and she could take it that's how our friendship started like Joe made fun of me for having so many pairs of blue lemon leggings first time literally first day I met her and I was like oh my god

like she can be honest to me like that's my friend yeah yeah it's like if you're like oh my god I love you're like no you don't I'm 30 fucking pairs like I don't need that many like that's not it I feel like those make for the best like foundations for friendships yeah because once you start off a relationship like on fake energy it's it's just not gonna go well no it's not it's just not real and we don't have time for this not real stuff

so don't have time like we're here for a good time not a long time so fucking real I agree okay okay so everyone who knows you knows two things now one you're obsessed with Jason Tatum yeah rightfully so yeah and two every picture you take of yourself is at this upwards fucking angle and I need to know why it's a great angle you look good in every picture you take but why like where's the where's the face forward where's the left side the right

like I'm the worst part is she's getting people to join her in this place less I didn't ask you guys to join me I did not join you I did um do you want to know about Jason Tatum first or the selfie I think I want to oh oh so my obsession with Jason Tatum obviously for obvious reasons reasons he's so gorgeous gorgeous oh my god like I whatever I don't want to get into it um but I it was actually for a guy which I hate saying that but um yeah I started

watching basketball for a guy in like senior year I think and um Jason Tatum was obviously big but like I feel like he's just like boosted up so much in the last year and a half yeah and so that started like end of senior year kind of and um last year when I was first starting the podcast I was approached by a man in the streets and he was like hey what is all this gear and I was like oh like I record a podcast blah blah and then at first I thought

he was like hitting on me or something but then he goes oh like do you want to interview someone for me at this basketball game in summerville you guys don't know this story no what wait what yes and listen but you okay listen um and so I go oh I like I don't know I'm not a journalist like I like if you want a sub part interview then that's fine he goes no like that's so fun like it's only like a three minute interview it's just for like um for like

halftime just to like entertain the people on the bleachers and I was like okay like just text me the address and so he DMs me text me the address I think it was a Sunday morning or something and then I woke up got ready I don't know why I look that good that day I don't know why I decided to look cute that day but it was for a reason and so but the gag is I I put myself in these situations I didn't even know who I was interviewing I don't know this man like sounds like so unsafe

all the way up in summerville like it was just very a very scary situation but I didn't think twice about it so then I get there and then I see this huge crowd of people and so like I kind of back up and like stay in the front like in the back of the court and so I call this guy on Instagram and I'm like so I'm like hey like I'm here like do you like do you want to come get me because like I don't know where to go there's like a huge crowd he goes okay like I'm gonna come get you and then

I'm gonna like tell you about your interview and I was like okay so he comes and gets me and then I see like Jason Tatum's head like peeking out of the crowd oh my god I shit you not I almost fell to my knees like it was actually like so surreal and so I go sit on the bleachers like he wasn't next to me yet but then like um like five minutes before halftime he comes literally oh my god I literally

he's gushing my vagina is so wet right now like I don't think you guys understand he sits next to me and his son was there too like oh this is so cute and so like I don't even remember what I asked this man I was in a daze the entire time how did you even like find question like the guy gave me questions to you literally like do you have it was I think the guy has it I'm gonna try to ask him um give him

that second Instagram call he he actually dammed me the other days of flirt with me so I was like oh staying away is it cute no very much not but he let me meet Jason Tatum so I'm not writing him off at all like if I need something oh best believe I'm going to him but no yeah I asked him questions um and that was it and then he left in a black suburban with his son that's super precious is this the basketball player you're telling me about that you like stood up took a picture with him and

you were literally like up to his hips that was Jason Tatum I don't know yeah it was Jay Tatum I love him so much what a precious little human he's so cute he's so talented perfect awesome amazing so when are we going to a Celtic skin can we please I told you about this we have to we have to very soon yeah but selfie angle so I don't know I wish I knew when it started I cannot tell you I think I think it actually started like probably like senior year like second semester senior year

um I don't know why I just started doing it and I I guess I guess it's stuck I just feel like I look because I'm a very insecure person so I feel like it kind of like skews any insecurities because the angle is so high up that you can't see anything and the things you do see are like so sharp and like tweaked kind of so I think that's why it's great and no they're phenomenal because like that's not what like that I'm fully aware of and that is awesome but when are we gonna take other angles

now never are we ever no but that's something we need to do forward-facing selfie okay we'll selfie you're out like I don't want to see forward-facing selfies from like anyone of anymore well for the time being they'll probably come back but you mean like pictures like other people taking pictures of me yeah you know what I like this because it gets your face it gets your fit it gets the background of where you are like it's a mix of a of a selfie and like someone taking a

picture of you yeah okay so for people taking pictures of me it's really a problem for me personally me too yeah me too like all of us like I just hate like I I have to be like like fucking masterminding the entire process like that's why I hate asking people to take pictures of me except my mom because I know I'm gonna lose friends if I do that like it's so annoying like I have to take 18 million pictures before I get one good one that's it's like but

like we're always our hardest critic like I bet there are so many good pictures in there oh there are there are oh there there are not but like I can't even talk because like I do the same shit it's like yeah I don't know what it is page night we just settle on the bad ones yeah we just it like I have to take like weeks to like finally ask me like okay can I like get a picture of myself and then I still fucking hate every single picture taken like I was just in California they're like

do you want to picture yourself I was like god no I was like I would need to be here for three weeks to get one good picture exactly like it's just such a long process and it makes me really sad like it makes me really sad I don't know maybe one day we'll see a picture of melody that's not a selfie I'm gonna take one today's not the day can I take one right now I think I'd actually like turn off this machine it looks completely different in the picture that's my problem I don't

