Why is anxiety so common in the modern world of all of the different emotions, even all of the negative ones? Why does this seem to be the one that people are zeroing in on? I think it's uncertainty. You know, we've grown, our species has grown in uncertainty. But now we're so distracted by our phones, the wherewithal we would have used to be able to deal with the uncertainty in the past.
All our cash is full. We don't have a whole lot of extra room. So when uncertainty comes up, and anxiety can sometimes be described. as uncertainty intolerance. Because so many of us as children, if you had trauma, if you had wounding, if you had stuff that was unrepaired, that uncertainty becomes unbearable. So rather than just sort of sit in uncertainty, we worry about it.
Talk to me about why uncertainty is a fuel, a potent fuel for anxiety. Well, I think there was a lot of uncertainty in our childhoods, especially with my dad. I grew up with a dad who had schizophrenia and bipolar, and he was never abusive or violent, but he would lose his mind. And for a young boy and a young teenager, seeing your father lose his mind...
And my dad was the one of the two of us that was really kind of loving and connected when he wasn't psychotic. You know, my little joke is my mother was neurotic and my father was psychotic, so my own psyche didn't stand much of a chance, right? So I think it's just understanding that uncertainty is something that we don't tolerate well as people, especially if you had a lot of uncertainty in your childhood.
the link between what anxiety is, what its function is, and uncertainty. Can you try and sort of fold these things together for me? Yeah, sure. Well, I think anxiety isn't one thing. It's actually two things. And I talk about this in my book. It's basically the state of alarm that's held in your body and this worrisome, the warnings, what-ifs, worst-case scenario your mind comes up with.
So each one energizes the other in something I call the alarm-anxiety cycle. So the short version is you had a trauma that's too much for you to bear as a child. It got pushed into your unconscious mind. And because the body is a representation of the unconscious mind, the body keeps the score and that trauma gets stored in your body. And it sort of has this nature of it.
And through this process called interoception, the brain is always reading the body. So if the brain reads this sense of alarm, it's not going to make up stories about cookies and picnics. It's going to make up stories. That are your worst fears. And as Goggins says, you know, your mind has a tactical advantage over you. So when you get this alarm and something triggers you in your internal or external environment, you're likely to go back into this worst case scenario thing and to try.
to make sense of it. I think people worry because what worry does, in my opinion, is it makes the uncertain appear more certain. Now that certainty can be... abhorrent we don't want that certainty but in our brains we get that little dopamine hit from oh i'm on the right track this makes sense if my daughter doesn't come home oh did you get hit by a car that makes sense in your brain you get a little shot of dopamine okay so worry becomes addictive you're
collapsing the potential options of what could have happened by coming up with small windows of potential certainty in your mind. That are completely consistent with what you've been scared of in the past. That's interesting. There's a ChatGPT screenshot. I follow a few ChatGPT Instagram accounts. These are people getting interesting insights from ChatGPT.
This one was, give me one truly deep, novel, out of distribution, and mind-blowingly simple insight about humans that only very few or none of us are aware of. It cannot be generic, vague, be flashy, or slop corporate stuff. So it's a pretty good project. As prompt engineering goes, that's pretty good. Humans never genuinely pursue happiness. They only pursue relief from uncertainty. Happiness emerges momentarily as a byproduct whenever uncertainty briefly disappears.
I haven't been able to stop thinking about that. It's so funny that you said uncertainty as one of the key drivers. I haven't been able to stop thinking about that. Because what was the uncertainty in your childhood? You know, you were bullied. That was one. So when we go back to that place, the thing is the amygdala in our brains has no sense of time. So when we hear someone being bullied, we may go into this bodily state that was the same as...
the bodily state we had when we were eight years old and we were being bullied. And then that alarm comes up in our system, paralyzes our prefrontal cortex. So we start thinking emotionally rather than rationally. So not only do we make more worries when we're lit up.
But the rational part of our brain that would tell you, hey, those worries, they're never going to happen, that gets shut off. So we get double whammied. So the thing about uncertainty there, I think, is just that uncertainty is one of those things that triggers us emotionally. And if you didn't get repair when you were younger, so if you're in an environment where your parents fight or whatever, and they come back and they say, you know, mom and dad had a fight, it just happens that way.
The children are probably going to have a better, more resilient, and more capable nervous system than children that don't have any trauma, that don't have any wounding. It's not so much the trauma, it's the fact that it wasn't repaired. And if it's repaired, the child learns, oh. shit can go down in the hood but i'm still okay my nervous system is still okay yeah so that sounds a lot like fear of abandonment in in one form or another yeah and i think you know looking also
at you when I've listened to you talk many times and you have this people-pleasing thing for women, the white knight syndrome, right? And I think that comes from a very deep-rooted sense of abandonment, fear of abandonment.
Because what we try and do, and I think what people pleasing comes from as children, is we don't get our needs met by our parents. Our parents, for some reason, they're busy with other stuff. They have their own issues. My dad was severely mentally ill. So we find a way to get our needs met. by getting our parents' needs met. So if I meet my parent need and they throw me some crumbs, then I get this sort of imbued sense of, oh, you know, I am worthwhile.
But it comes at a cost. It comes at a real cost. So we start learning how to read our parents really, really well. And that translates to reading other people really well. So if they're not doing well, neither are we.
We're so afraid of them leaving us that we try to make them feel better. And in trying to make them feel better, we're actually trying to make ourselves feel better. But it's a loop that never closes. Yeah, I certainly think that... if you've grown up in an environment where direct communication about emotions wasn't particularly common, if people didn't say, that thing made me feel X, if they sort of...
gesture toward it with shadow sentences or passive aggression or sternness or by storming out of a room or something like that. Actually, not even storming out of a room because that would probably be too much of a... plain signal of what's going on. Oh, that's anger. It's always a second or third order sentence that's supposed to get you toward a thing. A lot of people will become attuned to, okay, I know that this thing is what was said.
