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Okay, it's that time of the week. Ding, ding, ding, ding. The theme is beauty. I feel pretty, I'm so pretty. I don't really know whether I would call myself pretty. Oh, God, this is going to be hard today. God. I actually cannot. I always like giving it a rest. Well, just because all through our growing up, it was obvious, Makita's extraordinarily beautiful. I'm not having that. I don't think I call myself pretty. I just leave it to everyone else.
And then I had 10 to 15 years of going, what happened to Makita? So give me a break. I very much lost my connection to my own beauty for a very long time. And actually, you know what, we'll go into it. We'll go into it. We've set the scene. We're going to talk honestly about beauty today. Let's have our first question. Hi, Lily and Makita. It's Jenny from Cambridge again. And I want to ask what you think the most beautiful thing about yourselves are.
When you ask people questions about themselves that are positive quite often, it makes people feel quite uncomfortable. I understand where it comes from. But I think that we should not feel uncomfortable calling out the amazing beautiful things about ourselves. So hopefully it doesn't make you too feel uncomfortable. But what's the most beautiful thing about you? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Yes. Why is that? Because I feel giggly in embarrassed too.
And I don't know why. Because I'm a bloody, beautiful person. The most beautiful thing about me, okay. I think it is I can really sense people's energy. And I know how to look after it quite well, which is why I think I'm a good interviewer. And I've been good at my job all my life. Because that's what kind of what TV presenting. Really sorry. Just my husband. Hi. I'm just recording the podcast. And we're getting a bit deep. Yeah, do you think I'm beautiful?
Yeah. Is this an intense podcast though? You seem like all intense. We're talking about beauty today. So yeah, I have complicated feelings around it. Put you up. Okay. I think you're beautiful. Yes. Do you think you're beautiful? Well, that's exactly what the question that is being posed to me right now is. Well, and I understand that your response might be a little intense. I think you have real struggles with that. Yeah. I have struggles with that.
Okay. What do you think the most beautiful thing about me is? Physically or emotionally or mentally or spiritually? She didn't specify. The most beautiful thing about you then is your commitment to others. Like your commitment to expressing something that makes people feel less alone. That brings people together. It's in your music. It's in this podcast. That ideology that spirit in you is the most beautiful thing about you. I love you. Do you? I love you too. Goodbye. Bye. Oh, so nice.
Oh, good. Oh, God. That must be really, really nice. It is nice. Here's my little cheerleader and do love him for that. Thanks, David. God, he really knocked that one out of the park for us. Thank you. You asked me in Lydia question, but Lydia's husband answered. And I guess my point was, yeah, the work on my soul and the way I look after other people, I guess what David said about you, that makes me feel beautiful. It does. Mm. Do good as they say in Rastafarianism. Do good.
What do I think is the most beautiful thing about myself? Oh, I'm just so full of self hatred. I find it so hard. I'd just be like making up some bullshit if I said it. I just don't. Do you think you're a good friend? Yeah. I think I'm good in a crisis, but I wouldn't say that that is necessarily something that's beautiful. I would say that you used to be really good in a crisis, but you're much more just there all the time now. And it is beautiful.
You're a real bloody support system in my life, actually. So please know that and stay strong for me. Keep holding me up. I need you. Okay. What is work? I think you've got really great legs. Oh, my God. Thank you. I do. I do have great legs. I have great legs. Yeah. And I think you have really beautiful eyes. I do. I've always thought that. That's the kind. Better to each other. There you go. God, I'm going to really figure this out though, Jenny. Thanks for asking.
Thanks for pushing us a little further than we wanted to be pushed. It's important. Let's keep pushing ourselves today. Why don't you ask for the other question, babe? I'll have another question, please. Hi, Lily. Hi, Makita. It's Georgia Conning from Hull in Yorkshire. My question on beauty. So throughout my teenagers and adulthood, I've been told I am unconventional. Unconventionally attractive and various other backhanded compliments. I've always struggled with my perception of myself.
I've never liked how I look. And I feel sometimes a pressure to conform to like social norms. And like the standard of beauty. I worry that like my partner wants to be with somebody who looks different to me. I just wondered if you had had that pressure and especially been in the media. Have you felt a pressure to conform to like the beauty standard and trends and things like that? Or have you kind of moved away from that?