look like myself like I see something in the mirror cute see something in the selfie cute you take a selfie and you're like who the fuck is that that's like my ugly stuff sister are you like you look very symmetric to me because that's what I find weird it's that it flips you know and it's like it's not what you're constantly seeing of yourself and it's so rude like I don't know if I'm cement like I don't want to think about it stop like but then also like up at the

same goal like how does she even look good up here like it because it's like it like it like cinches like every part of you like jawline like body everything is like everything is in moving inward because the angle is like I have it down to a sign oh she does I made her do her eyes close and like do I want to know how kind of but I'll give a tutorial later and there it is yeah he's our youtube channel on how to think self and I won but whatever not today not today not at all

we'll change that oh my god okay we're gonna jump in jump in the guns here but I guess this kind of goes with the jason tatum topic what do you look for in a guy like first of all I want to know your type and then like qualities like what qualities do you look for in a guy looks type and then personality I don't I don't have a type like build your dream man right now babani like I feel like I have a type but it's rare that I actually stick to it and like I'll still

think people are very attractive even though they don't match up completely with my type I feel like a type is like not like I feel like a type is not a thing and hello I feel like a type is like not a thing anymore it's like your dream in and then like what you actually find out it's like no one gets what they fucking want that's so true but that's like that's not a relationship like I'm not like shaming that like people don't get their type like that's okay like okay if I because all my

boyfriend like ex-boyfriends or like situations just look all so significantly different from one another like it's actually fucking ridiculous like I I don't understand it but my last ex-boyfriend I would say is my type okay like he was tall like he was not like muscular to the point where it's like yeah he was built he was beautifully built like he had curly hair hazel eyes like okay yeah he had facial hair he did I love facial hair interesting he was very cute so like if I kind of

rugged yeah if I were to say I had like an established type it would probably be him don't let that get your head too big sir because don't piss me off right now but um yeah I think he's like physically very like a very beautiful man um but I just if I vibe with a person like I vibe with them and like if you're cute that's a plus like it's so sad that it's gotten to that but like I mean I value personality a lot too so as you said for qualities hmm I was actually talking about this to Joe

sherry and sinney I have a little notebook page where it has like all my standards and everything I look for it in a man on a page she has a chapter oh my god that makes me so happy we need to hang out more page but um qualities you have to be you have to respect me that's a huge thing for me if you have to not show up in sweat you have to not fucking show up in a fucking sweat would you say like care about your appearance 100% that's a huge thing not like in the sense that like oh she

cares about what other people think I look like no like be hygienic yeah be put together like that's all I'm asking for brush your teeth like a little shower wash your hair um I don't know like just the basics honestly like I love a person who is direct and doesn't beat around the bush because I am like that I'm very much like that and so if you're gonna start confusing me might as well just leave me

alone like don't even try to pursue anything with me because I'm not that type of person I don't want to be guessing what's going on like I'm at a point in my life I swear guys that like I'm acting like I'm 30 years old but like no like I'm at a point in my life where I I can't have people beating around the bush with me you like me tell me you like me don't like me tell me you don't like me and keep it fucking push it's so tiring if not once again waste of time waste of energy

I can't do that it's like someone who's direct someone who's clean someone who respects me I'm hearing like bare minimum I need more like I don't I wish I made a book what's your love language I before for sure physical touch hate that shit now don't hate it but like well do you hate it but like love it with the right person exactly yeah for sure um but I would say like gift giving I love like do you like giving them yeah I love both but I love giving people I love things like

if you tell me you like something I'm gonna go look at it and like I'm gonna get it for you I love that that makes me like really happy um also like acts of service is super sweet I like that a lot I would say like all of them I don't have they all are like I feel like I like everyone has like a little bit of all of them I don't feel like I have one in particular that's like oh I can't live without this but like I don't know guys oh this is like I'm trying to rack my brain what about like

guys who have a lot of girlfriends I don't that's I don't know I don't I don't feel like it's necessarily a bad thing because on because on the one hand you have the experience like with multiple people and so maybe like you'll get it right with me but like again on the other hand it's like what the fuck like why did you have to get with so like why did you have so many relationships like do relationships mean nothing to you and were you in love with these people were they in love with

the people then that's a problem for me how are you in love with like five people like that makes zero sense to me like I don't get that also like I don't want them to like act differently around them when you're around yeah but like if they're acting a certain way even when they're like kind of starting something with someone else and it's like okay it goes back to like the being fake it's like like when like what is your actual self then like you don't even know exactly and say a joke

I'm like trying to keep talking I don't know guys I have just okay I wish I had my little notebook with me what about like introvert versus extrovert like going out I like a mix of both because I'm definitely like 80% extroverted but like once I'm in that 20% I'm in there like I'm locking in doing what I have to do staying alone but for a guy I like someone who's extroverted I like that a lot like it makes me feel like you're not a dull person you have substance to you not saying that introverts

are like dull or anything but I just like someone who's gonna want to go out with me who's gonna want to socialize not your energy yeah exactly you want gonna want to do the same things I want to do and vice versa push you exactly yeah agreed okay kind of you're gonna have to help me out with this but like I feel like we've been shitting on guys a lot recently but like no I love you so sometimes yeah um I feel like they I'm like trying to put this into words I have no idea where you're

going why haven't said much yet um I feel like it like goes back to like the being fake and everything like they will lie to you but they're thinking that they're doing it for the right reason but it's like I think it all just like like comes down to like boys and girls because like let's be honest like these situations are with boys and girls like it's not like men and women like they come yeah yeah

but like with boys and girls like they just don't we don't understand each other enough like because it's like yeah like I'm a girl who's like oh my god I just lost my dream wait I picked up mine like they will say things to you that like they think you want to hear yes even if you don't fucking mean it yes or like it's like why are you saying this like I don't give a shit that means nothing to me yeah every girl's the same they don't care to like genuinely get to know you for who