But what does that really mean? What does that thing with that body language where they turn to the side and that deep breath in before they spoke and that side, I think. So this level of obsession over micro movements.
can cause people to be, yeah, very detail-oriented, very focused, very empathetic, because you notice in someone their attempt to hide something that they're struggling to get out. It's like, dude, you're not... you don't seem you don't seem too good today is there anything up no no i'm good it's like hey man like look you can talk to me like i can tell that there's something wrong all right yeah you know me and the girlfriend have been whatever um but on the flip side of that the
That smoke alarm principle means that you're going to misdetect things. A lot of them. Well, why was there no kiss at the end of that text? What does the no kiss at the end of that text me? Oh, it's been this long since they replied. Or I noticed that. They didn't hug me in the same way that they used to. That was a shorter hug or a longer hug. Maybe this means that some catastrophe is going to occur. So you tune up that level of attention that you pay.
because that was the way that you learned to interpret signals as a child. So I can totally see how that would be the case. And then if you fold that in with an anxious parent or a fragile parent or somebody that needs looking after or a distant parent, what you end up getting... is a situation where you are overly receptive to emotions, even ones that aren't there in other people.
And then you internalize the lesson, I'm not okay if you're not okay, that your emotions are my responsibility and that I need to subjugate myself. I can't be... Me, I can't be sad. I can't be angry. I can't be anything because if I am anything that isn't okay, that makes you not okay. And if you're not okay, that's a big problem because you can't handle it. If you're not okay, I'm not okay. That's the child. It's the most common pattern.
And it becomes a pattern, too. And there's that Freudian repetition compulsion as well. So what was familiar to you in your childhood? Human beings equate familiarity with security. So what's familiar to you in childhood, you will unconsciously reproduce in your adulthood. So I would see this when I was a family doctor. I would see people who had alcoholic parents pick alcoholic partners, and they knew consciously, what am I doing?
What am I doing? I had this one woman who is, I write about it in the book, she's really brilliantly attractive and had all these attention from men, but she would only pick the effusive alcoholics. And then she would come in and she would say, I did it again. I picked another one. And it's just that repetition compulsion, I think, really runs our lives, especially if you grow up in uncertainty.
You look for certainty. You look for safety. And that feeling of alarm that's in your system, the confirmation bias that your brain has, it's always looking for a reason. And it will always find one. Brene Brown says that. don't go looking through the world for reasons why you don't belong because you'll always find them. What are some ways that uncertainty might show up in people's lives that they might not notice it straight away?
uncertainty with my child was an hour late getting home from school. Like that's kind of maybe an obvious one. What are some of the less obvious ways that uncertainty can creep in and could sort of chip away at that anxiety response? I think hypervigilance. Hypervigilance in women and irritability in men. Explain those two terms for me. So hypervigilance is...
All the possible permutations. What could happen? What could happen? This could happen. More of a female response than a male response, but there's both. So women tend to start looking at all the different possibilities. Men tend to... and this is a gross generalization, they tend to get activated. And often with men, anxiety, uncertainty, intolerance shows up as irritability.
Because irritability is so much more accepted in our society than anger or rage, that becomes the path of least resistance for a lot of men as they just become these irritable... irritable people and i hear that from wives all the time of the guys that i work with who are anxious like he's always cranky he's always irritable and it's like well that's his pathway out that's his way of trying to discharge energy out
And the same with blame. And I think one of the reasons why our society is suffering so much these days is because blame actually feels good. If you look at the neuroscience of blame, you're taking yourself out of the default mode network, this sort of constant negative self-appraisal, negative self-evaluation, and you're putting it out onto somebody else. And when you do that...
Your amygdala drops in energy. Your HPA axis drops. Your cortisol drops. You just feel better. And then so you get this thing in the States where the Democrats hate the Republicans and both go back and forth. But it feels better. than just staying in your own default mode network, which is likely lit up by the uncertainty. Two things that that makes me think of. First off, I found out from Scott Barry Kaufman that Seligman's learned helplessness theory hasn't replicated.
It's been replication crisis. So for the people who weren't aware, Martin Seligman either analyzed or actually conducted experiments where they shocked dogs. in cages and over a period of time when the dogs realized that they couldn't do anything about it.
They just curled up in the corner and allowed the shocks to be there, even though in future they were able to do things that could stop it from happening. So they had this sort of externalized locus of control. I can't enact any change in my environment. And this was used to be ported across. humans. I think they did it with rats and stuff too. Turns out that's not true. It turns out that humans have, it's, you come into the world being hopeless and you have learned hopefulness.
as opposed to learned helplessness. And Scott's position is, look, if you feel like getting yourself into a positive sum... optimistic, I can do this mindset is always an uphill battle. That's not some personal failing of yours. This isn't some individual curse that's been bestowed only on you. This is a built-in
feature of being a sensitive human being. And it's a permanent battle for the rest of your life for you to learn hopefulness. But learned helplessness is something that it seems to not be so true well and i think what it shows up with in humans is victim mentality because i haven't met anybody with a significant anxiety disorder that didn't have an underlying victim mentality they'll deny it
But if you look at their behavior, if you look at the way they look at the world, and that victim mentality kind of paralyzes us. And I think it's also involved with this default mode network. This is what I do every day is I read about two hours of study.
two hours of neuroscience. And I'm putting together this theory of anxiety that it really is this default mode network that's at the hub of all of it. And when you're locked in that default mode network, which is basically... what your brain does, like in a daydreaming state or when you're not in the central executive network, when you're not actually focused on a task, your brain will default into this repetitive, reproducible.
kind of self-awareness. But the self-awareness is typically negative. There's part of the development network that really looks at how negatively you look at yourself. And it's like... then the inner critic is part of this default mode network. So if you're not actively involved in something,
and you're going, and you're just driving somewhere, and your brain is going into default mode, it may go into, like, you're not a very good person. You can't do this. Why are you trying to do this? You're never going to succeed. And while we stay in that default mode network, we kind of live our lives. And I lived my life like this for many, many years in this sort of default autopilot state. I would go to movies. I would go to social events. I was anxious as hell.
I could fake it, and a lot of anxious people are really good at faking it, but we're stuck in this kind of default loop where we can't get out of it. So I'm learning more ways that we actually become aware that we're in this default loop. Because there is a feeling to it. There is an alarm feeling to it. And how do we get ourselves out of it? And on top of that, we have to actually spend some time in the default mode network where we learn all these negative things about ourselves.
Or we can actually change it. We have to accept that default mode network. We have to accept that that's what happened to us and it keeps getting replayed like a broken record in our heads so that we can actually feel it and stay with it and then process it. And once we process it, it's not... We're not locked into it anymore. There was a lot there. No, I'm just thinking about the sort of this link between uncertainty, which again is after.
