When we're emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically naked, we're forced to be honest and real with ourselves. When this happens, we can't hide behind something we may normally use to cover them up. Four Ways to Cover Up Oftentimes we employ various strategies or justifications for keeping ourselves "covered-up" so we don't have to deal with the truth of our nakedness. I've diluted these down to 4 general areas: Making excuses for our imperfections Blaming others for our shortcomings Feeling...
Sep 07, 2015•26 min
Here's what I cover in this episode: This is probably the most asked question of me. "How do I figure out my life purpose?" I dig VERY deep into this topic and explore WHY we all feel a need to know this. Basically, it's about feeling valuable, feeling as though our life has meaning and isn't just wasted energy. We all want to know it somehow matters. No More Struggle I don't want you to struggle any longer with this, so I've broken it down; letting you know what your ultimate life purpose is, a...
Aug 24, 2015•31 min
Call and share your thoughts on this episode: (561)-247-2857 or visit: http://PDesmondAdams.com/feedback Here's what I cover in this episode: Experts calculate that you are lied to about 100 times every single day. Some days it's less, some days it's more, but on average, you're hearing about 100 lies per day. Maybe that's easy for you to believe because you've been lied to so many times, but the truth is, there's someone in the world right now who is believing a lie because YOU told it to them....
Aug 17, 2015•38 min
Here's what I'm going to cover in this episode: The Fear of Mediocrity What it is and how it manifests itself in our life. I'm going to look at perfectionism and how it can stop us from doing what needs to be done to achieve our goals. Maximum Capacity We all have a maximum capacity for ourselves. I still believe, as humans we have an unlimited potential, but that don't mean in this moment, you have an unlimited ability. For example, even if you believe it, you can not hold your breath for 30 mi...
Aug 10, 2015•29 min
Sometimes we need a little down-time to just relax, but this isn't the opportunity to fill your mind with worthless garbage I refer to most mainstream television as "junk food for the brain" because, just like junk food, it fills you up but has very little nutritional value. Television will fill your mind but it has no beneficial value. It's like cotton candy, a lot of fluff that tastes great in the moment, but it brings nothing of substance. Keep in mind, there's very little wrong with treating...
Jul 25, 2015•21 min
For years, we’ve been programmed to believe that wanting money isn’t very noble. In fact, having lived most of my life in the Christian sub-culture, I’ve struggled with the idea that money is bad. When I was 18, I was involved in Multi-Level Marketing and I was turned onto books like Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, The Magic of Thinking Big and more. I was given these by Christian leaders in our business… and the books have this quasi-Christian undertone, but … As I got older and I becam...
Jul 23, 2015•20 min
If I had heard what I'm telling you in this episode, 20 years ago, I would be a millionaire several times over. This is number one thing that's stopped me from reaching my goals in the past. I'm so grateful I figured this out. I can't stress to you enough, learn what's in this episode and it will change your life. Fears Stop Us I go over the fears that stop us in a one page report I put together on the 5 Fears which kill out ability to finish. you can get it at PDesmondAdams.com/5fears or if you...
Jul 16, 2015•20 min
I don’t know who first came up with this concept, but I saw as part of list of way to get more done, on the LifeHacker website. Later this month, I’m going to be flying to Ft. Worth Texas to give a quick presentation at Podcast Movement. As much as I need to get my notes together and get myself prepped, I honestly was thinking “I can always do that on the plane.” It’s amazing. When I think about what i have coming up over the next few weeks, the most focused time I can see is the time I’ll have ...
Jul 15, 2015•20 min
I’m sure you’ve had one of those situations in your life where there’s something incredibly irritating to you. I have... A few weeks ago, a friend of mine came to me and said “Man, I think I’m just not going to hang out with them anymore. I’m just going to do everything I can to avoid them." But is that best? CAUTION: Listen, what I’m talking about in this episode is an annoying relationship, not a dangerous one. Remember, if you’re in any sort of danger, you must seek safety. Don’t justify enda...
Jul 14, 2015•20 min
I recorded this episode after taking a week off from most of my business work. In that week, I discovered a "tool" or even a "resource" which has increased my productivity several times over. It's also helped me with my self-discipline and mindset. I even feel a clearly understanding of my purpose. It's been amazing. So, what is it? Well, it's the fact that I took a week off. Seriously, I hope you're not disappointed. No, it's not something that you can download form the App Store, or purchase f...