you are you for like what you want in a person in a partner and a friend like yeah they don't care at all they just treat everyone the same and it's like oh my god I don't need to hear this shit maybe some other girl would like this but like not me like that's that's what I mean when I say surface level relationships I can't fucking deal with that dig a little deeper like let's let's try to form complex relationships people like I don't I can't do it like I can't do the hi like what's

your favorite color like and this is why I love relationships that come from friendships because you don't have to do that everything about the person exactly yeah that's such a fair you don't have that awkward phase exactly how's it getting like it's just like you're my friend like oh this is something yeah yeah and then I happen to like you you happen to like me and then it like builds off of it would just be so fucking ideal what exactly agreed but like I don't know I just not

and it's not to shit on men only because I know sometimes us as women we don't make the effort either to like try to like dig a little deeper within like our relationships with men because we also think guys are all the same exactly because we have that preconception notion yeah precon preconceived preconceived notion they're like all men are the same all men are shit all men are this all men are that and so we go into it with that in our mind and so we don't make the effort

to dig a little deeper and try to take them seriously but even if we do try to take them seriously there's always at one point you're gonna end up being like disappointed I don't know not everyone but a handful of them for sure and I feel like if they are treating like this then you could think I feel like my first thought would be like okay then they don't want anything more with me or like they don't like this is what they want this is all that they want and like this isn't

gonna go any further but like so confusing it's so confusing because it's very easy that like they're not thinking that way but then it's like they're not gonna fucking tell you like they don't know how to like okay okay so I need to ask now what like do you do you agree with the like the the like sticking around guys like if they wanted to they would no why because I'm interested I feel like to an extent yes yeah but on a deeper level I don't think so because we have to take into

consideration especially in our generation guys are fucking policies so even if he wants to he's probably gonna be overthinking is she gonna think this about that is she gonna like what she gonna have in her head if I do that so right I don't think if he wanted to he would if he wanted to he should for sure will he that's what's so frustrating because it's like I feel like 90% of the time like if a guy were to like do something about a situation like the girl would just go with it

where it's like if the girl did it like the guy would just so easily push her away yeah I want to and like why is that why is that okay I don't get it fair it's not okay at all and I feel like it's just this thing of again double standards which is such a recurring topic especially in our generation again within hetero relationships whether it's friendships or loving or romantic relationships yeah I don't understand it I'm not going to try to figure it out because I'm about done with it

we're too old for that like I simply I don't have the energy I like I don't have time for that shit we just have to fuck around and ball exactly that's all we can do at this point yeah I agreed okay so relationships what scares you most about being in one everything literally everything like being oh my god that's so scary like being in a relationship is actually the scariest thing ever like do I want to not that I'm like urging or like scratching for it like it would be nice for sure

but like like trust issues commitment issues all of them like everything I have all the issues you like every issue regarding a romantic relationship with a man I have for sure and like don't get me wrong I've worked on it like I go to Astro like I am a an avid therapy goer I love I love therapy anyone everyone should be in therapy you heard it here at one point in their lives every once you go to therapy I don't care if your life is perfect it's not it's not there's always something

going on but um I've definitely worked on those issues and I would I'm definitely not like completely a hundred percent healed from them because then I would be ready to be in a relationship not that I'm not like like I don't even know how to explain it's just such a duality with me and men where it's like oh you taught you breathe next to a woman wrong I'm jumping back and like putting a barrier between us like and that's a me problem like that's not the person's problem that's something I

personally need to work on because I can't expect like obviously like I don't expect them to not have like um female friendships or whatever I love that that makes me really happy that shows me that like you can treat a woman nicely like platonically that makes me really happy but it's just like from past experiences like the past has heard like I've been cheated on like I've had just such horrible experiences with men where it's like I like I don't know where to draw lines like how do

you like how do you work on that for yourself like what do you do for yourself well I was single I I am single I've been single for a solid 10 11 months now so I feel like just staying single and working on myself and reflecting on things that have gone wrong in past relationships and the way I contributed to those wrongdoings and just like really really sitting down with myself and being like okay like how can I improve how can I be better how can I work on this to make my next

relationship better or like even my relationship with myself like how can I love myself because now I've reached that point I've reached that point I love myself so much that like I love that no that's an amazing thing no that's another thing that scares me about being in a relationship because I love myself so much is my next partner going like gonna be able to like live up to that standard I have for myself but like you never know until you try it's not that they have to but I

love my what are you adding on that's like what are you adding to my what are you adding well because like no one should ever love you as much you love yourself like I believe that one that I think like you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else exactly sure but like Joe's right like they can't live up to that standard not okay I phrased it wrong then because like again what are you adding that's that was my point like I love myself so much like what are you

adding that you aren't already supplying for yourself exactly because I think so highly of myself I love myself so much like I have people that I'm surrounded with that think highly of me and that love me so much too that it's like okay like if what are we doing if you're not gonna and obviously I'm not talking about like talking stages or whatever but like full-on boyfriend like full relationship whatever if you're not adding on to that then it's useless to me honestly

that's me personally again don't persecute me but like that's just me also like I'm glad that your standards are so high after like all the shit you've been through like and I feel like since you have those high standards and like the next person that you're actually gonna give a chance to like sure they could disappoint you but like you were looking for so many different things now than when you were before you got your heart broken and you got like mistreated and whatever yeah exactly like

that takes a lot of work oh my god thank you you're so strong you're so brave thank you sorry you guys thank you but no yeah go go find the therapist people like go find it there we're just being proud of ourselves oh okay we're going through it oh yeah mostly to see that it's okay we're on top of another are we like are we that's a really good question though I like that a lot I don't even remember the question

