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Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending to have it all together and embrace a journey up.

Becoming a little more better every day, or at least trying to. That's Deephanie Beatrice.

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It's going, man, it is going. Every day is going? Have you done anything lately that's a little more better?

You know? Here's the thing? Is this more better? Is it more worse? I don't know. I finished Love Island. It was fantastic. All that's good. Those of you more better if you have you know, it's more better for me and my brain because I need something sometimes cause you love it. It's your escape, it's your it's your guilty pleasure. Honestly, it was kind of fantastic this season. Not only were there like multiple moments where I cannot believe this has

Yeah.

Yeah. And then at the end, what was really nice was like it was all people of color. It was like, hmm, it was just really nice to see this, Like America voted for you know who they liked the best. Yeah, and that made me really really happy.

For those listening, they need to know that not only is Stephanie obsessed with Love Island, so are our two producers on this show. And so every week I am like odd man out and I'm I'm on. I'm a big part of me is like should I just fucking watch it so I can be part of the conversation.

You should watch Love Island. But then also like I've got time for that. I don't. I don't know, I don't know. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can I don't know.

I don't know, but maybe I will because it feels like every single person on the planet is watching Love Island, and I feel.

I mean, it's over, well, so you're gonna have to wait till next season? Okay, can I just do I have to watch the other seasons? Could I just like pick up on the next music so you can start. Honestly, the best season to start with is UK the first season because first of all, their accents are amazing. There's this guy name hot. I'm not well, she talks like that. It's so amazing. I think the accent is called scout. So many episodes and it's there's like backdap bustles are something.

The thing is is like I know my husband would like get really into it, like if I see you.

Would get so into it.

Yeah.

David has a little bit of a love for reality TV, like he will get sucked.

In last season, there was a guy that we called We pretended that he was David, and we called it because his name was Dobby Day. So Brad and I would be like David Dane Melissa like it mean, her her name was something else. I can't remember what her name was. She was crazy. Oh my god, I can sue. Her name was, I can sue. And there's this great where like she she like sneaks behind his back and like kisses somebody else. He's like Yura Lia. He's Italian. Also,

Okay, I don't know if it's fluff, but and it kind of goes with our what we're talking about today. Okay, I am little by little purging my house.

I love it. I am like picking a closet.

What I would love is to be able to clear my schedule and do like three days straight of just like absolutely shing purge.

She was ever going to doganizing, but like that's unrealistic.

Yes, So I am just making sure I have like an hour to two hours when I can and picking a closet, picking a drawer, picking just like a smaller area and just going through it and throwing out shit and throwing out and just like putting I have donation piles put together. And then yeah, god, why does that make me like horny? Not like it makes me horny, It makes me horny every time I do it. I'm

And this is why people when they die. Yeah, houses like accumulated like.

Fifty years of stuff and it has just gotten and I mean it's not Listen, I'm making it sound like our house looks like a fucking hoarder's house. It doesn't, but it is at a level to me that is unsustainable, and it causes me so much stress because I've been wanting to like address it for like a year, and so I'm finally doing it good.

More better.

Okay. So that is topic adjacent because on today's episode, we're talking about h y gg Melissa, how would you pronounce that if you read it off the page? Oh?

If I read it off the page without knowing the actual pronunciation. Yeah, yeah, huggy, huggy huggy like higa or higu. No, guys, it's huga houga uga huga. I think it's I think it's like huga huga hugua like a like a boat.

Oh yeah, it does sound like a boat.

Huga.

Yeah, we're horning for huga, Garney for huga. Okay, what is he?

So?

Yoga is it? It's a defining characteristic of Danish culture, a quality of coziness and comfort that engenders a feeling of contentment or well being. You know, huga when you feel it so like coziness, cozy, I'm gonna be cozy, you know. Like yeah, some of it is like some some of it's like about togetherness, relaxation, indulgence, presence. There was like a big movement about huga, like and I think it was like twenty sixteen, seventeen. Okay, this is

So it's like it's a feeling, it's an aesthetic, it's it's it's a vibe, as the kids would say, Yeah, it's a vibe.

It's a vibe aka huge. You're in your cozy era uga. That's what that means.

Huga, Huga, huga.

I think it's very you know, the idea of hugo is really interesting because I mean not to get too about it, but it's very Eurocentric, right, like it is Danish, right, and it's just like an idealized sort of sense of like Eurocentric comfort and coziness. But I think, like, I think the idea can exist they obviously they've got a name for it, but the idea can exist cross culturally. I think it's more about like what we said, like the vibe of it of sorry, my dog's barking in

Those are all of my what's it called? I was going to say trigger words, but that's not correct. That's not the no.