And what have you done to kind of reject beauty standards and have your own kind of image? Thank you. Love you, babe. Thank you, darling. I found that when I was a kid, people would say like, you know, she's going to be so pretty when she grows up. Or you know, my mom would tell me that I was beautiful. So I've found it really shocking actually when I became successful. And you know, was written about my photographs were taken about how demogatory people could be.
Yeah. About the way that I looked. And I think it actually harks back to the previous question a little bit is that I feel like the reason I can't tell you what I think is beautiful about myself is because I've had to completely dissociate from. Having thoughts about it because it's the way that I've had to. Like to cope with it had to protect myself, you know, reading the horrible things that people have said about not just my parents, but my character.
There's like a running commentary on how awful I am all the time. And so I, yeah, I'm the way I deal with it is just to like detach. That's so upsetting to know, little. That really is because why wouldn't you after 20 years of having think like sort of language thrown at you to describe you after all you would. I don't think you believe it, but I think you're just downtroddened by it. Yeah. I'd say so.
But what about when, you know, there was a time when most men in the country fancied Lilliala. I don't know if that's true. It's so true. I remember that. And people always say to me that they grew up fancying you like that it's there was a duality because there was this vileness, but also there were. I knew so many men that found you attractive and wanted to sleep with you. Yeah, I don't know. I feel, I feel sort of okay. I try to try not to think about it that much.
I mean, actually that's a lie because I just constantly think about what surgery I can get done to improve the way that I look. But we're not touching our faces. Can I just say this lady that gave us the question. Thank you. She was saying to live up to social norms. That is a fucking nightmare in today's world. Our social norms and we were young was like Cheryl Cole, pretty beautiful brunette girl with a great natural face.
Now there is a particular face that says, I mean, I'm not quite sure when or who said that the only beautiful face was big pouty lips and puppy dog eyes and a straight nose. Imagine if everyone had that face, but we don't need to imagine it because that is the world we live in. So this one particular idea of beauty I think is fucking ludicrous. That's not there is not only one way to be beautiful and please I hope that you're not using that example as an idea of beauty because it just isn't.
So please don't touch your face, little. Okay, I'll think about it. Think about what? Not doing it. I'll think about what surgery to get. You can go in my pile of things to think about face lift neck lift, nothing. Okay, I'll get more of them all over. I've mentioned before that I was called your big fat bridesmaid after your wedding. And I remember that was an appearance. I think after that I decided like right I've got to sort this out.
I've got to lose some weight. I've got to sort the way I look out because they keep coming for me and telling me I look dirty and fat. So I must I have to clean up. I have to clean up this dirt and I have to lose this weight. And I think I you know try at 22 try my best to let have a healthy few months. But I trained really hard. I went to start going to the gym and lost a bit of weight and I thought I looked really good. And I had to go host V Festival and they just said it again.
They said Lillianne with her chubby mate, McKee saw all of her and I was like, I'm a fuck say I just lost a stone. And I remember thinking I read it the next day and thinking I give up. And I think I actually after that got got a lot bigger and a lot dirtier and started not looking after myself. It started to really affect the way I looked after myself. I didn't think it was worth trying anymore so I went deep the other way.
Yeah, that's how much like the the idea of yourself you can sort of become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Yes, 100% agree with that. It's always good to go back to your soul and who you really are. I must say that society doesn't necessarily reward you for that though. It's like it is difficult to keep reminding yourself that that is what is important and that is what matters when we spend so much of our time on our phones which you know basically marks you when you're attractive.
I mean that's what a picture is. Everyone wants to be seen in their best light and everyone. Yes, yeah, it's. I did think that the other day it's like you can't even be like a school teacher and not be attractive. Now like if you're a school teacher and you put your ins and you will still be like slightly posting and wanting to look attractive. It's the biggest currency in the world and it always has been but it's kind of gone into overload.
One thing I would say is why don't people understand that when you work on your insides it does literally manifest into the way you look outside. I wanted five years ago to change my hair and lose weight and it made me feel a lot more attractive.
Plating my hair back to when I was the hairstyle heaven I was 10 and I lost a lot of weight and I was active but really I started to film more beautiful when I thought about who I was and how I treated people and that is actually the truth and the way I am in the world. So I think honestly it like makes you beautiful to work on your soul. It just does. Yay! That's why we both look so good. We've done so much soul work. Alright let's have a lovely question.