I'm gonna skip down to this one actually and I'm gonna ask you what your biggest red flag about yourself is and then your biggest red flags about others this took us 20 minutes to phrase because like Paige and I both understood it differently we didn't we couldn't figure out like what are your red flags like are you asking like in myself or like in others and that still doesn't make it so just give us both yeah please okay and myself wait what is this wait you have to get it

like you can't phrase it like my red flag that other people would be like oh this is Melody's red flag okay I still don't get it Paige that's how you thought of it oh okay continue you made it complex I'm still gonna say it okay um my biggest red flag about myself is that I I I don't know okay let me do about other people and then I'm gonna ponder like that's about myself other people are we talking men women friendships I think do like friendships and then relationships

okay friendships once when you're constantly being used as kind of like a doormat or like a therapist and then whenever it comes to your problems it's like oh like I'm fucking deaf like I can't hear that's my biggest red flag in friendships because like it goes both ways um um relationships um I would have to say I don't know okay for me like my personal red flag probably that I I love to jump to conclusions like it's really detrimental to him last night

I had a moment last night guys but moments are allowed I'm over it though thank god for that that was a quick turn over I'm really happy for you very quick turnover but I'm proud of myself like I just but oh I need to tell you guys after this but um yeah that's definitely my biggest red flag in myself and then in relationships like someone who honestly someone who's fucking dirty like you know get away from me I feel like that's a basic like thing but do you like find dirty boys

like I'm like I feel like fortunately like I've never really experienced that okay mom sign off right now if you're listening I remember like um me when I was in my thoddy era in high school I remember there's this one guy like I was hooking up with and I think that's why it sucked it oh no like I'm scared his secretions actually make like I think I threw up I think it seems to stop because I'm gonna go I'm gonna go oh my god I thought it was so bad

but no it's and when the man's like sperm tastes bad that means that they're dirty drink your water drink your water adjust your diet you fucking freak why are you eating fucking nasty ass like girls have to take like a cranberry pineapple pill like hello like hello can we please be serious like I think that's my big like griminess yeah that's that should that should be everyone's right yeah if you're into that go go away yeah and is that a deal breaker for you or any of those

deal breakers 100 okay well sometimes people have red flags and it's like very good red flags like sometimes people are like oh if they're like if they're like five ten or something and then it's like five ten is tall joe what the fuck okay you keep thinking that I'm into like five six five ten like no I never said that for me I'd be like like a stupid one would be like if he's like five nine like that's kind of like not a red flag but that's like something that I'm not into whatever

but that would never be a deal breaker no for me that was a stupid example but you know what I mean is for sure a deal breaker if you can't take the time to wash your nutsack or like your hair like brush your teeth like I'm gonna throw like go away like really fast I want to take another shower now I feel like yeah sorry guys that's okay okay I like this one okay so like you know like the stereotype that like boys like shouldn't show emotion well like that's not like our stereotype

but like that's like how they're raised and everything so like when a boy is showing his emotions like is there a line when it's like too much because there cannot be a line I feel like the stereotype is like boys putting it on boys like girls appreciate a little emotion yeah it's like but if like a group of like guy friends like if they're all like going through something like on their own like they're never gonna talk about it like yeah it makes me really sad actually makes

you really sad too because like speak on it please you know how much better their lives would be yeah um they are the ones who need the therapist yeah I don't know that I've experienced non-emotional well my dad for sure is a very like non-emotional like person I get that um but like in terms of like my brother my brother's always been like one to speak on his feelings and like I'm super close to my brother so I've never and my cousins also they always speak on their emotions when they're

feeling mad sad hurt like and we're a very close family and I only have guy cousins like that I grew up with so like I've always been surrounded by guys granted they 100% had their faults like 100% yeah but I've never been particularly surrounded by guys that would like shield their emotions like for the sake of themselves like they would always like speak on like even if it wasn't in depth they'd like say a little something like oh like something hurt me today and this is what it

is like I don't know how to deal with it like they would always like go about it and a very crazy yeah it's that's a culture shock I've never experienced that no but it's what's weird about it is that like we're Haitian and like Haitian men are very like macho yeah men don't cry and blah blah I just feel like it's a matter of like how we were raised kind of perhaps um but do you think they're like this because you're family for sure and like do you have friends back in Haiti that

are guys that will also do the same no not the same but the total opposite like my ex-boyfriend sorry to keep bringing you up pookie I'm so sorry um he's probably not listening but he was I think that's one of the reasons we didn't work because I'm a very progress I hate calling myself that but I'm fact of the matter is I'm a very progressive liberal person right he was like I don't mind like conservative people at all half of my family's super conservative but yeah he was conservative to

a point where he wouldn't like he had the shield around his brain where he wouldn't keep an open mind or like listen narrow mind exactly listen to my povs about certain things and it was like oh I don't like that at all so because I would imagine a future with this person and I was like what are we gonna tell our kids like how's that gonna go like I don't know it's just very weird and so he would be one to always like shield his emotions I think he cried in front of me once

which was when he like broke up with me and that was like he would never show emotions and it was just really like I felt more bad for him yeah it just makes me sad because like are you okay in there and what's so interesting is like I'm sure he felt so comfortable around you but like he still couldn't let that guard down yeah I don't know like I hope he's doing okay but like I don't know I think that's a very like also Caribbean thing like I'm not saying it's not in the US like where men

are like that because they for sure are after being here for like one and a half years but like in Haiti it's because you have the social stand because we're super small too like you guys have a huge country but we're like so fucking tiny that like you have certain social standards and if you don't live up to those or if you don't abide by those especially men like you're fucking like digging yourself in a fucking hole like people will shit on you and you're gonna get bullied

or like harass or like it's really bad down there like in terms of like heteronormative like situations yeah but it makes sense like everything that you've told me about like your home life and like just like the state of Haiti right now yeah it's it's very like weird but I mean I don't know I was brought up in a very like Americanized family and so like but also very Haitian but we had I feel like we had different values in like most Haitian families and so that's probably why like

