¶ The Problem With Over-Helping
Have you ever felt like you're carrying the weight of everybody else's problems ? You want to help , but instead you're giving all of this advice and nobody is ever taking you up on any of it . The truth is is if you're just always trying to solve people's problems , then you could be the one that's actually holding them back .
In this video , we're really going to dive into the mindset shift that helps coaches stop over-helping and start guiding people to real breakthroughs . You're a coach with a big heart and a powerful desire to make a real difference in the world , but what if you could increase your impact , increase your confidence and grow a business with ease
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¶ Michael's Question About Coaching
the show . So welcome back to Modern Leadership , where we answer key questions from our coaching community so that you can grow the confidence in the skills you need to make more impact and income . Today's video is from Michael . Let's jump right into his question .
Hey , Mark and Teresa . This is Michael Jones from Birmingham , Alabama . You can find me online at LinkedIn is where I hang out the most and just search for Encouraging Leader . I've been in your Coach Accelerator program for about 90 days and I love it .
I've learned , honestly , more from y'all in the last 90 days than I have from all the other programs combined . In my coaching practice I serve folks who are corporate professionals who've been working
¶ Why Coaches Fall Into Problem-Solving
for 10 , 20 plus years and they feel frustrated with their careers . They feel like they don't have the joy in their careers anymore , they don't feel connected to the values of their company and they don't know what to do next . Well , I help those folks figure out what to do next and I help them to take those next steps .
My question for the two of you is about , especially for new coaches how do you get out of the habit of trying to solve problems for people and be that mentor versus that guide who's asking questions , and what are your best tips for how to ask better questions as a coach ? Thank you .
So I love this question because many coaches and leaders and service providers actually fall into this trap . We think solving problems actually is valuable , but it actually creates
¶ Mindset Shift: Guide Don't Rescue
a bottleneck . There's a huge difference between giving someone answers and helping someone find their own , and the most effective leaders actually understand this .
Now , having coached a lot of people , there's three main things that I see in terms of what actually holds people back in this area . Number one is coaches equate giving answers as being helpful , like they really do want to get in and help people solve problems .
But whether or not they're giving people advice or direction has a direct correlation in their mind to whether or not they're actually being helpful for their clients , and this could , of course , get you into giving even more directions . The next reason is they could feel responsible for their client's success .
Now here's the thing I really do want you to do whatever you can to help your clients achieve success , but in reality , their success is not 100% in your hands , and thinking that you have to give them answers in order to see that success is actually a big mindset shift that we need to make .
And the last one is coaches , especially new ones , are a little bit nervous , wondering if asking questions is going to be enough . What if the person can't come to their own conclusions and doesn't have success because I either asked the wrong question or I didn't tell them what to do ? And this all boils down to one thing
¶ Call To Action
Sometimes we tell ourselves this story that if we don't give them the answers , they're going to think that I don't even know what I'm doing as a coach . But here's the mindset shift your job is to guide , not to rescue .
So the way that I think about it is that great coaches and leaders don't give people fish . They teach them how to fish by asking great questions . So the next time you feel the urge to give people answers , pause and ask what do you think will work best or what's the real challenge here for you ?
And if you want a simple framework for asking transformational questions , that's exactly what we help our clients do .
So if you're ready to step into your role as a true guide , not just a problem solver , we would love to help . Comment below when you've actually caught yourself over-solving for people's problems , book a free coaching call with us to learn how to ask better questions , and definitely subscribe for more leadership and coaching insights .