It's so funny, ChatGPT marionetting me. This is the beginning of the AI takeover, by the way. ChatGPT infecting me with a really cool idea that I can't stop thinking about. Uncertainty, anxiety. I'm just trying to add in... worry? What worry right is as a part of that is it uh markedly different is it importantly different to anxiety and uncertainty in some sort of a way from a neuroscience perspective why do we worry why do some people worry more than others
I think what happens is that we have this alarm in our system. So we have this trauma that's too much for us to bear. I don't like using the word trauma too much, but you have this wounding typically from our childhood that's too much to bear. Typically, anxious people are sensitive. So there's this wounding, this alarm that lights up in our system that we're not even aware of. One of the first things that I treat people with anxiety is I say, get out of your head. The worries that are there.
The only reason the worries are there is they're trying to pull your attention away from this alarm that's stuck in your body. That is one of the functions of worry. So the worries tend to have to get worse and worse and worse and more intense to keep up with their...
ability to keep you out of that alarm in your body. And really, once you see that alarm in your body is a version of your younger self. And believe me, as a medical doctor and a neuroscientist, it sounds so woo and I want to have a bit of a seizure when I say this. But really, that alarm...
is this unresolved part of you that didn't get the repair that you needed when you were younger. And that energy is still stuck in you and it's still reverberating through your mind. So anxiety, one more thing. Anxiety is these worries of your mind. and then this alarm in your body, and they link together. And I think they link together through the default mode network to just sort of put a pin into it. And when we realize that we're in this default mode network...
We can separate the thoughts of our mind from the feeling of our body and realize, put your hand over it, feel it, really feel that alarm because that alarm is the younger version of you and it's driving your anxiety. If you get rid of your worrisome thoughts.
you're still going to be worried because you're still going to have this alarm in your system. But if you actually heal the alarm that's in your body, you're healing the root cause of what's creating the worries and the separation from yourself in the first place.
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How is this serving you? That's a great question for people to ask. It's like, hey, are your thoughts running away? Are you always thinking about this slight that occurred? this mean or nasty thing? Are you always worried about whether your partner really cares about you or you're on this sort of cycle repeated? You have to ask yourself a question. Okay, I understand this doesn't feel good. You don't like it. You're being tortured by your thoughts.
But just for a moment, imagine in what ways is this useful to you? In what ways is this helping you? Because it's doing something and it is distracting you. It is giving you a sense of certainty. I don't know if my mom's health is actually going to be okay. Well, if I imagine all of the ways that it could be horrible, because we have a negativity bias, so you rarely think about the ways that it's going to be good.
But imagine all of the ways that it's going to be horrible, the uncertainty goes away. But it's interesting. But it comes right back. It boomerangs. Of course, but you're self-reinforcing, right? You're reinforcing the fear because the certainty helps to... remove the uncertainty, but it reinforces the fear. Yeah. So you have to redouble your worries to try and catch up, to try and get ahead of the original fear, the original alarm that you had.
So that's why worries tend to get worse and worse and worse and worse because they serve a purpose. They distract you away from the ultimate cause of your anxiety, which is this alarm that's stuck in your body. You do that since you were a child. Because when we're children, we can't escape. If we have an abusive parent, if we have an alcoholic parent, if we have a parent who's severely mentally ill, we can't get out of there. So we are trapped in that.
And I think part of us, when we go through these anxious phases, goes through this emotional time travel where the amygdala, which has no sense of time, takes us back to that eight-year-old that's walking home from school wondering if mom's going to be drunk. And if we realize that this is a feeling issue more than a thinking one, because we're so left hemisphere driven in this society, we think that we can think our way out of a feeling problem and we can't.
And Huberman talks about that too. Like you can't fix the mind with the mind. You have to actually use the body to fix the mind, at least the subconscious mind. Because that's the subconscious mind is what's running the show in the first place.
So if you get to the root of the problem, you don't have to worry anymore because you've actually solved the root of the problem, which is this unresolved alarm, which is the younger version of you that didn't get the attention and connection and repair that they should have. Surely, though. people who are going through, you get some sort of anxious stimuli.
a child doesn't come home for one hour, that is going to induce anxiety, regardless of whether or not your inner child has been healed. So I'm trying to work out the difference between... This is something from your past that is unresolved and it is existing in the body. And this is a situation which induces anxiety. And let's say, for instance, that you had perfect childhood.
You did rupture and repair with your parents very well. You were made to feel safe. You were made to feel reassured and you were soothed when you were sad and all of those things. And then you go through a messy breakup with your partner and you're worried when you're...
son or daughter goes over to your partner's house about whether or not they're being fully taken care of with their new stepdad or stepmom or something, that is going to induce anxiety, especially if it's over a protracted period of time. regardless of what happened in your childhood. So I'm trying to sort of work out that I had a pretty great childhood, and this doesn't seem like Dr. Russ is talking to me. I'm trying to sort of pass that bit now. No, perfect. Yeah, I think that...
And what I usually use in this scenario is combat veterans. So combat veterans that go through the same firefight, the ones that will show up with PTSD are the ones that have the childhood trauma most of the time. It's almost like the seed is set when you're younger. If you're younger and you have repair, if you had a stable childhood, when you go through that breakup, you're unlikely to really completely lose it.
it's going to be time limited. You know, you're going to go through a really difficult time for two weeks or a month or whatever, rather than if you did have that track in your system from old unresolved wounds, because I don't want to make everything into trauma because it's not. But if you had that pre-existing kind of
discrepancy in your nervous system, you're much more likely to take things harder and you're much more likely to worry longer and worry more intensely than those that had that sort of balance in their childhood. But I don't want to make everything into childhood trauma because it's not.
You know, it's just, but it's a huge feature in chronic anxiety. How many people do you think mislabel other emotions as anxiety or how many people mislabel anxiety as other emotions? Like how many people are actually. angry, but they say that they're anxious? Or how many people are frustrated, but they say that they're anxious? And how many people are anxious, but say that they're angry and say that they're bitter or say that they're tense or whatever? Yeah, I think everybody.