my cousins or like my brother and my brother knew how to talk about like their emotions yeah yeah I should talk about their emotions totally it's like it's either like zero or a hundred with them like I hear nothing or they're crying in my arms yeah it's like you need to find a balance because it's like no I'm not gonna like shame you for crying like exactly that's okay like you need to cry cry yeah it's like when it's like to the point it's like you're bottling up so much that

you're crying over like things that you shouldn't cry it's like you need to like be able to talk it out as well and like keep a balance you know yeah yeah I feel like we just have a few little random yeah we just want to know some little things bars or frats this should be like bars like bars okay in Boston like are you thinking like bars in Haiti yeah and then rats in Boston like bars in Boston too like over frats for sure yeah okay what are bars like in Haiti

like what how they different I'm taking guys to Haiti I'm fucking taking guys to Haiti you have no say in it like you guys must experience the Haitian nightlife shout out to ASU the best nightclub ever shout out to papai and their phenomenal drinks shout out shout out to Magdus and the happy hours I miss you guys so much shout out to Michaels and your happy hours I love you guys so much like literally the best bar scene best night scene I love it so much the bars are amazing music is

great drinks are amazing yeah a little cheaper there yeah how much is a drink so cheap like at Magdus on Wednesday's happy hour five dollars I can't like we went to Dom Dalla how much do you think like a vodka Red Bull was just one singular like regular size like Dom Dalla at that venue eight dollars vodka cran vodka Red Bull but like still yeah that's a fucking simple as yeah okay it was 30 fucking dollars no like even when we go out to a bar like a club it's still like

15 maybe 14 to 20 that's it's been like 17 okay it has yeah we have spent most like it's ridiculous like I can't live this life but 30 dollars was crazy 30s kind of ridiculous like I don't like I woke up the next day and saw like my credit card tragedy like that that's not real I had to cut up my credit card the other day do you want to elaborate on that?

I was just I didn't make a statement is it like still on your phone though like let's oh really no and like they tried to send me another one and I was like no is this like a healthy like thing yeah wait like you cut it up so you can't use it but it's still like active it's still active yeah well there's there's no way to use it yeah yeah no okay you just like go to a store like I did I did that last semester too because it was just getting out of hand what what do you send too

much money on shit I probably don't need like just random shit like Starbucks takes all my money for sure I hate that it's on the corner because it's like I'm walking class I see it I'm like the app makes it so fucking easy so easy I'm like guys you don't need the eight dollar coffee I know and like we could make coffee in our sweet you literally have like you bought like I bought the chi mix the matcha mix I have my espresso pot like you have everything to make what I love and

iced and like it's just not so make it and put it in your fridge I'm gonna have one after me too no guys this is so no you know it's I'm breaking you out of this I haven't had one in weeks what's weeks thank you last week that would be weak singular not plural thank you oh weeks okay I'm still gonna have one I feel like okay I'm gonna look at the questions that you guys asked okay well she does that I have one question that I like to ask everyone I talked to okay do you agree separating

the art from the artist 100% and fucking persecute me for it bitches like I don't give a fuck okay I so badly want to say an example but I think it's a little too soon I know exactly what you're saying I'm gonna try to think of and we blast that as you should it's it's great I could father stretch my hands part one but oh my god I'm so sorry this is uncut I forgot I have another one though like what wait I'm trying to think of someone fuck it I'm gonna say it Kanye West

I think his lyricism is beautiful production amazing he's such a phenomenal artist I agree top he's top 10 artist for me personally like it's insane exactly and yes I do agree that he has done some weird ass shit like blatantly crazy ass shit exactly like I hope I'm not disagreeing with no one supports him as a human but his music I'm sorry guys I will listen to fucking famous every morning on my walk to 8am if I don't hear homecoming like at least once a week exactly forever

I guess like well Joes I love that song forever Chris Brown my favorite fucking song in the whole world like I don't care who it is I don't care I'm not gonna say that I like obviously I care what he's done and I don't agree I don't support but you cannot sit there and tell me that that's not a banger yeah you hear that and you're not getting up to dance bullshit yeah I agree with you 100% that song's insane it's it's so good I don't know I feel like people who are who disagree with

separating the artists from the artistry are just people who are like like guys I swear anyone who knows me can vouch for this I am the most liberal person ever okay but some people are just painfully liberal it's just like it's like it's the sensitivity it's like why is everything so like you're fucking painfully unironically liberal and you need to shut the fuck up you have no idea what you're talking about like you're just finding information off of fucking tiktok and like w mag so

shut the fuck up you have no idea what you're talking about like it's a song like it's literal it's three minutes of your life get over it like please you don't have to play it I'm not asking you to play I'm just saying don't sit there and give me dirty looks for playing it myself exactly I agree 100% and everyone's like oh but then like you're giving them money like listening to unspotify it's like they don't mean my point zero three cents like that's even how much they're already

billionaires like like this song has been out I don't even know 15 years years it so doesn't matter like get over yourself it riles me up Mel it riles me up and I agree with that are you okay would you like to add something no I'm just like reading these do you have a song well that like Kanye is my artist yeah yeah like it's sorry it's like what if like like Michael Jackson did so many fucked up things none no one's sitting there being like we can't listen I grew up listening to him on

the fucking radio right like Michael Jackson's like probably top at least top three performers of our world like yeah same like it's just people oh my god like no one sat there and was like oh like what it wasn't he like child like pedophilia or something like that and like Michael Jackson and like bleaching his skin like so many controversial issues and it's like that's just who like I'm not saying they're being like oh my god I love him like I would love to hang out it's like no I'm gonna