Jul 10, 2015•19 min
To many people in the personal development world present a false reality to their audience. They present a view that their life is pretty, clean and packaged perfectly. That's not the way your life is and it's certainly not what my life looks like. Your life is real. Your life isn’t made up of theories, it’s made up of real situations that aren’t always pretty and packaged up in a neat little bow. Too much personal development advice is presented in this way. My life is like yours. Real and very...
Jul 01, 2015•17 min
We’ve discussed the importance of staying in the moment and focusing on what needs to be done right now rather than consternating checking your progress or comparing yourself to others. It’s true, it’s important. but… As with so many other apparently “non-productive” things like play-time, we make them a vital part of our progress when we’re intentional about them. Down time or play time can be a hurdle for us if we’re not in control of when it happens. But when we do control it, it’s incredibly...
Jul 01, 2015•20 min
I wish every person I love would listen to what's on this episode. I'm honestly incredibly proud of what is put out on here. In fact, I believe this is one of those moments when I just let the Infinite wisdom of the Universe speak through me. We only get stronger physically when we engage in physical resistance, like weight training. We purposely cause ourselves to confront and deal with that sort of resistance. But, why don't we do the same thing emotionally? In fact, emotionally, we oftentimes...
Jun 29, 2015•17 min
You know that feeling… when you put on your favorite jeans and … uh oh, they’re a little snug. Or you look down at your shirt and you notice the buttons are straining a little more than you’d like, to keep things closed up. That’s what happened to me. Why Physical Success Has Been a Struggle For Me Two things that work against me… I LOVE food. Seriously… The other thing, I don’t don't LOVE exercise. I love competitive sports, but just getting out and going for run around the neighborhood, or pic...
Jun 26, 2015•20 min
As I mention in the intro, this show focuses on something I like to call “success for failures.” The only thing is… most of us who have been made to feel like failures have so because we haven’t been able to do well on the "Grit Test." The Grit Test The Grit Test was developed by Harvard Research Angela Duckworth. She went over decades of data on what brought people to greatness in life and she came up with two major factors: People who didn’t change course just because they wanted a change. Som...
Jun 24, 2015•20 min
Today, the 22nd, as I record this, is my birthday. Along with birthdays comes… birthday … cake. Wow, I can NOT focus after that piece of birthday cake. I’m telling you, I’m distracted and unable to finish what I’ve started. It’s a struggle to do the outline for this show. Let’s talk about why this happens and what we can do to not only avoid it, but reverse the scenario, and it doesn't just come from cake. Glucose is Our Fuel Glucose is what most of our food turns into and it’s what we need for ...
Jun 23, 2015•19 min
Follow me for a minute… Every once in a while, you may look at someone else and think “wow, they are messed up.” Every once in a while, someone may look at you and think “Wow, they are messed up." Every once in a while, someone may look at that person and think “Wow, they are messed up. Possible? Agree? Every single person can have someone else look at them and think “Wow, they are messed up." Do you think, if you followed this along for 10, 20, 100 or 1000 levels or more, you’d eventually get t...
Jun 22, 2015•11 min
If you listened to this past Tuesday’s episode , I shared with you some ways you can help yourself become more productive, as I do every Tuesday. One of those ways I suggested was to create deadlines with very real consequences. The kind of consequences you’re going to do whatever you can to avoid. Today I’m sharing with you and app that will help you do exactly that. Stickk - This is an app that comes out of Yale University. It’s legit. It’s got a lot of science behind it and it works! Professo...
Jun 19, 2015•15 min
Events don’t have meaning - We give the events meaning The meaning of events exists only in our mind. Outside of our mind, the events have no meaning at all. Our emotional response to events comes from the meaning we give them and the way we FEEL about that meaning. So, given the fact that our emotions are based on our reaction to the meaning of an event and we create the meaning of the event, then we control our emotions. Peace doesn’t come when we have peace around us, but when we have peace w...
Jun 18, 2015•17 min
Truth is, you’re incredibly unlikely to reach any goal you set if you don’t have the habits needed to make it happen. If it’s going to be grueling work the entire time, you’re increasing your chances for failure several times over. Last Wednesday we talked about how we can lose our willpower and self-discipline when it’s needed in numerous areas at the same time. Discover Where You’ll Need Will Power Let’s say you set a goal of “fitting into your old prom dress before your class reunion in 9 mon...