No, it's your like descriptive words.

You're like, it's but but it hits all my al my points, you know what I mean, Like everything you were reading that paragraph. I was just like, yes, all of that, I want it all, Get it to me. Yeah, I am Yeah, I think I am a bit. I live a bit huga ish because I love a robe. I love slippers, love a robe, love a throw blanket. I have multiple throw blankets in my living room. I have I own like three robes for different times of years.

Of the year. Oh my god. Yes, yes, I.

Also own two different slippers, a summer pair and a winter pair.

Yes. And I have a travel pa Oh my god, Oh my god, a dedicated travel pair.

A dedicated travel pair I bought. I found that like on my last.

One I stole from a hotel, but not like a dedicated travel I'm gonna send you a picture of it. I found them in Target. Okay, they're just they're really like cozy.

They feel like those like really fuzzy socks that you get that are like those socks, but they're but they're shaped like a slipper, but they're flimsy, so they're flat.

So you can like, oh, they're packable, They're so good, that's really cute. This is something that I'm embraced seeing more in my in my life now. And maybe that's because, let's be real, like, as adults, most of the time, we have a little bit more of expendable income. We can say like, I am gonna buy myself an extra robe, I am gonna buy myself that candle. I am gonna like take take care of myself and make me myself

I have always wanted comfort. But I will and I will say, like, you know, there was when we were younger in living in New York and like not really making a lot of money. We lived in this tiny apartment, tiny one bedroom in Midtown and uh, but it was but we loved that apartment and whenever we talk about it and like it wasn't listen. Our furniture was not cute, like the esthetic was what it was, but it was cozy.

Yeah, that's interesting because your house is very like I feel like, esthetically it's like all doing one thing. So it's interesting here you say like, oh, I don't feel like I'm putting things together in a way that makes it feel like Okay, well that's nice to hear.

Yeah, I think I think we've gotten a little bit more help along the way, like people with a better ie being like like the blue wallpaper that I love in the little front room way, Yeah, that was a suggestion of somebody like who had a better eye than I did.

They were like, you.

Should wallpaper this, and I was like, oh yeah, wallpaper this. Yeah. It's been like people along the way going like you know, you know you like you need to put this there, like yeah, yeah, I feel like we've had some My sister is so good at it.

I mean speaking of you're so good at it, I do love it. I'm not gonna lie you are really if I'm good at it, my sister's great at it. I mean, your house is beautiful.

The choices you made for your kitchen are think gorgeous gorgeous, and I feel like I wouldn't necessarily think of them, and.

I feel like they're very How the fuck do you say this word? Who uga huga? I can only remember it if I sayug.

Better.

So here's here's my like pro tips for for doing this and like bringing these things into your life. Yeah, is pinterest. I know Pinterests had a big moment the early two thousands, and we're all pinteresting everything and like you can quickly get overwhelmed with pinterress.

Yes, I get over bounded and over stimulated by pinterest.

I I feel like I give myself, Like I'll do like a little bit on my phone, you know, I'll just go like what do I like in in bathrooms? Like what do I like? And I'll go through pictures and like bookmark stuff like make a board just for a bathroom or just for a kitchen and like and then I'll go back and look at the pictures and go like, what is the thing that's tying all these things together? Is it the tile in the background? Is it the lighting? Is it? Oh? There's look, there's gold

And whatever you guys look like that's the thing, right, Like I think so much of creating, you know, Huga is mostly about home.

So creating a space that feels cozy to you is going to look different for everyone. Yeah, it's gonna aesthetically look different for everyone. And Huga specifically is very like I said, like eurocentric, so like blonde woods and you know, sweater that are very like Danish, like look like nordicky whatever.

The throw pillow covers from my sauces are yes, so cozy and practical.

They wash so well when you have little kids, they wash great. They wash so good, you know.

I also like this idea of huga as contributing to happiness and like happy vibes and peaceful vibes. Yeah, it made me think of one of my first apartments that I ever lived in was in Queen's and I was really young, and I had lived in that apartment with an ex and it was sort of just like whatever slapped together you know. I did buy my first like nice couch, like a leather couch. That was like my first big purchase from an acting paycheck.

That I was very proud of.

But everything else was like leftover some of his shit and then like leftover shit from my college days. I at an attempt to like make my bedroom look cool.

I painted one wall like a burgend red.

The one wall.

Remember, oh my god, one red wall. Didn't have a one red wall exactly. Don't do it, you guys.

One of the most romantic things that David and that David did for me when we first started dating was he hated that fucking red wall.

First of all, he was like, the red wall is all.