sit there and listen to every song he's ever made because it's amazing exactly I wholeheartedly agree with that and our parents didn't sit there and tell us stop listening to Michael Jackson oh no me and my mom fucking watched his concert the other day on YouTube that's crazy I've never heard that is there a movie about him there's a documentary there is a movie it's not great I feel like it couldn't wait what is it called when they make like the Elvis movie and like the Elton John movie

like what is that production called I'm talking about like the new like the newer ones yeah yeah I don't know like I need to see one of Michael Jackson's like upbringing of their life but like it's not actually it's not actually him I don't know like I know there is a one just like that there is I'm gonna show you it it's like not the greatest quality but I like it like I think it's spoken a lot of the issues I think it's so interesting what's your favorite music like

documentary my I have so many it's not documentaries but more so movies like top three because I'm such a fanatic I told Joe this the other day I'm like I love old music like that I think it's like the best type of music I don't know for me personally but do you guys know Ray Charles I've definitely heard the name he's a pianist blind yeah yes yes Jamie Foxx played him beautiful I love Jamie Foxx love Jamie Foxx beautiful depiction that's definitely number three number two would

have to be um it's that movie called it's about um it's called what's love got to do with it it's about Tina Turner guys can we watch them it's I think we have so many movies one of my top five movies ever it's so good and I don't know if I have another one honestly so those are good isn't there a new one coming out right now about well actually no I think I'm thinking of like the color purple but that's not new at all no but I feel like there was a new like artist and I feel like

you're right right but I can't think of who it is Bob Marley it's coming soon wasn't that's not what I'm thinking of it's a woman but I don't I feel like it's like Whitney Houston but I know it's not I think it is is it Whitney Houston yeah yeah did it like just come out or like within last year yeah I'm pretty sure it's Whitney Houston like I'm not the biggest fan of hers I'm not gonna watch that but that's very but like she's definitely an icon oh my god why can't I think of the song

oh my what are you trying to think of the the song I just have that it's not the song no but that's a great one too oh my god it's like the song it's about love hey guys I'm really so I will always love you thank you oh why can't I think that's like really yeah like that's the Whitney Houston song what okay I'll shut up now yeah okay I'm gonna ask you just a couple more questions your fans this one is from a special girl named Aliyah

oh my god Aliyah miss you how would you describe your taste in fashion and like personal taste I don't think I have a taste in fashion tbh I just like see what I like and like I try to pair it with like cute things but I feel like I'm definitely like more simple than anything like love a good pair of jeans love a good plane like yeah I'd say your street style yeah yeah I'd agree with that I'm definitely like what I'm wearing today is kind of like whatever I'm wearing like low waist for the

listeners wearing low-waisted white pms with cute details on the back I thrifted for five dollars I'm wearing a UC Berkeley shirt like oversized and like tucked into my bra and then I'm wearing Adidas forums high tops something that I think is so fun about you is that like you will do a complete 180 from like day fit to night fit and I think it's so fun that's I feel like I'm a very diverse person in terms of everything like I love switching up my clothes my hair my

makeup just everything like I cut my hair at least two times a week like try to do something different are you like good at it I'm great I would love to have to have her hair too no no no no no you told me no you should see Joe when someone fucks up her hair it's not anything anyone wants to see OVA cut microbangs and like that happened to me she like twirls it and snips I'm like that's not how you do it oh no but yeah that's how I would kind of I didn't describe shit I'm so sorry Aliyah but

I feel like simple street style that kind of vibe do you have like any artists that like or like people like people that I like look up to in terms of fashion not even like look up to it's just like things that they wear like you really like inspiration yeah I really love what um okay don't kill me again but bad bunny he's always gonna come up in every episode sorry I just love like the shit he wears and I feel like it's so easily like transferable yeah like a woman style also so I think that's

really cool and like obviously like the fashion like street icons like the deed Hailey Bieber I was gonna say like you kind of get like a little like Kylie Jenner really I feel like I see that I like she that's her like most recent has been like so relaxed but like I mean obviously you know she's wearing still fit it up at least ten thousand dollars on herself but like so easily like repeated by like yeah yeah normal people yeah thank you I appreciate that a lot so yeah of course

here you go Aliyah that's my answer next one Joe okay and then we have one from Nia shout out Nia I think her question is deep and do you want to do that yeah what advice would you give to girls our age that are going through a rough patch I need that now should we do like certain rough yeah like should we give me certain scenarios and then I'll give some advice okay someone like just moving to college and like a totally different area like for you for example like when you first

moved here kind of also I want to preface this again back to everyone being so fucking sensitive I'm not a licensed therapist so please take this advice with a grain of salt thank you so for someone moving I actually had that situation kind of the other day so my cousin's ex-girlfriend I'm super close with her and like we talk all the time and when she was first going into college shout out Aliyah and I love you and I miss you so much she always like asked me for advice about

like guys or like just rough patches essentially and I was just talking to her like you just really need to take it day by day like don't overwhelm yourself don't like try to take on so many things when you first get into college because that's when you burn out and that's when you like get so fucking depressed and like anxious when you start like overloading your shit and something else I would say is like just try to branch out and like meet new people this is your time to do that

I was I'm I don't I don't think I'm introverted but I was very like reluctant to branch out my first semester which kind of played to my detriment but like second semester I really like went out there I went out a lot I like met so many new people that I love and cherish so much today so I feel like branching out and not overwhelming yourself would be two of my biggest pieces of advice for that that's for sure like thank you um oh my gosh I don't know

I feel like we've talked enough on like boys and we have given them too much attention what about like I don't know what do we go through every time like what about someone who's like struggling to balance establishing new relationships and friendships here versus like holding on to the ones back home ooh that's a good one because I struggle with that too honestly so I'm really curious what you have to say um I would say um that while you build your relationships in college or wherever you are

away from home um and like start like those relationships start flourishing and whatever don't not saying that you have to like be yourself up over not talking to your home people every day but like don't let those relationships hold you back or those loyalties hold you back from building new bonds here because if the people back home are actually your true friends then they're not gonna mind like my best

friend back home I talk to him once every two weeks and like everything is the same like nothing changed it's the same flow of conversation like we're we still love each other just as much and like if they're your true friends and they're gonna stay in your life no matter how many new relationships you build so I think that's my take on that. What about like vice versa like what about wanting to talk to friends at home too much or like yeah I don't know I haven't dealt with that.