I think we are not, as Jordan Peterson says, we're not transparent to ourselves. We have severe blind spots. That's why we need therapists. I heard you talk about this too, and that you can do all the... you know the meditations and the breath works and all that kind of thing but if you don't have somebody else there to kind of say hey this is kind of a thought that you know be aware of fleeting thoughts this is kind of a thought that comes up a lot
And it's kind of your subconscious giving you a little clue. But I do believe a lot of quote-unquote anxiety is unresolved grief. Unresolved grief is huge, actually, for anxiety. And it just... it gets stuck in your body and it just never really gets processed because every time we go into that feeling of anxiety or more correctly, alarm.
we shoot up into our heads and start to worry because it works. And it works in this sort of short-natured kind of place that doesn't really provide you with any resolution of the alarm. You have to fix the alarm to fix the anxiety. And I think we're in this society where we believe that we can heal everything with cognitive therapy. And that's why I think somatic therapy is so important. Not that you can do one or the other. I think that you need to do both. You need to do bottom-up.
and top-down. And I think in our society, we're so rigid on top-down understanding, oh, if you have the insight as to what happened to you as a child, the pieces will just go back together. It doesn't work that way, in my opinion. What way does it work then? I think we need both. So we need to allow ourselves to feel that alarm, find it first. And this is what I do with all my anxiety people is I say, okay, think of something that really troubles you.
causes you a lot of anxiety. Let's go through this, but let's go through it at a pace where people at home can sort of follow along. Sure. Okay. So I would get you to pick an event in your life. that causes you anxiety not the worst event of your life but something that causes you some anxiety something recent from childhood doesn't matter okay and you don't have to share it with me but
what I would do is go, okay, see if you can bring that to mind right now. So maybe close your eyes, relax your shoulders, relax your jaw. And just in your mind's eye, see if you can really experience. that fear, that anxiety. Now scan your body somewhere between your chin and your pubic bone and see if there's an area that feels... like painful or pressure or nausea or hot or cold? Is there sort of a place between your chin and your pubic bone that feels kind of intense? And where is that?
So kind of solar plexus area. So would that be kind of superficial or deep? Deep, I'd say. Deep, okay. Would it have a temperature? Would it be cool or hot or? Hot. Hot. How about a color? May not have a color, but first impression. Is there a color there? Red. And is there a sensation that comes along with it? Is it prickly? Is there something that you feel that it just feels odd in that area? Tight, like a twisting. Tight, okay. So what I would suggest, and I'm shortening this quite a bit.
is this sort of deep hot red tight is where you hold your alarm and i would suggest that when you get worried about something that this area lights up but because we get so focused on the thoughts We start trying to fix a feeling problem with a thinking solution. So what I usually do is get people to put their hand over that area and breathe into it and just stay with it for a second.
And see if it provides you with some comfort just putting your hand over it. Because the woo-woo part of it is that's younger Chris. That's the part of you that had something that wasn't quite resolved when you were younger. And again, not everything is trauma, but you're a sensitive person. Sensitive people often download stuff into their body, and it shows up there. And then we get...
we get into this illusion that we can solve it by thinking about it. No, it's not a thinking problem. It's a feeling problem. So, so often, the bottom-up approach is to, can we really... allow ourselves to feel that hot red sensation and notice that our mind is going to go nuts trying to pull us out with worry, trying to start saying, oh.
Let's do this. Or this could be a reason. That could be a reason. Because it's a childhood coping mechanism to leave the alarm and go into your mind. A lot of people that I see and have been in therapy for many, many years. They don't even know they have alarm in their body. They just assume it's in their mind. And that's the reason why they haven't gotten better, because you're treating a symptom. The worries are a symptom. The alarm is the underlying cause.
So we need to start treating the alarm in the system. And then the worries just don't have anything to feed them anymore. And you break what I call the alarm anxiety cycle because each one worsens the other. What? is I mean how healing is it to bring up a painful memory in a safe way put your hand over the space and breathe into it is that
Over time, is that going to get rid of it? Is that the way it works? It'll help. It'll help for sure. There's things that I create for my anxious people, and they're called hypno-meditations. So what I do is I take your particular alarm and... We feed that to you in a way that we get you into this relaxed state, relax your jaw, feel the surface pushing up on you with equal and opposite force that you're pushing down on it. The surface is supporting you. Now, can you feel that?
area and allow it to be there. And then often what I will do is I'll take people into the best part of their lives. What was the time that you felt amazing? You felt great. It's like, well, I was, you know, maybe when you first started club promoting or something like that, you really felt like you're on top of the world. Now there's a feeling sense that goes along with that. So what I would do with you is I'd say, okay, grab that feeling sense that felt really good.
Close your eyes, relax your shoulders, relax your jaw. Just really get into that feeling sense of this is really amazing. I'm really loving this. And then we go back into that place in the solar plexus, that red hot place, and we sort of go back and forth between the two.
So a lot of people say, oh, you have to sit in your pain. It's like, no, you don't. Actually, you can really make yourself worse if you have that sort of mandate for yourself. I've got to just sit in there and deal with it. And really, you need a way out. You need a way to change it.
So often I will get people to breathe into it, to put some pressure over the area. Sometimes tapping over it makes a difference. So what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to change the brain's representation of that alarm. which is held in what's called the insular cortex. The insular cortex is a part of the brain that kind of maps the body onto the mind. So it also links into the default mode network. So if your body has this sense of alarm,
It goes up to your brain, enters the right side of the brain first, right insula, and the right insula sends a message to the default mode network, we're in trouble. And then this whole default mode network machinery starts up, and it goes into this loop. And part of the default mode has this sort of self-appraisal, self-worrying part of it.
It's protective, so you get into this loop, and that's why I call it the... And anybody who's dealt with anxiety, and I know you have, and it's stuck around for hours at a time, you're in this kind of autopilot loop. that I believe is in the default mode network. And we need to pull you out of that default mode network. And we do things by improving your anterior cingulate cortex.
which I call the Goggins cortex because it's the self-discipline cortex. It's the ability to say, hey, you right now are drowning in worry, and what we need to do is we need to change your focus from internal... to external. This is what I was saying earlier about why we're in such difficult shape in the world, because when we put our focus externally, it feels good when we blame somebody else, but we're just creating more alarm in the long run.
So it's really finding this alarm when you're worried. Realize that this is coming from your body. It's not coming from your mind. Your mind is a symptom. It's not the underlying cause. So we can help fix some of those symptoms. but you're never gonna heal from anxiety just by fixing your mind. This episode is brought to you by Gymshark. Gymshark makes the best gym wear on the planet. Their hybrid shorts in onyx gray and navy are...
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bringing up something from the past, relaxing your jaw, feeling the ground pressing up with equal force so you're pressing down on it. These are things that you do when you're... in a good place, insane. But what about when those thoughts come careening into consciousness and you didn't choose them? Like the bully has come and found you on the playground as opposed to you going and finding him. Absolutely.