Jun 17, 2015•11 min
If you're anything like me, you do your best work when you're facing a very real deadline with serious consequences or when you're part of group who you need to keep up with cause the entire group to fall behind. In this episode, we look at ways we can capitalize on this for increasing our daily productivity. Give these a try in your day and let me know what worked best for you. Surround Yourself With More Productive People Hire an employee who runs faster than you. Someone you have to work at t...
Jun 16, 2015•12 min
Drug Addicts Didn’t Wake up and Think I”m going to get hooked on coke today. It comes in tiny little incremental baby steps. One line with a friend because it’s going to be a great night out and you haven’t had that in a while. That leads to two… Then to buying a bit of your own so you can share next time (nobody likes mooch). Then just a bit the next morning to help you get started on your day. … and so the story goes. These small little baby steps over time will lead to a major change in your ...
Jun 15, 2015•12 min
It’s Friday and we’re going to look at a few tools you can use to keep track of your time each day. If you go back and listen to Episode 131 this past Tuesday, we talked about how we can find lost time in our day. That’s what these apps are used for. They’re kind of like the diet or fitness apps that keep track of the food you eat each day. Most of us don’t realize how many grams of protein, fat or carbohydrates we eat each day. But when we track them we can see if things are out of balance. Sam...
Jun 13, 2015•20 min
I’m a generally a positive person and I tend to look on the positive side of things in life. It’s odd though, most people who don’t know me think that means my life is without any down times or painful moments. Nothing could be further from the truth, at least for me. If you’ve ever thought, “Yeah, I’d be positive too if I was living their life, but I’m not. My life is a mess and I’m the one who messed it up!” Well, good news, ME TOO! But I’m still positive. So, as someone who is considered a ge...
Jun 12, 2015•19 min
Our brains can only handle a certain number of decisions before they just slow down. There’s a fascinating study put out about prisoners facing parole boards. Here's an article about in the New York Times . They looked at 1,100 decisions over the course of one year. Prisoners facing the parole board in the morning were paroled about 70 percent of the time. Prisoners facing the parole board in the afternoons were paroled less than 10 percent of the time. The study indicated, the judges ability to...
Jun 11, 2015•14 min
Have you ever seen one of those time-lapse video’s in a bus station or maybe in a big city intersection? Everybody is flying all over the place in this jumbled mess of massive activity. They all have somewhere to go or something to do, but when you look at it from that level, it looks like something that borders on chaos. This is how our day can look when we glance back at it and wonder were all our time went and why we didn’t get all of our stuff done. We see a mass busy-ness with what seems li...
Jun 10, 2015•16 min
I love auto racing. I used to dream of doing some cross-country rally racing back when I was in my early 20’s. I loved the complexity of it. With a rally race, it’s not like other types of auto racing where you’re on a track, you drive fast, turn left, drive fast, turn left, drive fast… and continue like this until you see someone waving that checkered flag. If you’ve ever seen Cannonball Run, a movie from back in the 80’s, you know what a rally race is like. It’s a real race that happens every ...
Jun 09, 2015•16 min
There’s an old Russian Proverb that says “If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one." This is the way life can feel for people like us. We’re idea people and we have ideas popping into our head all the time. We want to catch every single one of them and we end up catching nothing. This week, you’ve heard me talk about this resource quite a few times. It’s a book called The ONE Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan . I just finished it up today and I can tell you, this book was MADE ...
Jun 07, 2015•16 min
I’m obviously still consumed with consuming Jay Papasan’s book, The One Thing. This is like finding a vein of gold and following it to an abundance of riches. I’m giving you “one year to master 5 things and turn them into habits.” Daily exercise Daily meditation Healthy eating Learn a new language Learn a musical instrument. Most people would go to work immediately, planning their day to include a bit of each one. THIS IS WHY WE FAIL. We’re trying to take 5 things all at once and condition our m...
Jun 04, 2015•16 min
What is the Pereto Principle? You may not have heard of the Pereto Principle, but just about everyone has heard of the 80/20 rule. 80% of the failures in a project are caused by the top 20% of the errors. Focus on the 20% and you’ll take care of almost all of the failures. It’s something I used all the time when I worked as an engineer in electronic materials. Originally, the principle came of out wealth distribution among a given population. Most businesses will find that 80% of their sales com...
Jun 03, 2015•17 min