Like not really allowing yourself to like take advantage of the opportunities in college and

like the new people around you. I would say that um that kind of makes me sad for that person because then you get kind of stuck in a rut right um you need not cut contact with them but kind of limit your time spent with talking to them so you can try to like focus and like flourish and like put water into the other relationships because if you if you're just like pushing yourself to talk to that person so much it's it's not gonna be good for you because you're kind of like ignoring

the bonds you have here for that person kind of putting them on a pedestal kind of which is not a problem like once you let that interfere with your relationships here then that's when it becomes a

problem I think yeah that's my take on that. I agree with that. Thank you. And also like love everyone from back home and like you're gonna have them no matter what hopefully but like they're not here with you like they're not going with you you can't just you can't fill them in on every single little detail that's going on in your life and like they're not gonna like you can't just go knock on their door and like and like sure you can FaceTime them but like is that really the same

like it's nice to have them and to be in contact with them when you need them or when they need you or just when you want to pop in and say hi but like more than that I think it's like then you're just kind of living in two lives and that's so difficult and like hard to keep up with and then like yeah it's like like taking you away from this life that you have here that you're supposed to be living in on your own and like building building for yourself exactly I agree with that too that's a

really good point yeah guys okay we have one more who do you look up to in life and in creation I know who fucking asked that his dumb ass um I'm not answering the last one like I don't I'm I'll answer it but like very briefly like I'm assuming he means like God or whatever yeah maybe creation I'm not a religious person my family's super religious um I kind of strayed away from that I don't know if there's a god like if there is bless up um I don't know personally like me

as of right now I don't believe in God but or like the Christian God or whatever but I do think there is a greater force because I don't think we just came about just randomly for sure so I think there's definitely something above like I agree with you on that but I always find myself like oh my god like something's happening I'm gonna pray for this person I don't know who I'm talking to but like I'm just sending that energy out into the world exactly I guess it's kind of just like

manifesting I was gonna say like the manifestation and yeah yeah numbers and all that I agree with that I don't know like where I'm gonna go with that like in the next five years 10 years if I'm gonna start believing in something I don't not sure but if it does happen then great if it doesn't then I'm fine the way I am right now but um in life I look up to a lot of people um I look up to my mom for sure my mom literally is my best friend in the world I think she's the most amazing person ever

like I'm not gonna go too deep into it because like I always talk about her but I just think she's so strong and like so intelligent so driven and like you're perfect if you're still listening if you're still on here but um yeah I just think she anything I need she's there like there hasn't been one moment in my life where I doubted my mom would do something for me like and I think that's such a beautiful thing but someone else I look up to is my her sister my godmother I think she's like

oh my god I love her so much like she's a close second to my mom for sure she's so cool and amazing and like anytime I have like a boy problem I go to her like when we want to talk shit about her son like we call each other like when we want to she's like my go-to talking shit person like I see something that happened in Haiti I call her up I'm like oh my god did you see this happen she's just so amazing and the most hardworking person I know like honestly like this the situation last

year in Haiti like she had to shut down her business and she had to run her business from home and she has a dance school so it's like such a hard thing to do and she kept pushing like even though there were like all these people telling her oh like you should close like there's no hope blah blah and look now she opened the academy back up like she's like amazing so well yeah so she's someone I like in terms of like work ethics like I look forward to her a lot and honorable mention I look

forward to myself call me narcissistic but forward I look up to myself but I think I'm so cool and awesome like I do have my I do have my many downfalls for sure I'm a human being and like totally I do fuck shit sometimes but I mean I do try to learn from it but I think I've grown a lot as a human being like that's all you can do exactly I've seen myself I've been the only person who has 100% been there for myself all the time and until death that's how it's gonna be I always

told Jo that you're you're the only person that's gonna be there on your deathbed like sometimes it doesn't it doesn't make me sad because I how it should be I like how I like that I've come to terms with this at 19 like I'm that is crazy that makes me kind of comfortable though like I I know myself I love myself and I know I'm the only person that's gonna be there when I die like in in retrospect people are obviously gonna be there physically but like you know what I mean yeah

but um yeah bless up melody shout out to melody um I think you're awesome when you listen to this I want you to have the biggest smile on your face even though you should on yourself sometimes I think you're so cute awesome intelligent smart perfect yeah and I second that oh thank you okay actually last question oh no no you go for it two questions we have guys mine was what's one thing that you think probably no one knows about you that you want all your listeners wow listeners to know

wow I feel like I'm such an open book is that's what I was thinking too that's what I'm so impressed about like I don't think I could ever have this because I'm so private like I couldn't share half the and I love that you do thank you um there one like an any aspect of my life any it could be as dumb or as serious as you want I have no idea where my head's going with this I'm just I really I have no idea what I would even like I don't want to get too serious because like

obviously there are certain parts of my life that I keep very private but um fuck I have a super dumb one yeah what is it I used to eat toilet paper all the time oh you thought that they needed to know that now I'm glad I know that like I used to eat toilet can I ask for cold for you 16 I don't want to say oh I have a fun one I told you this the other day I pissed my pants when I was like like in front

of everyone in my class when I was like 11 and it was really sad and they didn't have like like the hands for me to change this you just had to like sit in your piss you didn't like go and she wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom either why a little baby melody sitting here in wet pants puddles on the ground unusual punishment my teacher was such a bitch because I had a UTI at the time at 11 yeah and so you can get it from like holding in your I was like thinking I was like how do you

even know that and you know like you have to go pee all the time when you have a UTI yeah and I had I think I had pissed like fucking seven times that day no and no and so I still get up and then as I I take my first step and I pee my pants and it was like khakis oh my god it was just so sad and embarrassing and like they may have been what do you do like you just pissed yourself like where do you go from there she called your mom and she like and I stayed in a puddle of my piss today so no

