S1E9 People Pleasing x Libido with Sexologist Lucy Rowett

This episode confronts the deeply-ingrained taboo that women’s sexual desire should be effortless, constant, and primarily for the benefit of others.

We'll talk about the sex you might have:

* out of obligation

* to “check it off your to-do list”

* to “talk yourself into”

The Taboo

* We’re told that a “good” woman is sexually available—but not “too much.”

* We’re taught that if we don’t want sex, something must be wrong with us.

* We’re conditioned to see our sexuality as a duty, not a source of personal pleasure.

The Guest

Lucy Rowett is a certified sexologist and sex coach who helps women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame.

📍 Location: Vienna, Austria

🆓 Workbook: How To Rock Your Bedroom and Ask For What You REALLY (really, really), Want In Bed

🎧 Podcast: The Naked and Unashamed Life

Time Stamps

* 4:35: Purity culture and sexual conditioning

* 8:06: People-pleasing and burnout

* 13:18: The science of stress x sex

* 16:23: Why some women struggle with desire

* 20:37: The fawn response

Resources + Links

🔗 Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It by Cindy Darnell

🔗 Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

🔗 Esther Perel, psychotherapist

🔗 Women Who Work Too Much by Tamu Thomas

🔗 Masters of Sex (2013-2016)

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