And that takes practice. The thing that makes anxiety so difficult to recover from is there's nothing that really helps it right away. Like if there was something that helped it right away, we would just do that. But I find breathing exercises, physiological sigh is really great. Going outside, moving your eyes back and forth, it dampens the amygdala response. Getting into your body, trying to move your attention.
from internal pain to something external like you can observe. But again, it's not, especially if you've worn this anxious groove for decades sometimes, it's not going to feel better right away. So that's why I make these meditations for people so that they get into their unconscious mind, their subconscious mind, and we start changing things at a deeper subconscious level, at the level that the anxiety itself is encoded.
Because these superficial things, like when I see people on Instagram about, oh, do this breathing technique for anxiety or do this tapping technique. Now, it works, but in a way, we're kind of dangling people over the gates of hell because we're giving them these instantaneous little...
bouts of relief but we're never really dealing with the underlying cause which is this alarm that's stuck in our system that's why and that's why anxiety is so hard to treat the other way the reason why it's so hard to treat is because since you're a child the worry has seemed to be protective for you the worry when you go into your head you don't feel the alarm in your body so much so you train yourself to worry
And it becomes your coping strategy. So when I try and help heal you from anxiety, I'll heal you from anxiety. When I help heal anxiety, I'm kind of taking away your special friend. Because your special friend, when you were a child, worry was all you had. Going into your head and escaping the alarm in your body was all you had. So there's a real resistance for people to actually heal from anxiety.
And that's what I find so kind of frustrating. But I tell people when I work with them, you're not going to want to do the meditations. You're not going to want to. And especially when people start feeling better, they stop doing it. So it's really something, you want to do these meditations, you want to do this connection with yourself while you're still feeling okay. When you're impaired by the anxiety and the alarm, the amount of benefit you're going to get.
from doing these techniques is relatively minimal. And then it's going to seem like nothing I do is going to help me because breathing will help you in an acute crisis for sure, but it's not really going to take it to the point in five minutes where it's like, oh, I feel so much better.
Well, you don't make battle plans during war, right? You try to construct some sort of battle plans beforehand. Yeah, one of my favorite quotes of yours about, we're addicted to uncertainty. And this is part of that. part of that cycle, right? It's a cope. It's a way to do this. Alain de Botton's got this fucking smasher of an insight where he says,
In childhood, if a parent stops loving a child, the child doesn't stop loving the parent, the child stops loving itself. And then that goes into the default mode network. Because there's a part of the default mode network called the posterior cingulate cortex. And that's thought to be involved in self-referential thought. So if your childhood wasn't that great, and children tend to blame themselves, they stop loving themselves, and they create all sorts of reasons why they're not lovable.
that sticks in that posterior cingulate cortex. And then, so when you default into that, and then that's your go-to, your unconscious go-to is to tell yourself that you're- You deserve this. You deserve it. You're a piece of crap. Nothing's going to happen. You're not worthy. If that's your default, it's going to be really difficult for you to kind of live a healthy life. And the thing with me is I've lived in my default mode network most of my life.
I really felt like I've wasted so much of my life in this sort of default mode, like sitting in a movie theater just so anxious that I can barely keep it together. I kind of see my role in the world as sort of being a trailblazer. It's like, I'm the sacrificial lamb. I figured this out. I've used my background in developmental psych and neuroscience and medicine to kind of, I kind of figured this out.
It's really stuck in your default mode network, which, you know, here's the funny thing. It's like people say, you know, anxiety or alarm is stuck in your body, trauma stuck in your body. Now, it may actually be stuck in the brain's representation of the body, but still.
for all intents and purposes, it's in the body. So when we realize that this is the true cause, this is the root cause of what anxiety truly is, is this alarm that's in the body, we have to fix this alarm. We have to fix this bottom-up alarm.
We can do top-down strategies as well because I noticed that after I did a whole whack of somatic therapy and I started being really grounded, all of the stuff that I learned in cognitive therapy made perfect sense to me. But until I got out of the... you know, the lion's den of being an alarm all the time.
I wasn't able to have the wherewithal to kind of see what I was doing wrong and the fact that I was so addicted to my own worry. And I think there's biochemical reasons why we get addicted to worry. Dopamine, I think the periaqueductal gray in the brain secretes like endorphins and keplins.
rewarded. If we scare the crap out of ourselves, we actually get in the brain. We get rewarded for that. And that's another reason why it's so hard to heal from anxiety. But you can do it. You just have to do it the right way. What do you make of the role of talk therapy, traditional talk therapy? Someone's feeling anxious, they're going to go in and sit down and say, I feel anxious all the time and I don't know why and let's...
Talk about what's going on in my life and what went on in my past. Yeah. I think there's a limited amount of benefit you get. I think it's valuable, but I don't think it's going to heal you. It's the same with like science-based therapy. When I see science-based therapy anywhere. I think, okay, coping strategy. I've not heard of that. Science-based therapy? It's quite common, ironically, in the mental health field. You know, CBT is the gold standard, what we're talking about.
in anxiety therapy. And CBT, in my practice, doesn't have a whole lot of penetration. It helps. I find it really helpful for victim mentality. CBT is one of the best things for victim mentality. But again, unless you go at the alarm, unless you go at the semantically, unless you feel it, unless you allow yourself to go back and visit that time that you were abused or abandoned or neglected, I have this...
acronym I call ALARM. I got through med school with acronyms, and it's called ALARMS. So if you experience abuse, physical, emotional, sexual abuse, loss, loss of parents, divorce, abandonment is the A. R is a rejection or bullying. M is anything that made you mature too early. So if you had to become the man of the house or the woman of the house too early, and then the S is for shame. And these things, if they're not repaired,
form this state of alarm in your body. And that alarm in your body is what's actually creating the worries, the what-ifs, the worst-case scenarios in your mind as a way of protecting you from the alarm. So if you go right at the alarm... You're healing the source of the problem. And this is what psychotherapy doesn't really do. Like, how have you found CBT as far as your anxiety? We haven't been working on anxiety all that much. I'm actually now doing ACT.
therapy as well, which is interesting. I certainly like the fact that it feels practically applicable. One of the issues that I had with... twice weekly psychotherapy for a year was I left feeling like I had lots of insights, but also lots of open loops and no kind of direction for how to move forward. The problem with CBT is that it is a fucking ton of homework. If you think that you've been consistent with your training in the gym...
Yeah. And, you know, you've been training for a decade or so, three, four, five days a week, push ball, leg split. Try and do a month of CBT and see if you stay compliant because the sessions are shorter, but it is... Like when I looked at the reminders on my phone, I had this absolute cathedral of...