Hello Lily and Makita my name is Melissa, 11 Manchester and listen to your show every time it comes out. Love the debate and conversation that is sparks and this is a question around beauty. So loads of publications this summer have said that there is the rise of the rat man or the rodent look where we are stepping away from some of those conventions. What I wanted to ask was what feature in a person do you find beautiful and are you attracted to? The isn't deemed conventionally attractive.
So for example at the igno's me personally I really can't stand when somebody is too muscular. I prefer that of a dad board, a little bit of a belly. Love you both. Bye. Oh Lily, what are you? I like beard and back hair. Wait, beard and back hair is a preference for you. Okay, this is a very nice adult answer which is kindness. And I like kindness so it has to be something unconventional.
Yes but it is unconventional because women aren't looking for kindness in men unless they've done some serious work on themselves like me. You know that bullshit about I like a bad boy? That's not women looking for a kind man. That's a dickhead. So kind of sure and I really like big ears. We have big ears. Cute. I remember Alexey, my primary school boyfriend here big ears. I like slightly gormless looking man as well. Oh god yeah. I got a bit thick. Like sort of just like need some help.
Need some guidance. Lost and vulnerable. No but also I also like dependable so it's difficult isn't it? But I would weirdly, I kind of see both those things in your husband. I kind of like I need you on last but you can depend on me. Do you know who my ideal man is? I don't even know if you're going to know who he is. I have no idea. I know this because when I was just on holiday with my girlfriends was sitting around the pool and they were like who's your dream man?
Mandy Pettinkin. From Yental. I love him so much. I especially love him and I was going to say if you haven't seen him in Yental you might have seen him in Homeland. Homeland. Yes dependable daddy. Do you know what I mean though? Fit. No. What? No. Not really. My ideal man is Jeremy Irons. Okay. Fit. No. No. How to dress. Good actor. Who else is my dream man who maybe is a bit unconventional? Kevin Kossner. Hot. Oh my god. Really? I mean maybe in the bodyguard.
That was quite interesting for me because it was like an interracial relationship on a big screen and I was like this is hot. Into this. Whitney and Kevin Kossner. Okay I'll give you Kevin Kossner in the bodyguard. Wait I have one more. Are you going to your list of unconventional? No it's not unconventional but we were just talking about people that were fit or not. Yeah Mandy. I'll keep my secret you give me two more. I can't find there's too far back in the chat. Chat with who?
My other friends. Like a group situation? Yeah a group chat. Like a group chat. The group chat is called Queens of Bands. That's why I'm not f**king in it. You know I wouldn't accept that group request. But yeah I'm really I'm feeling the rodent man thing. As I said in a previous episode really fancy all the guys in it in the gang. You do? Really do fancy Jeremy Allen White quite a lot and I don't fancy Barry Kio but I bet you do. Not for me. Absolutely not for me Jeremy Allen White. No way.
Oh okay so who out of the road? Any out of the road of rent? Timmitay Chamolay? No they're all not giving. Yeah this is my vibe not yours. There's no kind of hairy back. No I need like a dependable bear. A big bear of a man. It's a dependable bear. I get it. Alright let's have another question for this week's listen. Listen bish. Hello Mickey Tally Lee. This is Diego from Mexico City. And I wanted to hear your opinion because I grew up a chubby kid very fat teenager.
And it was only when I turned 23 that I determined myself I lost weight. And I got in shape and now I'm 36 and not to to my own horn but I'm at my best shape ever. And I really noticed how in this process people started treating me very differently. And it's bittersweet because on one hand I'm like well that's great. I get better treatment and I get like priority sometimes. I get definitely more attention. If you need anything you know that people will look at you first.
But it's also bitter because I'm like no wait I'm the same person. And that chubby kid also deserves a really good treatment. So how do you negotiate being so pretty and getting all these perks? Thank you. Love your podcast. Thank you. Diego from Mexico City. I am so happy we've traveled so far. And maybe very excited. It's pretty cool isn't it? Mexico City is amazing. Have you ever been to Mexico City? No not Mexico City. I've been to Mexico. We needed to go there together.
We were actually going to go there to see someone in a band play earlier this year. But we decided to go there. What was the actual question though? How do you negotiate people treating you better when you look better? I don't negotiate. I find that a really difficult thing because when I lost out of weight my career came back. I was also very focused but it was a huge part of it. And I have really confused emotions about that because I've never been less good at my job.