I came home to like a makeover of my bedroom. He Oh my god, that's so romantic, right he It was such a move.

He painted my whole bedroom.

This beautiful like sagey green that kind of almost similar to your kitchen color.

Go.

He bought a new bed, he rearranged all the furniture, he moved my bed and so the room looked bigger, and he got me a new bedspread for my bed that like matched the wall. It was all like I came home and I cried so hard. I was so surprised, and it looked so beautiful. But it also was the first time in my kind of adulthood that I had a space that felt so peaceful. I ended up spending more time in that bedroom than I did in the living room for the rest of the time that I

Space that felt really good.

Yeah, And and so then that that you start to think about that more and more as you get older, and like you buy your first house or like then you have kids, and it's like your home does really And that's like why I'm purging it right now, because I'm like, we have too much shit, Like we need to make space, Like we need to not feel overwhelmed when we open closet doors and drawers.

And like breathe to breathe. I want to feel more peace. I want to feel.

More coziness in my house. Yes, because it really affects me so much. Sometimes we don't notice, but it's in these it's these little stressors. Right, you open that drawer and you're like, fuck everything, I can't find the thing, or this is so disorganized and I don't have time to address it right now.

Like all of those things.

It's like fung shue and like all like I think these are all like similar ideas of like how do we get better at making sure our space is working in tandem with our mental health and the self care and all the things that we're trying to like do for ourselves and our family. Like the house has to contribute to that, right, Yeah, Like that is like the yeah, at the core of this like idea, and I really like that.

Yeah. They say, like your space really can reflect how you're feeling, how you're holding yourself inside. And like I know when when I've been like at my most depressed or my most down, certainly my space reflects that. Yeah, shit is everywhere. Like I remember when I was dating Brad not letting him into my apartment at one point because it was so disgusting. He was like, no, it's fine, Like I'm not gonna to judge you. And I was like,

And I just have a hard time letting go of things like some yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, close one for me.

It is a hard one, but like yeah, or what if I need this? Like what if I need this? What if I need it?

That I worked on throughout the power cords the other day and I was like.

Oh, you don't need those.

I don't, but save them all because he's like, I don't know they need it. Like as I was throwing them out, he was questioning them like what if that goes to a toy that we.

Don't really And I was like, I don't remember the toy also should go to the good Will. Sorry a toy doesn't work like it be the toy. But there's also like stuff like embracing the idea of making your space your own. Can be as simple as it doesn't have to be expensive. It can be as simple as like, like that thing that I said that I do when I go in my closet, I force myself to hang

Yes, and now, actually we took the bunks apart because they wanted to, I know, they went through, Yeah, they wanted to have their beds on the floor and they were strangely. I mean, Enzo was kind of leading the charge and Axel was going along a little bit, but they were in agreement for the most part. But it's kind of nice because what it did was it gave them each a side of the room instead.

Of being on top of each other. And yes, they're like hanging things on the wall.

Axel has things hanging on the drawings he did or whatever that he specifically told me to put on the ceiling so he could look at them when he's like going to bed and yeah, and it's really it's like self expression. But it's also I think endeared them to their room more and now like yeah, and it's even you know, and so was for a while, you know,

Oh I love. I love letting him campaign though, make him like do like a PowerPoint present. Yeah, yeah, like now he's doing paying for it.

But when he talks about he goes and Axels bed can be here, and like he's talking about both of them moving to the to the to the bigger room.

Oh my god, side note, make him like campaign like actually like put up posters and then you guys can have like a vote, like oh he gave us when the present he did, he took us both through a whole presentation of like where everything would go.

And yeah, he was like, hear me out, like here, Michael, here's what we do, and here's where my bed goes, here's where actual bed goes, and you know this can be our homework desk, and like you did a whole thing.

So yeah, like.

Taking ownership of his spade now and like including his real brother, which I like. But but yeah, so we're probably gonna try to make that happen for him.

But that's really cute.

Yeah more, Okay, wait, okay, So I want to ask you this because like I think our styles are so different aesthetically.

Yes, so this is a little for.

Those of wait, let me give I feel like I should give context for listeners. So here is how our styles of our houses are very different. Is Stephanie is so stylish and her house is just to me so beautiful, and there's like this very like calming, peaceful, like energy when you walk into it and there's beautiful things everywhere, and everything's like place really beautiful in the finishes, or I love your bedroom. Your bedroom is like an oasis.

I couldn't tell if it was a compliment or an insult. It's on the line a compliment.

It's the eclectic part that is like a little bit of a backhanded compliment.