Like an orchestra of bullshit going on. Most of it, you know, not bullshit. Like it's good, important, and I had to do it. But you end up looking at your day as being this sort of series of bits of cognitive. uh interjections that you're having to do to yourself right which and and this may be the price that you need to pay the brain is a slippery negatively predisposed bastard. And perhaps this is the volume of effort and consistency and work that you need to put in. But...
Holy fuck. Like, yeah, if you're going through, it's like, I'm going through a bit of a tough time. I would really like to alleviate that. It's like, hey, here's 15 things you need to do every single day. It's tough. So I'm still. On with it, pivoted slightly from CBT to ACT, but I'm on with it. Yeah. And again, I think it's really about this default mode network. I've done a ton of research on this.
going to AI and saying, okay, how does the habanula react with the default mode network? Habanula, Huberman talks about too, like the disappointment nucleus, right? So it knocks off, it slows down the serotonin and the dopamine in your brain. So dopamine is involved in movement. You don't have dopamine, you have Parkinson's. So when you don't have movement, when you don't have dopamine...
you lose your motivation, and you also freeze, like physically freeze. So when you're in your bed and you can't move and you can't get out, and I've heard you talk about this too, that's the habenula. It's freezing you in this state that you can't move. And then you're kind of pinned to the bed with all these negative thoughts. And really, it's the shittest version of sleep paralysis ever. Totally.
And then being able to say, like, for me, what's really, really helped me is going, okay, I'm frozen right now. It might be my habanula. You know, it's nice. I always think that. I always think when I'm frozen that it's my habanula.
But it's fun because, you know, and this is what I talk about because a lot of what I talk about is kind of... healing from the spirit side i mean i know a lot about neuroscience i know a lot about the default mode network the insular cortex and i think the insular cortex is going to play a huge role in healing anxiety as we go through like that we're not really even
tip the scale on how big the insular cortex is basically what maps the body onto the brain. And the posterior part of it deals a lot with physical pain. The anterior part of it deals with a lot of emotional pain. It also has a direct link into the full mode and the amygdala. So it kind of gets you into this. If you feel this alarm, this is what I'm saying. If you feel this alarm in your system, this insula through interoception picks it up.
says, okay, we're in danger. Let's shut everything down. So it shuts everything down through the default mode network. And then you stay in that default mode network. And then you loop in these... The posterior cingulate, part of the thing, I don't want to get too complicated, but I love this stuff. It starts feeding you all this negative shit about yourself. And then you get trapped in there. So this is why things like the anterior cingulate.
gratitude, meditation, doing the hard things, the Goggins nucleus, the ACC, anterior singlet, the anterior singlet can actually recognize, hey, you are stuck in the default mode right now. You need to get out and go for a walk. You need to do something differently. That's why action is a good antidote to anxiety. It takes you right out of default mode.
As soon as you connect, and this is one of the other things that I say, and this is a little more woo, is that all anxiety is separation anxiety. And it's mostly separation from yourself. It's separation of your adult self from your child self. The adult doesn't want to go back and visit the child because the child holds all the pain. And it's a separation of your mind from your body. So you wind up living life neck up. You're living your life in the default mode network, which is not fun.
So it's understanding that when you can connect with that younger version of you, you connect with a part of you that's alarmed. And when you heal the alarm, you actually heal the underlying cause of the anxiety so that the worries aren't there so much anymore. In my case, they still come, but I just don't give them any credibility anymore. And I think that's one of the things about healing anxiety that most programs, most university programs, they're almost all cognitive. There's very little.
about the somatic part of it because it's very difficult to reduce the somatic part of it, the emotional somatic part of it into something that can be reproduced and studied. How effective is medication? Well, it depends. I mean, some people do very well on medication. Some people don't. A lot of people get side effects. So I've prescribed antidepressants thousands of times. And, you know, I wasn't so concerned about them when they...
they didn't work, it's when they did work. Because a lot of people will just stay on the medication. I have nothing against medication. But I think in this environment, as a medical doctor, we're not trained in... you know trauma we're not trained in psycho and we don't have the time for it either so it's more likely my my uncle is scottish and he calls it the order of the rotating pen so if you go into a you know your doctor's office with
complaints of anxiety or depression or what sound like that, you're probably going to walk out of there with a prescription. And I don't know if there's much totally wrong with that, but... The medical profession doesn't have the time and they don't have the training or the inclination to really go into the deeper parts of it. I had this patient when I was in Vancouver, downtown Vancouver, who came in with recurrent urinary tract infections.
And my spidey sense has told me that she had significant sexual abuse in her past. So energetically, she's more predisposed to getting these chronic... Now, I can't bring that up. in a, you know, a 15-minute interview. But I was able over the course of time to say, hey, you know, you should look into, you know, something there. There might be something in your past that's causing some sort of maybe some weakness in this area, you know, and she never did.
But it is one of those things that, for me, what was difficult about being a medical doctor is constantly just masking symptoms, you know, giving people something for their acid reflux. When I could see that so much of their physical... physical issues were emotionally driven. And that's being a family doctor. You see the same kind of illnesses, fibromyalgia, migraine headaches, irritable bowel syndrome, run through families.
And there is this thing called visceral hypersensitivity. I think Dr. K talked about this too when you had him on. And there are people, and I think through the insula, I know I'm going on here. Through the insula, I think that some people just feel their bodies more. And they just feel the pain in their body. And they feel the alarm more. And they're much more likely to develop anxiety, depression, eating disorders, OCD, all this sort of stuff because they just feel more.
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That's nomadic.com slash modern wisdom. I'm interested in how much people can actually undo chronic anxiety. You know, you've got these learned patterns. You've got these very, very well laid down. commonly accessed areas of thought. I've heard about epigenetic activation and the expression of genes being turned on because of stresses in the environment. Maybe it was in childhood and then you've worsened it.
through adulthood. And a lot of people live with this as their reality. They just look at this as their reality. How much can you actually reverse or undo? this kind of reality yeah it's almost like you know those hypnosis shows where you see people go and then the guy takes up the hypnotist takes up 30 people and eventually he winds up with 10 to do this to do the show like Some people are just more subcortically or unconsciously amenable to movement. Some people are more rigid.
in their patterns. And some people can surprisingly be moved, but we have to try. We can't just do this from a cognitive lens. All the therapy, the talk therapy in the world doesn't really get at these. deeper, subcortical, unconscious programs that have been in there since we were younger. So it's all about doing the right thing. And this is one of the reasons why I get really on my soapbox is that...