But I lost a lot of opportunities because of the way I was looking. And when I sorted out the way I looked I lost a lot of weight. The opportunities came knocking again. And that you just can't deny. But I understand the currency of my industry. So I wasn't that surprised. It was kind of one of the reasons I wanted to get in shape. But it's of course a bit depressing that I think if I was still to restone heavy I probably wouldn't be working.
I feel like in a pretty good place with my health and fitness. Although in the last six weeks since I left America I haven't worked out once. But I do know that in my early days of my career there was a point of time when I lost a load of weight. I think it was like 2009, 2010. Yeah. And I was miserable. I would go to sleep for like three or four days at a time and not me. And I was utterly miserable. But then I would go to events and people would say you look amazing. You never look better.
I remember the shine that was thrown upon you at this time. Everything went up at level. Yeah. And it's horrible that we play so much value on it. But you know as you just said it's undeniable. Like just as what it is. Yeah. I'll be back with more questions after this short break. Did I hear you're shopping for a car because I've been at it for ages. Such a time suck, right? Not really. I bought it on Kravana. Super convenient. Oh. Then comes all the financing, research, am I right?
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Welcome back to listen, Vich. That's a question. Hello, Lily and Makita, a huge fan of your shows. This is Annabelle from Amsterdam, originally from Paris. I'm just going to cut straight to the point. What is your opinion on Harry arms for girls? I know it's a bit of a weird question, but I and a lot of other girls who have Hispanic or Portuguese origins have unfortunately had to experience a lot of bullying at school when we were kids.
I know that I was extremely bullied, which meant that I didn't feel comfortable showing my arms until actually very recently. And yeah, I just led to doing some pretty extreme things like shaving your arms or getting them colored. And I've always wondered why hair is so linked to beauty. And we talk about how having a lot of hair means you know, you're beautiful, you're in good health. But when it comes to having Harry arms, as well as Harry legs, as a woman, it's often considered to be gross.
Curious to know your thoughts? I totally understand because I have a lot of friends with long, thick black hair as well. And for them waxing is a hellish experience because the hair is stronger and tougher. But I shaved my arms, we've discussed this weirdly. I shaved my arms when I was a child, and now I have Harry arms, and I wasn't going to in life. But I gave them to myself. I always wondered why I did that, but I always wondered why it does seem so disgusting to have Harry arms as a woman.
I don't mind it now. I think Lily did the same and has Harry arms for the same reason. No. I have Harry legs. I shaved my legs way too early. That was it. And now. I do have Harry arms, but it's not because of shaving. I think it's that, you know, what she's talking about. This is sort of slightly hispanicky gene that I have quite far back in my... I have a lot of ancestry. Yeah. I don't really mind my Harry arms. I've got a couple of really hairy moles.
And I quite like them. Sometimes I like trim the hairs, and I get a bit sad for them. I feel like they look better with the hairs coming out of them. With the little bits. With the little bit. With the little bit. I was going to do what Kim Kardashian did, and she's just from toe to eyebrow, I think. Just whew. Everything. She got everything taken off. Everything lasered. And I wish I could say, oh God, whatever. I don't mind being Harry, but I wax and I shave and I...
I'm going to start the lasering process. And it's... Yeah, I was talking to Lily this week about the fact that I haven't had a grooming day in quite a while. And it's a fucking long thing being a woman. I have to get my eyebrows done. So, what my mustache out, shave my legs, get a bikini wax. It's quite nice, the ritual of it, although, I think. I quite like doing all those things. I don't like it. I find it exhausting. But I also really enjoy in the winter months, just letting it all go.
I think I never do that. See, I do. I just... Oh gosh, the idea of like... It's very cold in New York as well. Like, I need that little extra layer of hair on my legs. Thank you very much. Little Harry furry layer. How's David with that? I mean, fine. We haven't really discussed it. Oh, God, you've got such a laid back husband. I don't think he really cares that much. I had a boyfriend that was like, you have to take all the hair off when you get a bikini wax.
And I was like, no, I like to have a strip. He's like, no, all of it. I hope he told him to go fuck himself, I would. No, I did it and loved it. And now I always have a Hollywood. If you're not going Hollywood and you're doing like a strip, that's what seems like. You know, like, when I find like, like, boys that spend too much time looking in the mirror and doing their hair really unattractive, I think I sort of feel the same way about my vagina.
It's like, how would you decide what haircut to give it if you were to give... If you're not taking everything off, then like, what are you doing there? It's like, I like it with a short back and sides. Like, what? No, they call it a landing strip. But how long is it? How wide is it? What's the like, angle of the thing? Like, it kind of seems a bit silly, really. Like, manicured hair too on your vagina. Yeah. It's going, it's got a punk aesthetic.