But I understand that there's a lot as one of my descriptors as well, there is a lot of different shit in our house that somehow works together. But yeah, I love I love y'all's house. I think it's like it's warm, Yeah, it's very warm. It feels like you're at home, Like Okay, So when you think about your ideal cozy home setting, what is like the smell that comes to mind.

Like like a fire, like a like a fire, not a fire, like a house burning fire, like a fire place, like it's so dark, okay, like a fire place, a fire a fireplace safely.

Okay. So mine is like a specific candle that has this like very warm like it's like a rich jasmini rose smell. And I burn it all the time in my trailers now like whenever I work, I buy a travel one.

God, you're gonna have to send me this candle because those are literally my two favorite flower smells is rose and Jazzma.

It's so nice. It's the Voluspa rose auto candle. They ain't cheap, you guys, but they burn long. And I have the travel one. I just love it and it's just like nice. Okay, what do you hear? What's what's your ideal? Like what you hear in the background, like in your cozy home. Oh God, I mean again, it's ocean sounds.

I was gonna say, I was I was going in my mind. I was going between ocean sounds or fireplace like the crackling of a fireplace ocean sounds.

And that's like, you guys, that's basically free. You could just turn your phone onto ocean sounds like an habit going.

My sister, I have my kids sound machine to ocean sounds because Okay, my sister constantly finds like a YouTube channel of like she'll have like crackling fireplace or like she had one the other day that was like Parisian cafe sounds and it was just like a video image of there's tons of videos online that you can find of stuff like this.

It's like calming sounds or like, but she had one that was like jazzy wood sounds or something. She's always got like cozy sounds happening. Yeah, okay, what is your ideal cozy taste? Oh? I know this is an interesting one?

Uh.

I mean cozy taste automatically brings my brain to like autumn and like being a basic bitch and being like cinnamon apple spike cookies. Okay, yeah, cinnamon lattes.

You know what? Minus what minus minus having a pot on the stove or like a like a what do you call them, like slow cooker? Oh, full of nacho cheese. Just having like a party where people can go like serve their own like nacho cheese. They'll be the cheese and rotel tomatoes, true Texas girl right here, rotel tomatoes and Tina chili pepper. Yes, yeah, me, that's that. That's that good. I mean you went to my wedding. We had that at my wedding. Yeah you did, ye, yeah

Also like yeah, my brain goes to like pasta and like or like chili.

Soups, something like cozy took tasty for Yeah.

I like that.

Okay, So like I want to lastly go back to the color scheme in my house is like a lot of whites, a lot of grays, a lot of like open space. There is blonde wood in my house, but there's also elements of like our Latinidad everywhere, Like there's a framed gold picture of Selena on the wall. There's like you know, I will say my my bedroom is probably my favorite room in the house, and all it has in it is the bed side tables and a chair and a lamp. That's it.

I literally want to try to figure out how to like make a bigger closet in my house so that I can get rid of some of the furniture in my bedroom.

Because I wanted a guest bedroom. Girl just take over that whole guest room. Yeah, a whole extra bedroom bed, Yeah, a whole extra bedroom in there. You know how much people come and stay with us. It's impossible because you guys have a very cozy house. Molsa isn't selling it. But like you walk into the first of all, you walk into their like little entryway and there's this long table in a mirror and there's all their stuff, like you just it's like a family lives in that house.

That table drives me fucking crazy. I need to figure a better way. I feel like there's a better way.

And it's like here you are. You're inside now, and everyone takes out their shoes and then when you when you get in, there's like this big gorgeous brown couch that is like it just feels lived in and then you can just throw yourselves on it and there's no there's no like, oh can I sit on the couch? It's just like no, you just throw yourselves on the furniture. It's like everyone just knows that they can just sit anywhere they want. Like there's like a fluidness between your

Gosh that I'm like super huga, right, you can use it anyway you use it.

I think I'm very hugua.

I think I always have been, but I think I've honed it over the years. I think I've gotten better at it, or I like to think so. And I think it was good today to kind of talk about and realize the connection between making like living hugolestly and now it can like contribute to your happiness, like overall happiness or peace of mind or yeah, you're inner peace.

Yeah, yeah, what did you learn today? I think I've I'm like, I kind of had this idea that like Huga in my head. I was like, oh, well, it's this, but like, as talking about it, it is what I said in the beginning, which is like it's kind of a vibe, right, And my version of it is there's elements of it that are the danishy elements of it, but there's elements of it that are just like not

Yeah, I'm kind of inspired to like, huga up my house, mourning for.

You for you, Huga. Okay, thanks guys for listening. Sorry that we said horny and huga so many times together. That was probably weird for you.

Yeah, but it was like a steamboat to just to remember the pronunciation so many times. Thanks for coming, Bye bye, more Better.

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