Traditional therapy for anxiety helps you cope, but it really doesn't help you heal. And we really have to show people how they heal themselves. And they heal themselves by reconnecting adult self to child self and mind to body.
That's how we heal. And I think there's a tremendous amount of healing that can occur with that. I've seen people with crippling anxiety, crippling health anxiety. They'll never be fully rid of it, but their lives are so much more... livable now they're not constantly being tortured all the time and i think you have to go at it the right way and that's kind of
why I was so excited to talk to you is that I think we're going at it the wrong way. We're believing that if we worship the mind, we can change the mind with the mind. And it doesn't really work that way. We need to actually get in there and start moving the subconscious mind around. And some people are much more amenable.
to that than others. But we have to try. We have to get in there and give them a chance. And this is where I believe psychedelics play a role as well, in that we are actually getting into these. below-the-cortex, nonverbal areas of the brain that we can start changing. Because this is basically what psychedelics do is they paralyze the default mode network. So if your default mode network is telling you you're a piece of shit...
And you take this, you know, psilocybin or whatever it is. And all of a sudden that voice is gone. It's like, oh my God, this is a brave new world in here. Like, how does this, it's like the movie, The Sixth Sense. Like once you've seen it once. You can't see it again because you know that he's dead all the way through it. Sorry, spoiler alert for a 30-year-old movie. But it's really important that we're not doing the right therapy for people. Talk therapy is valuable, no question about it.
But unless you go and get the alarm in the system. That's truly what's causing the anxiety in your mind is this alarm, this old unresolved wounding that's stuck in your system, in your body, or your brain's representation of your body. This is the core. And if we don't treat this, we're just basically coping for the rest of our lives. And people feel like they're broken. People feel like this is a life sentence. I'm never getting out of this anxiety.
So once you start showing them that there is a way out and they start gaining some agency, they may still be anxious for another year or so, but at least they know they're on the right track. Is it necessary to heal our past? Or can we just move beyond it? Can we just...
Like, forget it and move on. That's kind of like the Joe Dispenza thing. It's like, there's no past, we just change the future, right? I think, like everything, there's a combination of both. I think it's coming to terms with... the self-reproach that we hold for that child who was abused abandoned neglected whatever because there is this sense in us that it was our fault and if that child's you know at fault
We're going to blame that child. We're going to separate from that child. And how do you think that child, if that child is in charge of the alarm, how do you think they're going to react? They're going to get more alarmed. So it's really treating the younger version of you. And then once you show.
the younger version of you, that you, adult you, is there to help them. And you start seeing some progress in that and some connection in that because all anxiety is separation anxiety. So if we have that connection within ourselves and we start feeling like, oh,
I may not be perfect right now. I still go through anxious periods, but I'm on the right track. Like I know I'm not just sort of going to therapy for an hour a week and trying to, I used to have this joke when I did stand up about, you know, if you had a leak in your house.
And you had a plumber come by every week. And five years later, that leak was still going. Would you still keep paying that guy? So it's really about doing the right type of therapy. I'm not against cognitive therapy. We need it. We have these huge prefrontal cortices. But unless we come at it from bottom up as well, which isn't rewarded in academia, which really isn't understood by science.
we're not actually helping people heal. We're helping them cope. But again, helping them cope sometimes is dangling over the gates of hell because you're not really showing them how you actually get out of this. You're just showing you how to deal with it while you're in it. How does anxiety show up differently for men and women? Men, as I said earlier, often it will show up as irritability. In women, it's usually rumination.
Women usually get into this real rumination. They really have this negative self-view. They echo their, if they had a parent who criticized them in some way, that goes on loop. over and over women are notorious for replaying conversations over and over and over from 20 years ago men it shows up more with irritability it shows up with the inability to really feel
And Lisa Feldman Barrett wrote this great book called How Emotions Are Made. And in that book, she says, the more emotion words you know, the more emotionally literate you are, and the more balanced your psyche is. And I think there's some truth to that. Men don't know a whole lot of emotion words. Women know a ton of emotion words. So as Dr. K was saying, we have to get men into their bodies. We have to get them into the feeling part of it.
And the other thing that I think is really valuable for men is to start embracing tears as, you know, as alarming as that's going to be. I mean, you don't have to do it in front of your woman, for sure. I have this thing I call car screaming. So I try and have some tears about every six months. And it just doesn't come. It's really hard for me to get into some tears. So I will watch sad dog videos. Or the other thing I'll do is what I call car screaming.
So I go into my car and I go to a remote area and I just start screaming. And I don't cry out of sadness. I will cry out of frustration. Like if I'm really frustrated, and I think a lot of men are like this. is that when you get to that frustration point and you've been pushing it down and pushing it down and pushing it down, you really have to release it through your body. And it's got to be something that you feel like you have some agency or some control over.
I know a bunch of people who don't seem to cry when they're sad, don't seem to cry sometimes when they're sad, rarely when they're happy, but a ton of times when stuff gets overwhelming. It's like, oh, this catastrophe has occurred and the response is to cry. That's when the emotion comes out.
It's usually stacked up. It's usually, it's like one frustrating thing is that, but once you get three or four in there, that's usually what tips them over. And the thing about tears is they're adaptive in the brain. The reason why I think... This is like a hard truth. The reason why I think men kill themselves much more often than women do is women have tears. So your dog has still died. You're still getting a divorce.
But for some reason, those tears change your perception, your subjective perception of what you're going through and make it easier on you. And if you can't have that... I think it just bubbles up to the point where it just overwhelms your brain completely. And the only way out you see is suicide. And suicide isn't so much about wanting to die. It's basically trying to do anything you can to escape the pain.
It's interesting. Do you think it's a blessing or a curse to feel things very deeply? I remember you saying that. Well, as Jordan Peterson says, I think the only way out is through. I really do think that you have to get to know yourself and allow yourself to feel.
Because so much of anxiety basically is not allowing yourself to feel. There's a little meme that says, you know, overthinking is underfeeling. So if you can't feel yourself, and this is consistent with my theory of alarm, if you can't feel yourself. You're going to have to do something to try and discharge that energy. And that comes typically from overthinking and rumination, which gives you the illusion that you are hiding from this alarm, but you're not.
It is one of those things that just you're dangling yourself over the gates of hell. And it's understanding that you really have to allow yourself to feel this stuff. And this is why therapy is so important, especially for men and especially in men's groups. where you can feel this through your body and see other men feeling the same thing. Because the crisis with men now is so massive.