Do you think that if you didn't wax now, a boy would be horrified to have sex with you? No, because I've had boyfriends, you know, and the not so recent past that were fine with it. Really, I've never had that. The thing is, is that my hair down there is very tough and strong. And once it gets past a certain point, it's like, I really don't want to go, because it's going to hurt, and it just gets worse and worse and worse.
And so, yeah, sometimes I just sort of resign myself to the fact that that's how it is. And then usually it's a holiday that prompts me to go and get it done. Sure, but it does feel like that little special place down there could do with a little jacket. All right. Well, yeah, definitely needs a coat in the winter, for sure. A Max Mara Furco, yes. That's what you get there. That's what you get there. Double-ply Kashmir. Okay, next question, please. This is silly.
Okay, next question. This is silly. Hi, Lily McKee, Theresa here from Southeast London, love the podcast. So my question is about beauty. I'm a lash artist. Actually, I do Lily's lashes when she's in London. My question is about makeup. So a lot of times people say that makeup, they don't feel themselves without makeup, they feel more confident with makeup.
But at the same time, a lot of my clients will say when they've had the lashes done, they wear a far less makeup if any, but yet they get lots of compliments on their skin. So my question is, how can we detach that sense of feeling more beautiful with makeup and just have that confidence within ourselves? Love you. Bye. So that's why my lash lady, Theresa, I can highly recommend everybody. And this is extension eyelashes. I have my eyelash extension done, yeah.
I've never tried it. I love it. I don't really wear makeup in the day. Like, I don't really know how to do my own makeup. I find the whole thing quite intimidating. I also have quite enlarged pores, so just putting stuff on my face. Like, I feel like suffocated by makeup. I wear makeup for work purposes, but in the daytime, I will never really wear makeup ever. You have a lot of good creams. You do, you're quite creamy.
We know it's annoying because McKeeza had to bring my creams back from America, so she knows exactly what, what my little concoction is. Also the energy around it is quite a few texts. Like, I thought you'd be like, how's it going? You're like, so the cream, yeah? So I'll say, it's the cream is in my bag. It was a bag of creams that cost quite a lot of money, and I was terrified. It wasn't just the creams, it was my whole routine.
So it was the two cleansers the night time and the morning one, my masks, my moisturizers, the two serums that I use. Yeah, you have quite a routine. You really do. My routine is cocoa butter on your face. That's what I'm saying. Yeah. That's amazing. It's such a white thing, by the way, to think that kind of oils and things like cocoa butter are too heavy for the face. I know white skin can't take it as much, but oil for your face is so good. I use so many different oils.
Oh no. Well, I think that's just the difference between black and white skin because I couldn't put oil on my skin on my face. I couldn't put a thick moisturiser like that on my skin. It would just break out, break out. But yeah, makeup is interesting. It's funny, isn't it? Because you can have, I can sort of see it happening with my kids now as well. Do you remember when we were young, we were teenagers, you'd start wearing a bit of eyeliner, and then fast forward two years later?
It's actually insane what we did to our fate. You didn't realise that day by day, you'd just be putting more and more and more on until you looked like, I don't know, someone out of a Mad Max film or something. But makeup was quite important around 15. That was how we had fun. We went to the body shop. I've got eyeliner BSL. It's a right of passage for sure, but like, yeah. I makeup fake tan, like, yeah. Kids in fake tan, this makes me chuckle quite a lot.
But actually what we did glean from that is, neither me or Lily can do our makeup. I do not know how to put makeup on. I really don't. Not even, Betty, that can do mascara. Yeah, I can do mascara. And actually I am quite good at doing a winged eyeliner.
It's more that I think actually maybe since, you know, video content and social media, it's made me feel more intimidated by it, because there's so many, there's so much stuff about like, like, condentoring and all these different products, like primers and then, like, setting spray. Like, what are you talking about? I don't know what any of this stuff is or does. I just know that if I put it anywhere in my face, it would be a disaster. So people still contour.
Yes. I remember when that was around. Yeah, contouring. Who can be fucking bothered to contour? And now people do, like, mad shit, like, paint their whole face red before they start their makeup and then put the foundation. And also I can't tell what is real and what is just being done for content sake. Yes, I think that those lines are blurred in general in life. Yes, definitely. That's a bigger conversation. That's not just a beauty theme. Let's have the last question for this week.