I'm pretty sure like when it dries it doesn't dry and go away like water like it may stain and the smell gets so much worse when it's dry it's like period blood when it goes onto your skin and it dries up oh it's disgusting it's like so nasty yeah I'm like really sorry I'm gonna try to think of a serious one hold on I'm gonna I have two right now okay I know that you danced like your whole life I think that says a lot about you

I know that yeah yeah what's your favorite type of dance ballet for sure a little ballerina I hate to say it but yeah that's cute and I know you speak four languages which I think is really cool that's your question no I'm thinking of things for you to tell your listeners last question yeah I speak four languages done you know I kind of took it back nope uncut it's uncut baby it scares me does that scare you melody what scares me an uncut season I don't know I don't really care no she's a brave

soul like I don't care and like I know I have fucking decorum yes I cuss a lot I have a potty mouth and I say out of pocket shit sometimes but I have fucking decorum and I'm not gonna drop someone's name I'm not gonna give too much information that's gonna like fuck up someone's life or reputation like I'm never gonna do any of that because I wouldn't want anyone to do that to me like I don't give a fuck like Taylor Swift says I'm not the biggest Taylor Swift fan but like if you

don't want me to write bad songs about you don't do bad shit like you don't want me to talk shit about you don't do weird shit to me like you're gonna get talked about like that's like the same thing it's like people are like you're so judgmental but it's like don't get me something to do about exactly I agree with that 100% like don't fucking piss me off we're almost funny like pleasing you

alone yeah any more questions oh yeah I do what era are you in right now what a great question I have so many I'm in right now top three eras right now I'm definitely in my hair healing era I don't think I love the head that's called hair no it's her I'm in my para also peaceful oh I really like that's amazing definitely my para kind of is like unbothered last era I'm trying to think of something unhinged

I don't know what would you say give me an era that you think I'm in right now I know I'm trying to think like I want to say like are you possibly entering an era I think you're being very like and not like experimental in a crazy way but like you're testing yourself and like your test yeah you're going outside of your comfort zone which I'm really proud of you for another para I'm definitely but what does that mean another para you're pushing air well that sounds awful but I like don't like

that one anymore like I'm possibly entering a new era am I gonna say what it is no probably not but it's a nice one like it's definitely a scary one to like come to terms with but that's okay it's like nice to test the water nothing worth having is easy you're so right yeah I know what era you in oh I'm in like 18 eras right now I feel like right now maybe like I thought you were in your jara oh I'm in my jara it's my joe era

hey just like that's so fucking stupid I haven't sticky knitted on my mirror yeah I don't know what era I'm in right now I'm in a transitioning era you're in a terra yeah I feel like you're in like an enlightening era I'm not feeling too enlightened but like just the shit I've heard I feel enlightened for you like you're like finally like thinking about things come to terms yeah I'm like coming to terms era yeah okay it's a really it's not a fun era

but I hope that the outcome is gonna be fun that's thing I hope it's a short era that leads to a more phenomenal and exciting I think it's gonna be phenomenal and exciting for you I think it has to be because I have no choice yeah because if you're down in the dumps it can only go up I can that's what I'm saying I feel like I love that I'd rather not get my way and have to like work to get up and like then like be so up and then plummet down oh no totally but what do you mean like work

your way like you know when like something doesn't go your way yeah but then like it all works out and it's because like you made it work out like you didn't get what you wanted in the first place but then you made something else out of it and you learned from no I totally agree just I feel like this is like the third time I've done it so like now I'm just like really like I can't do it anymore maybe this time you have to change your ways then yeah maybe this time if you navigate it

differently something good is gonna come out of it I guarantee that I'm just everything happens for reason and so expect nothing get everything so oh my god I need to start quoting you oh I hope we have great days I'm so excited good days ahead only well praying do you have any last words yes do you guys want me to do the outro yes um so guys that was a crazy change in dynamics for sure but I liked it a lot I think Jo and Paige did a phenomenal I had a lot of fun wow the questions

were just so good I was expecting not less but like such different you had low expectations for us I didn't have no no we came in with an iPad and she was like what fucking iPad fucking Apple Pen attached to it and I was like oh they mean business we were hyping away fucking business and like I'm very proud of you guys and I think this is probably gonna be one of my favorite episodes and I'm really excited

to listen to it I think it's gonna be great and I just want to thank Jo and Paige for being here today with me giving me some of their time in today's episode of more of mel intel on mel see what I did there haha I'm so quirky and clever thanks for having us mel of course anytime like for the listeners this is so long this is such a long episode I'm looking at the thing now wow this is crazy this is longer than no it's awesome this is longer than my episode with Skyler go listen guys go listen

I'm sorry I can't get used to the fucking headphones in the mic just put it a little further away okay but she's like see you just got louder you see I can't hear myself right okay because like in and out because I think your mic's fucked up but anyways um so yeah guys I really hope you guys enjoyed the many topics we discussed today um if you guys want to be on the pod any listeners please um DM me or like text me like do it it's such a fun experience I'm such a fun host like

I'm definitely gonna grill you but it's it's gonna be fun we're gonna have a good time but yeah guys I'll see you next time on episode six of more of mel love you