And then it just gets stuffed down and stuffed down. And there's so much self-reproach and there's so much negativity towards men that, you know, men use the internet to sort of hurt themselves because there's just so much negativity out there about men. And if you don't have a way of releasing that, either through play, sports is great. Play is another...
Play is another great way of releasing trauma because when you're traumatized as a child, you activate both your parasympathetic, your shutdown nervous system, and your activated nervous system at the same time. And there's not really a whole lot of other ways in the world that that happens. So when you go into play, you're doing the same thing. You're doing that same coactivation. The sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system are both active at the same time.
And you get a chance to sort of reprocess that old sort of slush fund of stuff that never got processed. So play, tears, you know, being emotionally open. Here's another thing that I've heard on the podcast. Your thinking brain, your writing brain, and your speaking brain are three different brains. So if you can journal, if you can say it out loud, and you can think it, you're kind of spreading out the trouble.
into different areas. And a lot of what happens is that these disparate parts of our brains start running the show. So the more links you can get between all these things, the more... sort of a buffer that you have so journaling i think is great i think speaking is great when you get these things out i think you had a guest on there too saying i think it was paul conti like when you get it out it's it's out
But if you can get it out and you can write it out and you can think it out, you're sort of hedging your bets and getting the most sort of objectivity on the thing that's really troubling you as opposed to just trying to go at it with speaking. Let's say that someone is listening to this and thinks this is me being described down to a T. I've given it a crack with a bunch of...
other bits and pieces and some have worked a little, but it kind of still feels like my anxiety runs me as opposed to me running my anxiety. What would be your prescription for them? I would go to traumahealing.org. and look at somatic therapy specifically. I use a version of somatic therapy and some internal family systems work. I'd like to work a little more with psychedelics, but it's not legal yet, so that's an issue.
This sort of talk therapy thing. You're not broken. You basically just don't have the right therapy. And the environment, the society is telling you that, oh, go to therapy. Go to therapy. It's going to help you. Well... Talk therapy probably isn't going to help you that much. It'll help you cope, but it's not going to help you heal. So it's finding something that gets into that somatic root. If you're a man, see if you can find a men's club.
There's all sorts of men's retreats that go out, and often for men, that's a better introduction to expressing your feelings than going to a typically female therapist. there's a lot that gets lost in translation there. And men don't have the verbal acuity to talk about emotions the way that women do. So they feel like they're playing basketball without arms. And I've heard that there too.
It's really if someone's listening and go, yeah, this anxiety, actually, yes, it is my body. It is the alarm in my body. We have to address that alarm in your body. So I have a course that I created. i make it 97 like i have my business people say you should charge a ton of money and i i don't want to because i like you i don't have a lot of material desires
I want to get my workout to as many people as possible because I think this alarm anxiety cycle is at the root of 90% of anxiety out there. And if people are just getting therapy for the anxiety part, the mind part.
they're just kind of dangling themselves over the gates of hell and they're not really getting at the root cause. And of course, they're going to feel like they're broken and they're never going to get fixed because you're not actually getting at the root cause of the problem. You're treating a symptom.
So if you have an infection and you have a fever, you can treat the fever with Tylenol, but it's not going to do anything for the underlying infection, which is kind of the analogy that they draw with this, is that you really have to go in there and allow yourself to feel... the old trauma you don't have to go in and dissect it completely
And this is what people ask me. It's like, well, do I have to know where my trauma comes from? Do I have to talk about it? It's like, no, you don't. But you do have to have a sense, like what I was talking about before, with that sort of the red, deep, tight place in your chest. we do have to come in to bear with that. We do have to feel that. And when we feel that, we can get connected with the part of us that got the wounding in the first place. And I have one more thing. I have this acronym.
that I call should. So this is what you should have got when you were younger. So you should have been seen. You should have been heard by your parents. You should have been open to. Your parents should open to you and make it okay to express your needs and to see that their needs are expressed.
Should have been understood, loved, and defended. So seen, heard, opened to, understood, loved, and defended. This is what you should have got when you were younger. You can give that to yourself now. If you find your alarm, you're actually finding the younger version of yourself.
So see them, hear that child, open to them, understand them, love them, defend them. If your parents didn't show an interest in knowing you and understanding you, you probably won't have a big interest in knowing and understanding yourself. And then you're so at risk of codependency because you never really got to know who you were. What you did was you got to give other people what you perceived they needed. And you probably got pretty good at it too.
And then you get rewarded for that. So we're sort of. People pleasing. Absolutely. Codependency. Absolutely. And that codependency makes you lose even more of yourself, separate even more from yourself. The alarm goes up even more and then you kind of redouble your efforts at trying to help other people.
uh, when you're really need that connect with yourself, if you don't connect with yourself, you're not going to heal from anxiety. Just period. Heck yeah. Dr. Russell Kennedy, ladies and gentlemen, uh, the course that you mentioned and everything else that you've got going on, where should we go to check that out? Yeah, my website, theanxietymd.com. That's my Instagram as well, at theanxietymd.com. Everything is the anxiety, not the anxiety doctor, but the anxiety MD.
And it's really about trying to look at anxiety in a completely different way because the way we're doing it now isn't working. Plus a new book. But in the new book came out. Yeah. So that new book came out in September 17th. So Anxiety RX sold over a hundred thousand copies so far, which is pretty happy about that. highest rated anxiety book on amazon.com. As far as I know, when I checked about a month ago, I think it has an 82% five-star rating, which for a self-help book, it's pretty good.
It just gives people a very different idea of what their anxiety is so that they have some sense that they're not fighting this indomitable giant. and not making any progress at all. And anxiety makes us feel weak. And that goes into the default mode network as well. It just sort of works. You're weak. You're never going to get out of this. And it's like, no.
You're actually not weak. You're actually pretty strong. You have to do everything that everyone else does. You know, raise your kids, go to school, but you got to do it with 100 pounds of fear on your back. And, you know, you need to give yourself a lot more credit and connect with yourself.
Because that's really what soothes the alarm. And it's the alarm that causes the anxiety. We're in this society that we believe that the anxiety is the thoughts. The thoughts are just a symptom. They're the tip of the iceberg. So we can see the thoughts quite clearly, but we don't see the alarm that's underneath it, that's feeding it. Heck yeah. Russ, I appreciate you. Until next time. I appreciate you. Thanks so much.
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