It's a bit all over the place. We know it. We're aware of it too. Listen bitch. Hey, Makita. Hey, Lily. This is Sarah Corlin. I'm originally from Southport near Liverpool, but living Melbourne now. Just wanted to ask you about beauty. I love the fact that Facebook now tells you what you were doing 10 years ago. And at the time, I thought I would look fat and ugly. And now I'm at 30s. I think, wow, I wish I looked like that now. And I appreciate my beauty now.
And just wondering if you could go back to your younger self and tell yourself you look beautiful, would you? All right. Love the podcast. Bye. If I could go back to my younger self and say you look beautiful, would I? Yeah, I mean, there's nothing to be lost by doing that. What year would you look at and go, yeah, you look good? Because I have a whole part of my 20s where I'm sorry, I just could not apply that sentence to myself. I'm sorry. But I go like right back to the beginning of my 20s.
Like when I first started doing promotion for my work. Really? Because I sort of picture of you the other day in that time. And you are such a baby. I know. Like not to grow enough. It was kind of crazy. I know. But that was the tagline. It was like, hey, like a normal looking person has arrived in the pop scene. And it was just a bit hurtful. It was also just weird. Because I hadn't really considered that so much of my time was going to be spent having my photograph taken.
And that I would have to spend so much time in hair and makeup. Like I sat down to write songs. And I put all my energy into writing things and trying to get my point across. And I was like, why is like eight hours of my working day? Like, yeah, in hair and makeup and being photographed so that people can tell me how normal I look. It just was so weird. It was like, can we just talk about my music that I've made? That everyone is listening to. Like it just was odd.
I think because we were so young as well, because we were just teenagers or just out of being teenagers when you blew up. I think we did, you sort of have not the biggest idea of how you look. You're still forming it. So then to be told, by the way, this is what you look like. You're like, oh, okay, I didn't know that. I didn't realise that. So I think that can be quite discombobulating.
Yeah. And also coming off the back of like mum telling me that I was like, most beautiful little girl in the world. Like, I'd not, you know, I'd had a couple of boyfriends that, you know, I thought I was hot. I just didn't, I hadn't really considered how normal looking I was. I think that was like plastered all over the national newspapers. 2009 though. Wow. You look amazing. I still do. That was amazing.
You do look great, but like, at that time you seemed quite like, you stepped into a different part of your beauty. I think we'd probably both turned about 25. Listen, don't get it twisted, right? I'll tell you what it was. Money, okay? Like, I had come off the back of this, my second, it was my second album. My record company were pummeling a whole load more money into my, you know, glam. I was being sent like the best clothes in the world and the handbags and the heels and everything else.
So don't, you know, it wasn't that I was like really happy because I was not. And I wasn't like exuding anybody. I just looked expensive because I was expensive. Yeah, the Chanel is. Just face of Chanel. Face of Chanel. One day we'll tell you what that really means. Okay. Thank you, listen to this, Claudius. Sorry if we weren't like to with it today. I think genuinely talking about this is a bit uncomfortable and bit difficult.
I didn't know it would be, but I'm happy that the lady that pushed us there pushed us to this place. I am going to do the theme for next week's Listen Bitch. And I was going to do something fluffy and teddy bears. And I thought, now fuck it. So the theme for next week's Listen Bitch is... Big Friends. Little begging, begging. Little beg, beg. You know that beg shit? We're going to discuss begging. Begginess. Beggie, little beg, beg. Yeah, how do you explain beg friend?
Somebody who follows somebody around, but the person they are following doesn't even like them. Oh my god. Yes, and that could translate into other areas I think. Oh yeah. It's a beg friend energy. We're talking about a beg friend energy, which I met with often. No time for it. Also, I reckon like clouding on Instagram, like clouding for friendship. Oh, fuck. I saw some questionable people jumping on your Charlie X, X, Brad Sama. I was like, oh, do me a favor. Please. Beggies.
Yeah, basically look for anyone doing the Brad Sama. I don't get beg friended enough these days. I must say, oh, quite miss a beg friend. So I think you get it. Yeah, beg friend. All right, we'll see you next week. Send your questions to us. Oh, 8,030,490. Oh, 8,030,490. That's the number. So see then, baby girl. No, I won't say that. Why don't you want to call me baby girl? Because it's ridiculous. I'll see you then, baby girl.
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